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[@TwoHotTakes]

Link to the teacher wish lists. Thank you all so much for your help in making this school year better for them!!

[@bdyzzi]

As an education major this intro made me tear up. This idea is so considerate. I pray God blesses you tenfold for doing this to bless educators and students. Thank you x❤️

[@katwoo0219]

Hi Morgan!! My mom and I LOVE watching your content. My mom is an incredibly dedicated teacher in CA and always needs supplies and resources for her 1st graders. Is there any way I can get her Amazon list onto the doc?? I know she’d really appreciate it. Thanks!

[@MissLovina93]

Hey ☺️ I love to listen to your podcasts but I have a question: when you say that some updates have been deleted, is it after you find the post or before ? Maybe it's better to screen the whole post so there is nothing that can be deleted (maybe that's already what you do but I just wanted to help) kisses

[@xxoldmagicxx]

I MISSED LAUREN!!! She’s so smart and thoughtful. I’m glad to see her back & can’t wait to see Alejandra if she decides to come back too ☺️

[@dontburstmybubble686]

Hey I have some suggestions for the doc: 1. Would it be possible to enable comments so everyone can coordinate who has already gotten what for which teacher/ see if any are getting ignored? 2. You could turn their names or descriptions into headings so we can get to them more easily?

[@jamg8483]

Her first mistake was believe that she had 25 “close friends”. No. You don’t have 25 close friends. You have a few. The rest were there for a good time. Be realistic hun.

[@back_to_neverland]

I thought the same! No one can be that close with 25 people

[@gunjan3575]

Ikr! 25? 25? Too much

[@InelNafai]

Lmao at best I have 5 close girlfriends XD

[@shelby_button]

Fr. And if you feel you have 25 people you want to celebrate with, it’s a dinner and a club for a night. Not a whole ass weekend. That’s just wild to me. As one of those 25 people; no way would I accept the invite. Hang with 24 other girls I may or may not know for 4 days?! Pass 🤣

[@cpisarek4284]

1000%! How can you be "close" with 25 friends at the same time? Literally impossible.

[@ngozi90]

If I spilled wine on my friend’s WEDDING dress that was her LATE MOTHER’S, I would be SOBBING and apologizing profusely. Anna’s reaction means she did it on purpose

[@Winter_Dream_]

Exactly! I'm clumsy but even I wouldn't spill wine that easily. But I also wouldn't have approached the dress with red wine at all. I really feel that was on purpose.

[@applessr2590]

im still wondering how tf she spilled it on the dress

[@Dennis-nc3vw]

Ouch ☹ I actually feel worse for you than her.

[@churchie2129]

Id offer myself as a sacrifice xD

[@naomi12141]

I’m I’m

[@miamoore2266]

The fact that the whole glass of wine spilled on the dress tells me that Anna 100% did that on purpose.

[@Blck_Ch3rry]

Yeah cause if it fell, id imagine that the dress wouldnt be the only thing theyd be panicking about cleaning. Like the venue carpet for example. Even walls would need cleaning if wine got on it and if she tripped id imagine the others would have said that as well

[@heatherduke5410]

Honestly. If a little sloshed out, I could buy it being an accident. But an entire glass? And the fact that they were all drinking red wine around this dress in the first place, knowing how careful the OP was being to where she would only drink water and refused to step outside in that dress?

[@DH-rt6fl]

that part! and the way her friends were basically taking up for Anna, calling OP a bridezilla…it’s giving verrry much hateration

[@stirlingarcher7972]

Yeah, that coupled with her attitude afterwards makes me think so too

[@hvnterly8388]

It feels very “what’s more important to you, the sentimental family heirloom, or me, the person who would intentionally sabotage an irreplaceable milestone in your life AND precious family heirloom at the same time.” I wonder if Anna got the other bridesmaids on her side by saying something stupid like “I bet if I accidentally spilled wine on this dress that she’s been making a big deal about, she would choose the dress over me/our friendship.” Like, I’m not usually into “assuming the worst about people,” but either Anna is manipulating the other girls, or they are all together so shallow and out of touch that they watched all of this unfold and then called the bride a bridezilla. Either way, girl, get new friends 😩

[@Gjigfvniyf]

The immediate “no, nope. Go away” says to me the mom has disrespected her boundaries multiple times and she was finally drawing a line. I’ve done the same with my mom when she brings up topics I’m just sick of her pushing on me. Good for lily

[@nira5221]

Exactly what I heard with that response! Good on lily for breaking that cycle with her new baby and putting her child first!

[@gnocchipr1nc3ss]

Lol exactlyyyy like she was expecting her mum to pull this

[@crmw2005]

Yup, and moms sanctimonious "Well I raised 7" in response to her saying she has her own kid now sent me. She raised about 4 and and then deputised the rest on to them

[@crmw2005]

Lol and they made the same point 2 seconds later

[@adreannasears994]

I could not imagine the sacrifice that OPs older sister at 19 years old after losing her parents to then become a parent and care for OP and their little sister. She lost parents too, but wiped her tears, put on her big girl pants and stepped up to the plate. That is true love and true sacrifice

[@Riyaanreality]

I was in tears when they went over that story. Kate sacrificed soo much for her siblings and I wish her her endless happiness. She’s a saint.

[@nataliaalves4060]

@@Riyaanreality I'm listening to this while I'm at work and I'm holding back tears, this is so heartbreaking

[@missoona7130]

When I heard the backstory, I said outloud "So she is like a mother, not just a sister!"

[@simplebeauty120]

She’s a queen. It’s a shame that nasty girl tried to knock off her crown.

[@lucyann1573]

All I can say is he BETTER but marry that girl. What a slap in face that would be to his sister. My God... If my daughter said that to someone I'd be horrified not defending her wtf

[@AmbrrEvans]

The young woman at 19 who didn’t have a coddle and did what she felt she had to for her siblings to have a better life despite them losing their parents. Breaks my heart for her so bad.

