🏳️‍⚧️Trans = not allowed??🤨🤦‍♂️| r/FacePalm

[@tortis6342]

"OT takes off sunglasses to reveal another, smaller pair of sunglasses" is my favorite running joke on this channel.

[@OneTopic]

Hehehe

[@AsherHenry-ey3mp]

Chameleon.

[@QuantumPrecision]

@@OneTopicwere you the first one to do that trend?

[@ashleycd6487]

i imagine if you remove the smaller pair, there's an even smaller pair of sunglasses

[@BubblyRainbows]

@@QuantumPrecision First place I ever saw it was when I watched my dad's DVD of the movie "Airplane," which I think came out in the late 70s or early 80s.

[@blairfujin]

fun fact about white wedding dress - it's not about purity, it's about queen victoria showing off she could afford a dress she'd only wear this one time and then others following her to show off as well

[@AsherHenry-ey3mp]

The people in power in ancient Egypt wore white as symbolism to their connection and closeness to god, and their purity, cleanliness, and simplicity in face of the gods as their host. Using this logic, wearing a red wedding dress would be the worst thing you could do. (Pleasantly informing this isn’t negative )

[@jaimicottrill2831]

@@AsherHenry-ey3mp In China, traditionally red is a lucky colour that brides would wear and white is the colour of mourning so definitely depends on where you live.

[@AsherHenry-ey3mp]

Thanks for the information, I think that symbolization in different cultures and areas is really fascinating!

[@blairfujin]

@@AsherHenry-ey3mp yes, different colours have had different meanings in different times and cultures, I was talking precisely about the modern western tradition of white wedding dress (before that brides, again, talking about christian europe, would just wear their best sunday dress for their wedding)

[@AsherHenry-ey3mp]

Ok

[@weasel7491]

My high school did something similar during prom awards. "Most likely to marry for money" with student voting. They gave it the SA victim. Teens can be awful and why the teacher in charge of the yearbook committee (who drafted the vote categories) didn't remove that category is beyond me. It's insanely not appropriate

[@verenabecker2724]

Complete lack of empathy, or at least insane levels if thoughtlessness, is the only reason I can think of why people would do that to someone. It's never okay to bring people down like this on a day that should be a positive memory for everyone involved. My senior yearbook is full of crap that the girl who borderline bullied me for two years had written down and for some goddamn reason the editors thought it was fine to print. So my page in the yearbook (and the pages of a couple others she didn't like) displayed all of her shitty, unasked-for opinions about me prominently in the 'quotes about' section. Like...really? Everyone involved who could have vetoed this really decided this was a perfectly acceptable thing to do?

[@MorgaineRiddlePrince]

That is INSANE levels of evil.

[@AnnekeOosterink]

😦 Wow. Just retraumatise someone? I just. I can't.

[@electronics-girl]

The only student-voted awards I ever got were "most likely to succeed - boy" and "best student - boy". Turns out they were wrong about me being a boy. And I don't know how *likely* I was to succeed, but in the end I didn't, at least not in any traditional way that it's measured. However, it's possible that I was the best student; I'm not sure.

[@graciep.6984]

What the… seriously? That’s an astonishing level of cruelty.

[@jase_allen]

26:26 The woman overly worried about her daughter wearing a white wedding dress should be more ashamed of her own ignorance. White wedding dresses never symbolized purity. It symbolized you were rich enough to be able to wear a dress only once or twice.

[@olivefernando7879]

Yeah, i think people used to wear their nicest clothes, not a specific dress

[@meh2510]

Even if a god were a stickler about what color dress one wore based on the number of naughties one had before their marriage and threatened eternal damnation over it...then it isn't a god that's deserving of adulation and respect.

[@betzaidacruz4541]

With the period "law"... I WAS 8 YRS OLD!!! Children NEED to learn about this sort of thing and I was wearing WHITE PANTS that day. THANX MOM!

[@graciep.6984]

I’m really hoping that was a sincere “thanx, mom” and not a sarcastic one. Chances are it was probably sarcastic, but I’m still hoping. It must be so frightening for anyone who doesn’t know what’s happening.

[@BCHANARTS]

@graciep.6984 I was 8 when I started my period. My mother didn't warn or tell me about puberty until it happened. She was not expecting me at age 8 to have started my period. I do not blame her but that day... making me wear white pants.. my ass was red of blood.. so.. the "Thanx Mom" was not sarcastic... but I know it was an accident. I have never worn white again since that day...

[@jurassicsmackdown6359]

8???? Holy shit!! And i thought i started puberty young at 9

[@BCHANARTS]

@@jurassicsmackdown6359 puberty is weird!

[@HelluvaSwiftie]

I got mine at 9, only good thing about homeschooling is that I had a book my mom bought me about puberty. Still can’t use a tampon 9 years later.

[@cyber3742]

As a trans student, I can in fact confirm that 'nickname' thing is real! I had to go through so many loopholes just to get my name approved- and even after TWO YEARS, I still get deadnamed by the staff and infinite campus. It makes me so unbelievably pissed that I'm not allowed to have MY name on MY hard work. I'm an honors and AP student and I've worked very hard to be where I am, yet the work still goes to a name that I no longer use :/

[@odstarmor557]

Then keep reminding them of who you are, even if it annoys them. Especially if it annoys them.

[@heatfromsapphire]

@@odstarmor557This is boutta be my strategy, just start every sentence with “As a trans woman,” and watch the world burn

[@johngellare3507]

Simply how the brain works tbh. If you know someone who uses 'X' as their name for a long time before changing it to 'Y', there's all these pathways that have been built up over time that have to be 'repathed' so to speak. This is because the neurons in your brain want to go the familiar and paved path, and have to be coaxed and forced to use the overgrown path covered in weeds and thorns. If every interaction is them deadnaming you, they're just transphobic and/or lazy.

[@AnnekeOosterink]

Ugh, that sucks 😒 virtual hugs from an internet stranger if you wanna? I'm Dutch, and cis, but in the Netherlands it's pretty common for kids to get long names that get shortened to "roepnamen" (lit. calling names) which technically are nicknames I guess. No one would bat an eye at a completely different (as in unrelated to the birthname) roepnaam either. I've never had any issues with this at all, except once, when I went to fly to Ireland. My roepnaam wasn't on my passport, but it was on my ticket, which for the Dutch people checking me in this was normal and they could clearly see that I was the person on the passport. For the Irish people checking me in on the way home, it was a BIG issue. My names didn't match, and there was no way I was the same person, eventually I got let on the plane back, but they genuinely made me go to Dutch customs separately to make them check it out accompanied by a flight attendant who was also suspicious. The Dutch customs officer just looked at me once, asked "roepnaam?" I said yes, problem solved. But my goodness was it a hassle. And that's without misgendering or transphobia into the mix.

[@professorbutters]

I’m sorry. I teach at a university. Hopefully once you’re in college you’ll be at somewhere more humane where you can be called by your actual, real name that you really use. My school’s going in the opposite direction and making it easier for students to change their names on the roster.

[@summercucumber4964]

If both the bride and groom agree to do a cake fight that's cool, but it's scary how often the groom forcing it on the bride turns borderline violent.

[@VeraTheTabbynx]

If that happens you've unfortunately made a mistake. Good on him for demonstrating that fact before your vows so you can GTFO

[@AngelinaParker]

It has been noticed that when a man does the force feeding cake thing at the wedding, the couple always ends up being divorced

[@Milk-ck1wv]

Ikr it's absolutely wild especially when i saw a video a women just put a bit on his nose with the tip of her finger and he THROWS THE ENTIRE CAKE AT HER!!

[@Annie_Annie__]

When I was 5 or 6, I saw my dad smash a piece of cake in to my stepmom’s face to the point that it went up her nostrils. Everyone was laughing at her. She laughed with everyone else, then left with a couple bridesmaids to go wash her face and try to salvage her dress. I went in with them and she was _not_ laughing in the bathroom. She said she felt like she couldn’t breathe, was stressed about her expensive makeup and the frosting on her dress. It always stuck with me. Especially since one of my biggest phobias is not being able to breathe. So at my own wedding I was terrified that my husband would do this to me. Every wedding I’d been to up to that point the bride had asked the groom not to do that and he did anyway. I trusted my husband, but I was such an anxious bundle of nerves that I couldn’t enjoy the reception until that part was over. And he didn’t smash it in my face (even though several family members tried to convince him to and even chanted “smash it! Smash it!”), it was very sweet. I just wish I had been able to relax and enjoy it.

