Mum Ignores Child's Needs

[@3ormoreletters]

"am i the a-hole?" "Yes."

[@soytuya2040]

For real, that opening had me pissing myself laughing because I was NOT expecting it! 🤣

[@femureatur]

"Well I'm not asking you"

[@sariaw1]

no, you're actually the B Flat hole

[@kryrins]

Yes

[@yourlocalmculover6664]

@@femureatur “WeLl I diDnT knOw thAt”

[@jeeither]

2nd story is wild. Music aside, why are you moving your child into someone else's home and maintaining that it's that person's home only? A child should feel comfortable and feel like they actually belong where they live.

[@tammylaronde8593]

Exactly.

[@alostkoi]

Imagine living in a house but feeling constantly as a guest. Most be the worst feeling for a child.

[@salonii6345]

FACTS

[@9812Kati]

I was like, march? this years march? like 3 months ago? its his house his rules? and you moved your daughter in? alright imma head out.

[@noaluka]

this. so much. adequate housing is considered a basic human need universally. I've been a "guest" in my own home before and I can tell you I've never felt more depressed in my life.

[@gyrozeppeli00]

The second person: The mom was the one telling the story and it still sounded bad. Imagine how bad it actually is for the girl.

[@kSmolarkowa]

I didn’t think about it but you’re right :o

[@jellifygirl]

I'm willing to bet she wasn't just angry, too. Practicing last minute is always really stressful, there's a real reason she kept breaking the ~rules~ set in place. She HAS to practice. Stressing out a child, confiscating their means to practice, in an unfamiliar environment, for the sake of someone she doesn't even know... Yeah, no. The emotional toll of failing something you've been looking forward to because of someone you're meant to trust is way more than being just mad. Two things that come to mind are heartbreak and bloodlust😀👍

[@timmyc9915]

i bet the girl is traumatized and lost her passion for music edit: i dont mean this in a bad way guys

[@danielled168]

ikr

[@Potatos0104]

Also they said she had time to practice when he went to work. But she also must have school and homework to do.

[@vickylikesthis]

Re the first guy: how are you dating a musician and have no idea how expensive these things are. Like how inattentive are you as a boyfriend.

[@oxoelfoxo]

I can imagine it if no one ever told him and he just had absolutely no idea. And if he's the sort of guy who's not interested in how much things cost in the first place.

[@gwaynebrouwn844]

Like i dont think my gf knows how expensive instruments are either. Honestly i'd be weirded out if she'd randomly ask me how much everything Costs. Thats not being inattentive, there is just no need for her to know all that. Like i dont know how much her cloths is worth. She has some brands i know arent cheap, but idk if its in the hundreds or in the thousands maybe, but its not like i HAVE TO know in order to be a good boyfriend

[@katiaarayasandoval1261]

Not knowing how much it cost isn't inattentive. But what was disrespectful was lend something that isn't yours. Like, why would you do that? Its not yours so you shouldn't lend it to other people, at least not without permission of the owner. He doesn't know how much it cost or how much it means to the person.

[@missgolgistain5801]

@@oxoelfoxo Yeah, I think prices of instruments aren't really common knowledge or anything. I knew about violins being expensive but not much else. I looked up prices for various beginners instruments like for bassoons a while ago and now I have to wonder, how people can even afford this stuff unless they are financially well off.

[@vindj2391]

His fault is not for not knowing the worth of a musical instrument, but touching someone's belonging without permission, even worse, handing it to little kids. That's just supposed to be common sense to not do that!

[@mega0unit]

The daughter with the audition story kinda sucks because when they took it she would obviously get pissed. When you are pissed, it makes doing stuff right hard, and makes it easy to get frustrated. As a result, the daughter probably botched the audition, and that could've been the difference between making it and not

[@xdgirl8886]

yeah, that was just one difficult situation. It seems a lot of tensions and problems arise when everyone's working from home nowadays, as can be seen from the other stories too.

[@vickylikesthis]

Agree! Lots of underlying problem there. Another example is how does she not know her kid will have audition that day.

[@uosilo]

hmmmmm isn't there a thing called noise-cancelling earphone?

[@uhh4312]

@@tristonbroadway1729 i think she is not prepared because of the stupid rule, especially when her mother took her instrument, if i were her i would be so mad i could beat up her mother so i think its one of the factor of her failing the audition as well

[@adeline6443]

@@tristonbroadway1729 I'm a pianist and even if I practice for weeks before an audition, I need to practice a lot during the same day. Most orchestras and musicians do that too. It takes me one hour to warm up doing the Hanon exercises. One hour only warming up, not even practicing the pieces. The fact that she was practicing that day doesn't mean she was procrastinating before, at all.

[@_badbish_98]

No parents should put a "lover" over their child. Her mother put her in that situation, moving into a man's house that you know for three months. You decided to have a child you should be for them first. You are prioritizing your love life over your own kid. Your child will remember that,

[@a.elsagonzalez6824]

She just sounded like a brat to me

[@_badbish_98]

@Elisabeth Yancey Yeah but her mom put her in that situation. I do believe the daughter shouldn't act that way though.

