Two Things to Focus On

Two Things to Focus On
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[@robertasmith3437]

Another gem Dan. At first I couldn’t practice indifference as my symptoms and anxiety were sky high. I was too scared to leave the house and I was petrified of what my body was going to do next. So I started with not freaking out, learning to come into my body without fear, breathing calmly and reassuring myself. Then I was able to be indifferent to my symptoms and freely go about my day with or without them. Now I even welcome them in. Yes like Dan says it’s up and down but once you accept that, it’s ok, it’s part of the journey. I never thought I’d get this far. It’s taken me a year but you must rip up the calendar it’s not a race. Listen to this wonderful man daily as it’s your path to freedom 💗

[@paulamorphett9131]

You are doing great 🤗😊 😘🌻

[@1STBUCKLEY]

You're doing brilliant 👍

[@LL-pk2uu]

Truly inspiring and I am thrilled you are living your life! 😊❤️

[@marjiehullm728]

So awesome thanks for sharing!!

[@PainFreeYou]

Very humbled Roberta. So proud of your progress.

[@1STBUCKLEY]

Got to the park and symptoms started. Roll of the eyes but peed off tbh lol pulled it back. Did another walk and added more distance to it. It's a miserable day out here in London. Part of me desperate to drive home but I'm staying put in my car, watching your videos. Still amazes me how the pain just switches off when I don't focus on it. Need to get myself a timetable of things I want to do and start living. Video resonated today. Thanks

[@NicoleFitnessYouTube]

It’s amazing how the pain can be so present and then absent! But it definitely reinforces that it’s TMS/PDP. That gives me a lot of comfort - that reinforcement

[@Inge508]

Great coaching video Dan thanks ! Being optimistic about the future is my favorite tool! Realized that I was born optimistic but due to family tragedies I was always told that life wasn’t positive but sad and tragic.. and that repetition changed my positivity into catastrophic thinking too. What is wonderful now is that i am returning back to that original joyful person I was. Nobody will ever imprint massive negativity in my 🧠 brain, again.. Life will be good, great and safe! I’m not a victim anymore but a survivor and a thriver.. Saw Finn 🐈‍⬛inviting you to take a 💤 nap!! Hope you did! Take good care! 🤗🌻🤗🌻

[@Bachconcertos]

I like that - I use to be positive & optimistic - my family is into negative catastrophic thinking. They tried to hurt me for being happy & positive. I have no contact with any of them anymore.

[@unclemick-synths]

I'm glad you have made lots of videos. Every time I forget myself and go into the toxic comments sections on websites, KZbin, or Facebook, I can come here to be safe.

[@susanmccachren9267]

Perfect msg for me today, Thanks Dan ..your dedication to helping us all is changing lives left and right.

[@tominnc315]

As i continue to make great progress especially last 8 weeks, my ability to recognize the direct relationship between symptoms and any recent interactions activities confrontations worry (fear) etc. its been way to obvious to doubt. Its given me the necessary ammunition to say - “wait! Whats happened recently “? It all adds up Ive also made vg progress of - staying outa bad neighborhoods Yesterday’s Zoom Call was outstanding & encouraging!

[@1STBUCKLEY]

So uplifting when I read that people recognise the direct link. Hopefully we will all automatically do this and nothing else then tries to sabotage lol our peace of mind because brain gets the turn off message loud and clear

[@Inge508]

Wow Tom! You are definitely doing great! Bravo and keep going!👏🤛

[@tominnc315]

@@Inge508 Thankyou Inge. Yes im so much better than i was April-August. Steady progress. As we discussed in the zoom group yesterday ive not crossed the finish line. Ive learned to NOT put a time table of this stuff which i had been doing. Just an everyday realization that triggers can equal symptoms and to simply calmly recognize that. Hope you are well! Always appreciate your support!

[@Inge508]

@@tominnc315 I’m okay, thank you! Wow, I’m really impressed how well you are doing! See you at the 🏁 finish line!😜🤗

[@NicoleFitnessYouTube]

@@tominnc315 that’s fantastic Tom. I’ve only recently learned not to put the timeline on recovery as well! It has helped!

