Truth About Porn, Sex, Women, AI Girlfriends, Laziness & Toxic Masculinity | Dr. K (Healthy Gamer)

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All technologies are manipulating you and the only way to combat them is to know yourself.
In today’s episode of Impact Theory, I’m joined by Dr. Alok Kanojia to discuss how to get out of the TIGHT HOLD technology has on us so we can stop being lazy and addicted and instead have a meaningful life and healthy relationships with REAL PEOPLE (not AI).
Dr. K is known as “the healthy gamer”. When he was in college he realized he was addicted to video games. He moved to India to become a monk and ultimately went to medical school and became a psychiatrist. Today, he combines Eastern therapies (like yoga, meditation and Ayurveda) with classic psychotherapy to help people deal with technology addictions like video games, porn, etc.
We are going deep into topics like:
- How & why technology is so addicting
- Understanding WHERE desire comes from
- How attachment & baggage are holding you back
- What porn does to your brain
- Men’s responsibility to respond to domestication, women’s expectations, and suffering
- Why frame of reference, reality, and focusing on yourself are the way out
- The 1 key to getting over addiction
- Tips to overcome technology’s addictive nature
- The power of detachment and transcending achievement
- Righteous fury, comparisons, and the ego conditioning your mind
- The power of meditation and empathy
Technology addiction is real, and it won’t be easy to overcome, but this episode gives you the keys to what you can do to combat the brain-numbing, addictive nature of social media, video games, and even dating apps.
Chapter Markers:
[0:00] Conflict Behind Willpower
[24:59] Let Go & Get Authentic
[41:32] Technology Addiction & Porn
[1:18:45] Biology Affects Behavior
[1:46:23] Seeing Beyond Our Frame
[2:12:16] Help with Your Skills & Hard Work
[2:45:02] Investment, Attachments & Meditation
Powerful Insights From Dr. K:
"It's not willpower, it's awareness of a conflict that we subjectively experience as willpower, which is kind of hard to understand."
"So we see this where there's like, basically you need a stronger and stronger stimulus to chase that old dopaminergic rush..."
"And I think at some point someone is going to combine all of this stuff into a girlfriend that throws temper tantrums, that is there for you, maybe even kind of pretend cheats on you, and then has all this psychologically activating stuff along with physical feedback, flashlights, virtual reality, it'll all get integrated, and then the human race is fucked."
"The basic reason I think mental health is moving in the wrong direction, is that the institutional powers that understand human behavior, our understanding of human behavior on the scientific or population level, has grown so sophisticated, but our understanding of ourselves within us has come to an all-time low."
"I know this sounds crazy, but the moment that human beings start to say, I don't need to be heard, it's okay for me to not get my needs met, and I'm willing to still support someone else, that's the moment things will turn around."
"Because what happens is in puberty, you have a fundamental change of your biology, of your hormones, of your tissues, of your brain, that allows you to have an experience that you could literally would be impossible for you to have before. So in meditation, the process of doing esoteric Sadhana's spiritual practice, when you do this, you go through something like puberty, but in the non material plane, in the spiritual realm, you go through a transformation that allows you to experience things that were literally unfathomable before."
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Themes: Mindset, Finance, World Affairs, Health & Productivity, Future & Tech, Simulation Theory & Physics, Dating & Relationships

[@TomBilyeu]

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

[@croissants1280]

3+ hours and no timestamps?

[@ChristopherWaddelow]

Hey Tom, really loved this conversation, I thought it was fantastic, and loved your questions!

[@juniperstardust5549]

This might just be the best episode you've ever had, holy, so many conceptualized ideas and models so unique that make me realize how little we really know about ourselves and reality. Dr K is an experience.

[@martinbrousseau2560]

He’s absolutely right about Addiction.

[@penderyn8794]

What if everything is simply meaningless and absurd

[@HealthyGamerGG]

Great convo🔥Thanks for having me on!

[@MartinGrabovac]

So glad to see you on here Dr. K, can't wait for the book release! ❤

[@EmperorSeneca]

DUDE. This was intense. Best wishes

[@HowToGoSupernova]

Life changing wisdom!

[@Photik]

Harvard Psychiatrist! Description is missing that about you!

[@DJMilez]

Love your content man!

[@MXF11]

"If you have a life worth living, addiction melts on its own." Beautiful

[@francodegasperi3814]

That's the problem, most people live with the certainty that their life is going to suck balls super hard that's why so much people are drawn into addiction

[@benlane7282]

@@francodegasperi3814true, hard to get out of that feeling

[@INameIsGood]

What's holding you back from having a life worth living?