[@giselaricotti]

@@a.elsagonzalez6824 she is a child forced to live with a stranger and his rules, she just knows her mom would choose a man over her any day, I don't think she is a brat, but she is forced in a situation where she is not even a second thought so she is mad

[@stefanmirica6485]

@@giselaricotti It's not a black and white situation. Perhaps even the daughter agreed on it, but just decided to break the rules anyway. It's complicated because if she grows up not understanding rules and boundaries, that's also detrimental for her.

[@elissahunt]

Yes, the daughter behaved like a brat. But she's only 15. What excuse does the adult mother have for moving in with a man she's only known for three months? What say did the daughter have in any of this? Seems to me her life was just turned upside down and she was given new rules to follow without any choice in the matter at all. No, the daughter doesn't have a right to tell her mom who to date, but the mom needs to think of more than her own desires.

[@genuineinterest]

Re: second person - why did she refer to BF as her daughter's _"stepfather"_ they're not _married_ they've been dating for _3 months_ according to a comment?? And it doesn't sound like BF respects the daughter either, that's a whole 15 year old who he literally doesn't even seem to want to know. I think they're being too kind to him and to the mom who prioritised her BF above her daughter and for me it was an immediate YTA. I can imagine how much not having that sense of security must have thrown off the the poor girl's audition.

[@hotjanuary]

There are so many red flags with mom and the stranger she forced upon her daughter’s life. That mom is going to be lucky if her daughter talks to her after she turns 18 and moves out. Mom’s got serious codependency issues.

[@wakingtheworld]

Agree... Feel sorry for the daughter.

[@shinkamui]

yeah.. i mean we don't know the full story of the household but there's a legion of red flags in that comments. I also absolutely hate that she framed the whole thing as ''AITA for reacting to my daughtet disobeying me?''. As if it was a completely unprompted disobeyance. Highly consider not trampling over the daughter to satisfy a boyfriend, jeez.

[@elissahunt]

I think the daughter behaved very childishly--BUT--she had probably been pushed to her limit. I agree with everyone in the comments who blames the mother for moving in with a man after only three months of dating. The daughter's life has been turned upside-down, and no one in the home appears to care. It also bothers me A LOT when a woman with a young daughter moves in with a man who is a virtual stranger to them both. I'm not saying anything is going on, just that this is NOT the sort of thing a responsible mother should do.

[@wakingtheworld]

@@elissahunt Indeed Elissa, there's THAT aspect as well!

[@mariane6199]

The second story really pissed me, the mother is putting the boyfriend above the daughter. Move together is a big step, they clearly didn't think enough before. The mother comes with a daughter and the daughter with a violin, if the sound annoys him then they shouldn't live together yet

[@vickylikesthis]

Yes! Thank you. And maybe she needs to reflect how she didn't know that her daughter has an audition coming up.

[@redgoldcrown3990]

honestly I think it's a case of all the toes getting stepped on and everyone overreacting. they rushed into the moving-in step without thinking through all the logistics and now everyone's paying the price. once they've all apologized to each other and cooled off I hope they can negotiate something that works for everybody, otherwise OP might feel forced to choose between boyfriend and daughter.

[@lisad8524]

This! I am a mother and your responsibility for your children doesn’t end at age 15! The bf can work with ear plugs unless he’s on a call. Don’t move in with guy who’s not okay with your child’s hobbies. Also, she’ll probably be at school while he’s out so that won’t leave her much time to practice. Never put a guy over your children.

[@tammylaronde8593]

As a general rule, if you have children, moving in with someone you've only dated for three months isn't a great idea. Three months is not enough time to truly get to know that person. You want to make sure that your new partner will be good to your children and not a possible threat to them. I'm willing to bet that home is full of tension. A fail for both mother and boyfriend because of the way it was handled. Of course she was going to get upset. They knew she played the violin. They would have known about the audition. They should have thought ahead.

[@jackmeredith6705]

Its reasonable that the boyfriend wouldn't like to hear it but the mother should have thought about her daughter when moving in with her boyfriend instead of just thinking about herself at first I didn't know who to side with but then I realised how unfair it is for the daughter

[@aelinashryver6245]

The best thing about playing the piano: it's nearly indestructible The worst thing? Literally every single human being entering your home *will* try to "play" it

[@ArtificialPerson]

There's literally a comment above about kids chipping the keys, and also, a kid threw a coin into my cousins piano and it ended muting D4 (my cousin is actually a piano tuner and he hasn't been able to fix it yet) so... Piano can be messed up with too...

[@aelinashryver6245]

@@ArtificialPerson I'm really sorry about your cousin's piano! Yep, pianos definitely can get messed up, but I've found mine to be a bit more resilient than my violin :)

[@Outland9000]

Cue chopsticks or Fur Elise. 😆

[@sentimapathill3756]

Our piano is in my dad's room and no one goes there, because it's extremely messy.

[@nomorefries3616]

I hate it when random strangers (sometimes even the kids of the plumber) entered my house and started playing the piano. And i hate myself for couldnt say get the fck off my piano. 😔

[@hotjanuary]

Story 2: major asshole. This is more than an issue of scheduling practice time. There are serious deeper issues going on with mom: 1) moving her 15 year old teenage GIRL into a stranger’s home after 3 months of dating 2) calling this stranger a “stepfather.” 3) Neglecting the emotional welfare of her daughter’s needs to feel secure in her own home. (Mom’s made it clear it’s her BOYFRIEND’s home.) 4) Poor boundaries. She’s likely suffering from codependency issues, what with the rush to move in with a stranger, and safety risks to her daughter be damned.