[@KeithElliott-zd8cx]

if it's stereotypically the bride borderline snapping to ensure her day is 'perfect', it's the dude's perfect moment. and that is, revenge.

[@transformations4684]

I feel so called out: "How can you be afraid of people who just want to look handsome outdoors?" (Transition Goals.)

[@OneTopic]

💪🌲

[@planegu_y]

@@OneTopicgoofy ass

[@SlickRichard-vk5pw]

@@OneTopic OMG ITS OT!

[@DaOldSkoolHipHopJunkie]

@@SlickRichard-vk5pwthe man, the myth, the LEGEND!!

[@Thelastunicornlover]

@@OneTopic❤️❤️❤️

[@karinagutierrez7134]

As someone who got their period when they were 9, it is absolutely horrifying to me that they want to ban education on it until 6th grade. If I hadn’t already known about it, I absolutely would have thought I was dying.

[@SillyBatXD]

SAME!

[@aceymcchsa]

same here 😭

[@audiobooksforfree7857]

SAME.

[@sand_eater101]

I had mine by the start of 5th grade, when I was 11 years old, and I was actually the first to get mine out of all my classmates capable of getting one. I was so lucky to have had proper sex ed in 4th grade, but I think the puberty part of the ed should go all the way down to at least 1st grade. Children are not stupid, and it is THEIR bodies. They NEED to know what changes are going to happen, which changes can happen, and to prepare them for things they need to be ready for (like a period), maybe even a change in gender identity. I was so closeted and sheltered I had no idea what gender identity was before I stumbled upon a trans KZbinr when I was 12, and learned more about gender and sex through his videos than school sex ed ever did, and also how much I related to most of his experiences.

[@HelluvaSwiftie]

I kinda thought I was dying. I got mine when I was 9, I’d heard of it from a book my mom bought me. Luckily she noticed after I helped her finish a marathon because I’ve been scared of asking my parents for anything since I was young. I still didn’t know to use a tampon until 3 months ago. I’m 18.

[@gnaskar]

Malicious compliance: Forcing parents to sign a consent form when Joseph wants to go by Joe in class, to build support among the parents to get rid of stupid laws designed to bully children. For bonus points, make sure the bureaucracy works as poorly as possible for this, like making a separate filing for each and every class, losing the paperwork, and making them file it all again. Grind the bureaucracy to a halt. Oh, and if you are a student or a parent you can play this game too; make up a new nickname each week until everyone around you is sick of the stupid law.

[@gurusmurf5921]

And make the nickname long. Bartolomeu Pendergrass Widdershins. Demand the full name be used every time and throw a fit if they use pronouns.

[@lilacpenguin5329]

yes please, to everyone who can do this, please do this do this!

[@graciep.6984]

@@gurusmurf5921 Extra points if it’s almost impossible to pronounce.

[@anomaly_bunny7696]

@@gurusmurf5921antidisestablishmentarianism

[@srirachasalad]

request a different name be used every day

[@BreezyBee7]

It may be exhausting seeing what's going on currently in the world, but OT always makes it more bearable. Stay strong, everyone. 🏳️‍⚧️

[@OneTopic]

💜

[@WilliamBrowning]

🏳️‍⚧SOLIDARITY🏳️‍⚧and LOVE🏳️‍🌈

[@aizo111]

I totally agree... I also read that first as beardable.. which I mean still works. 😅

[@elbot8048]

​@@OneTopicOt try café pilão, it's a amazing coffee

[@John_Weiss]

22:53 As someone whose *_PhD_* dissertation was, "Where 'Chaos Theory,' and 'El Niño', Intersect," let me tell you this: the obvious pattern _is that the numbers increase by 1._ If the test-writer wanted any other answer, then they're playing stupid 'gotcha'-games with question-wording. And that doesn't test math. This. This is an example of why _actual Mathematicians_ and anyone in a heavily-mathematical field, like Physics or Engineering, utterly utterly _despise_ math-tests like this. Because they're total bullsh1t, meant to trip up, trick, or trap students, not teach them anything. Well, it does teach them one thing: it teaches them _to _*_hate_*_ math_ and think it's hard. But we Physicists, Engineers, and of course, actual Mathematicians, know how much fun and how interesting math can actually be.

[@jaysea5939]

I had to go to reddit to see what the answer was and someone posted the McGraw-Hill answer which I found confusing as heck but it seemed like they wanted kids to notice how counting works in a base 10 system which....what a confusing way to show it and also give the parents no context clues to help their kids!

[@John_Weiss]

@@jaysea5939 As I said in my comment, that is _not_ what appeared to me, a software developer with a PhD in physics, specifically "Chaos Theory." You can't get more mathematical than that, _plus_ I _work in base-2 and base-16 _*_for a living._* If McGraw Hill was trying to get children to understand math in base-10, _they _*_FAILED SPECTACULARLY_*_ and _*_CATASTROPHICALLY._*

[@John_Weiss]

@dancingdyspraxicfairy Publishing company. One of those companies that used to print and sell books before Amazon was allowed to become a monopoly and force them all out of business.

[@llawliet1931]

As an ingeneer who failed math in middle school but did great at university I feel so seen by your comment. Thank you. I always thought it was just me.

[@John_Weiss]

@@llawliet1931 Oh, it's not just you. It's entirely how we _don't_ teach math. Yes I said _don't_ … I saw an article that once made the argument that what we teach isn't really math, and that's why students (1) hate "math"; and (2) think they can't do math. It's been so long, I can't remember the details, but it completely made sense and really explained how all of us who went into engineering, math, or physics _absolutely _*_HAAAAATED_* "math" in elementary, middle, and/or high-school.

[@philippak7726]

conservatives: "LiBeRaLs ArE SmExUaLiZiNg KiDs" - also conservatives: "yes, a child being congratulated for having biggest boob and butt is very appropriate and correct"

[@jakemarie828]

Good point

[@kiedisboughen5318]

Conservatives are also against there being an age of consent as well sex education in general.

[@krankarvolund7771]

@@kiedisboughen5318 Republicans vote against any attempt to ban child marriage for some reasons....

[@The-Plaguefellow]

Well, here's the thing. If Liberals keep smekshualizing and thus stealing kids, then how are the Conservatives gonna get their child brides and $laves for their doomsday bunker plans? The Conservatives have got to think ahead before that valuable resource runs out!

[@BisexualPlagueDoctor]

@@kiedisboughen5318 Short version: don’t slander people over politics (age of consent part) I’m not conservative or liberal but Jesus y’all both suck in the way you handle stuff lying about the consent thing is straight up an example of how political beliefs for some reason make people lie about each other for no reason but spite

[@cheese0827]

The more sunglasses he wears, the more power he gains

[@ickle1790]

get this man more sunglasses pronto

[@AsherHenry-ey3mp]

My theory is that OT is a chameleon who changes the colors of his skin to look like a person and the only thing giving him away are his eyes, so he wears sunglasses to cover them up. Perfectly reasonable and logical explanation. It even gives reason to why he likes frogs. I don’t know why, but they are both animals that have long tongues so there.

[@ickle1790]

@@AsherHenry-ey3mp dear god you're right

[@thelordofchaos-2009]

Anymore and he will be able to obliterate all homophobic people. Get this man more sunglasses

[@PinklizardfromRainworld]

​@@AsherHenry-ey3mpthis changes everything

[@Dekubud]

The accidental implication that banning trans women from beauty pageants and chess means they are too smart and beautiful for cis women to even compete against helps me avoid feeling completely depressed.

[@lucasmather4837]

Ether that or uh They are calling cis women dumb, so uh take that how you want

[@kiedisboughen5318]

@@lucasmather4837 nobody is attacking cis women

[@lucasmather4837]

@@kiedisboughen5318 no I don’t mean it like that I should explain it a bit more The news article saying that trans women are not allowed to be in women chess, accidentally just insulted cis women by hinting towards trans women have an unfair advantage in chess, pretty much being both transphobic and sexist at the same time Which is quite impressive not gonna lie

[@SanguineDoe]

The entire idea around women's only sports is "justified" by the idea that women are inferior to men in all regards. In reality its because men are a bunch of pussies who couldnt handle that women were starting to beat them in sports.

[@dukeskunk]

@@lucasmather4837 It's not accidental. The world of top level chess is misogynistic AF. They actually do believe that men are inherently smarter than women and therefor Trans women have an unfair advantage because they are really men. It is super gross on every conceivable level.