[@Crisfer05]

I know I almost cried because my dad actually had to sacrifice for his family and could not even go to school

[@MaryaZamora]

Why were they opening the brides favorite wine without her in the room??? The whole point is celebrating her????? Hello??? Anna definitely did it on purpose

[@ZMich8]

I thought the same thing!!!! Like they were waiting for her to leave the room

[@ashleyduckworthyt3224]

And they all seem to be relatively in on it. Sounds like these girls drank some haterade

[@nayri3070]

rightttt

[@stephaniefenzl31]

I bet Anna was the one who encouraged them to open the wine in the first place

[@Someone_call_Ron]

It’s sounds like one of those bits where the person acts like they’re going to spill or drop something sarcastically but ends up actually dropping the important thing

[@shyannevangilder9024]

“Why are the kids so angry” The kids are angry because the child their parents CHOSE to have so late in life is being passed off as everyone else’s responsibility. These kids don’t owe their parents anything, and they especially don’t need to take care of the child THEY CHOSE TO HAVE

[@rachelRife.]

I take care of my momma! I do not trust anyone with her, just like after I had my babies I never let anyone care for them except my mom & dad! She was there for me when I needed her the most! so I’ll always have my moms best interests at heart & will take care of her as long as the Great Lord allows! I love her so much!!!!!!❤❤❤

[@banana_cow]

​@@rachelRife.Ok? They could have a babysitter you don't have to push your toddler on to a new mom she's stressed

[@14hoursahead]

Right? I’m still at the beginning of that story but am already mad at, “it’s only 3-7 hours”. Seven hours?? That’s not spending time, that’s babysitting/labor

[@verifiedcreator3718]

Maybe the reason the brides called her a bridezilla in the second story is because they were all in on it. Or Anna convinced them to defend her.

[@nataliascalpel8893]

That's what I was thinking. There's no way all of them felt the same way, I definitely wouldn't have felt that way

[@ashleyduckworthyt3224]

They were 100% all down for the spill. They were drinking her fav wine WITHOUT her and then ruined her dress. Those girls are not her friends

[@bernicehatsu3022]

@@ashleyduckworthyt3224 exactly my thoughts

[@Beeeeeee0528]

EXACTLY THATS WHAT IM SAYING!! PREACH!

[@NinaChisholm93]

The fact her maid of honour didn’t ensure nobody went near the dress is a red flag. Pouring red wine on the morning of your wedding is also a red flag 😅

[@basementdwellercosplay]

How could you think a bribe who cried because you ruined her mother's dress that she wanted so badly have at her own wedding a bridezilla. She had every right to be mad at this scenario

[@kaitlynmorgan4613]

those girls had to have been part of it, smhh

[@jazmincamacho7766]

I'm crying for Kate and she didn't deserve that. Kate did everything she could for her family😭💕💕.

[@Teara0731]

I feel so bad for the girl not being able to wear her moms dress on her wedding day… I know it’s not the same but they should do a wedding photo shoot with their photographer so she can have photos of herself in the dress and kind of fake those wedding moments.

[@Hailey-bz2ym]

And a vow renewal with none of the toxic friends present!!

[@genevamartinez2687]

😢😢i😮i😮i😮 od plllo Olÿ

[@madyleighdecker]

Agreed! I don’t disagree that it would’ve been nice to wear ON the day anyway butttttt my takeaway was that she couldn’t wear it bc of the stain AND bc they were treating it to get rid of the stain so she couldn’t wear it AND how to get rid of the stain.

[@tastybacon255-baconboy5]

The Xmas in July one was so damn sweet. The ex gf saying that it was weird legitimately doesn't even make sense. If anything, OP was giving back to his Grandpa. The ex gf was literally a Grinch

[@HermeslilGirl]

"I brought you into this world, I'll take you out of it" only works if you're child doesn't have depression. I yelled back once, "I've tried! That's why I'm on the meds!"

[@esmooth919]

Wow... 😮🙏🏿

[@gunjan3575]

Hey, how are you today? Hope you are feeling better now. And just wanted you to know that every soul is matters, you matter.

[@incorrectpassword7733]

i do hope you are okay , however I found this too relatable 😂😭💀

[@FT-bd8mc]

For real my mother guilt tripping me saying I wish i never gave birth to you and I’m like yah me too - I don’t know what they think they’ll achieve by saying things like this

[@probablynargles]

My mom said this to me all the time. I also struggle with anxiety and depression for most of my life and that phrase, among others, really nags at me and lives inside my brain. ♥️ Hope you have found love and support

[@ulrikeelibelinde9464]

My husband is working in cyber security field too. And just before we got married he promoted and his new position require him to travel. He was in a business trip just before our wedding day and returned back a day before. It was frustrating. But we needed the money and also now 2 months later we upgraded our car, we are planing on going to his business trips together. He works remotly most of the time and his trips usually take few days at most. After his meetings we plan to say couple of days more and travel together. His plane tickets are covered by the company he works in and we are now able to cover my part easily. Also he gets a fund for eating etc. yeah i hated it first but sabotaging my future husband back then was out of the question. Like it meant sabotaging myself and my family’s finance a big time. And going around his back? That is a deal breaker for sure. It would be a deal breaker for me if it happened to me. Some people are just nuts. ALSO psa F U LILY!

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

I can definitely understand his anger with her actions! I felt anger for him for this woman deciding what job he was gonna take. She deserves that kick to the curb…$300k…who gives up a job like that? Edit o say that it was a $300k INCREASE to what he was already making at his current job!

[@diaplotical]

Morgan being a real one finding the update to the Fiancé insulting OP’s sister on the AI voice videos over gameplay- that’s dedication

[@missimoo900]

Story 3, that poor older sister, not JUST now supporting your young siblings but you're basically still a kid yourself and to try navigate the world without your parents with no support while also thrown into parenthood with nothing, gosh my heart.