[@dericmederos1514]

Yes! On a rare instance instagram had a dating reel of someone who had great advice for once "If you're obsessing over someone, it means your life isn't interesting to YOU" What she meant was you want this person you're crushing on to substitute a fulfilling existence and that isn't fair to the person you like or to yourself

[@MomoBeci]

⁠@@INameIsGoodfinancial constraints, time, family circumstance, competition, capitalism, nihilism, pessimism, depression, sadness, loneliness, illness, motivation, to name a few.

[@ToriksLV]

You dont interview Dr.K, he interviews you.

[@cristina9753]

Lmao yes

[@D_Jilla]

In russia, game plays you.

[@simaosimoes]

​@@D_Jilla what does Russia have to do with this interview?

[@zubairsafi2537]

@@simaosimoes cuz Dr. K makes that joke

[@mosterchife6045]

@@simaosimoesIt's an old joke called the Russian reversal. He was just making a reference to it.

[@willcollins5660]

1:52:31 "My audience hates when I interrupt." Very true Tom, thanks for reading the comments.

[@tc59932]

On the contrary, I often think his interruptions are well chosen and reasonable. It keeps guests on track and drives the best out of them.

[@Jikrin]

​@tc59932 Like a third of the time, other times it's a person asking a question, not getting a yes or no quick answer, then interrupting the person trying to give you what you asked for.

[@fpenman]

Naa he interrupts far too often. Tries to connect the dots and confuses himself further. Needs to stop.

[@msk5789]

I really appreciate that too. I stopped listening to this show bc of it and I only clicked on this episode bc of Dr. K.

[@rmschindler144]

I love it when you interrupt

[@samueltesfaye6322]

Anyone who is not moving towards their goal is not because they are not motivated ,it is because they are motivated in a different direction

[@kurtholus]

Or they're mentally ill. I would avoid these black and white modes of thinking

[@diamondgarcia9409]

🔥🔥🔥

[@TK_Prod]

Or because they don't know or understand their goal

[@tonyg1296]

Never imagined this crossover would come true!!! Very valuable talk guys.

[@TheConvectuoso]

OG Dr K fan here, before he was even over 50k subs, and it’s amazing to see him on these podcasts now knowing where it all started

[@D_Jilla]

​@@TheConvectuosoyessir! You live to see it.

[@TheConvectuoso]

@@D_Jilla it’s hard to imagine a universe where Dr K doesn’t exist right

[@dextrart]

I just love Dr. K. The way he explains things on his channel is simply amazing!

[@FANNIX-]

You have so many assumptions and opinions that you are testing against your guests, that I feel like you sometimes miss to just be with them and truly try to learn from them.

[@XTen1000DaysX]

i think hes trying to learn about himself and shed his believe or challenge his framework.

[@christianklement]

Since this was my first video of the channel I had the feeling he tried to understand his point of view the most compared to all other talks Dr. K had.

[@XTen1000DaysX]

@@christianklement he was kind of straight forward with a straight face ngl seemed rude but I can't say it was. Seemed to be selfishly about his own framework but also helps the audience as well

[@FANNIX-]

3:10:13 I have to admit: the final question you asked was extremely well done because it allowed Dr. K. to come up with the puberty analogy. Your question showed that you truly tried to understand beyond what you may be able to logically understand in that moment. Very very well done. 💪🌱

[@KIN_KOLO]

He was not ready for Dr K

[@killy374]

And his bullshit

[@KIN_KOLO]

@@killy374 Intelligent response. I'm sorry this made your little head hurt. You and Tom have lots in common ❤️

[@killy374]

@@KIN_KOLO I see. You contribute with nothing to the current topic. Just being full of shit.

[@crustykeycap5670]

@@KIN_KOLOthis response was intelligent. I’m glad you bothered to engage and question his perspective. Love to see people learn something.

[@MatichekYoutube]

poor guy was afraid of the word pratyahara

[@FANNIX-]

1:58:37 You don't try to describe the same thing. I think you did not understand what Dr. K was trying to say. And not understanding it, is not bad. Assuming that you understood, is the problem 🌱

[@Bella34544]

I could listen to Dr K all day, great combination of intelligence, EQ, great communication skills with the ability to explain complex ideas in simple language and most importantly life experience great episode.

[@jacobmorres9817]

One of the only brown people universally liked unfortunately

[@whateverimake9350]

The guy visibly struggles to step out of podcast mode when the host asks him insight questions. The full control tangit question/disagreement was completely dismissed. Unflexible seems aspergers

[@italkgory99]

@@jacobmorres9817not even remotely true, the hell are you talking about 😂

[@Jet7Wave]

I'm here as a regular viewer of Dr. K but not Tom, so it's my first time watching the podcast. I wanted to say I really did enjoy the interruptions and attempts to summarize Dr.K because that way Tom showed a genuine need and effort to understand it and compare it to his existing beliefs. I've seen many who'll get completely cought up in everything that's being said without really questioning it, but I believe it's in questioning it that we'll get an even better understanding, both Tom and his audience. When he speaks back what he understood, he gives Dr.K an opportunity to adjust and explain further or as he did a few times, let us know that Tom's understanding was not precise but fine for now so those who want to venture deeper can take that with a grain of salt and dive into those bits later themselves.

