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[@anointedstilettos]

1. A mature man is NOT a perfect man. He is a work in progress. 2. If a man is getting drunk and high, he's NOT mature man. 3. If a man is still going to a regular club or strip club, he's NOT a mature man. 4. A mature man will NOT be jealous, controlling, and insecure, but becomes confident. 5. A mature man will NOT expect you to pay your half for a date. 6. A mature is NOT going to expect anything in return. 7. A mature will NOT coerce you into the bed. He will spend more time getting to know you better. This was a great message. I'm taking notes and using this to improve myself as well.

[@bre_s9164]

Thank you for summarizing it for us!!! ❤🤗

[@anointedstilettos]

@@bre_s9164 You're welcome Sis 💛.

[@coachnatishamommatish185]

Thank you Annoited Stile. Tony Be blessed.

[@illmeeillmee9373]

Thanks love!!

[@anointedstilettos]

@@coachnatishamommatish185 💛

[@MiyamiSky]

I stopped going to the club when one guy asked for my number and I gave it to him. Never heard from him at all. Ended up seeing the same dude at a different club probably a few weeks later and he asked for my number again 🙄. Had no recollection we had met before. That's when I realized guys in the club are a complete joke and I was wasting my time. That was in my mid 20s haven't been back since!

[@skwilson34]

Yes.... they are not their looking for a wife.... they looking for a good time for the night.

[@TonyGaskins]

I’m so glad you told that truth!!

[@tyrellpearson2285]

Hey

[@christyc.1604]

My godmother always said that you should never look for a relationship in the club. It saved me a lot of time because it was never my intention to entertain these men as potential suitors. Yet when I shared that advice with friends that were always looking for the "one" in a club setting, I was the hater. Well sis, tell me how that worked out for you?!?! (It didn't!)

[@rickimcfarland2269]

I met the most mature man I have ever dated inside the club.

[@gma904]

I had a man who paid for everything for 20+ years. Every thing. I never had to work. Never paid for a date or part of one, lol. Cheating was never an issue. Nor abuse. He wasn’t perfect but he was worth his weight in gold. It’s very possible to find one, ladies.

[@sw-ri7bl]

Well damn lol you never at least offered to pay? Lol

[@EdenSophia118]

@@sw-ri7bl There are BW who are housewives. There isn't anything wrong with that. Some men even TODAY would be insulted if a woman paid the bill. They take pride in being ABLE to take care of their family. However, this type of man is hard to find.

[@888hereandnow]

Where is he now?

[@Desertvibes234]

Love that!

[@ClaudiaC9719]

@@888hereandnow I’d love to know too

[@alicea561]

Meet somebody who is on your level or better don't settle for less. You don't want somebody who is 15% with God and you are at 75% with God. And dont go by what they say go by what they do.

[@BettysPettyDaughter]

Right on point!

[@TonyGaskins]

Amen!!

[@jdilla7142]

DAVID ALICEA 🙏🏿 Amen

[@christielove9000]

Agreed!

[@purposedpatience6597]

DAVID ALICEA factssss💯

[@blacknubianqueen2241]

Your wife is a true Queen., please allow her to give us some insight as well . It would be a blessing if y’all could both speak together as the epitome of a Queen & King... how powerful that would be.

[@anointedstilettos]

This would be wonderful!

[@aminastoned5687]

Yasss I totally agree!

[@destinyuplift]

I agree I been waiting for her to speak.

[@conniekirventhecomebackque1445]

Yes I am in agreement Luevon💞

[@jfashaw1030]

Yes come on wife!

[@nadeanbowles3052]

"You waitin' on this man that Jesus has not created." - Tony Gaskins ROFLOL!!!!!

[@SH-vj2ce]

He dont exist sis. He. dont. exist. Lol!

[@jaquaveonandress649]

Shernice Harper 😒

[@araceliscollazo5067]

Right?! lol

[@MiyamiSky]

Tony, you need to be a comedian on the side you stay crackin me up lol!

[@Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect]

For real 😂

[@gigib8794]

Correct!

[@lexiegofficial7811]

Facts 😂😂😂😂😂

[@stephanielemon8167]

Thank you Tony keep inspiring women God bless you.