[@Cashhhhew]

Lol first girl learned her lesson- the "few loyal" ones that showed up for brunch and texted are ACTUALLY her close friends. having a FEW of those is the norm, Like 2-4. This girl has to be super young or naive to think 25 people care enough to celebrate everything "perfectly" and are totally loyal/caring for her. The silver lining is that she found out who her real friends really are, and she can start shaping her reality around that now (:

[@Crisfer05]

Yes, I would only do that for a couple of people whom I love dearly but I would not sacrifice so much for people I barely know

[@TheFlowerchild712]

The girls there were probably exhausted. 7am wake-ups to well past midnight? No one could be fully present if they're dead on their feet, especially if they aren't used to it. OP wanted an Instagram Bachelorette. 4 days of not sleeping properly can take its toll.

[@elizabethfrost9255]

The saddest thing about the last story is that if the police had actually filed the missing person report, maybe they would have find his wife alive or at least sooner than they did. It makes me sad to think that her remains were waiting to be found all that time but nobody was looking for her.

[@EwMatias]

Honestly, that story sounds fishy. I know it's not unheard of, but still wild that the police wouldn't file a missing person report and for him to just accept it and immediately believe she left. Also the lack of details regarding the murder and how they were able to identify her when they had been unable to for more than 20 years? It all sounds very weird.

[@nicolelavigna7237]

The first story …. 25 bridesmaids???? There is no way you have 25 “close friends,” she’s crazy

[@fromsami]

I barely know 25 people 😭

[@MikMakes]

@@fromsami RIGHT! Expecting 25 people to be dressed, packed, and on time at 7 in the morning is wildly unrealisitc. Expecting 25 people to even show up is wildly unrealistic lol

[@Lia72092]

I have like 30 girls i know and love but girllllll I could only have 6 bridesmaids max. 😭😭 and knowing me ill have 3

[@ksis86]

Yeah what, i only have 3 best friends. And my list of close friends total is probably 5 total lmao. How does anyone have the energy to keep up with 25 friends as an adult lol

[@kathleenyoung9486]

I don’t think it was 25 bridesmaids, just 25 friends and only a few were bridesmaids.

[@CaritheEntertainer]

Story 2: oh she did that on purpose and drop those friends that blatantly watched her jealously destroy your dress to upset you.

[@lauraprochaska8521]

Side note, I’m glad that person got caught responding on behalf of the guy. She deserved to get caught and that level of possessiveness is a huge RED FLAG

[@IWouldHaveGoneWithYouToTheEnd]

It kind of surprises me that it’s not some kind of crime, I guess cause it’s hard to prove but still. Like if opening someone else’s mail is a crime, so should responding to employers in that manner

[@walnutsrcool]

I feel like part of why she didn’t still wear the dress is the cleaners basically told them they needed to act fast to help the stain not set in to help it be saved later. I get wanting to save it in the long term.

[@daniellesequeira8201]

Story 6 about the guy who made Christmas in July made me LIVID. This story was so triggering for me as I was my mother's main caretaker for her last Christmas. I set the entire house and all of the food up for her to her standards of perfection (very high). I was fully prepared to celebrate Christmas early because we were told that she would not live long enough to see Christmas and she absolutely LOVED the holiday. We were given more time with her because she fought the cancer so hard. This man was a damn hero and was simply doing something to bring someone he loved comfort. I am horrified that there are people out there (like his girlfriend) who cannot empathize or understand where he is coming from. This man deserved better than his girlfriend and I am so happy she is gone.

[@angelr9096]

Definitely. He can find a better gf after his grandfather passes.

[@IWouldHaveGoneWithYouToTheEnd]

Firstly, you’re awesome. And secondly I completely agree. I don’t understand why she wouldn’t want to. It’s Christmas, like no matter the month, the feeling of Christmas is good. And add the grandfather on top, there is no excuse to not want to in my opinion

[@JW-vd4il]

Ahh Danielle, sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your story. 💞 That one had me getting teary at how NICE the OP/Grandson is and what a good idea!... Then had me crying at how awful the girlfriend was! But then I cried happy at the end of OP doing what he wanted for for a perfect day. Now you're making me cry too, Danielle! I'm with you that I don't understand the Gf AT ALL. But I'm glad he found out now. I'm still always completely confused by how people like him end up long-term dating people like her in the first place! At least he found out now. Merry Christmas, on any day, peeps! And it happens to be Thanksgiving today, too. Hope y'all had a good one! Or make yourself a do-over Thanksgiving on ANY day!

[@Heytheremeg]

She packed her things and left because he was giving his grandpa a happy memory before he passed. For sure lucky he found out who she was then. So bizarre

[@nataliaalves4060]

the wine story almost made me cry, my sister got married a few months ago and I was so stressed trying to make everything right and correct everything that was wrong. It's such a big day, it almost feels like she did on porpuse

[@t.ron314]

Omg the Lilly story! If you act out in public, you can get corrected in public! Also, she should definitely be an EX-fiancé after that because that comment could have only come from a true place of hatred.

[@ThePojengsidur]

I love at 14:08 the term “emotional masturbation”. Hilarious and uncomfortable to hear, and so-so right on point! Big thanks to the friend who made the original analogy!

[@maddieroper1063]

The Christmas story had me in tears. That is so sweet. I suffer from depression but I love the fall season. So last week when I got home from work my husband got the fall decorations out of the attic so I could decorate because he knows it makes me feel better. That story is so heart warming.

[@serenaw5107]

The one about the guy and his grandpa got me a little emotional. I really don’t like Christmas that much just because of how I feel like it isn’t what it’s supposed to be anymore. But how he took the spirit of Christmas in mid July just to make his grandpa happy was so sweet! I hope he finds a girl that will love his grandpa and Christmas as much as him

[@RinSicairos]

People that pull the "well I had 7 , you only have 1" card is bullshit. MAM THAT WAS YOUR CHOICE.

[@HeavyMetalMomma]

Vasectomies - a friend's husband had a vasectomy with his first wife. His new wife wanted kids. They did a vasectomy reversal but it failed, he ended up with a haematoma in his testicle & almost lost it. They then had to go through direct sperm aspiration which is very painful & expensive. Luckily he hadn't made antibodies to sperm which is another possible side effect, which will mean any sperm present will be destroyed by the immune system. Basically vasectomies are great but are not as easy to reverse as people think. (Ps I'm a Biomedical Scientist).

