Emasculating a man | UMU | Tony Gaskins

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[@jessepera2457]

"A man would rather be dead than to be disrespected." If women moved this same way the world would be a different place...

[@AidaRivera]

HONESTLY 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@jessepera2457]

@@AidaRivera I just became a woman who would rather die than be disrespected. I never received this messaging as a little girl....just wow is all I can say

[@AidaRivera]

@@jessepera2457 yeah same here.

[@beedabee1221]

Factssss!!!!!

[@vanessasmith3081]

Men cut their losses immediately when they are mistreated. Women sit there see red flags, tolerate bad treatment, disrespect and sacrifice their dignity to grown boys in the name of love and loyalty. It’s sad and that needs to change.

[@AidaRivera]

This is true

[@clayhova]

Some men do sit there as well

[@marshellepayne4020]

💯💯💯💯💯🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@jerryguzman8456]

You don't stay there you leave immediately smh

[@Latinaperspective]

@@clayhova only to get revenge 🥴

[@destinyuplift]

Queens don’t level down to a man level by disrespecting him. Queens walks away!

[@busisanindlovu2156]

👏👏👏👏👏

[@yolanda8195]

@@busisanindlovu2156 Yes sir you need Oa myou said m

[@yolanda8195]

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[@yolanda8195]

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[@yolanda8195]

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[@sierram.6046]

“The most dangerous being in the world, is an insecure man.”- I understood this completely, smh.

[@disapphire]

Yep basically Trump is a perfect example of that

[@mbrook4983]

Wow!!!!!

[@her.saving]

No doubt, I experienced that kind of man smh

[@gencamp4014]

True Story!

[@DD-mg2se]

If a man cheats and you take him back you are letting him know it's ok to do it again and again and again..now he has no respect for you and will love you less..and eventually leave you

[@nuriyahsworld5317]

On the flip side most men cheat, where are you running too, to the next cheater. You could be bouncing round from man to man. All that you teach men your worth and how you want to be treated, they can hide and cheat. Like most of them do...

[@justbu3797]

@@nuriyahsworld5317 You are RIGHT ✅

[@makedat3904]

“She might look like...the Lord was in a rush” 😂😂 Dropping these gems while making us laugh. We appreciate it

[@yanicketienne1464]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@AngelaRCurry]

Tony tickled me with that one:)

[@brownsugarglamour]

HAHAHAHHAHAHA 😩😭😭😭

[@mschat8776]

😂😂

[@beedabee1221]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@love7loyalty-MHA]

"Remain a Queen" "operate from your Queenship" got it, Uncle Tony

[@SimplyFitwithJay]

Great message Tony. One thing I can never wrap my head around is how men demand respect but are so disrespectful 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@kcornejo44]

I e h

[@precioushabeene2974]

One needs to earn the respect

[@lindalovehearts]

💯

[@essiethebestie1]

Because those type of men think women don't "deserve" respect. They think we have to "earn" respect. While men deserve it. Once he disrespects you CHECK HIM right in that moment and put some distance between you and him. Let him know you're not the one💯

[@kgodsmasterpiece6625]

I will NOT tolerate any form of disrespect...therefore, I will not disrespect my man💯

[@erynd.9911]

Periodt lOl i don’t have time for the drama

[@Brwngrly]

Period

[@teshiataylor3404]

Period!!

[@BlacMomVet]

“I don’t even fight. I shoot “ 😂😂😂 only those who have a past life, caught it!!

[@PeaceBeStill-]

I caught it 😄 never shot though lol 😆

[@tyoung3509]

Lol 😂

[@mstijuni]

I just laughed so

[@ladyempire5921]

Oh yes! It was low but my ear caught that detail. It's real out there 😂😂😂

[@arielhenry1189]

I definitely caught it 😂😂😂😂

[@ericajanellelifecoaching]

I honestly can’t stand when I hear women talk down to and disrespectfully to men. It’s like nails on a chalkboard to me. If you gotta do all of that , it’s best to break up.

