Trans Vaginoplasty: Regret and Phantom Pain

[@MrLetmein2011]

I stepped back from from gender reassignment surgery in 1991 having lived in the female role for 8 years. I detransitioned back to male and I have never regretted it . Thank goodness I didn’t have that surgery.

[@celestialvirgin]

A dear friend of mine lived as a woman for 6 years and then ended returning to male. He doesn't talk about it much at all (it was before we knew each other). I think you both dodged a bullet. Thank God you didn't have the surgery. 😮 What made you decided to go back? Do you date men or women? Has that changed with transitioning and detransitioning? Sorry if this is too personal.

[@LadyIarConnacht]

It's good that you got away from estrogen as well. We have so many cancer causing agents in our lives now, I can't understand why anybody would willingly put themselves at risk that way. Good for you, accepting yourself as you were born to be.

[@biancawilloughby9980]

Fair enough so you made a mistake but you're still trans weather you transition or not unless you're not trans after all and are cis. The majority of us are happy with our treatment

[@dingdongshush]

​He said he detransitioned. Therefore, not trans. @@biancawilloughby9980

[@MrLetmein2011]

@@celestialvirgin Ive always been a gay man , as a boy I was into music that had very androgynous connotations and was generally pretty feminine . I lived in such a strict and religious country that I needed up thinking that I was so abnormal I was meant to be female . Im a gay man now and very happy with that .

[@Faster_than_light_]

The main themes I hear in all these kind of stories is how the 'professional' establishment ignores the wide array of co-morbid afflictions that can never be corrected by transition.

[@BuJammy]

Yeah. Not only that, but the downplaying of issues created by surgery. The oath has changed from "First, do no harm" to "Nah, it'll probably be fine.".

[@mr.mclibtard5015]

​@@BuJammy☝️

[@Beadledom2024]

​@@BuJammyAs a "professional" for 20+ years, I did therapy, and NEVER sold gender affirming. So, don't all or nothing the "professionals." Some people are just bad at what they do, or are morally decrepit, diseased, ignorant, or projecting their own desires or issues onto their clients. Therapy could have saved and healed this young person. So would have better parenting.

[@atheistbewildered2987]

Many professionals don’t participate in this insanity. One such professional I know refuses to write letters, asks patients if they have understanding of the short and long term risks of srs and does not encourage it. Some early 20s “trans” people are hellbent on surgery. It’s like a mission for them and nothing can stop them. Best wishes to them because no one can stop them. There are parallels to the intactivist movement. If all nurses refused to participate in circumcision, it would end tomorrow. If all therapists refused to write letters in support for sex reassignment surgery, it would end tomorrow. Neither the nurses or the therapists are the actual cutters but they play an important role that if withdrawn would end this

[@mr.mclibtard5015]

@@atheistbewildered2987 you can't compare those 2 things, when you try, it just makes you look foolish

[@904daniela]

We used to call non-binary "androgenous". No one cared if a man dressed feminine or visa versa. The difference was that the androgenous people didn't expect us to call them anything "special".

[@lamaahruloma4270]

Now we need everyone in a Box, but we already are humans.

[@eliser9776]

And I don't think they cut off their body parts and take hormones.

[@anemoneyas]

People definitely cared lol. I was bullied mercilessly for being effeminate in school. This was back in the 90s and 00s

[@Lumbergh42]

Androgynous to me is when you can't really tell what sex someone is, depending on what part of their body you look at you lean one way or the other. A lot of non-binary people instead are clearly hot chicks and not physically androgynous at all. Perhaps you could say that being non-binary is about being mentally androgynous.

[@lamaahruloma4270]

@@Lumbergh42 Androgynos is a part of our Global mythology. It's used as a methaphor in recent centuries. The kid of Hermes and Aphrodité, not some orientation or gender or wtd

[@zoltanrudolf]

I am a straight, white Christian male. If people like Airiel think people like me don't like them they are wrong. I care deeply about people like him. He is loved and he should never doubt it.

[@susanmorgan4151]

Truth! Please don't believe the lie that we don't love them!❤❤❤

[@princesssoosiemonster2319]

This kid is lying

[@slavbarbie]

About what?​@@princesssoosiemonster2319

[@lendalee1966]

Who is lying?I know a lot of straight people that care very much about the LGBT community.What they don't like is the woke.Insane liars and fake people in the lgbtq community that have been destroying it in the past year​ The insane liberal woke group.I mean my God I don't choose the liberal and send woke people on the LGBTQ. It's also the straight liberal, won't peothey are everywhere they're in every community, and they are trying to destroy every community that they can. We cannot let do that. And cannot let them continue to separate us just like the liberal woke. Black black black light's matter is trying to separate blacks and whites from each other. Most whites are not racist. My God and most straight people are not against the gay community. This is insane, so who are you calling a liar? I'm hoping you're not calling a straight person. A liar that said what they said. About caring about the o GBT and trans community seriously. Because they hate. It's actually coming from the liberal vote community and every group

[@robertpace1622]

What does Christianity have to do with it.

[@mariej6962]

For doctors who are sworn to do no harm, how do they feel mutilating a healthy organ knowing 100% they are not going to create anything functional?

[@Mymusic-pj1oc]

They feel fine. God complex or fetish.

[@lamaahruloma4270]

I would stop with medicine if it wasn't for saving a life. Taking healthy tissue is big no no in whole medical community of this world.

[@lamaahruloma4270]

They're basically saying the results is for decoration, which is horrible saying it to someone, who wanted normal life.

[@azkadeliaray521]

@@lamaahruloma4270 So why do you support abortion?

[@prm2335]

But what do medical professionals get for speaking the truth? What is the risk to these professionals if they dare to go against what's in now? Aren't we now in an age where the patient tells the doctor what the diagnosis is supposed to be?

[@annafox-eagleston6587]

Sasha, I really like how you allow these beautiful and tormented souls speak, talk, vent, and you listen and you empathize. You are a light.

[@SashaWhiteInterviews]

Thank you ♥️

[@lovesomeone7285]

​@iamgrushenka you are a gifted listener, which allows a person to share their experiences and for others to listen and learn.

[@marthastrayton]

Sasha, thank you from me too, for giving these people a outlet. Kindness is what they need, we all need kindness!

[@craigmiller-randle8921]

The idea that medical professionals are mutilating healthy bodies to treat mental health issues is unforgivable. History will judge this phenomenon badly but how many people will be held to account is debatable, I fear many will use the “everyone was doing it” defense. As a post script to my above comment: From the ages of about 7 to 14 I was convinced I was a girl born in a boys body! I grew out of this and it was a distant memory until the whole trans debate emerged. I am a very happy and healthy man and I absolutely believe that for some people gender surgery is appropriate, however if this avenue was as widely accepted as it is today & available to me then, I have no doubt I would be living as a permanently medicalised trans woman.

[@biancawilloughby9980]

They're not

[@lamaahruloma4270]

We are... Doctors of medicine were cutting out healthy intestines to treat everything, later we had psychosurgery like lobotomy among others and you should study the surgeries from theory to Real cases one by one. We know very little about too many things.

[@breekolean2758]

The surgery isn't mutilation and saved my life

[@doesnotFempute]

​@@breekolean2758 copium.

[@lamaahruloma4270]

@@breekolean2758 From my medical field of view, there has been many many issues with the surgery and some people are mutilated - I don't know, what the surgeons were thinking?! There is always a risk, but I didn't expect for example so big damage to the tissues around, pelvis floor devastated, urological issues and so on. Comokications, should be smaller and some of the doctors are horrible butchers as we say. I am happy for your happines and admire the succes. But I still think we need much better surgeries and surgeons.

[@ninjac8866]

Airi's story absolutely breaks my heart. I can't imagine his emotional and physical pain caused by parental abuse and neglect and then from medical abuse by doctors cutting off healthy body parts and making him a lifelong patient when they should do no harm. He is so brave and shows such dignity and insight. I am sure that his story will help many people in a similar situation.

