Trans 101: Ep 6 - Names [CC]

[@trip483]

I legit just cut off a few of my "friends" for refusing to try to say my name or my proper pronouns, it sucks but it honestly feels liberating

[@connoranderson3380]

You did the right thing

[@l-3832]

That must be so hard, but you did the right thing. If they can’t respect you, you shouldn’t feel obligated to keep them in your life.

[@hipeople5092]

When I thought I was non-binary I told my friend and I was so excited when she said that it was ok... and then someone asked my pronouns and she said why do you need to know HER pronouns!?!?! :l

[@trip483]

@@hipeople5092 ouch, that's rough 😕 sorry to hear that

[@hipeople5092]

@@trip483 yea she said it like that tho she’s pretty manipulative and that’s why we are still friends :/ i just been ignoring her texts and stuff cuz she’s not worth it. To make matters worse she lives next door

[@whocare9942]

I am a trans man who was named Sue at birth. Literaly boy named Sue. So glad to be Sean now.

[@liamii5603]

That's really cute

[@liamii5603]

I used to go by Victoria but I completely changed to my second name who is William (I was supposed to be born a guy) but I don't like it that much so I go by Liam. Which is also the most trendy name in the moment 😅

[@peipidae7473]

Haha, could've kept it and just said your parents were huge Johnny Cash fans.

[@iloveapples1033]

I used to be ari now I’m ray

[@triciaivers2572]

Hi sean

[@sadiemorgan4095]

Respecting names is important, a couple cis people in my family go by their middle names, and they have to tell companies and banks that they are referred to by their middle name. Would've been the same in school and no one has ever had a problem with it, but throw in being trans and a name change is a big deal

[@MissMeganBeckett]

Sebastian Morgan my grandma also goes by her middle name 🙂 I am sort of glad I call her grandma though cause I am horrible at remembering names, I have gotten really good at talking to people without using names. Most times people don’t even notice unless we are talking about someone who isn’t there and I have no idea who they’re talking about without context, unfortunately they usually think it means I don’t care 🙁

[@connoranderson3380]

Transphobes everywhere

[@alexrose20]

yep

[@anastasiak.2595]

I know Chase's birthname. It's Which Lips Ross

[@neuroqueerjester]

EXPOSED

[@GarlicKiss]

XD

[@mothbulb]

Yeet. I love it.

[@Funny1Sh]

whut

[@britneynicole8903]

That is great 😹

[@ankanpaskaa8351]

My classmate has been using my old name as a joke and it bothers me so much

[@raephillipssmith4125]

ankanpaskaa Perhaps you could call them a masc / femme version of their name and see how they like it

[@ankanpaskaa8351]

Rae the Tiger i wont get to her level tho

[@ankanpaskaa8351]

MysticMyria siis kyseinen tyyppi kyl tietää et ei sais käyttää sitä nimeä :^)

[@ankanpaskaa8351]

Ahh thank you guys for the support! 💕 yeah if anyone who knows im train does that again, i will fucking kick their shit

[@CarbonUnitX]

Tekis mieli syöttää ankanpaskaa tuollaisille tyypeille jotka käyttää kiusallaan syntymänimiä! I recently came out at work and am dreading talking to one of my superiors. I just know he's gonna do that to me just to annoy me. But more people are on my side at least. I hope you have friends at school who do respect your name.

[@darahoffmanfox]

Your videos aren't too long Chase, the information is important to be sharing and your personal stories help get the points across really well. Keep it up! :)

[@daltonbrown6417]

Getting my top surgery Sept. 😎😎😎😎😎😎

[@neuroqueerjester]

aaaah congratulations! i'm so jealous but also happy for you, it's really close too

[@Nobody-bb5bv]

Congratulations! I'm happy for you! :)

[@isaacsinclair4290]

Dalton Brown congrats!

[@ALFIE19]

hope it goes well buddy!

[@kakapo3276]

im so happy for you!!!

[@mudkipjuice]

This is so important. I've had friends who I was completely male-passing with who I came out to as trans. I was naive and fell into the 'what was your old name' trap (several times. I have too much faith in people) and immediately they would start calling me my birth name and female pronouns. Those were such awful experiences...

[@notdog1996]

It happened to me once in my life. (I didn't exactly tell him my birth name, but I let him figure it out) He was the most transphobic piece of shit I ever met, so I completely cut him out of my life. Honestly, I much prefer my birth name to be forgotten and never spoken of again.