[@MilaDiamond]

I love your podcasts, Tom! But I must admit, among the luminaries and brilliant minds that you’ve had on your show, this one was my favorite to date. I was looking forward to one day witness someone open your biologically focused awareness into a more sophisticated spiritual understanding. Up until this interview, the guests you had on the show, even the world renown ones, were basic. Dr. K’s insights and explanations were much more accurate. I’m looking forward to watch your curiosity unfolding into the deeper mind. Full disclosure, I too studied with an enlightened Buddhist master for 15 years and am an ordained Buddhist monk. My teacher taught many eastern and western spiritual traditions and techniques for opening of the mind and intuition, so I think I understand the challenge of reconciling physical and spiritual insights and practices, including meditation, business, relationships and health. But I’m super excited for you to receiving the insights from Dr. K. and looking forward to more of your awakening.. or at least considering an exploration in that direction. It was a real treat! Thank you!!

[@gonthyalavishalchandan1193]

I think you can't date him he is married

[@D_Jilla]

@@gonthyalavishalchandan1193 please tell me you're not the average Tom Bilyeu viewer.

[@Cayoroots]

@@gonthyalavishalchandan1193 Very thought out and useful comment here. Very proud of you

[@TonioTonius]

@Cayoroots @D_Jilla lighten up

[@NatrajChaturvedi]

The algorithm recommended this guy to me a couple of times before but i didn't pay that much attention to him. I was an idiot because I loved the things he said here! Thanks for bringing him on!

[@Rubicek7]

😄 such a cute comment

[@JohnSmith-ui9yu]

At around 1:53:00 Tom the interviewer did interrupt Dr.k but honestly it's refreshing to have someone really try to understand Dr.K's perspective while having a totally different perspective themselves. I could just feel the friction of clashing beliefs.

[@jasonfanclub4267]

Same thought and it's just the first 60 minutes for me

[@aumkatbamna126]

Tom: You get that from yoga?? Dr. K: Absolutely! Tom: Tell me more Tom: I did yoga once

[@kerotan2444]

lmao

[@sonyaakhanna]

😅😅

[@dvdmon]

I love a lot of the Buddhist mentality he uses. It seems counterintuitive, but there's definitely something very freeing in realizing that you have very little control over what happens to you. That doesn't mean you get to stop trying to do things that are rewarding in some way, but it also means that you don't take your situation "personally" as much - ruminating about "why me?" or "why can't I be as lucky as that guy??" We can make improvements in our outward appearance, even in our education/career/psychology/etc., but at the end of the day, that doesn't prevent us from experiencing loss, depression, anxiety, sickness, and myriad other forms of suffering. That's called life, and the only "antidote" to that is not living. Even "enlightenment" doesn't necessarily end suffering, it just doesn't make it an issue that requires us to try to avoid it at all costs...

[@KingKBGames]

If you wanna dive into more of Dr. K's mentality, he actually recommends the Raja Yoga path, as it is the clearest and easiest path to set your life up to be free.

[@KaneLivesAgain]

As Jordan Peterson said, the "antidote" to suffering is meaning. Everyone suffers, and sometimes greatly. Finding a deep meaning can help you through suffering.

[@dvdmon]

@@KingKBGames thanks, I think they are fairly compatible in their outlook, with subtle differences in approach (I mean Raja Yoga and most schools of Buddhism), so whatever works for an individual is great. I'm not a Buddhist or Hindu and generally shy away from practicing any form of religion, but I do enjoy learning and understanding some of the practices. I meditate daily, but do not do any somatic practices like yoga or tai chi, etc. I'm non-denominational and feel like there are pieces from all traditions (and non-traditions) that can be in helpful.

[@chandanbanakar333]

He's a Hindu monk, Buddhism is simply atheist hindus

[@mamzellenoodolls2512]

I'd argue that it doesn't stop you from feeling "pain" (whether physically or mentally) but it does prevent you from "suffering". I heard this story (Buddhist, if I remember correctly) that I find explains this well: Two guys are on the battlefield, one of them gets hit by an arrow, he survives but gets angry and sad while wondering "why me?", "why didn't my friend get hit instead?", "it's not fair!"... This is his second arrow. The 1st arrow was the actual "pain" that was caused by an outside event, the 2nd arrow was the "suffering" he was inflicting on himself. So while we cannot avoid "pain" in life, we can learn to avoid "suffering".

[@death31313]

When we talk about meaningless in life being the root cause of porn addiction it makes a lot of sense why it's such a common issue these days. I've noticed our society is built in such a way that the elements of life that would be the most meaningful are really difficult to get, while meaningless luxuries more accessible to the average person than ever before.