[@juliemorris2569]

Erica I watched a family member give her back to her man at a party and air out his dirty laundry in front of his closet friends all while I'm observing him looking at her like he was pisssssed he didnt say 1 word. Errbody gone but me its 1am. He looking for his keys like hey hone ima run to the gas station! I said to myself oh he going to call his sidepiece to see her next morning! Best believe he got revenge on her ass for giving him her ass in public. I stay out of messy stuff women gone Learn.

[@bc1248]

Not necessarily. If a man is with a woman like that then it’s for a very good reason. Put him with somebody nice and respectful and he would act indifferent and cold to her. Playing her for a sucker and taking her for granted. So with the disrespectful one, he may break up with her, but then go to a nice woman and use her. Taking her niceness for weakness.

[@bc1248]

@@juliemorris2569 I hear you. But the thing is though, that men do the same thing. They humiliate their nice companion before an audience. Men do it and nobody talks about it or seems disturbed by it. Seems like only women who do it are considered bad. Men can do it but women can’t.

[@ericajanellelifecoaching]

Wow that is crazy! Tony is telling the truth! Men’s egos are fragile and if a woman intentionally tries to emasculate him, he will seek revenge. I have four brothers and they told me how they get back at women who disrespect them.

[@bc1248]

@@ericajanellelifecoaching If a man’s ego is fragile then everything is emasculation to him when not everything is. So that places women in a fear zone of speaking up for herself or speaking truth in general which shouldn’t be. A woman doesn’t have walk on eggshells around a man.

[@kimmourino3051]

God was in a rush...lol An insecure man is dangerous and the most bitter

[@mbrook4983]

Haha!! God was in a rush😂

[@saetae9208]

I'm argumentive when I feel I'm losing or being dismissed. Just being transparent. Pray for me.

[@iamTiffanyEmpowermentPodcast]

🙏🏾

[@princessking2460]

Giirrrllll I respect the honesty and transparency. Not alot of people have the balls to admit that 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Monce08]

I'm with you. And I’m losing big time. Not only in romantic relationships but in the family also. I can't seem to shut up and walk away. I wanna always have the last word. Yesterday my mom proved that silence is powerful and it got me so frustrated that things didn’t turn out so good .. Lesson learned

[@KeyisGodsdaughter]

I have this issue to when I’m being disrespected. My soon to be ex use to call me all kinds of name and I would ignore him, then he would keep going and I would lose it! He would then in turn call me immature and childish after provoking me. It’s my fault for not leaving early.

[@laurajones9971]

@@Monce08 me too and I’m not even working on it either sometimes I’m ok other times no pray for a sister

[@jsue6994]

This is also why you shouldn’t deal with men not on your level. Even if you don’t emasculate him directly, he feels insecure because he knows he does not measure up. He will cheat on you to take his power back.

[@jessepera2457]

Raise your standards for respect not ur tolerance for disrespect.

[@ttime9987]

No woman is esmaculating a man she respects!

[@peaceful_and_blessed2879]

Yessss this is so true!!!

[@erynd.9911]

Periodt!!!

[@debbiee.6990]

so true

[@nicolesmith7611]

Exactly, my ex told me I didnt respect him. I agreed and we broke up soon after.

[@classicasi88]

Everrrrr!!! 💯

[@lizzylewis5793]

This is so true, silence is very loud! It really works.

[@bcallhoum7269]

