Why I no longer support the trans community - AKA I'm a TERF now

[@aidanm.5461]

"We need to protect our women." Agreed, but we never have in this society, so we do we expect it will start now? Men's egos will always take a priority to women's safety. As a woman, it makes me so angry and so sad and frankly exhausted. I'm just exhausted. 😞

[@dante6985]

Don't give up. There is widespread dissent, on the left AND the right, on this issue. If their arguments were strong, and they were only fighting idk Republicans, you could expect TRAS to get what they want. They're fighting a two-front battle with weak rhetoric. There's a reason "What is a Woman?" and "I identify as an attack helicopter" have had a TON of staying power. There isn't a quick and easy response to those criticisms.

[@baconsarny-geddon8298]

"Mens egos will always take priority over women's safety..." Right, that's why raape and woman-beating are the most universally socially-unacceptable crimes a man can be accused of. Why ALL the 100 most dangerous, high fatality occupations are at least 95% male, and virtually all are over 99% male. Why men make up over 70% of the homeless,, yet homeless women get more services, and more funding. Because women's safety NEVER gets gets prioritised ahead of men... Trans-identifying men/"""trans women""" are the ONLY men who consistently get prioritised above women (which is obviously ridiculous, and needs to stop). But so-called "trans women" only make up around 0.5% of men. The NORM, is the 99.5% of men who DON'T larp as women, and for them, basically EVERY social institution, from courts, to universities, to corporations to police, to the media, will almost always prioritise a woman ahead of them, ESPECIALLY if there's any hint of the woman's physical safety being on the line, somehow. Men are the significant majority of victims of both assault, and murder. Middle aged men,and male teens are the two demographics at highest risk of sewer side (both significantly higher rates than the super-duper urgent "trans sewer side epidemic"). I'm not trying to depict men as "victims", or "oppressed". Both sexes have their advantages and disadvantages. I don't believe that ANY demographic in the modern, western world is "oppressed"... But the idea that WOMENS physical safety is generally neglected, to favour men, is absurd. The "trans" insanity is so shocking and egregious BECAUSE it violates the near-universal norm, of prioritising women.. ...and the only reason the that nonsense happens, is BECAUSE those men/""trans women""" have scammed the system into considering them as """women""'"; if they were OPEN about being men, they'd go back to being essentially NEVER prioritised ahead of women, because that's the overwhelming norm. Not saying there aren't REASONS why women's safety is generally protected far more than men's... But it's reality-denial, on par with claiming some men ARE "women", to not acknowledge that society virtually ALWAYS prioritises women's safety, above any male concern (outside the bizarre, norm-defyinh "trans" insanity, that's less than 1% of the population)

[@tarak9412]

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you ! More men like you need to speak up, because, as usual, women who speak up are either ignored, or called names, banned from speaking, doxxed, denied opportunities, forced to leave, threatened or even assaulted. We are often told that we need to say something, yet we have been. It is the responsibility of men to straighten out the men identifying as women…it is a male issue. It starts with men like you speaking up. So Thank you!

[@alvinsmith3894]

I'm a lesbian and I almost transitioned because of this shite. I feel you that this is on women but I think it's more similar to a cult with a male or group of males who are brainwashing women into bullcrap. I almost transitioned because of how I experienced womanhood. I felt like I was absolutely lesser in everything and maybe I would be more accepted if I was seen as a male. I legitimately thought that it was the solution to a problem that didn't need fixing. I knew I was ok with being a lesbian but society made me feel less so I almost adapted, till I saw what it was doing to the women. The hormone therapy, the operations it's absolutely horrendous and I'm glad I watched vids of the operations of it on yt before deciding to identify as a trans. Best morbid decision I made in my life tbh. Those videos are VERY graphic. There is also the fact that this narrative plays on women's natural tendency to be empathetic. The whole BE KIND shit gets on my nerves too. Thank you for being mad for us and with us. I truly appreciate that.

[@tosheatower]

Thanks for your honesty, I could see how you felt that way, and I agree that society has through out history always put femmininty as lesser to masculinity and that, that could effect people negatively. I guess what really needs to be fixed in our society then is our view of the power of women and femininity and not telling women to become men.

[@melezes9012]

you realize looking at videos of *any* surgery is kinda disturbing, and just because transitioning wasn't right for you, doesn't mean that its wrong for other people, if you dont like to, say, exercise or something it doesnt mean you have to prevent others from doing so

[@alvinsmith3894]

@@melezes9012 You tolerating this situation is more disturbing. Please watch the trans train series from sweden and see what it's doing to bodies. Even the assumed, harmless, puberty blockers are distorting childrens' spines. SPINES. But sure, go off with your virtue signalling. Also what is wrong with doing research before doing a permanent decision in your life? Almost like you want people to be uninformed before doing it. Very suspicious.

[@melezes9012]

@@tosheatower that argument is dumb and you know it. if that was the reason people transitioned to be men, then why are people transitioning to women?

[@melezes9012]

​@@alvinsmith3894 there is absolutely nothing wrong with doing research, in fact, i advise it, i have done a hell of a lot of research on this topic. also im not "virtue signaling" because either you dont know what that means, or think im only saying this to get clout or to show how woke i am or whatever. for the most part im not getting all angry and spamming, im saying reasonable and measured things. and i will check that series out, if you could link it maybe?

[@howigotover798]

It is insane that a sane person like you has to get all upset and state the obvious.