[@chevy11786]

Porn addiction is simple. It’s not the horniness. It’s the loneliness.

[@death31313]

@@chevy11786 agreed though I think it even goes deeper than that, I think think it stemms from hopelessness and loneliness. If you're lonely and you don't see any hope for that to change in the future why bother trying, why not just engage in hedonistic pursuits to numb yourself to your suffering? I'd argue it's almost a form of self-medication.

[@Miah_Lake]

The host tom is really good at yapping and saying nothing of substance while also being wrong at the same time. Truly amazing.

[@EmilyLe2909]

Frustrating!

[@Pratanu9]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@kerotan2444]

And strangely enough, it raises very good questions, which at first seem silly but are common mistakes. Truly amazing indeed.

[@jasonfanclub4267]

He's an entrepreneur

[@aronnemcsik]

You don't have to agree with him. That doesn't mean he's wrong. Also if he would be wrong Dr.K would've pointed out to him.

[@hollowedboi5937]

It feel very much taking an analytical lense like you're trying to win an argument or get the right answer during the conversation, when more often Dr. K seems to want to just understand both sides. It's not right or wrong I just noticed this during the conversation.

[@TheStarrySky-sb9df]

AGREE

[@alexandrudinca3080]

He was just trying to keep up with Dr K which is not an easy thing to do.

[@tylerpeacock8245]

The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is community.

[@killy374]

We are becoming lonelier though.

[@ThatGmoney]

@@killy374that can only happen if you continue being shameful about rejection. Every successful person gets over 100 rejections a day. People who stay lonely, you know what to do! Good luck! Community is not hard, you have to face rejection in order to figure out rejection. Also, if you have depression you really want to get help for that.

[@INameIsGood]

​@@killy374yea, less community, more addictions

[@cocogemini6623]

The power of detachment in everything is true freedom.

[@stagebloq6002]

We’re social animals. This will lead to shorter lifespans.

[@cocogemini6623]

@@stagebloq6002 by detaching from the outcome...how so? Please educate me.

[@stagebloq6002]

@@cocogemini6623 our selection process is the problem. We need to find out who we’re are and select compliments for that behavior. There’s always something we have to fix because there’s only so much time. Loneliness will lead to lower life expectancies. These are the facts of the real world that stand in the way of how we feel. Eventually, when you realize no one’s around the game will be over. I doubt any one of us who are thinking well enough want that to happen. All life exists to persist and keep itself going. Cant do that without partnering up to a degree and creating a social family life or with people in general. If we do not our line disappears from the root of the tree of life. Men are hardwired to make sure their line succeeds and women are designed to select the best genetics they can find. It’s just how it works.

[@stagebloq6002]

@@cocogemini6623we’re social animals. We shorten our lifespan by staying alone. This is more of a necessity for men to learn than women because we’re more-so individualists than communal in nature. Shorter lifespans are also a consequence of the current lifespan where everyone’s in the house and detached. Women will find someone to communicate with everyday because that’s how they survive, but we all win when we set our standards to finding a person we trust who we can take care of in some way. Men are designed to compete and spread their genes. Women are designed the select the best genes. This is widely why women dominantly control any market they pay attention to en masse. Biology puts itself out into the world and if we fail to think around or of the things downstream of biology we lose.

[@cocogemini6623]

@@stagebloq6002 I understand what you are saying but from an individual perspective and from experience my husband passed away 4 years ago then I moved in with my dad then he passed away. My mom passed away when I was young. I have no kids just a dog...I feel at peace when I am alone and I thrive more. Bug again I understand what you are saying. Most people don't do well being alone.

[@EmilyLe2909]

I 👏 how Dr K tried to understand and challenged this host’s theories and conclusions. I lowkey wait for Dr K to clap back every time 😂

[@Golgibaby]

Flex Dr. K! Appreciate the conversation!

[@therapeuticeating]

Tom it would be so great if you were more humble with the experts - interviews aren’t about the constant exposé of your personal opinion, they’re about learning about someone else’s expertise & opening your mind to that.

[@velvetyblue]

Love Dr. K!!! Glad to see him in more channels, he deserves more recognition 💚💚💚

[@SergeantBarnacles]

This conversation is exactly what I needed. Thank you for asking the tough hitting questions and getting Dr K to explain more. As an internet mind, I come across all these problematic thoughts of online debates, and Dr K really breaking that down helped me come out of my deluded thinking. Tom has a way of articulation that makes so much conventional sense and the interplay of you two is so interesting.