[@MaticTheProto]

🏳️‍⚧️ To all the trans men: you are not forgotten either, keep slaying bros 💪🏼

[@Watermelon_ahh19]

WOOOO

[@elijahisconfused]

thank you im currently coming out to my mom and im not sure how shes going to react, i hope it goes well

[@MaticTheProto]

@@elijahisconfused good luck!

[@elijahisconfused]

@@MaticTheProto tysm!! i did it and she said she supports me entirely, we talked about moving away to a safer place and she even called me sir when she got home from work

[@MaticTheProto]

@@elijahisconfused that’s like winning the lottery, congratulations! 🎊

[@AIHumanEquality]

As a trans woman I absolutely loathe how transphobic people act but at the same time they do say some of the most comedic things I've ever heard.

[@Milk-ck1wv]

They mad dumb and not goofy goobers

[@elainasynranelt]

ikr it’s hilarious

[@CleoPinto4317]

This comment is the most true thing ever said

[@Lilith_Reaver]

it’s funny yet stupid at the same time.

[@HirschfeldWillamette]

I AHM GAWDS TRUMP(ET)!!!!! lmfao

[@mossdragon123]

As a trans man, I can confirm that we all want to be handsome, just like OT

[@narnigrin]

I, too, just want to be handsome outside

[@discordiacreates6669]

Yeah ngl his beard is a goal, and if people didn't constantly misgender me or mistake me for a teen, I'm almost 25, I wanna grow my hair out a little and dye it but I've already done blue so I won't copy that ^^'

[@blakelopez6309]

Same

[@alkyoneus]

i'll drink to that brother

[@randomnumber27]

This. I just want to be handsome

[@maironelfstone896]

The whole thing of not allowing teachers to use a child's preferred name without parental consent is so dangerous. My heart goes out to all those trans kids who are missing out on much needed validation.

[@BrowniePembroke]

I'm one of the unlucky ones to live in Arkansas and still be in school (I'm getting out ASAP) However I am lucky that my mom is accepting so at least I can keep my name

[@maironelfstone896]

@@BrowniePembroke Wishing you luck, you can pull through it! I'm so glad your mom is accepting. Much love ❤️

[@flowerchildvoid]

Funny thing, in my district, the teacher can still choose not to use the students' preferred pronouns even if the student got parental consent which really hurts

[@FloridaManEvolved]

Hope all goes well with you and your future.@@BrowniePembroke

[@RoxyGotMoxy.]

Its also potentially dangerous as it could out anyone to parents who may not support them.

[@aiden3627]

I think it’s funny that wearing white for your wedding was never about purity it was about a British queen’s wealth and everyone wanted to copy her

[@LittleMaitea]

I just saw it and was looking for that exact comment. Thank you!!!

[@BaiXue27]

yes! and in so many cultures today wedding dresses or whatever is worn to the Wedding are still not white

[@joylox]

It's such a weird idea to me. As my aunt wore white to her second wedding when she already had teenage kids, and I didn't wear white to mine, despite my dad complaining that other colours are only for second marriages. I wore a light pastel blue, made it myself, and got so many good comments!

[@chaoticdetectivepeach]

Yeah white fabric was hard to come by, and got easily ruined, and back then nobody who wasn't nobility could afford to buy a dress to wear one time

[@adidi7789]

@joylox My cousin's wife wore a silver flapper-inspired dress for their wedding, and that was the most gorgeous wedding dress I ever saw. It suited her so well, she's very tall and thin, perfect for a dress like that

[@inkdemon6065]

As a woman, the 'Don't say period' law is so stupid. Girls need to be educated on this stuff or they're gonna be freaking out when it happens. I got my first one in fifth grade but knew some girls who hit puberty early and got it in fourth. Are we supposed to think we're dying for two years? I didn't have a mom, where am I supposed to learn if the place made for learning won't tell me? I didn't have a phone to look this stuff up until the seventh. I love my dad but there wasn't really any way he could help with that stuff. Where are girls going to learn?

[@mallowwings]

Girls need to be taught this early. I got mine in 6th and was taught beforehand luckily. But this needs to be taught after all periods can pretty much start after 5 I've heard some stories. But teaching it around 3rd grade, would help a lot maybe a little later. I can understand if boys consider periods gross but I think it's disgusting for girls to make fun or/shame other girls for their period even though it happens to everyone. But even guys need to realize it's completely natural for us to bleed monthly. If you can't come to realize this then you'll probably never have a good female relationship.

[@Lilly-i8q]

Yeah, like, they don't even need to know why it happens if people don't want them to. They just need to know what it is and that it's normal and how to deal with it so they don't freak out and can function while it's happening, it's not that hard and it's not even inappropriate I don't understand-

[@CybernerdShua]

It's such an easy concept to teach. It's so stupid to deny people that info.

[@IT_217]

There's hopefully a level of malicious compliance in those nickname reports (teachers intentionally going overboard as protest against transphobic legislation) but some are probably just covering their own backs. No school is going to want to risk legal action by assuming a nickname is okay, no matter how mundane it seems.

[@narnigrin]

When I saw that I hoped for MC as well. But with shit being so insane lately ... it's hard to know.

[@alchemysaga3745]

​@@narnigrinApparently Iowa at least has MC going on in regards to the law.

[@professorbutters]

I’m a professor, and every time I go down the rosters on the first day of class, I tell my students that they can let me know if they want to be called something other than what’s on the roster. Students have all kinds of reasons for that, gender or ethnic or any kind of personal reason, and they don’t have to explain or justify any of it. Just tell me what you want to be called.

[@Lilith_Reaver]

trans rights are human rights.

[@nubezz214]

What did you say 🤨 SPEAK LOUDER!!!!!

[@Milk-ck1wv]

Say it louder for the science deniers in the back

[@Lilith_Reaver]

@@Milk-ck1wvi cant, im too quiet.

[@hartraiser]

Based

[@hexacomb4946]

The chess people somehow managed to be sexist and transphobic at the same time that takes skill

[@jecicox7605]

9:45 every singleone of those coaches needs to be fired immeduately and banned from ever coaching again. Ever.

[@karinagutierrez7134]

The wedding one seemed extreme until it said she had been asking FOR MONTHS to skip that. With that clear disregard of boundaries, the annulment makes sense

[@nobgs4505]

The worst part is, the second half of that said a family member PAID THE GROOM $100 TO IGNORE HER.

[@HumbleWooper]

@@nobgs4505 Yeah... if your spouse is given the choice between $100 or refusing out of respect for your clearly drawn boundaries, and they take the $100, they don't actually respect your boundaries. Actions speak louder than words. I'm glad she yeeted herself away from him, and I hope she finds someone better.

[@jimwormmaster]

Agreed. At first, I thought it was a bit ridiculous, but then again, that's why context is important. Knowing that she had asked for months to skip it, and that he took the money over respecting her wishes and boundaries, who's to say that wouldn't happen throughout the marriage? Run, Forrest, RUN!

[@annoyinglysarcastic9532]

I'm the type of person who would take the money then not do it and when they got mad at me pretend that I forgot. The best part being they wouldn't be able to prove I was lying cuz it's 100% possible that I did forget cuz I would forget my head if it wasn't attached.😂

[@sourwitch2340]

I mean someone ruining makeup that expensive, shows he either didn't catch on how much she put into looking good for the day or is wilfully ignoring that. so I don't think it was extreme in the first place.

[@silverdovawolf]

For that last one, I'm positive it's a form of malicious compliance by filing for every single name request a student makes, irritating/annoying all the parents into taking action in an effort to get that rule repealed.

[@karmica7591]

And they all should be doing so. That law is so stupid and dangerous.

[@melodycuthbert4840]

My youngest was watching a commercial with me & stated “this is why I don’t want to become a woman.” The commercial? A tampon commercial. So we talked about periods, pads, tampons, menstrual cups, & all of that. That women have the ability to choose what type of product they use. 9 isn’t too young to learn. I also made sure that she knows that period blood is not blue like in the commercials.

[@HelluvaSwiftie]

Your right, 9 isn’t too young to know, I got my period when I was 9.

[@mndlessdrwer]

As a dude, periods sound absolutely dreadful. Women really did get the raw end of that deal with evolution. Like, sure, balls are inconvenient because of how easy it is to induce pain in them, but you don't have to worry about sloughing off a layer of tissue from an internal organ every 28-ish days and all of the associated discomfort and cleanup. Curiously enough, and I'm not entirely sure of the reason why, but men are more predisposed to kidney stones at nearly twice the rate of incidence. So I guess we do get screwed on something.