[@IilosAndStitch]

The wine story really gets me because I can't help but wonder about the group dynamic. They seemed far more invested in Anna then op.

[@cassandrasteinke2835]

The grandpa and Christmas in July story had me in tears almost. For the girlfriend to be such a Scrooge about it so sad . Luckily she left and he got to enjoy Christmas in July with his grandfather, would hate to have had her negative energy disrupting the festivities. How could you NOT support someone wanting to do that for their family member especially one that raised them .No telling what could have triggered her so much about Christmas in July . I would and do this hands down for someone I loved and cared about without a question asked .

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Just how she didn’t come back expecting no repercussions!

[@mady8700]

The story about the sister and the fiancee is so sad. I just wanted to add really quick, while sex work of different kinds can be empowering and enjoyable for some people, as Lauren was saying, for others it can be quite the opposite. It hurts my heart to think of a 19 year old girl being forced into a life of prostitution, not only because she had to give up so much of her own life and future to do so, but also because of the risks that someone in that position faces. It's highly likely that the sister (at 19!!!! just a baby when you think about it) experienced situations involving severe abuse, degradation, and trauma just so she could put food on the table for her younger siblings, who she probably never dreamed of needing to parent. To say something like the fiancee did, with no knowledge of the potentially deeply traumatizing and painful experiences that the sister likely had to face, is just absolutely disgusting. call off the wedding for sure in my opinion.

[@michellecaudle9413]

Yes that story is heartbreaking, I hope they didn’t get married.

[@TheSqueeksqueek]

It was most likely removed because it's a fake rage bait

[@Atlas_Quin]

Yeah, as people have began to accept sex work more the internet has started to kinda romanticize it. You’re not always going to make a ton of money every night. It’s hard and really dangerous. Also if you ever want to get out it can be insanely difficult to find a job.

[@superrobby3657]

@@Atlas_Quin it’s not being romanticized it’s being normalized like any other job because people are finally seeing swers as humans

[@Atlas_Quin]

@ SuperRobby I’ve seen it both normalized and romanticized especially on tiktok. People saying they hey want to go into it because it sounds amazing and easy and quick cash. It can be hard and dangerous and how much you make depends on how good you are and the things at your club.

[@gabeinthebox]

27:30 Totally agree with the “wear the dress anyway” because of her dream of wearing her mom’s dress. Maybe even explain to the people beforehand, “Hey, we got some wine on the dress, but it’s her mom’s wedding dress and so she’s wearing it anyway. Please be kind with your words and your photos.” Everyone would think it was so sweet!

[@jesicabocanegra4419]

The one about the mom getting mad at the daughter for not taking care of the 6 year old sibling made me SO mad. You can tell the mom leaned on her daughter so much and had her raising her brothers and sisters and it shows in the siblings response when asked if she was wrong! She “needed a break” from her 6 year old but didn’t check in with her daughter who is dealing with a BABY to see how she’s doing and if SHE needs help/guidance/ support? Ugh, so entitled.

[@kelseycontreras4383]

I haven’t seen another comment about that story but I also feel bad for the 6 year old imagine your mom leaving you with your sibling because she needs a health day which is valid (but if it has been 2 days every week I feel like that’s a little to much specially if you need to take care of a kid) but she can’t leave you with your dad for some reason maybe he works and then you get to your sisters house and she doesn’t want to take care of your either. I feel like that would suck for a 6 year old being like my mom doesn’t want me right now and neither those my sister (maybe I’m thinking to much into it)

[@spicymochi2532]

I feel the same way that mom did not raise 8 kids and it shows because she expected her oldest to watch the 6 year old for 7 hours when her daughter just had a newborn. The daughters reaction was totally justified

[@jesicabocanegra4419]

@@kelseycontreras4383 that’s a good point! Probably makes the kid feel unwanted and like a burden :( but I definitely can’t blame the sister for turning them away. Poor kid :(

[@jesicabocanegra4419]

@@spicymochi2532 totally agree, it’s not “just” 7 hours. 7 hours is a lot!

[@MGummyBear2399]

It sounds like there was CONSTANT parentification going on throughout all of their childhoods and now, even with a newborn, the mom expects her to take care of her child? The mom probably barely raised the eldest kids and then left them to raise the rest

[@LilSpookySister]

23:10 not a bridezilla at all! That was a piece of her mom, the ONLY rule she had in place and her bridesmaid couldn’t even do that. On top of bridesmaid not even attempting to make amends. Bride deserved better, I can’t tell if it’s sabotage but it was easily avoidable!

[@invaderbrynn]

My great grandmother was holding out until Christmas. She was in so much pain. We had Christmas a week early, everyone told her they loved her, and she passed within 30 minutes of the "party" ending.

[@amandareed4689]

🥹😭

[@cassinaus]

I'm so sorry for your loss, i hope she had a wonderful last day ❤

[@Chelseabee55]

My friend’s mother in law was holding out until their wedding. She took a turn for the worse two weeks before the wedding. They got dressed up, hired a photographer, and got married at her bedside hours before she passed. Sometimes you need to do things so people you love can have their final wish. I hope you had a beautiful Christmas with your great grandmother

[@skillzzzzzzzzz]

❤

[@purplepixie274]

🥺

[@maggiemccormick6088]

I am so proud of OP for removing the trash called Lilly. Love makes you blind to red flags and it is great that Reddit helped OP put the final nail in the coffin.

[@mintdrop1916]

Bestie wake up 😫 new two hot takes episode just dropped😔

[@applerokka]

Who wants to bet that Anna made the "Let's open a bottle of Pinot Noir!" suggestion in the first place? Hmmmm

[@stirlingarcher7972]

There is a very good chance the email hacked OP will he able to hold the ex-fiancée responsible. When that woman faked a college rejection email to her bf and cost him his dream school she had to pay him $265,000. He should sue the hell out of her

[@HannaKate2000]

That last one melts my heart💜 Reminds you that with all the bad there is good in the world!

