Top Tips for Empty Nesters

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In this insightful video, Teal Swan shares her top tips for parents transitioning to life as empty nesters after their children leave home. She validates the complex emotions that often arise and provides practical guidance on coping with this major life change.
Teal encourages empty nesters to rediscover their own interests, find new purpose, prioritize self-care and relationships, stay connected to their children in new ways, and allow themselves to feel and process the full range of emotions that surface. Her compassionate advice will resonate with any parent navigating this challenging yet opportunity-filled chapter of life.
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[@unicodePug]

Before I watch this video, I just want to say: Top tip for empty nesters: Teach your daughter to value men and family so she will get pregnant, then take care of your grandchildren. Problem solved.

[@unicodePug]

I've gotta say Teal, I'm a bit disappointed. You didn't even get to the idea of teaching your daughter to value men and treat them right in order to start a family, and then you'd have grandchildren to take care of while your kids are busy and a reason to still interact with your kids. The closest you came is that very non-specific step 6. This is why families are failing. Our greatest female mentors like Teal Swan are still wallowing in the swampy depths of their liberal society upbringing. I'd like to be able to point to a woman like Teal Swan and tell women, "Be specifically more like her," but with such an obvious point like this one missed, it is difficult to do so. I understand it is probably difficult for Teal to teach another woman to properly value a man, since she does have her known history of mistreatment at the hands of men according to her side of the story, but I think it would be valuable for her to at least mention the idea of valuing men and family, even if she can't go into specifics since she herself has not been the most successful and her partners have not been successful in reciprocating proper treatment of her. I believe Teal doesn't have any daughters if I remember correctly, so perhaps this thought process never crossed her mind, but I think it's one of the most important points to improving families, relationships, and by extension, society. I hope Teal's sons find wives (or have found wives, if that's the case) that had mothers who followed these principle ideas concerning raising their daughters.

[@unicodePug]

Also disappointed that you placed the closest thing to the most important one all the way at tip number 6 instead of tip number 1. Maybe you did this intentionally to softball your listeners a little bit, but it is the most important one, so even if that's the case, maybe say something like, "If these tips were ranked by importance, I'd put this at number 1."

[@unicodePug]

@thenunt Do one about feminist dissimulation too.

[@unicodePug]

@thenunt nuh-uh.

[@LaciJaneDIY]

Both of my parents abandoned me. I became the parents I wish I had, for my child. She will be 15 tomorrow and as she's heading into 10th grade, I am already tearing up thinking about her graduating - filled with pride & also happiness for her. This video was helpful for me as I am starting to prepare for her to spread her wings.

[@bridgetmenham6686]

WOW I was fostered and doted on my son and gave him lots of love I never wanted him to feel as I felt as a child xx

[@kucheriya1]

Suffering from empty nest myself, miss my kids everyday. Kids being in college and smarter than me, very little I can provide them in form of support or guidance. Thank you for making this video.

[@eleanor4759]

💛

[@eleanor4759]

Most likely just more well educated. 90% of IQ is genetic, apparently.

[@lorb312]

When my youngest got married and left home, I walked into my house and just had this crushing sadness hit me. I could feel her presence was just gone. One of my best friends put it so succinctly for me. She said "its because every time she has left home before she left little pieces of herself and this time she gathered them all up and took them with her" it didn't make me feel better 😅 bit it was still a truth. I just sat with the sadness and then started doing things for me. Now I have a room full of tarantulas 😂 it's awesome.

[@sherececocco]

My great-aunt at 70 years old took herself white water rafting in Alaska ❤

[@Lavenderfairy1905]

I turned 19 this year never had kids, yet am watching this video for future purposes😂(also because I love teal💙)

[@ZenSpencer-eo4vg]

Way to go lavenderfairy💙

[@ZenSpencer-eo4vg]

I like her a lot too forgot to say that ❤

[@annabanzon313]

Smart female 👌

[@elizabethforsyth3054]

Teal you are the only person who completely makes sense to me and its like being seen for the first time in my life, with love and gratitude to you

[@HeatherGonzales-ul1zl]