[@lloyannehurd]

He was abused no matter where he turned. So unkind. He needed, at least, a truly supportive friend.

[@mariahavraham7507]

Too bad he agreed to put himself through this living hell

[@imissnickplur4964]

​@@mariahavraham7507 i mean seriously, his 'abuse' stories were pretty lame. by his own testimony, it was all in his own head. he started off blaming his dad, then he moved to blaming his mom, her mom and the dead uncle. then he blamed his friend's dad who took him fishing. the whole thing was stupid. he should take some responsibility, but he'd rather play the pure victim instead. no wonder why, our sick society rewards weak whiny victim stories. people should beware though, the prizes they rewards us with are punishing.

[@Vavala3534]

I feel sad about the poor parenting that has contributed to Airiel's pain and confusion

[@michaelmayer-o3s]

Agree, but that is where professionals should be doing their job and unpacking that for people BEFORE any drugs or surgery.

[@Vavala3534]

I agree. Unfortunately vital pre-transition talking therapy has been named after the cruel conversion therapy that was used in the past to try to convince same-sex attracted people that they didn't feel that way. It must be renamed. There are too many connotations from the past.

[@scapps8173]

AMEN

[@ALT-vz3jn]

@@michaelmayer-o3sFACTS. you only need to scratch the surface a bit to find all the trauma, which needs to be processed before any kind of surgery should happen.

[@newbeginnings4122]

​@@michaelmayer-o3sProfessionals can't replace parenting. You are so ignorant!

[@francinejones2524]

He gives a really good explanation of the vaginoplasty inner workings. Because you are SO right, it will never be like a real vagina. Vaginal muscles are very very super elastic and flexible. I don’t understand why surgeons don’t warn those wanting to have a vaginaplasty that the result can never be as a real vagina. I don’t see how sex would ever feel good when there aren’t any vagina muscles with ANY of the types of vaginoplasty’s.

[@littleboots9800]

And of course it doesn't expand length and width ways, doesn't self lubricate or self clean. Also the real thing moves up and back in the body during arousal for better positioning. It's impossible to recreate well.

[@scarofmanleavethembehind]

​@@littleboots9800wasnt it the uterus moving up in the body?? Why would the vagina move?

[@littleboots9800]

@@scarofmanleavethembehind because its attached?

[@scarofmanleavethembehind]

@@littleboots9800 so you mean the uterus moves up and away and the vagina gets streched out? Or do you mean the vagina moves up and away and the uterus gets pushed by the vagina?

[@scapps8173]

They are not surgeons or even Dr's. The Drs motto is..first do no harm. The first thing these butchers do is harm.

[@SamsaraSings]

Sasha, you are such a kind respectful interviewer with great compassion. You allow your guests to speak interjecting when necessary for clarification or to move the story along. You have a natural gift! Please don’t ever stop. Airiel’s story is so sad. I felt so deeply for him with his childhood abuse and his deep personal insight into what brought him to make decisions. Looking at all this trauma is like peeling back layers of an onion - based on my personal experience. He is so brave to speak about it openly. It’s somewhat cathartic to release it though. He will help so many by doing so. I wish him all the best going forward and hope he finds some peace. I send him strength to deal with all the nasty people and hope he can be surrounded by good people who support him in his ongoing recovery. Thank you both so much ❤

[@azkadeliaray521]

Nobody has a problem with detransitioners.

[@None-y2f]

​@@azkadeliaray521That's just untrue.

[@dimad645]

I am just 30 min in, and I really like this interview. As a 51 year old gay man I can relate to the story. As a sensitive boy who preferred to play with dolls, I felt alienated from the men in my childhood. I think that straight men feel uncomfortable with GNC boys, and instinctively move away. The most positive things I remember about my father were him teaching me things, how to ride a bicycle, how to ice skate, and swim. I think that is a good way for fathers to connect with "feminine" boys. Lucky for me "transgender" wasn't on the menu.

[@mr.mclibtard5015]

What does "gender conforming" mean? Stereotypes?

[@XxYwise]

The thing about straight men being uncomfortable with GNC boys and moving away is a good reminder of why it's called homoPHOBIA. The fear of being or becoming "less of a man," etc. is overlooked these days, with "phobic" becoming synonymous with hateful bigotry.

[@mr.mclibtard5015]

@@XxYwise do you have some sort of brain damage?

[@goddammitalana]

​@mr.mclibtard5015 it means people that typically fit in with the traditional roles and behaviors that are commonly associated with their birth gender/sex.

[@LadyIarConnacht]

Yes, that was the original meaning and it didn't really apply to very many people. Still, it was a terrible use of faux Latin. @@XxYwise II

[@sportiboye]

God I have so much empathy for this guy. Child abuse to a certain extent....is for life. We get better and better if we're lucky and work hard; But it never goes away.

[@godsnotdead5279]

I can completely relate to his story. Fortunately, I grew up in the 70’s and 80’s, today I would have transitioned. I remember wanting to be a boy almost my entire childhood, and I dated women until I met my husband. I was sexually abused as a child and at age 32 read a book about self-harm, that talked about sexual assault and wanting to be the opposite sex. When I read the line, “Maybe if I had been a boy it wouldn’t have happened to me” it was like being hit by a brick! Everything suddenly made sense. I am so sorry for what he has gone through and I know this is not a comfort but I do hope he can help others see the light.

[@Scooby596]

I am so sorry for all that you have through 🙏❤️ I hope you have found a path of true healing.

[@scapps8173]

So sorry about what happened to you. Thank you for pointing out that there was abuse in your background. I wish they would really look into what has happened to people who think they are gay, or want to be trans.

[@shegross]

Do you recall the name of the book?

[@susandiana4172]

This conversation is so refreshing because of the honesty. Personally I've had enough of the slogans associated with "woke." Our culture needs less judgment, and more honesty, and kindness.

[@naomivought9317]

Indeed.

[@scapps8173]

Please let's talk about dysfunctional families. The society we live in is killing children in so many ways. I pray to God something will change.

[@barboglesby2162]

Don't vote Democrat! They are the Party pushing this dangerous farce.

[@hannaheye]

It is changing... slowly. It feels excruciatingly slow.

[@pabloescobarschanclas]

@@hannaheye it is changing actually, it’s getting worse.

[@jaijai5250]

There have always been dysfunctional families, sadly. The difference now is that children and young people are being fed a lie.

[@GretchenKeskeys]

I would think being a child in the care of a withdrawing meth addict would have to be one of the most frightening experiences imaginable. Drugs, alcohol, addiction have scarred and ruined countless lives. If we only knew the stories of all the hurt and broken people. I'm so sorry Airiel was let down by so many. I see a depth of insight that will undoubtedly be helpful to countless people. Thank you for sharing your story and I do hope that life will be kinder to you today.

[@wendykinsey-o6x]

THIS IS AN EXCELLENT INTERVIEW, THANK YOU Ariel. It is different in many ways from other detransitioner stores. Different painful reasons for a seed to have grown and then having you accept you were a girl. You have experienced a great deal Ariel, and you took it all on. It is a courageous journey and I believe others will relate to many of the varied life experiences you had. Thank you so much. Wishing you a grand life ahead and you have made the world better, for sharing. Sasha, thanks for this fine job you did too as the interviewer. You have compassion and you have many skills.

[@LeeJones-wk7xv]

Wow this interview was really sad and intense, I am part of the lgbtq community and whenever I speak up for detransitioners I get called a bigot and am told I am causing harm. But these stories are so important. Also the interviewer looks a lot like Anne Hathaway.

[@mr.mclibtard5015]

The "lgbtq community" is a fkin cult, Jim Jones 2.0 type of cult. There's no "straight community", be yourself not a sheep Edit She does look like Anne Hathaway, my first thought too

[@atheistbewildered2987]

The tide is turning. Most gay men are against this but don’t speak out. This is recently changing.

