You will see that your faults can save you

[@andreajoy224]

"Our faults contain the solutions within them." and "Transform a fault into a virtue." This is so valuable! Love it! Thanks so much for this 🤗

[@johnconnor4136]

Just wanted to comment here to proudly share that I've been sober for 1,913 days.

[@NorthernPear]

Congratulations! Very happy for you and proud of you. You’ve given yourself a great gift.

[@EnjoyingLife-gt2es]

Congratulations 🎉

[@JeanDelucre2358]

Congrats! I’ve been sober for about 2 hours.

[@NorthernPear]

@@JeanDelucre2358well done. Keep going. ❤

[@fyvura]

that is so awesome!! so proud of you

[@imadfallah4012]

This man and his channel is the definition of "good use of internet". Thank you for your work ❤

[@annborjesson5463]

Profound message! 💎 You’re describing most people on the tram here in Gothenburg, Sweden. The kids sittning together with a phone in their hands not talking to each other makes me sad. And the loud music in every big store has now found its way to the grocery store. We need silence and conversations.

[@Word-Smithy]

I'm a flight attendant. This is my day - every day: The speakerphone conversations, the nail-polish appliers choking everyone out with their toxic fumes, the moms changing seriously-soiled diapers right there in the seat. People have ceased to care about those around them.

[@Sharon-o5t9m]

See my comment on the unintended consequences of the loss of social peer pressure to thwart and reduce antisocial behaviors. An entitled attitude, lack of social etiquette and polite respect for others, and kneejerk escalation to anger and violence by socially immature passengers are workplace safety issues that requires steadfast implementation of company policy that protects airlines employees and their client passengers.

[@NewEpictetus]

You have one fault... You do not upload frequently. You have so much wisdom that is fault not to share it. Keep the good work. Thanks for these videos

[@CuriousPhilosopurr]

So grateful for his time, but I humbly agree with you too.🙏🏻😮🥺

[@maryamyousaf3302]

In a youtube full of chaos, here's a channel with peace ❤

[@Cinderella227]

Unfortunately, some people are shameless and lack self awareness. This causes a reflection on Shakespeare’s Macbeth. Macbeth conveyed to Lady Macbeth, he wanted to deny and make fiction of his transgressions. Yet he could not, because his faults and his crime was a component of his whole, which occupied his mortal soul. Two monsters inside, the one you feed the most is the one in control. Unconstrained emotions manifest uncontrollable ambitions, transforms man into beast of the fields. Thank you for sharing such worthy words. God bless you and your family. ✝️🙏🏻❤️

[@cath_art]

i will always cherish the passion that is engraved in humanity and no matter what time period; we will always find a way to express it, be it philosophy or art.

[@BKing007]

Thank you for having this amazing conversation with me brother, been quite insightful understanding others and more importantly my own behaviour and what I can or cannot do to do better 🙏🏼

[@aliciagc2539]

When I was young I was very shy and lacked confidence. Now I would say I’m reserved but very friendly and appropriately assertive. Something that really helped was understanding and embracing my true nature as an introvert. While I appreciate the extroverts of the world, to me, introversion is deep and enriching and I wouldn’t change my true nature even if I could.

[@copysmarter]

I've been shy my whole life. Countless times in school, when teacher asked something and no one knew the answer, I did... but I was too afraid to raise a hand and say it. I felt afraid that people will hate me for doing so and that always held me back. Worked it out a lot since then, but yeah, I still remember.

[@Kittyyy666]

jealous-> inspired entitlement->self respect

[@BrentWigginsWords]

A parallel train of thought came to my mind as I listened to your thoughts on faults and virtues and their transmuting relation. The saying “You can't change the people around you, but you can change the people around you" came to mind. I don't want to be the loud man nor the loudest man. I'd rather say something than talk sweet nothings. By the same token, I can see the honesty in speaking your mind from the loud or loudest man, even if and when it is misguided or mistimed. Knowing the truth and speaking the truth are realities that are seldom done together. Both realities of truth unfortunately are mutually exclusive, in a mind-body dualism, where either fault takes control or virtue takes control. The narcissist may know the truth, but never speaks it; sweet nothings flow from his mouth, stroking his ego with lies. The shy know the truth, but rarely speak it; saying something falls on deaf ears or fears of such keep the truth as lived rather than told. As you said, turning fault into virtue, exuding a temperance that keeps you humble and honest at once, is a world of balance we need to live.

