Top Therapist REVEALS Why You Don't CHANGE W/ Dr. Ross Ellenhorn | Aubrey Marcus Podcast

[@Freebirdshearth]

Dang. This absolutely describes me. High hope and high fear of hope. Growing up I was simultaneously constantly told I was not good, not acceptable, didn't belong and that I was talented, brilliant, and a LOT was expected of me. What a way to fuck up a child. 65 now, decades of therapy, only now beginning to be myself...

[@ladyjei]

Very good! My entire childhood was not showing any emotion or get beaten. We were never allowed to have fun or we got beaten . And I do mean beaten and bruised and sometimes things got broken. All of us kids are somber, serious adults because of this. We all have trouble with playing (or go to extremes), and we are all the overachiever in many ways. We weren’t allowed to show our likes or dislikes or anything creative at all and consequently, we all wound up being workaholics that rarely have genuine fun. I’ve been working with my siblings for years and we are all beginning to be able to open up to each others thanks to transformative session like this one. AWARENESS and VALIDATION is proving to be the keys to the kingdom. Thank you for sharing such useful information freely.

[@missygoldstein12]

The thing about external metrics is so true!!! I have had numerous people I've spent the day with who must check their "steps" and will boast about how many steps they took in the day and feel a sense of pride in this. I outright REFUSE to track something like this and reject the idea of it. I often walk several miles a day because I enjoy it, because it feels good. I KNOW that if I ever felt the inclination to "track" how far I walked I'd end up walking far less.

[@LilachLavy-Emanuel]

This conversation is so packed with insight and wisdom.... it helped me even only to listen to it... It touches upon such important aspects of the world of therapy and healing...

[@dolersmcdolers3639]

So many insights! A therapist with an innate sense of empathy is what makes this guy so good at what he does. Less resistance to listen and change when someone feels understood.

[@KaylaMarie-ox8le]

Not so much in person in my experience. He doesn't follow through with his values. He profoundly let me down when I really just needed someone to help get my needs met. Nobody would listen to me

[@jamiecarr9341]

Loved so much about this chat. Reinforced for me that it truly is okay to relax the self judgement that I can so often inflict on myself. Yes, we are living in a time of much self judgment and judgement of each other.

[@ellenhorn2360]

I'm so glad to read that you found the interview helpful.

[@Blonde111]

Great conversation Nothing is inherently "bad" until it damages your life or someone else's life

[@PATDAVIS1]

Hey it's Robin Williams as Matt Damon's therapist in Good Will Hunting!

[@liannewouds07]

How did this not have more likes.... It will. It will.

[@surfnstef64]

Hi Liane!!

[@ellenhorn2360]

Thanks!

[@restbythebeach]

Great comment!!! As much as I love that movie I didn't even make the connection.

[@KaylaMarie-ox8le]

I was treated horribly at your program. Worsened my mental health. Emotionally abused me, and medically neglected me. Used alcohol to cope there. Was only shamed for it. When I developed a cross tolerance to benzos/alcohol and was in obvious withdrawal nobody helped me. Visibly was shaking, had hypervigilance, and was disoriented. Prob will inevitably end up unliving. On the off chance you actually take that in to better your program, I am telling you. In the meantime, I will keep exposing you and the rest of this cruel mental health system

[@asiaolson4683]

Thank you for another excellent interview! I just purchased Dr. Ellenhorn’s book. As a person in recovery and an LCDC, I have witnessed the medical model (DSM) do more harm than good. Grateful for the paradigm shift. 💜✨

[@KaylaMarie-ox8le]

His ideas are great and all. Unfortunately IRL he doesn't follow through with many of his said values. I personally had him as a therapist in his program. He unfortunately wouldn't listen when I said my team was harming my mental health. I talk about on my channel

[@mjk5254]

Aubrey, your wisdom and reflection on life is unprecedented. Dr.E-Horn was on point as well. I always grow a little bit after watching thinkers talk.

[@joshuathinkingoutloud]

Insightful...I appreciate the spectrum of guests you bring on for your podcasts. Like many, I'm addicted to knowledge, though my pursuit and channel niche is taking knowledge to the next level and devloping wisdom. Have an awesome and blessed day everyone! 🌿

[@zuudikiusjegeeye5384]

This is to the people who constantly are complaining about the advertisement. One way to avoid them is actually paying for the content that you so harmonious want to enjoy! 🙏🏾

[@Howitchewstofeel5gum]

"shoulding on yourself" I'm gonna remember that one.

[@mcginnis1160]

One of the best interviews so far.

[@ellenhorn2360]

Thank you so much for saying this.

[@jamiecarr9341]

Wish there was a way to give this a 1000 thumbs up!!! Soooo good!!! Thank you 🙏

[@moons_mind]

This guest was great. Would love to see him back on in the future!

[@genkidamaaaa]

Thanks for sharing this shift of perspective in facing what goes on.... God bless you guys, from Argentina 💙

[@EricHanefi]

Most high quality video conference podcast I’ve seen in this pandemic

[@ellenhorn2360]

Thank you so much for saying so. That's very gratifying to read.

[@angelawilliamson6765]

Exceptional podcast thank you so much, both of you but very smart and intuitive. X

[@viraglorand2563]

Less advertisement would be better. Anyway.... the podcast is so good. Thank you.

[@sprawkaart6443]

Fascinating conversation, you both are just incredibly insightful and wise, thank you!

[@rossellenhorn2183]

Thanks so much for saying so!

[@emilylowrance7930]

this really spoke to me

[@jendejarnette]

I wish that the advertisements were more thoughtfully placed, if there have to be so many... 😔

[@familiarsting4108]

Idk how much KZbin you consume per day, but premium is worth it for this reason and others

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[@dianeclayton4936]

You tube Red...worth every penny...commercial free!!

