Abundance v Scarcity mindset mistakes by wife hunters in Ukraine | Vodka Vodkast 053

[@EnglishTeacherLloyd]

Abundance mentality for the win! Always enjoy these vodcasts, Conor... keep it up. :)

[@CrazyRussianAdventurescom]

I keep learning from your videos, this was very valuable 👍 As a thank you I watched all 3 youtube ads to the end 😂

[@ConorClyneNewEurope]

Awesome ... I've got to pay the rent in this coronavirus lockdown :D

[@bigdaddydeester]

Amazing video, mindset will set you apart from all those desperate match making guys

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

🥂

[@johnnybodank959]

So are there any good books that will help me work on my charisma? Or like a "game" book that's actually good?

[@83Aburg]

I'm going to take the opposite side of your argument, as I believe the abundance/scarcity philosophy has more merit in a Western environment, or Odessa/Kiev (larger city) environment. From my understanding, you are not married to a E European, and you've been traveling through the FSU for nearly 10 years. In a way, that's an anomaly, as to why you've remained single and have not committed. I, on the other hand, have been married for nearly 10 years, having lived and married in Ukraine. We also have kids, which should tell you the strength of our commitment. From my experience and a few friends that are also married to Ukrainian ladies, in long term marriages with kids, will tell you that your philosophy is way off target. Ukrainian ladies want to be the "one." If a guy has "one-i-tis," then he should consider going to Italy, Holland, UK or Spain. Or get it out of his system and go on a romance tour, just to "think" he has some sort of luck, communicating with gorgeous young ladies. Ukrainian ladies are not rude, and will give foreign men some initial time to strike up a conversation. Your advice is so far off the mark, that it's truly a shame that you are disseminating this to western guys. Ukrainian ladies, who want a husband and family and most of them do, believe me, will turn around on a dime, once they sense that the foreigner is there to just play around or wants to date around. Girls don't want to feel like cucumbers in a grocery market, waiting to be picked. They want to be the one, especially if the guy begins to woo her. They know that competition amongst her sisters is prevalent (why do you think they look so great?). In return, the guy gets an "abundance" of love and a "scarcity" of western bullshit and games. My advice and experience to all of your viewers: 1. Go on a romance tour and get it out of your system, if you need to oggle and drool. Go on some speed dates and let your chest swell, because you'll feel like a stud. Get to know and see Ukraine a bit. 99.9% of you will have no success in securing a long term relationship, because what right-in-her-mind Ukrainian girl is going to fall in love with some guy whom she barely knows and is dating 6 other girls? No way, Jose. 2. Plan a longer trip and stay for a month or two, three. Get out and network. Join a sports club. Contact English clubs and ask to teach as a native English speaker (always needed). Go to the same grocery store, cafe or other retail store and perhaps you'll make a connection with one of the workers. What I am saying is, you don't even need a club, except for entertainment, and you want to meet someone naturally (in a non-boozed state of mind). If you meet someone naturally, I can just about guarantee, if you are a gentleman (open doors, give flowers, walk nearest the street, etc), then you will find that one-i-tis is for pussies. Real men step up, get married and raise a family. If this virus situation hasn't shown you that, than you've missed the whole picture. I'm with my wife and kids more now, taking nature walks, and doing more activities together. Not walking around Odessa in isolation and alone. Getting hugs and kisses from your wife and kids means more to a real man, than one who is still discussing absurd philosophy.

[@83Aburg]