Once both my kids were out of the house it felt like an internal energetic tectonic shift. A year and a half later it's been a beautiful process. Parenting my kids taught me to parent myself. Going deep, allowing the majority of my energy to go to myself. No excuses now. Grow and heal, get super vulnerable. Watch my children develope into adulthood and stay out of the way. ❤❤❤

[@carly582]

Dude my kid is not even 2 and I'm.so scared lol

[@nancyinthegarden3160]

I could listen to you all day bc your voice is perfect pitch, straight forward and quick on the delivery; no dragging out the points. Thank you

[@annikabirgittanordlander6887]

"Somewhere deep inside, you knew that your child is a being that belongs to the universe. That like you, they came here to this life with a very important purpose. And you knew that you would be a big part of the picture of them developing so as to fulfill that purpose". Teal Swan 🌎 yes, thank you Teal 😘

[@sasbeachs]

My wife passed away when our youngest turned 18, I got emptiness. It's been 10 years, I fulfilled my wife and I dream but it's not the same without her.

[@eleanor4759]

💜

[@alex-ander-13]

We are as proud of you, as she is! 🤍

[@lindsay3268]

Came here after watching the parental alienation videos. My three were taken away over 1.5 years ago and i haven't seen them for nearly as long. They are with my sister. This video is relevent as well, as i went from living with them and spending a lot of time with my partner to living alone. i feel a lot of grief as there's only so many ways i can affect my situation. But, i can find other helpful places in which to offer my love and care. Taking care of little ones and being a mama are a central part of my calling in life. i need to nurture and support others. i appreciate the ideas and push in the direction of meaningful ways i can help people. i can work with those who have gone through similar situations and find the ways to heal through it for all of us. Thank you for this gift!

[@sherececocco]

I'm trying to figure out how to support myself the way I supported them 🤔 Treat your Self the way you treat others ✨️

[@elijahnamokoyi3408]

I love you Teal, infact watching your videos in a way raises my impulse

[@alex-ander-13]

Thank you for facilitating my innerstanding of what my parents are going through!

[@TravelingFoodBunny]

Thank you, Teal. Awesome advice as always. I found fostering animals is very fulfilling. You’re right. My mom is still be there for me and my child regardless of distance across the world.

[@Kat-zm9tf]

It's funny and sad at the same time: I don't have children, but was involved in my parents problems, needs and wants basically my whole life. Totally enmeshed and overwhelmed. And: I feel the same!! Just like parents, when their children leave the house. I am so tired that I cannot enjoy, feeling free of the burden. What now? And the question: Why am I even here, when my only purpose was, to take care or worry about my parents?! It's gonna be a long journey into my own life! Thanks Teal for your inspiration ❤ (Even, if this video wasn't for me specifically 😆) I guess, the first thing I need to do, is give up to the exhaustion... 😴

[@asterixdergallier2743]

I am deeply touched (almost to tears)... Good luck for your journey... may you find the joy and the love and the LIFE.

[@asterixdergallier2743]

What is it that touches me? I am 72 now, and for different reasons, I have the same feeling: "if I have been here for 'others' only, thru out my life, then what am I living for now?"... What touches me in the deep: even asking this question is inspired by love, and this love compels me to embrace you, and it will find a way.

[@Kat-zm9tf]

@@asterixdergallier2743 Thank you so much!! ❤️ I really hope, you find an answer to this question too.

[@asterixdergallier2743]

@@Kat-zm9tf it will happen, and it must happen. Know why? What comes from love returns to love. Asking this question "what am I living for?" with love, coming from love, it must find it's way...

[@asterixdergallier2743]

... not necessarily to an "answer" in a verbal, mental sense... but in little steps that come from being devoted to the inner truth/love... this devotion in itself is the answer. That is how I feel now, and with calm inner confidence, even though I do not know a thing.

[@jenniferlogiurato-rider3585]

I was literally googling about empty nesters the second this popped up... I am struggling 😭

[@lucystrunk9686]

It’s hard. I understand. I hope it gets easier for you. I’m getting adjusted and adapted to my particular circumstances.