[@noturfonmyterf9732]

The mysogyny and homophobia of this movement can be explained when you realise a lot of the drivers are straight men who really believe in sexist stereotypes and benefit from it. There is also Marthine Rothblatt who wrote the apartheid of sex, hes a super rich transhumanist who identified as a transwomen and has a black wife. His ideas on biological race (think black trans lives matter, CRT) is similar. Ultimately deconstructing humanity ready for new AI were gonna see, commodifying identity. It's really quite dark.

[@theoriginalpsychocharlie]

Absolutely brilliant!!!! Thank you for speaking out!!!!!!!

[@paule5778]

Agree. I was born a woman and don't get a kick out of it like many trans women do.i have a ROGD transman, my own daughter, a narcissistic bully who treats me like a female servant with all the misogyny she can muster. She sends a very negative macho message about men looking down on women, meanwhile calling herself a feminist. A hypocritical psychopathic creature. The damage she's capable of is frightening and that's me telling you, like I've been OK showing feelings. So beware, please, men are about to get affected as well.

[@kazapeach9487]

Sorry to hear what you are going through with your daughter :0( I have been wondering about the girls who go on testosterone and their behaviour (seen at various protests etc), do you think the testosterone she is taking is making her more aggressive and emotionally unstable? It can't help them in this respect I'm sure.

[@paule5778]

@@kazapeach9487 Hi Kaza. Interesting that you ask because she hasn't started testosterone yet. But it makes me think that identifying as a man could well make her more aggressive, at least behave as such, and it's a vicious cycle from there, isn't it? They say that social transitioning is your one way ticket to medical transitioning, it suggests that social factors very much shape who we are and how we behave and see ourselves. So this immutable gender is BS. It looks like it gets stronger with practice. Practice makes perfect is is no harmless motto, and I see all these ROGD young women at the local school dutifully practising and it breaks my heart. I learnt all this at uni, how could I ever forget that nature could be nurtured? Activists talk of innate gender so we forget that gender can be put into young vulnerable people 's minds well beyond birth.

[@kazapeach9487]

@@paule5778 it is heartbreaking and harrowing as a parent, you're right! I know a mum who's daughter is ROGD too and she has spoken to me at length about it. Are you in any of the parent groups to get support? I know of Our Duty and genspect.

[@paule5778]

@@kazapeach9487 thank you, I have impending subscriptions precisely to Our Duty and GenSpect. Are you a member of these? Would you like to talk? I talked to her knowing it was to be challenging. She dismissed me as having a different opinion. I cried and she kept on shoveling abuse at me, bringing back every fault I had over past arguments. I even apologised yet she didn't acknowledge it. She claimed its my duty as a mother to keep a roof over her head and I said not at 18!! The imbalance in family roles is irretrievably damaged its heartbreaking. My little girl whom I saved in extremis from a certain death when she was an embryo and her dad wantedto let her perish......

[@nickname2935]

@@kazapeach9487 As a transman, I am very convinced, the opposite is true. Testosterone is known for rage, when it is highly overdosed. What is less common knowledge is, that it is slightly euphorizing and relieving anxiety in moderate dosage. I used to be highly aggressive before starting testosterone, because I didn't do well at all with my hormone cycle. Gender dysphoria is very painful and pain often lashes out as aggression. Also estrogen makes women more succeptible to negative affect and more moody. The problem is that transition should be a last resort. Not the go-to when puberty sucks. I think a lot of the aggression also comes from indoctrinating people into victim mentality. I am very grateful, that my conservative parents set me back on track, when I was in that raging phase. They said "We love you and we support you, but this is your thing and it is your responsibility to make it work for all of us." Yet I was 28 at that time. Not a kid.

[@hydrostatic3000]

You have not offended me at all and I'm on the hard left. The main stream western left has been completely co-opted and captured by neoliberal identity politics, and this includes gender ideology. There still exists many, many socialists and communists like myself that reject this nonsense as anti-reality. We are just a quiet majority that gets silenced and threatened at every turn when we speak out. Please do not let this current moment turn you away from what left political or economic ideas have to offer.

[@pythonjava6228]

I agree with you. I honestly support trans rights but I feel like trans activism has pushed me too far. There's a lot of gaslighting and emotional manipulation. I am so sick of women being told to move aside and police our language for the sake of making a few people feel validated. What about the comfort of women? Trans rights are Human Rights but so are the rights of women. I'm sick of hearing that women's boundaries and our limits don't matter. There's a lot of trans women (not all of them obviously) who very openly fetishize womanhood. And I'm just supposed to go along with that? No thank you

[@paule5778]

You put my feelings into words. My own trans son is described perfectly here, with the manipulation, gaslighting, narcissism, demands, and the humiliation he's put me through during years because I'm his mum, a woman, all of it in the guise of a feminist. Argh. He turned from a decent person to a callous psycho within two years.

[@paulhalfpenny1139]

Very much mirrors my own experience. As a liberal I'm really comfortable with the values of trans rights, but the practice of the activism is nothing short of totalitarian. They've created a zero sum game where none needed to exist, insisting that for them to have "full" rights, women and same sex attracted people are going to have to surrender theirs.

[@lukasronnqvist4839]

Yes understand, it is so darned inconvenient to have to use words that are not offensive, or to call someone by their prefered pronouns. I mean since you meet so many trans people all the time and talk about trans people all day long , I mean you can´t swing a cat by the tail without knocking down a few transpeople, right? This must really be a daily bother and task for you, have a huge impact on your day to day life. I feel so very very sorry for you...