[@sua-shakamara9531]

😂😂

[@LALA-gj8zw]

I love when Tony say "Lissen Nah", with his country accent. He is hilarious! 🤣

[@ruru9400]

🤣🤣 you spelled that Perfectly

[@titisweets]

And when he starts to imitate women... *smacks lip "🙄Oh... so...🙄"🤣🤣🤣

[@fizzo971]

Yeah I’m French and never been to the USA and the way he talks I know he’s from where Gucci mane is from. One day He said « skrip tease » 😆

[@Silver.Forest]

Cheaters always say "I'm not perfect" as an excuse for cheating on their wife. Thank you for clearing up what "not being perfect" truly means.

[@Iamcherese]

Silver Forestt I hate that phrase🙄😒

[@laurenlocd3180]

Yup

[@larkford4460]

Yet women always say “what one man won’t do, another will” as an excuse to cheat

[@larkford4460]

And “not being perfect” doesn’t mean what he says...... unless that’s what he says to his wife. I’ve told my wife I wasn’t perfect before but it was about dinner that I overcooked lol soooooooo stfu about what you don’t know

[@Ericadoeslife]

Men who like classical music also like serial killing😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@anointedstilettos]

I was rolling😂😂🤣🤣

[@Ericadoeslife]

@@anointedstilettos Tony be having me rolling every video🤣😂

[@anointedstilettos]

@@Ericadoeslife He really does. He says something every single video 🤣🤣. I love that as much as the actual topic.

[@jasminemartin6998]

Erica Pettway 😭

[@LadyAngela678]

Erica Pettway Facts

[@NaudiaLittle]

Lmaooo he said men who like classical music also like serial killing & he was serious 💀 I don’t even think he knows he’s this funny

[@HK80sbabii]

Anaudria UrFavorite Rapper hollering!

[@lerandabrewer3923]

As a woman I was never comfortable in the club scene...to rowdy...the atmosphere never felt right...I always knew it was not for me...I stopped at 23 yrs old

[@oliviah1820]

Im the same way. Clubs are not for me stopped around the same age. Plus, I was never really a drinker.

[@kraziikiim]

I never went. I knew from the get-go that its not for me. I'm 22, but who knows what the future might bring

[@felishapittman2778]

Sam here...just not my thing.

[@mrs.haynes-r5z]

Me neither I stopped clubbing at 25 years old now I'm 40 years old

[@juchebo100]

Leranda Brewer I agree. I went to a club for the first time with my sister and a friend and I hated the atmosphere especially the cigarette smoke. I told them we should leave so we left within 5 minutes of being there. That was when I was in my early 20s and now I’m in my late thirties and I have never been back since and don’t plan to go back!! I have heard too many bad things like Tony is saying happen in nightclubs. Good to know!! No thanks

[@msknich0le]

12:50 I just told an ex boyfriend today, that I would not marry him for these same reasons. I prayed on it Wed., by Thurs. God showed me that he wasn't the one and Friday, I told him no and why. Hours later, I ran into this video. Just another confirmation that I made the right decision. *** I felt the right answer was no when he asked but I just wanted to be absolutely sure. So, I went to God in prayer.

[@fayesmith4751]

Proud of you, Always go to God first, What and who God has for you is for you!

[@traquilasmith2275]

You made the right decision for yourselves that's great. You pray and asked God. Yes God will show you who people really are. I did the same thing last year i walked away from my ex i had enough and i feeling he wasn't the one for me i prayed and asked God he showed me. Im happy that i made the right decision for me. We have to put God first always he knows what's best.Congrats to you.👏👍

[@krystle824]

I prayed and repent about the error of my ways with ex finance Cam'. Then God showed me that he was cheating through the entire 3 and 1/2 years of our relationship we could not get married November of 2019. I guess my loyalty did not matter. I am still recovering and going forward. It has been at least 72 hours or more of no phone conversations or major texting. God is freeing me.

[@rayshelcopeland6335]

Ive been there also ladies in 2015 was engaged to get married to my ex and child's father.. Called it off 6 months before because I only wanted get married once and to the right person. Asked God for signs that it would be right or if it's not right definitely made the right choice 5 years later he still acts the same. I'm still single learning more about me and dating great videos. Hold strong Queens

[@jdilla7142]

Good Topic.I’m not perfect, but I can say I have matured in so many ways. At times I find myself slipping back into my immature ways and having to check myself. I’m a 100% faithful man, but that took growth and discipline. I got on my knees in 2017 and prayed to God about it. My last relationship didn’t work out, I guess she didn’t understand that I was a work in progress. I hear you Tony ( Does she respect me and is she faithful?) That’s all I ask to Tony. I have morals and values but I am not perfect.