Study notes from the video: To put things in perspective, think about how a king/queen would act vs. a person of no class Even when a man does something to "deserve" mistreatment, don't stoop to that level. A good man is going to behave similarly to a good woman. He will not tolerate a woman who mistreats him. Think about: How many women have been cheated on (like a dog) vs. how many men have been cheated on. Why does it seem like women "Lose" more in relationships than in relationships? ***It is because men refuse to be beat,*** which is why they don't "lose" as much in relationships. There are reasons which fuel a man "refusing to be beat," though. It is usually because of the emasculation a man endures. You NEVER get the upper hand when you emasculate a man. A man would rather be dead than be disrespected. This goes for work, friendships, and of course in relationships. This is the way "every man" moves. For example, even before a "good" man leaves, he will likely want to get even (take out revenge) with you. Do not ever deal with a man who will make you have to cuss him out, fight him, etc. Because one day, it will come back, with 10x the force which you threw "your's" with. It's not worth it to have someone pump you up to knock you out, give you HIV, etc. A man would contract something on accident and give it to you on purpose just because you cursed at him. Why? Because men are sensitive, fragile. Some cry more than women cry. Every man has a bit of insecurity in him, because of the burden and expectations put on a man. Some men won't introduce their wives to another man out of fear she will cheat with him. A highly insecure man is the most dangerous man. Run if you find a man who's extremely insecure. Men handle disrespect much worse than women. It is because men are typically less emotionally intelligent. Men don't tolerate the same kind of crap women tolerate--this is a double standard--but can be corrected by HOLDING A MAN ACCOUNTABLE. He should rise to your level rather than you stoop to doing what he does. if he doesn't change for the better, go on about your business. If you meet a man and don't think he's handsome, never string him along. If you feel a man is not looks-compatible with you and you're rejecting him/pushing him away, you're emasculating him and his goal is to do whatever it takes to get you. Like a helicopter with 14k roses 🚁🌹🌹🌹😆 Pay attention to how well-known wealthy/powerful men (who are looks challenged & used to struggle with girls) treat "beautiful" (I.e. models) women. They divorce or cheat on them. The reason he does her that way is because she *knew she looked better than him* and he wanted to get revenge. He knows many women don't want anything to do with a man she finds ugly besides money, which is why he cheats. He goes for the beautiful model type to prove he can get a kind of woman who would usually go for a handsome/attractive man. To clarify, Tony is not saying go for men you're not attracted to at all but to prioritize character over appearances, money & status. Never go for a man who you find ugly, immature, or insecure; don't entertain him or let him wine and dine you because it isn't worth it. There are consequences.

[@lial6061]

“Although he look like Shrek’s first cousin” 😅😂🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀

[@thevisionofbeautycoaching]

Some women are triggered by a grown boy in disguise and without hesitation her masculine energy jumps up and before you know it it’s on 🗣😩. Tony’s transparency in his life and relatable stories are a blessing!!

[@bariannmartin8728]

My mom taught me to never belittle a man in public.

[@mmommo2025]

mine loved to disrespect me ESPECIALLY in public.

[@sharicebryant8149]

I’ve def dealt with very insecure men and it wasn’t fun. It only got worse with those types. Ladies, listen to Tony and run.

[@whatsnextsis2904]

“She might look like the Lord was in a rush.” 😂😭😂😭😂😭😂😭😭😭 bye Tony!

[@sarahmitchell4010]

I’ve been arguing a lot lately with this guy. I’ve raised my voice and got upset, but he’s busy calling me names. But I’m going to believe Tony. I’m going to do my best to walk away, I’m not the type to enjoy arguing. Thanks for the message

[@mauritahowell1415]

LEAVE

[@earlenebenson9402]

This happened to me, he left.

[@ashleyangel1450]

I’m so glad I don’t stoop down! I don’t have the time! Another thing is a lot of women that are emasculating these men are not seeking the healing needed prior to getting into relationships.

[@Ummkelechi]

Very true!

[@ashleyangel1450]

@Taylor Anne you see the fact that he likes dysfunction is red flag I would have been and bounced! girl you can’t let these men get you up to ten! simply keep it cute and feminine talk in a calm voice and they have no choice but to lower their voice, it worked like a charm on my kids dad 😘it’s like reverse psychology lol!

[@her.saving]

This right here!

[@Best-ThingYouNeverHad]

Imma be honest Tony this is one I am working on. I have had some very toxic men in my lifetime & they can take you there. I've walked away from every last one of them, but not before I said some words I couldn't take back. Thank you for opening us up to the mind of a man. These are lessons that are critical to us as women!