[@paulhalfpenny1139]

@@lukasronnqvist4839 I dunno, are you being disingenuous or stupid? You may have noticed that a very great many organisations now include pronouns on all communication. I started this process with "of course I'm going to be polite and us people's preferred pronouns" to "the use of pronouns is now being leveraged into acceptance of pronouns means acceptance that people are the sex they identify as". I don't accept that biological males can play in women's sports. Gender does not trump biology. Just stop.

[@ladykavia]

Your pride does not equate other’s wellbeing.

[@shareathought769]

I wish trans people would say "I feel masculine or feminine" rather than feel like a woman or feel like a man.

[@connor5669]

I feel like a masculine trans woman. I know plenty of feminine trans boys

[@zetharerey3761]

I think the proper description would be along the lines of “I want to be perceived as a woman or man” which is what most if not all actual trans people would say. They want to see themselves as the opposite sex and they want the people around them to perceive them as so.

[@joyeetaghosh2209]

It would interesting to know more about causes the trans identifying people what actually cause that there are not comfortable with there gender ​@@zetharerey3761

[@bpcj4891]

I love your passion around the offensive phrase, "I feel like a woman." Thank you for sharing and exposing the misogyny in that mentality!

[@ntrlm]

I was so relieved to see mostly positive comments here instead of the pile of hate that usually comes to anyone who questions

[@Amae580]

Really interesting to hear this stance from a gay man and really helpful. I am a woman who had a gay male friend for 23 years who has recently ended our friendship (after first un-inviting me to his wedding) be all because I believe in the protection of women only spaces etc etc...he just doesn't understand. It's all about the "T" for him because they are "so oppressed." When you said "women were the ones who were there for us and now they are being stabbed in the back" I really felt that. Thank you, thank you, thank you for standing up for women and recognising the that the consequences of trans ideology on women are real.

[@tosheatower]

Sorry to hear about your friend. I have lost some friends over this topic too - surprisingly, also mostly gay men. I think most gay men feel they have to support the T because someone, somewhere at some point decided to add the T to LGB and now we are supposed to feel they are part of our "community" which if you really think about it, doesn't make sense at all.

[@staceykendallaitken526]

Until the law is changed to ensure no woman will have to perjure herself in court, by being forced to call the man that attacked her she, again. I will call no man she, don't care if he is the prettiest man. He will remain he.

[@melezes9012]

What if someone told you that "I'll only call black people the n-word 'cus one black person raped a white person" that would be equally fallacious

[@staceykendallaitken526]

@@melezes9012 you'll have to explain why that is the same, I really can't see any parallel. To call a man a man, as he is of the male sex, is factual.

[@melezes9012]

​@@staceykendallaitken526 being of the male sex does not define "being a man" there is a difference between gender and sex.

[@melezes9012]

@@staceykendallaitken526 and i don't mean they are parallel, just analogous

[@staceykendallaitken526]

@@melezes9012 in the UK the victims of rape will be and have been directed to call the male that used their male appendage to commit the act of rape (a male crime) a woman and she. I will place the needs of women before the wants of men. If you want me to call men women, you best ensure the legal system doesn't force women call men who commit act of male violence against them, she. Since you are here being pedantic instead of showing any understanding to victims of crime forced to call the man they see before them "she" the man that attacked them "she" i doubt I'll be calling male perpetrators of crimes against women she. I am happy to accept sex and gender are not the same. I'm not misunderstanding, I'm refusing to concede an inch of women rights. Stop expecting us too.

[@aidanm.5461]

Thank you for this. It makes so much sense. I recently joined a social group of people who think that using the word "man" or "women" is like a dirty word. Which is ridiculous. I'm so sick of it.

[@stephenbufkin5039]

Praise the Lord, so glad to see more people peaking

[@ship8800]

You are so brave for posting this! I cannot commend you enough. On top of being based in reality and logical and empathetic towards women and the LGB community, this video made me laugh a couple times too. Subscribed :)

[@lukasronnqvist4839]

Yes he is so brave so brave so brave, he really gave it to the trans community, and I mean they have been leading their peaceful quiet priviledged lives long enough! Time they learned that life isn´t all rainbows and hormones. Yeah these people really have been having it way too easy for way too long. Thank god such a brave upstanding man comes along and gives these transpeople a kick in the pants, they sure do need it!

[@lukasronnqvist4839]

@@peaceispossible80 Yes, peaceful. Don´t you agree? What can be more peaceful than being constantly harrassed, ridiculed, hated on, beaten, raped, denied your basic human rights. Killed. And it isn´t about female spaces, it isn´t about public bathrooms, the same way it wasn´t about water fontains... Nor is it about sports, and it sure as hell isn´t about feminism.

[@client_hacks]

@@lukasronnqvist4839old man

[@lukasronnqvist4839]

​@@client_hacks Your powers of observation do you credit

[@lukasronnqvist4839]

@@client_hacks But... isn´t it kind of going against this whole video to act like an ally to the trans community? Anyway, brave choise 😀

[@danaelopez7259]

Thank you so so so much for this. I appreciate this video so much. Thank you again. I have been so frustrated with being told that I’m a hateful TERF because I’m simply pointing out that there is a difference between women and trans women. It is exhausting. Just yet *another* thing women have to deal with. Thank you again.