[@VeraDragon]

I went to UHouston and that resource center literally saved my life. Had so much info about trans clinics in the area, how to get started transitioning, and has support groups. I was devastated when I learned about this from other who were still going there as I had just graduated. I could not imagine trying to live my life and transition without that place and it really chokes me up that it’s soooo clear how my state just hates us

[@nobgs4505]

It's one thing to make it not mandatory, then it depends on the various universities and stuff. But the fact they outright BANNED it is needlessly cruel.

[@John_Weiss]

@@nobgs4505 The needless cruelty is a feature, not a bug.

[@thatcatthatalwayseatsyourchees]

​@@John_Weissim so confused, this looks like it's supposed to be transphobic but then ur a member of the channel😂🤣

[@ShadowyPopcorn]

The old school poster about feminism cracked me up. I have a bumper magnet on my fridge that says, "Sorry I missed church; I've been busy practicing witchcraft and becoming a lesbian." lol Also, OT your laughter is super contagious and adorable. Thanks for being awesome

[@stillincompetent6844]

the "don't say period" law is also, fascinatingly enough, pretty rough for trans (MtF) or gay parents because unless they go out of their way to learn about it, they wouldn't have received lessons about that stuff so they won't be able to help their daughters in that aspect. And even if you go out of your way to learn about the things that go on in a cis woman's body, there's just so much of it to know about. a friend of mine once went on like an hour long rant about all the different ways a cis woman's body can just completely wreck itself and it just got worse the longer they went on. In conclusion: Education is important gang, in so many ways.

[@Khotetsu]

And even worse, everybody is going to have to turn to the internet to learn this stuff. It's not like these things are just going to go away if you don't tell people about them, they're just more likely to run into misinformation trying to figure it out.

[@Ajehy]

Or even single cis-het dads. There is SO MUCH STUPID!

[@TheAkashicTraveller]

Well unless they weren't taught in a school that arbitrarily seperates children by sex for these lessons anyway. I think it's pretty important to know both sides.

[@joylox]

Honestly, a lot of mom's don't even know everything. I'm allergic to the plastic used in pads so I had to switch to either organic cotton products or more recently reusable fabric options, and I also found out from a nutritionist, that feeling extreme nausea and dizziness as part of a period is not normal! Cramps are normal, yes, but if it's so bad you can't stand up and feel like you have a flu, that's not normal, and there are things that help, in my case, taking a prescription painkiller as well as Tylenol for the first couple days. Also learning about when to supplement iron is really important. Even if I just knew the different types of period products, beyond just the cheap pads the school had, and my mom showing me how to use a tampon so I could go swimming. There are so many more options than that, and not everything works for everyone. Some people I know use a silicone cup, I prefer leakproof underwear (especially Aisle and TomboyX that put comfort first), there are ways to make reusable pads, there are different materials used for different products (I've used disposable pads made of plastic, foam, wood pulp, cotton, or a mixture of those). I also learned the hard way that I prefer tampons without applicators, which BTW, should not be thrown in the ocean, I've seen way too many of the plastic ones wash up on the beach.

[@mamasimmerplays4702]

Parenthood requires going out of your way to learn about a lot of things you probably didn't learn in childhood. It's a lot easier these days than it used to be - we have internet, and you just have to learn to tell real from fake. Before internet parents had to ask at their local library and if your librarian was a judgemental or gossipy sort that could be hell on earth.

[@luci1st43]

that last one should be in malicious compliance, and is honestly a perfectly fine way to inform parents how absurd that law is

[@rolfs2165]

At the same time it's incredibly dangerous for students with abusive parents who might not agree with their choice of nickname.

[@John_Weiss]

21:23 This, actually, is quite true. When the movie, "The Madness of King George III", was run before an American focus-group, the concern was that the film was showing The Villain of the American Revolution in a sympathetic light. The actual result from the focus group? "Uh … where were parts I and II?" 🤦‍♂ Which is why the film was retitled, "The Madness of King George," for its US release. Yes, we in the US, we are *_that dumb._*

[@mangaanimefan89]

😂😂

[@mndlessdrwer]

Ah, yes, Americans don't understand suffixes. I am all too familiar with this. I am the fourth of my name in the direct male line. Many standardized forms lack my suffix.

[@EtherWolf2459]

​@@mndlessdrwerhello Mr. *Blank* junior junior junior. (Most forms that require a suffix either have it blank where you fill it in or if it's online have an other option that you can then type in your suffix.)

[@mndlessdrwer]

@@EtherWolf2459 nah, they have drop-down menus that let you select up to the 3rd. They didn't expect someone to be daft enough to reuse the exact same name four goddamn times in the direct male line.

[@EtherWolf2459]

@@mndlessdrwer oofa. I've always scene them at least have an other option. I'm so sorry

[@AmunetRa]

As a German I formally request we hand over our stereotype for being the most over-bureaucratized nation to the US because that nickname consent form is just overboard, even from our perspective. Thank you for your support.

[@chaoticdetectivepeach]

As someone from the US in the process of moving to Germany, I accept on behalf of the country, and then quickly flee before they can do anything about it

[@AmunetRa]

@@chaoticdetectivepeach Welcome, enjoy the socialized healthcare and according the Reinheitsgebot brewed beer

[@chaoticdetectivepeach]

@@AmunetRa Thank you lol, I hope I'm not too much trouble yk

[@marzipancutter8144]

It's more than just extreme bureaucracy sadly. This seems to be a law specifically meant to forcibly out trans people to their parents, and is part of wider Anti-LGBTQ+ legislation that, in certain states, are meant to make their life hell. I can't think of any other reason for this to exist other than letting transphobic parents control their childs expression. It may be funny that it's taken to such a ridiculous extreme that any common but gender neutral nickname also needs to be called out, but that just shows that these laws aren't meant to be practical from their conception, just hateful. The laugh is kinda stuck in my throat on that one. On a more positive note, always nice to see a fellow countryman. Let's not let this insanity reach us over here.

[@mamasimmerplays4702]

It feels like a big slab of malicious compliance. The school knows the law is stupid, knows it goes directly against their duty of care to the students, and is making this law everybody's problem so that everybody can see what a stupid law it is. I hope the parents get fed up with it soon and get the law repealed.

[@bariyou]

Cost of birth is one of the reasons a guy I know got a vasectomy. The man literally refuses to go into that kind of debt a third time.

[@FeelngGrey]

Of course us trans women can't play chess with cis women, Our masculine wrist muscles allow us to move pieces faster.

[@Amy_the_Lizard]

Honestly, I find it insulting that "women's chess" is even a thing. It's basically the same as saying women can't compete with men mentally, which is about as sexist as it gets

[@AnnekeOosterink]

And the delicate wrists of cis women will break if they so much as brush the manly strong muscly arms of a trans woman. We all know cis men and cis women can never touch lest the cis women die in agony.

[@mirandarensberger6919]

​@@Amy_the_LizardI heard (from another KZbinr, so take it with a grain of salt, but other people in the comments were backing them up, so...) that the reason they made a separate women's division in chess was that some men were harassing their female opponents. Like blatantly staring at their chest, making inappropriate comments, etc, all in an attempt to throw one's opponent off their game. Supposedly the women's division was created as an option so women could avoid all that, but women can still play in the open division if they want to. It was supposed to help women feel more comfortable playing competitive chess, so not actually a bad thing. Banning trans women from the women's division, though, that's just plain transphobia. It's the same as the bathroom terror-- the idea that trans women are really men out to victimize cis women. It's such a harmful and obviously false narrative. Plus they're forcing trans women into exactly the same uncomfortable situation that they were trying to help cis women get out of. Let's hope they get educated and change the rule.

[@randomaccount64]

Obviously!

[@WilliamBrowning]

I am a cishet GenX dude and this helps me to understand the innate transphobia, the default to bigotry, because this makes no other gobdanm sense.

[@demonicaturner]

6:13 In case anyone is curious, she tried to DIY tattoo freckles on herself with brown ink from eBay (beginning of the end) and a sewing needle. This woman is obviously not a tattoo artist if that isn't already clear, but the ink she purchased had a high amount of lead in it, causing the facial scarring and blindness in one of her eyes. Kids, remember if you want to have freckles tattooed on your face or just face marking in general tattooed on, just go to a tattoo shop, don't be this girl

[@commanderredjonkks5268]

why would you stick a needle in your own face and not expect anything permanent to happen??