[@KnollyJamesandJoJoOreo]

“You never got the upper hand when you emasculate a man.” That’s a bar, Mr. Gaskins 💥🔥

[@ClowneryAtItsFinest]

Future met Scottie Pippen awhile back and he was very nasty towards Future. The way he got his revenge on Scottie was by having an affair with Larsa......the man’s wife and mother of his children. Tony ain’t lying when he said men are sensitive and some cry more than women do!

[@thehuskygirl3346]

If a man tells a good classy woman she is old & ugly ; yet you clearly can see she is beautiful......true & loyal to him....he is one stupid man.

[@magnificentmile9684]

QUEENS don't stoop to the level of a Grown Boy. PERIOD!!! Queens walk away!!!!

[@realalldway-raw4996]

This is very true. I did this to my Fiance. The final argument, I kicked him out, never responded to his text, no phone call. That is when he started chasing & realized that he was taking me for granted. I told him to get back with me, he will need to be better than what he is now. He cannot throw tantrum for no reason or next time he will not just be spoken to, he will get a restraining order. If you respect yourself, walk away from a person who disrespects you. Never ever settle for garbage.

[@RocSkater09]

Thats facts. I cry about 2 times a week. Probably weep bout 1 a week. On my personal time.

[@AngieLolaPagan]

Tony should really consider Christian standup comedy or something lolll! My 19 year old son just came to my room to ask me if I was ok, I couldn’t stop laughing at the family reunion part 🤦‍♀️🤣! Hey it’s happened to me! Now it’s funny but it was the most uncomfortable feeling ever at the moment ! Ladies listen to Tony ,grown boys are real! They are everywhere and they will make you feel like you are the one that’s crazy! Do the work ! Trust God, trust the process, keep your legs close, if you make a mistake ;do not be so hard on yourself, forgive yourself ,move on , continue working and re-focus! Best wishes to everyone! By the way, Currently reading A woman’s influence (what a Gem) ,and have been a subscriber for a while! Thank you Tony & Sheri!

[@Leaveit2_Vee]

The quiet person is the strongest...aht aht gotta go

[@logic888]

Period.

[@michelleatchison8424]

Exactly all day everyday

[@Glamrocs]

That’s me

[@flydollronda1926]

"IF YOU CHEAT ON A MAN...RUNNN,,,facts!

[@kathart5045]

“The Lord was in a rush” 🤣

[@RubyRoxxie]

This is another awesome/needed topic but I’m over here cracking up.. you just said “she look like the Lord was in a rush.” I can’t 🤣🤣🤣

[@ThisizKena]

I'm on the floor in the first 2 mins.. "Ah, come here Chancellor..Um, the gentlemen right there...OFF with his head. Thank you".. Lemme rewind and try to focus! 😂😂💀

[@TiffanyBTV]

Girl rewind it. I’m on my third run 😂😂😂😂😂😩😩😩

[@ThisizKena]

@@TiffanyBTV Gurl....I JUST made it thru..😂😂😂

[@Ms.Haleyy]

Third time here we go gur 🤣🤣

[@durbansaladyinaccra2173]

If we lived in those days and I was the Queen, I would have done that for real !

[@simplysimone7174]

“You built like a binocular holder”🤣🤣

[@araya9316]

my ex said his new girl always cusses him out & disrespects him. he went right back to her... must be something some men like.

[@charmekiawhite3633]

Yeah an insecure man

[@curli-lettey4319]

Either he have low self esteem or she put the juju on him and find it hard to leave.

[@ladyjvlogs7463]

It's probably because he can't find nobody else.

[@marybell2002]

A lot of men like women like that. Theres fewer healthy balanced people in the world than there are ones who seek out terrible partners.

[@sunflowerrayne6026]

@@ladyjvlogs7463 this one, I've heard many men say "no one else would want me".

[@AidaRivera]

I’m literally laughing so hard right now. He said “I don’t even fight I shoot” 😂😂 I haven’t laughed this hard in a while. Thank you Tony

[@flydollronda1926]

"Naw I'm just playin,,,Ion even fight, I shoot" 🤣🤣😭😭😭

[@92Tweetylove]

Listen to this man! He know what he is talking about!!!

