Trans Man: Stop Victim Blaming Detransitioners!!

[@marcusdib]

#detransstoriesmatter

[@paradoxexposer4820]

The fact they take other people’s experiences and existence as a personal attack on them and their beliefs shows they are afraid. Would say more but I’m not allowed to. Either way. #EndDetransphobia

[@paradoxexposer4820]

First they say it’s not happening. Then when evidence come out showing that it was and is happening, they tell the victims to “get over it”. “It’s not happening. But if it was/is then it’s good and you should get over it”

[@paradoxexposer4820]

#EndDestransphobia

[@paradoxexposer4820]

This platform keeps censoring me.

[@AthenaNKnight]

No they don't. Especially when they are used as an attempt to invalidate Transgender rights.

[@Lloyd-Franklin]

When my sibling transitioned in the 1990s she had to go through two years of therapy and then one year of living as a female before hormones and surgery was even an option. It is concerning now how doctors will prescribe or refer a person after one visit.

[@paradoxexposer4820]

They look at behavioral traits and clothing preferences as signs… even though once upon a time, like 8 years ago, they claimed it was bad to assume that people must dress and act a certain way based on genitals…

[@davewilliams5357]

here in the uk we did something on the same lines but 2 years as a woman including the clothes many visits to ur doctors theropy and still ran a chance of being told no but last say 10 years we sorta went through the same thing with traviscock centre many early teens being given blockers which as far as i know they are banning for under 18 yrs old regarding usa i strongly think its all about the dollar and i feel for all who regret what has happened in their lives

[@CloeWebb]

@Lloyd-Franklin 7 years ago my therapist didn't offer or push me into it. After about 7 months I asked about the possibility of starting HRT. She replied she wondered when I was going to ask. When I countered with when she would have referred me to the endocrinologist she said after my second session. It was 4 years later before I was ready to go on toward anything surgical. As much as I felt it was right, I wanted more to KNOW it was right for me each step of the way and I sure wasn't going to let anyone tell me what to do. I wouldn't change a thing about my journey.

[@jodie1556]

That's exactly how it should be. Medicalization should be the last resort in treatment. These people are disgusting hating on detransitioners

[@melt2947]

Because it’s now political..so damn the patient, it’s not about them anymore. It’s actually diabolical.

[@stazvilliers6056]

I’m a detransitioner. I transitioned at the age of 13. I’m currently detransitioning at the age of 22. It’s so hard and people try to silence us. Thank you for telling our stories. And making us feel less alone.

[@stazvilliers6056]

So many years of being a trans man. And it was all for nothing. Something in me clicked this year. Out of nowhere. It made me feel that I was living a lie. That being a man is wasn’t for me. And I just knew that this madness, this craze, was all it. It was nothing. I was tricked, I was lied to. It was all for nothing. They told me this was the cure to my unhappiness. But it wasn’t. Proper therapy was. And now I see my truth.

[@stazvilliers6056]

I am a beautiful, proud and happy woman. Happy in her own skin. I am free. I am loved. I am whole. Thank you for speaking of our stories.

[@EchoTense01]

You’re valid 👍

[@creoshin9082]

The MAGA crowd stands at your back. Most of us dont give a fuck about adults to transition, soo long as you dont cram it down our throats. But we absolutely HATE every single Liberal/Progressive who is pushing this on to children, and those who silence others who realize they made (or were helped to make) a terrible choice.

[@trenae77]

Praying for you to find support and encouragement in the space where you live.

[@fuzzykyrra]

It's important that detransition voices are heard- especially for those at the beginning of their transition journey so that a person considering transition can hear both sides of the story before going forward with medical interventions that are difficult or impossible to reverse. My only point of contention with many of the detransition stories I've heard is that no one is mentioning the doctor shopping that goes on when they might have been refused transition interventions and went doctor shopping until they found a doctor who provided the treatment they sought... and how they accused doctors of being transphobic for not providing the treatment they sought.

[@paradoxexposer4820]

#Detransphobia

[@ttrev007]

These days doctors can get in deep trouble if they don't support self identification. i bet the doctors who are more cautious have been pushed out for fear of loosing their license. maybe they did not doctor shop.

[@PallasAthena-d4b]

Any link? I never heard of such a story so far, but I'm surprised and interested, because usually, in blue states, doctors cannot deny transition unless they accept being smeared with accusations of transphobia. And many gender clinics are easy to find and too happy to welcome potential clients.