[@peacepipe7476]

@LeeJones-wk7xv This interview is very sad 😢 and I thought the same as you have in thinking the interviewer does look a lot like Anne Hathaway even before I read your comment. They say we all have a doppelgänger 😊

[@scarba]

Is it a community though ?

[@lizicadumitru9683]

​​@@scarba I almost feel like it's a semi fringe part of the "community"

[@nicolepreou6754]

Walt Heyer talks about disassociation from trauma as a psychological factor in transitioning.

[@funsizedi88]

I will look onto him. That being said, I'm not a medical professional, but that should be the first thing looked into. Most adults know that when teens/young adults have traumatizing experiences, especially in childhood-major changes can happen. For example, teens who start self mutilating, major aesthetician changes that seem like they are "out of nowhere", major attitude shifts "out of nowhere", etc. Like u said, trauma. Mental health in the US is severely under treated. Unfortunately, kids feel they are being listened to in these gender clinics. I'm 35, probably a big hallmark of my Gen is the untreated mental health due to no one caring. I think that's why so many millenials have gone the snowflake way instead of trying to put in the work. I myself put I. The work, I'm doing well but not perfect. I was lucky enough to continue pressing for help when I was ignored and to do a lot of the work myself.

[@naomivought9317]

I disassociate every single day and often do not recognize myself when I look in the mirror. It’s called depersonalization and it’s already a mental health issue. That can be treated. This should be the first thing they try working on from a doctors stand point! 😭🥺

[@azkadeliaray521]

@@naomivought9317 Why are you policing people's bodies?

[@CPoynter]

@@azkadeliaray521 Why doesn't your "page" show ANYTHING about you??? Could be you are simply non-existant or are a Trans activist determined to simply use such catch phrases to dismiss any serious debate or concerns about the current treatments for g.d. Get serious and do some scientific reading about this!

[@YumegakaMurakumo]

​@@naomivought9317I believe that correlates to CPTSD. Everyone finds different ways to cope with childhood trauma. I may not have never felt like the opposite sex but I'm no stranger to dissociation. Meditation has helped out tremendously though I don't do it every day when I should.

[@gorgeous.akosua]

I am 10 minutes in and this is very interesting. Thank you Sasha for making your guests feel comfortable and safe to speak.

[@rosyvision]

In the future , many will look at this like the way we look at labotomies now.

[@Betsy.Ross76]

Agree. It's pretty barbaric. Reminds me of what a certain German group did to people in the 1930s. Experimenting on "patients".

[@Shalanaya]

The biggest irony is that it is exactly the extreme opposite, especially because it is not done against someone's will, in the future the entire hormonal and surgical treatment will be widely regarded as a holistic care that tackles the entire body, just like a diet or yoga. What will change is the science, that means that everyone will be changing their sex like they are changing their clothes. The reason why it is already regarded as a holistic treatment by therapists, because it treats the whole body, whereas lobotomies were treating the mind, which is why it is conversion therapies that are compared to lobotomies, and for a good reason as they are designed to turn life against itself, to change who someone is on the inside. When we are sick, we don’t change the mind, we change the body that affects the mind. Trans healthcare is in fact amongst the first that avoids the monstrosities of the past where people were pushed into lobotomy, electrical shocks, psychotherapy and sent into mental institutions, anything just to change the brain so people could fit into their norm and social constructions of the gender, now the approach is to change the body form instead, yet that is the threat to the system that exploits the body in order to oppress the mind that seeks authentic self expression, calling it an ideology is a way how to make it seem like they can force the change in the mind again. The truth is people spend so much energy and effort clinging to physicality to argue their bias. It's ultimately not about physicality. It's an issue on a higher level of psychological and spiritual. The body is just a vessel of the karmic world for us to use and manipulate to reflect us, not a material object such as a body to manipulate us to reflect it. The entire life is about correcting our karmic imprints on the matter of our being. We use gametes to sex the bodies to uphold a sexual contrast/polarity, however in case of trans bodies, it would take using less binary markers of the body to support the sexual contrast in their sexual relations, this is the entire paradox. Thi is why we are mamking sure these people transition as early as possible, especially before puberty damages their body even more.

[@Shalanaya]

@@Betsy.Ross76 That certain German groups was actually calling trans healthcare barbaric and closing all their clinics and surgeries! Unbelievable how ignorant people are not to know this. It is the neo-fascists who are against trans healthcare as well. Because they need to uphopld their illusion of gender identity serving as the systematic control by the patriarchy. These surgeries for trans people are not experimental at this stage by any means, because they are not exploring a new territory, but following a standard procedure established more than 100 years ago, in fact surgeries done on intersex people are far more experimental, as they are exploring a new territory based on how they were born, not to mention they are not done against someone's will, they are considerted a 'miracle' treatment and vast majority are satisifed with it.

[@angelagelene]

@@Shalanaya Wow brilliantly explained, well said, but I don't think these people are ready for the truth though, it would shatter their illusions.

[@Shalanaya]

@@angelagelene Thank you, I know. They prefer to believe biased detransitioners, who were never trans or are confused and choose to repress until they re-transition years later just like most of them, than millions of actual trans people around the world, it could be more than 40 million of them considering there are 4 million of trans people in India.

[@charlesdaubner1017]

Thank you, Ariel. You are an impressive young man; brave, compassionate, articulate. Sasha and Ariel, great conversation that I am sure will be very helpful to many.

[@johnvannewhouse]

Really heartbreaking stuff here. I despise the corporatized trans movement that seeks to PERMANENTLY MEDICALIZE confused kids (and which of us AREN'T confused as kids, especially during puberty?) but I don't feel this guy is part of that movement. He just had loads of problems and may very well have legitimate gender dysphoria. He's so articulate and seemingly self-aware....but it seems that self-awareness has come at a HUGE cost.

[@CherCherico]

You have no idea but John Hopkins Hospital who pioneered these surgeries stopped it because most of their patients committed suicide. Now they tell kids and their parents if they don't get the surges they will commit suicide. The devil is a liar and you can't tell these kids anything and the government and the media has been promoting this. Look, Biden has a transgender woman in his Cabinet ... his name is Rachael Levine.

[@linfincher]

I've listened to so many of these stories and the theme send to be basically mental and abuse issues. Too bad someone didn't get these kids help. Not chopping up their bodies to fit an idea. My heart goes out to them.

[@naomivought9317]

They’d rather shove them at any doctor that’ll give them attention, rather then actually pay attention to their kids! Currently you can still tell your kid NO until they’re 18. People need to do it more.

[@azkadeliaray521]

Most trans people don't get surgery.

[@CPoynter]

@@naomivought9317 Agree people need to put down boundaries for kids however the parents are literally told "do you want a dead kid or a kid who lives as the opposite sex". Literally. It is the clinical experts lying in N. America to parents and to kids about these serious side-effects like cancer (after 6 years on T etc seen cases) that need to be sued for this scandal.

[@magpiegirl3783]

The introduction of pornography seems to be a fairly common theme as well. A confused young person, distressed by any number of factors, watching porn which is such a distortion of reality ... a lethal combination. Mental health support should be the first mechanism in helping young people, not medicalisation.

[@Kepi_Kei]

This is one of the best if not the best detransitioning interviews I have seen.

[@krissyk9767]

There are people waiting to get life saving surgery for serious medical conditions, meanwhile Drs are wasting their time on these dangerous, experimental unecessary procedures on people who actually need mental health help.

[@MamaNa-w2r]

Amen to that people are dying from all diseases and doctors are messing around making GAPING WOUNDS Between mens legs and their bodies is a burden on the medical system

[@mazoomska]

Airiel is an incredibly important voice right now. The stories of detransitioners are harrowing. These are brave people speaking up. Wishing Airiel support and strength to continue his journey x

[@fizzys26]

This was such an open and insightful conversation. Thank you to Airiel for sharing his journey with us.