[@spazzrazkid1117]

those people werent real friends, so sorry about that

[@davyjones6949]

I went by my neutral nickname for ages. Everyone called me that - everyone. I even was tempted to sign official letters with it. Then a group of friends made us all each other tell our birth names. And they kept using mine. Eventually everyone around me switched to use that name. It took me a lot of courage and three years to say "stop" and revert to my nickname. To those who were insisting on using a name that was written on some official papers I offered my second birth name which is at least a little more neutral and can more easily be changed. I felt like awaking from a nightmare, one that clings to you after you wake up... my first birth name is now my deadname and I consider it disrespectful to use it, no matter how patient I am otherwise.

[@russianspy7559]

I feel like i can relate to those experiences where everyone calls you by your birth name and using female pronouns (im a ftm).

[@ixlovexrain]

My parents wanted to give me a boy's name, but German law wouldn't allow it for an afab baby, so it could only be used as a middle name. I came out as trans in my mid 20s and then used a completely new name to go by, but more recently I thought getting called by my old middle name would be easier than having to go to court just to change the name on my passport. It's Sol which means sun or peace and I've become a much more positive person over the last couple of months, so I feel like it's a sign and validates my identity too, even if my parents obviously had no clue that I could be trans :)

[@CarbonUnitX]

That is so cool! :) I have a similar experience with a "sign." I had a hard time choosing because my first choice doesn't work in my native language. It would be pronounced wrong and lose its meaning. So I went instead with my "work in progress" name that my parents called me while in the womb. It was kinda prophetic, because it's a male name and I'm a guy AFAB. So they got it right the first time!

[@tourettehero]

ixlovexrain my grandmother was born in Germany and given a stereotypical boys name. I wonder when this went into effect. That'd be an interesting thing to look into.

[@joym824]

I love Sol!

[@MikaruXDenka]

I have a TransName (TM) that is so trans, it couldn't be transer (transier?). I'm Aiden. But funny thing is: In Germany you don't have Aidens. So, my name is a kinda generic trans name, but still on of a kind in Germany :D

[@quinndeejee9564]

Aheira Miles I wasn't aware that Aiden was a very common trans name. 🤔 That's funny though; I was kind of thinking about that name for me 😸

[@MikaruXDenka]

Well, there are a few more well known Aidens in any kind of writing. But I like that name a lot, so I don't care that it's a more common name. I like the meaning behind it, the origin... I am just a bit mad about myself that I choose this way of writing it, there is one that I like more, but ehhh, I already legally changed it so I have to life with it.

[@zeecaptainz]

Aheira Miles Also Alex, is very common for trans guys (even i wanted it to some degree xD). My name is indra, and i wouldn't change it for the life of me. Even tho in my country is percieved as female, it's actually a male name, a hindu god's name. My other name is the female version of Stephan so i might change just my middle name.

[@MikaruXDenka]

Indra is such a cool name! I wouldn't know if it was female or male, it's just a cool name! I can understand that you wouldn't want to change it.

[@zeecaptainz]

Aheira Miles ah thank you so much💗🌈🌈🐧(just now i see your second user name is Miles yaaas🌈🌈)

[@julevaru]

I'm currently questioning my Gender and this series is somhow pleasing and encuraging to watch in this Situation. Thank you So much for making these Videos!

[@leviathan6626]

JulyVive R same here

[@quinndeejee9564]

JulyVive R Ditto

[@tourettehero]

JulyVive R good luck on your journey.

[@ltdouchebag5514]

You are what ur born as except yourself as what you where born as it is you , you shouldn’t want to be something else

[@doleful2842]

My name is Nick Reece Griffin. and god, that feels so freaking good to say.

[@kingskippy5880]

Hi nick

[@3ll3llyyy]

this is 3 years old but ive went by both reece and nick in my early trans years lmao

[@river9827]

Hi nick reece griffin :)

[@Skye1421]

Hi Nick :D

[@britneynicole8903]

Hey Nick!

[@carsonparent3355]

I love this series! I've been able to show this to my parents as informational videos because I want to start medically transitioning. Thank you so much, Chase

[@neuroqueerjester]

this sounds so wonderful, i hope they'll understand things more with these videos and good luck/congratulatons on your transition!