[@HansLemurson]

I made sure to watch a lot of detransitioner videos to make sure I was getting a balanced perspective on things and wasn't just listening to an affirming echo chamber before deciding to go ahead. I felt it was important that I be very certain that I wasn't doing things for the wrong reasons, and what the mental traps were to look out for. My gender dysphoria was never very strong, and was intermittent, but it just wouldn't go away. It was like "pressure like a drip drip drip that'll never stop..." Been on hormones for 7 months now, and I've been feeling great mentally and physically. Some initial panics that made me take a step back and be REALLY sure about going forwards, but every step forwards feels good. Taking things slow and not rushing into things or demanding pronouns before I can even be _close_ to passing.

[@ashurmom2969]

My daughter decided at 12 that she was a boy… we talked thru it and got her some other non family members to talk to her and persuaded her to wait until at least 18 to do anything drastic. She is now a fairly well adjusted girl (17) that has decided that she likes being a girl and that other issues were getting in the way of her mental health. So grateful that we were able to be rational and work through issues that really weren’t about her gender 🙏

[@jennybean1985]

Thank you Marcus for bringing SO much awareness to this subject ❤ thank you for standing up and speaking out!

[@KoalaOwlPaws]

I teared up watching this, these sweethearts speaking out, and I pray for them for love and all the affection they deserve. It hurts to see people demean detrans people. Thank you Marcus for giving detrans people a voice.

[@paradoxexposer4820]

#Detransphobia

[@misscollagealot]

I want to hug sweet chloe 😔💔

[@OffensiveDetr4nny]

Thankyou for saying that! But don’t worry too much, we are fighting to end the nightmare. We may be able to handle it better than expected, but we don’t want to see countless more victims to this ideology!

[@narmstudio]

OMG THREE PEOPLE I LOVE ON KZbin IN THE SAME ROOM where they in Denmark or did u go somewhere to meet them. It makes me so so happy to see a danish guy like you make this kind of content. Blair white woke me up a little year ago

[@DMSProduktions]

Were.

[@РодионКрац]

Somehow I got on this video really early so I must leave a comment in my opininon. I struggle with my mental health and what I think is gender dysphoria included but I can't claim cause im not a doctor. In my country transition banned completely for everyone and also coming out as LGBT is a bit risky for your future and job. So I needed to figure things out my own way and sometimes im feeling really done with everything because i'm not even legally adult why the f I need to know so much by myself and analyse by myself to not do mistakes? Your channel helped me out to look on things from different perspective and opened my eyes on whole ideology. It felt really like I opened my eyes on their lies. I'm trying to both remember what reality is and think about possibilitys of what I need to do if all things goes certain way. I just want to prevent really bad things. I don't want to regret. Sorry I started crying while typing. Thank you for you work Marcus

[@theartisticvampire2598]

I hope it works out and if you are Trans that you find a safe place to do so.

[@hisen3.146]

I believe you. I can't say I know much about your situation, but you need help. Have you discussed your mental issues with any adult you feel comfortable talking to? I can only imagine how terrified you must be but having even one other person on your side makes the struggle infinitely easier. If you have to, write it down what's upsetting you on a piece of paper and safely burn it afterwards or make it into a paper aeroplane and throw it to the wind. Get a penpal from another country, even. That way it's less likely to come back around to you if you don't think you can trust anyone. As for your gender dysphoria, it can 100% be that but there can also be other factors. My one recommendation is you don't give up. Even at the lowest of lows, keep yourself alive. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. There's someone that will miss you when you're gone, someone that wants to help you but you can't realise it. And before you know it, you'll either find a way to cope or you'll know for certain that it's dysphoria.

[@bluer_than_sky]

привет от лесбиянки из России🤝 тоже в ахуе, что гендерный переход для детей оказался не пугалкой пропаганды на Россия 1?

[@OffensiveDetr4nny]

And that’s all we will ever need is backup! Thanks to Marcus and Buck people are starting to see us and what happened to us! We’ve been through puberty 3 times though, so our skin is too thick to care about those snowflakes on TikTok coming after us! I’m glad to paint a target on my back so others won’t have to! It’s amazing seeing more people support us and give us the spaces to make our voices heard over the screams of the woke alphabet mafia!

[@afroaesthete3701]

I’m really happy for you, and I hope you find peace in the uncertainty of youth, because it means you have options! At 32, I’m learning so much about myself and changing as a woman. Life can take you so many places, and it’s not your job to predict or control every part it, just to live it and learn along the way ❤

[@QueSeraSeraaaa]

More and more people are rejecting the ideologies lately, they managed to break free from those lies and illusions done by the activists.

[@OffensiveDetr4nny]

Sometimes it takes a motorcycle crash and out of body experience, but eventually we get a clear mind! We may not have them anymore, but we have the balls for this fight!

[@DMSProduktions]

Peak 'woke' has been reached, & is now on the downward slope!