[@TonyGaskins]

Thanks for sharing that bro!!

[@jdilla7142]

Tony Gaskins Thank you bro. I enjoy being here . It’s hard to find other male friends to have the same beliefs as you, spiritually and mentally, I’m learning from you daily, I ain’t afraid to say it, I had no father figure coming up, so these things were never taught to me.

[@mmills860]

@@jdilla7142 I can totally relate, we are all a work in progress

[@ruru9400]

@@jdilla7142 you are awesome. I'm so glad that you can be so transparent. Your lady appreciates you, I'm sure 🤗 keep growing and learning.

[@jdilla7142]

Stuven mu thank you for the compliments.💫 and sorry I don’t have a lady, but I will continue to keep growing and learning as long as I have breathe in my body. May God continue to bless you and yours also.

[@reshaundaliv9176]

I dated a man that was very chillvary (opening doors, pulling out chairs, ECT.) and was mean as a BULL DOG and the opening doors didn't last long and he wore the name of a Envangelist ...

[@AllThingsTiffanyTV]

Nikiti Rodgers me too and he later was a cheater and abusive. Tyler Perry new movie goes so in depth of the emotional roller coaster and I can’t wait to see it because it’s so true

[@reshaundaliv9176]

@@AllThingsTiffanyTV Amen..i will also go watch it... I had to pray hard sis to forgive that mean man, and when I told him about his SELF, he would get smart..Just mean..but GOD.

[@reshaundaliv9176]

@@LilieAn1 Yes Lord, form of Godliness sis....started off reading the Bible together, then his Bible collected dust..

[@angiejordan2120]

Same here, mine abused me in all aspects but believed in God, bought my bible, read the Bible at night...etc but there are Wolves in sheep’s skin

[@reshaundaliv9176]

@Dorcas Deroneth Right..i agree...he used his Pastor to get me, he knew me and his Pastor wife was close...but hunni, he was fake as they come..i just say, God was giving me a sign even when I talk to him on the phone that it was something about him wasn't right, but I kept on talking to him, why, I don't even understand why I did...but I learned from it...no more will I ignore red flags.....

[@northernroots6807]

Tony as long as women listen to you we'll stay on top.

[@larkford4460]

Northern Roots on top of what?? I definitely feel no ceiling nor barriers in my life.. definitely don’t recognize a superior being over me either lol stay on top of your legacy and stop trying to compete dummy

[@northernroots6807]

@@larkford4460 I don't compete with anyone,and u stop calling people a dummy on the internet. Lol

[@elainepjones2478]

On top of "who?" 🥶 never mind dont answer that...

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

[@tlashai9902]

Everytime I watch you Tony, you make me believe there is still hope. Thanks 😊

[@bre_s9164]

Me too!!!...

[@11071874]

T Lashai me toooo!!!!

[@larkford4460]

That means you are hopeless. If tony didn’t make these videos you’d be another lost cause out here right lol y’all women need to take time to master self.. a lot of stuff he teaches is BASIC COMMON SENSE. But I guess that makes too much sense

[@tammaramencias495]

I'm lol at the limp in yo pimp walk. Lawd haMercy

[@jasminemartin6998]

Tammara Mencias lmbo

[@Authenticleatrice]

Tammara Mencias 😂

[@conniekirventhecomebackque1445]

😂🤣😂🤣okurrrr

[@HK80sbabii]

Dead

[@Dtella55]

Lol

[@dananewman6148]

You're right, I'm not perfect so why am I looking for perfection 🤔 but I am very honest & loyal & I require the same. I am open for the greatness GOD has in store for me -> Be Blessed! 🤗

[@kizzyrock]

Amen!!!!!😇

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

[@SH-xv3ln]

“You waiting on this man that likes classical music, but guess what serial killers like classical music!” I’m HOLLERIN!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@antoinetteesco1553]

I hear everything that you saying Thanks Toin

[@itsme3k]

I cackled. I LOVE house music...nobody I've dated likes it. If I was to hold everyone to that standard I would still be a virgin. 😂😂😂

[@destinyuplift]

Nobody is perfect in this world! We all have imperfections but you have to grow with each other, accepting each other flaws, compromising, and choosing to love each other. Maturity in character, stability, loyal, bring peace is a must!