[@abe8724]

The main point: Just Respect People! Yes. Much yes.

[@ltdouchebag5514]

I will respect you but I’m not going to call you what ur not

[@michaeljames452]

I talked with my parents last night and they said they aren't ready for me to start T, however they are letting me go by my new name now and I'm so happy!

[@timeloveandyarn2990]

Chase is one of only a few KZbinrs whose videos I don't skip ads on.

[@fraxinus_ash]

I feel like I lost my closest friend when I saw her referring to me as a combination of my birth name and my name on a Facebook picture of her kids with a present I sent to them, so I can only assume both her and her kids, her husband, and my other friends are all calling me that (I'm not on Facebook and moved away from my home town). She was the only one, apart from my partner+his parents, who (I thought) respected my name change and consciously made the effort in person to call me my name. I can no longer face communicating with them or any of my oldest friends. It hurts a lot.

[@tourettehero]

Ash hey ash, don't give up too quick on people. Maybe she fears telling the kids or honestly doesn't know the depths it bothers you. Always remember, she probably knew you by your birth name a lot longer than your chosen name and she didn't have the same time you have to become accustom to all the changes. I obviously don't know your situation and all this can not apply at all... I'm simply speaking from the other side. I'm the non trans family member who had to learn. My brother turned to "j" for awhile as I transitioned in my own head to his new name, which also happened to begin with "j," lucky me.

[@fraxinus_ash]

tourette hero thanks. The thing is she is usually very kind and sensitive about such subjects and has no trouble explaining things to the kids in a way they would understand. It isn't borne out of malice, it's more like because I'm technically out of earshot (I saw this via my partner's facebook) that she doesn't bother. To me it's like misgendering someone when they aren't there.

[@badreanna]

Ash god I'm always terrified people are doing this. Especially my parents. They recently moved so im hoping the new social setting will be enough for them to change their language about me. But... My hopes arent too high.

[@tourettehero]

Ash i think there is a psychological side to this you are missing. Even with that being a very real possibility, youre being negatively impacted and thats what matters here. She probably doesnt understand your desire to be seen as male in very sense to all people or possibly feels she shouldnt refer to you as he or by your chosen name without expressed permission, if there hasnt been. Maybe have a talk and let her know your expectations of the friendship. Explain your feelings and why these things are important. For along while i wasnt sure how to refer to my bro (ftm) in public. I felt very stuck so to say... So finally i just asked. Maybe shes too afraid to ask. Again, all assumptions here as ibdont know the relationship, but hopefully this friendship can be saved its just some confusion.

[@huckleberrybuttercup21]

That's not cool. Tell her you wouldn't disrespect her by referring to her as her old maiden name (assuming she took husband's last name) or call her a mean nickname she had in grade school. Tell her to respect you or she's not your friend. Maybe she'll get a clue and apologize

[@TheClavery0909]

I wish I could get this as a DVD to show my grandparents. They don't know how to work KZbin. They have so many questions and this series would help them so much.

[@tourettehero]

TheClavery0909 you can use listentoyoutube . Com to make an MP3 of the audio. From there burn a cd and give it to them. Think that would work?

[@ANDREASREBORNTHINGS]

Thank you so much for making this series. So many people need to watch these videos. It's so obvious how difficult some of the subjects are for you personally yet you get through them and you explain them in a clear way. Much love xx

[@lyncaffaro8559]

In my family, my mum is the only one who calls me by my name. Mostly, she'll put it in a mix of this name and an old nickname, but I see that as a lot of progress with her. My father may sometimes mutter my name under his breath, bit he never really says it, and my sister has stated many times that she just won't call me by my new name, which bothers me so much...

[@sarasoukupova9013]

Chase, thank you so much for this video, actually for this whole series, but this one really spoke to me (also because I've been having some issues with changing my name - I wanted to do so and even had the guts, but my parents discouraged me from it). I cried happy tears, around the time 6:51, because it was such a validating thing when you assured me about something I'm extremely consious about myself. Just thank you so much, it means world to me. Love you

[@adamignacy6746]

I started tests to get my T 9 days ago. Chase starts new series 6 days ago. Now i can watch all six videos waiting for the last test. Thank you so much.

[@midnightrose8555]

Thank you chase for making this series. It's my bday today and watching you really helped me come out and really find out who I was in this past year. You, along with ash and stef have done so much, in my eyes, for this community. Love ya 💕!!

