Toxic Wedding Culture | The Cimorelli Podcast S4 E11

[@ciarabegley11]

cimorelli: positive and uplifting podcast also cimorelli: *first 1 minute* there's a goblin in lisa's throat that pulls a drawbridge and lets out the burp

[@brianagrzybowski4734]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@CimorelliPodcast]

Hahahahah

[@cristi2037]

This is SO real. I have never been the type of girl to wear makeup or do much to my naturally curly hair. My husband fell in love with me and my natural features, so I decided to not wear makeup on our wedding day. I also didn’t straighten and style my hair. I wore it natural and up in a low bun, because I wanted to feel and look like myself. (Which my husband adored!) But during our engagement, I had so many women judge me and say rude things to me about those choices. I received so many rude comments pressuring me to straighten my hair, wear heavy makeup and false lashes, and even get my nails done a certain way. Even women in my own FAMILY were shocked and disgusted at the idea that I wouldn’t wear makeup, get unnatural things done to my hair, and wear extensions......It always upset and confused me because I’ve always been confident in my own skin, and my husband loves me and prefers me the way I naturally look. So to have so many people suddenly have so many overbearing strong opinions about what I looked like on MY wedding day.... I never understood it. Still don’t. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@watermelonqueen1755]

I would actually like to look like myself and not someone else in my wedding photos! Stick to your comfort and for anyone else’s comfort for sure x

[@milolevy]

I love how much Lisa said here she had so much to add on this topic and every thing she said was like preach!!!

[@luizabassotonatto7403]

I love how passionate Lisa is to argue about topics lmao

[@LemonJMG]

I got married July 2019, and I am still upset by the way I was treated by some people during the wedding. I had some people that were absolutely awful. I am happy this was the discussion today, because it really spoke to me. Thank you.

[@ruthp7710]

What happend?

[@CimorelliPodcast]

Aw I’m sorry about that! It can be so rough😩

[@PhillyGirl1124]

I got married December 2017, and feel this way also. Glad I’m not alone.

[@MariyaMubashir]

I can’t believe Christina, Dani and Katherine are married and that Lisa’s engaged! 💜💜😭😭😭

[@EntertainmentFan11]

They're so lucky!

[@MariyaMubashir]

Konoha Miyagi it’s coming. Check Lisa’s Instagram she mentioned kantherine got married

[@carelessmanscarefuldaughter]

Mariya Mubashir katherine also made a whole post about it

[@carelessmanscarefuldaughter]

K why?

[@MariyaMubashir]

K why...

[@divatashi]

the actual topic of toxic wedding culture starts at 18:12, for those wondering

[@jessicabailey4746]

Thank you!! Xx

[@selah7923]

Thanks!💓

[@kjc4779]

Thank u!!

[@jeninaalysonperalta1941]

"You don't owe them an explanation" JUST. THE. MOST. AMAZING. THING. EVER.

[@verajakobs8167]

Lisa’s burp😂 That’s a warm welcome

[@jessicazajac9886]

I read this comment in the very beginning of the video before it happened. Why am I not surprised 😅

[@verajakobs8167]

jessica zajac 😂😂😂 Do you also immediately go to the comments?

[@jadetotherescue]

🙌😂

[@CimorelliPodcast]

smh hahah 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@verajakobs8167]

2:30 Lisa is me when I’m not paying attention in class and the teacher just asked me another question I didn’t hear.

[@CimorelliPodcast]

HAHA

[@verajakobs8167]

Cimorelli Podcast I love that you respond to your comments! Does one of you do that or do you take turns?😄

[@faustynadrozd1098]

This feeling when you want be on a patreon really bad, but you don't have money, live is brutal

[@miaukrainetz690]

yes same!! lol i feel you

[@je.rgl_28]

Yeah

[@hannagindl9445]

yeees🙏🏼😪

[@sarahhamdan5470]

🥺

[@biyytotiwyetiw]

The broke life is hard man

[@brianagrzybowski4734]

I love how Lisa is so honest and blunt about everything. “Excuse *THE FLIP* out of me!” Girl, tell them! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

[@JS-rj4pm]

I LOVE when Lisa starts talking passionately about body image and the camera starts to zoom in on her being pissed LOL

[@lyricaluniverse196]

how was 15 year old Lisa able to explain her thoughts and feelings so well and with such deep insight? im 26 and I can't even figure out the simplest things. I would love to be that articulate and be able to process my emotions and thoughts

[@Michelli131]

Kath is glowing ☺️ she looks so happy! I know she’s usually super happy and loves to smile, but this episode is just... different. And I love it. Thanks for uploading, and happy Friday!

