Troubled Adopted Boy Goes Missing, But Father is Unconcerned | Jaliek Rainwalker Case Analysis

[@caseyandtoryshalloween1236]

As a local I’m so happy to hear you covering this story! But I feel you missed something that points at Steven. A short time after the disappearance Jaliek’s adopted grandmother, I believe it was the wife’s mother, actually broke into the house that Steven and Jaliek stayed in the night he disappeared and found the clothes that Steven said he was wearing when he went missing. She didn’t have permission to be there so she actually got a burglary charge and it cannot be used as evidence but I believe it’s a big piece of circumstantial evidence pointing at Steven! This grandmother has become a huge advocate for Jaliek and his case, and is now estranged from her daughter because she so heavily believes Steven killed Jaliek. I also want to note that I think the system and NYS Foster Care is also at fault here. Jaliek should have NEVER been placed in that home. There was one bedroom and no plumbing. They used an outhouse. And that’s not the norm here so I’m not sure why they’d let these people not just let their 3 own biological children live in these conditions but to then give them 2 additional foster children?!? And let them adopt those children?!? It’s unacceptable and unfortunately I don’t think it will ever be solved.

[@sweetpea6843]

7 children living in a one bedroom cottage without plumbing or heat, while the foster parents are receiving thousands a month in income? Something is terribly off here; maybe the foster parents were involved in drugs?

[@abihops8204]

As another local I was also going to comment this. Not to mention how horribly they treated the other adopted childen, and how it differs from how they treated their bio kids

[@shawnnewell4541]

My sister adopted 2 boys and her home was thoroughly inspected. They had to fill in the swimming poIl with a garden before they were allowed to adopt their first baby. Safety hazard.

[@lindaaspromonte1514]

My thoughts exactly and I commented before I read your excellent analysis

[@mamacito1795]

Sadly sounds like it has been solved just not proved. How terrible

[@pembrokelove]

It’s always suspicious to me when someone says “they don’t have any evidence” as opposed to “because I didn’t do anything”. Thats just super bizarre to me.

[@maureeningleston1501]

The Father saying "people want to string me up but they don't have enough evidence" is a far cry from what an innocent person would say. imo.

[@jekw23]

Yep….couldn’t say anything more guilty if you tried.

[@GuyNamedSean]

It sounds to me more like he has a persecution complex and even takes the death of a child as something that's all about him.

[@sarahalbers5555]

OMG, that is a very scary comment. This poor, lost little boy. 🙏 for him and all other little ones who get caught up in these awful situations.

[@missiris1234]

Dad feels worse for himself then for the missing boy!

[@sarahmurphy7838]

An innocent person says "I didn't do it".

[@mikki3961]

Jaliek has been missing for 15 years now. This case was in the local news for quite a while. Most believe that Steven indeed harmed Jaliek. The jacket Steven said Jaliek was wearing when he disappeared was found in plain sight in the home. None of his belongings were missing. They made No effort to find the child. Jaliek deserves justice and those "parents' know where he is.

[@WalterModel45]

Laws that allow the police to tag a disappear kid as "voluntary disappear" or even "disappear" are unconstitutional. That always should be investigatin as potential homicide.

[@eboyd2478]

Wow omg

[@amandakorbe3773]

They just found his body.

[@WhisperingMeadowss]

I’ve heard this story recently on another KZbin channel, omg it’s heartbreaking! All that boy wanted was love and everyone around him, failed him.

[@ianpeddle6818]

The guilty ones are the adoptive parents and the system that placed this vulnerable boy with them. A red warning sign to me was the vanity of changing his name to the ludicrous “Rain Walker” unless Stephen and his wife changed theirs to “Shite Parent Techniquers” the other red flag is the constant moving around to inappropriate and insufficient housing. Poor lad.

[@sideshowratt]

It sure seems like we see these "vanity" name changes a lot in cases of adoptive parents who harm their children.

[@BrainDamageComedy]

💯💯👍👍

[@maryfrancesbeckerhaggerty5353]

This is so awfully sad. This poor child. In his short life he was never wanted or loved. There are not many of Dr. Grande's videos that bring tears to my eyes but this is one that has tears rolling down my face. No child should ever be made to feel this way.