[@axelotl24]

5:05 "If you don't have anything nice to say don't say nothing at all." Nice Bambi quote there. 😂😂😂

[@thenovids77]

it can be hard to choose a new name. since it's a big long term decision so be sure to be as helpful as you can when a trans person is going through the choosing process. allow them to change and try put different names

[@jelliemish]

I am So. Freaking. Glad. That my family and friends respect my new name and pronouns, like... I don't think they know how amazing they are and how much I love them and how much this helps me every day. It's such an important thing to hear your chosen name when people refer to you. Like no joke, it still makes me smile and I've been out for a year.

[@ash_outcastsofsuburbia]

Every morning when I wake up I go to KZbin and watch the new trans 101 video

[@Nawor1996]

I'm so glad that "Rowan" is neutral, it also helps that I've associated with its feminine understanding for years. Its ridiculous how much I relate to my name

[@quinnowo2324]

When I changed my name I finally started seeing it in souvenir shops...

[@cameronandhiscamera2849]

I've recently been thinking about changing my name so here goes... Hello, my name is Michael Isaac Cameron. Fuck, that feels good to say. :D

[@CarbonUnitX]

Hello, Michael! :)

[@isaacsinclair4290]

Cameron And His Camera Michael is a great name! (And so is Isaac ;) -that's the name I want haha-)

[@aeliushollows4856]

Hi, Michael! Good luck with your name (:

[@miyuyamazato5635]

Are all three going to be your first name?! I’m trans too btw!

[@cameronandhiscamera2849]

Miyu Venus Yamazato No, cameron is my last name. Lol

[@IloveGaarasama1]

My name is Ryden Benjamin Wegenke. I was born Rylyn Joy Anderson. I love my name, and am insanely proud of it, especially because i was adopted by the Wegenke clan but have never been able to change my last name because government and rules blah. I hadnt planned on using changing my middle name, but mom asked if she could give me the middle name, because she wasn't able to the first time around. Benjamin is my great-grandfathers name. It's... amazing. I am claiming myself, i am claiming my family, i am Ryden.

[@siv9569]

I have to be myself in secret because my family is too obsessive compulsive about religion. When i cut my hair they acted as if i committed sins worst than Satan, i just can't. Watching your videos helps me cope with my horrific situation, thank you for these videos.

[@erickgoins9199]

1:35 "It's very brave of them" Me: "You're so brave" Me: ok yes I get it it's a serious topic

[@kazeboiii]

Referring to a trans person by their name and their pronouns is super important... Thank you so much for making these videos and just being you, Chase. Ever since I finally came out at work and began the social aspect of my transition, it has felt so good to just hear my coworkers and my friends call me by my name. I find that even when they mess up on my pronouns, it doesn't sting as bad as long as they use my name. Pronouns are super super important, of course, but I understand why it's easier to slip up on them than it is a name. That said, not all my coworkers have been accepting of my transition and it's been hard to deal with that. One person absolutely refuses to refer to me by my name or my pronouns. She does so by simply only ever talking to me when she cannot avoid it. And she uses my last name on my tips envelope when she used to use my dead name pre-transition (and writes everyone else's first names). On one hand, this is better than her blatantly misgendering me and calling me by my dead name all the time, but on the other... this behavior is drastically different than previous and it hurts. It's like I'm no longer worth acknowledging. Her and her sister were super orthodox religious and I imagine this is why, but even her sister at least attempted to use my name (or rather the nickname everyone gave me, D) even if she still misgendered me. I felt better about this than I do about her sister ignoring my existence... Overall, though, work has been accepting. New people are hard to deal with sometimes, mostly because I don't currently pass, but I feel more or less comfortable as myself at work and that's all I can really ask for, I think.

[@huckleberrybuttercup21]

Speak to your manager - they can tell her to stop her bs. If they don't or she won't, go to corporate HR. Threat of her being fired or you suing should smarten her up

[@flayabarile7372]

You know what I reckon would be really cool? If there was a place online that featured stories of how people chose their new names. I'll do that for my name today and put it up on my blog site. Thanks for the idea, Chase.

[@chrism.5482]

Much love and appreciation for the good works you are putting forward for all of us.

[@marcomuntean8591]

I'm not a trans,but DAMN you're series are so great and empowering,keep going!