[@jamquijano4402]

I love this because it's an argument on shame and shyness. Which is kinda counterculture nowadays but there's such value here.

[@ryansergas2776]

you encouraged me to buy Meditations, probably one of the best books written of all time

[@beadld]

Perspective is important, because we can see benefits in our flaws and turn them into strenght. Thank you for this gem👌🏻

[@kabukiloveful]

This came at such a great time. Thank you.

[@ujuasumpta4265]

To respect others is to respect yourself first because if you loose your sense of regard and respect for yourself, you will never give it to others. I shared this insight on my channel, and it came from a deep knowing and awareness of the reality and nature of respect. The courage to respect ourselves is the same courage to respect others.

[@sophspice32]

this is off topic and i haven´t watched the video yet but i´ve been really sad about how my dad´s trauma has negatively impacted my life, but i realized that without it, he wouldn´t have met or felt attracted to my mom and i wouldn´t have been born. so what this taught me is that everything is a double edged sword, everything can be a blessing or a curse at the same time, that´s why perspective matters. you can turn dark things into something beautiful at the end of the day

[@AlejandroLopez-ff7sl]

Thank you, as always! The insights from these videos are truly invaluable

[@DieWellTomorrow]

Used to write. I would always think negatively about what I wrote when I read it later. Maybe it came from a place of disappointment. Thinking I wasn’t the one writing it, or that I wasn’t living up to what I was writing. I’m more grounded now. Now it’s just remaking the habit. LiveWellToday

[@Swiftie695]

I can't watch and listen at the same time. I get distracted. Why so beautiful ? Man!!😫

[@imtrusfrated99]

I try to find answers and then there comes your video, with every part I have been trying to improve and move from... Such a blessing ❤

[@Cy4nSw4n]

I understand how people can see these things as just a 'big cope'. We're faced with deep new ideas that can be very different then what we have believed for a long time. We can hit a wall, and get stuck in some sort of cognitive dissonance for awhile. And then our minds can kinda freak out and try to backpetal. I guess at that point, we make a choice to stay on this path or not. I chose to stay because it wouldn't be fair to my soul to see the truth, then turn away from it

[@oxcydae]

Your videos are ART

[@anshpradhan1954]

True Gem, "thoughts on top of thoughts on top of thoughts", you never fail to amaze me with the unique perspectives you have learnt from olden philosophers and from your own well curated plethora of knowledge, knowledge worth investing time into...

[@SepulvedaBoulevard]

Just discovered your channel, and very happy to have found you. I need this❤

[@_atolla_]

You made me loan Epictetus from the uni library; love your videos man!

[@acceptingtheuniverse]

Nothing will be the same again!

[@cathypreddie98]

Omgosh. Thank you. You are so helpful and beautiful ❤️🎄🙏🏼

[@gxmfu]

To transform your vices into virtues... that is what philosophy gives us. 💯 Thank you for the lessons and wisdom you share with us through your videos; I feel like I learn more through your channel than my bookshelf lol

[@shucksful]

“But here, is the real world effect….It turns shyness into humbleness…and wisdom”

[@boni8682]

Happy to see a new video!

[@lucasa462]

Well articulated! Thank you for these videos.

[@user-hj4sf5pi7i]

Thank you so much for your work, looking forward each Thursday to your videos and journals ❤

[@withloveaja]

transform fault into virtue.

[@swynty777]

One of your vest videos ever. Thank you ❤

[@jamestravis1037]

This is the kind of thing that happens in Los Angeles constantly. Narciccists all over the place.

[@Sharon-o5t9m]

Where the majority of the public have abdicated community peer responsibility to thwart anti-social interactions by others, then miscreants are emboldened and will act out frequently without the sense of regret and shame discussed in this video. Importantly, this form of peer pressure to conform to positive social behaviors and habits also reinforces safety in public work spaces, such as retail stores, public health facilities, roads, parks and recreational areas, by reinforcing inhibitions against dangerous impulsive actions. We who work in workplace health and safety compliance have observed a steady increase since 2016 in impulsive aggression among workers and from abusive members of the public. The fallout from careless and distracted behaviors, trough antisocial attitudes, is a spike in avoidable injury and deaths.