[@elainearchibald9020]

I find it strange that people with children can adopt another child and live in a one bedroom unit. How is that legal? Did Jaliek have to tolerate the entire family without having space to have his thoughts? This doesn't seem right. Jaliek may have learned the explicit language from someone within the family. It doesn't add up in my opinion. He may have been angry from all that he had to endure prior to and since living with this family. As for Steven not showing any compassion towards Jaliek's disappearance, makes me think he got rid of him. I would like to know more on this case. Thank you for your analysis Dr. Grande!

[@margolane8529]

Saying inappropriate sexual things isn't abnormal for 12 year old boys either. I guess it would be different if it was violent in nature, but it seems weird to me that this is what was the final straw for his adopted parents. Did they even try to get him mental health help if they were so concerned?

[@Cec9e13]

@@margolane8529 and he was fostered from 4-7, who knows what he heard/experienced before he came to them.

[@cleopatra444]

thats exactly my thoughts!! WHY are these already mentally or emotionally troubled children placed with people who are not only not the best candidates but also struggling financially !! Does the system care to honestly check on these kids well being !! Im sure is not easy mentally and emotionally for these children to live in the foster care system , and all of a sudden to be placed with people that show you they dont care about you ☹️ Its beyond me how much neglect and just plain disregard goes on in our supposedly foster “care” system . Broken system , broken children 🥺🙏🏻

[@elainearchibald9020]

@@cleopatra444 Agreed!

[@alb5801]

Jaliek being deemed a difficult placement was apparently placed with whoever would take him and under circumstances that would normally be deemed inappropriate.

[@KimberlyLetsGo]

Terribly sad. Dr. G, you crank out great quality videos every day. Your work ethic is admirable. You have to do a lot of research, write your script, create your video, then edit it and still upload it. That has to take up a ton of your time. I hope you still have moments were you can enjoy your vehicles and read or watch light-hearted material to give yourself balance.

[@MrBrooklyn06]

Sorry but he totally botched this case. Lots of important information missed.

[@melbournestreetdrummermsd3202]

Also the Doctor is an Author with a book currently on the market, that is cool.

[@melbournestreetdrummermsd3202]

@@MrBrooklyn06 Ok we're all keen to know, please continue

[@Ebenezer456]

I agree. A video a day is decent going!

[@belladamex767]

I feel as though Steven is more likely responsible than not, the note could also have been forced. Kids don’t usually disappear off the face of the Earth.

[@Psychedlic916]

I was looking to see who also thought this. I also think he could’ve been forced to write that note.

[@123raven4]

I agree 100% too that he was forced to write the note! His jerk adoptive father probably killed him!

[@bee12355]

Steven is definitely responsible. He made that boy write the note

[@paul9156c]

I was so lucky. I was adopted by VERY loving parents. They were addicted to cigarettes, but no one is perfect. I miss them now more than words can convey. My parents were committed to raising me the best that they knew how. They set the bar of a committed relationship too high, they stayed together until my Dad died, something I've given up on ever achieving. 💔

[@elizabethwarman9028]

My Dad was adopted by the Warmans in 1926. They gave my Dad security and love. Plus the Warmans were wealthy. I am very proud to be a Warman.

[@malimalou751]

@@elizabethwarman9028 The video is not about you!

[@cassandrareedy7369]

Don't give up. There are potential partners out there, but giving up on your hopes and dreams will blind you of potential in them and yourself. Love is finding a counterpoint in another. Honesty and loyalty go hand in hand. Bars are set differently for each of us, but the ones we set for ourselves make us who we are, not just what we want to be. I know you feel lucky to have had such a good example of loyalty, but also jaded for not having it yourself. It's like the difference between admiration and jealousy. Admiration leads to inspiration if we don't get hung up on the jealousy. Sending a hopeful hug your way!

[@elizabethwarman9028]

@@malimalou751 , I have a tendency to make everything about me!

[@Ebenezer456]

@@elizabethwarman9028 Go Warmans!!

[@ketocutie2981]

I'm so happy you are discussing this case. It has weighed heavily on my mind for years.