[@gloriauselton9897]

Let the court proceedings commence!!!! Take ALL these evil money hungry Dr's and hospitals and clinics and they're employees to court.

[@azkadeliaray521]

Ban abortion too.

[@CPoynter]

@@azkadeliaray521 There you go again with the 'dog whistles'...Completely different subject area...nothing alike at all. Must be a Russian 'bot.

[@ALT-vz3jn]

@@azkadeliaray521completely unrelated. Don’t be a douche canoe.

[@lynettefinnigan9540]

Yes, you're right...all these Quacks, chopping off bits and pieces, like they can just be glued back on later!! If they Personally got Sued for millions, then perhaps they might take ALL the steps beforehand to ensure the person has Genuine body dysmophia and isn't just 'going through a stage' or being brainwashed by a delusional parent!!

[@uslph.]

​@@CPoynter That's not even what a dog whistle is, these bots are out of hand, literally calling out bots to hide as bots.

[@brandyhaywood6256]

I really think that children need to be taught how to cope and have resilience. But it seems a lot of parents and teachers don’t seem to do this any more.

[@gaz8891]

No, that's for adults. Children just need a lot of caring normality and good old-fashioned childhood activities like being out biking and days out with family, rather than being expected to cope with instability and absentee parents.

[@brandyhaywood6256]

@@gaz8891 children need to be made aware of the dangers. If they wait until adulthood to gain life skills it's far too late. Plus it means they will have no common sense. With the trans movement in particular, the sexualisation and indoctrination of children is horrific, and vulnerable children are like lambs to the slaughter.

[@TheSugajazz]

My heart breaks for this person. I hope his life ends up Beautiful 💔❤️

[@hannahrosa5485]

Mutilating our youth isn't the way to go. He'd have been better off to get a job and grow up and contribute to society. He's feel better about himself.

[@gailhyde8522]

OMG this is such a hard story to hear.We as a society, need to stop medicating and mutilating our young people.

[@lindakarner1430]

They become "patients for life." Big Pharma's favorite kind . . .

[@samanthaorologio6866]

AIRIEL! Please give speeches in town’s and rent venues and in schools if you can! Those last few minutes after hearing the whole story would TRULY help at least some young people stop and thinking and doubt what they’re supposed to doubt and not have to go through this too! I’m about to check but if you don’t already have a channel doing this inspirational stuff for young people feeling these things, even into the void for one or two listeners, one day someone will stumble upon your videos at just the right time if you do or will make them. Thank you for sharing your story on this channel, I’m so glad I stumbled across it and I’ll be around all the time now!

[@cleven77]

This young man is phenomenal! The wisdom he has gained and the serenity he demonstrates is beyond imagination. I can't express my admiration for him.

[@ellenmendoza7246]

This was very thoughtful and brutally honest ..much respect for this young man ...

[@LG-qb3wk]

Wonderful conversation thank you Airiel for sharing your life, story and insights. Let's hope your words of warning are heard by many and save some of our young people from the regrets that you talk about. Thank you.

[@MPW66]

Those doctors gonna be judged one day and everybody involved in this insanity

[@SophieSionByde]

What a great and moving interview. Airiel, you are brave, and I wish you well; thank you for having the courage to tell your story 🙏

[@tubermind]

I appreciated Airiel Salvatore's honesty and willingness to share his reflections on HOW his desire to disassociate from his natal sex occurred through trauma inflicted by someone who was clearly incapable of being a responsible father to him.

[@michaelmayer-o3s]

The job of therapists, is to get to the root and cause of one's problems to help a person mentally and to then be able to work on the discoveries. Not to empathize with ones self diagnosis. Then T community uses statements such as "professionals" gave the ok. A serious injustice is being done to people!

[@barboglesby2162]

Therapy has been hijacked by the radical Left. I have little faith in it today. Such a shame, but our medical fields are being too influenced by WOKE nonsense.

[@christinegovan3712]

That is why Jordan Peterson had so much trouble in Canada apparently they are not allowed to go against the pro trans agenda in therapy....

[@groominator-magneticequato7195]

You’re a great interviewer and compassionate listener Sasha. I do appreciate this interview. So many pieces connecting for me regarding my son. And to Aireil, thank you for doing so much interpersonal work. You are eloquently spoken and clearly reconnected with your disassociated selves.

[@alyross3081]

Don’t trust your feelings. Yes. I say this all the time. Just because you are feeling something does not make it true or real.

[@MCR1565]

Facts all day! We feel a lot of things as humans. Surgery in my humble opinion is never a good option unless it’s truly medically necessary. We are all unique in every single way and have these feelings …. Lots and lots of them through out our lives. Being healthy is the only thing that really matters. Mentally and physically. ❤

[@oliverseoliverse]

Feelings matter but don't make life altering decisions on them. Feelings are weather where your body, life and mind are the climate. Feelings can change suddenly for nearly nothing but your climate exists no matter your daily feelings. If you feel something, acknowledge it, don't base your life around it.

[@charlie-lx6sl]

Trust the word of God

[@lazapololapolo9824]

@alyross3081...a lot of people don't know how to control their feelings. They think that "if they feel something they have to do it." People should be objective about their feelings because feelings color the world i.e. your emotions. They cause a blindness to reality.

[@jobrown8146]

It's just a feeling and feelings change was an expression that I read in a book about suicide which has really helped me during the tough times.

[@juneelle370]

This was a very moving interview. Much love and appreciation to this young man. 💜 I also really appreciated his book recommendations and introduction to street epistemology. I wish him the brightest of futures!

[@emmas4336]

It's always heartbreaking to hear these stories, not just because of the trauma the person has gone through, but knowing the countless other people who are yet to realise the mistake they've made.

[@naomivought9317]

The worst mistake of their lives and no turning back once surgery. Sometimes even just hormones.

[@gotanproject4g174]

That was an extremely powerful testimony from a man who had fully transitioned, along with the thought processes at each stage. Many of us, as young adults, go through gender dysphoria. In the past - before puberty blockers and surgery - it had to be dealt with and lived with, and the vast majority of us came out the other side intact and accepting of the body we were born with. Trauma however can be a trigger to not accepting our biological sex and we as adults should tread carefully in this extremely complex area and not be so ready to affirm a young person's preference to live the life of the opposite sex. Instead look to questioning the individual's body dysmorphia and in the process hope to understand where the dysmorphia originated. This is vital to prevent our young people regretting such a major life-changing surgery as this. As Airial's testimony reveals - in this day and age. where gender reassignment is possible : Just because you can, doesn't necessarily mean that you should.

[@Shalanaya]

Trans people are LITERALLY born in the body of the opposite sex, this is a fact confirmed by hard core science, not to mention regarded by biologists as intersex, they are not doing anythintg different from what intersex people do - they are called corrective surgeries, and people are awaere of risks. Ask someone born with two heads if they regret their surgeries.

[@lynneoliver5863]

This is fascinating. I wish my grandson would watch this. Airiel I'd like to give you a hug xx

[@lizicadumitru9683]

Have you sent him a link?

[@scapps8173]

When are we going to address the fact that abuse and all forms of mental distress and mental illness is the problem? People are not born this way. This is a mental problem that we need to look at. Let's start admitting that not having stable families is a problem. None of this is good for children. This poor man needed mental help and got nothing. Any of us would have problems if we had a parent that did this to us. His mother is just as bad as she did not protect her child. I am so sorry this is happening to so many people. Please speak up and help the young children that are being abused.