[@lorenzoafable242]

All I could think of in this episode was: When will you realize baby you’re worth it? You don’t have to do anything to earn it. Baby, you’re perfect, you deserve it. When will you see what I seee? And realize you’re worth it!

[@marilourenco6210]

YEEESSS

[@saramarie7617]

"why do engagement and pregnancy make people lose their manners" PEOPLE NEED TO STOP BEING RUDE simply bc it is normalized within a specific context. if you wouldn't say it in another setting, IT SHOULDNT BE SAIDDD

[@CimorelliPodcast]

Amen!!!

[@auroraborealisgreen07]

i'll watch this again after 10 years,when i'll get married!

[@unnatidavda1278]

"I always cry" - Lisa Michelle Cimorelli,2020 so relatable 😂😂😂

[@zahrak9688]

You guys should monetize these videos, they’re worth it, instead of relying just on the patreon

[@saramartins1130]

Yes!

[@auroraborealisgreen07]

noooooooooooooooooooo

[@saraa5050]

I think they probably do, but it may not be able to fund the podcast

[@CimorelliPodcast]

They are monetized! Making a podcast is just expensive so that doesn’t cover it 😳

[@adamorioncactus]

This is my favorite podcast so far! It has such a message of "you are fine and lovely as you are." And it definitely applies in so many circumstances. I love how honest and true this discussion is. I have always wondered about this and situations like this. People are so judgemental and the media has definitely had a negative effect on body image and insecurities since the beginning of time. I love this discussion! I love how y'all (Lisa in perticular) are using y'all's platforms to question the violence, self hate, shade, and toxicity of modern culture!

[@milolevy]

What the heck how is lisa such a good writer at 15 that was insane I want that to be read to me every day

[@CimorelliPodcast]

Right!!!!!

[@cheyennesumner6142]

I love this! I felt the toxicity so much more around money! People would rather you go into debt than have a simple modest wedding!

[@amberburbo5743]

Ladies !! Don’t try and get to an insane body type for your wedding. I’ve known multiple ppl that lost a ton of weight and then now HATE looking at their wedding photos bc it makes them feel some type of way bc they don’t look like that still !!!

[@srividyarao732]

I feel like Lisa is a real life one sarcastic feminist movie characters in real life. I love her😂😂🤣😂😄

[@joanieb6124]

I got married about 5 years ago now, and I can’t tell you the amount of pressure that was put on me, not so much to lose weight, but for the reception and everything else. My husband and I wanted a small reception, not a ton of guests, and just a generally small wedding. We were pressured into inviting like 200 people, we had to get a giant venue, most of the people didn’t even show up for the ceremony, just for the reception afterwards! I was outraged! Not to mention, everyone wanted to be a bridesmaid. I chose my two sisters to be bridesmaids, he chose his two brothers to be groomsmen. But his brothers girlfriend wanted to be maid of honor because she wanted to walk down the isle with him, even though she hated me, and I barely knew her. Then my husbands sisters wanted to be bridesmaids, so we were willing to extend the bridal party to include them, but they ended up going rogue and buying their own bridesmaids dresses without even consulting me. When I was upset about it because they didn’t match my other bridesmaids dresses, and because they hadn’t run them by me, they said that “the dresses you picked weren’t our style.”. Like excuse me! Whose wedding is this anyway? Then they dropped out of the bridal party because I told them I wanted them to get different dresses that matched my theme. They were furious because the dresses weren’t able to be returned. “Well, you should have thought about that before you bought them without my ok! It still makes me mad after almost five years. I can’t stand the way weddings are twisted into something so materialistic, and that the bride and groom are pressured into so many stupid decisions. And that I was made out to be some sort of bridezilla for wanting things my way instead of everyone else’s.

[@paisleypolder9341]

dani would love this topic ahah because she said she doesn't like that much wedding culture

[@naomiomelzi5502]

i loveeed Lisa’s journal. the effort she put into writing that is hilarious and shocking tbh. love y’all 💖❤️❤️

[@seedcim_2500]

I forgot it was Friday and seeing the podcast notification made my day!!

[@steffistecher2401]

Amy demonstrating how beauty shines from the inside out is just the cutest thing ever 🙈😅🤗

[@michaeljones6333]

How is Kath's newly married life going.

[@milolevy]

15:08 😂😂😂😂love lisas baby voice hahahah 44:47 so excited to see Lisa and her daughter in leopard omg 50:22 lisas journal reading lol literally that thing needs to be published maybe I would actually read Idk Lisa was a literal motivational speaker I loved every she said in this hahaha

[@allietolentino3354]

As a person who's also engaged, on the same topic, you guys should talk about the pressure of what kind of wedding you should have, who you should invite etc cause honestly society makes you feel like people have expectations on YOUR wedding and if you dont meet those you feel horrible

[@natalie_ruth5881]

Love this!!! You guys are such amazing role models and I'm so excited for all of your beautiful futures!