[@tangleduniverse]

Before I watched your video, I was writing down some thoughts I had about a person I knew not so long ago, someone I worked with and whose position enabled this person to bully me. Others-some of whom seemed like otherwise good people-participated. This educated person was quite knowledgeable about logic. Nothing about their behavior (or work, for that matter) was logical. Any sort of raw intelligence one might possess is filtered through one's worldview and one's weaknesses. It is warped by tribalism and corrupted by desires to harm others or schadenfreude. And this is just one reason why, it seems, that the study of ethics and how to live well is as crucial a pursuit in philosophy as it is in everyday life. What good is all that knowledge or raw intelligence when it is not disciplined by ethical behavior, by the allegiance to reason over emotion/feelings about a thing? Can one be truly logical without those things? Can one apply their intelligence in any productive way without those things? Not that I have observed. At any rate, I thank you again for sharing your thoughts. What you said about turning a weakness into a virtue is something that I will apply in my own life.

[@acceptingtheuniverse]

Thank you for your insight and belief in these ideas.

[@Abraxas_322]

True Shaman ♥️🐎lovely šaman, synchronicities keep us alive

[@navpreetkaur4324]

Beauty with brains 🙂‍↔️

[@kostaskostas6224]

He ain't fcking you relax....😂

[@MattieMacaya]

Agreed- it’s good to be polite and respect others space and to be able to feel shame. But tbch my real question is - if anyone ever saw that young man again? 😂 like tbch I hope you run into him and can see growth in him Its two extremes on the spectrum- overtly shy or overtly shameless are both faults having to do with voice wounds. That man is probably just as wounded as a very quiet person- it just came out in a different way.

[@EuCarolCoelho]

Thank you ❤

[@amiesae]

i was looking forward to an upload from you YAY

[@sabaa999]

Thank you Needed it🙏💖

[@susbedoo]

Thanks for this

[@creepydani8]

A person who is shameless is less susceptible to herd mentality and can become a challenger of mindlessly accepted norms that prioritize some people at the expense of others. I am putting this out there because I see just as much fault in the older man as I see in the younger one. Shame is unfortunately often weaponized by educators and caretakers. You shame someone because you are disgusted or angered by them and want them to act in a way that is more palatable to you. You're encouraging them to reject themselves to fit others' needs instead of taking the time to teach them about others' needs and help them act out of care and compassion. When you recognize you have transgressed upon others' comfort, the more productive emotion would be guilt. You feel bad about your actions and seek to improve rather than feeling bad about yourself and seeking to isolate, defend or enslave yourself to the wishes of others. If the older man sought to teach the younger man as a student of life rather than express his own frustration and discomfort, he would have calmly appealed to his empathy and sense of guilt. "Young man, would you kindly lower your voice? I can see that many people are uncomfortable and becoming frustrated by the noise." A child who was taught through shame either loses themselves, or rebels like this man because they were never shown how to care about others as equals. I believe Murray Bowen postulated that one of the greatest challenges most people face is balancing our need for togetherness and separateness.

[@krisguerini]

❤

[@JJG0818]

I love your videos like always. However, I cant help but think, why wouldn’t you just attribute ignorance to that young man’s actions on the train, rather than attribute malice to it and call it a parasite? Maybe he was never taught to have shame; hence, he thinks that way because he was oblivious to it. Happy to hear your thoughts on this!

[@katia-kk1qq]

I talk too much that my problem and you talk about shame and i realised that i never really had that, anyway it been a while since i started working on this still i still fall back to my nature but i'll continu trying

[@Cat-and-Tilly]

Shadow work

[@imtrusfrated99]

Hey! And I would like to know about which books are on your shelf? Like the one in the middle with so many parts, it's all the same colour so I thought so... If you could share?

[@Chomp-Rock]

Wow, bots are a big fan of magnetic aura.

[@azeraazalea]

14:00 16:00 19:00

[@Jon-ze2bw]

Could you provide some classical references for your view of shyness?

[@delta390gt]

❤❤❤

[@carmelle2665]

Shyness isn’t a lack of self confidence, it’s a lack of confidence in others.

[@annjay2581]

Are you german? Ive been trying to place your accent for some time... sorry if thats too personal.