[@stephaliexoxo]

relate to that ‘forced babysitting’ story SO much because my mother & stepfather used to have me rearrange my life in order to watch my little brother. My mom would tell my boss that I couldn’t come in for earlier shifts because I had to take my brother to school in the morning but it was fine for her to take the early shift in order to come home earlier. I finally took a stand and had to use my boss to force my parents into seeing how often/the effect it was having on not only myself and my life but my relationship with my little brother.

[@lilworkerb]

The guy with the job interview sounds nuts… but I also get it. Like imagine wanting an opportunity like this for your entire life and then the person you love the most rips it away. I don’t think he was exactly unhinged. He showed a MASSIVE amount of restraint and recognized his emotional limit and told her to leave before that limit was overstepped. Not many people have that amount of restraint.

[@CantoErgoSum]

The guy whose fiancée used his email to turn down the job likely has a case for tech trespass, since it is against the law to represent yourself as somebody else and use their email to do so.

[@lan-hwang]

honestly i really relate to the guy, i CANNOT imagine if my finacee ever went behind my back and turn down a job offer i had so much hope for, love so much, double or even triple my current salary (and it's not even 300K). I will most definitely see red and cannot ever look at him again (provide my interest of sex). This has nothing to do with OP being too violent. and I don't think this has anything to do with male violance. I as a female would be livid if my fiancee cost me my future.

[@dodgyyoutuber9560]

I feel queasy at the idea

[@Aurielle80s90s]

I honestly understand his way of thinking. $300,000 is what many people would dream of. I’m miss my guy but the life we could have is something I would dream of. He had every right to be so upset. Also she was crazy and lucky he didn’t snap. I would understand that.

[@evimbedzi9008]

@@lan-hwang Thank you. I honestly feel like this was so downplayed. They weren't even married and I feel like if this story had been from a woman's perspective, the hosts would have reacted a whole lot worse. and to just say it was a bump in the road is pain. Some bumps you never get over and that is the end.

[@moonyollie6977]

That's life changing amount of money, I absolutely hope he sued.

[@allonnafreed1572]

Story 6 just killed me!!! My nana had lung cancer that spread all throughout her body. We were told in the beginning this was curable that she had a chance…. then they found spots on her brain and they told her she’d be lucky to make it to December. I made sure she was a big part of my gender reveal. I made sure she had a picture of my ultrasound in a frame by her bed so she could see him everyday all day long. Whenever she wanted to touch my belly even when I was very sick I made sure she got to. I showed up to the hospital despite how bad Covid was and all the risks just so she could feel him kick. I made sure she got to know her great grandson even though she’d never get to meet him. They told her they can only potentially keep her alive till then but it was highly unlikely. They were only willing to try that hard because her great grandson (my first child) was due in December. Her memory started to slowly go away and she cried a lot because she was afraid she wouldn’t get to meet my son. She asked me if I thought she’d get to know him and I told her that she already did and that I will make sure he knows her too. We cried a lot. She passed away in august. A few weeks before she had grabbed my belly and called my baby tj which was her son (my uncle) who had passed away. It took everything in me not to cry because she genuinely thought my son was her baby boy. I didn’t have the heart to tell her that the baby wasn’t tj that it was Kade. That was the moment I knew there wasn’t much time left. I made sure she knew we loved her. My whole pregnancy has been very hard but I wouldn’t take any of it back because I know she passed knowing how loved she was. She got to know my son even if she never got to hold him like she had hoped to at least do just once. Christmas time is gonna be extra hard this year with a new born and with her not being here to enjoy Christmas and hold my baby. That story hit me really hard I hope that man knows how much his grandpa needed that and that he did an amazing thing celebrating a Christmas in July.

[@masepresep9527]

I just have to say: call the wedding off with Lily. There is not excuse and it shows where the pattern of your married life go.

[@MoneyHouse3421]

bro he literally did

[@LavenderMoon13]

The third story: It makes me think that Lily was probably jealous of the sister. Some women have weird jealousy issues over their SO’s female family members

[@ryannbrazil]

PSA: I would recommend only getting a vasectomy if you never want children. They are intended to be a PERMANENT solution like how getting your tubes tied are meant to be permanent. If you get a vasectomy there is not a guarantee that it can be reversed and rates of reversals drop every year after you get it done. Vasectomies are great for people who know they NEVER want kids but it isn’t wise to get one as a form of casual birth control especially if you want kids or may want kids in the future. The recent push for vasectomies has a lot of misinformation surrounding reversing them

[@aleesaivanov4572]

Thank you for saying this!! Someone needed to.

[@AmandaNoddings]

I came to say this! The reason I would promote a vasectomy over a tubal ligation is because it is a far less invasive procedure for a man as opposed to the female equivalent. Generally, patients are sent home within 3 hours with mild discomfort and treated with ice and ibuprofen. For women, it is much more invasive with higher risk for infection and complications. BOTH, however, are intended to be permanent forms of birth control, are many times irreversible, and should not be sought out unless NEVER having children is 100% the goal. ❤

[@ryannbrazil]

@@AmandaNoddings I completely agree. I just noticed that a lot of ppl talk about vasectomies like they’re supposed to be easily and commonly reversed when that’s not necessarily that case

[@noprogressionisregression6854]

Story 5: I would be LIVID if my spouse sent an email ending my possiblity to have my dream job. No one has that right. She took away his autonomy. . I don't think the guy is unhinged. He was very 🤕 hurt. He is trying to not lose his shit. He trusted his partner

[@corgimom5626]

Omg I completely agree.

[@mariahchavez8255]

It makes me so sad. I would've definitely encouraged him to not only get his dream job, but be well traveled and get that bagggg.

[@FabiolaGonzalez-xu7zr]

My fav episodes are with Lauren and Alejandra. It’s a good idea to have other guests ig but I love the ogs

[@makaylalashe4730]

same!!! I love when Justin, Lauren, and Alejandra are on!

[@frans1569]

When I saw the notification I just screamed LAUREN in my mind. Love it when she's here!

[@AP-lp7to]

Same!! Some of the other people don’t put as much insight into it like they do.