[@gamergirl24]

The entirety of my sex ed from my parents was my dad making sure I knew that I'm expected to give bjs to my future husband whenever he asks. That's it. Everything else I learned at school and thank the Twelve I went to a school that actually taught about sex, STIs, and condoms.

[@404_Toonz]

Jesus fucking christ that man sounds like a rape case waiting to happen. (which admittedly is most incels) talking to your daughter about THAT kinda shit before they're an adult - and even after its still creepy AF - is just *shudder*

[@beatlever89]

This makes me feel bad for your mother who had to put up with a husband with this view.

[@ScarlettG0417]

That's awful.

[@aprilk141]

Dad was basically sexually abusive to you and your mom. Consent!❤

[@ScizzoringGirlz]

If i was in a room with your dad i woulda said “My husband will be the one giving me bjs”.

[@CassieAngelica]

He just disappears for over a month and expects me to watch him again? Insanity! And you know what? He’s right.

[@sorry_i_missclicked]

They had us in the first half, not gonna lie.

[@AIHumanEquality]

Pretty sure he leans to the left actually.

[@BeyondHydro]

Part of me hopes the teachers who report stuff like "joseph wants to be called joe" are trying to point out how ridiculous the school admins/legislation is

[@Sparksmakeup22]

I had to do a report for school on who's my hero and I honestly couldn't think about anyone but you OT, so I wrote a 1 page essay about how you are by hero and how you have made such a positive influence on my life, I got a A+. I really do enjoy your content OT and you were the one who inspired me to start content creating almost a year ago, so thanks for being the best horary lesbian and roommate OT. Also I absolutely failed at not face-palming during this 🤣

[@InsertGoodNameHere-wj7zj]

After a long, horrible first day back at school full of homophobia, transphobia and ableism, its always nice to wind down with an OT video :)

[@AsherHenry-ey3mp]

Them: “Are you gay?” Me, ina deep, manly voice: “well technically, yes.” Them: 😨

[@agoosed3281]

It gets better after you leave your school behind for good, never give up and never give in. Always have hope. Trust me, life gets easier after you’re able to leave those folks behind. Easier socially, anyway. No promises on it being a cakewalk in any other way though, that’s what building a community and a healthy support system is for. Chin up, stranger. You can do it.

[@dowitcher]

I’m a non-binary adult, and I’m gonna have to stay with my unsupportive parents for a couple weeks because of health problems. I’m really nervous about it, but seeing these videos gives me some hope that it won’t be all that bad. At the very least, I’ll have a place to escape to. Thank you, OT. You’ve given me a little corner of the internet to curl up in when I need a break. Update: I got my health stuff sorted out and not only moved out of my parents’ house, but also managed to move out of the deeply homophobic community I was in and into a more supportive area! Thanks for the well wishes, guys, I made it!

[@AnnekeOosterink]

I'm not sure what to wish for here. A speedy convalescence I guess? More supportive parents? ❤

[@dasilliestgoose]

i hope everything turns out okay!!! get well soon, much love

[@Queer_Nerd_For_Human_Justice]

Good luck comrade!

[@jaykitzybun]

Good luck my fellow non-binary human. I hope it goes as well as it can

[@hottest_moomoo_aghase3105]

Good luck my friend. I hope everything goes well for you❤

[@Loonymagix]

For that post restricting period talk in schools... Yeah I related there. Howdy I'm a trans man and I had my first period at the tail end of 4th grade and I WAS HORRIFIED. I had no idea what had happened and I genuinely thought I was dying. Kids aren't stupid and I really wish society would stop treating them like they are, the danger isn't them learning about things like this its them not being given the tools to understand the world they live in.

[@Saje3D]

Yeah, but that’s the point. The less you understand, the easier it is to use what you don’t understand to manipulate you.

[@pineapple_smoothie17]

My health teacher said that he knows everything about periods because he has three sisters lmao

[@mxwes1549]

Similar story here. I am transmasc and I had my period between 4th-5th grade and it just wasn't talked about. I had no idea what was going on. I was staying with my extended family at the time, and my aunt just handed me a pad and expected me to know what to do. I guess my family just expected that I was educated about this stuff in school?! I was so confused and I felt absolutely awful. And they didn't even mention periods in school until the 9th grade where all we got was a fucking info booklet.

[@cjt9834]

And another trans masc who didn't get a proper education here! my christian parents actually faked me sick to get out of sex ed in Grade 6 😂 my mom later tried to give me The Talk, but my normally very eloquent and intelligent mom could not get a single coherent sentence out. i eventually kinda pieced together what she was trying to tell me and told her that my friend told me all about "eggs and stuff" at a sleepover. Dear Friends, no. 😂😂 woefully unprepared for my first period DURING GYM CLASS and still didn't know what s e x was until high school introduced me to fanfic... oh and i'm still gay and trans so it was all for nothing anyway lol

[@tekcomputers]

@@mxwes1549 And that is why it important this stuff be taught in school. The same people that want to ban it are also the ones avoiding it at home. If they were teaching it at home, we wouldn't need to teach it in schools.

[@Flurrfyy]

As a Texan I'd just like to personally apologize for my state's behavior. Please excuse us while I give the entire state of Texas a chat about manners. All of y'all please have a wonderful rest of your day.

[@kimcarter129]

In Iowa, parents have to fill out a form in order for their kids to go by a different name and/or pronouns than are on their kids birth certificate. The crazy thing is now parents of cis/straight kids are complaining because they thought that it would only affect trans kids and not cis/straight kids ( going by nicknames) so they are mad that it affects them and their kids too.

[@narnigrin]

Oh, the old Leopards Eating Faces Party... Look I never thought the leopards would eat MY face, come on, I forking voted for them and everything they were supposed to eat OTHER people's faces!

[@SalamanderBSC]

Good old malicious compliance; doing *exactly* what they asked for.

[@EloquentTroll]

They never pay attention to who is going to be catching strays

[@odstarmor557]

Oh boo hoo, the poor bigotted parents. Let the leopards eat them.

[@kathleenlamb597]

I can't imagine filling out a form every year so that my daughter can go by Penny instead of Penelope.

[@hermeticbear]

I love that the lie that the white dress of the bride signifies that she is a virgin when it actually came about because rich people could afford a dress that one would only wear once and white used to be impossible to maintain before bleach and other treatments. It literally started with Queen Victoria.

[@johnwalker1058]

When looking through history, I'm kinda amazed to learn how many customs and traditions were basically born out of rich people trying to flex how rich they were at the time.

[@trishapellis]

@@johnwalker1058 This includes most beauty standards. What is considered 'beautiful' in any given culture tends to have a lot of overlap with how the rich look (for the ancient romans, pallor was beautiful because rich people never had to be outside in the sun - now a suntan is beautiful because the rich have the time and money to go lie on a beach somewhere while the rest of us are inside an office or McDonald's from dusk till dawn and never see the sun).

[@stephaniet1389]

Even better when you learn that the color that symbolizes purity is blue, which is the reason Mary is depicted in religious icons wearing blue and why the old poem is "something old, something new, something borrowed, something BLUE."

[@ragnkja]

@@stephaniet1389 And the two main reasons Queen Victoria wore white were that she wanted to wear a colour that *didn’t* have too much symbolism attached (of the most common options before then, blue had too much of an association with Catholicism and she’d already worn red to her coronation so if she wore it again at her wedding it could be interpreted as a union between queen and subject instead of simply being wife and husband), and she had some lovely white Honiton lace she wanted to show off.

[@hanramz]

The pure affection with which you say "get out of here" at the end makes my heart melt EVERY GOT-DANG TIME 💜

[@red5_skywalker]

The way that you've taken those words directly from my brain - that's exactly how I feel about it too!

[@ryanclarke3771]

"people who wanna wear programming socks." How can you viscously attack me like that 😂😂

[@WhyIsTheClosetDoorOpening]

32:52 I hate this so much. I’m a trans guy, out everywhere except my house, my parents are extremely transphobic, my dysphoria gets so bad sometimes that if I see the first initial of my deadname I have panic attacks. This law outed me to my parents and put me in a worse position in an already dangerous situation. I now have to see my deadname everywhere and get constant panic attacks while at school or at my house. The only places I now feels safe are whenever I’m by myself or with two specific friends. This law is literally life threateningly dangerous to some people, it’s s terrible thing to see happening.

[@da_anchovy]

That sounds terrible, i hope you will be able to finde a safer palce in life where you will be loved and protected by all. Stay strong out there

[@planegu_y]

Sorry about your parents.

[@da_anchovy]

I don't think that's a choice...