[@Mymusic-pj1oc]

There may be some therapists that are good, but most are bad. And this excessive hand holding that's done now tells children they have something wrong with them. I didn't know my child kept a "trauma folder." She wouldn't know trauma if it hit her. She had all kinds of made up scenarios of what I did to her. The craziest one was that she hates me for telling her that I wished she'd never been born. I never said so. So I had to think and ponder after she blew up and left what in the world she could have been talking about. It was a stupid Burger King commercial that I laughed at one day. The Jr. Burger storms out and says "I wish I'd never been broiled!" She wanted to know why it was funny. I must not have done well explaining. Or when she revisited that memory, she twisted it so it could be in that "trauma folder." So it would fit the new narrative of abuse. She also thinks she needs to be diagnosed as autistic. There's nothing wrong with her. I told her so and she hates me for not believing her. Her only problem is her idiot friends "online" and tik tok that tells her so. She had a great childhood, we went camping, sports, arts, etc. Now this bs as she went to college. All I can figure is I should have limited online time more. Or sent her to a different college, but unfortunately they taught this in FINANCE class.

[@barboglesby2162]

​@@Mymusic-pj1ocI know. Many of us have lost children to this Leftist insanity.

[@aprilmeowmeow]

​@@Mymusic-pj1oc she could very well be autistic. the signs are very different in girls vs boys. You obviously know your daughter better than me, i just thought I'd mention it. My son once cried bc I said "hey, what time do you go to the dentist? tooth-hurty... get it? like your tooth hurts?". He said it was cruel of me to lie and he thought he had an appointment. He was like 7 or 8. I tried to hold back my laughter, lol.

[@Mymusic-pj1oc]

@@aprilmeowmeow sure. Autistic because tiktok tells her she is. It's a well-known trend kids are into nowadays. All kinds of people on there faking isms to get views. 🙄 I know my child very well.

[@mangjitnijjhar1390]

​@@Mymusic-pj1ocThe trauma folder thing is a bit extreme but there's a chance that she could be autistic. My parents often ignored and denied legitimate health issues (like asthma, food allergies, Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, etc.) and thought they were made up (despite us being an isolated K-12 homeschool family so no one could have really told us to fake symptoms) so we sometimes had to handle them ourselves. All of my siblings and I have also shown signs of autism our whole lives but I'm sure that our parents would deny it and say it's made up or dramatized or something if we told them.

[@samanthaorologio6866]

I’m so proud and grateful trauma leading to transition was mentioned. It’s so often the case and they usually now pretend it’s totally unrelated and just another preference on earth.

[@SashaWhiteInterviews]

You might be interested in my interview with Layton, another detransitioner, who talks about how trauma was behind her dysphoria and also now helps others heal from trauma kzbin.info/www/bejne/nIvEhp2AiLyAqMUsi=QsDudMgXOqJiCy60

[@barboglesby2162]

A lot homosexual and LGTB issues are due to abuse issues, parental abuse or otherwise. The LBGTQ community generally doesn't want to address that. It's understandable to not want to realize one's abuser interfered in ones normal sexuality, and recovery from trauma takes a lot of work. It also certainly doesn't mean it will change the sexual attraction one has become conditioned to. It is a shame that generally, that community ignores the need for therapy that focuses on their trauma issues. There is no pill, drink, surgery, or quick fix that will cure the underlying damage embedded in the mind and heart from abuse, sexual abuse and trauma.

[@3rz-rhymesreasonsandwritte437]

Thank you both for your courage to both relate and cover this story. I think the final advice was awesome and summed up with so much sensitivity. It made me kind of think of when one is young and fall in love and believe they've met 'their one true love' and the parents try and say No, No , you are too young to make a decision that will affect the rest of your life. And they are usually right but he didn't have much emotionally mature support to help him through this experience. His story, now that he's told it, deserves a movie to be made on it to tell the world and make people aware of these extreme experiences. Many don't understand all these situations if they aren't faced with them in their family or friends. ❤

[@tommymarco]

Great video ! Feel much for Airi, stay strong, thank you for speaking up

[@OliveGreen0516]

What a lovely human being. Thank you for sharing ❤

[@jenniferplatts174]

What you have lived through and the struggles you endured was so heartwrenching. I want to grab hold of these nasty activists and show them this video. Problem is, they are deranged and sociopathic, they wouldnt get any of this. They actually are devoid of empathy, just full of hate. I just want to give you a hug.❤

[@barboglesby2162]

​​​@@jenniferplatts174 These activists and Alphabet ideology obsessed medical people would just abuse and traumatized you if you tried to show them the truth. They would deny it and try to make you feel crazy. I really don't know how we are going to deal with so many people who have become so out of touch with reality. Especially, since Progressive Democrat politicians and most of their equally radicalized base are using the government to enforce this 100 made up genders and Trans agenda that hasn't one shred of confirmed science behind it. Europe is realizing the truth because the law suits are flooding in. The malpractice lawsuits are just starting here, so hopefully this terrible hoax will stop being forced on our youth too.

[@bluewolfwalking]

What a self-aware and self-reflective young man you’ve become. I wish you all the best.

[@Danielle-zq7kb]

Even if surgery ends up being the correct choice, the mental health issues need to be addressed first before a person makes a life-altering surgical change. Even puberty blockers need to be considered very carefully.

[@GretchenKeskeys]

Re: When Airiel spoke of being a narcissist during a time. Narcissism is rooted in the deepest shame. More people should understand this. These are hurting people. But unfortunately, they hurt others often without even understanding it.

[@TimoteoDeBaum]

It’s interesting. When they said they suggested open relationship to their partners, it signaled to me they indulge in self harming behaviors and spreads their trauma to others without even realizing it. I don’t think they are narcissistic but they needed intensive therapy for sure

[@gaz8891]

That's a really interesting point. I've only recently understood that my very domineering dad was a narcsisst, and he certainly was deeply motivated to avoid shame ... I hadn't put the two together though.

[@sussexwoman]

Its so awful that these poor deluded people are mutilating themselves.

[@Soche3]

no its natural selection

[@tabithan2978]

Is it that different from covering your body with tattoos and piercings or have boob jobs and butt lifts etc?

[@Laura-lh7xg]

​@tabithan2978 yes, because plastic surgery etc only changes the form. Transition changes bodily functions.

[@tabithan2978]

@@Laura-lh7xg Your body, your choice, if adult and can afford it. I believe in a woman’s right to choose, and the right to euthanasia. So why not this? We are all in charge of our own bodies, and sometimes we make mistakes. 🤷‍♀️

[@Laura-lh7xg]

@@tabithan2978 I agree! But I can still feel bad for these people.

[@insidiousmischka]

It is so so so important to have a good examples of both women and men around a growing child ... and I don¨t mean that it necesarily has to be the parents, but in wider community that the child can spend a lot of time with ...

[@mariakarvouni5267]

Fantastic interview - ee ( & great interviewer who let him speak & tolerated silence)

[@TraciDoering-hw8hu]

Ari, you are a brave and wonderful man as well as a powerful force for change.

[@AliciaM5555]

It's incredibly sad to watch healthy young people mutilate their bodies. That includes plastics. Many of these people can never father/mother children or even experience orgasm ever again. I am sincerely happy for those who have had successful transitions and surgeries! It's exciting when I hear of it! But more and more you hear theses horror stories. I don't understand theses surgeons!

[@naomivought9317]

It makes me sad when I see all these young girls getting Botox and fillers ever few months too. This story is just heartbreaking. Every one I watch gets worse. We need to address mental health, and disconnect from the internet. Truly I think that’s the only thing that is going to fix a lot of this.

[@azkadeliaray521]

But you're okay with mutilating unborn babies?

[@AliciaM5555]

@@azkadeliaray521 really?! Am I!? Do your fucking know me?!

[@azkadeliaray521]

@@AliciaM5555 So you're anti abortion?

[@azkadeliaray521]

@@AliciaM5555 *you, not your

[@Cladina_Green]

Excellent interview. I'm touched by his ability to arrive at a healthy perspective, although it must still be difficult day to day. Gaining understanding brings the opportunity for healing.

[@janehiswife6793]

Y'all have got to start suing the doctors and therapists.