[@CristinaSofia4]

Same dear soul 😿

[@debwhite6228]

Aww I see you honestly and I couldn’t even walk past my son’s empty bedroom without bursting into floods of tears. He’s fully independent now and has a lovely girlfriend who makes him happy and I couldn’t wish for anything more. I’ll always be there in the background if he needs support and he knows it and he’s in touch and visits regularly. He’s an adult and I’ve had to let him go but I’ve more now than ever as he chooses to see me and we have an even closer relationship ❤. It does get better and I wouldn’t want him to have any guilt as he’s meant to fly the nest ❤️

[@annafarrell8535]

Girl I feel you. My oldest two graduated, left home and then my dad died all within about 3 weeks. It was too much. It’s never quite right without your kids around…even when you’re happy for them

[@lucystrunk9686]

@@annafarrell8535 oh wow, that is a lot at once. You doing ok?

[@vaidehimajithia6260]

Teal.. you do so much for everyone. You think so much for everyone .. god bless you 😊

[@sherlinefenelon818]

Thank you Teal to make that video that exactly is happening to me struggling to my find my own way ❤❤❤

[@BrentJohannes-h4r]

With grace and integrity you are truely the finest things in life❤❤❤❤

[@Ouranos369]

Good job expanding your subject matter, Teal. Im sure it's tough having to repeat yourself on some videos (not a criticism) because I feel like you've covered so much about human nature! I would have never understood emotions the way I do without having stumbled on your channel years ago. I wouldn't have had enough tools to heal without parts work and the completion process. A lot of what you say is what's missing from the spiritual field .Tysm for fighting for humanity🌻

[@Dequa21]

Learning to divert that energy from our children into and as well as other things such "new things" doesn't mean you are replacing them. No. However. Growing new seeds so than those seeds can develop as such the previous core taken plant that wasn't witnessed can now be resolved and witnessed in yet again another similar growth processing. Thank you Teal. You are an amazing being and I see you. -Neeko

[@ysteinLarsen-yb7pb]

U realy have a big Knowledge about life... Thank u so much ❤❤❤

[@TheLebensUnterhalt]

Thank you so much for this one Teal❤️

[@shaktiveda7041]

Hil, Teal, a very supporting message for empty nesters. It's a powerful message that can potentially help empty nesters, great pick on your part.

[@blue_sky_bright_sun7599]

must share this with mom.

[@J_van_can]

Thank you I really needed to hear this…

[@alexanderringler5747]

When I was 11, my grandma kneeled and begged me, that I eat her cooked food. She wanted to provide... I was shooked and confused. Now I understand...

[@kennypham3856]

I love this video, Teal! And I love your videos, in general! Please don't listen to the haters: I always loved your electronic backgrounds: Haters were saying that you were using them to 'brainwash' people; but I never got brainwashed watching your computerized/electronic/cool backgrounds!

[@staceywood7800]

Thanks so much Teal 💛 I’m not quite there yet.. but full of fear about this step. Maybe I’ll adopt children/animals. Journeys not over yet 🙏✨ We got this.

[@Meandmymirror]

Time just went so fast. I always wanted to be a mom. Now I’m a para educator. It helps

[@Bethelehem2458]

oh the injustice. you probably treasured your children more than the potential money they could have offered you when they finally left. lol how i laugh at your lizard like misery.

[@zax8914]

Well this helps me understand mom. She bought my brother and his husband (RIP) a house nextdoor. When my brother moved out and remarried they (mom and brother) asked me to take over this house. Dad has been dead over 20 years. My mom and I are both coping with irrelevance to the world I think. She's even recently retired and I'm on disability for schizophrenia.

[@traceyseymour2652]

Perfect timing. Thank you Teal. ❤️

[@bizprofitwithali]

Thanks for sharing this.

[@CarolineMordaunt-uw9yw]

Thankyou Teal

[@bridgetmenham6686]

You're vid about this subject is so clear Ive been needing to watch a vid Xan you do one about the girl friend not liking yiu xx

[@bAa-xj3ut]

Thank you Teal!☘️🌿🌸🩵

[@OziBlokeTimG]

Great conversation, social and community support is beneficial as in a two way flow.