[@cheryl8493]

😊This is perfect for my day ahead babysitting my little grand babies! It’s going to be a great day..there’s nothing wrong with me.. told myself (even though sensations) I am healing, I am strong.I slept a little last night by telling myself I’m a good sleeper, etc. When I woke up after a few, I didn’t look at the clock. All will be well! Great group call, yesterday, it was extremely helpful. Thanks, Dan..make it a great day😊

[@1STBUCKLEY]

Yes group call was uplifting for me

[@NicoleFitnessYouTube]

Cheryl I’ve been dealing with disruptive sleep since June. I’ve definitely noticed that the nights I tell myself that I’m a good sleeper, it helps!!! ❤

[@PainFreeYou]

Wonderful Cheryl. You are on your way.

[@masspatriot5409]

Great video Dan. For me it has been baby steps from one process to the next with communicating with my brain. Yesterday was a bumpy day with a large speed bump but successfully navigated my way through it. The “pre-TMS” me would have continued to escalate into full blown catastrophic thinking but the new version uses the tools you’ve taught me. Every one of these days with a bump and then successfully getting through to the next only reinforces my brain that it really is TMS. My brain is getting stronger thanks to you 😊

[@PainFreeYou]

Wonderful Mass. Love to hear it.

[@merildo]

I’m doing everything right then. Thanks Dan. Been out today. Went better than planned. Got a head pain. Probably was indifferent. I just can’t do the same with the nocturnal migraines. I have to take meds when they wake me. And they hurt too bad for me to be very calm. I hope I will fall back to sleep as I did 5.30 this morning. In my world the head pain is worse than anything. Can’t even think. No distraction. I get it. I’m doing it. I’m better with everything. But these darn things come when I’m asleep. If it was daytime. Id do much better. I know it. My brain gets good messages before I sleep. But in the early hours. I’m reaching for meds and ice pack. Going to sleep now. 👍🏻🙏🏻

[@NicoleFitnessYouTube]

Hang in there. I’ve been dealing with disrupted sleep for several months now. I used to be so fearful of being awake at night. It’s weird how now, I don’t fear the nighttime. I would prefer to sleep (!), but being awake all night long has actually helped me relax and work towards indifference. Don’t beat yourself up for taking meds - that is self care. You will get there with consistency with the messages. Eventually you won’t need the meds. ❤

[@PainFreeYou]

Set the expectations before bed each and every night that you will sleep comfortably through the night. Expect to respond calmly if the pain comes. Imagine yourself getting a good night sleep. This may not work initially, but don't get dismayed. Keep at it. There's no downside to this practice.

[@merildo]

@@PainFreeYou thank you. I already do this. I always travel hopefully 😊. I’m going to get my friend to relax my neck for me. Lot of tension. See if that helps. No harm in trying.

[@PainFreeYou]

@@merildo The tension is the result of TMS/PDP, not the cause of it. Focus on safety messages. kzbin.info/www/bejne/a4TWfKF3nKappLs

[@merildo]

@@PainFreeYou yes I know. But it’s both cause and effect. The pain when I wake is no better. And listening again to Alan and Howard I’m reminded I need to include other emotions. Mainly frustration. I’m not really a fear person. Since remembering this. I’ve had two easier mornings. The neck massage helps. It’s relaxing if nothing Else. Ty. X

[@lalanellie8396]

Dan this was so timely for me as I had a right day of it yesterday! By the evening I was exhausted and was trying to remain indifferent but it was impossible so in the end I just cried and went to bed! I refrained from taking a painkiller in the middle of the night which was really good and this morning I’m much better. I’m convinced this RA is TMS as I’ve not injured myself and the inflammation has not been caused by any trauma to my body! So why not be TMS? I had a few good days then two bad ones and then I start to mentally wobble but when I reason it out it honestly can’t be anything other than TMS. In my humble opinion anyway 😊