[@madisonmunro7299]

I didn't even check who was on but when I heard Lauren's voice I knewwww it'd be a good episode!

[@inaaxmed6715]

alejandra ❤️❤️

[@ploopy678]

Man, these stories make me feel that perhaps being single isn't a bad thing after all 😂😅

[@bmachinena7268]

The wine Story honestly felt like like kind of a slight. As if her friend was trying to test the boundaries and would've said later on how crazy she was for having a rule about nothing being around the dress because she got next to it with the wine and nothing happened. It just feels very Sus to me.

[@jjjkinda]

That’s exactly what I’m thinking- they waited for her to leave the room to open the RED wine like seriously I bet they did cos they were joking about how crazy she is about it and that “ nothing will happen “

[@AZJuno]

This story about granpa reminded me about the film I’ve watched a long time ago and cried my heart out. It was a story about little girl who was diagnosed with cancer and no one knew if she would make it. And whole community decided to play out all times of year with all decirations and activities concluding with Christmas. It was so sweet I can’t even describe how much.

[@ceciliaalexander8881]

Dude, I'm literally terrified to wear my bamboo pj's around my animals let alone RED WINE! I can't imagine the heart ache of the bride.

[@greaser_girl_7830]

Omg the Christmas story had me holding back tears I lost my great grandma at the end of July and before she passed because Christmas was her favorite holiday my cousin who was taking care of her put up a Christmas tree for her and played holiday movies. and listening to that story I feel so sorry for OP. He's going though a really hard time and to have his partner be so heartless, I hope he finds someone who will treat him A LOT better

[@kristinaerickson2353]

I can't believe that woman with her child. It sounds like she's been intruding on each of their lives with her youngest child. They are all probably sick and tired of being essentially free babysitters. Im sure they all wanted to act like Milly.

[@jodimahowald2364]

I'm so curious what the dynamic has been like in their family even before Micah was born... The mom sounds very entitled and inconsiderate of her other children as autonomous human beings and adults. I wouldn't be surprised if she has always tried to control and guilt trip her kids like this. People are allowed to say no to things, especially a favor.

[@kristinaerickson2353]

@@jodimahowald2364 I'm guessing Milly has taken the lead in shutting mom down being the oldest

[@keno5456]

1:19:02 I feel like he handled himself very well for situation, he had enough self awareness to distance himself before anything could be done. Anger management doesn’t teach someone to get rid of all anger but to regulate themselves when they are experiencing it, as he did.

[@arielniccole901]

The one about the mom with the 6yo. OMG! That one hit. My mom only "raised" 2 out of 4. My 2 older brothers were taken and had a fantastic life. My younger sister is 4.5 years younger than I am. My mom made sure that by the time I was 7 I could run a household. I raised my sister and myself. If she were to have another child I would've raised that one too. It's an awful existence for a child. Good for Millie!

[@Hibbity_Hobbity]

I am a trauma therapist and I often hear how families defend some of the worst behavior because of the fear of people finding out the family secrets…. In my own family, a great uncle was a chiMo who was protected and allowed to stay in the family (and around children) for my entire life because the family was afraid about what the neighbors would think…..unfortunately, I hear this A LOT, especially in the last few generations where family reputations seemed to heavily Influence major decisions.

[@AdeliaCreates]

I teared up twice. Thank you for your sensitivity, humor, and generosity. Every geust on this podcast so far truly has a big fan in me! What a great community.

[@sidneylowery1543]

I absolutely love when you have Lauren on. She has amazing energy and is drop dead gorgeous.

[@shelby_button]

The story with Millie I get it! My fiancé and I were going through the same where his mom decided to have a baby when we were 22 and moving into our own home. Then expected us to drop everything to watch said brother whenever she wants a break. And if we say no we get hit with “you’re abandoning him”. He’s not ours?????

[@huddifyx5550]

The guy who lost the job opportunity is definitely not unhinged and expecting him to not be upset to the point where he could get physical is not fair or realistic at all. He's a top tier guy for not acting on his very natural and valid emotions

[@bmachinena7268]

Also, the guy whose fiance cost him his dream job. He may be using harsh wording, but I think many of the best people would feel this if the person they trusted most did something like that. I don't think he's unhinged for having those thoughts, it would have been unhinged if he carried them out. Self control is the difference here LOLOL

[@BisexualBeauty]

Right he could have been making bank and SHE ruined that.

[@kylekillen1836]

I’m glad someone said it.

[@kaitlynroush6518]

@@BisexualBeauty but is life really just about money? I mean everyone is breezing by the fact that they didn't really discuss the situation. If you're in a relationship you can't just decide to disappear for work months at a time without considering your partner/soon to be spouse. The woman was messed up for ruining the job opportunity but the man was also messed up for not considering her position at all.

[@LordKumquat]

@@kaitlynroush6518 I would agree, if it hadn’t been for the fact that she REFUSED any discussion about it. In the story OP talks about how she wouldn’t have said discussion. It’s not that he didn’t consider her perspective, she wouldn’t have a civil conversation about it and that’s the issue.

[@Retrokiddd95]

Even though he didn't give much insight to his childhood, the comment about not being able to dream up that job just goes to show upset he is about this. The fact she took it upon herself to control the life SHE'S envisioned for them. He has more self control than me lol.

[@Squishy6452]

“AITA for going bridezilla when a bridesmaid spilled wine on my dress” immediately no. I don’t need to hear another word. NTA.

[@rollercoasterrideinthefastlane]

I missed the part about the mom being only 47 (i genuinely thought she was going to be in her late 60s or something) for the mad about her daughter not taking care of her 6 year old. My aunt and uncle both in their early 50s adopted the sweetest little one year old and had more than enough energy to take care of him and play with his energetic little self. Unless the parents have major health conditions I have a hard time being sympathetic for them because 47 is fairly young heck my parents were close to that age when I was 6

[@FT-bd8mc]

I know like cmon your not old if you can have the child you can take care of it

[@supermenka0]

story 7: was anyone else surprised by how they brushed off the fact that the wife was murdered and talked about closure? like yeah it’s a way to think about it but i was kind of taken a back. that’s tragic news not a break up

[@ESPHMacD]

300k increase for a DREAM JOB TOO! Honestly proud of his restraint, if someone who was supposed to be my life partner ruined an opportunity like that, not just for me but for our future together as a couple, I would have done so much damage. Damn… I could only wish that he reached out to the company after they didn’t reach out just to see the status of the application, maybe this could have been dealt with before he got a new job and he could have got rid of the sh*t girlfriend sooner too. It would have set them up financially for a long while if they were smart with it.