[@primajope]

Super practical and Insightful advice too !

[@justanotherfan18]

Thanks so much for this video!!

[@traveler8880]

Great content…just what I needed. Thank you

[@annabanzon313]

Im realizing now that the reason I loved my hubby so much was because he was and is great stepdad. So minus our son, it's changed our marriage, mostly for me, I think. Also, I teach HS, so yes, it helps, but it is still not the same.

[@SandraGacic-zt1gf]

Support From Balkan !!!!!!

[@suzielukosius-xn1sl]

My kids at 14 and 10 decided to live with their father, which was last summer. I was a lone parent for 9 and a half years. Their fathers house is an hours drive from me. They do come to my town every fortnight though won't stay with me because they don't like my partner. They stay with my mother, who has shut me out of her life. So I basically spend around a few hours a fortnight with them. Unfortunately, my finances won't cover me to drive there and back to see them. I miss them so much and feel empty 😞

[@pickingflowers]

aw this sounds so sad. maybe you write each week a letter to them and live with them under the new circumstances. ❤ Walk some more years along and become a child yourself and sooner or later theyll know what they got on you. 🙏

[@NettaMonique]

Always on point with a timely message. Love you, ty Teal🫶🏾

[@SC-vb2ui]

From happy marriage it’s delightful to spend time with ♥️ relationship,get busy with you 💝 travel,new friends lots & lots opportunities. As single parents is harder & still freedom is TRUE ♥️ so easy to give it.⛲️🙏Teal

[@stable-shadow]

Apt topic, and relevant for human success and a tool box subject that will translate into other avenues, have a great weklend, love your stained glass shirt....very pretty it compliments your energy and positivity......love ya 🕊️

[@revadriana_psychic_medium]

Thanks Teal. Great advice as usual 💕😇❤️

[@peteduch2151]

Teal talked before about emotions here in the uk there seem to be woman who just want the happy easygoing emotion while others want a man who is a leader who can control his emotions therefore in any type of relationship you have to know where you stand i seen to many rushing in thinking all is well and got their pride hurt be smart be safe

[@ChowPowPow]

I’m not past my prime, but may be depressed… my 7yo only daughter passed away due to a brain cancer 2 weeks ago.. but I see the relevance

[@StoryShiftYT]

💜🙏🏻💜bless you. I hope you’re receiving support for grief processing -?

[@Moonbunny55]

Omg if you’re depressed you certainly have good reason. Having your child die is not the same as empty nest issues albeit there’s a deeply felt void. Losing a child to illness is absolutely devastating. I hope you are surrounded by loving and supporting people. 💖

[@fashionistajana]

So sorry for your loss. Hang in there, and seek out support. Sending prayers and healing vibes.

[@PerceptionVsReality333]

My condolences... 🙏

[@CorbinB-Rax]

This is one of those " I made this comment for attention" type comments. At the expense of someone who supposedly just died, 2 weeks ago. This is about you, and not them.

[@suzielukosius-xn1sl]

I became an empty nester, far too early. My son is 14 and my daughter is 10. They have been living with their father now for 1 year, (45 miles away). It was 100% their choice to go 😢. We only see each other for a few hours a fortnight because I don't earn a lot of money. This situation 'kills' me every single day 😢

[@Mari-zr1vl]

this is so ironic, because my parents (even grandparents but that was much sneakier and covert) never treated me like I was welcome home, and now that I'm 26 and stuck with bio parents (most likely permanently), they seem to angrily grieve the fact that I act like they are not "welcomed" in my spaces (besides being passive and overly aggressive in all their majesty). Overall, I feel like an empty nester towards my life projects, still being haunted by the fact that my first two majors in college were totally against my best expectations and had to let go without much choice..

[@wonderfulwingmakrsrecollection]

Thank you so much for your content and sharing your knowledge.

[@eleanor4759]

Totally unrelated to empty nesters..but I believe I feel called to certain places as a function of retrieving Wholeness (buzz word in spirituality, worthy pursuit). Namely, for me, England, Iceland, Latin America, for cordiality, naturalism and expression, respectively. These 3 parts have very much been exiled due to my past.