[@ltdouchebag5514]

Ratio

[@huckleberrybuttercup21]

Please don't say- A trans. So not cool

[@pearlwashere]

My best friend's father, after he found out I was transgender, seemed to make a habit to just not use a name or pronouns. Just two days ago, I was over at her house and he actually called me Parker. It just brightened my fucking day. Just thought I'd share. :)

[@BenjiCarter]

I came out just over a year ago. I changed my name completely from my birth name and, while i understand that it takes time to get used to, no one in my family has tried to use the right name or pronouns, except my dad. And the thing is I'm terrified to correct them. My family is very "we support you but we're not going to acknowledge it or the fact that you ever came out" and i really don't know what to do. I'm terrified and it hurts every time i hear my birth name or she or girl. But this made me feel valid. I feel like i am enough and trans enough even without the respect from my family, so thank you 😊❤️

[@huckleberrybuttercup21]

Start calling them the wrong names and pronouns.

[@cinnamon_toast3831]

I get when people want to change their name completely I'm not out, only 1 of my friends and my nonbinary luv bug knows my "masculine" name which is Levi I don't want anything to do with my name which is miya because it's to much of a reminder of/connection to my 'female self' and it just makes me feel, somehow, sick and hearing it said gives me anxiety and such sadness But idk That's just me

[@quinndeejee9564]

It's Miya I love the name Levi 😊

[@monsterfckr]

It's Miya Are you a fan of Attack on Titan..?

[@leyre9989]

Nathan Morou i was wondering the same thing hahah Beautiful name btw 😊

[@CarbonUnitX]

I assume people you're not out to know about this user account so you can't change it on here? Would be good if you had a refuge where don't have to see it all the time.

[@monsterfckr]

Leyre Ruiz Thank you very much!

[@skylarhappy3805]

As an FTM guy, I feel very glad that I was born with my name (Skylar) because I both like it and it is a name that is used by all sorts of people

[@cosmothecosmonaut5329]

Just discovered this series and I’m so glad it exists!

[@rubi0laura133]

Oh my Gawd, Chase you touched my heart with this one, you have no idea how much this helps

[@Nicole-ye4wh]

This series is such a blessing.

[@CyanimationsA]

Name changing is like a video game lol u choose a name u like for a week and then in the next week u wanna change it again.... That's me

[@mirabelle9206]

I've never been so happy to get an add!!! :D

[@artifedex]

I'm glad you mentioned that some people may not want to legally change their name, because I've been thinking about it and I don't think I want to? At this point I don't want to, that may change in the future but right now I'm fine without changing my name legally.

[@onyxsongoingcrisis933]

I'm so happy that you're making these

[@AnnoyingAsianWitch]

Names cannot be changed in my country. If one wants to change their name, their ID says "previous name @ current name" which is unfortunate. :(

[@SusanYTripp-lp4ss]

When I had my "awakening moment" last June, it was weird. I contacted my Dr., then informed my brother and (by extension) his fiancee and numerous close friends. After I came out on FB, I came out in general. Work was easy; I don't regret being blunt with them. When I PM'd my (deceased) dad's sis, it was on what would've been his 82nd b'day; she was cool with it. I asked, and got, her permission to use "Susan" as my first name.

[@JRibs]

When you’re mtf, it feels mind-boggling that someone would go the other way. It’s nice to know this whole experience impacts so many people, including a ton of ftm dudes. I pull value from the connection we have, ironically when we’re moving in the opposite direction. The relatability is good for thought.

[@goodeveninq]

Chase, you gave me the idea of 'Jesse'! I was watching this and was like "wait this actually works for me" so THANKS LOL

[@anunluckyducky4157]

My name is Liam, it used to be Lillian

[@whatevenwhat]

Also just something to add, trans people can also slip up and use their birthname too. If they’ve only just come out, they’re still not used to using their new name, no matter how much it means to them, they can slip up. Be patient as they’ll be patient with you. Don’t tell them you have a right to use their birth and because “If you can’t get your name right then why should I?” It’s the same with pronouns too. Everyone is adapting to it, so be patient. Be nice to people. :)

[@GenderMx]

What you say about how it can be problematic for trans people to look for validation is true. But I like to flip that thought process to how cis people get that exact same validation from everyone & we don't critique that. Someone who prefers a nickname gets to use that name, they still get their pronouns validated, etc. Trans people deserve the same types of validation.