[@9812Kati]

YES THANK YOU TO ALL OF THAT! And those are not even all the issues lol the second story is so messed up and the mother is a huge AH

[@hotjanuary]

@@9812Kati Definitely. Though I thought it’s better to keep it short. But a warning to everyone: if you’re chasing a relationship because you’re afraid of being single, take a good hard look at yourself. When you’re using a relationship to fill a void, it’ll be a toxic one. Look at the “partner” mom chose for her self: Mr. my house, my dictatorship; you can’t practice when I’m home; and I don’t care about your 15 year old as a person to get to know her and earn her trust before agreeing to move her in. That’s the best of side of the situation. Here’s to hoping he didn’t move her in for ulterior motives. Statistics show sexual abuse happens most often in your home.

[@maistanslegends]

@@hotjanuary ur the first one i saw to point out how much of an asshole the boyfriend is as well!! i also realized how all three were in that situation all because *his* satisfaction wasn’t met for once. i’m just hoping for the best for them, especially the daughter :((

[@TypincsVideos]

@@hotjanuary absolutely agree. With 38 you should have more self respect.

[@paulinephan05]

I mostly agree with point 3, but the comment section in general is way over-fixating on the three months. You aren't "strangers" if you've been together that long. And suggesting concerns of pedophilia is laughable - the focus of the situation was on *music* and time management (or the lack thereof), not safety. Like yes, about 95% of the blame rests on the couple, but what does their romantic relationship have to do with any of it? Just say they're neglectful and inconsiderate and leave it at that.

[@alexafinishmydegree112]

Panicked when i saw “Girlfriend” in the title because there are only 40 hours in a day, theres no time for her

[@bookaholic1431]

Good humour 🤟😂

[@abigail40]

yes yall *GO PRACTICE LAH BEST SOLUTION*

[@vidu8925]

So true

[@KP-jt9py]

This.

[@evantaylor4796]

I can see that... weirdos

[@charlotterose6724]

5:25 Poor kid. Her music obviously means a lot to her, and being 15, she doesn't have any input in choosing her home environment. And with a raging fight like that before an audition....of course she didn't make it. Keep going, girl. 8:00.... it IS her home too, and not by her choice.

[@WolfgangXP65-67]

YES THANK YOU!!!!!!!! She should move out of the damn house because her "parents" are obviously not giving a damn about her life.

[@charlotterose6724]

@@WolfgangXP65-67 Seems like it's more appropriate to discipline kids for things like, I don't know...drinking? Staying out late? NOT practicing? I hope this girl has a supportive dad.

[@evantaylor4796]

She deserved

[@9812Kati]

@@WolfgangXP65-67 and she will not be able to move out because for that she needs money and with "parents" like that it will be pretty hard. also wtf at the mother for calling her 3 months lover her daughters stepfather LMAO she is completely disconnected from reality

[@WolfgangXP65-67]

@@evantaylor4796 gtfo

[@AspiringToFailure]

Alternative title: Twoset giving relationship advice for 17 mins

[@88lilys]

I low key want this to be a regular thing. Eddy and Brett please give me relationship advice.

[@NikkiBudders]

and I'm absolutely here for it

[@omyelia]

am i the only one surprised at how good the advice was tho?

[@Nezumi--]

@@omyelia i was also nodding along with their observations, very astute

[@ajchandra7735]

@@omyelia why are you surprised?

[@Contessariley]

That daughter story kind of makes me wary of the whole situation. Like, the mom wanted to take the next step, but she clearly told her daughter that this was *the boyfriend's* house, meaning she has no personal/private space to do anything in. Where else is she going to go to practice? How often does this man work/what are his sensibilities, because if just plucking the strings and hearing the bow made him mad, I don't know if I believe that the daughter had time to practice, especially if the boyfriend was there.

[@MikeS7]

My guess is he was probably there all the time what with covid going on and everything. So it's literally one of those gotca rules where she would never be able to practice

[@elissahunt]

Also, who the heck moves in with someone--dragging along a teen daughter--after dating for only three months! The daughter may have been rude and bratty, but she was put in a situation not of her own choosing and forced to deal with it. The mother has some serious problems, imo.

[@a.hollins8691]

@@elissahunt Also the man is like 20 years older than the mom. I feel bad for that kid.

[@heathermcdougall8023]

@Sophia Marie Sutiono Taking the violin and bow away from the teenager says everything. Her own mother doesn't value her musical interests at all. Stuff the boyfriend hating the violin practise. He needs to be put firmly in his selfish, uncultured place!

[@Papabandana]

Like, she's 15. Why didn't the mom talk this over with her daughter BEFOREHAND!???? It's not like she's a literal baby, that whole story has me pissed off. Hope the kid is doing well

[@impassionategods_]

the people who did not want to pay for music lessons probably are the people who thought they can learn piano using solely simply piano lmao

[@bubbiccino]

That would have been a good recommendation 😂 If she didn’t want to scam them when they tried to manipulate her, referring them to the app as a “cheaper option” also works ✌️

[@lexdraws1729]

I would like to pay for music lessons if I had money

[@changing22]

@@bubbiccino 🤣🤣🤣 LMAOOOO THAT WOULD’VE WORKED SO GOOD

[@johnrubensaragi4125]

Yeah. Even simply piano wants to get paid for the premium.