Conor, I am going to supplement my long counter-point, by using information from one of your prior videos, kzbin.info/www/bejne/imPYhJx_a9Cjpac. Starting at :55 sec, you ask the manager of a dating agency, "Does Ukraine have any good girls left?" She answers, "Yes, but they are all hiding in their flats." Obviously, this short exchange underlines what I previously wrote. There are plenty of good girls in Ukraine to be found, but not in agencies (which you and I agree with), and certainly not so many in clubs, or one week ventures to Ukraine. Finding a wife in Ukraine is actually quite easy, but it took me a few knocks to my wallet to figure that out. The really and only near guaranteed way, is the option I gave before: You need a lot of time to live there, build a base of friends through networking via teaching English, joining sports clubs (tennis, table tennis, swimming, fitness centers), or being a repeat customer at cafes, restaurants and grocery stores. Or go on some city excursion tours with an English translator. Make friends with the translator(s) and let it be known that you love the country and would like to someday meet someone for marriage and to "create a family." These are key words to say. After your face has been established, the ladies will start to relax and begin to build some trust. That's when the door opens to asking them on a coffee date. And so it begins. Within 3 months, I found my wife through a translator, whom I had hired to help me find a long term apartment. Our conversation led to my desire to find a wife and create a family. Most Ukrainian ladies are sympathetic to a gentleman, who is honest about his intentions. Therefore, my translator eventually bumped into someone who was "looking for a husband." These words are not used in the west, because "looking for a husband" means, "I am desperate." In the west, a friend may say to you, "I know a friend who just broke up and is looking to go out with someone again." Anything more than that, sends guys running. Not in the east. They WANT to be married and don't beat around the bush. In the past year, I personally know 3 young ladies under the age of 23, who are engaged or married. And in FB, they refer to their husband as her family. In the west, we don't use that term for just a husband, but only when kids are added. In Ukraine, Family is #1, while in the west, being with family is burdensome. (We put our parents in old folks homes, for example). That is why you won't read too many stories about how families can't cope being cooped up for weeks, contrast to the west where we are hearing about the increase of divorces, separations, mental health crisis that will occur or is occuring. Families in Ukraine are accustomed to living in small areas together, sharing food, clothes and money, so this quarantine situation is not a huge challenge. Take my word, Ukrainian ladies make the best wives ever. I have 7 western friends who are married to Ukrainian ladies, and we've all been married a minimum of 6 years, nearly all with kids. Everyone is happy and living their best years. I also know about 12 Ukrainian couples who have been married/together for an average of 9 years and are about 33 years old in average. This should tell you something that no other agency or youtube commenter (especially non-married Conor), has never mentioned because they just don't know. Too many people concentrate on the scammers but no one spends time with folks like me, who are very happily married and living life to the fullest.

[@reginasemenenko148]

Yes. I agree with you! I married a Ukrainian man who is very loving, supporting and traditional. He wasn't a player. He was THE ONE!

[@thecatvirusgotme889]

Aburg- why not make your own KZbin channel if you think someone cares for your nonsense opinion?

[@PresidentChoudhury]

Great advice Conor! I’ll keep you in mind.

[@jorllx]

I am not travelling to Russia to date "the one" Russian beauty. I am doing it to date as many different Russian beauties as possible :)

[@fightingforcatalonia]

Thanks Conor! Have you ever heard of Tom Torero? Cheers mate!

[@ConorClyneNewEurope]

Yes, I have ... I actually bumped into him once in Warsaw

[@fightingforcatalonia]

@@ConorClyneNewEurope He is rebranding now

[@nunyadamnbiznez3522]

I made a comment to someone's post here and then youtube showed me three responses to my comment. The original poster must have deleted their post because I can't find my comment or any of the three responses to it anymore.

[@-agentsofdred2759]

Connor, you are the most unromantic dating coach. Some of us find the "one" so if you have not, it doesn't mean I'm dependent and you are enlightened. If you don't believe in God or the possibility of destiny, or positive thinking to find a soulmate, that is your problem, not mine. Hopefully, you will evolve and find true love. Abundance does not require abandoning romance and exclusivity.

[@ConorClyneNewEurope]

Just giving you the harsh unpleasant truth ... if you have one-itis then you will come across as needy ... if you want to stay in Hollywood dream land then fine but ironically it will weaken your chances of actually finding the 'one' ☹️

[@bonsummers2657]

@@ConorClyneNewEurope And, there's the 'thing' about finding a woman to make family with, to be devoted and faithful to but without being desperate, it's the 'God first' perspective, while being lovingly devoted to a woman. Abundance mindset in living, being,…. and for the goodness of humanity, starting with oneself, and family,…. and community,…. and the world :)

[@Manuel-gu9ls]

It's very vital in all essential walks of life to have an abundant mindset not to get lost easily & overall to have a calm demeanor wherever you have and the intelligence to adapt.. As Stephen Hawking once said; " Intelligence is the ability to adapt"