[@barboglesby2162]

They are suing in Europe and this nonsense is ending! The lawsuits are just starting here, but the Democrat Party thinks they have a voting base with the LBGTQ militant community. They are creating laws to protect this terrible fantasy. However, my guess is the lawsuits are going to have the same effect here as it is in Europe. I'd love to be a lawyer right now.

[@magpiegirl3783]

Great interview conducted sensitively by Sasha. Congratulations on Airiel for getting through this and explaining his situation. There's so much in this story that is similar to other people who have regrets about transition, sufficient that it is clear that simple affirmation IS NOT the solution. This has been demonstrated clearly through the Cass Report and countless detransitioners. I am sorry Airiel went though this and hope he finds a long and happy life, content with himself.

[@justrelaxing1550]

Airiel you are such a lovely man. I hope that your life is much clearer for you now. Just be you. You’re lovely as you are.

[@TheUnderCoverMother2020]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@dabailey1000]

I am in my 70s and I was very impressed with you. Your insight is amazing and so very glad you have been able to look back and come to an understanding of yourself. Thank you for sharing. I wish nothing but the best for you. ❤

[@Thestephouse1]

Thank you Airiel for sharing your story. I salute your courage in being so open and wish you a healthy and happy future. I'm humbled by your inner strength ❤🙏

[@HB-iq6bl]

Eloquent speaker .children with meth parents are raised in chaos

[@barboglesby2162]

Children raised by alcoholics or any addiction have a rough childhood experience.

[@collyernicholasjohn]

I’ve often thought my now gay stepson wanted to be a woman not because of his mostly absent father, but because of the way his mother Demonised his father as a ‘bad man’.

[@barboglesby2162]

Maybe both?

[@_SimpleSam]

This is the very distinct impression I got, as well.

[@paulamarianaruiz]

this man is SO brave, I will pray for him so he can heal and help others

[@CPoynter]

This has to stop. I cannot imagine anything more debilitating than this tragic loss of the essence of being male and how debilitating that must be in all ways. So glad you have survived and are sharing your experience to help prevent others from similar errors. Thank you! You are a sweet and lovely man!

[@naomivought9317]

Seriously that detail of his story is especially just disturbing. I can’t imagine not having those parts. It’s just horrible.

[@azkadeliaray521]

Why are you policing people's bodies?

[@CPoynter]

@@azkadeliaray521 I am NOT "policiing" anyone else's body!! I AM skeptical of all the ideological biases in Gender Theory and the fact that in N. America we are so far behind the reality of evidence based medicine reviews of Gender Medicine in Europe, which has determined through at least 3-4 medical reviews of the evidence that the Swedish, Finnish, Denmark and UK governments have done, followed closely by France, Germany and other Eastern European nations, leaves N. American medicine in the dust in this ONE area. No other medicine is determined by self-diagnosis and demand for treatments based on self-diagnosis; for generations, literally, the psychotherapeutic approach was taken FIRST for most with g.d. (a real brain-related-maturity condition which seems to occur in the same area of the brain which processes body-self perception as eating disorders and cutting occur...why no one knows; for 80-96%--depending on various studies done over 40 years--- of youth, g.d. will dissipate with brain maturation, around 25-26 or sooner, depending on the individual; seems to be a growth related brain condition for most). While I don't care if really mature adults decide to do this to live as they wish to, I AM concerned about youth having spent 32 years working with teens and also have family who transitioned suddenly, no history of g.d. in childhood or prior to much internet use and isolation, and we know that females in adolescence are prone to "social contagion" and since 2010 this has been part of this huge exponential growth in women transitioning to appear male. MOST will, if supported with good therapy, find that brain maturation takes care of g.d. on its own, through growth; and that alone should be a clue that there is more than a gender theory involved in this medical phenomenon! Also there are huge rates of youth getting, after 6-7 years on Testosterone, liver and kidney tumours; that alone is a 'don't go there' warning in medicine for ANY OTHER CONDITION's MEDICAL TREATMENTS! So I think everyone should be concerned about the health of those who have g.d.; and read further, not in gender theory, but in actual science, about g.d. and its debilitating impacts. Such as "The End of Gender" by Dr. Debra Soh (a sexologist well known, was at York University in Toronto many years, PHD in the area). Try reading beyond Trans sites and you might learn about these complications further. I have nothing against Trans persons; I have many many friends in the Gay community and support fully gay rights. I'll even support the right of Trans adults to transition, if they find that helpful, once they have had other co-morbidities resolved; so that people like Airiel do not find out too late that they were medically experimented on with lasting negative results. I can imagine nothing worse than what he has lived through due to trauma and being mis-led by gender clinics/surgeons except getting cancer or other long-term health impacts from this supposed "treatment".

[@pukupuku]

@@azkadeliaray521 Why are you policing people’s speech?

[@uslph.]

​@@pukupuku Why is your question about their question of someone's speech not policing? Why do you think asking questions or asking for clarification is policing speech?

[@carlosharrington2661]

I know nothing about this transgender world. But I like to say, stay strong and don't look back. I learned so much from your interview. And Sasha love ur interview style .

[@JimmiAlli]

Airiel is very well spoken. Such an insightful and thought provoking interview. ❤

[@salvolondon]

Gosh I’m not sure I can watch it , It’s just so terrible . As a man the idea of anyone having such a mutilation just makes me feel sick

[@naomivought9317]

That is the correct response. I’m a women and that’s just so horrifying. I feel so torn for him.

[@edbutzwiggle4227]

Great interview; great host and great guest. Thanks for your openness and honesty. Hopefully this can help others. 🤗

[@roxannekabotsky2997]

I am so sorry to hear of your childhood trauma. It was not your fault, your parents failed you completely. 😢

[@anniacampbell8764]

Thank you for sharing your story so candidly. Keep sharing it ❤

[@cheribee968]

Sasha you’re doing great Very good interview I appreciate the person sharing their experience I’m so sorry you went through having a meth addict father That is hellish Your dad was a sick man

[@jacquiliddell7680]

I never remember as a child thinking about mental health, I don’t remember disassociating I don’t even think I knew what that meant between the age of 3 - 10. The only thing I think I would have done is said I don’t want to go and stay with my father again. I never even knew what transgender meant between the age of 3-14 never heard of such a thing thank god ! I think young people have too much to think about instead of just getting on with life and what it can offer if you work for it.

[@PS-qf9fj]

Maybe you weren't abused so you didn't have as much to think about in terms of trauma. I am not transgender but I am an abuse survivor. It's 100% normal to ruminate on it and 100% helpful to learn the language for what was happening to you as a child, for instance "disassociating". I think you mean to be helpful with this response but it is actually quite cold. Child abuse survivors suffer greatly and it can take years to undo the damage. Many children are in situations where they can say "I don't want to go to dad's anymore" and it will not result in them no longer going to dad's. Children are powerless. They are at the mercy of their parents and the adults around them, and those adults are more often than not not good people. It is great that he is unpacking all this because understanding his abuse and helping himself will prevent him from abusing other people. Hurt people hurt people is very true. As for transitioning, he was a kid with the mind of a kid, and this was his child's mind solution, and unfortunately right now doctors are failing children by endorsing this transition thing when they shouldn't be.

[@ClaytonHardee]

Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story with us. I’m an adult male who suffered from Hypogonadism at birth, and the issue did not begin to be addressed until I was thirteen. Because of the hormonal imbalance, I was going through puberty as a female. I felt like a female, (difficult to explain), but at times I also wanted to be a male as representative of my biological sex, XY chromosomes. This contributed to a lot of gender confusion both as a teen and as an adult. I eventually had to start testosterone hormone therapy which I will have to continue for the remainder of my life. I feel fortunate that I did not pursue a male-to-female transition during my mental struggle/confusion. I have no doubt that had I been a teen in this day and age, my (female) gender would have been affirmed by therapists and doctors, and surgical transitioning viable option. Fortunately, that didn’t happen, and I am a healthy and happy adult male.