[@bertramwinkleofficial]

Lol it’s like $75 every 3 months for SimplyPiano. Music lessons are like $20 a lesson where I’m from. It’s literally cheaper to get lessons

[@CJ-rx5fi]

I’m more concerned that first guy left a 10 year old and an 8 year old unattended for ONE HOUR while he hung out at his neighbor’s house doing whatever - killing brain cells judging by his reasoning abilities. Take some responsibility!

[@annaandhertypewriter4395]

They're in age that they can come to ask help if needed to. They don't need to be monitored 24/7 based on their age. Instead if guy wouldn't have told where he did go or was away over 3 hours then that's different case

[@rekal7775]

How so? I was left home alone for hours at 10, and also going to swim practice and other activities after school by myself. In some countries it's normal.

[@annaandhertypewriter4395]

@@rekal7775 same, and yep, at least in Finland. And I love that!

[@mango6404]

@@rekal7775 the point isnt that the kids are old enough to be left alone. Its that the supposedly mature adult thats tasked to watch over the kids doesnt want to take responsibility

[@rekal7775]

@@mango6404 that's not what this comment was about though? I also think that it is irresponsible to give someone else's instrument to a kid without the owner's consent. But leaving kids this age unattended for a few hours is not something to be concerned about.

[@noaluka]

i feel so bad for the daughter in the second story. she probs didn't have a say on the move in the first place. she should be her mom's first priority but sounds like the mom only cares about her bf.

[@idaneromi4205]

Yeah, that case was so disturbing. Single mothers should not date, nor get boyfriends. If you can read statistics you know that's not safe. This daughter was 15. Not many years away from being out of the nest anyway. Just sad.

[@arenmihernandez3384]

@@idaneromi4205 I don’t think that’s fair either, everyone should be able to get with someone, but obviously it has to be well thought out taking kids into consideration

[@idaneromi4205]

@@arenmihernandez3384 Well, new partners are not fair for the children. So who is the most important person to consider?

[@arenmihernandez3384]

@@idaneromi4205 being a single parent doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to get a new partner, just don’t put said partner before the kids

[@idaneromi4205]

@@arenmihernandez3384 But you do put your partner before your children, the moment you walk out the door to meet them. (And leave your children with a replacement for yourself.) I know it might sound hard, but real life is...

[@bookaholic1431]

Can we just appreciate the fact that they are losing their minds every video but still it's so I N T E R E S T I N G and smart?

[@emilydeangelis5382]

Yes and some words in this video are so funny.😂😂 . Thank you so much Twosetviolin.😊

[@abigail40]

ikr twoset intelligence 100%

[@kudumik4468]

It satisfies me every time and every time I miss my violin practice I use my ling ling insurance ....

[@fatcat5602]

I made a game based on twoset, I posted it in the reddit but it didn't get seen by twoset. Can I get the help of twosetters to help me promote it so brett and eddy plays it? Any help is appreciated! 🎻

[@bookaholic1431]

@@fatcat5602 Sure . What's the name?

[@happykittenmeow]

I was in a very similar situation as the teen in the second story. The mother was absolutely in the wrong on multiple levels and should be ashamed of herself for being so disrespectful AND allowing her daughter to be disrespected by her boyfriend. I'm in my 30s and I still feel anxious practicing because my stepfather was like that and it really makes you feel like your music has no value and is just an annoyance to people, even people who are supposed to love you. Sometimes listening to people practice can be hard on the ears, but it's a sacrifice you make to support someone you love and respect. Kids, ESPECIALLY TEENAGERS, need support, even when they're being obnoxious. I hope that girl has support from other people because she's obviously not getting it at home.

[@Coolgravy]

I agree with you. The other day I asked my dad if he wanted to hear some songs I've been practicing for my percussion class, he said yes. Once I got my music together, I got through two songs when I noticed he wasn't paying attention. I finished the second one and after a moment of silence, went, "there's that one.." I looked up, noticed he was on his phone, then music started playing from it. Idk if it was just a video with music, or actual music, but it was very hurtful. I just stood there for a second then walked out of the room and no one noticed. I'm (mostly) over it now, but I still feel sad thinking about it. If he didn't want to listen to it then, he could've just said no. After, whenever I would go to practice I would just feel sad and annoying.

[@mariannamycroft2611]

@@Coolgravy I'm so sorry :( Keep you heart up though and keep practicing, there WILL be people who enjoy your music!

[@changing22]

@@Coolgravy I’m so sorry!