[@Susanmugen]

A woman is an adult female human. The female word refers to brain sex/gender. Therefore all women are women whether trans or cis

[@dante6985]

It's tough. I want gender non-conforming people to be happy and safe. But I want women to be happy and safe too. And what rights advocates want, full female status, is untenable anywhere in the near future, and their arguments and rhetoric aren't strong enough to change minds. i.e. violent / sex offenders who're male should not be in women's prisons. Not ever. Even if everyone in the world thinks that's okay, I don't think that ever will be. When you really look at what's going on here, it falls apart. E.g. We have TRAs Veronica Ivy, Abigail Thorn, India Willoughby, among others, all saying "I'm 100% biologically female. That's a fact" And that feels like gaslighting. (I mean you can change some parts of your biology, but '100% biologically female? With prostates?). Veronica says sports are a human right, and even if she does have an advantage, you have to "prove" that advantage to deny her that right. That's disingenuous. No one is stripping her 'right' (which is debatable btw) to play sports, they're arguing about the category she can compete in. People like Buck Angel make sense when they're speaking about the issue ("I don't feel like a man, I don't know what that means. It's more I want to be seen as a man, but I know I'm not."). So honestly, I think it would behoove trans people to let common sense advocates like Buck to lead the charge.

[@VEGITAS4]

The LGBT community is just the LBG community with a tapeworm

[@grilledcheez08]

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sticking up for women.

[@sarafluke-wo2uy]

Jesus loves you❤‍🩹💌❤💘🧡💝💛💚💖💙💜💕💟🖤🤍❤‍🔥

[@xyugi0007]

What I never understood about the trans movement is that it was given a platform out of trying to criticize gender roles as being non-binary. I seriously do not understand how the whole "gender-fluid" speech supports the trans women are women thing. So on one hand you want me to accept that gender is a social construct that has no biological basis, and then on the other you want me to treat you and completely identify you as this strict non-mutable gender identity. WHICH IS IT?

[@tosheatower]

I agree, more than anything I am just competely over how everything is arbitrary, everything lacks rational and reason. I just can't go along with it anymore.

[@stephenhogg6154]

It is a transparent abuse of relativism: ‘YOUR perspective is subjective, prejudiced, untenable; MY perspective is TRUTH, and therefore unquestionable’. We see this kind of thinking in all authoritarian dictators.

[@melezes9012]

tbh in my opinion, being genderfluid is just an enby wanting to wear different outfits and pronouns on different days, but gender itself is a in a way a thing you are born with comes from hormone washes in the womb during a pregnancy, and sometimes a glitch occurs resulting in an incongruence between body and mind. so a half altered hormone wash could result in a nonbinary person, and that person could also want to wear what they want on a given day, sometimes wants to wear a suit sometimes a dress

[@melezes9012]

@@stephenhogg6154 perspective can be truth. if i for some reason decide i'm a fan of the New England Patriots, for example, and you say i'm not, you would be wrong.

[@stephenhogg6154]

@@melezes9012 Did I say it couldn’t?

[@helenmandley6099]

Thank you, you are correct, it is incredibly masochistic to think dressing as a caricature of women, a hyper version. Yes it’s gender fishing like black fishing. I say this. But for some reason women are up for the taking. Ha ha.. a black paraplegic woman.. you’re so spot on. To touch on every point I argue. To think I’m called anti feminist, homophobic, even when so many gay and lesbian are raising legitimate concerns such as shaming lesbians for not having sex with a biological man. Absolutely, it is middle class straight people that are anti gay. Nothing wrong with being a girl exhibiting butch traits or boys exhibiting femme traits, so what, I love all that in society. What I don’t love is creepy straight men fetishising women with the aggressive male gaze, so much so they have to play victim to force us to lie to them and say they are women. Like you say, there are creepy men out there who will use this to get into women & children’s safe spaces. And your right, women need to wake up as we (not me) are allowing these areas of safety to be eroded. And I’m on the left, well was but I can’t with this anymore, I am in the U.K. Thank you

[@nananaanananana1972]

they try shit on women, they would never try on black people....

[@andreazavras]

I agree with you on everything. I do not understand how other women do not see that they are being manipulated by narcissistic men.

[@AetherealGirl]

Excellent video. You conveyed all my thoughts and feelings on the matter way better than I've ever been able to.

[@tosheatower]

Thank you =)

[@UntilThenn]

I have followed a very similar path as you have. Good on you for having a spine

[@EpiicxFuziion]

You are an amazing man. Thankyou.

[@kellyl.997]

Oh my God! I've been saying this forever. All of a sudden "everyone"is/was trans. I thought it became fashionable. What has brought me to that conclusion is reading about the amount of trans who declared they want to go back. If one is truly trans I do not think that one year the person wants to be trans and the next year the person wants to go back. That says "fashion" to me.

[@melezes9012]

i know a lot of trans people who aren't trying to go back detransitioning is quite rare, and mostly occurs because they were forced back in the closet by family, just like i was as a bisexual

[@kellyl.997]

@@melezes9012 There are several KZbin channels about people who are transitioning back. It may be statistically less, but it seems like I am seeing more of it.

[@melezes9012]

@@kellyl.997 yes i have seen them but the media sensationalizes it so hard its problematic. yes it happens, but it's rare

[@melezes9012]

@@kellyl.997 i found some stats: in a british study about 0.47% experienced transition-related regret.(including surgeries that went wrong or being sad about losing family, or detransitioning) Of these, even fewer went on to actually detransition.

[@kellyl.997]

@@melezes9012 Interesting. I'm all about statistics, so thank you.

[@MillyMiller84]

This is the best rant I have heard in a long time. Well done mate. Thank you.