[@ren17x50]

They seem so uncaring. My family adopted my brother as a 9 yr old and I never could treat him like this

[@annalisegiovanni7032]

Hello🙂 I jus left a comment that said that THIS CASE IN PARTICULAR has always weighed heavy on my heart💔 Sending Y'all much love & light💜✨️

[@caseyandtoryshalloween1236]

Yes I’m a local and I remember when it happened, I was in high school. It has always weighed heavy on my mind. The situation he was in was unacceptable and the fact they were able to have foster children is crazy. I’m glad Dr G covered this story but I feel he missed some things. The grandmother, I believe the wife’s mother, a few months after his Disappearance she broke into the house that Steven and Jaleik stayed in that night, and found the clothes that Steven said he went missing in. She actually got a burglary charge for it, so it couldn’t be used as evidence but I say it’s definitely circumstantial evidence!! I believe he did it 100%

[@missiris1234]

How can a family in a cottage adopt another child. It doesn’t seem like they had the room for another child. Or the resource. Just saying

[@thepartysjustbegun5557]

Poor Jaliek never got the love a child deserves my prayers are with him 🙏

[@Neilsowards]

When we applied to become foster parents we were throughly vetted, had to have every cabinet locked, had to have a room to the child's self, and had to write reports on the child's behavior. So much paperwork that we only lasted a year. This contrasted with our foster care experience in the 1970's where we were able to treat a child as if he or she were our own without much paperwork. I hate it when I see reports of bad foster parents. I think the majority of foster parents are good but are weighed down with all the requirements (at least in Indiana). It certainly isnt for the remuneration, as we always spent more on the child than we received from the foster parent agency. I dont know how this family was able to move into a one room house.

[@lnc-to4ku]

Such a terribly sad case, and his little "Good bye" note is heartbreaking!!

[@MrsRitchieBlackmore]

It is heartbreaking that the fate of abused and abandoned children in the foster care system is often more abuse and abandonment. I know that often imperfect homes are better than no home, but the callousness displayed in this case is extraordinary. It is hard to understand how anyone with such attitudes would want to adopt in the first place.

[@bonniejohnson1236]

I don't see how dr. Grande could say there is no reason to believe that steven was involved. Albeit circumstantial i can think of about 7 reasons. Hard for me to believe this child just conviently died without Steven's help after he'd shown so much contempt for him.

[@Bebecat477]

I believe that man knows exactly what happened to that child. Thanks doc. Sad case.

[@browniehendricks3726]

Bless the beasts and the children for in this world they have no voice. Thanks for giving this child and so many other children a voice. Not only are you informative you are empathetic and compassionate. Thanks for your work and take care.

[@lindaaspromonte1514]

Poor kid. Those assholes should have been more properly vetted before they were allowed to adopt him. They were real weirdos. I thought a foster child had to have his own bedroom and they sent him to a place where the family lived in one room house?

[@lindaaspromonte1514]

@labiruhusaini Que?

[@PastorShawn100]

Children in the system almost ALWAYS have problems, especially when adopted older. My oldest son was in a group home with Jaliek for awhile. I did not know Jaliek, but my son was very distraught when all of this was in the news. I believe the father is hiding something and it is too bad they have not been able to bring him to justice. That being said, Reactive Attachment Disorder is REAL and it is devastating to families. AND, it often escalates when adoptions are made permanent. I saw it over and over again. I can totally see how this had become an impossible situation. They were using respite, so that's a clue that they were desperate and reaching out for help. The behaviors of these kids is unimaginable and it is easy for us to judge them as bad parents. Having deep experience in the system, I have talked MANY friends down from complete frustration and anger over very disturbing behaviors and situations. There are certainly bad people abusing the system for money, but most go into it with good hearts wanting to help only to get burned over and over as these kids self-sabotage any success they have with worse and worse behavior. They need to be loved so desperately, but they can not emotionally tolerate it as it is so foreign to their early brain wiring, so behaviors start and escalate to push away. I am not defending the dad by any means, but I can see where the behaviors could get to such an extreme that someone would snap, especially because this is all compounded with a system that doesn't support people very well, especially after adoption is complete.