[@chickenbroth5]

@@Coolgravy I'm so sorry you went through that. I know all too well the feeling of being a disturbance to someone who's supposed to be encouraging you. It has taken such a toll on me in the past and it almost always destroys my confidence and makes me wanna go hide under my sheets for the rest of day. Sometimes it happens in such stupid circumstances where the parent (or else) could have easily not hyped you up to do the thing you're excited about and it would have avoided such disrespect and disregard. When it happens and I can't think clearly in the moment I end up feeling like an undeserving misfit, truly one of the worst feelings in the world, especially when it comes from your parents, because you can't just decide that you're mad at them and that they don't deserve you and stop speaking to them. They're your PARENTS for God's sake !!! Anyways I'll conclude by saying that in a situation like that we should definitely try not to take it personally (even tho it's hard), understand that we didn't do anything wrong it's their mistake, AND stop needing the approval of other people. By the way, you should try talking to them about it and explain that when you play in front of them it's almost like you're handing them a gift they should value because it matters to you personally (lol I haven't done that either). Just seperate your self confidence from other people and make it depend on yourself only. I hope you're doing ok and feeling more comfortable.

[@mertarican5456]

@@Coolgravy the real reason is almost Always people hate what other people love. I would suggest to play for yourself most of the time if there is request try thoose.

[@yckieh568]

The second reddit question: BOYFRIEND CAN BUY A PAIR OF SONY NOISE CANCELLING HEADPHONES. Problem solved. The problem is so simple if that guy wanted to make an effort.

[@uosilo]

I feel like people love sticking with their negative emotion and this makes them lose their creativity to think of a win-win solution

[@TheRealMarauder]

Noise canceling headphones aren't necessarily that good, but I agree they should have talked it through and looked for solutions before.

[@iamperplexed4695]

The daughter is completely the asshole. She had rules and ignored them. She procrastinated and that is her fault. She was a B to the owner and that is her fault. Actions have consequences.

[@kozygeorg]

@@iamperplexed4695 damn no comments. read the commen from Mariane. She explained it pretty good. And god damn are you blind

[@iamperplexed4695]

@@kozygeorg I am sorry, comment from Marrianne? Where? All I needed to hear was the actions of the daughter before and after the day of the recital. I raised a teenage girl and in general they can be the biggest B's you will ever encounter, especially when they don't get their way.

[@abigail40]

'played at weddings' **canon in d intensifies**

[@xandraxandra1437]

Ikr

[@devinbelver7124]

I know everyone hates on cannon in d. Including my music teachers. But I still like it, even after 8 years of playing and studying classical music. Do people just hate it because of it's publicly cliche and overplayed? Or do they actually hate the piece itself?

[@xandraxandra1437]

@@devinbelver7124 Well, it is kinda overplayed and the cellists part isn’t fun, but yeah, it’s a nice melody.

[@uwubitwalas]

@@devinbelver7124 i dont like it, just neutral to me. still a good piece, tho

[@palmocorbus9839]

I feel bad for the girl who can't play while mom's boyfriend is home. Probably he is away at work at the same time that she is away at school for the most part. Noise cancling headphones would be good. But also IT IS THE MORNING OF HER AUDITION. You'd think that some concessions could be made. I'd be shaking mad as well. No wonder she bombed it.

[@WolfgangXP65-67]

Ikr

[@peterfireflylund]

And the BF apparently had a work presentation... which is also kinda important.

[@omgvague]

@@peterfireflylund A 3-month BF compared to your own 15yo child? Give me a break.

[@naritruwireve1381]

bruh imagine giving more value to a 3 month partner than your own 15 year old daughter. Can't relate

[@peterfireflylund]

@@omgvague is it important that he keeps his job? Yes. Does her violin pay the rent? No.

[@wecsam]

Brett and Eddy are far more mature than half of the adults whom I know. Edit: I chose my words poorly. I know that Brett and Eddy are adults. I meant to say that many adults are nowhere nearly as mature.

[@WolfgangXP65-67]

They're VERY pure and I have a cousin that LOVES these Bois. So glad to have someone who knows them 🐱

[@myname-mz3lo]

well bret and eddy are adults so ya ...

[@starmochi9692]

Eddy and Brett ARE adults, they're both 29 years old

[@WolfgangXP65-67]

@@starmochi9692 the thing is is that they act so innocent and childlike. My mom is like that too but more serious about general events through HER life.

[@mx.n.3682]

@@starmochi9692 they ARE adults, but immature adults do exist. I have several of them as relatives, literally parents, and they'd rather cling to relatives for support. It's to the extent of having my dad buy his brother's family a piece of land to live on once (that they sold) and they're now asking for more of his properties.

[@natecas0865]

That violin bow story reminded me of when my mom left my cousins unattended around my piano. Came back home and saw one of the key ends was chipped off and they were wearing innocent faces

[@dogaerkan2814]

😩😩

[@nalu2680]

I actually gasped. 😭

[@TkTio_NG]

This is the worst or even worst they might say they are just kids, they don’t know anything, you should keep your stuff, bla bla bla

[@xanthicatd3719]

Oof

[@hat7475]

FOR REAAAL😶 Like, I don't wanna be that person but like- no fucking kids over when there are stuff laying here and there. They always, leave such a tiresome mess I can't- 🕳️🚶‍♀️

[@Lina321_]

The woman taking away her daughter’s violin really pissed me off. The thing is that she was the person who wanted her daughter to move in with the old 7ass boyfriend, yet she chose the old man instead of her very own daughter when there was a conflict between them. If the person I’m in a relationship with treated my daughter like that, I don’t think I can still love that person

[@abyss5582]

Everyone is shook bc on the violin getting broken in the 1st story, but I'm more concerned about the fact he left two KIDS alone in a house for a whole hour, even he was near the house we never know what can happen, especially with kids

[@Nezumi--]

ah in hindsight the money was mentioned in dollars. O.o i actually didn't think of that part though, coz where i live at the moment, it's normal for 7 yr olds and younger to go ride a train on their own to wherever they need to go, so kids staying at home for a moment isn't a big deal if they can safely navigate intersections, traffic, and railway stations...