[@Dd-po2ij]

Truth.

[@bre_s9164]

Yasss!!! ❤

[@nantashawheeler8942]

DestinyB I think you said it better than our friend Mr. Gaskins did. I completely agree with your out look on a relationship.

[@ashleybranch1392]

Yes Big Facts

[@aura5944]

The last part (“bring peace is a must). You’re very knowledgeable, don’t settle Destiny❣️❣️

[@LexNthacity]

Just subscribed cause you told me too. I never really thought about it.😂you have become somewhat of a “cyber dad” for me. I’m 26 and my dad died in 2013 and even when he was alive, my parents marriage was toxic and abusive af. Never ever had a healthy representation of real love so I have taken all your advice to heart and it worked! I have a MATURE but imperfect man. Hopefully my trauma from childhood to adulthood relationships doesn’t peek through and run him off but I thank you for giving me clarity. Idk if you’ll even see this but I just have to thank you in someway. You changed my life.😭

[@TonyGaskins]

Thank you for subscribing and sharing that with me!! Bless you!!

[@BrooklynBaby100]

Blessings to you! I’m in a similar situation and I’m happy to be here to learn all I can. 💜

[@soniabritt8460]

Tony 😂😂😂 your impersonations of how and what a woman says is hilarious! You also have the gift of comedy 😂

[@vagabondp8335]

Yes ,I totally agree.🤣🤣🤣It’s so funny

[@aishacansler8183]

😂😂😂😂😂😂Tony too funny how he imitates women

[@ShesGottaFastCar]

When you in a marriage you simply have to compromise

[@purposedpatience6597]

Inga04 and gain understanding. Selfishness is not an option when you become 1💯

[@ShesGottaFastCar]

A marriage is a mirror. It truly shows people who they are.

[@miraclenaddior]

I need a man that’s 100% faithful

[@9188jenni]

Me too. That's not unrealistic

[@LADILADY67]

miraclenaddior it seems like that doesn’t happen until they get older. Most of my male friends/associates were DOGS...and this is while they have been married. But since they have gotten older (late 40s+) they seem to be settled and finally faithful.

[@9188jenni]

@@LADILADY67 I think it's a maturity thing. Not necessarily age. Some young men are mature and faithful but I think the younger you go the less there are lol

[@anitaeast9201]

hippygirl2011 LET THE CHURCH SAY AMEN!!!

[@jdilla7142]

miraclenaddior Pray For One

[@lyndasjackson]

Lol "pimp walk"..... we can't mess up your swag Tony😂😁

[@kizzyrock]

😂😂

[@ebonieshenece]

I can count the number of times I went to the club on one hand. First time was for my friends graduation, second time was after my graduation. Both times in 2019...The first time I was lucky. The second time left me traumatized. There’s nothing there for me and when I’m asked to go out to the club it’s just a no for me. It’s frightening as a woman we can’t even go out in the day time and not be safe. I’ll pass on the night time especially. People think I’m weird because I tell them “I’m not going out unless I have a purpose. I love my life.” (events, family/friends gatherings, etc)

[@felishapittman2778]

Look what happened recently in Alabama. Now that missing woman is dead! I want to know why she left with them....why did her friends let her leave? Our world is so lost.

[@bre_s9164]

Hotel Chronicles, Car Chronicle... Im here for it! Thank you Tony!! ❤

[@angiejordan2120]

My pending ex husband does have it all together as long as he only has to take care of himself. He is a narcissist and knew how to say and do all the right things. However, what I allowed were the red flags. He is also a pyschopath. Just because they look good, smell good and have a good job makes them good. That’s all apart of the game with a narcissist! I wasted 7 years of my life with this boy. Educate yourselves this is real and it had lasting effects depending on what kind they are. He was covert so nobody else sees it but the person in the relationship with them.

[@toyawimley647]

My ex was also I can relate to you! I'm trying to move on and forgive myself for ignoring the red flags?

[@valenciawalker6498]

My current bf is overt narcissistic personality . And a relative .

