Trans: It's Never Too Late to Transition (INSPIRATIONAL!)

This was an inspirational conversation I had with an late blooming trans guy (transitioning using HRT in his 40s). He shares an interesting experience about figuring out he was trans later in life. Looking back part of him always knew, but he didn't have the words or the ability to express this. This can happen! We can hold the transgender identity inside for years, trying to forget and ignore... but it doesn't go away. It just waits until you let yourself out. It happens when you are ready, and everyone is ready at different times. It is never too late.

[@klaymistic4810]

Thank you ❤ I can’t find the words this means so much to see people like me

[@thomasjoyce5051]

Thank you for this video,56 ftm waiting for counselling as we speak and feeling positive

[@carterpiercey2769]

It’s amazing that a complete stranger can have the same thoughts and feelings as someone else. I relate to this so much. Thank you for posting this.

[@lightbluedev]

This sh* is gospel. So glad to finally find a channel with content I can actually relate to. Love the depth of discussions here. Thank you 🙏🙌

[@bosshawg78]

"This is the hand that I've been dealt" and "It's not THAT bad." YES. Just turned 38 & finally learning I have options - had no idea there was even a path being forged by others like me... This is great guys, thank you both.

[@adrianzenmiller7749]

I just started and I'm 38 too. :)

[@vanessavarghese1558]

Thank you so much for this video 😭💖

[@JVWes]

Love this video. I know its old one I found. While searching for peace of mind and other feelings I am going though. I a late blooming trans-guy 59yr. Out in April of 2020. Have come a long ways since then to now. I am getting ready for top surgery. A big step but a necessary one for me to take. Thank you for your inspirational video theses videos are so important to us all.

[@thomasjoyce5051]

And thank you J V Wes for sharing.. both you and Chris... thanks Forrest for your awesome videos

[@lacville987]

I'm 45 and started testosterone almost two months now...so freaking happy!!!!!

[@krw72]

"The hand that I've been dealt" is exactly how I described my experience too! You mirror my thoughts - I started at 40

[@SomeStuff9]

I'm in the same boat. Will be 42 this year, and am finally staring my journey. Another good interview. Cheers.

[@ClosetTransgender]

Thank you for this great news!

[@TheSLOfox]

This is indeed an inspirational video. Clearly, I can relate to what you guys said about thinking "it's not THAT bad" pre-transition, and then later realizing that you really needed to transition. It's so incredibly freeing to "take action on your own behalf," as my therapist says (ha), to transition, and to have your mind freed from so much of that distracting and depressing strife.

[@liamvandevelde8373]

Hi guys, I can relate with your stories, i'm 47 years of age and finally set all my doubts, fears, shame aside and called the gender clinic for my first apointment. Its time for me to come out and thought of me instead of anybody else. I always felt more sad and depressed then happy and complete and always did wat my parents thought of me (didn't want to dissepoint them) and acted always what sociaty thought of me, but enough of that!! I came out to my mom a couple of weeks ago and she's completely supportive (my mom is 84 years old) and that was just such a relief for me. It's weird, I have burried it for so long and now that I have made the first step, things can not go fast enough ;-). Wishing you guys all the best!

[@laneatkinson6441]

I'm 18 and I was worrying I would be too old to transition by the time I moved out of my parents' house (2-3 years)...thank you so much!!! I feel so much better.

[@c.bowden747]

Its taken me 4 years to find the one video I needed to make me feel like I'm not alone in my experience, and I'm five years late to the party. Thank you Chris, from a 26yr old who thought he couldn't possibly be trans enough, because I was 23 before I even recognized there was a problem. Thank you. I had no idea how bad I needed this video.

[@kristenconnors2260]

HRT is the best thing that ever happened to me. My doctor had no problem writing me scripts for hormones, he knew my history being diagnosed as severe gender dysphoria. People think it's strange that at 76. I decided to transition.

[@Teeande40]

Welcome im 80 years old just started 6 months ago. I think being stuck here due to the virus, i found out about Gendermen. Im having top surgery soon. I am soooo happy

[@Jan-go6sr]

@@Teeande40 Hey Terry.... I did not receive a reply on email.... but congrats on having top surgery.... and after the worst of the pandemic is past, maybe we can visit.... I have searched for people in our age group...over 55 or so.... but have not had much luck... After living a lifetime, and now starting a new gender identity...well, we have experiences that younger folks just can’t relate to.... I am still working part time and struggling with managing my transition in a rural area where differences are not welcome....but I am where I am.... and I also struggle with re-connecting with friends from the past, all the way to elementary school and how to handle that.... anyway, I do look forward to having time to talk with you and learn about your experiences. Oh yes... I did start T last year and then had a minor stroke, fully recovered, but stopped T for awhile.... just last month re-started...