[@cheryl8493]

😊❤All Will be well, Lalanelle! You’re on the right track. Sjögren’s, etc. for me and I’m also believing it’s TMS. Yes brought on biologically, but also stress illnesses, so we can influence the symptoms to not turn up. We can definitely dial them down and encourage our brains on the right path to calmness. Best to you

[@lalanellie8396]

@@cheryl8493 Thanks for your encouragement Cheryl! We’ve got this. Warmest. Toni ❤️❤️

[@1STBUCKLEY]

You're doing well, onwards we all go, learning to rewire bad data

[@lalanellie8396]

@@1STBUCKLEY Thank you PB! 🤗

[@1STBUCKLEY]

Sometimes tears are the answer. You're doing great

[@Ms13cats]

Black cats are the best! jmo of course...bc all cats are great. 🙂 FAB content-I have notes all over my house to keep these better thoughts/effective ideas In Place! TY SO MUCH!!!

[@AvaGreenFeather]

Finny! 🐈‍⬛ 😍 Your videos help me a lot, Dan! I'm still a little unsettled and life gets lifey, but I've decided to expect the best. Thank you for your daily support. 🙏😊

[@PainFreeYou]

My pleasure Ava. Thanks for your continued support.

[@paulamorphett9131]

Hi Dan thankyou for this video today , had a bad week with stress with my cat flo being at the vets twice made my Simptoms high but I managed to carm myself down today all will be well , flo is alot better today ☺️ . I do managed to carm myself down most of the time , I just need to be stronger . Hope fin is well . Have a great day Dan and everyone else 🏵️😊🌻❤️

[@robertasmith3437]

Glad to hear Flo’s ok. You are strong, we are all strong because we cope with symptoms and life at the same time ❤

[@paulamorphett9131]

@@robertasmith3437 Thankyou Roberta 😊 we definitely are 😊 , flo is fast asleep under my sofa 🙂 . Have a lovely day ☺️🌸🏵️😘

[@Inge508]

Lots of cuddles to your sweet pussycat! Have good faith and a calm day Paula! 🤗🥰🥰🥰😻

[@paulamorphett9131]

@@Inge508 have a lovely day too Inge ☺️🌞 lovely and sunny hear ❤️🤗🌻

[@Inge508]

@@paulamorphett9131 brr it’s cold and rainy here today!

[@Kriley36]

I love seeing Fin he relaxes me.

[@PainFreeYou]

Me too!

[@serpaco2]

Good Lesson today Dan, Thanks Again 👍

[@PainFreeYou]

My pleasure!

[@marly1869]

Excellent way that you broke it down Dan.. thank you for sharing your wisdom with all of us, we really appreciate it 🙏🏼💜

[@PainFreeYou]

Thanks Marly.

[@HolisticHealthAndLifeCoaching]

Thank you! You are such a motivator for me!

[@PainFreeYou]

You are so welcome!

[@anniechin2162]

Love this video❤️ Exactly what I’m doing and this stuff works folks! ❤️

[@NicoleFitnessYouTube]

❤❤❤😘😘😘

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes it does work.

[@megank4742]

This is so reassuring and just what I needed today. I feel calmer now. Thank you. All your videos are great, I'm particularly going to come back to this one because these particular concepts in the tms journey seem very applicable for me right now. There's nothing dangerous here! Sore but safe 🙏 😌

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes, sore but safe. You are already well.

[@kellybonanno]

Yes, what we focus on expands.

[@NicoleFitnessYouTube]

What we resist, persists

[@kellybonanno]

@@NicoleFitnessKZbin ackley! I tell my clients and remind myself that frequently.

[@PainFreeYou]

Indeed Kelly.

[@alandry6872]

Thanks so much for pointing me to this one, Dan X

[@redtom07]

Great vid. Thanks Dan

[@PainFreeYou]

My pleasure.