[@Theprincessinyellow]

What were the red flags?

[@webuysellhousesaptscashoff9453]

Same here girl. Exactly. I wasted 22 years.

[@mamamartin8191]

No man is perfect, I understand that but some men think your supposed to wait until they're mature.

[@angiejordan2120]

Mama Martin don’t do it

[@mamamartin8191]

@@angiejordan2120 I swore to myself I wouldn't,and I did. 😟

[@lucrecepatrick9234]

They're free to think what they want. And we're free to refuse to accept what we DON'T want. Simple.

[@nikkyshamz2696]

@@lucrecepatrick9234 okay tell it👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 what they think has nothing to do with me.

[@larkford4460]

Like most women think men supposed to be there while y’all are emotionally dysfunctional lol

[@ericabostwick4033]

This right here... I am seeing a difference in my perspective since I’ve been listening to Tony. I recently met a man and I will tell you I am using this knowledge to weed out the real men from grown boys. I am seeing the difference between a man that is really interested in getting to know me and the ones that just want to get me in bed! I’m applying what I’m learning from Tony and I’m telling y’all it’s working!

[@jasminemartin6998]

This is the funniest video Tony has EVER made 😩😩😩😂😂😂😂 And the realest 💯 I swear!

[@jdilla7142]

Jasmine Ivory Yes👑King 🗣💯Truth and Funny at the same time😂😂

[@shuntaviawoods3389]

This was good. You're so right. A mature man is a work in progress. Just as I am a work in progress. Thank you!!!!

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN ! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

[@Ericadoeslife]

I was waiting for a video!! I feel like the topic you choose to speak on is always right on time!! 🙌

[@TonyGaskins]

Thank you for your support!! #BlessedTribe

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

[@AllThingsTiffanyTV]

I stopped going to the ratchet club at 23. But even after i would go out with girls and drink and regret it later. I just had to stop drinking all together. I rather go dancing at a lounge playing RnB but i haven’t found any good places to go in years. Dancing like they did in the Love Jones movie 😂

[@jasminemartin6998]

TiffanyB TV Bahahaha in Love Jones 😭

[@anointedone7683]

Same here, I would always regret going out to drink too. Not a club person whatsoever but I like lounges with good food.

[@kekepagele8135]

You are aware lounges are clubs...just more laid back.

[@anointedone7683]

Lee P. Yea you’re right now that I think about it... guess I’ll turn down invites to those as well 😌

[@anointedone7683]

Patrice Jones yea you’re exactly right 👌

[@shakratdosunmu5232]

You keep trying to explain, but ppl are not humble...they will come to the channel and tell you that you are wrong!!no worries, stick to your message.

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

[@terilynnsj8566]

Before entering a relationship, I think people need to learn too love on one another without thinking or having sex

[@CoachHC]

Tony you Real all the time and it takes self reflecting on my part. You right and I’ve been learning from your courses, videos and The Bless Tribe. Be Blessed

[@TonyGaskins]

H Cohane thank you for all the work you’re doing!! #BlessedFam

[@jasminemartin6998]

I’m so glad this video wasn’t live. I would NOT have been able to focus with all the commentary from the blessed tribe!!! We would have been too busy ROLLING! 😂😂😂😂

[@mamamartin8191]

Lol I know right 😂

[@lyndasjackson]

MY LORD....Tony, thank you! This is SO true! You are preaching and teaching!

[@simplynicolebeauty]

“And that’s why you was on ya byke” the way you say that kills me every time 😭

[@jjmac5712]

Lol, "walking too fast will throw off your pimp walk"😂😂! Thanks Tony for the enlightening message; it was very helpful!

[@MsShana8806]

I'm not going home with anyone from the club🤷🏾‍♀️

[@StaceysYouTube]

I started clubbing at 18-21 I stopped years ago when it got played out, I was tired of two stepping to lame music, hanging out with dramatic friends, fights and drunks. I knew it was no place to meet a guy. Really no place is good to meet a guy especially when they already have I'll intentions. I believe meeting a good guy is one of those things that happens out of the blue when you least expect it.

[@amygarland9121]

Wow!! This really hit home.... My mother told me " women like you don't get married" it sound harsh but she wasn't coming from a mean place. She was telling me I'm looking for something that don't exist..... PERFECTION! My parents just celebrated 40 years of marriage. Thank you for this video!!