[@Luckyluk1996]

That was amazing! I even took notes when it was about creating a life worth living! Share them here with ya all: - A life of neutrality and nothing → Life with no goals, where you just exist in the present, you focus on action, life is just meant to be lived (appreciate the “now” is the essence of it) - Don't attach to “wanting to be detached” → Decide what is worth suffering for and attach to it by all means. Accept the suffering for these parts of life - if necessary. Still detach from most stuff, that is not as important to you. → “The acceptance of attachment is detachment” - "Can you be okay with being unfullfilled?" - “It's when we are ignorant of our attachments, that we really get into problems” - If you can say: "I don't need my needs fullfilled first, I might go down, but I'll try to save as many people as possible first", that's when thinks start to become better in the world. It was important to me, cause like many young people out there, I often feel like there is just no chance in life.

[@Kit-kk9cb]

good notes, thanks

[@humanbeans7952]

Loved this conversation, but there was definitely something frustrating i cant pinpoint about listening to tom's counter arguments. It's cool to see someone consider another perspective without being rude or dismissive though. Great interview!

[@GratefulTurtle]

What i was able to pinpoint amounts to sexist, clueless arrogance.

[@pencil6965]

that something was using so many words to say absolutely nothing

[@lniles29]

Yappuccino extra yap

[@canosisplays5152]

Kudos to both of these guys digging deep. It takes a lot of energy explaining complex concepts and emotions all the while discovering more about yourself.

[@jn3750]

this healthy gamer has some amazing debate skills! UT man here, Kumar.

[@GS-wo9]

Wow, just finished the whole pod. Amazing, although it's more of the inspiration for me that made it amazing for me, cause I didn't understand a lot of the things. I discovered healthygamerGG 3 years ago, and I also love Tom, so that made it incredible and I was really interested of the conversation the whole time. Also the fact that I discovered the episode so early, made it more special to watch. I also pushed myself through some resistance to watch the whole thing, but I'm suprised that there weren't that much resistance. Thank you for this upload!

[@averyparker9110]

This episode is now in my top 5 most favoured! What a lovely dichotomy of perspective! Thank you both, thank you.

[@liisaselenius6579]

When I listened to this, I understood that this is not an interview and it is not a debate. This is something, at least for me, very unusual to hear. This is a discussion. Wow, don't know if I've ever heard one like that before on youtube!

[@monocyte2210]

Dr K changed and keeps changing my life for the better. Thanks so much Dr K and Tom for this interview

[@jameschurch9618]

Watch both of you guys all the time, totally didn't expect this convo to happen, love to see it!! Thanks for having him on Tom

[@Dave_of_Mordor]

Tom isn't used to having guest with non-redpill and non-incel views. He was very condescending, and close minded. The fans might see that as him challenging Dr. K but I'm not buying it. He was so insecure about his redpill philosophy being challenged, he became rude just to cover up that insecurity. Just look at how annoyed he was.

[@cheetahcheeto8630]

Mind blowing interview… Still processing it all… I’m in awe

[@Luckyluk1996]

I really hope that there are even more interviews like this. Because I watch Healthy Gamer AND this channel, often love both ideas, but sometimes they seem to contradict each other. This is sometimes more valuable, than both just agreeing all the time. I love it, how open both are towards each other ideas!

[@dirkpopowitz364]

The top of my head is tingeling right now. Thank you so much guys! Highest truth is highest joy is highest level of functioning!🙏🏻✨

[@ClaireLoprensa]

Wait. Tom Bilyeu, 4 million subs, but believes he can control another human being? That's a level 1 cognitive dissonance mob and it's surprising he never meditated on this idea before.

[@shawnjordan2716]

Well, that's optimistic... needless to say... most of us are controlled by someone. And manipulative psychopaths are real, and have real power over plenty of ppl. Lookup charles manson.

[@stevenlomon]

Frfr, mindboggling stuff haha

[@felixf4378]

You can definitely control another human being it’s called manipulation. You can take advantage of another persons lack of experience or flaws in their character to get them to do things you want and they won’t realize that they didn’t want to do that until it’s too late.

[@ClaireLoprensa]

@@felixf4378 You're referring to influence and less about control. Both philosophy and psychology recognize the complexity and unpredictability of human behavior. People are influenced by a multitude of factors, including their biology, psychology, social environment, and past experiences, making it impossible to control them fully. If you consider influence as control, you might as well say you're always under control because realistically, you're making decisions due to external influence. Until your decisions are motivated under pure free-will, you're under someone's control. But I doubt you'd claim you're under control right?

[@danielh2869]

This is the collab we all needed. More of this please!

[@locorunner]

What a great guest. One of the best you've had. It's very unfortunate that most of the information and ideas that Alok talks about goes way over your head. You do a dis-service to your listeners by paraphrasing or summarizing his information into 1-2 sentences. When you do this, most guests will say they agree with your summary as a sign of respect to you. But your paraphrasing is completely wrong in all of his points he makes.