[@fitiabois7081]

Lisa kinda looks like Belle and i love this

[@monicaaalucc]

this podcast has helped me grow in so many ways! Love you Cimorelli!!

[@thatotherself6741]

Amy to Christina: You little jerk. Me: Ooohh! 😯😂😂😂

[@Kikketta11ify]

I gotta admit it i was like “whooo go Amy!!” 🤣🤣

[@thatotherself6741]

@@Kikketta11ify Yea, I agree. It was that kind of 'ooohh'. 😂

[@CimorelliPodcast]

Hahahahah

[@Kikketta11ify]

Cimorelli Podcast we love you Christina😂❤️

[@thatotherself6741]

@@CimorelliPodcast I love you guys so much. 😍❤️❤️❤️

[@sarahbrito9629]

I never knew i needed a podcast about weddings until i watched this podcast about weddings. Omg what the flip, that shook me the core wth

[@bethswan]

I am engaged, and really needed to hear this today. Thanks soo much! Its such truth- there is soooo much pressure to look perfect and the most beautiful woman in the world

[@itsJustineELLIS]

Lisa on peer pressure - you have to live with the guilt. That’s so true though!

[@VyNguyen-ss3pc]

Christina reminds me of Graveyard girl when she wears a high bun o.o // I love how Lisa got so worked up about this topic...QUEEN

[@milolevy]

Yayyyyyy exposing Lisa I’ve been praying for this segment again!!!!!!! Wooohooo

[@paohaus6482]

I'm getting married in January and this is so awesome. Thank you girls, growing up with y'all it's just amazing

[@Tottinify]

I really want to be Amy's friend. She inspires everybody with her pure heart!

[@estherkurniawan]

I really like their chemistry as a family, I think it's the reason why most of us stay and follow them :)

[@maryanneharris6010]

As someone who works in the wedding industry, this is 100% ACCURATE!

[@jacquelinebryant2962]

This makes me think of when I went to a bridal fair with my friend and over half the booths were diet scams, makeovers and dental treatments. It was so disgusting they were just preying on girls insecurities and pressuring them.

[@MindyRod29]

When y’all asked “who said that we have to be perfect?” Honestly, I think it’s other women. There’s a toxic comparison culture out there. Women have made weddings a social media show. Who has the better dress? Who has the better venue? And a big one, who’s pictures look best on Instagram? It’s become a show.

[@tjax9344]

Amy and Christina kinda blended into the background and for a second it kinda looked like the background had four arms. I need more sleep.

[@hannah1820]

Laurens hair does blend too in some camera angles 😂

[@CimorelliPodcast]

HAHAHAHA omg

[@unnatidavda1278]

Omg time is FLYING I wasn't expecting an episode per usual but I can't waitt so watch it❤️❤️

[@iloveGod1105]

no one: not even a soul: not Christina, not Kath, not Lauren, not Amy: Lisa: jammin' in the corner bustin a move. You go girl! Keep being you!

[@emchan.1573]

I love the mouldy yoghurt metaphor from Lisa 😂

[@kelseymclean3429]

I watched this on Patreon and I absolutely loved it so I’m going to watch it again 😂💕 this is one of my favourites 💕

[@nora_julia]

I love Lisa and her segments!! Publish those diarys!! ❤️❤️

[@ItsMe-eu9br]

'By the way, you're beautiful at any size' YES LISA SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE AT THE BACK!

[@madisonnicole934]

I love this podcast!!! And I love u guys! This is a great podcast to listen to while on a longggg roadtrip like one I will be on in August! So I can't wait to listen to a bunch of these on my road trip! So tysm

[@00Mali00]

When I got married, not a ceremony and just on paper, I actually worked that day and had to rush to the place we'd sign the papers. I changed my clothes (I think it was a jeans and some blazer) and my hair was all messed up. Because people working there gave me weird looks, I started feeling bad about myself and didn't want pictures taken. There were some other couples getting married that day who were all dressed up and loud and just the opposite of what I like and want. Still it made me feel like I am doing all of this wrong. But oftentimes the biggest wedding parties end with the shortest marriages I've come to notice. This was just about us and I am actually proud that I did it my own way. I don't like to be the centre of attention. Having some people with you that you TRULY want to share this with and bringing home-made food instead of paying thousands for catering etc is my personal goal😂