[@reshaundaliv9176]

Your wife is telling the truth...He will be a handful and drive a women crazy.....Love it

[@Wealthybaby]

“Standing up against the wall in the dark and squeeze booty 😩🤣🤣🤣 y’all was out of pocket

[@pjSoCal23]

Be blessed! I don’t really care about the opening of doors for me, I don’t care who pays for the meals or if he buys a house. We are all imperfect. I just want him to be faithful, respect me and good with communication.

[@shantayhodges]

Chris brownT 😂🤣

[@kikic7637]

And Ciara😂

[@liveinviolet2908]

Like Mr David Mann’s Mr Brown 🤣😭

[@yamimngomezulu8402]

I thought I was the only who heard that🤣🤣

[@zachaazakah]

I turned 25 in August. I stopped going to the club because I started to hate the hyper sexual attention I would receive. Also because of the type of crowd it attracts overall and the energy is reckless

[@corlenciabeamon2]

I’m TIED of you with these “Women Impersonations” 😂😂😂 but you dead on point every single video

[@StandupGirl-ym3ey]

I had a guy keep talking about sex! I told him that I'm not interested in having sex at this time! He went on to say, that's not what he wants!! Almost every conversation led to him asking me something sexual! His defense was always what is so special about me that he would just want me for sex, he wants a relationship!! Liiiieessssssssss!! Turned me all the way off! Mouth says one thing but his actions say another!

[@MsShana8806]

My legs have been closed for over 3 years.😫

[@angelicaangel2624]

It's the safest way to go for sure.

[@SH-vj2ce]

Keep em' closed!

[@traquilasmith2275]

Great decision.

[@mrs.haynes-r5z]

Mine been closed for 11 years

[@LadyAngela678]

If I volunteer to pay half for the first date, and he accepts it, I probably wont be seeing him again.

[@smiles9599]

Loool they don't get it that when women do that is because they don't wanna see them again and don't want them to feel like we owe them anything

[@rachelleenterprise8072]

@@smiles9599 And even if we Do like them, and they accept, it's a turn off.

[@smiles9599]

@@rachelleenterprise8072 Yes that's true too. Nothing like a stingy man to make you feel turned off.

[@biancaleewilliams2308]

Precisely! If he struggling to pay that dinner bill he’ll always be struggling to maintain the household bills

[@rachelleenterprise8072]

@@smiles9599 Heck yeah. Stinginess or even a willingness to attempt to take advantage of someone who seems giving, shows a lack of character. That turns me off because character is the very thing that turns me On.

[@Spark_Grace]

What helps a man mature? With age should come maturity, but that’s not always the case...

[@larkford4460]

Lauren Luv circumstances help men mature. We have to be under circumstances where we have no where to go but in the direction of where we see in mind.. prime example, a lot of older men tell young guys about jail and the streeets yet young guys still do it.. then change the reality afterwards

[@EB-rd2mm]

Tony, you crack me up, but for real, you've given me and probably others somethings to ponder. Expectations must be balanced, thank you!

[@glendanesmith]

I love long videos 🙌🏾

[@jasminemartin6998]

Glenn Nesmith,RHIT me too girl!

[@anointedstilettos]

I do too!

[@TonyGaskins]

Thank you, #BlessedFam

[@joannhughes4992]

M2👌

[@brookebenton8192]

Especially the strip club part. People act like the strip club is no big deal... I used to be a dancer, I know what really goes on!

[@jasminemartin6998]

Wow, never even thought about some of these things. I’m using your examples to analyze myself as someone whose been single for 6 years!!! I got to snap back into reality...I have no clue what it’s going to be like to do life with another human being....”unrealistic/strict expectations*

[@AllThingsTiffanyTV]

Jasmine Ivory My struggle as well Jasmine. I had to make some adjustments with my thinking. I also held false expectations for a man. I needed a reality check and i appreciated it so much!

[@CoachHC]

Right there with you both. I know I’m a handful and definitely a work in progress. This is one of the reasons I joined the Blessed Tribe to get others insight as well. Tony gives us the real each time.

[@jasminemartin6998]

H Cohane yes! Every time!!