[@missadug]

It gets me every time when Tony does the woman impersonation lip smack "Owooo, Tony you don't know".... Insert whatever we don't like to hear that steps on our toes🤣🤣🤣 This makes me laugh every single time!

[@aurer4002]

It’s the “Satan get thee behind me” for me🤦🏾‍♀️😭

[@Ms.Haleyy]

“Don’t call me satan!” 🤣🤣

[@joycesexton2495]

This man is something else like a comedian he be cracking me up God bless him 🙏

[@elizabethschilling7178]

Queenship that part! Stay in your queenship 🙌🙏👑❤

[@jimmyharrison290]

Once again Mr Gaskin Servin up solid gold truth on a platter of silver.

[@sharonlee7296]

I DO NOT get it. When I love someone, I celebrate them. I add to his strength. I lift him up.

[@julesshind2331]

Amen!!!

[@durbansaladyinaccra2173]

I understand you but Tony is talking about what to do when your man is not treating YOU in a loving way and does things that make u feel like cursing him out or smacking him etc

[@adinacollins2870]

@@durbansaladyinaccra2173 He's showing you how much he does not respect you. Love & respect yourself and exit quickly. It won't get better sis and you deserve better...be blessed

[@rrb2895]

Dirty mean and insecure men never play fair. He is telling the truth!!

[@elmastar55]

I’m always here for Tony’s re-enactments 😂🤣😂🤣 I’m learning and laughing at the same time! Lol!

[@kennyn5605]

Tony, you are right about soul tie as a result of someone sleeping with many partners, which also leads to fragmentation of the soul. Pieces/fragments of the person's soul are in the different people the individual slept with. But only Jesus can heal that fragmented soul and make it whole again.

[@IshanaeS]

“You better stop looking at me like that” 😭😭😭😂 I’m yelling!

[@LatoyaOkeia]

She might look like "the Lord was in a rush " 😩😩😂

[@peacearise2157]

Omg. I am at work listening and I have to fight not to bust out laughing.

[@jessicathompson7392]

your the big brother i never had,i love hearing a honest man perspective,the good bad and the ugly

[@naturallyfree01krj50]

That is true, so so true when a man even think you cheated . Lady's run and please don't look back. He WILL put you through it. Even after yall break up he will bring up it and still want to argue about it.

[@desereeme5084]

Between ... Aggressive, Assertive, or Passive Aggressive.... Goal state is "Assertive". You are correct

[@anointedra]

Wow. Cousins?? If a man is that insecure or jealous, there's a major issue. Ijs.

[@nikkimiller594]

When he cheated, he already left the relationship (or he’s gonna leave soon).

[@silvana-brazil-usa9422]

My heart is melting of joy, I always behave exactly like that with me and others trying to tell me I was soft, I was a loser, and trying to change me. I'm in peace to hear about your knowledge about men. God bless you and your family, you don't have idea how it s helping a lot people. I'm so thankful my parents teach me this now I appreciate them more. Love and peace

[@TiffanyBTV]

Tony when you said Tyler Perry movie and Cha Cha slide .... I BURST OUT LAUGHING 😆 😂😂😂

[@courtneyt2794]

This is one of your best videos! Gave it to us blood raw and hilarious!! Thank you Tony! 🤣

[@theradlife547]

Thank you for this perfectly worded message. Definitely gave me some food for thought... I hear you loud and clear Tony.

[@danielledixon6781]

Thank you for your daily videos ! You just don’t know how much it helps me get through my day . Blessings to you and your family !

[@carlycarls3104]

A deep topic.... a way to lose him fast

[@mymakersdaughter6041]

He said the gnat went to flea Heaven😂😂! Tony is seriously hilarious😆🤣😂😅!!!

[@LadyAngela678]

My grandmother emasculates her husband, Im expecting him to leave her anyday. Its disgusting.