[@abeehazanab7505]

i’d be a dream come true to be noticed by Cimorelli

[@ciarabegley11]

love you guys so much!!!!!!!!!! this podcast is my life

[@LibnaRodriguez]

“DONT judge your Lows” - Christina 💕 felt that

[@fatimaforjaz1275]

Cimorelli:We are a positive uplifting comunity Amy to Christina:You little jerk

[@samruetman3427]

I watched this video when it first came out and I’m currently re-watching because I’m engaged now and so overwhelmed with wedding planning. This was a great reminder that the day doesn’t have to be “perfect”

[@elizabethblakley6657]

Don't forget needing the most perfect white teeth and eyelash extensions. I am getting married in 2 weeks and I am definitely feeling that pressure more and more. This is exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you!

[@perfectlyanest]

now that we know the secret about the setup and this room, i can never see it the same way again

[@lilybrayson3246]

now i wanna know the living situation lol cause over their vids i’ve seen so many houses

[@hannah1820]

I thought the same thing!🤯

[@vanessaadelin]

wdym ?

[@perfectlyanest]

@@user-ih5fk7yw3f the podcast wall is the other side of their music video setup and the wall to the left is where they did their acoustic videos sitting on the floor

[@Elena-xw7vv]

Lily Brayson they said they aren’t gonna say who lives with who bc of privacy so I guess we’ll never know

[@gabbymyers]

This podcast is probably the most uplifting thing I’ve listened to. I need this for myself in every day and as someone who’s getting engaged next year. Thank you girls ❤️

[@AlgoDeCris]

I'm literally crying from laughter with Lisa's journal! And Christina really had all the reactions I had while listening, including just being speechless at the end... that was so funny!

[@LalaM23]

Thank you Lisa. I was feeling pressured to have to invite alll family members from all sides and people I don’t even know (cause that’s what we do in our culture) but I don’t even like being the center of attention. When you said “is it gonna kill me if I don’t or is it gonna kill me if I do” it made me realize I don’t HAVE to have a humongous wedding. And doesn’t matter if people are salty they aren’t invited

[@KB-hg3hn]

I’m still waiting for you guys to put the podcast on Spotify 🥺

[@amandajs21]

I sold wedding dresses for years and SO many people would try to order dresses in sizes smaller than they were. But the issue with that is it's done by measurement and you can never tell exactly where the weight will come off. It was alarming we even had to make a policy about it.

[@aubreweller8876]

Kaths smile is so radiant!!!!

[@miaukrainetz690]

I love the Cimorelli podcast!! You guys are my other sisters!! lol not that I needed more😂

[@itz.kristian.darling1979]

Lisa screaming “MOST PEOPLE DONT CARE” is a MOOD also I feel like they are having a normal sister convo with no camera.... I LOVE IT 🥰 one last thing I feel like they are my older sisters and giving me advice everyday cuz I watch all their podcast even ones from like a couple years ago... Lisa’s laugh at the end IS THE CUTEST THING IVE EVER HEARD BEFORE!!! 😭💖😭 Im hurt... from laughing to the death of me but again Lisa’s laugh tho 🥺

[@myamarchington8255]

Lisa’s old journal entry was sooo good. This makes me wish I wrote more as a teen. So real and poetic. Amazing.

[@EmilyAWhitfield]

I really loved this topic! I recently got engaged and my whole mindset negatively changed! It’s great to be reminded that you are already enough and don’t need to put on a show for anyone! Thankyou for sharing!

[@Kristin.Lyn-LineDance]

The amazing thing about this particular podcast is so profound. It’s not just about toxic wedding culture - it’s about how as women we are kind of objectified in normal life and then when engagement and planning a wedding come into play, the objectification and toxicity is magnified! But all of this to say - I LOVE how not only are y’all super passionate about empowering others who feel like they are less than, but you’re also offering incredibly valuable advice AND how to stand up for yourself with words and phrases to shut down the attacks and negativity before it gets overwhelming. This podcast is about BOUNDARIES and how to find, enact, and draw the line for self-protection. (At least, that is my overall takeaway) Absolutely full of wisdom and sound advice. Well done 👏🏻 love your podcasts, videos, content, and support ❤

[@l.serpalopes]

“I did not stick my foot in that tub” -Cimorelli, Lisa Hahahhhah

[@imfromneverland3692]

LISA'S JOURNAL ENTRY I'M WHEEZING

[@je.rgl_28]

Lisa: **burps** Me: awww thanks for having me😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Edit: 0:23 lol 😂😂😂😂 Edit 2: i just replayed that so much now i cant breath😂😂😂

[@ev_green_]

25:00 🤯 wow Lisa dropping some truth bombs ! People do work out to " photoshop" themselves in "real life" wow that sums it up

[@kelleydionisio996]

I literally yawn when Lisa yawned at 2:31

[@unnatidavda1278]

Ok but we should have a compilation of Lisa's Burps hahahaha😂😂😂😂

[@river7346]

I'm FAR from getting married but, I can't miss this!!! love you!