[@_madame_sene]

My thoughts exactly! Thank you for speaking up for women. These are frightening times we are living in. I’m scared, infuriated and so tired of being side eyed for expressing my concerns. So many misogynists chime in to defend men performing woman face (sexist stereotypes) while continuing to throw women under the bus. They claim to be allies of the lgbt but it’s just an excuse to openly hate us. I agree with everything you’ve expressed. Again, thank you 🙏

[@VEGITAS4]

It is true that Trans people are actually doing the equivalent of black face.

[@N3VLYNNN]

Thank you for sharing this, and for standing up for women. We need more people-both men and women-speaking up about this. I have started speaking up again and the more diverse voices we have from various communities-the stronger and less stigmatized it will become to be critical of gender and trans ideology. ❤️

[@lukasronnqvist4839]

Yeah, marginalized people should just go beep themselves. I mean why do they even exist?? Can´t they just go d#e in a ditch so all cishet white people can live their lives in peace?? I mean da fuc´??

[@anthonymcandrew529]

Excellent! I totally agree with what you said, especially about the narcissism at the core of 'woke' culture & attitudes. To me, there's something semi-religious about these beliefs & you will drive yourself crazy trying to make sense of the irrationality & inconsistency. Anyway, thanks for posting!

[@lizajean8]

imo it's a cult

[@anthonymcandrew529]

@@lizajean8 Yes, that's another way of putting it!

[@melezes9012]

i mean, the science does not lie, if you look at the stats.

[@melezes9012]

@December Low please stop being a fascist

[@kirklazenby1]

THIS! Is bravery

[@howigotover798]

sad but very true

[@mariamahoney1162]

Well said, I agree with everything you say. So glad more people are speaking out about this craziness 🙂

[@patrickpayne]

Thank you for this post, you state the case quite well and discuss the ideology, without insulting the Trans Community. Even more impressive is that you are male as well.

[@tosheatower]

Thank you Patrick. =)

[@adella7072]

@@tosheatower kzbin.info/www/bejne/qWaVn3uNe9ySaKs

[@eliomiro7855]

i agree. And I don't see why trans people cant find pride in being another category within the gender/sex spectrum. It's such a mess of a subject I literally am no longer interested in talking or even paying attention to it. Im bored of such an avalanche of self righteousness and nonsense. live and let live is my motto....So.. this stuff is hard to understand for us who've never felt the need to divide people into boxes.

[@tosheatower]

Agree, do what you want, but allow me to also see the world as I see it.

[@paule5778]

Why has gender become so narcissistic I wonder?

[@s.emorygatorhive8927]

Thank you so much for sticking up for us women!! You're also correct about the left...this issue started to redpill me too. It's opened my eyes to a lot of issues.

[@cheyennepony]

So refreshing to hear. Thank you.

[@tigerqueen-u8g]

Thank you for speaking your truth. We must learn to love ourselves and not change our bodies for anyone.

[@EpiicxFuziion]

Those women are the new hand maidens.

[@amandalongton9587]

Thank you. Thank you for understanding, appreciating, and seeing us.

[@victoriahall6789]

I do think I have fallen in love with you. I so appreciate your understanding, and also your willingness to be open and public. Please do not stop debating with people about it

[@joedoser594]

Wow, you nailed it! Great to see there's still courage in the world willing to openly challenge this madness. I'm a conservative and I feel genuine sympathy for the gay folks pressured into transitioning (the "trans away the gay" insanity), the women forced to bear the brunt of this nonsense, and the rational transpeople who share the same concerns you passionately expressed (and then are attacked as being transphobes). I hope people realize this isn't an identify politics issues other than sane people versus those who have indeed lost their minds (and are fascist AF about it.). Good luck.

[@edanya]

Sexist stereotypes.

[@ryr1974]

I am a raging liberal and out since 14 gay guy. I a, happy to you that you are awake to what has happened and how teh trans folks in the gay commuinity have been instrumental zed and running counter to everything we have sought to build for our society. You are aslo right be civil engage with people as they present.

[@4LYFER-q9s]

It’s okay! I think you are correct. I honestly can’t with this generation 😭😭😭

[@ooosh1]

thank you for standing up for women x

[@BohoHippie-r9y]

I heard the term "chest feeding" for the first time last month. I just about fell out of my chair, especially having breastfed two children.

[@redvelvetshoes]

8/10 trans women keep their toolbox.

[@marky205]

I really enjoyed listening to this. Thank you for saying what many of us have thought.

[@natalieragnarsson5601]

Great and very nicely paced rant. Thank you for your feminism and all your women's support.

[@kirklazenby1]

The Race Communists cannot allow Race to be considered as subjective, simply because race-centric Marxism (Critical Race Theory) holds race as an indicator of the oppressed... If the white population were "allowed" to identify as black, then the new proletariat could vanish overnight. (If) sex/gender (IS) subjective, and therefore a "Choice" it would follow, that race would also be permitted to fall within the ontology of relativism. If, however, you utilise ontological realism to furnish your epistemology, then you would surly need to consider the fact that there are more biological variations between a male and female of the same population, than there are between two males from different populations.

[@DelphineTheWorstBladeEver]

Another example is if a woman were taken against her will, had her breasts cut off, had bottom surgery, and was force fed testosterone, she wouldn't stop being a woman. She would just be a woman with a now very complicated, and uncomfortable life. So when does someone become a man in all this? Is it when she accepts it? If it can happen inside the mind, isn't that a mental disorder? Why are we treating mental disorders with surgeries and affirmations to their delusions? It should be the last resort to ACCEPTING yourself.