[@blossom_menagerie]

Chase, would you ever consider doing a video on familial terms? For example, my brother still calls me Sis, and my dad still calls me mija (baby girl in Spanish). I know it isn't easy for family to just change the terms and pet names they've used for a lifetime, but I know there has to be some kind of compromise. Maybe I'll make a video about it myself.

[@isstinna]

In Russia there's only one gender neutral name and my trans co-worker has this name so she kept it. So it was really easy for everybody to adjust =)

[@Green_B0YY]

My name is Adrienne which can go both ways but, mother before I said anything about name change. Would use Adriena which is the girl version my name mother is Mexican many words have to do with gender. I'm lucky because my family is very supportive.Anyway long story short I plan on only changing my middle name to Paul just one letter off from my "original " middle name Paula.

[@proudcommulist5384]

I've been showing these to my coworkers and managers, just to help educate them on future customers and employees.

[@ltdouchebag5514]

You’re not educating them you’re brainwashing them

[@quetzalotl6428]

As someone who has changed their name years ago simply because I didn't like it, I know how annoying it is when people I know insist that it isn't my name. Over time, it got better since everyone got used to it, but now that I've started questioning my gender I want to change it again into something more androgynous. The thought of having to go through that again while having to explain why just makes me so discouraged.

[@dagalovesme]

My name is Dallas Austin and I was born female (currently researching about transgender). But whenever I talk to someone on the phone or online, everyone looks at my name and instantly thinks two things 1. That I'm a guy 2. That I'm American (I'm actually an Aussie with a American dad P.s he was not the one who named me) I'm always correcting people who say that "Dallas is a boys name" I mean yes it's more common in men but actually it can be considered A unisex name. I actually don't care about the pronouns that are used with me because I'm so used to being called a guy.

[@1234XelaXela124]

I've eventually settled on Alex Joshua Ross for my new name. Alex is a name I've gone by just about my entire life, so that was an obvious one. Also love its meaning. Ross is, in my eyes, a masculine version of my old second name, which was Rose. Joshua is what my parents would have named me had I been born male and I feel like that would be a nice nod to them and all they've done for me. Wouldn't have been here without them in more ways than just the very literal sense. Also, I can call myself AJ now and have a friend who goes by KJ. Not the reason I went with these three names but it is a nice bonus. :P Recently got my diagnosis and soon will be getting the letter that'll allow me to legally change my name, as well as my referral to an endocrinologist and a gynaecologist. I won't actually change my name until I've been on T for a little while and have come to the conclusion that this really is the right path for me to take, I think, but it's nice to actually have stuff ready beforehand.

[@gabriellapimentel7463]

I’m not out yet, but I’ve decided on my name... here goes... hello, my name is Gavin Reese Pimentel. Damn that’s empowering :)

[@jsonotlike]

I'm loving these series!

[@pearlwashere]

My name I chose is something that makes me happy to hear someone call me. It's very different from my birth name because I never liked my birth name, and I never felt a connection with it. So, yeah. Hi, I'm Parker. I just *love* saying that. :)

[@abbiesweeney7298]

I'm ftm but only out to three people so I can't live as male, but... hello, my name is August :)

[@emilee1655]

I'm Nikolas Darcy Harris Frey and I'm a trans guy c: THAT FEELS BEAUTIFUL

[@aaaaaaaaaa1094]

i regret choosing the name i go by so much, its such a generic Trans Name™ (alex) and like i dont identify with it at all, but everyone calls me alex now and i cant really change. i just wanted anything other than my old name, and 2 years later im just trying to bear it. i like one name but i prefer the pronunciation and spelling in a different language (isaac --> isak) than the one that is spoken where i'm from (also shares the name of a fictional character that my whole friend group knows) so i can't until i ~reinvent~ myself in university because nobody will know me lmao.

[@TheodoreStagnum]

youre very much allowed to go through multiple names in finding yourself! but im excited for you to go to university 😄 i hope it goes well

[@milesaway214]

Phandom! At The Disco I went through a similar experience. Most people in my life used to refer to me as Ari for two years but towards the end of it I started hating it because people were calling me my actual name but were still referring to me in a feminine way. I decided to, funnily enough, change to the name alex. I feel so much more like myself now that I've changed it and honestly it only took people one month maximum to change to it. Don't be afraid to experiment with names after you've originally come out.