[@TonyGaskins]

Thanks for sharing that! #BlessedTribe

[@Dd-po2ij]

Me to. Bless. You (3) yrs. Single. No man no friend 3yrs I like it.

[@Godislove818]

we're not perfect beings ourselves, we shouldn't expect perfection.. Its consciously working on ourselves as men and women and respecting each other in the relationship to make it work.

[@taniayevette2438]

TG out here healing lives!

[@_keytruth8287]

When you said a man can still open your door and still abuse you reminded me of Ike turner when he opened the car door for Tina but was still beating her inside the car 😭😭

[@TikaRoxanne]

His woman imitations are hilarious and on point 😄😁

[@shanicegordon8331]

Listen to me naaahhhhh, Hear me out naaaaahhhh 😂😂😂😂. Just know when Tony says that, your heart, ears and eyes are WWWIIDDEEE OOPPPEEENN!!!!

[@gail_7192]

Lol I came across your comment just as he was saying what you wrote about😂😂😂

[@shanicegordon8331]

Gail Sylvester I hope it gives a little more punch to the message 😂 and that you listening up lol.

[@kimbery_love]

"Listen to me nah" if you don't want no truth...scroll pass this video but if you do, you better "Hear ME" I love this brother, he is the realest they ever made...this info is 💯right here!!!

[@krystle824]

"When you ask for unrealistic expectations, be expecting that person aka man will be expecting you to live up to those expectations that you can not even live up to with you being imperfect as well. Be realistic to get realistic result to give yourself grace that you require daily not just from God but also from others." --Prophetess Krystle J Turner

[@trapsource_goddess]

I cannot tell the difference between a good man who is imperfect and makes mistakes and a “grown boy” as you call it. That’s a fine line... lol

[@la6136]

Yes that’s what confuses me too it is a really fine line. I guess you just have to know your dealbreakers it’s different for everyone

[@zenasherman9444]

Big Brother you got me cracking up over here with the "listen to me now" 😂😂😂😂😂! 🐸 Be blessed! All the things that you are saying are things that we as women really know and some of us just want confirmation on it and others of us want to still go against it nonetheless your speaking truth. And quiet as it's kept it may appear that you're not speaking to the man but you are especially if they are secretly watching and never responding to your videos but they're there I'm sure of it.

[@jasminemartin6998]

Whew, 40 minutes! Come on with it 👂🏾

[@jdilla7142]

Jasmine Ivory I had to watch it a few times, especially after reading some comments 😂

[@rachelleenterprise8072]

Str8 haters. How you watch ALL this man's content but WON'T subscribe 🤔 ...? Keep up the excellent work Sir Gaskins!! Looking forward to Queen soon as well!!

[@nessparadis6948]

Brittney Small , it’s not always that deep. I thought I was subscribed to him and never paid any attention to that until a few weeks ago. Now, I’m subscribed to him.

[@rachelleenterprise8072]

@@nessparadis6948 Nice!

[@user-sm2rj]

Tony....I am near tears (From Brooklyn, NY - you'll NEVER see that happen, lol) You inspired me No man is perfect - but I found it! The perfect FOR ME man. I just sent him the following message (we have been apart since Thanksgiving as I am house hunting!😄) THANK YOU BROTHA -you feed my soul Lawrence your not perfect (eventhough you may think so), we don't think the same way, we go about shit differently.... You don't see - that's what I like! I'm not wanting/looking for my parallel, then you would lack the same shit I do But....if you are a different size puzzle piece, together - we can make a whole picture You got to have what I don't to complete the picture You don't complete something by adding more of what you already got The difference and patience, allows me to grow, see things in a different light I I won't always agree or approve But....two different ways is better than one And because something is different, doesn't necessarily mean worse, doesn't imply better Different is NOT THE SAME Different -Could be better -Could be worse +Definitely not the same, tho I'm just saying

[@KB-504]

Thank u for the video Tony. Unr helping me as a single woman. My ex was/is a HEAVY drinker as well as cluber... I dont drink, dont smoke, nor do I go to clubs.... however, b/c I wanted him n my life and I tried to look past his behavior but deep down inside, I knew this was not someone or something I wanted to accept. It didnt settle well n my spirit. Months later, he left me for a MUCH younger woman (girl)

[@Mzneosoul]

Tony, what you know about ki-ki'ing?! Lmao

[@tadasmom1]

“Listen to me”..... 😂

[@rapplease8905]

Stop making excuses my husband open the door for anytime we together. He will not let me touch a door when we together

[@FB.2002]

lol!! 😂😂You make me laugh so much!!! My ex husband used to say those things, very jealous and controlling.