[@vickicaravella4665]

Well said! Thank you.

[@pepechangarden]

Can you do a review of the tvshow I Am Jazz? It’s a real life played out kids transitioning scenario. There’s a lot going on in this show. The family thrives off of the fame and money. Jazz had the surgery and had multiple complications. Jazz seems to have binge eating disorder now and couldn’t attend Harvard. Her brother is an ally activist and he’s dating a trans woman.

[@tosheatower]

Just reading the summary you just gave is giving me a headache. Don't think I have the strength to watch that =p

[@adella7072]

@@tosheatower kzbin.info/www/bejne/qWaVn3uNe9ySaKs

[@michelelevi3904]

Thank you sensible man

[@illjusthavecoffee]

Amor accurate sentence for transwomen to say is “I really really really WANT to be a woman.”

[@tea4two332]

Thank you for speaking out.

[@howardstrauss5337]

I think they call this peaking. Hi bro.

[@sylviarogier1]

Welcome to the team!

[@elarael6045]

Keep speaking truth 💕

[@Renee5322]

Hell yeah! You go!

[@5-Volt]

The irony is that after this empathetic rant I would believe you for saying "I feel like a woman". 😂 These kinds of thoughts are why I've landed on being a trans medicalist. Gender dysphoria is clearly real & those that have it generally empathize with members of their desired sex & aren't overbearing. This Self-ID nonsense is not only hurting women but also delegitimizing genuine trans people. It's crazy how they don't see it.

[@ghju]

From the bottom of my little lesbian heart: Thank you. THANK YOU.

[@lizajean8]

would it be acceptable for me to say 'I feel like i'm fully vaccinated"? if not, all the rest is BS

[@melezes9012]

what about "i feel like i'm a Patriots fan" or "i feel like i'm a Steelers fan"?

[@tosheatower]

What are you going on and on about, you are now fighting with almost everyone who is commenting on this video because you are making completely illogical statements. NO ONE SAYS I feel like a Steelers fan. That's like me saying 'I feel like a vegetarian' or 'I feel like I am 6ft tall' or 'I feel like I enjoy travelling'. No one says that because it's ridiculous. I am a vegetarian, I am 6ft tall, I enjoy traveling etc etc... which is exactly the point of this video. You either are something or you aren't - you can't feel like something you aren't. What you can feel is FEELINGS. I feel happy, I feel great, I feel angry. That's it. You can't feel like a tree, or a dog or a chair OR like the opposite sex.

[@melezes9012]

@@tosheatower exactly, they say "i AM a steelers fan" just like trans women say "i AM a woman." and "feel like dog or tree lol lmao attak helicoptr ha ha" isn't funny anymore, it was a bad joke to begin with and its even less funny now.

[@melezes9012]

@@tosheatower and the reason im arguing so much is: a.) im bored b.) i have a trans cousin who was beaten almost to death for her identity, and was almost raped on multiple occasions, only getting away by sheer luck or someone helping her so yeah. im a bit invested.

[@tosheatower]

You are actually scary delusional and you are going out of your way to be illogical and silly just because of your want to support your cousin. Obviously trans people have to say they feel like the opposite sex, or why would they want to change to the opposite sex. You are being absolutely ridiculous. Also, sorry to be harsh but just because your cousin is trans and has been mistreated for it - does not make her a woman. She can be a trans woman and be the best trans woman on the planet, but she isn't a woman and will never be a woman. And, just because she gets mistreated doesn't give her the right (or you) to support laws and regulations that hurt women, that's not how equal rights work.

[@mexicanwhite1]

It's a cult for the majority.

[@scolexuk]

Welcome to the real world. You will find better friends here!

[@kesharia4051]

Well said.

[@pythonjava6228]

Lol. KZbin keeps deleting my one of my comments.

[@тоска-р1о]

I used to be really accepting of trans women... till I had one as a roommate. Just treated me weird as I was positive about her at first but was as messy as a man, leaving shit all over (socks, trash) and at times not flushing the toilet (lid was lifted up 50% of the time too, umm). Asked about it once and 'she' got all defensive. Again, I thought I was being good, making a community that he would be okay living in, but even with same type of interests, that individual behaved like a creep in my own living. Gave me a new perspective on these a part of these people. Didn't seem like he really even transitioned while at my place. Just a situation that made me tense and annoyed. Probably there's an actual transwoman that would be with my standard and wouldn't make me feel eventually uneasy (I wasn't when I first spoke to him), but not this man. This 'transwoman' just behaved like a creepy, insecure man in my home. No thanks.

[@molliegianna702]

I would love to see you and a slightly twisted female collaborate and discuss what is happening.

[@tosheatower]

True, would be fun. I've sadly already had to debate this topic with some female friends and been shocked that they don't see that supporting this nonesense is hurting them.

[@brainstormind]

As i am ♡ Thanks to you !

[@scruffypuppy]

Glad to see you woke up. If I may suggest something....consider changing the forced language you're still using. Instead of saying "Trans Man", we in the gender critical community use "TIF aka Trans Identified Female. And instead of "Trans Women", we say TIM or Trans Identified Make. It's time to bring our language back to biological reality as well.

[@paule5778]

That makes sense. The "forced" language is another ideology act that force others down on their knees. It's violence.

[@lynnesheridan3096]

Thankyou x

[@metroduck123]

I completely concur!!!! 💚

[@nhvkuy4675]

Commenting for the algorithm

[@laurawild7096]

Thank you 🙏

[@candiceberg5232]

Based!!!!