[@brianchernecki4844]

I totally agree with you in this excellent video. I have dated extensively in Ukraine over a period of several years. I have great dates using only google translate...fun actually, but I think there is zero chance of a serious relationship developing that way. As for the romance tours, silly, selling a fantasy to men who enjoy fantasy. I really think the only way to find a woman long term in Ukraine is to go there for several extended visits and just “Live”. Just like “hunting” anything. Become familiar with the environment, study the object of your quest, patterns,culture,habits, then wait and there is a chance of success. If you can’t “hunt” at home you won’t be successful in Ukraine either. One thing is certain though, you will be searching in an abundant population. Can’t hunt tigers in Iowa, if you can’t hunt rabbits don’t go after tigers. If you do go after tigers be prepared and cautious or the tiger will eat you. They’re hunting too! Stay healthy Irishman.

[@ConorClyneNewEurope]

Legendary analogy 😀

[@brianchernecki4844]

@@ConorClyneNewEurope Thanks, hopefully men realize that you are an experienced "guide" when it comes to eastern European "safaris" and can keep the tiger from eating them...LOL , as for me, I have been bitten a time or two, but managed to escape to hunt again!!! One day I will gather my courage and go to Odessa, where the real big game lives!! :)

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

I already done some Russian chicks 🥂

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

Irish men is my bros

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

Just not too much my types

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

So true , can adapt my old experince in Russia lol . Irish wisdoms , always appreciate 👏👏👏

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

Some international parties in Eastern Europe

[@steffanhoffmann8937]

Okay you know where I live fella so..... I'd say this is extremely accurate advice. My experience living in Mama is: Stay away from the nightclubs. I met three ladies at diff stages when I lived in the city instead of FONTAN in .......MERRY BERRY. Another in City Park. Another sitting by the Catherine Statue. Another outside Freshline nearby. None were successful. BUT When I moved to FONTAN I met numerous ladies on the Gold Coast beaches. Locals who were nicer than the city ladies imo. You're right about the Marriage agencies also. I've seen a few famous sites customers "wandering around" Katerynskaya looking lost and yes.....desperate! Look after yourself during the Covid-19 period Conor. Sunny weather forecast next week. Zashibis' :)

[@franktoledo6342]

Hey Connor when you went to Uzbekistan the night life was not that great. Guys if they go to Ukraine just go and have enjoyment. Good advice. The pie is bigger.

[@robertford1033]

Gentlemen he is real,i think he has your best interests.I wish myself to come and meet this inspiring young man.Now as a thought i find VALUE in him.So what ever the cost spend it.To be honest i will be in that position finacially soon. Many American men lonely a ukraine wife is of great desire.GOD BLESS WHAT EVER YOU DECIDE

[@jorgegallegos7693]

Connor Odesa is good and big city. But there are other cities in Ukraine. Not just Odesa.

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

How to keep happy like u when I m walking on the street see beautiful girls with homelesses

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

I should date much more younger and intellecure girls right ?

[@markp448]

Thank you for the hard work!

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

I felt more calmed when I saw Germans Danish and Dutchs went home empty handed , So I calmed . Breath and making my business 💰💰💰

[@zvikrol5220]

hy conor i m 63 from israel go to gym every day eat healthy ot a young spirit! devorsed 15 years 2 grown up children! been to ukraine 10 times still loking for my future wife! i ll be in kyiv from 11-20 of august CAN Y HELP I M QUITE DESPERATE!!

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

I thought I travelled the whole world for u , bought this gift that gift , u should think how I m honest good and with good future , but as u said how needy is that , it tured women off , women mentality thats it . Got it

[@mgtow0093]

1000% TRUE

[@daveg9000]

The ladies in Ukraine can be very attractive, nice, smart, and sweet. However, there are plenty who are none of those things. Yes, many are looking for a better-life/a way out. There is nothing wrong with that. Ukraine has a lot of problems. There are many single-moms. There is nothing wrong with that. If YOU lack social-skills and common-sense, you will have a hard time trying to meet a decent woman anywhere. I don't think Odessa is the one of the better places in the world to meet a lady. There are plenty of agencies all over UA. Tours can be good for some men. Socials can be good. But, guys...if you are foolish enough to fall for SCAMS it's your own fault. Do your research! If you don't recognize a scam site, a scam agency, and a woman with a hidden-agenda, it's your fault.