[@Jan-go6sr]

Hey Kristen.... glad that you are transitioning and I do not think anything strange about transitioning at 76!!! I hope to connect with more folks in this phase of life.... I am glad to know that more are out there.

[@quadencaroline3368]

@@Jan-go6sr facebook.com/groups/transmenover40/?ref=share

[@esmeralda73]

" I want to get it right for the second half"...........this resonate with me.thanks

[@MaRta-py7mb]

Thank you guys for this honest conversation. I love it how Chris summed it up: "I just like myself" :)

[@ClosetTransgender]

Chris was so articulate and so easy to talk to. I love this video and feel like has some quotable lines in there!

[@marlowalexander7677]

Thank you for sharing your story with us, Chris!

[@jeffreemcmillan2288]

Thanks to you both and especially for Chris sharing as I am now 43 and finally admitting to myself and my doctor and close friends and my sister on my looking at transitioning..... It is great Forest that you bring so many different people into talk with, I love the interview with Chris and thanks to your video linking me, I know also follow both Allen and Dade......This is all helping me to find the courage to be and find me.

[@cartierroadstar6570]

So much of what you say resonated in me. Thanks for sharing.

[@karmamelk9]

Thank you so much for making these videos, i just found your channel and I'm so grateful! Talk about a late-bloomer...here I am in my mid-forties and still unable to make up my mind even though I've always known I'm a male. Listening to transmen share their experiences gives me hope, but the thought of surgery (economic and physical costs) deters me. Praying for my period to stop permanently. Would hormones end it?

[@estheralperin]

This just lifted my spirits, so much! As a transman who let my family in, last May, it's really relieving to find that there are folks who are on T or HRT, later in life. Hopefully, I'll be able to do top surgery, one day, in my future. Just ticking off the days, step by step, here. :)

[@cordyceps144]

Your videos are always so inspirational! Love Chris' story; and as always, how very very natural your conversations are.

[@bene3675]

Thanks for all the thoughtful videos you make Forest, they've really helped me a lot in figuring myself out. I really liked what you guys said about transitioning just seeming like something so 'out there' in the beginning, and kind of reluctantly saying to yourself 'I guess I can live without transitioning'. These are things I've been thinking/feeling myself but have never heard anyone express. Thanks, All the best Forest!

[@lr3521]

Great vid, hit the nail on the head. The idea of transitioning does seem very far fetched especially when you live in a remote village and your local doctor is known for being awkward with gays and lesbians let alone trans people. That was my situation in the 90’s when I first looked into transitioning. When I tried to channel my masculinity through my female anatomy as an alternative, I of course kept getting mistaken for a butch lesbian which was even more insufferable than appearing as a heterosexual looking woman (no offence to butch lesbians). Fast forward 20 years and here I am, waiting for my 1st appointment at the Gender Identity Clinic!

[@kithand1106]

I think i am transgender but i'm 18 so i've already gone through full male puberty, i have a deep voice and a male body/facial features. Im really scared that if i go to the doctor and try and transition that when i transition i will not look feminine and i will look really masculine because i've already gone through puberty, im scared that its too late!!

[@t.deshawn6519]

Idk if you've started transitioning yet, but I would say, it is definitely not too late. Hormone therapy takes a while to kick in and make real changes, but if it'll make your outward expression match your inside, I think you should go for it. I wish you much love and happiness

[@faronwatts4048]

Wonderful video!

[@ravensilverleaf]

Never too far on in life to transition (I dislike the word "old", to many negative connotations) I am doing it in my 50's.

[@Teeande40]

Im doing it at 80yrs old and like some said , its not going fast enough.

[@Jan-go6sr]

@@Teeande40 Hey Terry.... I began my transition (FTM) 3 years ago, and will be 68 next week. Would like to chat sometime if you are available.

[@Teeande40]

It is so hard finding older gendermen. It would be a pleasure to chat with you. Let me know how it is can be done

[@Jan-go6sr]

@@Teeande40 My email is [e-mail] if we could connect that way to start. I am in Tennessee, but also staying in Georgia, possibly relocating there.

[@Teeande40]

Thats young to me. Bet 40-50 is when i should have stsrted but i lived in the carribean and didnt know about it.