[@lorrainechamberlain7818]

Oh Marcus…you are such a beautiful human being. I hope you keep doing this even though it’s going to take a long time for corrupt “professionals” to be stopped, and gaslit parents to wake up…it’s GOT to lose favor one day, and children will once again be protected. Your message is vitally important! Love to you. ♥️

[@gerrisullivan7372]

I'm not a subscriber but I do find your views on your true community very important. Also i can feel your sorrow for the young people that transitioned and regret it. Anyone with a beating heart can see it. What you have to say is said with conviction and power. Keep doing what your doing. I believe you're helping more people then you might know.

[@thatgirlsh9503]

You should subscribe, helps spread his message!

[@KrystalJayde1187]

Shapeshifters' story touches me, especially. There is a gentleness and vulnerability to his spirit that's palpable even through videos. I wish him and all detrans nothing but love and peace. When Chloe talks about not being able to breastfeed her future child..the pain in her voice hits so hard as a woman. Her advocacy and inner strength simply are special. Great video! Love this channel! ❤️

[@emmag683]

Love your channel and Im so sorry for the people who detransition, they are valid too and its so hypocritical to not hear them out

[@paradoxexposer4820]

Call it what it is: Detransphobia. Unlike the meaningless slur they hurl at us, they are actually being irrational by the very existence of these people. We say we don’t want 50% of the population sharing the same private spaces as the other 50% because we don’t know who is a predator. That’s not an attack on these specific individuals or this very small community but because they are self centered, they act like it and that’s all their slur really refers to. But Detransphobia is real as they are the slap of truth they don’t want to believe in, that destroys their fragile belief.

[@jm7804]

And the trans community immediately tries to marginalize, discredit, silence, and discount their numbers.....exactly what they accuse others of doing to them.

[@C-U-Never-Troll]

Sending you lots of love Marcus! Happy holidays to you also ❤

[@KJ-ut4rw]

My comments keep disappearing lol. Not sure why, as I’m not saying defamatory. Anyone else has the same problem?

[@salazar556]

Yup. KZbin will delete comments if you say certain words. It doesn't matter the intent.

[@Maieveryday2]

Yes for sure. Random comments deleted by KZbin.

[@paradoxexposer4820]

#Detransphobia

[@paradoxexposer4820]

Yes. This platform has me on a word triggering black list. Because certain words you used offends them, they make it where you can’t say them at all. I can’t even mention the name of this platform.

[@paradoxexposer4820]

Same. I can’t even mention the name of this platform…

[@CheddarCheese.]

Im a trans man, and I disagree with many of Marcus’s beliefs. (I’m not looking to debate atm, please don’t start) However, I agree with his stance on detrans people. I think there should be more gatekeeping in medical transition aspects & detransitioners should not be shunned. They should be supported & given adequate medical care.

[@melt2947]

It’s terrible..people should leave other people alone! They have NO RIGHT TO JUDGE PEOPLE WHO WANT TO DE-TRANSITION! MUCH love to everyone struggling to leave a “community” who choose to viciously spew hatred. Love one another, no matter what you choose for yourself. Live and let live..these people who are attacking, need to stop trying to shut down the voices of others, who have EVERY RIGHT to share their stories. Keep to your lane and do you. Not everything is about you, you malignant narcissists!

[@Tashxo]

I seriously want to talk about my story , but its always dismissed since i never medically transitioned. But it still mentally affects me to this day. Maybe one day i will ignore everyones criticisms and finally find that strength so many others have.

[@OffensiveDetr4nny]

It’s just as important as those like me that had bottom surgery! I may not show my face to protect my family from the people that hate us, but I do what I can and talk to parents or other young adults! One day I may have to show my face if Cambell, Miller and Payne takes me on as a client to end this nightmare for good in Florida, but till then I will do what I can! And trust me we have plenty of groups out there that would love to hear your story! Even anonymously!

[@rogerfinney2811]

I see some people call this "desisting" instead of "detrans", some folks are coming forward with their stories now too.

[@trenae77]

You have a story that needs to be- and deserves -to be heard. Even if you did not take the medical route, you were still dealing with the dysphoria.

[@TJMalana]

You tell your story when you’re ready to. Don’t feel pressured or compelled to do it. In the end of the day it’s your life. You have only one life to live.

[@katehack1677]

My heart goes out to these poor young people, so young to go through SO much 😞 Their heads must be spinning trying to understand what happened to them as children.

[@katehack1677]

Like this person... 7:23 They cannot remember why they transitioned, or what they were thinking at age 12. Was it trauma? Autistic disconnect? This is why we try to protect children

[@OffensiveDetr4nny]

It’s sad but it even happens to us as adults too! Young adults but even those is us with autism or Asperger’s like myself somehow we get singled out by the therapists we were supposed to trust! But don’t worry we went through puberty 3 times to worry about a little push back from TikTok alphabet warriors.