[@tashaviaf]

I've found that if I open a new tab and just listen in the background the ads usually don't play ;)

[@charlotte22]

Good stuff.

[@marie-pierreblanc3899]

Very insightful talk for me, putting words to my thoughts

[@lerakrasimirova2179]

Thank You 💗💖💗

[@stillwatersnightsky6533]

This hints at accepting one's shadow side. Assimilation of one's part of self that we don't like or don't wish to show to the world. Am I understanding right.. Would love for some inputs Aubrey thank you for this awesome conversation.

[@slasaus1]

yes accepting is really important in letting go. The narratives one tells themselves is rooted in ur reptillian brain (the fight or flight respons, the habbits, the believes etc)... one must understand these narratives and thus feelings of low frequency in the body are regulated by the mind. The mind is what u are, ur soul is who u are. The mind is a tool which can be trained to become a servant instead of a master, hence you will align with ur soul. Letting go of past trauma's and not being concerned abt the future means abundance, abundance of (positive instead of the wasted negative) energy, more time, better ideas... everything is yin yang in life, it got opposite poles, in every man there is something female and vice versa. Forgive urself and forgive the ones who caused anxiety with u. let go. live in the present moment and become aware of ur (monkey) mind. The solution lies on the inside instead of the outside and the more enlighted u get u will actually be able to get the sharp edges of ur self being. Because ur consciousness will be rising. Good luck on ur journey my friend! namaste

[@stillwatersnightsky6533]

@@slasaus1 thank you for breaking this down for me. I guess the best service one can do(more than being of service to others) to be of service to oneself. Where one is observing one's inner world and as you said trying to be aware of why we do, think, and say the things every waking moment. Self awareness is key. Thank you again!!!

[@slasaus1]

@@stillwatersnightsky6533 yes pls remember u can only love someone to the level of self love. In an ideal world obviously coz the confident bloke with self love can fully express himself towards the woman with self love and vice versa. In daily life (social) fears of abandonment or inadequacy could be reasons for certain behavior (marrying a certain man for example). Yw mate, u will get there... if u want some interesting links re a certain subject pls dont hesitate to ask. Take care!

[@remingtonfrog3170]

⁠​⁠​⁠@@slasaus1 ✨Beautifully said ✨ ☯️❤☮️

[@lynnelizabeth9343]

This has me thinking different on hope...faith...

[@ozonelayercake]

Great message but, dude, the ads are killing the podcast. Every five mins is ridonkulous. It feels like one of those sketchy movies that probably shouldn't be on KZbin.

[@emilybarry9410]

is it just me or was there a lot more ads during this episode? I love Aubrey and his podcast, but all the ads in this one were disruptive (especially because I was working out) and made it less enjoyable to watch. Just my thoughts, but still worth the listen!

[@daveglick6920]

I couldn't agree more. Super distracting!

[@assiabekkar153]

I really didn't feel the time passing, Awsome and spantanious discussion

[@acuteangyll]

god damn this was fantastic.

[@Flowstatepaint]

Thank you for all you share. Hmu id love to send a print 👩🏻‍🎨

[@adrianwalks]

would be great to have also separate clips from each episode..

[@treytrey6011]

Once again, self help for the wealthy. Consider the very common hopeful perspective: "If you don't get something, it does seriously hurt you." What if what you're hoping for is healthcare, housing, food, a survivable wage? How about something for the majority of Americans. Keep the "rich guy therapy" on TV's Lifestyles of the Rich and Shameless. It's not self confidence or faith I need, it's protection from Corporate America.

[@missygoldstein12]

Oh brother

[@river4140]

Do you have enough ads??

[@KayFlowidity]

10:35 👌👌👌

[@tylernestor2431]

An add every 4 minutes is criminal. Ffs I can't continue, thanks for having to to switch to Rogan during my workout

[@vermiculus3848]

More substance by volume in this podcast... Unless it's a good one hahaha

[@JakeRichardsong]

I appreciate the interview very much. Thank you. At the same time, the interviewer seemed to talk too much. Also, almost seemed to be competing and 'splaining', but is the interviewer a psychologist?

[@KaylaMarie-ox8le]

Not the top therapist. I had him, so I think I can speak on it. He profoundly let me down. I'm sick of hearing him go on and tote values he doesn't exemplify. I don't know when, but it's inevitable that I'll prob unalive one day. Already in intensive care from 3 attempts and I’ll be 30 in a couple of months. Going to places like his program just make me feel worse than before. I'm forced to be around professionals who don't understand me, and worsen my mental health. He sided with a real prick that is his friend when all I wanted was to switch to someone else. He also hired as the med director. The psychiatrist Matthew Bernarein. It's a miracle I didn't develop chronic alcolism as I used alcohol to cope there. All they ever did was shame, and blame me. They also would shame and blame me when I was in a bad mood, because I couldn't stand them.

[@Sansspace]

Bull shit.. we have a short life dont dive too deep just love yourself and live courageously you brain is hardwired to protect you just dont care a damm. These people are born into this universe what they have is life of busyness

[@justworking7141]

You’ve just lost a subscriber due to the mammoth volume of ads! How can you be engaged with so many interruptions?

[@tnt01]

i know right. it is ridiculous.

[@maricelsantossinaguinan3209]

Have you tried fast forwarding to the end then playing it? Got to watch it with less ads 😊

[@seansullivn]

Man I wish people would stop giving Jordan Peterson a platform....

[@a.maya12]

The guy has to show his tatoos?

[@Nolaughingmatter23]

This guy learned more from Aubery-

[@zippastills5668]

Bottom therapist.

[@jackytolsma8249]

Marcus talks too much