[@lindaaspromonte1514]

Everything that you say is true and yet I cannot help feel these people were weird and unfit from the beginning. Expecting to live in that tiny home with all of the children and J .having such a special needs they changed his name to a native American surname they did not give him their name and when he made his transgression the mother simply locked him out instead of trying to talk about it. They did not seem to realize that progress for J. I was going to have to happen over the long haul. They sound very immature and self-centered. Taking undulate was a monumental task and the agencies responsible for his placement should never have allowed this to happen

[@rosekeyes3189]

My oldest sister is adopted. She was adopted at 15. She's the most positive person in the world.

[@SziaMachine-e1y]

you are absolutely right. ...but still no excuse for murder

[@Love-like-Lucy]

I heard this one before and it’s so very sad breaks my heart. I’m glad you’re covering it as well because you usually go into more detail

[@disgruntledmoderate5331]

That poor kid. His adoptive parents should have sought counseling for him instead of sending him away.

[@waynejohnson1786]

@@somethingelse4424 I was an absolute POS around that age but I’m glad I had caring and responsible adults in my life to guide me. I feel so bad for these kids who have horrible role models and they get severely punishment for behaviour that’s the result of poor parenting... it’s not fair. This kid never got the chance to grow. Whatever he possibly said, he wasn’t beyond redemption. Most young men just need a positive male role model and they’ll turn out fine but unfortunately this young man didn’t have one..

[@NickvonZ]

Professional "psychics" couldn't find their asses with both hands. But, YEP, they SURE are skilled in finding vulnerable peoples' money!

[@Flamsterette]

Thanks for the analysis, Dr. Grande. I had not heard of this case before.

[@ksmax6310]

I feel so sorry for Jaliek it sounds like he had a very sad existence and he did not deserve that, then to go missing it is really tragic.

[@julieyoung3315]

Very Intriguing! A sad story. Some kids are born with 0% chance. Thanks, Dr. Grande.

[@noahsotolongo]

Poor young boy, he didn't deserve the hardship he had to endure. I hope he's resting in peace.

[@carrieleelondon3021]

Aww I lived in Greenwich NY I'm so grateful you have done this case he deserves justice...

[@sunnycatc6491]

Thank you Dr. Grande, love the peach plaid shirt! Somehow Jaliek Snow Shoveler doesn't have the same ring to it. Poor kid, Dad def did it. The note was old or forced.

[@jerilynmiripol1188]

Thanks!

[@u-neekusername4430]

I saw an interview with the respite "mother"(house mother?) where she said that the note was written THERE as part of his stay. He wrote more than one apology note...the Good-bye might seem odd but not if it was for the home school group, he IS saying goodbye to them since he had to leave to group.

[@Andreamom001]

There was some evidence of abuse of Jalek in the case, too. It’s not conclusive, but it seems Jalek was singled out for mistreatment. I believe Steven murdered Jalek.

[@carlyrennae3963]

Thank you Dr G !! I'm flying to Bali today and I've downloaded allllll my fav Grande eps for the flight ✈️ soooo happy !

[@LynnE507]

Have a wonderful time!💓 Safe travels!

[@carlyrennae3963]

@@LynnE507 ohhh bless u thank you so much 💖 I haven't had a holiday in 4 years and been working 6 days a week for this for ages ! It's 5am my flights 5pm I can't sleep . .so this video is so perfectly timed ! Have an awesome day too and thank you again for your wishes it's made my day 😀

[@carlyrennae3963]

@@cht2162 thank yeeee love !! I'm at the airport bar now having a beer 🍺 30 mins til boarding sooooooo excited 😊 God love the wonderful Grande subs and community ❤️ honestly just lovely to receive well wishes on such a happy day I'm ecstatic off the charts ! Have an awesome week lovely &, thank you !!!! mwah

[@lilchi721]

Surprised the foster care system or the adoptive parents didn't take Jaliek to seek medical treatment for his emotional outburst.

[@donalynette]

Adults often are overwhelmed with responsibility. Children want love all the time. Adults may blame children, for “immature or inappropriate” behavior, without solutions. Stephen, may not be responsible for murder, but was expected to be responsible for care of child. His bizarre behavior, & speech indicated he was not. Stephen should have been questioned more extensively. I think he was still responsible & accountable for a minor in his charge.