[@PeaceBeStill-]

Well like Tony said he's probably already gotten back at her 🤷🏾

[@erynd.9911]

Idk why anyone would date or entertain someone they aren’t attracted to..that makes no sense to me lol i wouldn’t be able to do it🤷🏾‍♀️ I’m definitely not shallow and looks aren’t everything but i would never waste a man’s time like that..it’s not fair to them! And stop using men for a foodie call sis !

[@meadowc6058]

Men do it all time! We have such high beauty standards but the reality is men will sleep with the majority of women while the opposite isn’t true.

[@sharonjennings5732]

Be blessed...thanks for the unintended -pause the video - holler laughs, Mr. Gaskins.

[@courtnibooker85]

This is my first time watching TG content. I’m quite impressed. Can’t wait to watch more.

[@NewEra644]

I love your videos. You keep it REAL.

[@ms.o9989]

🤣🤣🤣 your delivery of the message is GREAT 🙏🏽

[@candidavasser4399]

I love the advice of Tony. I'm guilty of this but learning to do better.

[@healthwiz]

😂 😂 😂 😂 Tony cracks me up.... And educates me simultaneously... 😂

[@AVRALLC]

Thank you for addressing!!!

[@glendanesmith]

This is true 💯 Thank you TG ❤️

[@concetta3436]

This message is so true , I’ve seen it , an insecure man is reckless and dangerous, anything goes . When they think they got nothing to lose , anything goes . Tony this is 💯 percent true

[@imjustsayin2393]

You are a comedian! Join Kings of Comedy 😂😂😂

[@reinaquisha9418]

Tony you have me hollering 😂😂😂

[@shecreates365]

Remain a Queen and be alone

[@ShesGottaFastCar]

Preaching Today!

[@mstijuni]

Love how you say looks compatible. Adding that to my morning prayer

[@curli-lettey4319]

I say this, if your words dont make your mate understand your message, the volume of your voice wont do it either.

[@darlenesweet-wright7985]

Thanks TG just woke up to a text and saw this video. It was right on time. I surely was about to respond to this text in the wrong way. Now thanks to your video I’m gonna stay on my Queenship thrown and not stoop to his level as I have done so many times in the past. Thank God for opening my eyes and you for this video. Keep me in prayer.

[@s.a.h6440]

Thank you for this message Tony. It explained a lot about the behaviour of an insecure man. Men think and react so differently..

[@nzingahoney]

Still true in 2023. Thanks for the wisdom.

[@theonerealestatesecret]

Always on time Tony.

[@shellettebell1618]

Love 💘 the pillow nice touch..a woman's influence 🙏🏽

[@tracymcneely8173]

I love listening to this man he and his wife are truly blessed I appreciate all his time videos and advise just listening has helped and educated me so much.

[@misst72]

Whew!!! I wish I'd known this years ago because I would have been spared the heartache of trying to love an immature man! Mr. Gaskins is on point yet again!!!! Thank you!!!!

[@krystallynne007]

You have me laughing so much! Made my friday night 😂😂😂 awesome video!

[@annpreacely3256]

I'm saving for you to coach me. You have really Blessed me. Thanks for being obedient to your calling.

[@adekanmidoyin2156]

Same here

[@shavonjohnson4876]

Tony you are too much! Telling the truth in character 🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂

[@breannalyons5304]

Thank you Mr. Tony Gaskins for this message I have realized my mistakes and I am ready to move forward with better behavior.

[@dimediamond]

A queen doesn't get off her thrown to pick cherries 🍒 with peasants . ever.

[@PeaceBeStill-]

Yes more like never leave the throne to entertain foolishness ✅

[@bullangel1936]

Her throne you mean

[@dimediamond]

@@bullangel1936 yes that spell check version

[@cherylhunter2775]

Tony....you have me rollin imitating us.

[@SittingPRETTY727]

I wish he would do a video on how man really and truly feel when their spouse don't get along with their family

[@angelaoden3359]

Not see through though 😂😂😂😂. Tony I have learned so much from you. Thank you for walking in your purpose 🙏🏼

[@vainqueurvainqueur5342]

Tony! I am hollering 🤣 🤣. 💀 God bless you brother. Thanku for the knowledge.