[@BadGirlFan]

@@Nezumi-- Yeah, I wouldn't necessarily worry about the kids being alone for a while in the middle of the day. However, if I they're not my kids (especially if I don't have any kids of my own to compare them to) I'm not sure I would have dared to make the assumption they'd be fine alone. And that they'd be fine alone with a violin? Not very likely.

[@abyss5582]

Idk, where I live to take a train ride alone you have to be at least 11 ou 12 I don't remember but not younger, but idk it's not really responsible to let 2 kids alone in a house or maybe it's just me overthinking everything. But he was asked to take care of the kids anyway, he has the role of a "baby sitter" so he shouldn't have left them alone... Anyway the kids are fine I guess so it's OK😂

[@hmpeter]

@@abyss5582 Here in Germany, it is totally normal for an 8 year old to ride to school alone on a bike or go by foot or take the school bus. When they enter our equivalent of high school at around 10, they take the regular public bus or train if necessary. So I would have no trouble leaving kids that age alone for an hour. But they are brought up to have that level of self-responsibility here. If they are pampered to stay like toddlers still at that age wherever the event took place, then I would probably not have left them alone. In any case I would not have let them alone with personal stuff not belonging to me while I was away.

[@dramallamarama5300]

The second story has me completely on the daughter’s side, she’s 15 and like any kid pushed into a corner is lashing out in retaliation. The situation escalated when it did not need to be by the mother and the partner. Also I’d like to ask; the rule was that she was only allowed to practice when 1) the boyfriend wasn’t home & 2) when she had time during these hours (unspoken but true) It sounds like he was working from home, taking virtual meetings & doing projects in his home office, since the daughter is 15 she is still attending regular school (online or in-person), so if we assume he’s actually leaving the house between 9-5 (even though he seems to be at home mostly) and she’s at school during this same time when would she have time to practice properly (at least an hour I’d say). I personally blame the mother and partner for not just giving her a scheduled time slot in the day where she can practice at home, maybe they should take her to practice somewhere outside the flat so she can be as loud as she wants or even just buying some sound-proofing/blocking to reduce the noise. Overall a very poorly managed situation. Also if you and your kid move into a flat with a new partner then it’s not just his home anymore it’s your home, the daughter isn’t a guest at the boyfriend’s place for the weekend, she lives there and it’s now her home too. Stop treating her like she’s a nuisance and get your priorities straight!

[@pieinside2345]

every word of this that kid might as well be living in a hotel room, it would have the same "home" feelings as living in that flat smh

[@johnchessant3012]

Totally disagree on the 2nd one. The mother and boyfriend of course are legally allowed to set rules in their house but this is about whether they are a-holes or not, and they seem extremely inconsiderate of the daughter's hobby and seem like they prioritize each other over the kid. Terrible parents. I feel bad for the daughter.

[@devinbelver7124]

"You can only play the violin when I'm not home". That is horrendous.

[@gideoncheung8731]

@@devinbelver7124 it's also so discouraging! I would be shocked if my parents told me that. It's almost like telling her she's crap at the violin in her face so only play when I'm away. That IS dreadful

[@garbtide5904]

They crushed the daughter’s dreams, judging by the aftermath of the situation.

[@uneducatedtrashrat8180]

@@devinbelver7124 It really is. Plus, we don't know how much time that actually gives her to practice. Assuming she goes to school in person, that takes the majority of the time. And what if she has after school things? Homework? What if the bf comes home early? What if he works from home? From the detail about him having a meeting over a call, I assume he does. The only practicing when he's not home doesn't work because it doesn't allow a good window of time for how long she has to practice. That time could fluctuate and change all the time. It's also incredibly discouraging.

[@magdolyn]

And keep in mind that this was at the beginning of the pandemic in NYC, when everything there was exploding. When was he not at home? If he's working on a presentation for work, odds are that he's been working from home, as most presentation people are not essential workers. She's likely had next to zero practice time and is already freaking out.

[@rustemtnymkulov9116]

I think the biggest problem here is that people who are not directly connected to art (I mean doing it not just appreciate) do not understand that the art is not only a delightful music, drawings etc it is also a lot a pain during the time required to master it. So when they see how musicians practice they do not expect that it wouldn't sound that delightful and start to dislike it. Like I think that that singer's bf would love her singing if he heard the complete version of the clip but when he hears her practice it gets annoying

[@peterfireflylund]

Who likes to hear rap? Really, who does?

[@flowerdolphin5648]

@@peterfireflylund some people do. I don't like it either, but some people do.