[@babycakesromero]

Thank you Dan for all your daily efforts to drum this stuff in..I have CFS and all the tools you teach are as applicable and have been helping me immensely …really appreciate it 😊

[@PainFreeYou]

Wonderful. Love to hear it.

[@dee4844mz]

Strong sensations and rumination of anxious thoughts. I am choosing health and no worry and anxiety. I am choosing the best but my fear fights me. So I keep reminding myself it's temporary. A false signal.

[@PainFreeYou]

Absolutely temporary.

[@meganobrien1019]

Oooh this one is a real goodie 🦄🙌 one of my all time favorites -such a good reminder and recap of the things u teach, and very timely, ive been really focusing on working on these 2 things and in the past month, feel like im making some positive changes ! Thanks dan!!🌞

[@PainFreeYou]

Wonderful.

[@ElisabethDonati]

Thank you.

[@donnablatman3283]

Great video Dan!!! Love the idea of Book-ends!!! Need to work on the expectations part of it more! I got this! THANK YOU.

[@PainFreeYou]

Thanks Donna.

[@kathleenwharton2139]

You are right..Dan! It is bumpy. I can go quite awhile and do good..and then out of the blue..have a melt down! You just have to get up again..and know and say you are Okay! Thank You!

[@PainFreeYou]

You can do this.

[@holly6341]

KITTY!! ❤️❤️

[@1STBUCKLEY]

Haha I'm parked up and right in front of me is a speed bump. Visual of morning lol

[@lennekevanrossum8422]

Yes remain calm with huge symptoms is the key I show the brain safety I got this or better know what to do respond calmly I am ok nothing bad is happening saying I don't care I am going to choose a different respond to my symptoms calm and expect the best... I got this nothing bad or dangerous is happening when I wake up or going out expect the best what a bumby road pfff it is all a matter of how I react to my symptoms.. Thank you for this Dan love you 😘😘😘

[@Yoganflogan]

Great video

[@PainFreeYou]

Thanks!

[@marthbrooksMCBS]

I needed this today. THANK YOU DAN

[@kathyholmes827]

Expectation and response are the 2 things iv got to achieve, I'm going through a lot of different symptoms at the minute, It feels like I'm going through the different phases I my life, thank you for all the coaching, that's guiding me through it, I think finns decided he should have your attention, (not what ever your talking to ) 😾

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes, he sometimes makes his presence known. LOL

[@AMBoyd721]

i expected the best with my sleep the night of our call. i told myself i’m going to have a great night of sleep. i am an amazing sleeper. i got ready for bed, read a little and as soon as i turned the light out i fell asleep. i didn’t stay asleep the whole night but still that’s a small victory. i tried this again last night and didn’t fall asleep as easily. but instead of reaching for pills i turned the light on and read a little more and then fell asleep and slept til about 6! i’m going to continue this process of expecting the best and remaining calm if it doesn’t happen. thank you!

[@PainFreeYou]

Amazing. With practice, the brain will believe it more and more. I don't sleep through the night either. I often wake up in the middle of the night. But I don't care and most often fall back asleep quickly.

[@AMBoyd721]

@@PainFreeYou it’s been many rough nights of trying not to care that i’m up from 2 or 3 on. when it’s been a really long flare of a few weeks & im running on empty it’s so hard. i’m often good at not caring when i’m up at night but it’s more frustrating to feel such low energy and be so sleepy in the day. i’ve been trying to reassure myself. it’s ok to be tired. you’ll sleep well tonight.

[@PainFreeYou]

@@AMBoyd721 The visualization may not affect sleep the first time you try it. Or maybe not the 5th or 15th. But keep at it as there is only benefit and no downside to expecting the best. Do your best to roll with whatever happens and however you feel during the day. Show as little to no concern over sleep as possible.

[@Bachconcertos]

I listen to Dan to fall asleep. 😅

[@ruthie408]

Good morning Dan. Thank you for this core video.

[@PainFreeYou]

You're welcome Ruth.