[@pelenta.forrest6127]

Another well done video.There are alot of straight people who are very supportive of the decision to be trans because we accept people as they truly believe they are.We are not all Jerks.These videos are helping alot of people.Thankyou :)

[@Maxry-v2y]

Pelenta R. Forrest that's nice to know at my age 64 years old great for you positive

[@Laras_Infinite_Playlist]

This video has been MY big red barn! I ended up here for a reason.

[@meagan8666]

You guys look great, very happy for you both. My transition is the other way, MTF. I've been on HRT about three years and it is very hard at times. I've done all my legal documents and am about 2 years RLT. I started at 44 and it was to the point of transition or die...so I did. There are times when people are cruel and react in awful ways. Sometimes I get so tired of it all and just want everything to be over. It is great to see others make it and have a shot at being happy.

[@alnthevalley1]

Meagan Stone you certainly can get there too, it’s a proccess

[@freddytw206]

Meagan Stone Bless you my friend. I'm praying for you to be free of negative stuff around you. Fight negative thoughts about yourself, your life. Stop those lies in their tracks. Kx

[@Codytalks11]

Very inspirational :) Great interview!

[@ClosetTransgender]

Thanks bud!

[@harmboogie]

Thank you for this.

[@ClosetTransgender]

A beautiful comment! You are welcome.

[@harmboogie]

I am coming out now in my thirties, & while I *know* it's healthy & good to come out no matter your age ye olde societal bullshit sometimes gets in my head.

[@Maxry-v2y]

Rexasaur fk societal b.s. live your life they sure as he'll Live THEIRS good luck

[@user-se4ui3vy1k]

This is very inspiring. I am 31 and I need help to continue my transition. 😊

[@sad_doggo2504]

I think it's interesting how the biggest "personality change" on hormones is just being happy... :)

[@Teeande40]

You said it all, happy. For years i knew i was a boy but didnt what to do with it. I lived like a boy all my life, loving and dating girls. Only time the girl thing came into play is when i had to go to school and church, then got home and it all came off. I always felt like a boy in a dress

[@David49889]

I started 3 years ago with 50!!

[@JayTee67]

Thanks for sharing this story. I am just coming to realize I am probably transgender but it seems so overwhelming to do anything about it this late in life.

[@ClosetTransgender]

The "overwhelm" factor keeps many people down, but since these feelings never go away you end up overwhelming yourself in a different kind of way-- mainly all the work you need to do to keep your own feelings and needs sir pressed. It's a weird kind of balancing act, but we all do it in our own ways. Use this place to get questions answered and find support as you need it. I'm here for you bro!

[@katie2858]

Really excellent video. Thank you for this.x

[@proudvirginian]

I've known there was something different since I was in third grade and knew I transgender, since highschool, but I waited (couldn't tale hiding it anymore) until I was 42 to transition.

[@ClosetTransgender]

It can take time, this internal invisible struggle we have... It's remarkable how it doesn't go away, being trans is always there, and doesn't mellow out with time. When you finally take the plunge-- at least in my case, I found it was totally worth it to transition. We all have our process and I find the various stories fascinating.

[@ssebastian5914]

I've had these thoughts. but 4 me, if i cant be a man in my 20s, is it too late? its like I'd miss sumthin if i couldn't go bk & be male from grade school on. im 43. i hope 2 someday make the change after i change employment

[@Maxry-v2y]

Shawn Sebastian be a better man conform to your own rules and learn from what you've seen

[@alexella9689]

I relate to censoring myself from something for a little while. In high school I really began to understand and accept different sexualities existed beside heterosexual. I considered myself a straight-ally. Towards the end of high school I had this suspicion I was bi and attracted to women and I just kind of put it to the back of my mind. When I look back I realize how much I kind of was not really recognizing. For instance, anytime women changed their clothes in front of me I felt this need to look away, to be extra respectful, and I think it's because in the back of my mind I knew I was attracted to women. I think sometimes people do this because they are going through a lot of other stuff. For me my mom had just married someone I didn't like and my bio-father had hurt me pretty badly and pretty much abandoned us, and we got a restraining order against him. I think I am trans in some way but I don't completely know how, but I also think I am recognizing a lot of the stuff I put to the back of my mind. This is a long comment... lol

[@ClosetTransgender]

Thank you for sharing some of your story. Sexuality & gender are fascinating because even though these things exist within us, because of the way we develop as people-- there are certain things we find out as we grow. What I'm mean is: we get surprised by things about ourselves! We are all mysteries in a way, and while we understand ourselves the best-- we still spend our lives understanding & learning what we are. It can get confusing at times, sometimes we want to hide or ignore it all-- but the one thing we can never hide from is our very own self. Way to be brave, it sounds like you are on a quest, looking for answers and there is a good community here online that can help, so feel free to ask questions and be part of things. Good luck my friend!