[@Coolgravy]

@@peterfireflylund a lot of people? It's not my jam, but that doesn't mean other people don't enjoy it. Lol

[@karthikharish1564]

true practicing the violin is the most tedious thing...just repetition of the same thing..over and over and over...i feel bad that my parents have to hear my squeaking on the violin

[@quirmi_6770]

A lot of people are just so used to hearing the finished piece at concerts that they are unaware of the work actually takes did you get that and try to deny people of doing that work

[@reversidly]

Usually in this subreddit, the answer is "yes, you are" and somehow they didn't even learn from it.

[@sammk6783]

Eddy:Am I an A** hole? Brett:(no hesitation at all)YES!!

[@colai1565]

I just wanna congratulate Brett, Eddy, and the whole TwoSet Apparel team on their new collection. They really put so much effort on their brand, it makes me wanna buy! 💛 best of luck to our hardworking boys!!

[@MissTwoSetEncyclopedia]

They got interviewed in several magazines for this new collection. It may seem dumb but I feel like a proud mom... 🤗

[@colai1565]

@@MissTwoSetEncyclopedia so trueee!! They deserve it 💛

[@rosa3299]

The mother story about her daughter and her boyfriend sounds frustrating. I empathize with the girl the most because she clearly told she needed to practice. And I feel like she wasn't taken seriously. And I also understand the boyfriend needing quiet place to work because I am also the same. But I really question for how long does he work. How may hours does he work? How much hours can the 15 year old practice based on that? And how many hours of practice does she need? But also it is an apartment. When you live in a apartment it is really hard to completely have quiet time. You are also almost working around other people's schedule. I have a big family and we often complain about having quiet time and alone time to do our own thing. We found a way where everyone is happy. But there is never truly alone or quiet time. Despite my need to work in silence I have adapted to everyone's work. I am not sure how long they have have been living together. Though we can assume not long. Also, I believe the mother could have told the boyfriend before hand that the daughter plays the violin and needs to practice often. Then he could have figure a way to work with that. Or noise canceling headphones. Though, we don't know enough context to determine who is right or wrong. I would say that if the mother really wants to commit to this and the boyfriend. They all should be mindful and considerate to everyone even the 15 year old daughter. And adapt based on that. Entering a new relationship and a relationship that involves a child from previous one is a big commitment. Cause it is not just between two people (boyfriend and girlfriend) you are also involving a child who at 15 has become an individual, has started boundaries,needs, wants, and their own responsibilities. So the mother and boyfriend has to respect that as well. The 15 year old has no say in the relationship or the environment they are surrounded by. Often or not the child is treated with disrespect because they are "young" and therefore have no say. But clearly the child is old enough that they are their own individual and have their own boundaries, responsibilities, and needs that needs

[@lilabenford7159]

you don't just marry the lover, you marry the family :)

[@beepbeepcasucha]

Ah I like this, a very sensitive response. I'm sorry for the child bc she's going to remember that for a while but I hope they do the things you've suggested 🌞🌞

[@024_soumeemukherjee2]

If ever the child comes to this video or comes to see these comments, I do hope she knows that there are a world of people who empathize with her and would love to support her at times like these which clearly fill people with huge insecurities. Be happy dear girl, I pray.

[@grutarg2938]

The 15 year old did not get to choose where she lived, her mother and boyfriend decided for her. This is obviously going to be a difficult & challenging time for her to adjust to this new life. They all need to have a family meeting and figure out how to share a small apartment. If they all have a say in setting up rules & expectations, then they are all more likely to respect the rules.

[@MsPea]

I can't understand women who put boyfriends above their children. Boyfriends come and go. The children are yours forever and it's your job to cherish and love them. I would never put a man above my children. Any man I date knows from the start that my children come first. If he is not ok with that, then it's bye-bye boyfriend. Like the saying goes: Boyfriends are like busses. There's another one right around the corner.

[@millacabral9475]

Unfortunately this happens a lot in situations where the mom never had another adult supporting her and her kid and they don't have enough money to live in a safe and comfortable environment. Many women will prioritize their "very generous" boyfriend's wishes above their child's because they're terrified of losing him and going back to where they were before. Or often this happens due to serious dependence issues where ppl will enter any relationship and hate being single, so they'll date complete sleazy assholes, not that this seems like the case here. My guess is the mom is so relieved to have a well off partner that allowed them to move in so soon that she's ready to squash her daughter's desires so he won't kick them out. Or she's just ignorant of children's and teen's needs and doesn't understand how lonely and trapped and misplaced that kid must feel. I can relate and I was at my own father's place, so imagine being at a stranger's whom your mother defends over yourself. I'd be honestly scared for my safety.

[@PriusRaj]

Too many people want kids the way they want a dog or pet goldfish.

[@Humanoidfrenzzy]

Considering your attitude and view of men, it's no surprise at all that you're a single parent, do the men of the world a favour and stay that way.

[@mxwitcher]

@@Humanoidfrenzzy this is just not boyfriends, it's more about any partner if you're not in a stable relationship. If you're going to have a child, never put them in second priority because that's your responsibility. I don't agree with OP's last general statement that much but it's their life and it's understandable but you're literally just attacking them, you don't even know if they're a single parent or anything about their life. They're right anyways, lovers, no matter what gender, can come and go, but your children shouldn't.