[@TheStarrySky-sb9df]

Agree, a lot of the time he makes assumptions that he and Alok “say the same thing in different ways”, but it’s not as simple as that.

[@Miah_Lake]

So true

[@proxied8075]

I actually really appreciated his thoughts and questions! They helped further the discussion! I didn't take his paraphrasing as something for me, but rather a way to wrap up that segment and move on to the next as well as clear up any misunderstanding! :) To learn we must ask questions and I believe he certainly did that!

[@EmilyLe2909]

Agree 100%

[@andycatlin5075]

I love this! These two people are are completely different levels, and both so advanced on those respective levels, and it moves for a very useful conversation. Thanks guys!

[@drmedwuast]

Thanks for asking difficult questions! So valuable to hear someone not just nodding along

[@JKS323]

Dr K getting into it right from the first question is so DR K

[@danielheadstart3918]

Seriously one of the most interesting and useful conversations. Actual applicable and practical tips 👌🏽

[@TheStarstruck123]

I was hoping Dr. K would come to this show, am so glad he did !

[@anomalyraven]

Great podcast I love that you kept challenging each other throughout the discussion. I still got 1 hour left but I felt inclined to drop a comment already 🙂

[@derreckaffor5584]

Really awesome and intriguing conversation!! I didn’t even know who Alok was, but he came in and brought so much insight. Great podcast 🙏🏾

[@thechongster]

I cant imagine the effort Dr K has to go through to dumb down the spiritual stuff for us mortals

[@XXROCKANDROLLPOWERXX]

I've been watching your interviews on and off for about 4 years now. I must say that I'm not even half way through this one and it's already the best interview you've ever had in your channel in my opinion.

[@manobik]

One of the best episode so far. Wanna see him again.

[@TheStarrySky-sb9df]

Never knew Dr. K would be here! Super excited!

[@dustins4016]

I wish you could understand how much I enjoy your interviews and the way you aren’t afraid to ask questions. I hope many more years of interviews

[@ironicgambino8987]

I have been listening to & watching podcasts for over 5 years and this specific episode is definitely in my top 3. It opened my eyes in a way that I didn’t know it’s possible, I took so many notes…I’m gonna be watching this over and over again. I highly appreciate that this episode exist, thank you Tom.

[@celli6501]

Great interview! This area is super helpful and something I don't hear discussed often enough. 👍

[@tsoupakis]

It stopped suddenly. And it stopped in the most interesting part. It is fascinating the difference between the two characters where the one is materialistic and the other one is spiritual finding their common ideology when they both want to help others. It is just shame he didn’t let dr.K go further on his explanation on spiritual

[@shaereub4450]

Never thought I'd see this crossover collaboration. Im a regular listener of both these great guys.

[@adhammater4237]

This was an amazing convo, both are super smart. Love it

[@HUMANETARIAN]

We have to shift our focus from external to internal 🔥🔥🔥

[@Krish-10]

Recently, Dr. K said he was in a podcast for over 5hrs. This must be it

[@therichbuddha3277]

wow. Intense convo. Transcendental in a way. Given Tom's disclosure about his game use for drive fulfillment it amazes me he created such a hugely successful business. It kind of flies in the face of the studies that show willpower and motivation will be depleted from either excessive P and mast and/or gaming.

[@user-bb4dn6eq7x]

I think one of the best duo so far . Great insights!!

[@TheXeeman]

the most interesting part is always at the end when there isn't enough time. I want more of that non-physical realm stuff that he talks about!!!!

[@HowToGoSupernova]

Wow Dr K.... you did NOT have to go this hard! This is life changing wisdom. Our motivations are stronger than our will many times. Conquer that and nothing has you! I'll DEF be thinking on this for some time. When it passes through my filters I'll make a video about this on my channel. Thanks!

[@killy374]

Yeah I feel like a fart in the wind since these advice. Fuck...

[@myppissmallbut2534]

16:57 best moment 😂 Dr.K does funny accent and host does the 🗿 face

[@2das]

New goal: Motivate myself to be completely unmotivated 🤣

[@andrewmweisse]

Such a fun convo!

[@aciuschristophores7789]

Love you Dr K!!! Great interview, Tom!

[@irvinkorankye2267]

This is a great piece. Very educative 🔥💯

[@atfernando1]

Man, I don't often berate someone but the host is dense and instead of trying to understand the guest, tries to abstractly explain things to the point that it's simply obnoxious. Also, even though to my view the guest tells him not to find a quick solution, he seems to just want the steps to whatever his agenda is. Is this an interview or just trying to convince others of his views? Glad Dr. K knows how to avoid his ways.

[@EmilyLe2909]

At one point I thought is this some kind of debate that Dr K signed up for 😅. It’s important to have discussions and okay to have different opinions but the manner in which the host responded or asked a question or made a statement, etc. in this interview was just condescending and borderline disrespectful imo.