[@GAshoneybear]

I don't see how DFCS across the country keep having this issue. How are these adults who clearly should not be fostering--much less adopting--children are able to foster, adopt, and abuse children with cursory or no check of the home or adults? It's usually clear to the public the adult simply wants money.

[@DovieRuthAuthor]

This is reminiscent of the disappearance of Orrin and Orson West from Kern County, CA. They were in the foster care system and were on track to be adopted. When the foster parents moved to California City, the young boys were nowhere to be found.

[@elizabethhamm5320]

That analysis provided details of the crime and shed light on the plight of many children in the foster care system. I’m so tired of hearing these stories of people who take on the responsibility of children and can’t handle it. Hopefully, the system will find better ways to protect these innocent children who can’t do it themselves

[@lauracampa1838]

More people like you need to enroll to become licensed foster parents. Have you consider doing it?

[@lindaaspromonte1514]

Right on Elizabeth

[@elizabethhamm5320]

I have. I’m not in a position to do that right now but I would love to adopt a child someday

[@lauracampa1838]

@@elizabethhamm5320 That’s good. Adopting will give you first hand knowledge of the plight of foster parents. What trauma does to children’s behavior is not easy to deal with.

[@elizabethhamm5320]

I know. I’m a psychology student and I’ve researched it. My profferers have worked with children who have significant trauma. So tragic

[@whereisCarmenSandiego]

Your dry humor and your ability to keep a straight face while calling out these individuals that end up on your channel is an absolute delight 👏👏👏 no matter how bad of a day I’ve had, I can simply watch one of your videos and it always makes me feel better! That may sound strange considering the seriousness of the cases you cover, but you do have a talent for keeping things lighthearted, while also treating the victim(s) with respect. We love you Dr. Grande!!!

[@janinemccartha1811]

Hi Dr. Grande. People like his adoptive parents don't deserve to have kids if they aren't ready to be good caregivers. Sometimes it takes intervention with actual interested family to handle problems that abusive people don't understand because they don't educate on these complex situations. Peace & happy times hopefully await you, love, Janine Smiley🙂😀😍😎😇🆒️💯❕❗🎵🎶

[@Cec9e13]

That poor child. How awful he must have felt.

[@burprobrox9134]

Man the bs that poor kid had to deal with.. maybe he wrote the note under duress?

[@justinm3745]

Just in time for my lunch break!! Your timing is impeccable, Doc. Thanks for your consistent uploads, for we all appreciate it!!!

[@Cinder_311]

I feel Steven is 100% involved in his disappearance.

[@janelr5854]

Thank you for talking about this! I live in the same upstate area this family did at the time and Jaliek's disappearance has always bothered me. I can't help but think that man did something horrible to him 😥. We are right next to the Adirondack Park, which is the largest state park in the entire country. Greenwich is very rural and surrounded by mountains and fields and woods. It wouldn't be hard to spend a day driving into the middle of nowhere and dumping something. This case hasn't been discussed enough. Also, it's pronounced Green-Witch. Not Grenich.

[@annalisegiovanni7032]

Hey Dr. Grande💕 Thank you for the new video! I got this alert at the perfect time! The brand new little addition just went down for a nap & I've got a bit of time. Thank you so so much for covering this case! This Case in particular weighs heavy on my heart. Sending much love & thanks to you Dr. Grande💞🙏

[@TrainSounds]

This is extremely sad, Jaliek would be 27 years old today.

[@andreasrau2161]

Another great analysis, Dr. Grande! What most people simply do not understand, and you referred to it in the course of todays. program, is that children who end up in the foster care system have been hardened by constant rejection and that it takes very special people with both a lot of stamina and patience to work with them and build something of a life with them. That sort of person is rare and most people who entertain adopting such a child are usually quickly disappointed and whatever goodwill they previously exhibited toward the child soon dissipates because this is not what their good Samaritan feelings bargained for. I honestly believe that Jaliek ran away, half expecting that his adoptive parents were rejecting him, and half delighted by the fact that he was right yet again. As for the adoptive father being unconcerned, he was probably relieved that Jaliek was gone, hence his lack of concern. I seriously doubt that he had anything to do with it.