[@da_anchovy]

@bradleybrown8428 Sorry, i may have worded it badly. What I meant, is if a person discovers that they are not comfortable with being who they are, they cant "get better" by continuing to be that person. You cant just be comfortable with your gender (in this case) if you are already aren't comfortable with it, some changes sould be made. Of course it's not up to me to decide, i only have control over myself

[@WhyIsTheClosetDoorOpening]

@@planegu_y I, as well as nearly any other trans person, didn’t “choose” this. Being my assigned gender made my life hell. I transitioned in order to feel like a person, to not have every moment of my existence be one of dread. I doubt any trans person would say that they’re glad they were born with the body that they were just so that they could transition, most of us wish we could be cis because no one would choose to be in the position that so many trans people are in at the moment.

[@arch3r_istired]

honestly OT, jamie, and click are the reason i was able to come out to my parents. they're still working on my name and pronouns when they're speaking, but they've actually managed to remember when typing, so that's a step in the right direction. so thank you, OT.

[@Caldera01]

At least it sounds like they're trying to be supportive, which counts for a lot.

[@neonswan1482]

I'm autistic and trans, can't get help I'm in England and only 18, no doctor takes me seriously, These videos are like a breath of fresh air, something to laugh at and somewhere to feel safe, thanks OT Im so sorry my comments seem to have turned political... 2nd edit :will people stop telling me transmen don't exist and that I must be trans woman... I don't want a double d chest guys for dam sake stop arguing over someone else's gender and identity

[@Milk-ck1wv]

You poor thing you struggle so much in life. Your british. :c

[@neonswan1482]

​@@Milk-ck1wvikr.. Knife fights instead of school shootings... I'm missing out

[@godgamerluna]

Your missing out on the experience :( @@neonswan1482

[@A_Very_Random_User]

I feel that British pain. Really hope you're okay.

[@AIHumanEquality]

Sounds like some context is missing here. I've never heard of a British doctor refusing trans or autistic people before. Are you posting this for likes or is there more to this story you're not saying? Cause I know for a fact there's British doctors who will see trans patients.

[@quiestinliteris]

Oh nooo, I feel like the "for a schizophrenic" person was profoundly ignorant but still trying their best. "I have no idea what I'm talking about and no idea what YOU'RE talking about but I'm still eager to date you" is weirdly wholesome.

[@cardboard2night]

Sadly, no. I recognise this type of trolling. Non-binary = mental disorder in their eyes, therefore if they (trolling conservatives) will call you crazy or assume your mental diagnosis and then "play stupid". It's a bully mentality.

[@crypticlol]

I found that pretty cute anyway He was just ignorant about the existence of agender people and that's it

[@commanderredjonkks5268]

I mean they seemed kind of sweet in the end, but also any phrase like "you're pretty, for a X" is kind of fucked up. Why bring up schizophrenia at all even if you were certain that's what the bio was saying? Does mental illness automatically make most people look ugly, so it's THAT noteworthy if someone isn't? Putting a qualifier on it also implies that they're not pretty enough to just be called pretty, they have to specify that they're only pretty compared to that group.

[@lemolea9571]

​@@crypticlol He also mixed up schizophrenia and DID, poor guy swung and hit himself in the face

[@hazell1304]

As said it's a fake story and illegal, but the fact that mr tate is trying so hard to be anti non-binary then refers to someone as "their" in the same tweet is so poetically hilarious

[@meanberryy]

I have an innocent question. Wouldn't thee make more sense as the gender neutral pronouncevover they. She, he, thee.

[@wolfydawolf1296]

​@@meanberryythee (along with thou) was singular you back when thee and thou were in use, it's a second person pronoun where they/them is third person. Also, you used to be specifically plural and is now equally valid for both plural and singular uses since we've stopped using thee/thou. I don't believe there was ever a singular gender-neutral third person pronoun to put back into use, so they/them is getting the same treatment as you.

[@bananacat4339]

@@meanberryyyou know what m, this made my day. it's not often that you see a truly innocent question these days lol

[@sourwitch2340]

not entirely sure, but I believe they/them actually isn't getting the "you"-treatment but has instead been around as an explicitly gender neutral pronoun for a couple hundred years. it's just that the option was for the longest time "he or they, both are neutral" and at some point, circa 200 years past, it had to be decided whether legal documents should use "he" or "they", to ensure consistency. and they chose he, for some ungodly reason, which led to "gender neutral they/them" slightly falling out of favour. @@wolfydawolf1296

[@chaoticdetectivepeach]

Also Tate is the typa person to not call someone by their preferred name, like his birth name wasn't Emory

[@nounet5175]

30:10 so he doubled their rent but respected their pronouns in his tweet ? Tate is even more illogical than I thought

[@Juzokinnie]

As a trans man, your videos help me a lot. You are so supportive and educational.

[@Queer_Nerd_For_Human_Justice]

Hell yeah brother

[@ParadizeofChaoz]

As a trans man as well, i agree! OT is so supportive and nice!

[@gwblueberry]

Yay!

[@RandomHyena]

Hey OT, I just wanted to thank you. You and especially your r/ ace videos helped me realize/accept that I'm AroAce (the quote that if you are worried you fake it, you probably don't helped me a lot) and seeing someone be happy and ecstatic to cover these subjects showed me there are people who will accept me and others while not being Ace themselves. I love watching your videos and you always manage to make me smile, so again thank you for that.

[@FaeryPeople]

The fact that they're doing this at universities is pretty terrifying. Thankfully, I no longer live in Texas, but I feel bad for the family and friends I left behind.

[@PinataFreaks]

I am pretty sure the last one about asking for consent to call their kid "Joe" is just doing some malicious compliance to show how stupid the rule is.

[@themagicarrot]

Hi OT, I discovered your videos a couple months ago and have also somewhat recently started thinking of myself as trans, and your videos were what helped me feel so validated and made me feel like i wasn't a mistake the world wanted dead, so thank you so much. I binged through every trans meme video you had in less than a week

[@AsherHenry-ey3mp]

A whole week? Pathetic. I did it in days.

[@AsherHenry-ey3mp]

(That is not a derogative statement I am being silly, you are probably not pathetic)

[@Xanthelei]

@@AsherHenry-ey3mp If you want to make the joke again in the future and not worry someone is taking you seriously, you can replace 'pathetic' with 'That's rookie numbers!' and most of the internet will understand. It's been a thing since like 2000s or 2010s in gaming circles and escaped to the internet wilds at some point.

[@caeneusii]

Same! (Except I haven’t actually watched all the trans videos yet)

[@makinnir]

i'm not trans but damn is it sad seeing the amount of people hating people who are

[@crimsonking4379]

I guarantee that that school that is requiring parents consent on nicknames turns a blind eye to bullying and says stuff like "it's just words"

[@cicadathegod8277]

Im trans and as horrified as I am that people are so closed minded in this day and age, at least One Topic is here to provide levity while looking at these dark posts.

[@jakemarie828]

Yeah it's getting worse.

[@Dusted-Luck]

Hey, just remember that if someone is accusing you of being a groomer or a murderer, remind them that they’re disregarding the “Innocent until proven Gulity” law

[@kiedisboughen5318]

@@Dusted-Luck also use publicly available statistics to disprove them and even turn their accusation around on them

[@bombdotcom2168]

It's just so ridiculous that people can't just live their lives and let other people do what they want with their lives. Someone else's lifestyle isn't harming these people, but they still make an issue out of it

[@yotube155]

@@kiedisboughen5318 They. Do. Not. Care. Not about statistics, not about hypocrisy, not about "innocent until proven guilty". If the people throwing around "groomer" cared about any of that, they wouldn't do it in the first place. It's best to ignore them and pass the relevant information on to the people who aren't too far gone to listen.

[@Xp_Iggy]

I finally started wearing my glasses about a year ago, and by far the biggest adjustment has been remembering not to face palm at full force while wearing them. I am TERRIFIED for the day when I inevitably forget to take them off before face palming

[@mirandarensberger6919]

Yeah, the proper technique when wearing glasses is fingertips to the forehead and thumb to the cheekbone. No actual palm in the facepalm. I spent most of the video in this posture.

[@cyrilltate7065]

Pinching the bridge of your nose with your fingertips also works, but it's not much of a facepalm

[@forevernever3837]

The woman with the age plus birth year thing killed me she was so embarrassed lmaoooo but it made my night so well played girl

[@Alverant]

She should try having a birthdate in December. For me, that trick only works for about two weeks.