[@QueenMFLaurie]

This!!

[@bueno_oneub_0]

I'd be in prison if i was him 😅

[@samanthafox5971]

Sooo sweet! My mom kept the Christmas tree up all year one time and decorated it at EVERY holiday.. a year I won't ever forget cuz it was so fun to do and a different way we were able to celebrate

[@sav2040]

20 plus woman are your closest friends ??? Thats wayyy to many people to expect people to all act how u want them to. If she had lowered her guest list I feel like things would’ve been better.

[@shooshoo4590]

Yeah getting 5+ people to be perfectly cordinated can be hard, but 25? Unless its a professional sports team thats not gonna happen

[@jodimahowald2364]

Agreed. I don't think the bride is necessarily an asshole, but I think she had the wrong crowd and too many people for what her expectations were. I feel bad for her that her weekend didn't go as planned, but hopefully she learns from that experience in the future.

[@DiMagnolia]

Exactly! I invited like ten friends to my bachelorette party but it was all in town and only dinner and clubbing, I told everyone they could show up to either or both. There were maybe 8 of us at each thing, either due to scheduling or personal preference, maybe four were in both. With 25 women she could’ve planned every minute of every day of what she wanted and let her friends come and go as they please. It’s impossible to keep a handful of people on such a rigid schedule let alone 25. Set up reservations for maybe 10 people and everyone else does whatever they want in the meantime.

[@victoriakelley664]

@@jodimahowald2364 this is exactly it!! She did her due diligence to try to make sure everyone was on board and into it and they just did not take any opportunities to tell her it was too much until moment of they're like "nah bro, I don't give a shit" like ugh, the poor girl. She had no concept of it being too much, and not a single one of them took the time to tell her. she sounds really naive and it hurts my heart :(

[@sav2040]

@@victoriakelley664 exactly not one of her “friends” spoke up to tell her hey this might be too much

[@Elena-tq1zp]

Story 7 : He did try to file a missing person thing but the police rejected it. If the police had done their job he probably wouldn’t be in that situation now and there may had been a chance to find her murderer

[@theanxiousace3783]

It's really weird how birth control can be a godsend for one person and absolute hell for another. I initially went on it for bad periods and horrible cramps and in addition to accomplishing that also completely got rid of my panic attacks. I found out last year I'm infertile but I still take as it also helps to prevent the occurrence (or reoccurrence in my case) of ovarian and some other cancers. It's been the closest thing to a blessing in my life and it's always a shock to hear how badly it's impacted others.

[@siobhanmoriarty89]

Story about the grandfather made both me and my mom cry... You're right protect this man at all costs.

[@mackenziebearden2059]

Good theme. It's good to keep the balance. Any person can do good and bad things. No matter gender/cultural/racial stereotypes or background.

[@teofeliabaciu1612]

Could you do an episode on crazy/toxic moms? I think it could be an interesting episode.

[@knitwitchpgh]

Omg YESSSSSS NM mom's episode i got some stories for that. And dads too. We got lots of daddy issues out here 🤣

[@esmooth919]

I think i've heard them read some stories about toxic moms

[@teofeliabaciu1612]

@@esmooth919 yes they did about mother-in-laws and maybe 2-3 stories about mothers. But I'm saying that I could be interesting to have a full episode about that.

[@kateregan8738]

Or dads

[@katob25]

Thank you for putting together the teacher waitlist! Love being able to directly support educators who work so hard for our future leaders ❤️

[@Telly5strartist]

If i was the fiancé in story 3, I would be in awe of my future sister-in-law and love her to death for saving my future husband from a teen hood in foster care which could have scared him for life and not made him the man he is...oh yeah listening further. So she had already done this before.

[@walnutsrcool]

I feel bad for the youngest kid because they probably have a bond with their older siblings and the mom put that child in a position to see their big sister screaming to take them away.

[@florenceroses]

The first girl had super high expectations, so much so that she was always going to be disappointed.

[@Caitlinparkex]

The Christmas grandpa has me dying crying omg…. Dump that woman!!! that’s so precious to make it Christmas in July 🥺

[@palomaaguilera7694]

This is my time to shineeee- I read the first post when it was published like 2-3 hours on Reddit and in one of the comments OP said that everybody paid equally for housing/activities but that the girls where EXPECTED to pay for her food and drinks because ✨she is the bride✨. In another comment she said that the girls shared rooms but there weren’t enough beds for all of them so some brought extra mates etc, but she implied she was alone in one room xD

[@BiancaJ3407]

I love how when both of them have different opinions and arent afraid to state that. It really gets the viewers brain thinking from both points made!

[@oliviarightley5891]

Teacher here!! Thank you so much for spreading the word that teachers need help!!! We appreciate it more than you know!

[@amandalynn3066]

Y’all taking about spilling wine on your blue dress made me realize a lot about friendship.

[@katerinawinge9372]

That Christmas story made me cry both he and his grandpa deserve the world

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

Christmas tree story - I am very much someone who does not like Christmas, but I laughed in disbelief that someone would leave their partner over putting a Christmas tree up. That’s ridiculous, even more so considering the circumstances.

[@HorrorFairy]

I'm literally crying for the dude that had dying grandpa...it's so freaking painful. It's been almost an year since I lost my dad, he used to craft stuff with wood too and this broke me

[@ilovejuudy]

Christmas in July story, I reached out to OOP and offered support which he accepted 🥺 I can’t tell you how this story touched my heart when I read it.