[@meuanglao7]

This is probably gonna sound bleh, but a lot of us go through an "Alex phase" while we're trying to figure ourselves out. Alex is the most common neutral name there is (in English anyway). I went by Alex for a year or so before settling on Eli, my boyfriend went by Alex for a while before settling on Ethan... You're allowed to change your name and find one you feel fits. I personally went by Alex, Demetri, and Alan before Eli, and Ethan went through a few himself. I know people who've gone through six or seven names before they found one they identified with. Not saying Alex or any of its forms is a bad name, but it is one that a lot of us use when figuring ourselves out.

[@connorjohnson8776]

I've been trying to change my name because my birth name is a generic trans name. Alex sucks, but I have no clue what to pick.

[@NicholeBall]

I love you chase I hope you're having a wonderful day!!

[@JaiBellkieraleeb]

Omg! Thanks for talking about legal change...my parents said they would not call me my name until it is legal

[@lilduck3395]

My birth name is Amber Rose but i have decided to change Amber to Aaron and Rose to Ryan and with my last name it all sounds really good together, but it may take my family a while to get used to it because they love calling rose and rose bud which i hate very much and i want my new nickname to be ry ry or something like it idk what to chose yet though.

[@chxrl5067]

Can I ask, why is there the emphasis on being a trans man/woman.. in terms of the word trans. Because if you were born in a female body, but you were always male, why when you transitioned, would you not just say you are male, because, that's who you are? Are there any trans people who would just say they are male/female without the trans infront of it? My god that was badly worded..

[@notdog1996]

Most people don't use the trans prefix in day to day life. It's mostly used in trans-specific contexts. For example, I won't introduce myself as a trans man, but if I'm talking about puberty, specifying that I am trans is kinda important because my experience was different than that of a cis man.

[@lanetaylor3937]

Spooky Kabuki most of the time, a trans person would simply use male or female, etc, but using the trans prefix can be helpful for people who like to use it, to make a destinction or to talk about their experience. That's what I think at least. I'm a trans guy, but I wouldn't usually introduce or talk about myself as such, unless it was relevant

[@chxrl5067]

Thank you for your answers!!

[@CarbonUnitX]

I second the above and would add that it depends on the person too. Some feel that being trans is more a part of their identity while others look at it as merely a medical thing they deal with and that's that. An activist would be more likely to bring up being trans while someone who is stealth obviously never would. As mentioned above for someone who hasn't had the cis experience of their own gender growing up there is a distinction. It doesn't make them any less a man/woman, but it's there. As someone who is transitioning later in life and isn't exactly "traditionally" masculine I feel what I missed out on and what I had instead has very much shaped me as a person for better and for worse so the trans prefix feels fitting, personally. I might feel differently if I'd transitioned in my teens, who knows. But I don't plan on introducing myself as a trans guy to everyone I meet if and when I start passing, that's for sure.

[@mariaale6697]

Hi my name is Matt! That felt so good to say omfg

[@furiousmagician5912]

hi matt!

[@sharkn3rd]

This is very educational and I love this series as a person questioning my gender

[@ltdouchebag5514]

It’s not educational its brainwashing

[@Luckymune]

I changed my name to Ross because its similar to a nickname i used to have so its special to me but nowhere near the same as my birthname, which is good because i almost have panic attacks every time i hear it

[@Fatbear69]

I was just able to tell my friends that I want to be referred to as Silas and I’m happy that they’re fine with it

[@darrenm3297]

Loving the series.

[@sundaetype]

you should talk more abt side effects of testosterone/estrogen!!! my dad wont let me take T cause he said I'll die from it, but he doesn't really look into it when i ask him to..?

[@connoranderson3380]

Dear Person's father: IT'S LITERALLY WHAT YOU HAVE IN YOUR BODY DUMBASS

[@tourettehero]

Another question! Hooray... If someone is struggling with someone else's "new name," would it be wrong to have a discussion with the person about a compromise? For example, my friend choose the name Reese, his birth name was sheri. His family didn't like to call him Reese, but would call him Ree. They didn't call him Ree short for Reese, but it was still a compromise where they never used his birth name and only Ree. So if someone's name is say Rebecca and they want to be called David, but the family/friends are having a real struggle, is it ok to say, "hey, I'm struggling with calling you David, can I call you beck as I work on calling you David?" Or is that completely wrong?