[@Saar114]

When i was in highschool i never heard of transgender. It was the early 2000s. Way better times to be a teenager i think.

[@treesart6914]

Well done.

[@treesart6914]

Awesome.

[@juliabartnik8942]

Beautiful

[@aaabbc379]

why would it matter if it is a fad? being trans isn’t a problem, who cares if it’s mildly popular

[@Crom-b1n]

You haven't met very many trans women, have you?

[@alehenr6719]

You're handsome

[@tosheatower]

Thank you

[@jonnaking3054]

Do you honestly think Blaire White uses the men's restroom? Do you think that Blaire White is a man in any way that MATTERS? Blaire White's stance is basically SHE should be able to use women's facilities, play on women's sports team, etc.. BUT she is the ONLY one who should be allowed to, because she is the only TRUE trans woman who's not a "big man in a dress". She basically said that in a video, she stated, "I don't think there would be much of a problem with ME playing women's sports as the other women could easily destroy me!" Blaire wants to be the ONLY trans woman who gets to live as a female. I'm trans and have known this since I was old enough to THINK, around 4 years old. I was saying "I'm a GIRL" when I was 4 years old... I'm 40 now and nothing has changed! What makes me mad about people like you is you basically tell someone like ME, who has struggled with this my whole life, to just stop listening to my doctor, and go against the whole medical consensus. Gender Identity EXISTS, we don't know WHY it exists, or what it is exactly but we KNOW it exists, when it's out of alignment with your body, you can FEEL it! I'm not even gonna finish this rubbish video, I've stopped at the point where you say, "I FEEL like a woman" is offensive" I'm guessing you're gonna say it's SEXIST, etc.... But when I was a kid I was just as boyish as I was girly... I went through a stage where I loved boyish boyish things like catching bugs, climbing trees, etc... BUT I still knew I SHOULD have been born FEMALE. I'd SOOO LOVE for you to call the trans Atlantic call-in show, on KZbin every Saturday afternoon hosted by 2 wonderful trans women and let them

[@tosheatower]

Of course you won't finish, because you don't want to hear any one else's opinions and you sure as heck don't respect anyone's opinion that doesn't go along with your stance. You are not a woman, you are a trans-woman. Which is fine, be the best trans-woman you can be, but your wishes and desires to not supercede those of women. Also, seeing as how you openly admit you didn't finish my video, I highly doubt you finish any of Blaire's which is shown by your completely false statements about what she says and thinks.

[@kirarimomobami5215]

Stfu you're a man live with it

[@melezes9012]

@@tosheatower yet you also can't address with Jonna's argument lol not to mention how Blair White is the most "stereotypical caricature of a woman" there is, but she is a woman, despite my disagreements with her and your claim that all trans women are hyperfeminine is not true, but whenever they aren't people like you laugh at them and hurt them and call them men so either way they get hurt

[@alvinsmith3894]

​@@melezes9012 Laughing is violence? Really? Personally I think I'd rather get laughed by conservative homophobes at than get death threats from the homophobic "community". Also you can't force people to play nice with each other. I don't want to be friendly with someone who enables rapists. Men in skirts coercing lesbians to have sex with them, to be specific. But I suppose this is a hot take now in 2021.

[@tosheatower]

@@melezes9012 You are right Blaire White is also a caricature of women, and I would never refer to her as a woman. She is a trans woman. What I said I can respect with her is that she openly admits she is trans and does not claim to be a woman. Please pay attention to what is being said and maybe you wouldn't be so offended. I also said nothing about trans women having to be passing or not. Again, you didn't pay attention. What I said is this ridiculous hyper femininity. You could be passing and still choose to dress non-slutty, and exaggerate your femininity-which is how most women are.

[@mairoberts1247]

Im a lesbian and my trans girlfriend didn't pressure me into anything, to be honest she's really shy and stuff, she literally was afraid to talk when the professor asked if anyone had questions, i had to ask for her, thats how we met. she's shy quiet and so goddamn cute i can't even, so no, you are wrong.

[@melezes9012]

you sound like a wholesome couple congrats

[@geekgurl2000]

You're not a lesbian, and that's ok. Actual lesbians are females exclusively into other females.

[@melezes9012]

@@geekgurl2000 well thats not true, often you cant tell if a woman is trans, she just looks like a woman, and, as far as i know, lesbians don't have some magic pussy locator sense, so lesbians do find trans women attractive, even other terfs, if shown a picture attractive trans woman would be equally attracted to an identical person who was trans. i know this stuff cus i have quite a few lesbian friends(even though 2 of them are terfs) and from what they have said, those are my conclutions.

[@geekgurl2000]

@@melezes9012 LOL. It doesn't matter if a transwo-man 'passes' enough to fool the initial encounter. they are MALE and lesbians are only into FEMALES. it is #RapeCulture and lesbophobia to insist that these women take the dick or be into the dead hole where a dick used to be. These dudes are #LesbiMans and coerce, harass, threaten and abuse lesbians into sexual encounters that violate their core identities.

[@arkmanevr2073]

you are bisexual or pansexual not lesbian and thats very ok

[@jean-frederic-pascalgoddar9801]

I finally found a peer in the black paraplegic Mormon community!

[@Crom-b1n]

Of all the nonsense you spout in this video, I particularly enjoy the bit where you expect to be respected as a man but refuse to respect others' gender identity. Classy.

