1). When I through my 1st divorce I went to a seminar $200.00 to meet a lawyer and before I went, I read a book: "A divorce woman guide $8.95" and that lawyer just charged me $25.00/hr. because she knew I will win the case. 2). end of my ex failed, he need pay my lawyer fee $7,000 3). After 11 yrs. later I married an American guy, he is my customer when I worked in the PC Industry 4). I am no longer dating w/Chinese man, American husband they respect you and listening to you, you and him equal this is the point. I saw a lot of my girlfriend after divorce their 2nd marriage the husbands are all Americans.