[@JaceyVontesmar-ic4dh]

I love you both! And your guest are awesome!! My boyfriend has recently joined in on listening to these podcast with me and yesterday he was bummed that I didn’t wait for him to continue listening 😂😂 he wants this to be our thing together now 🤪😂❤️ he loves it as much as I do! Thank you both!

[@inaaxmed6715]

the job offer one made me feel so beyond angry. He should've told them the truth and tried to salvage the job somehow. please respect the boundaries of the person who loves you instead of letting insecurity ruin everything. He deserves way better and someone who truly respects and appreciates him.

[@maryambintjames605]

I felt the same way, he should have told them what happened, maybe he could have still got a position in the company.

[@corgimom5626]

I completely understood his anger.

[@christinalott2819]

The Christmas one made me cry so much! My grandpa has been gone for 16 years now. My best childhood memories revolve around him. He's literally the only realative I ever felt that close to. I would give almost ANYTHING for one more Christmas with him. If I knew there was a good chance he wouldn't make it to the next Christmas, and he started wistfully reminiscing about Christmas, I totally would have hosted a "Christmas in July", with a huge FU to anyone who tried to say anything bad about it. That GF was a complete c u next tuesday, and OP is so much better off without her. NTA, and the trash took itself out.

[@michellecaudle9413]

The story about the job is absurd, Im so glad my boyfriend and I support each other in our career ambitions. He’s building a business with a company selling life insurance and I started school for nursing school now that my boys are both in school full time. It will take time for travel and sacrifices from both of us, but we both want to make it work for each other.

[@aliciapicon4750]

Can’t agree more my husband and I are about to live apart for a year just so I can finish school. But he supports me so so much so I can get a higher paying job. I couldn’t imagine being with someone who wouldn’t support me. I do the same for him and will always support a sacrifice for a better life.

[@jenem9618]

They were clearly on different pages and had irreconcilable differences. As horrible as the fiancé was (and it was all her fault), it might have been avoided if the guy hadn't been in denial. She was very honest about how she felt, and it was stupid of him to hope it would blow over. Of course, I'm not excusing her. She's the one who decided to be a horrific human being.

[@shaymashah6994]

In Saskatchewan Canada the outside Christmas lights stay up forever. You put them up on the house once and that’s it lol.

[@RPGPaenda]

first story so far-my grandma has told me every time she went on a cruise, it’s hard to travel with other people. family or friends, it’s hard to travel and be in close quarters with people. 25 people in one house sounds INSANE though… how many bedrooms were in that house damn 😭

[@Blondebombshell_]

Yes I agree. I only brought 3 people for my bachelorette party. Best decision ever! We were all on the same page. Also , I went to Vegas with 13 other people. Never again lol

[@KitCat898]

Wow! I’m so glad I randomly found you guys a few months ago. This was a crazy episode but honestly that last story made it all worth it. It’s seriously the best palate cleanser in the world. I literally teared up.

[@whilaminnabrock4936]

for the first girl, i dont actually think she is the asshole. I believe she was just inexperienced in scheduling and planning. i think she had the right idea, but she probably shouldve put all the girls in a groupchat and had everyone vote for the top places they wanted to go/do that the bride had already picked. that way she has her friends opinions and has a limit on what they would do, so they arent completely overbooked.

[@madelynn_18]

Agree, I don't think she's the asshole too. I've said this in another comment but I'd say to OP: - Have separate small gatherings with different friend groups - Maybe a dream trip with the group that has the MoH (Maid Of Honour) in I think things would've been better that way, if only someone had some reality checks with her hahaha. She just wanted a dream bachelorette weekend, what a pity for her

[@hvnterly8388]

I disagree, respectfully. She was a victim of her own inexperience and expectations, but it sounds like she was running that vacation like a boot camp 😂 waking people up, giving strict timelines, rushing everyone to and fro, and making 25 women carry tote bags with outfit changes across town and making them change in public areas. I’ve been on vacations where I only planned two activities and my feet hurt so much. I can’t imagine how sore these women were from hustling and carrying shit on top of whatever ~activities~ entail. And then she cried alone and was upset to emerge and find out the world doesn’t revolve around her, not even on her bachelorette vacay. I was on vacation once, granted not a bachelorette party, but to an anime convention. On Friday, in the evening, one friend suddenly stopped wanting to leave the hotel room. We tried to gently coax them out, over our many returns to the room, but eventually gave up (you’re an adult with agency, do what you want). On Saturday, around 6am her mother had driven 4 hours to pick her up and she was trying to sneak out with out us noticing. Wouldn’t say why she was leaving. Vacation resumes for us and we have a blast. Later on, we find out, she was mad people at the convention weren’t taking enough photos of her in her school girl cosplay. But she was even more mad when we didn’t stay in the hotel room with her (when she wasn’t telling us what was wrong and saying passive statements like “no, you go have fun, I’ll stay here”). So all of that to say, C O M M U N I C A T E. Both these people got double hurt when they placed unspoken expectations (that they thought was perfectly explained through their tantrum) and nobody stuck around to cater to them. I don’t keep friends like this around because I’m an adult and not a mindreader. Even if it’s uncomfortable, even if you have to cry in front of your friends, communicate. I don’t think that makes her an asshole, but the nature of the subreddit is just to ask “am I in the wrong/not in the wrong?” And she was in the wrong/therefore the asshole, with the best of intentions. Her inexperience and expectations turned her into a drill sergeant and she could probably give her friends an apology for overbooking them and running them around town like rats. Her friends could owe her an apology for ditching or upsetting her plans but everyone needs to clearly state what went wrong on both ends.

[@iratakeuchi3031]

Nah. OP is the asshole 100%. Sure you have your hopes up and you made a plan, but if you see your guests and so-called close friends are exhausted and not having a good time, it’s her responsibility to be a good host and a good friend ffs and be mindful and care about their well-being.

[@madelynn_18]

@@hvnterly8388 yeah she definitely had unrealistic plans lololol, but damn your story though. Glad you guys still had fun but I’m not sure to be shocked or amused at the mom who drove 4 hours to get her 😅