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

Somewhere Eastern Europe

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

Damn I hate god damn scammers , its too much 😓😓😓 I see them and run away

[@Manuel-gu9ls]

Enjoy the country apart of its women I know I would because despite the dull or gloomy environment there's a chance for to be one of the travelers' bucket list take Alina McLeod for example who always encouraged people to try out her birthplace and its potential and Russia too both are unique so you want to explore half the countries Eastern Europe go ahead but always stay vigilant don't be fooled, don't fall into their trap especially from suspicious dating agency & its people in general and you'll be fine

[@RoboPhobia69]

dude how can you pull chicks in quarantine!

[@ConorClyneNewEurope]

Yes, of course :)

[@RoboPhobia69]

@@ConorClyneNewEurope that doesnt tell me how brah

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

I know I m very attractive to single moms but its that good for me ? lol. How

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

One girl for me is my the biggest mistake in Russia before , thats all

[@sofiatitova7869]

“High quality women” sounds like you describe iPhone but not a human being 😕

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

But thats truth , there r high quality womens and low quality beings (((

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

There r many low quality womens try to scam me every night on the street 🤣🤣🤣

[@sofiatitova7869]

JinBo Himself lol 😂 maybe you look like a scamming victim Or has a naive face 😅

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

Maybe date some Irish girls is better idea 🤣

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

I think If I pay euro or dollars in bars clubs there gonna be many birds gonna appreciate ))

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

Anyway I have very smart and young look , thats very advantage 🤩

[@tomterroso23]

WTF is Your problem Man??

[@AnkitYadav-td6mg]

@@tomterroso23 Really man....this guy is the definition of a CREEP!!

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

Drinks little bit and dance with two girls or three girls together would be a better idea

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

Dont worry I have some German girls beauty u ever imaging

[@nunyadamnbiznez3522]

I'm looking to go to Ukraine and maybe Belarus... You keep stressing in this video about men looking for their one and only... the right woman for me... I already found the one I was meant to be with, but I hadn't expected to find her life growing up had damaged her so bad she couldn't let go of the past so we could move forward together making our life as we wanted it to be. So, she's gone. What I'm looking for now is a woman who can enjoy sharing life together with me. I like doing many things and I'd like to have someone to share doing things together. My criteria is she has to be honest, integrity is very important to me. I can't deal with a liar or thief. Hopefully she is an intelligent conversationalist who can enjoy us doing everything we can together. If she has children, that's no problem. In fact I would prefer she would already have a child or children. I love kids and I'm a very good father. If she didn't have children already, I would have children with her if she wanted that. I'm interested in us having a good relationship, but I don't feel a need for me to make any more children of my own. I would only do that for her because I know what a joy it is to be a parent and I would never deny her such a basic joy and pleasure of having a child and being a mother. I won't be going through any so called marriage agency. I'm interested in many things so I'm not just a horny guy going woman crazy. I've been into photography and videography for a long time and I like taking a wide variety of photos... people, animals, architecture and so much more. I'm not a big drinker or partier. I don't care for drinking or clubbing. I prefer to get high on life. Movies, shows, picnics, BBQ's, exploring, travel, motorcycles or whatever. I can enjoy talking with my wife, listening to her stories and doing things with her that she likes to do. I don't think my expectations are too much. I'd like to find out what it's like to have a woman who could really love me and who would let me love her with all my heart and soul. I'm sick of women who only want me for what I can do for them or what I can give them. I give 110%, but I'd like to know what it is to receive also. Understand? I'll probably stay in that area for a while so I can get used to it and sort of acclimate myself in case I meet someone special I'd like to stay with. Does this all make sense to you or am I just rambling???

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

I need to exchange my money to Euros would be much better to pay them all of them

[@budapestmole]

It’s a Western mindset. There is a lack of quality women so scarcity is an issue in the West. Yes meet a woman at the social, you can introduce her as your “hi Conor meet my future exwife”. 🤣

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

I met very beauty German girls , I wont tell you their insta or numbers lol

[@RobertSeviour1]

Too much repetition for my taste.