[@ewilson9435]

Wow thank you. That explains why I thought I might die. This tired Ness. Yes rest. I am already using my skills naturally. I could see that and so it is fine. Was wondering why future seemed hard to see I know want to get there and enjoy the process so I was trying to enjoy day by day and this gives me some pointers. Rest ok

[@Anikinomundo]

I'm the kid who left home - at 30 years old. It was one of the hardest things i had to do because my mom was left alone. The fact that i was a parentified child who feels responsible for my mom's well being doesn't help.

[@carly582]

My brother is 33 my mum technically lives with him. She cries and says she'll be homeless if he wants to get his own place. Preventing him from moving forward in life.

[@jayc326]

Right on time ❤

[@bridgetmenham6686]

Yes I needed this My sin is with girl friend but might be splitting up and I said if he comes back he will need to pay rent Sad about ges girl friend gone cold with me saying he's over between them and he hasn't said that its over Its got me so anxious xx

[@xPumpkinWitchx]

I watched this out of curiousity, but realised I feel this over my ex boyfriend leaving me.

[@SammyVideoPlex]

Love you Teal thank you for this video❤

[@Kamaya-gn8pf]

I don't want to be around anyone else besides my kids.( One has moved out, two in high school)

[@debbythivener]

This is my problem. I'm lost. I was sitting on my couch and had all this anxiety to get up and do something..but what? We get so caught up in our kids that we don't know anything about who we are, what we enjoy. You become a stranger to yourself.. I believe this is why people divorce after kids leave. You simply don't know yourself ,let alone the person standing there looking at you. You truly need to find yourself.

[@HannahElliott-js1is]

Hi Teal, this is wildly off topic, but I would love to have guidance on how to explore the following effect. I am a 26 year old and I struggle greatly to remember the names of, well, anything! Such as people, locations, businesses, movies, objects, etc. I can however picture whatever it is and describe it in great detail. This particular type of memory loss is similar to a stroke, TBI, or demented patient that cannot name things. It can be quite extreme sometimes, though I do not fall into any of the above categories listed. I highly suspect this is a trauma response, but to what exactly?

[@RebeccaRussell-cc3pf]

I have been struggling with this, and needing to make sense of it all. Not understanding why i have lost a lot of my motivation. Still finding the motivation 2 steps fwd 1 back. Thx

[@mourningdove6]

😢 I'm so sorry this happened to you

[@lisakaufmann498]

I play nasty scotch witch postcard games. It feels fantastic.

[@bridgetmenham6686]

I'm a single mum and I did vocus on other stuff but I don't see hes Dad and feel used up by hes Dad ..I'm mothering all my friends They laugh about it but understand it Just having one son is so sad when they go ..😥

[@namasteayla]

I need a video for leaving the houseeee and not havig gone to college

[@Kamaya-gn8pf]

The one thing im scared to do is reach out for support because my experience of reaching for support if disappointing and hurtful

[@Vic-Skies]

I never realised how much you remind me of Jennifer Connelly.

[@Britneyy-d3v]

What does higher self mean

[@velerina2017]

I am an empty nester when it comes to friends

[@christinevandenberg8]

Its soooo hard❤

[@jeanettepinto2005]

No what sucks for me about learning the process of overcoming empty nest is that my nest not empty I have a 7 year old

[@pierrot8358]

Hey Teal! I'm an empty nester (43 with no kids) , you said "devoting", sure, having kids looks like a dévotement.From the other side with empathy, it is ice to understand both sides

[@joemachine4714]

You had to have had kids in the nest to become an empty nester 😉

[@pierrot8358]

@@joemachine4714 nice one Joe! 😂

[@tinalove7860]

Left family home years ago when I was 19. Since then I had limited contact with my parents the just like to be left alone. They also never ever visit my 2 other sisters who live nearby they both single mothers as well as me and my parents neither my mother or father help with the kids. I haven't spoke with my parents for 2 years and they are oke with that and when I tried to contact them they are annoyed

[@pamelalordi6855]

I wonder if the same could be said about retirement’ and same tips apply?