[@RubricalLou]

Great stuff as always. How do you meet so many amazing people?

[@ClosetTransgender]

We're surrounded all the time and sometimes don't even know!

[@RubricalLou]

ClosetTransgender Ha, you got me. That's very true.

[@judexxxxxx]

Brilliant!

[@clairemurray9295]

You guys are awesome, I love you x

[@BrieBrowne]

Looking great for 43, more I would've said about 30ish , and Forrest bout 27ish ! Thankyou For sharing you story Cheers Guys 💖💙💛❤️💚💖Brie

[@ClosetTransgender]

You have such a big soft heart it's wonderful! Plus you add so much color to the comment section with your hearts I love it!

[@TheRegina3108]

Anyone who didn’t feel like a male in a female body before age 15-20? Is it possible to get the feeling later in life?

[@alnthevalley1]

“Little things” hardly- those are huge steps, and yes, totally get the idea that one will settle with the idea that, “these are the cards we were dealt so this is it-,” until we recognize that in fact, insurance companies have made it easier to be understood and friends, family, even strangers are far more understanding and supportive than they have ever been throughout history- in my opinion. I too just sprung to a couple of friends and with two family members of my intentions at 53 prior to starting my T. Now I am 3 shots in and confident that this is finally a time for me.

[@ssebastian5914]

Thx 4 this brothers 👍

[@jara2472]

If it's never too late to transistion then why are puberty blockers a thing reccomend to trans kids? I'm not saying anything against that. But it does prove that a lot of the changes puberty does is permanent. I'm not saying that you shouldnt transistion cause of age. But I feel in my case it is too late. I'll never be accepted seen or loved for I feel I am on the inside. And trying to transistion after so many failed attempts is a waste of money I dont have and time.

[@karmamelk9]

I wish puberty blockers were available when I was growing up since I've known I was trans since I was a child. But given how my family was and is, I probably wouldn't have benefited from them anyway. I hear you about the cost in money and time (my main concern is am I healthy enough to recover from the surgeries - top surgery would be my priority)?

[@karmamelk9]

Btw, what did you mean by failed attempts at transitioning?

[@quadencaroline3368]

@@karmamelk9 i had a baby as a solo mum at 47. Many people say it s crazy and dangerous. It went much better than xhen i had my first baby when i was 29! And i m sure it was because i had no one around to tell me i was wrong or nuts. Just supporyive people. You just have ONE life. Don t build regrets with denial. Live yours. Wish u the strength to dare. No one can lift the weight of regrets the last day of your life. I was scared to hell when i got pregnant, but now i have my 3yrs baby girl playing beside me. We both wish u the best! U can do this! ❤💪

[@finalomega8894]

I completely did not realize the guy on the left was trans. Wow.

[@reneerobinson3559]

Forrest, may I ask how old are you? I can't tell. You have a baby face but you sound more mature. I ask because your perspective sounds different from many other trans guys who are in their early 20s.

[@ClosetTransgender]

Nicole Robinson I am older, closer to 40 than 20.

[@GamerNite2007]

Mr Garrison?

[@acegibbons6490]

never to late.........need to step off the ledge

[@ClosetTransgender]

Yes my friend. Know that you have time, space & the support of others who can relate. Many of us are changing later in life, another recent video is an interview with someone transitioning over 50-- I'm inspired every day. Thank you for finding these videos.

[@acegibbons6490]

+ClosetTransgender ....thank you for posting them.....I'm just trying to figure out how to approach this with my fiancee.....

[@ClosetTransgender]

Those closest to is can have the strongest reactions. But the reactions are theirs, they must go through their own processes. Just as a transgender person is scared/nervous to share that information about the self-- family & loved ones also have an initial fear reaction. The key is to be stable & ready to guide, share & listen to the people love you.

[@acegibbons6490]

I have always struggled caring about how my choices effect others. Thats probably what got me to 28 without really thinking about myself and what I want. I dont even know how to start the convo but.

[@ClosetTransgender]

The start of the conversation is the hardest, but that is the case with most big moments. Sometimes it helps to write a letter to get your thoughts & feelings out. Even if you don't send or use it. Your life is really yours, and you are strong enough to be honest with the people you care about. Ultimately being real is what brings strength, love and support into your connections.

[@jeffreemcmillan2288]

I need to talk to you Chris ..... Please

[@nnatti2065]

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