[@Dave1Claudius]

Children are to young to do this they need to be just kids . As a gay man this is wrong

[@jilliand6591]

I don't believe I shouldn't have been allowed to transition when I did. I have other mental health issues I wasn't aware of back then and only now coming to terms with 10 years after transition. Luckily I don't regret my transition but at the same time I was pushed into believing that I know what medical treatment was best for me and pushed into surgery before I was ready which I had complications from and has probably given me some PTSD. I am completely disgusted with the trans medical system and it was bad a decade ago but now its absolutely crazy what we are doing to people now! I regret how quickly I jumped into starting HRT and wish the medical system addressed my underling neurodivergence and anxiety issues. I would have had a better transition if I had addressed those issues first or maybe I could have even found a way to not transition but its too late now.

[@TheIrreverentUncleAl]

Happy to see you’ve come to terms with your gender identity.

[@skwerlz4us]

I often wonder if medicalization is the way mental health professionals are now disposing of 'difficult' patients. I know dysphoria was already difficult enough to treat, so now, if a patient is showing signs/symptoms of multiple other disorders/conditions as well, I seriously worry these professionals are choosing to go with trans treatment first just to make it easier on them (the professional). Basically, 'Ugh, this one's too complex. Lets send them off to the trans factory & hope they don't come back.' Many years ago I was diagnosed w/ BPD- but also MDD, ptsd, anxiety & OCD. Luckily the BPD & MDD have been treated & well under control for years but the OCD/anxiety has only gotten worse. I can't get anyone to treat it because once they piece it together I have BPD (I try to hide that), they refuse to treat me for anything separate I might want therapy for & tell me I have too many past issues- even tho I saw a psychiatrist for 10 yrs already, etc.. They clearly just don't want to deal with BPD. So I wonder if a similar thing is happening to trans people, dysphoric or not. That maybe professionals do realize the person has other diagnosable conditions, they feel it's all too complex for them & they choose to single out the gender issues just because that's an 'easy' fix right now?

[@Tylahh]

Hi Marcus; idk if it’s just me or not but I’ve been subscribed for over half a year at this point and I have your channel set to send me all notifications and I never get them! I thought you were taking a break or something, so when I went to your channel to see if you hadn’t uploaded in a while, I missed like 3 videos ! KZbin notifications are awful 😭😭

[@peacockcrowe2718]

First! Love your channel!

[@Melissa-he3hz]

You are wise beyond your years ❤keep up the good fight much love an respect sent your way

[@crossvinburn831]

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[@dianaroach3093]

John 3. One must be born again. Born of the spirit.

[@Teddypally]

Nah, I totally disagree. The drug abuser who defrauds the doctor and the pharmacy and the tax funded health system cannot claim to be the victim of a system when their own fraudulent actions is the cause of the harm. The problem arises when the drug abuser to diagnose their own condition. You can blame the activists for that. The lawyers prefer to blame the party that they can sue for money, even if that party is not to blame. If you keep on this path, that just makes you into an activist. And I mean that in the worst interpretation possible. You're helping no one, defending the indefensible and shielding the culprits and shifting the accountability and damaging the greater good.

[@charminsi]

Some of these detransitioners were told to transition when they were minors? You’re still gonna call them drug abusers? What is wrong with you?

[@amysymiltongamequeen]

Drug abuse? They were literally converted into the opposite of their biological sex because their parents believed by the doctrine that if boys like something feminine, they must be girls and vice versa or those who are so captured by T community, as soon as their baby born, they treat their baby as the opposite of their biological sex and even transitioned them before they can consent as young as 4! How did you call them drug abuser when they were given HRT and surgery before they can consent because they were still so young and influenced by their environment, parents, and doctors?

[@OffensiveDetr4nny]

Awww how adorable! A woke teddy bear, probably an AGP! It’s so adorable you don’t know how the real word works then you become a big and brave keyboard warrior! Any grass around you? How about a bottle of warm milk for you! But you go be a big and strong keyboard warrior little one! Doing a whole lot of nothing 🤣🤣🤣

[@rogerfinney2811]

It isn't fraudulent on the part of the patient to seek "treatment" when they genuinely believe they are trans, even if they are actually confused or mentally ill. While I'm not sure most medical professionals or insurances can be reasonably sued, it is a larger part of the medical system that they were pressured by activists to push poorly-studied "treatment". Someone needs to be responsible to "catch" patients who would be unsuited to transition.

[@pixie_dust1985]

🗑 take. Kids and parents were told that the patient *the child* would unalive themselves without surgery.