[@flexjay87]

Women need to understand that Men / husbands are Not surrogate children, so do not expect them to be . Men need to understand, that no matter how old the children are, they will always come first in many cases, even after they move out.

[@jacobtorres4352]

Are you an empty nester ?

[@useuseuse9939]

THAT'S WHAT IS SEEMS LIKE

[@stevew3421]

Thank you for this video Teal. ❤️ Funny because I am going this morning to get face masks he could easily purchase himself 😂

[@Lupina-mp5ck]

❤

[@BrunoBaumgartnerB]

Yes, it is exactly how it feels like.. first, it feels very bad.. I can become homeless for that

[@NikolaSekuloski]

Well maybe it can be a cause that makes them unindependent coming from daily mental noise where they wouldn't take action because staying in your comfort zone feels "good" and addicting to the point where no further action will be taken. That why some authors and organizations write books on how to live daily independent fulfilling life where you straight up thoughts with finding your passion and purpose in life and when you can call yourself dignified purposefull adult you can say you enjoy the comfort of your house or car or family, so it feels like your mental focus is entirely directed on everyday tasks and you finish them with precision and cleanliness. We don't have to make things impossible because it's a matter of living clean organized life with selfrespect and vision. No vision, no future.

[@pickingflowers]

And also an empty head. When your country didn't supply knowledge and life only pays the smart. But saying so i feel stupid already because i think nobody understands me. I don't nag i just miss being bright. ❤

[@nancyinthegarden3160]

it’s a vast open space where the children took with them. The children were in the middle of a couple and the large gaping no hole is quite obvious. It’s Soooo quiet. It’s not normal. I think it’s more important to grieve the children’s past life as a parent. It’s not ok to get up and act like losing your child is a joyful event. It’s realistic to feel the deafening quiet and try to get used to it being the new norm. We did put our time into them but we also made us a priority. Being a mom of a son is not something fair bc I’ve heard such things that are different from raising girls. Girls keep their Mom close but sons push Moms away from the societal expectations for young men. I lost very close sons partly bc society has shamed them on their love for their Mom. It’s sad bc it’s so swift it really does knock you off your axis. We’re past the shock and awe and we’ve moving on. We did our best but it’s never enough

[@joleengay7946]

❤🙏

[@banthatracks_gaffisticks]

2nd

[@DaintyMercury]

I want to be a mommy so badly 🥹

[@frances.ca.1191]

where this occurs, how old and grownup, independent are the 'leaving Children', what Context does the Parents, Spouses or divorced, o widowed Adults live in, are there Grandchildren to take Care of, and to appreciate, in Sight or, 'Sterility' or 'Lifelessness' is to be expected, and is there Wealth or Indigence, and Sanity, Health or Pathologies? Questions are needed. Shlom to ever1.

[@useuseuse9939]

YOU APART OF A FIX SYSTEM

[@ConspiracySmurf]

Do all the stuff you never had the time, money and energy to do! Watch some youtube and take a nap if nothing else. :)

[@Moonbunny55]

Careful with those cate taking skills and dating

[@Anikrahmany2j]

First

[@gotonethatcansee]

00:20 whats up with the warning, teal. not cool.

[@CWebb-td8ve]

all humans are designed to live in a small family group like a tribe, forever. if anyone leaves the safety of the tribe they will probably die and our dna today still knows this and reacts accordingly. as an empty nester, your job is to continue to focus on your children and extended family. your job doesn't change whatever society would like you to believe. any deviation from this is either a coping strategy or mega denial.

[@useuseuse9939]

LISTEN GOOD LUCK WITH THIS IF YOUR SYSTEM CAUSES DEATH I'M NOT SAY ANYTHING 🤔

[@MiddlePath33]

Am I the only one who thinks this is actually man? 🤔

[@useuseuse9939]

DO THIS YOUR WAY LIVE FOR THE DEVIL

[@Britneyy-d3v]

I find this video to be offensive

[@ptcosmos]

11:18 I hate you Teal, I'm gonna comment on your videos for years until you see me

[@AnnaGrace603]

She has millions of followers its not very relalistic