[@tosheatower]

The problem with you gender ideologues is that you are all not particularly smart, which is probably part of the reason you are so comfortable with lying. I expect to be respected as a man - because I am a man. You expect to be respected as a woman - because you ''feel'' like a woman. It doesn't take a high level of intelligence to understand those are not the same arguments.

[@Crom-b1n]

@@tosheatower No, the problem with you TERFs is you have no idea what you're talking about and you make ridiculous assumptions to fill in the gaps in your knowledge. Exhibit A - I am not a woman, do not feel like one and do not expect to be respected as one.

[@tosheatower]

What assumptions have I made in my video? If you were born male you cannot feel like a female. If you were born female you cannot feel like a male. This is very rudimentary logic. Zero assumptions made.

[@Crom-b1n]

@@tosheatower There's two of them there. Why can't you feel different to the gender identity assigned at birth?

[@tosheatower]

Do I really have to explain simple logic to you? You can't FEEL like something you are not. If you are born male - how would you know what it feels like to be female? What a completely stupid thing to say or think. You are not female, you have never been female and never will be female hence you cannot know what it feels like to be thus. You have to be a thing to know what it feels like to be that thing. Lord, talking to people like you lowers the collective IQ of all of society. When you struggle with understanding fundamental concepts like this, you really will just go along with any moronic idea you are told.

[@Gothic.Boy.]

Transboy here✌❤😘

[@sarahratte5085]

I hope you've changed your stance in the two years since you've posted this weirdness

[@tosheatower]

Why would I? If anything seeing how ridiculous all these "trans'' people have become only reaffirms my stance.

[@sarahratte5085]

@@tosheatower 3 years later and you're putting quotations on the word trans as if people who are transgender literally do not exist. It's crazy how a person can preach that they're on the side of rationality and science and literally ignore people existing right next to them. C'mon man

[@kunt8906]

No longer support? Thats cool thanks for supporting us when u weren't a terf, have a nice day now

[@electronics-girl]

I don't think he ever supported us. It sounds like we weren't really on his radar until his GC friends started taking away our rights, and then he decided to jump on the bandwagon.

[@melezes9012]

oh god stop you posted cringe.

[@tosheatower]

If the truth is cringe then ok.

[@melezes9012]

you dug a hole of cringe and it hurts to look at please put down the shovel

[@tosheatower]

@@melezes9012 I just started digging. Hopefully if we bury all this nonsense deep enough it won't come up again.

[@melezes9012]

@@tosheatower i agree, i hope all your nonsense get buried.

[@neongoblin2171]

You gotta do better than just calling the video cringe. Bring up some points you disagree with and why. Otherwise you're just showing butthurt.

[@terosphere1]

Oh my goodness how can you have lived so many places yet be so narrow-minded 🤮

[@kellyl.997]

I think living in many places gives a person a clearer vision of one's beliefs whether others agree with them or not. I am a woman and he is correct. Being glam doesn't equate to being a woman. I am a woman and how can a biological man ever know what it's like to be a woman when they weren't born a woman? They can identify, but they can not know that. Makes sense to me. It's not narrow minded; it's fact.

[@tosheatower]

It is because I have lived in so many places that I know when I see bullsh*t.

[@melezes9012]

i completely agree, it's deeply sad.

[@adella7072]

@@tosheatower kzbin.info/www/bejne/qWaVn3uNe9ySaKs

[@ladykavia]

Cringe.

[@aaronlewis2150]

I'm a straight white male. Ive know transgender people when I lived in vegas. Ive never had a problem with transgender people until recently. Why are people getting in trouble for not "supporting" trans people when they never did anything to hurt or say anything bad about them. The only thing they did was refuse to wear a rainbow practice jersey and hockey stick in an NHL game or wear trans rights supporting clothing at work. Why am I supposed to respect someone's lifestyle when in their own words are demanding me to while saying they don't respect mine. If I call you sir or ma'am and hold a door open for you or any other number of things that I do to be respectful, don't start getting pissed off at me. Be lucky that I am trying to be respectful in the first place. I feel like being courteous and respectful is a bad thing especially when people are always trying to make it seem like someone calling them sir or ma'am is completely destroying their will to live. I'm tired of being afraid to interact with people anymore. Have PTSD (childhood and military), severe depression, and really bad anxiety. And yet I feel like I don't matter because I'm a straight white male. Since I am not transgender or non binary or anything else I feel like I'm alone because people who have mental health issues such as me aren't as profitable to bring up in the news. Yet transgender people who also suffer from mental health issues are catered to and put on a pedestal and told they are perfectly fine and are better than anyone else. I'm sorry for offending anyone by saying any of this, but I'm also not sorry if you know what I mean. Also, this trans movement is a slippery slope. Now it's easier for controlling men who get off on psychologically abusing women and making women feel so small and inferior to them. Now All they have to do is say I'm a woman and suddenly they are celebrated for not only psychologically abusing women but are are now able to do it on a worldwide stage for all to see. It's sorta sad how the lgb community is now linked to the tq+ community. Alot going on now has nothing to do with the LGB community. Yet they are now involved in everything trans because of the LGBTQ+ acronym. LGB community actually know that they are 2 different genders and know that they are women who like women, men who like men. Shouldn't trans people have their own group to be involved with. I think that it's actually taking the LGB community in a few steps back because the transgender movement basically hijacked the acronym and now everything involving them now involves LGB

[@Simpy553]

You never supported us to begin with you were just in it for yourself.

[@ditjedatje9741]

You lost me at blair. He uses female spaces when he goes into bathrooms. There is no middle ground.

[@ditjedatje9741]

Other than that, good vid.