[@evelynwaugh4053]

The in utero exposure to drugs and alcohol as well as general lack of ordinary prenatal care (nutrition, etc.) also can't be ignored. These kids start life with huge problems thanks to the sperm donor and indifferent womb that created them. It's not realistic to think that governmental services will replace loving, concerned parents.

[@eboyd2478]

He killed that boy and this is so FKN sad.

[@dissidentfairy4264]

What a sad story! At Jaliek's age I feel he would have been found if he had run away. I don't find it suspicious that Jaliek would run away at 12, as a foster child, especially when he felt a lot of judgement and no doubt unloved. The note sounds believable and so does "goodbye" to me, that's something a child would likely say if he were running away. In saying that, the note could have been forced. There are so many conflicting thoughts. The.foster father could have forced Jaliek to write it before he was killed. The father's unconcerned actions are highly suspicious, Especially taking down missing child posters. If he knew that Jaliek was dead, why bother filing papers to legally remove Jaliek from his life? What would be the point? Besides, it's not a good optic when a child is missing to appear so cold, callous and unfeeling. It's hard to say what happened to Jaliek, but the unknown is sad. and disturbing.

[@simonw1313]

I don't think it would have been difficult to get a child to write a sorry message and then get them to add a note of finality to it by appending Goodbye at the end. I think it's more like the foster "father" is involved than the boy ran away though of course they don't - as he says - have proof.

[@dissidentfairy4264]

@@simonw1313 I agree on both counts. It wouldn't be the first time that someone was forced to write their own suicide note. So why not a runaway note? It would be easy to either force or manipulate a child into doing so. If he was murdered it may have even been to conceal another crime that had been committed against the child. Who knows? Usually children who run away at 12 are found. He's disappeared without a trace. I'm not saying he was murdered. I'm only speculating as to which scenario seems more likely. Murder seems more likely to me.

[@lazydaisy2292]

I hadn't thought about that but it makes sense. Why file papers to end his parental rights if he knew he was dead? All it manages to do is make you look like a horrible person and it would only benefit him if they found the boy alive so why do it if he knew he was dead? Of course it doesn't negate what makes him look guilty but it does raise questions.

[@dissidentfairy4264]

@@lazydaisy2292 There are two ways to look at it. 1. If he knows he's dead why bother to file the papers? 2. But, maybe he filed the papers precisely for that reason, to make it look as if he believed Jaliek to be alive when in fact he wasn't. It could go either way, but you are right, it made him look cold and callous and without any feel. Tearing down the missing child posters says a lot about his character too, Who does that? I think he did it.

[@ponygirlusa]

This case makes you wonder how many kids will end this way when the mother or parents don't have access to abortion. I don't like it, it's wrong and people use it as birth control with a cavalier attitude about their bodies without mention of the new life. But, is it worse to leave it to chance and give birth to kids whose likelihood of a positive existence is up to chance and that it could be worse for them than death or to stop their chance of suffering when they are only a few weeks old and only under extreme circumstances? I don't have an answer.

[@JW-zs6tn]

wow, steven sounds guilty AF... we should keep on the case, lets get him arrested!

[@dankadesign7462]

Thank you Dr.Grande following this sad story. No wonder that boy has emotional problems as going through foster system and coming from broken family had impact on him & foster parents should understand and try to help. Unfortinatly its just one of so called "Disposal children" that look like became very often across USA. 60 minutes Australia did documentary Disposal kids in USA (can be find here on You tube)and its really hard to watch how even parents dealing with their own kids giving them to strangers and how ppl have high expectation from foster kids thinking they should be ideal just as they are toys .Thanks again for giving voice for this missing boy!

[@leylamoody3177]

This is such a sad story. That poor boy! Excellent analysis, Dr. Grande. ❤️

[@commonsense2680]

I don't know how you generate such well researched and thought out analysis on such a regular basis but I appreciate it greatly.

[@HarringtonKyle]

Thanks for your speculation on a situation like this one. I'm from Washington County NY and am familiar with the case. Greenwich is pronounced green witch.

[@spuddy4845]

I was hoping you'd cover this case THANK YOU

[@ceilconstante640]

Makes me wonder why they adopted a child with potential behavioral problems in the 1st place. I've only heard one claim a Psychic as actually solved a crime and I doubt that.