[@11071874]

That part about bible thumpers, classical music and serial killers got me. 💀 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@rekalavette8555]

Good messages Tony keep doing what you do. Good information. But out of 10 people 2 people would adopt and understand what you're saying' but the other 8 people hear what they want and misinterpret what you're saying' and they are completely wrong of what you're saying, because you're not saying something the want to hear! So you just have to pray for people and keep pushing because people is going to be people, if you know what I mean'. you're doing a great job💯😇🤜🤛👍. Blessings to you, your wife and children🙌🙏

[@jdilla7142]

@reka johnson/lambert Well Said

[@Brianna-yh7iy]

Thank you so much for your videos they are saving me so much wasted time and energy

[@lonnicadarden]

The commentary in this video was so funny 😂

[@Please1ful]

TG.. your timing is impeccable. I was literally thinking about this subject matter. Waiting on daily video and then bam!! Be blessed

[@TiffanyFG]

I hear you Tony. I just want to see the Spirit exist in him. Not perfection, but Christ is his head.

[@goddessyvonne7753]

He told me he was a Christian have yet to see any substance but a great talker and wonderful eloquent prayers I am sure God heard.

[@alisagrant1134]

Know yourself, then pray to the Almighty, the creator of marriage for what you want in a husband, but leave it to Him to give you the man you NEED. He knows us better than we know ourselves. He tells us in all our ways take notice of Him and He will make our paths straight. We both have to be striving to imitate Christ to the best of our ability. It should be evident by the way we live our lives and evident to others. I agree with you.

[@vblacka4117]

Yes... A man will open your door, but will still abuse you...PREACH Tony. Behind the scene, where no one is watching.

[@sassyandclassy8518]

Thanks for this. Nothing like hearing from a man's perspective what men are like and how to have realistic expectations. I especially like the part about being malleable. Single men and women both need to be malleable so that they can coexist. It's also key that men can be chivalrous and still cheat. Hard pill to swallow. Waiting on my mature man.

[@curli-lettey4319]

Half the problem is people dont know how to listen but is very fast to respond. That's where miscommunication comes in and problems arise that dont ha e to be there.

[@Dtella55]

Truth so accept someone with what is important in a relationship loyalty...honesty...communication and understanding guess other things he/she can work on to improve behavior...

[@x__lexx]

Lmaoo serial killers listen to classical music

[@Jess456life]

“Ciara and Chris BrownTtt” Lawd I’m weakkk

[@EducatedBlackQueen]

I thought I was tripping when I heard that "t" at the end! Lawwddd!😂

[@AfricanEmpress01]

First 5mins facts on facts Unrealistic fantasy living some P.E.A.C.E

[@ariesaries6981]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 can’t stop laughing at the intro

[@racilleashley9506]

Hi, Tony, you still should open the door no excuses, you opened the door, when you were dating..' believe it or not, it means a lot to most ladies, still today, but a mature man, can strive to be better, and work on this that's ,so much very important. There is still real gentleman, in these days and times. Some woman raised, this type of man correct. PEACE

[@dulceortega7196]

Conflicts reveal someone’s character...

[@charrasmith908]

Me and have proved time after time if they can't even do a simple process by picking up a phone and calling a woman they run and don't call after sex or stop calling. And worst-case men text now just texting, "Wyd" that's about as far as we would get with a guy no dates nowadays men don't pursue women like they used to I don't get any of that only if they want to spend time can we meet up or hang out me and or cheap

[@jolie416]

Thanks so much, brother Tony, for clearing things up and saving us Lol! For someone who didn't have a father or male figure and presence for that matter. Your videos are especially helpful and beneficial to us in particular. God bless!

[@racineburke2561]

🤣🤣🤣🤣watch nah he cracks me up. Just unapologetically honest.

[@starkishayoung59]

😂😂 Pimp walk limp walk

[@iloveangelmonroe4864]

I lost interest in clubs at 24 ish... if it wasn’t a section I wasn’t interested. Now section or not... I’m good. I rather travel or do something new