[@Guitarded4]

I’m a junior in high school. I started going by my middle name because my first name is a stereotypical mean girl cheerleader name (I’m friends with a few cheerleaders, I mean to say it’s stereotypical, no hate to cheerleaders) and multiple people have told me that I don’t look like my name and people generally struggle to remember it, when I told my teachers about me going by my middle name, they told me they legally couldn’t call me that until my parents filled out a form, which was *only* available online, no other form in school is that secure, it’s only nicknames, everything else can be done on paper. All just so I can be called by my legal middle name. While I’m at it, I started my school’s rock n roll club. The sponsoring teacher only got the principal to approve it because my school has no other music program or club and because I have a history of crippling social anxiety. I’d lock myself up in my room and couldn’t go in public, had to be homeschooled. She took pity on me and let me have my club. I teach kids to play guitar and drums, another kid in the club teaches bass guitar. Anyway the school won’t let the club analyze my favorite album and one of the greatest albums ever created, possibly the most famous example of a concept album, Pink Floyd’s “The Wall”, (which you can imagine is a very personal album to me with how I isolated myself for most of my life, or, built a wall around myself) because it mentions war. Even the mentions of drugs and sex tend to be implied! I’m not even trying to show the movie, which may be reasonably considered inappropriate for high schoolers to be shown in school. Just the album, which mentions bombs. I watched the boy in the striped pajamas last year in English. I read a novel about the holocaust which, in one of the scenes, depicted a father and son fighting to the death over a scrap of bread that the people in the town threw into the train car just to watch. I belive the son killed his father and had the bread for a brief second before getting killed by another victim in the train car. That’s not too violent or horrible for school, no, but the mere mention of bombs is. Also, keep in mind that I have no choice to be in English. I have to be in English. These kids *chose* to be in the club, and we’re the only club where the parents have to sign permission slips.

[@allanjmcpherson]

I betcha the admin who sent that message about Joseph wanting to be called Joe knew exactly what they were doing. It's malicious compliance. I approve.

[@coffeecatty]

To my trans and non-conforming siblings. I hope you get the love you deserve, and I'm casting a wicked hex to make sure you don't trip today.

[@seekervaltriz9447]

Well I'm casting a spell so you trip over that one thing you lost a while ago.

[@maironelfstone896]

Thank you! ❤

[@gone_mad-tryagainlater]

​@@seekervaltriz9447 thanks I was looking for that

[@AsherHenry-ey3mp]

Didn’t work. Thanks for the thought.

[@NekoYuki]

​@@seekervaltriz9447 the old "blessing in disguise" where you go "FOUND IT!!"

[@trainwreck_mk2]

Actually, wouldn't be suprised if the teachers sending those messages at the end are being maliciously compliant, just to show how stupid this whole thing is.

[@krankarvolund7771]

If I was a teacher there, I would ask any parent of a cis student to approve any nickname they are going by, and will "forget" the preferred name of the trans students if there are some in my class ^^

[@aaaaaaaaaa4059]

@@krankarvolund7771???????

[@gum_droplets]

@@krankarvolund7771 good thing you’re not a teacher 🤷‍♀️

[@krankarvolund7771]

@@gum_droplets Why? Because I suppport trans kids? ^^

[@Protodoggy]

@@krankarvolund7771the way u phrased it makes it seem like u would purposefully deadname a trans kid

[@Charlie_The_Human69]

My favorite part of every OT video(other than him just being there) is when he shows us something he found recently. Keep it up OT

[@dragooncaliber]

Thank you for these videos, as someone that’s been having a hard time to the reactions of coming out as trans to their family the humor is super appreciated right now. 💜

[@Ahrpigi]

As the proud older brother of a trans boy, even though we've never met I'm proud of you too. I sincerely wish you the same happiness and confidence I've seen in him since he came out to us. 🫂

[@angellittle1571]

​@@AhrpigiI second this! My partner has slowly been coming out and we just went and talked to their side of the family. (Could've been better, could've been worse) but the change that comes with finding love and support is sooo wonderful to see. Even if you don't get it from your irl family, OP, *this* family here in this community we've made is proud of you and wishes you the best on your journey. *This* family will always give love and support 💖🫂💖

[@frolikswfroggys6416]

Congratulations on coming out! You are so brave and amazing. Sorry, things have been difficult with family. Some things take time. Keep moving forward and being yourself. You are loved and you are valid.

[@anonymuscat1933]

I don't have much to say but, keep taking life one step at a time. And if you ever feel like you need it, the comments of these other wonderful people will always be here.

[@twinning1944]

I’m sorry you’re having a hard time with coming out. I’m so pleased you had the courage to come out. You are valid and you will find your people

[@tobyatlas6480]

Finally able to watch trans content after two years! I got top surgery this month which means i can be reminded that i am trans without immediately crying.

[@lovezett9476]

Damn nice i hope you happy with your top surgery has made you alot happyer

[@AsherHenry-ey3mp]

Supportive of you, but now I’m sad.

[@dr.gwendolyncarter]

🎉🎉🎉

[@ParsureArts]

Congrats!!

[@jondw]

congrats

[@KatelynDombach]

If I was a teacher in an area that required approval for nicknames I would 100% take that to 11 sending requests for everything I could. Eventually it would annoy enough parents to get them to try to make a change.

[@RandomInternetStranger]

Coming back to these videos after several months of living in the real world without much internet access because I'm broke af has done nothing but heal my soul. It's like returning home from war, it's so instantly therapeutic. Sure, the topics are depressing, but you bring it into a comedic light that's much easier to digest than the harsh world out there, which eases my mind and finally allows me a bit of time away from hard edges. I'm probably gonna start watching these before bed now, I'll probably be able to sleep a lot better that way.

[@KaitheChaoticLokiVariant]

I love your videos so much, they actually helped me realize that I'm nonbinary. Thank you, OT. I can never thank you enough

[@finn_in_the_bin5263]

15:43 it's giving the same energy as that one girl calling out pyramid schemes having to change her playlist title from 'anti-mlm' bc people thought she was talking about gay men in some of them (MLM as in men-loving-men rather than multi-level marketing like she meant) 😂

[@arrow_awsome]

'fun' fact that apparently had been forgotten and needs to be reminded of: suicide hotlines were invented after a young girl got her period; diddnt know what it was and assumed it was an std; and killed herself. comprehensive sex ed literally saves lives

[@missnaomi613]

Holy sh!t!

[@StudlyFudd13]

I had no idea this was the case. I appreciate the information even if it does make me sad. It needs to be remembered.

[@ScaraGucci]

can you provide any source on this? I can't find anything on this.

[@karowolkenschaufler7659]

I got my menarchy (the really badass sounding term for the first bleeding) after learning about menstruation in school. that saved me a lot of stress. you bleed, it hurts... if you don't know what it is, it's scary. (it is even if you do..) but I knew, so I just thought "all right, so that's started now."

[@catdownthestreet]

​@@karowolkenschaufler7659Menarchy is such an amazing term.

[@cheesepuffsonspaghetti5928]

As someone who has been trying to limit my exposure to negative content for mental health reasons, and absolutely adores your channel, I would love more wholesome meme videos from you :)

[@rahelulla5638]

i can imagine OT being the guy slipping on the front porch to give human one flowers. i love that image. you have the best videos OT, thank you.

[@OneTopic]

LOL maybe I was.

[@sawnic9516]

This subreddit has taught me that we are both progressing and regressing as a society

[@samanthamorgan2188]

I wasn't expecting to start this day with this wholesome human being saying something like swimmy bits in the man cream, and now I can't stop laughing. Thank you so much for never failing to make me smile 💙

[@narnigrin]

The visible "..." when reading that out... and then, "...mAN .......cream?" had me absolutely cackling!

[@kaisoep]

The fact he said cream made me both crack up and nearly throw up, it sounds sooo disgusting but in a funny way

[@jacobh9241]

How does anyone attend more than one wedding where cake-smushing is a beloved tradition and NOT grow up anxious about it? It was one of the first things I discussed with my wife ahead of our wedding (we both hated that tradition and decided not to do it). I don't understand how someone can get all the way to their wedding day without discussing how/if they want to go about smushing cake into each other's faces

[@transnightwalker7973]

Just what I needed after a long day of driving a semi on two-lane country highways and delivering to stores with horrible docks, a new OT video. 💜 Love it and to any trans/non-binary kids out there reading this: you are valid and you are loved. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[@jamesnelson6656]

Thanks 💜🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[@audlyartzy2377]

10:12 that just sounds like sexual harassment… adults pointing out physical figures in children, or at least not full adults.