[@dogtrainer4645]

Why would they place this child in a home with no electricity, plumbing or bedrooms?

[@diannajordan4498]

Precious boy. Needed unconditional love , time , help and healing. God bless his heart.

[@chriskatherman1488]

I could absolutely believe that note from jaleik was written as a school assignment...."goodbye everybody" sounds like something a immature kid with problems adjusting would write...and Steven's behavior is suspicious at best if not downright incriminatory

[@m.f.richardson1602]

Sad situation. Humor outstanding. Thank you Peace 💕🇺🇲

[@lynettewilson7396]

that man show too many signs of not caring or couldn't bother about this not bio child he and wife took in. Would be some foul play on the adopted father's part he seems cold in his words towards that 12 year old boy missing. If a child missing in a person's custody with be a very alarming concerns for the child's safety

[@miraclenichols4332]

Sad- thank you for your analysis!

[@wakandavibranium5053]

Those monster foster parents killed him.

[@LynnE507]

Poor Jaliek. ❤

[@julieyoung3315]

Good Morning, Dr. Grande. Been busy with school. Going on a marathon again today. Your Analyses are Addicting. 👌

[@GrinannBarrett]

Who's to say Steven didn't have the boy write the "apology" note before getting rid of him?

[@trialgoddess]

I have worked in the child welfare system for twenty years and have seen children with attachment disorder and other behavioral issues disrupt so many placements that the case managers run out of viable options. They use what I call a placement "of last resort." It's unfortunate, but it happens. Kids sometimes push the envelope with a new foster parent to test whether that person truly will be the person who will be patient, understanding and give the child support, stability and unconditional love. People love to say our system is broken but they cannot offer an alternative plan when I say, "So we go back to orphanages?" The system is not perfect, but it is evolving and needs adequate funding to keep decent social workers and mental health professionals. It would be great if high schools offered classes in "adulting" and parental responsibility to help prevent children from getting placed into the system. There are so many issues that cause families to be in crisis and there frequently are not sufficient community family support services available.

[@lazydaisy2292]

Living in a shack so you don't have to pay for electricity or plumbing is one thing, but forcing a child to live in that environment, with a bunch of other people is another. What the hell is the matter with the agency that placed him there?

[@maryfragain4812]

Dad did it

[@lindaaspromonte1514]

Sometimes watching videos like those from the dodo which always end Grandly, but start out horribly and stories like this latest from Dr. Grande about this poor child make me question my own innate goodness because I really want to Beat to a bloody pulp people who abuse animal and children. God forgive me.

[@lesleyshipley8032]

That poor young boy had been through so much before he ‘went missing’. I’d imagine that if his biological mother was an addict - that his brain would have some level of damage while developing in utero.. which may have contributed to his behavioural problems. I want to cry at the injustice of this horrible situation.

[@btetschner]

There should probably be a longer trial period before foster children can be adopted so they can see if things are going to work out. I don't know how a couple with three children that live in a one bedroom apartment can adopt more children, I would think that is a situation that would be very difficult to manage. They really should teach foster children skills so that they can be someone that is desired for a family and also show them the consequences of what it is like if they cannot coexist with a family that wants to adopt them. It is asking a lot for a couple to adopt a child. If that child is stuck in that foster care system, they have almost no way of having a decent life.

[@Seegoatlove]

Dr.Grande can you do the Kenneka Jenkins case?

[@maureeningleston1501]

Glad to catch a Dr Grande video this early. 👏👏👏

[@christinley5213]

Man what a horrible situation! Every kid needs love!! I don’t understand why thats just not universal to humans! Women and children first.. did that change?

[@amantedelcane420]

"Adopton"? I've come to expect better from the incomparable Dr. Grande.

[@horatiorainey3115]

No disrespect but this guy seems to be defending Stephen Kerr in this viedo saying in 10:33-10:38 there's no reason to believe Stephen was involved in Jaliek disappearance disappearance, he never mentioned that part in his disappearance where his cell phone pinged in Troy when he claimed he and Jaliek drove straight to his parents after respite. Phone data don't lie. Stephen was definitely involved.