[@Dave_of_Mordor]

@@EmilyLe2909 He's not used to people challenging his thoughts. This is what happens when you keep having guests with the same opinion. I mean, he got offended by a genuine, curious question about being domesticated 🤣. Based on how annoyed he looks the entire interview, Dr K is definitely not getting another invitation

[@cindercheng]

Yeahhhh! Like I was genuinely curious about what the host had to say to support his point on that , but I got nothing

[@andylawlzz]

I disagree, I think the host was simply trying to understand what Dr k was saying by interpretating it through the language of his world view, and by doing so all of the hosts regular listeners can also more easily understand what Dr k is trying to say. @Dave_Of_Mordor has this interpretation of "this guy will never invite Dr k back ever again" but I got the feeling that he super super enjoyed this conversation and would jump at the chance to have another one. It just feels like a perfect example of not even attempting to understand people you disagree with that they talked about when politics was brought up.

[@loicnicoue4659]

I have been waiting for this duo for so long. you only need to listen to those 2 to walk your own walk in life and be fulfill in life

[@cross-eyedmary6619]

I am thoroughly amused by the contrast between Healthy Gamer’s EQ and Tom’s complete lack thereof, highlighted around the 19:26-19:28 mark. Haha Love them both though.

[@cross-eyedmary6619]

“That’s one way to look at it…” Tom exposing that he still lowkey views women as objects and the look of incredulousness on HG’s face😂

[@liamabean3532]

Tom is kinda feeling… unsettling in his conclusions lol

[@tiryaclearsong421]

​@@cross-eyedmary6619 Yeah. I'm a woman who likes Dr. K. I would not recommend Tom's attitude. Some women don't mind it, especially for a ons, but it is only likely to get you laid once or a few times with women who don't want anything more. I feel slimy listening to him keep talking about his attitude. I want to date people who want to date me because we both like each other. Which means I can't be an object to him.

[@cross-eyedmary6619]

Slow playback speed way down and watch Dr K's face when he asks "Can you control another person?"

[@ligiasommers]

AMAZING EPISODE , thank you 🙏🏻🌹✨🙏🏻

[@LoveAboveThought]

At some point we just need to accept that reality is what it is, not what we imagine or want it to be.

[@ardianha5346]

I disagree. There isn't one reality everybody experience the same. The only solid in this world is the physics of nature. Most of the experienced reality is made and calculated with your thoughts and what you believe is true. We can approach the same goal. One of us could do it effortless and the other have a bad time pursuing or experienced different results.

[@juniperstardust5549]

Exactly, people's suffering stem from trying to change the unchangeable and people's happiness stems from enjoying and accepting what is there.

[@m00se40]

@@ardianha5346Even the physics of nature are not as solid as we may think; someone in a coma has a much different perception of something like gravity than someone who is awake and walking around.

[@Macca-iv2bj]

Did anyone else notice that Tom seemed annoyed at Dr K? I haven't watched impact theory in a while so maybe this is a new Tom I am not used to?

[@Dave_of_Mordor]

He's not used to people with non-redpill and non-incel views. I've always known that Tom was a fraud and extremely close-minded, but I just needed a guest to prove that, and Dr K did just that.

[@helpee]

I agree. He seems a bit dismissive as he cannot wrap his head around what Dr K is saying.

[@simplysaso]

Agreed he was getting challenged on his entire view of motivation!

[@Princessbubblegum567]

Ugh the host wanting to make everything into right/wrong competition and wanting to sound smart with weird incel ideologies were so annoying. Im glad Dr. K called him out on it.

[@TheStarrySky-sb9df]

Agree

[@jarvanwildrift8056]

I dont think Tom tries to sound smart he is just true to his thoughts.

[@proxied8075]

I'm not sure I see it this way! I think he's just a dude sharing his thoughts and is open to discussion and disagreement. He does seem pretty firm in his beliefs for sure! If anything, saying his ideas are "weird incel ideologies" actually belies Dr. K's point! When men share their feelings/thoughts, general society shuns them as you are doing now. I think disagreeing with someone will always happen, but putting someone down for it just doesn't sit right with me.

[@Princessbubblegum567]

@@jarvanwildrift8056 nah he was trying waaaaaaay too hard to be correct all the time and got so defensive when Dr. K was calling him on his BS

[@ashleybriggs1198]

@@proxied8075I complete agree with this. very well put.

[@fuseforme]

Amazing, this discussion touched me deep. Loved it

[@harrisbuild]

wow this episode is GOATED. I was wondering why this talk with Dr. K is 3 hours and OH MAN. (btw I've been following Dr. K for years and he's helped me through a lot of my personal baggage)

[@stevecatanio8532]

This is as good as any good television in the past 20 years! KZbin podcasting is here to stay!🎉

[@nikyabodigital]

Ahh so this is why when you decide to go to the gym bringing with your goal. Then you saw progress and you just straight up being in love with the process and the progress and it goes internal. Like wanting to see the strongest version of you. What Dr. K said resonated deeply to me. If you are chasing something external goal post keeps on moving and you will never be sustainably happy and satisfied with life. I 100% completely agree with Dr K here.