[@maxwellchappell9019]

It really depends on if the person is okay with it. My parents called me MJ for awhile until they were used to my transition. It was fine with me, but if it makes the person uncomfortable it might not be great to do.

[@solusprime2990]

I every so often have people ask what my old name was lol. But truth is, is that I lucked out. My parents decided to name me Logan, so when I transitioned to male the only names I felt to change were middle names.

[@cobaltcreates6861]

That moment when you are rather be called Jack but you are to scared that your parents will find out because I am still waiting for help to finding out if I am transgender or not... So I just need to stick to my name...

[@aeliushollows4856]

I'm avoiding telling anyone in my family the name I want to use because I feel like they won't respect it and the name is special to me. I really don't want to associate bad experiences with the name, but I also don't like them using my birth name. I don't know what to do. Does anyone have a similar experience or have any tips for dealing with this?

[@ltdouchebag5514]

Dude I’m going to give you real advice your supposed to be the gender you were born as just accept yourself

[@futuretom4520]

I went from maya to Aleczander lol howdy

[@feralcowboy1467]

I went from Abbigail to Blake lol

[@harrythomas2224]

Libby to Elliott

[@coffee4brains525]

Future Tom emma to dan !

[@sammy651]

I went from Madison to Sam

[@cemeterybackyards]

Zion to... Zion or Kayden or Connor- it's so frustrating lol

[@flamingmidas]

I'm Adrian River. I'm hopefully going to get more people to use that name soon. It should be easy since the initials are the same as the ones most people know me as

[@harrythomas2224]

For my name, I changed what my nickname is short for, I took Eli from my birth name and now it's short for Elliott

[@harrythomas2224]

And my middle name is my dads first name (he died over 10 years ago)

[@astraegraves9152]

3:48 I love the way he said "you are the lowest form of human" x)

[@ryanlee354]

I changed my name to something similar because I'm unoriginal

[@aleksy2141]

I also (kinda) did that

[@BlaZed1216]

I was born as Lily Ann F, im changing my name to Adrian Michael F. im ftm and use he/him they/them pronouns and im gonna start to lose weight to start T and get top surgery and possibly bottom surgery

[@alyssafranco83]

Street Youth Cool i'm Alyssa Ann F.

[@alyssafranco83]

Street Youth Also I hope everything goes well!!

[@matthew.3268]

So about 2-3 years ago, I came across these videos. At the time, I was cisgender (I fell into the rabbit hole of FTM KZbinrs). Then about a year ago I realized I was trans (FTM). Now I’m watching this video just to see who influenced who I am.

[@vandodbrandli9448]

The family on my mothers side have accepted me. I’m the second trans person at our school. And that other trans person is also in my class, theatre/music/dance class and in my drama class. And my mom knows his mom too. And he said if I ever needed help with something, I could just send a text.

[@rileytmwood9148]

My birth name was Jessica L R Wood (I really hate the middle names) but now my name is Riley Thomas Matthew Wood

[@officialmaxrebo]

The only good way that you can mispronoun or misgender or say the wrong name of a trans friend is if they haven’t come out yet as trans ( or some kind of non-binary ) except to a couple of their close friends, a partner, or maybe even just you.

[@maxsloan5828]

My chosen name is max, and my middle name is now Jacob

[@princekai7572]

Most of my friends call me my preferred name, even some family, i'm rarely called he or him or they and them. Only she and her. There are only one or two people i allow to call me my birth name, when those people say it i do not feel dysphoria or dread?? When anyone else says it i hate it. I hope that makes sense??

[@vandodbrandli9448]

Omg! When you said Jason I started laughing cuz my friends and I have an inside joke about the name Jason😂😂

[@sweetybear6248]

My Name is Oliver Carter Ross. Heck that feels awesome to say

[@stephantyrone8678]

Hello chase! I was wondering what is your point of view on the trans people who clame they dont have dysphoria. Recently, i saw lot of people arguing about it and finally i don't know what to think? What do you think about?

[@britneynicole8903]

I am just eating coconut milk ice cream… This series is awesome!! 😃😁

[@bitchbaby8796]

I went by the name Simon for awhile but everyone told me it was too difficult to use and that it need to make it more similar, so now I'm using Neinoh or Nico and still no one uses it

[@toby_wankenobi]

Pro tip: If you change your name change it to something cool, so everyone will want to call you by that name no matter what