[@Pottercraft278]

This is the lobotomy of our generation.

[@caroliner2029]

@30 mins I'm listening to Ari unpack his thoughts as I make dinner. His description of his father have made me reflect on my mother who was a narcissist. A narcissist is unable to give their child (or anyone else) appropriate mirroring, which is essential for a child's developing sense of self, self-esteem, and idea that they have anything of value to bring to the world, that they have intrinsic value in themselves. It makes a child vulnerable, firstly to predators (other narcissists), but also to self-rejection and attempts to find a new persona they can adopt that will bring them a sense of acceptance from others, and a shield or thin suit of armour that can give them an ability to cope with social insecurity. The child who becomes the funny kid, the clown, the daredevil (risk taker), etc. It takes years for us to feel comfortable in our own skin, and know who we are, and what we bring to the world. May the Lord God wrap His arms of love and comfort around Ari, and bring him healing, as He has me.

[@shannon6666]

So true, the outbursts and temper tantrums of a narcissist that you try to avoid by fading into the background...I'm sure a meth user is way worse but that feeling of fear and when you are going to be hammered is surely similar. In my 30s still trying to unlearn apologizing or over-explaining for things not my fault. They should be teaching kids about how to identify and deal with narcissistic abuse in the home, not what pronouns are right for you. Especially emotional and verbal abuse, at least physical abuse leaves a bruise, you know what it is. Psychological warfare of narcissists is so hard to understand.

[@krustycreme1093]

My parents were decent people, i wasnt bashed, mistreated etc, however i grew up feeling very misunderstood, we'd be lectured about things for hours on end (when i was a good kid) and my brother would slink off while no one noticed him leave, while i would stand my ground and defend myself. I would often stare at the same spot on the wall without altering m gaze for hours on end, refusing to look at them while i was being lectured. I would not cry when smacked, but i felt explosively angry inside, and it just made me set my jaw and double down. I was embarrassed of my mother growing up. She was not fashionable and looked old for her age and I just felt embarrassed and i determined to myself that i would not look like her as i aged and that i would get a facelift so I never looked old and wrinkly like that and i wouldnt look like her. My husband commented when we were going out, and looking through photo albums that he noticed i never really looked like i was smiling in any of my childhood pics. He remembers alot of fine detail about his childhood. I remember stuff, but its mainly negative things that happened or that i felt. I dont remember a single time I ever went out with my mother on my own and had a nice time. I remember the odd awkward times when she tried to take me out for time on our own, but I dont remember ever enjoying it or ever having easy conversation. I remember being told I was "difficult" alot, yet i didnt drink, sleep around, go out night clubbing or anything- i was a goodd kid, but i just refused to be bullshitted and would stand up for myself if i felt hardly done by and they didnt like that. I was told i was outspoken. I just turned 50 and my parents have been overseas visiting us for 5 wks, and while we have a nice conversation on skype, being in the same space with them (my mother) makes me feel like i can't breathe! She is quite odd how she hovers around over you, or pretends to be "helpful" yet actually never does anything helpful even when asked. When we were on hols earlier in the trip, she kept stacking recycling on the kitchen bench, I asked everyone who kept dumping the garbage on the bench, and no one owned up, but the next morning i saw her putting more there,so I nicely mentioned to her that the recycling caddy was right outside the door, and showed her where and said i would like her to put it directly into that please, rather than junk up the kitchen bench, but she replied "I will just put it here, and then xxx can put it out, as its his job to do the recycling (one of our kids). I felt like i was going to explode! I was paying for the accomodation! I told her how I wanted things done, and she point blank refused to comply and just kept doing what she does, and that has been the story of our lives! When i was young (until I left home) mum would enter our rooms and "tidy up" (ie go thru our stuff and invade our privacy) and i had taken the parents manual of the childcraft encyclopedia set, as I was 13 and only heard about the birds and the bees from kid at school. I put it under my pillow and forgot to put it back before I went out to an activity, and when i came home remembered, and went to get the book to put it back and was horrified to find it gone and in its place this stupid book called "almost 12" which was very childish and insulting to my intelligence really . It felt like such an assault to my privacy. my bed was made so there was no reason for her to have been digging around in it. I still to this day have a deep distrust of her, because she would violate boundaries like that, so we keep our cards close to our chest with them. When i got married (when i was 21) i would regulary have arguments in my sleep with my parents and wake up really angry and my husband thought it odd as we moved away as soon as we married and didn't have alot to do with them, but i would wake him talking in my sleep arguing. Over the last 30 yrs he understands full well why i am so triggered by my mother because he understands the dynamics, and he bridges the gap. He found a great lecture online once about the concept of "Sovereignty" and the effects the erosion of sovereignty has on ones self and it all made sense to me. my sovereignty was never respected- my privacy was invaded, and i was lectured endlessly, and not allowed to voice my own opposition to perceived unfairness etc, without further punishment, and i took those ideas on board. We have had 5 children. I chose to birth them at home, we co-slept until they were toddlers, so my babies never had to wake up crying or afraid, because we were always close by. We wore them in slings, and they breastfed until they were ready to stop- rather than when i made them. We dont hit (or as some like to call it "smack") because it doesn't work and its disrespectful to hit others, just because they are small and can't fight back. We talk to our kids about undesirable behaviour and tell then WHY we don't want to be doing xyz to other people, etc, so they understand. Our aim with training and leadership of our children is changing their heart stance, so they are compassionate and make the right choices because its the right thing to do- not because of fear of punishment. Our 17 and 15 yr old are GREAT KIDS! We have NEVER had "teenage" behaviour from them. They dont talk back to us, because we respect them, and also we speak to them in such a way, that they dont feel the need to have to push back or give us attitude. We have great fun with them too, and every night before bed, we watch a netflix series etc together, and laugh and have fun! They trust us and speak to us about big things. They know we wont force them to comply to our way of thinking, but they seek our councel because they recognise that the values we have bears good fruit in our lives, and we are wise. They love hanging out with us, and its nice that we have the relationship i never had with my parents, but it does make me sad, because there is no way for me to have the same with mine, and the foundation of trust and mutual respect just isn't there to build it. It was interesting reading your comments where you brought up parental mirroring etc, so i googled that and read a bit about that. That is instinctually how we have parented. But it is not how i was parented. I remember my mother cleaning and organising all the time, but she never got down and just had fun with us. When we are talking to our kids about something important to them we might say for example "I understand you are feeling really frustrated with xxx going into your room and messing with your stuff, aren't you, and thats not ok for them to do that and i will deal with them in a minute, but do you think reacting like that and chasing them and winding it up into an even bigger thing is going to help things, or do you think it might have been better to tell us what was going on and let us deal with it?" and then they get to problem solve through how their response to the situation wasnt actually solving any problem but just making it more emotionally charge, and think about how their patterns of behaviour/response serves a situation or not etc. When i was a kid, i just got lectured on and on. No one was interested in hearing my side of the story, so i just clammed up and felt angry. I just wouldnt talk, because it was pointless anyway. As i said, my parents weren't bad people, and they love us, but there is a massive disconnect there. And it does emotionally impact me greatly, mostly when i am around them, but i have learnt to identify things and make positive choices to not be like that myself, although i would never claim to be perfect. My kids have a voice, and it is valued, not supressed. And turning 50 and losing a little weight, i have noticed looking in the mirror my neck no longer looks firm, and i feel this very strong revulsion at my reflection and feelings of helplessness that i am not in a financial position to do anything about that for now. my husband said it makes him feel sad because he thinks i am ageing very well and i am beautiful ,so he hates when i "Pick on his best friend and say nasty things about her" and i get he feels like that, and I now understand why i feel the way i do about myself physically. That said, i have the power to do something about that, and i most certainly will when i can, because i have no intention of having to look in the mirror and see something i loathe, but in a way, its a very minor version of the manifestation of trans people hating their body and wanting to physically change it, because of what they see in the mirror as a result of trauma too. Hmm. Well, thanks for talking about the mirroring, because i am going to look further into that, as i want to understand more about why i feel so aggrieved about how i was raised!