[@curiouschronic582]

What an incredible conversation ❤

[@time1T]

Mind blowing interview. Love the references to spirituality

[@JRoseBooks]

Dr. K is incredible and I’m glad you had him on!

[@_-Tom-_]

Cool to see you two collab!!

[@becurious07]

Wow! it changed my freaking perspective towards my problems and desires! Thank you Tom for having GG

[@killy374]

Yeah 2 gay dudes talking about how to fix your path lolllolololol😂

[@TheConvectuoso]

Clean your room brother

[@D_Jilla]

​@@killy374lmao what a silly comment

[@killy374]

@@D_Jilla thank you kind sir. You really contributed with the highest of value information to this

[@D_Jilla]

@@killy374 anytime

[@MrBeasterAndFeaster]

The host is seeing this conversation as a battle of the minds rather than a learning experience.

[@shaxpx]

This was truly fantastic! Mind-blowing! ❤

[@xxttakret9045]

Damn, this was such an interesting conversation. Im glad Tom decided to take the convo in the direction it went 😊

[@healer81]

Dr, K approach to pursuing goals, women is a lot more practical than Tom's approach. Both have the same result but one brings more peace and a more genuine unfiltered version of LOVE. Tom is gaming the system while Dr K is gaming the system that made the game.

[@TREBLECLEF421]

By the end of this video Dr K started to talk about third eye meditation but then Tom asked another question and they didn't come back to that topic again, sad(

[@ironicgambino8987]

Dr K’s emotional intelligence is above this world, he is FASCINATING. Amazing talk.

[@s.sadeghmarashi3250]

Reading its description brings to mind the episode with Dr. Huberman. Same concepts, different perspectives.

[@tulsalien]

I definitely had to set aside motivation and like trick myself to quit drinking when it was my main coping tool. It was so hard and not quick, but still worth it. ❤

[@aheumedivirtoXD]

I got here by Dr. K and, honestly, i don't get how this podcast has 4mi subs because, man, not only this guy is unmotivating me to continue listening but also to live in general. If i manage to finish these 3 hours i may get to become Dr. K's said detached person who has conquered all motivation It was all a training, i see

[@mr.longterm]

Tamo junto irmão. É impressionante a quantidade de americano atrofiado em materialismo.

[@aheumedivirtoXD]

@@mr.longterm eu estava mais me referindo ao cara ser o apresentador de podcast mais desempolgado que eu já vi na vida kkkkk parece que está ali obrigado mas, é, isso aí também

[@goodtothinkwith]

Is it wrong to say that your conversations get into better and better stuff as they go along… so that I wish the episode was twice as long?

[@LoDef647]

Love Healthygamergg! Dr.K is the shit! Has helped me out in so many growing pains of life. He has a way of talking that makes sense to new generations that are desperately in need of mental health assistance

[@M00nlord]

Porn addiction definitely does affect relationships negatively. Over time a lot of people become hyper sexualized and experience less attraction to their partner because of the addiction and this can lead to all kinds of issues like lack of intimacy, not having sex anymore, fantasizing about being with other people, comparing partner to unrealistic sexual standards, even escalating to the point of beginning to see escorts or have affairs etc. A staggering amount of addicts will confess that they have ruined relationships because of the insatiable nature of the addiction. It's a terrible addiction to suffer from and the most shameful. I'm happy that the public discourse is changing thanks to Dr. K and other people sharing knowledge about it and that more people will begin to seek help because of it.

[@killy374]

what ship ? everyone on the single side mostly.

[@Photik]

​@@killy374people in relationships fight about porn usage too.. Or lack of performance from one partner if lacking stimuli from pornography, etc.

[@cross-eyedmary6619]

I was gorgeous and in my prime and couldn't wait for sex with my best friend. He was a nice guy who had wanted to be with me forever, married me and wouldn't consummate the marriage because he was so addicted to porn and live webcam. I would wake up in the middle of the night to him masturbating in his sleep. When he got rid of his phone and tried to give up porn he started drinking and became violent.

[@killy374]

yeah but some people can control it, stop with the whataboutism when it's clear the older you get the more in control you get of it, it's clear your not longer a teen so you can moderate it in your life, problem is when you grow with porn but still no education, friends, some experiences, job and so on yet porn is the big evil when we fight worse stuff @@Photik

[@ianturnbull7]

for me it led to becoming hypersexual and oversexualising and objectifying my partner. but it was a dead bedroom so was probably going to end anyway