[@DeboraBettiol]

Great! 👏👏

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you! 😃

[@NicoleFitnessYouTube]

I got more calm as I watched you pet Finn ❤

[@PainFreeYou]

So do Finn and I. He climbs on my chest every night and many mornings.

[@NicoleFitnessYouTube]

@@PainFreeYou that’s awesome. He is a special companion. I’m sure you’ve seen the studies on people with animals - they all have better health. ❤️

[@Yoganflogan]

😊

[@FAMA514]

My alarms were allll hight Now fine😢😂

[@bethhenderson9154]

I've had back pain for a long time & have accepted tms diagnosis. But now I'm having "sounds" come from the area where there's most pain ..like grinding sensations that are scary then I start thinking somethings wrong. We have no tms doctors & I don't want to go to most doctors would probably want to do surgery. Does anyone else have this? I can't find anything in Sarnos books ...

[@NicoleFitnessYouTube]

Yep! I have the grinding hip sound. It’s TMS 👍🏻

[@bethhenderson9154]

@@NicoleFitnessKZbin Thank you!

[@PainFreeYou]

The body makes noise often. My take on that is if we have pain, the body tenses in response. Tense muscles don't allow the joints or spine to move in a fluid manner and things can pop. That isn't indicative of damage.

[@bethhenderson9154]

@@PainFreeYou thank you Dan for taking the time to reply..I know how busy you are...I really appreciate it!

[@PainFreeYou]

@@bethhenderson9154 My pleasure.

[@dr.amitabhamukherjee3601]

Dan, one question regarding the ideal response to a bad flare-up: while remaining calm and reassuring yourself/the brain that everything is fine, should we try distraction by focusing on something else or just endure the pain and let it run its course (like riding a wave) without resisting/fighting it?

[@PainFreeYou]

I don't recommend distraction because that seems like we are running away from the pain. I prefer the concept of engaging in life. Engage the brain in something other than the pain. That will show the brain you are okay because you are not hyper focused on the pain.

[@dr.amitabhamukherjee3601]

​@@PainFreeYouGot it. So, listening to music, taking a walk, having a chat, reading a book -- stuff like that -- while the pain rages?

[@toniregan9636]

It's so hard for me to try and be calm when I have 24/7 symptoms for over 3 years. I have no chance for a bit of a reprieve so 'when and if' my symptoms occur is something that I will I had instead of 24/7

[@PainFreeYou]

Whether symptoms are constant or intermittent, the process remains the same. Yes, it's hard to remain calm, but it is possible.

[@shirleypatrick100]

Yes our brains are predictive coding just like my phone does to me. Oh!! you looked at this you must like that, let’s give her some more. Sorry brain, but your information is out dated, I’ve done a system reboot.

[@LL-pk2uu]

Great metaphor!!! Love it!

[@shirleypatrick100]

@@LL-pk2uu I love it too, but I read it somewhere. Any tid bit helps

[@NicoleFitnessYouTube]

I love this!

[@PainFreeYou]

Love it Surley.

[@wimkrol2233]

Hi Dan. Are you familiar with delayed onset? When I go for a short run I have no pain. The same day and the day after still no serious complaints . Usually the pain starts to flare up seriously after about three days after the effort. Is this typical TMS? Do you hear this often?

[@1STBUCKLEY]

That pain probably has no relationship to the run. Sounds like classic TMS. I had what I labelled delayed reaction too, I'm just trying not to find a cause and treat it exactly the same. Hope that makes sense

[@wimkrol2233]

@@1STBUCKLEY It sure does. Thank you.

[@PainFreeYou]

yes I am well aware of this. Sometimes it's nothing more than a conditioned response. It's happened before so we fear it and expect it. Here's a video I did on this topic. kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXnZfpKGg8upqtE

[@wimkrol2233]

@@PainFreeYou Thank you Dan. I'm not afraid of it and I don't expect it. But I used to. So I think it is indeed a conditioned response from my subconscious brain. It’s a learned respons. Thank you again.

[@PainFreeYou]

@@wimkrol2233 Yep - take a proactive stance toward expecting the best.