[@elaineagvent5513]

After reading the topic of this analysis I became heartbroken and could not listen. I pray to God that Jalik did not suffer. It is very disturbing to me when foster kids are placed in harms way. Dear God please have mercy on the children in foster care. Amen 🛐✝️

[@tmusa2002]

Dr. Grande: Do an analysis from a case in every US state. 😊

[@flywhereangelsfell3172]

Mr. Grande would you evaluate Dr. Michael Swango?

[@TheAllianceEnt]

Everybody: Sir your son is missing. Steven: Welp.

[@nimsa2000]

Hello 👋 good Dr. Grande ... this is sad, they're all sad hence why I love ❤️ 😍 💖 your channel 😢... not sure what it says about my personality

[@birdn4t0r7]

this makes me really sad; even though he is more than likely dead, an irrational part of me hopes he has managed to survive somehow. it's sad.

[@eboyd2478]

That man killed him. Stop it.

[@sarahalbers5555]

Dr. G., do you think that this little boy had fetal alcohol syndrome from his mother's drinking. My heart breaks for these children,they are treated like throw aways with virtually no support for them. And of course, our foster system is a toxic waste dump. We need to do better.

[@LeeDee5]

He does seem to have some facial characteristics of Fatal alcohol syndrome. Smooth philthrum, thin upper lip etc. I would say he at least falls under the umbrella of FASD, this poor boy.

[@icturner23]

The goodbye in the note is not at all strange if it was previously written for the homeschool group. After the incident, he may have been banned or given an ultimatum that he could only return under conditions he felt he couldn’t meet. I don’t think you have the balance of probabilities right. Tearing down the posters was highly suspicious, and the father is more likely guilty than not.

[@Laura-tp8wz]

RIP Jaliek.🙏

[@puspavelai8353]

This father/husband was 'booted out' of his residence by the wife. Doesn't say much in 'maturity' - where they as parents, can't communicate on same level on the upbringing of a child. He also shows a short fuse in and around a child. How did, (or did not) foster care evaluate/monitor this child's progress in a negative environment is sad.

[@robinrubendunst869]

Poor Jolick (sp). Some children just have miserable lives right out of the womb. It’s just so unfair.

[@staceybrown4092]

Thank you , thank you for the attention this previous child deserves

[@LaniLanilei]

Are persons who foster children screened for mental health issues or physical health issues? When there is money involved in caring for a child the risk of unsuitable care givers is probable, unfortunately. Sad but true.

[@chipwanderlust113]

Changing his surname showed they saw him an an other they never intended to be part of the family let alone a human with dignity.

[@Stepatee]

I love you bringing light to these cases but the seriousness and then the jokes... A lil off-putting but still appreciate ALL of your work.

[@scottleft3672]

NEVER separate family.

[@LaurenThompsonIsMyRealName]

Thank you!

[@user-x4u6l]

Take a look at the case of Jared Leisek from Adventures with Purpose, a popular YT channel. The case is just unfolding, maybe you can analyze it.

[@meowmom3296]

I love that channel!

[@karenneill9109]

A child needs someone in their life who will love them unconditionally. It’s so sad to see a child without that.

[@Silversoon78910]

Steven asked jaliek to write I’m sorry note and sign goodbye and than killed him somehow

[@TheMrplayitsafe]

Kinda confusing...the mom kicked the boy out of the house WITH the dad? But why - just for one bad statement? And what is the end goal of this? I mean it's her 12 year old son...adopted yes but still her son. I think Dr. Grande's spot on - the lesson here is you got to be committed beforehand to adopt a child especially if it's a troubled child. Real sad story and I hope he's somehow okay.

[@franksmith7071]

I assume they figured Jaliek was out of control and would not be a menace to their other kids if he stayed at Kerr's parents' house with Kerr. Also, there was almost certainly electricity and water there.

[@Cyber_Kati_6744]

Tyvm Dr. Grande! 👏👏 I’m really looking forward to your case analysis with this case, this one hits hard… 😭😭 Really enjoy your subtle humor! Rain walker! 😂🚶‍♀️ My greatest respects, always! 🤍🕊️🤍

[@gcham1209]

Ty doc

[@Hollylivengood]

What's going on with the system? These parents shouldn't have been able to adopt or foster. Poor kid.