[@Womenmatter2009]

Thank you so much for sharing this Ariel. All the best.

[@jeanhelms2621]

Born female in 1945 and had 2 children. So I’m not actually “in” this conversation; but I want to learn & that’s always been my way and KZbin is fertile ground. Hearing about males wanting to change from penis to vagina, the thought ALWAYS crosses my mind that the docs & transitioners should sit & contemplate the whole female reproductive system with RESPECT. Language can dissect verbally into ‘vagina,’ uterus, ovaries, estrogen, clitoris … but the system does not know those words! It’s all one system & it’s wholly integrated into the whole body. Maybe someday surgeons might be able to transplant the whole system into a man wanting to be female - like they can transplant heart / pulmonary into a body. Donor organs… That might work. But it’s so complex, it’s going to take years if it’s ever possible. And the “organ rejection” factor will still hang over it too. A biologically correct vagina self lubricates; its flexibility goes from tightening around a penis to expanding to release a 9 pound baby with a big skull circumference. The trans-surgeons NEED TO DISCUSS THIS. They need to educate & discuss the whole package. Poor Oscar Wilde was broken in prison for being gay. He wasn’t. He was bi - but did not have anal sex. Between the thighs was his way. ( There’s a word for that way; but I can’t remember it.) Isn’t it time we stop all this verbiage surrounding sexuality? Let each other be. Rape is criminal. Pedophelia is criminal. That must stand strong. But, at this time - and maybe for many years to come - Mother Nature holds all the aces. Nobody can magic a penis into one part of the female system, “the vagina.” Nor the other way around. Maybe that’s sad. But for now it’s TRUE.

[@YRTheyDoingThis]

This is so heartbreaking, truly gut wrenching. I am so sorry you’ve gone through this, that you didn’t have anyone to trust and too help you. Thank you for telling your powerful story. I really think you can make a difference in children and young adult lives. If a single person makes the decision not to do this you will have spared them so much pain. I don’t know if this is helpful, but you still sound like a man and are a very handsome man as well.

[@zeroconsequences]

Now, if only people like this would realize there is a greater manipulation at play from the progressive ideology, and not just consider it a one-off unique experience that doesn't have any relevance to the rest of their lives and the lies of billions of humans on this planet.. politics, economy, religion, ethics.. just to name a few.

[@azkadeliaray521]

Why are you policing people's bodies?

[@zeroconsequences]

@@azkadeliaray521 There is and always has been a line drawn in the sand which humanity balks at or else they devolve into chaos and nihilism. Whenever humanity has crossed that line, it has been destroyed. So there is a consequence to freedom that people aren't aware of and are actually lied to, being told that a future without any semblance of cultural and systemic foundation is one that will thrive.. utterly hilarious but at the same time very sad. But keep believing that it will be different this time.

[@christinegovan3712]

​@@azkadeliaray521please explain that comment...not the first time you have said it..

[@Betsy.Ross76]

​@azkadeliaray521 you seem to like using that phrase. I've seen it a few times now. 😅

[@bunnielynn777]

It’s sad to see what kind of damage your father has caused you throughout your life. But you sound like you have weathered the storm well, in the long run. I am glad that you aren’t having any physical issues due to the surgery that you went through. I know that this channel isn’t about finding God, but since I am a believer, I would like to mention that I have a perpetual intercessory prayer list & I have added your name to my list & I will be praying for you daily for as long as I live. I promise you that our Heavenly Father is nothing like the person that your earthly father was like. Our Heavenly Father is kind, compassionate, benevolent, extremely loving & merciful. I pray that you will come to know Him🙏🏼

[@lesleymoven4776]

So much appreciation for you and your channel Sasha👏💐… These stories are so needed now… Bless these brave people for having the courage to to tell the truth!🙏🏻🌟❤️

[@samanthaorologio6866]

Idk how this is possible. And this is my first time here, but the interviewer, somehow, seems to think of questions on the fly or know there needs to be a question and makes it as she speaks, BUT, they’re also the best freaking questions 😂 it’s impressive really. The questions are great. And the interviewee can sure tell a story beautifully and intelligently. I hate that this was the way here though. I feel for everyone going through these things so much.

[@SashaWhiteInterviews]

Thank you so much, glad to have you here ♥️

[@TheSillySils]

Airiel; Youre essentially a eunuch now, not as an insult, but as a life path. It was quite common back in the ancient times, so you can still have a fulfilling life.

[@thecook8964]

Well said

[@omfug7148]

Ever hear about Nullos? Modern eunuchs by choice (these are gay males not trans btw.)

[@forpeace1580]

Poor baby, I'm so sorry all that you endured when you were a precious innocent child...I am so glad you are uncovering the origins of your hurts and wounds...God bless you and protect you as you heal. Amen.

[@treecooklive]

What a courageous young person. I really enjoyed this conversation. I also think that I needed to hear it, to understand and appreciate the enormity of the struggle those with gender-dysphoria have, not having dealt with it myself. Young lady, you are an excellent interviewer, counsellor, host.

[@anikaparker1077]

4:10 I'm a Black female and I moved from California to get away from Black people. I moved to a small town in Washington State. I wanted a more wholesome place to raise my children; a place where there were no drugs and no graffiti. That doesn't make me a bad person. It makes me a good parent.

[@CadennHappke-n1k]

Yep, cause white people dont don’t do drugs or graffiti 🙄

[@jennyedmiston6930]

I see the deep care for others in Ari’s revealing his/her truth. So many lessons anyone involved in transitioning should be educated on, it’s tremendously complicated. Help Support in depth study before going down any path with serious physical and mental implications spanning a lifetime. The only pressure should be on divulging in detail the information on hormones and surgery along with extensive mental health counseling over a reasonable time. Praying for everyone’s awareness and love for people in this predicament. TY Ari, this is so extremely important.

[@TheUnderCoverMother2020]

Mental health practitioners are supporting this.

[@bluewolfwalking]

Sasha, you do a good job with your interviews-very gentle, low-key, caring.

[@SashaWhiteInterviews]

Thanks :)

[@melissajanaemiddleton6811]

I'm struck most of all by the nuanced sensitivity that you have developed within yourself, Airiel, through the course of all of this. The growth of your self-awareness, emotional resilience and compassionate acceptance of self (and others) are qualities that I consider to be among the most valuable that a human being can develop. Rather than cave into victimhood, you've allowed this to be a journey that's nurtured your unique authenticity. Perhaps this unlikely series of events has been the one imperfectly perfect path that would ultimately lead you to your true Core/Coeur 💖 Blessings on your journey.....

[@helpanimals-]

The body is trying to close an open wound that isn't natural to it. "Dilating" is such bull. This person is very down to earth, I appreciate them. What a fucked up father holy shit

[@fredh999harris8]

Yes, trying to make a vagina from forearm flesh is hardly the same thing as a real vagina that resulted from thousands of years of evolution. It isn't even close!

[@PopsandSass]

I have a loved 1 that's confused & I'm trying to educate myself. I was shocked @ ur Sub count - ur comparable w/the bigger channels. Unlike other Creators u listen & let the Guest speak -the timing of ur questions are perfect & they seem natural as if ur having a conversation not an interview. GR8 Channel! Catching the Replays😊

[@Pylypczak]

Ari you are a brilliant young man with a lot to offer the wirld. You would make a priceless therapist for gender dysphoric people. Thanks for educating us.

[@LaurieR2255]

Thank you both for this interview. I learned so much and understand so much more, than I did before watching. I work around many people with gender dysphoria, and while I , at age 66, am kind to everyone, I have not been very competent in the "understanding" department! Thank you again.