[@IsThatAShortJoke]

"Don't say period" is so poorly thought out. I got my period in middle school and I knew what was going on because we talked about it in school.

[@weirdogirl1275]

The nickname permission slip is so stupid. I’m currently in the process of choosing a new name, but in school, I went by my birth name, and anyone who didn’t know me yet had such a hard time with my name! Part of why I asked my parents for a two-letter nickname was to give my teachers and classmates something easy to read and latch onto. And I still go by that nickname today. I'm actually choosing my new name to make the nickname work because I like it that much. To give context without giving away my current legal identity, my birth name has a silent j in it. You can imagine the kind of constant name butchering I got growing up.

[@JohnShrader]

33:25 The admin hellbent on adhering to those rules are likely allies. Rules intended to out trans / get teachers in trouble are being maliciously complied with.

[@Danny_the_Platypus]

23:26 i have literally no straight people to thank for my existence, except for my grandma because most of my family is bisexual 🤣

[@sharkbaitshaun9581]

I came out as trans. Not too long ago. When I was in denial about it, I refused to research or even interact with anything trans related because of how intense my denial was. Now that I'm finally out, I'm also finally allowing myself to learn more about the trans community, and about what it's like to be publicly trans. The trans community is so awesome and supportive, and I hate the fact that I barred myself from interacting with it for so long. But in learning and interacting with being trans, I've also been learning about how hard it is to be trans, and the all too common place discrimination that exists out there. It's genuinely terrifying, and when I'm at my worst, it makes me want to give up. I think what scares me the most about it, about all this discrimination and hate ever present in our society, is how illogical it all is. How illogical it is to hate someone just because of how they identify themselves. Everyone has their own natural biases, and it takes strength to try and overcome them and to learn to be a better person. It's something I tried to do all my life. And it's so fucking scary that there are people who refuse to. Who hate because it's easier for them to be hateful and ignorant. Because it's easier for them to dehumanize real people rather than to see them as the people they actually are. I really, really hope that, as more time passes, more and more people will be willing to actually try to be better.

[@Acorn905]

I don't have anything to add to this cus this comment is already perfect. You're right the world really needs to relax and let others be I alsow hope for a world where people can be nicer. Wishing you a good day and lots of love ❤ 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[@Empress-Sky-of-Brynn]

The nickname thing is so weird. I didn't come out as trans until two years ago, 8 years after I graduated high-school but I didn't have any pushback on going by a different name in school. Too many kids had my deadname so I started going by my middle name to not be as confusing and no one cared. Sure my middle name was gender affirming for me but the only time my deadname ever was used in my life at that point was with school administration. I don't understand this whole nickname thing. Sometimes they want an affirming name, other times they think their og name is lame, and there's times like me who was just tired of hearing my name and finding out it was for someone else

[@LilFeralGangrel]

25:50 western wedding dresses aren't white because of "purity". it's white because Queen Victoria did it in like 1840 and it has been popular ever since. also i always find it concerning when parents are this obsessed with their kids sex lives it's just weird and creepy.

[@Milk-ck1wv]

Some traditional families actually do think it means pure therefore you must wear a different color

[@Mokiefraggle]

I'm honestly so glad of that misconception, because it made it easy to say "Yeah, I am _not_ wearing white when darling and I decide to get married," and have my mom not only not insist on it, but agree with me on the idea of wearing any other color. Though I could've done without the commentary she just had to throw in about how "You two have been together forever; nobody would believe it," I'm still thrilled that it wasn't a deal-breaker regarding her putting funds toward a wedding. Apparently, her deal-breaker would be if we wanted a "theme" wedding, particularly no Star Wars or Harry Potter, or that sort of thing...which just means I'll have to be a lot sneakier than my nerdy cousin was about putting geeky references in my vows >_>

[@ragnkja]

And it was because she [Queen Victoria] wanted to use her fancy white Honiton lace.

[@NatFloofer]

30:19 And this, THIS, is why I am too scared to use the girls restroom. THIS is why I am too scared to do anything that would make me look overtly feminine. I wore a skirt once in public, and it was actually a kilt, and the only reason I had the courage to wear THAT was because it was part of my costume to go to a renfaire. Don'tcha love it when the happenings in your own country make you scared to go out in public, to do something as normal as go to the bathroom in a public place. Anyways, enough sadness for now, good vid OT, I loved it as always. Stay safe, be nice, much love

[@the_UF365]

As a trans student who figured out myself at the ripe ol age of 17, I've specifically had to deal with admin who refused to call me by my preferred name until I convinced my baby boomer father to sign off on it. My school also uses Infinite Campus.

[@ValancianGaming]

Hey OT, i just wanted to say something. My egg "cracked" or however ppl say it today. its been torturous, ive been so full of anxiety and panic, if it wasnt for the trans community being so supportive and kind i dont know if i ever wouldve figured out why i was hurting so much. i still dont have all the answers about what im feeling, and i think its gonna take me a long time to figure it all out, but i wanted you to know if it wasnt for you and click and jammi, i dont think i ever wouldve known what to do or where to go. Your videos have been a constant source of comfort lately and i guess today, i finally figured out why i loved them so much.

[@Enbyfriendtoall]

I’m glad you found an identity that makes you comfortable friend :3

[@FiveOnAFriday]

I remember when my son was about 5, asking me how much a dollar was, and telling him 100 cents, four quarters, a dollar is a dollar. He got so mad, and I still don't know what kind of answer he was looking for.

[@narnigrin]

Maybe he was looking for a dollar's value in... uh.. bread?

[@Nickelbag610]

Maybe he met in like candy, toys or something. Before I understood how money worked my grandpa explained it in M&M's. Each M&M was a penny it's why you got a lot in a bag for like a dollar. As I got older I learned more about how much more complicated the concept of money is but it shut 6 year old me up. It actually gave me a good stepping stone to understand change can equal dollars like how all the M&M's equaled a bag. Lol

[@twinning1944]

I tried very hard not to face palm through this whole thing. The one about the deaf actress on ‘a quiet place’ almost killed me

[@graciep.6984]

He said not to facepalm. He didn’t say a thing about a frustrated headdesk.

[@Ajehy]

I tried knitting, but almost impaled myself in the face. Had to sit on my hands.

[@jacobonblitz6952]

No joke you helped me come out to my mum that I wanted to be a female and I’m so happy that you still make me feel safe ❤❤❤

[@Milk-ck1wv]

👍🧍🏽‍♀️

[@madeline_from_celeste_real]

waiting for some idiot to say “yOu’Ll NeVeR bE a ReAl FeMaLe” don’t listen to the idiots, you go girl!

[@Milk-ck1wv]

​@@madeline_from_celeste_realignore those morons they probably think the earth is as flat as their skulls

[@seekervaltriz9447]

How did it go, and have you picked out a new name?

[@jakobnunez4964]

Nice.

[@sleepingkirby]

31:26 "Have you ever seen one [germs] without a microscope?" Yes. What do you think causes mold and mildew? You can see it on agar plate. Like, it's very and commonly observable by the naked eye.

[@eldritchabomination9726]

Oh god, I remember the tooth filing trend. My teeth hurt just thinking about it. Also, I love OT's reactions to posts. Reminder that all of y'all are valid and deserve to be happy. Stay safe, eat food, destroy gender norms (or don't if you like fittin them, or do if you don't like the pressure but still enjoy them), drink water, take some time for yourself, eat food, and get sleep. I'm proud of you, roomies.

[@AsherHenry-ey3mp]

“Roomies” all 1.3 Million of us.

[@celestewoodworth5627]

@@AsherHenry-ey3mp It's a big apartment

[@BubblyRainbows]

You said "eat food" twice, and I approve of this kind of thinking!

[@pamelacadena8241]

I once had a boss who told me that I should dress more like my coworker. She made twice as much as I did, and spend everything on whatever she wanted, and she liked fancy clothes and shoes (her husband paid for everything). 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@wizardsuth]

Perhaps you should have created a budget for such attire and submitted it to your boss as a business expense.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

That Intro sequence was so beautifully executed that you deserve a standing ovation. P.S. It’s nice to see you back with a video ❤

[@hartraiser]

Ikr

[@AsherHenry-ey3mp]

75 likes. 1 comment. One abbreviation. Now it’s 2 comments.

[@annagroesbeck9673]

Being a social studies major in America is equivalent to screaming in sadness and fear. In other news I recently graduated with a Bachelor's of science in Anthropology.