[@emmahumphries8070]

Can I just say, of topic, but a thank you. Just saying it isn't enough. But I truly mean it Ive had a vary bad week, and your laughter and happiness is really uplifting. I do hope one day you come back to the UK or I fly out there to say thank you in person for everything you do on a daily basis. Never stop being yourself, your changing the world xx

[@emmahumphries8070]

As you can rea dim terrible with words

[@samlelong7932]

I am from the UK too. They are AMAZING ❤️

[@milolevy]

Loving Lisas outfit!!!!

[@luizabassotonatto7403]

Lisa’s journal is CRAZY and why do I relate lol😳

[@bmhbuiterwijk277]

Oh my gosh.. Lisa her story’s from the past sounds like story’s out of a book.. She is a born writer 😅🤩 PUBLISH YOUR JOURNALS LISA!! 🤩

[@lyna7038]

I love how kath is mature and grown up as a person 💜 she is so wise I love her And lisa has an amazing personality she has her own way of expressing her point of view which is fun and interesting 💙 Christina has so much experience in life💚lauren is so organized and productive I feel like she inspires me to be organized in life🧡 Amy is litterly miss sunshine, so loving and caring and cute I love her personality she is so kind and sweet 💛 All those girls are amazing and they all have amazing personalities 🥰

[@emma_clarke1237]

I think the pressure in my mind definitely comes from an old fashioned idea - that the only image you have of your great-grandparents is of their wedding day, and how special and picture perfect life needed to be. But now we have so much content of us, and imagine all of the media that our grand-children will have of us before, during and after our wedding!

[@kjeracarroll450]

Thank you for bringing this up!! At one point I got to where I didn’t even want to have a reception. I just wanted to have the ceremony and be done with it, and I was married 18 years ago! We did a simple reception and we got called tacky for being simple. People were shocked how simple I kept it. I paid for the wedding myself so I wasn’t ever going to have something extravagant anyway. The ceremony meant more to us anyway. It is the covenants we made with the Lord that are more important! And why do we think we need to look different from who we are on our wedding day? All that matters is how you feel on that day! Now how you look. Yeah we have pictures but, why worry about these things! Too much pressure, too much negative thinking. It just ruins something precious and should be a good day!

[@mariaannjames6517]

I am so happy to see u guys

[@carissimaamicitiaest5535]

Christina's face expressions are hilarious on this episode!! ☺️☺️☺️

[@marieliscintron382]

I was waiiiiiiiting for another upload😩

[@rashnas4029]

Other ways to avoid peer pressure: 1) change the subject so they dont keep talking about it 2) go to the party with someone you trust who wont pressure you or also doesnt engage in the activity you dont want to bc its harder to pressure 2 people than 1 3) if youre in an uncomfortable position and you want an out, have a plan with a parent/sibling/friend that you can text them something discreet (ex “hows the dog doing”) so they know to call you with an “emergency” so the reason for leaving isnt on you 4) (for drinking more specifically) make an excuse like “oh i have to wake up really early tomorrow morning so i cant drink tonight” so you dont have to go into the whole explanation of why ever you dont drink

[@kelportilla]

I'm so excited for Lisa's wedding 😍 and congrats Kath!! ❤️

[@verajakobs8167]

Most exciting moment of my quarantine day😁👏🏻

[@sarahfreitas8141]

28:47 i'm scared of lisa now 😂😂

[@auroraborealisgreen07]

PUBLISH THAT BOOK RIGHTNOW!!!

[@sunerislay4926]

Can't wait to see all mini daughters with their beautiful mothers 😍❤ God bless you all!

[@milolevy]

I love this topic even tho I am not even close to getting married lol I’m like 14 learning about wedding culture Hahahahahah lol love this tho

[@marilourenco6210]

It's weird right? I'm 15 learning about wedding culture lol

[@CimorelliPodcast]

Hahaah omg

[@annasambito1736]

me too ahahah

[@sariahjohnson7237]

17

[@naomibernard6832]

I’m 25 and I’ve been married for almost 3 years now and I’m learning even more about it lol!

[@you92847r]

I am getting married in two months. I needed this. Luckily I don't have the pressure I see a lot of people in like USA has. But you get crazy after watching a couple of wedding planning videoes...