[@ayappers]

this is exactly what i was thinking

[@eesoojook]

3 seconds and I'm already done🤣🤣🤣: - Am I the a$$hole? - YES!!! That's what I call true friendship!!! 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

[@skate4463]

Imagine being 15 and you have to move in with your mom's boyfriend and get constantly reminded that its HIS home, not yours. Poor baby. It's not just about the violin (I don't think it's unreasonable to have to wait until he's gone or to tell her off for breaking that rule when he has a presentation), but it's about consistently making sure your daughter knows she's a burden and doesn't really have a place in her home. Also, yeah, the daughter was out of line in telling him to go to the lobby, but given that this kid has had to move in with him, change her circumstances, and abide by his rules, you'd think he'd attempt to be more accommodating and make her feel valued by him. In this case where she had an audition, he should have OFFERRED to go elsewhere just this once.

[@Emma-jr5qc]

As someone who currently analyses these kinds of problems in ethics class, this video is really cool

[@Icingflower]

Really? That sounds interesting! Haven’t taken ethics but I do like academic deconstructions of things/events. What analysis would you give for the story of the girl having her violin taken away before the audition?

[@Emma-jr5qc]

@@Icingflower I was just overwhelmed by that situation but I had pretty much the same thoughts as Brett and Eddy. But I‘m also failing that class so I’m not a reliable source 😂

[@no_peace]

I don't think there's really a way to give an adequate amount of information to make valid judgments about those kinds of conflicts.

[@a.hollins8691]

If a train is going to run over a Strad, but you can switch the tracks to have it run over ten kindergarteners, should you switch the tracks?

[@Emma-jr5qc]

@@a.hollins8691 the trolly problem 😂 yeah we‘ve discussed that too... obviously I would save the strad. We have enough kids in the world and most of them are annoying and we only a have limited amount of strads that also can’t be reproduced (For legal reasons this is a joke😅)

[@abigail40]

13:51 'this sentence is gramatically correct, but it is wordy and hard to read' *hey grammarly sponsor them now

[@dandelion2052]

Today I had my last concert with my orchestra teacher, he's moving this year and he's been at our school for 7 years. I'm also moving. It was a virtual concert and right after the livestream cut off he just said thank you to all of us really quietly and his voice was shaking because he was about to cry, it was the sweetest thing ever. Once he said that we were all either about ready to cry or already crying, tonight was a really happy but also sad night, and I'm going to miss him a lot, he is seriously the best orchestra teacher ever.

[@mertarican5456]

Damn I had a math teacher like that. I love people with passion. I hope you guys will be happier 🥰

[@Emma-jr5qc]

Can we just take a moment to appreciate how good they both look in that video?! Damn 😂

[@ipsharoy7398]

They are SLAYING THEIR FITS

[@shela404]

YES

[@gianasantarossa8018]

Eddy's outfit is so stylish 😳😳😳

[@SophieS12345]

@@gianasantarossa8018 ikr with the chain

[@kerotfloot8886]

THEIR FITS ARE HELLA COOL

[@baziwan9407]

2nd story.... How can you possibly know someone enough to move in with them after 3 months holy crap. This mother has no self respect and no respect for her daughter. It seems like there are many issues here. Moving in with a boyfriend after 3 months, with that large age difference dragging her daughter into it.

[@ddtex4954]

Not only are they talented musicians but insightful thinkers on relationship dynamics. Get your own advice column, boys!

[@titlim]

bro the guy left for AN HOURR??!! THE VIOLIN BEING WITH KIDSSS WITH 0 EXPERIENCE WITH AN INSTRUMENT (probably)! . you're lucky they didn't eff up the violin and the only thing damaged was the bow :)) i would have started crying if anything happened to violin-chan, lmao T_T

[@maryashaelvey1911]

twoset when someone touches someone else's instrument : DON'T DO THAT (so triggered)

[@gideoncheung8731]

but for good reason

[@realnahnot]

I mean, if you bought a $2000 instrument, you'd want to keep it would you not? You would try to keep it away from danger because you spent a lot of money to that instrument.

[@maryashaelvey1911]

@@realnahnot yes definitely-I never let people come near my violin so it's very relatable :)

[@essie23la]

Moving in after only 3 months is just crazy! Until I was 18, my mom never told me she dated someone for a _year_ back when I was in 6th grade or smth. I never noticed it, because mom thinks you shouldn't tell the kids until you're sure it's really a long-term relationship, to keep the home environment more stable. Parents dating new people is hard enough on a kid and this mom just took that to a whole other level. Shows zero respect for her daughter.

[@mckenzieehlers5328]

I haven't been this early since Ling Ling played viola

[@Alyssa_Evans]

Underrated comment 😂

[@nteula]

So.. Never?

[@maruwinn]

ANGELICA. ELIZA.

[@sjjdksjdjs2984]

so n e v e r

[@hat7475]

Werk werk

[@WaltRBuck]

Hah.. that first dude.. "I thought my sister would have to pay for the fee..." because YOU gave them the violin to play with.. WOw.. talk about a guy with NO sense of respect or responsibility. Edit: Well, at least he had the decency to do the right thing in the end. That deserves some respect.

[@devinbelver7124]

Probably had to take out a huge loan just to get a new stick with horse hair

[@genuineinterest]

Re:your edit - "Congrats! You did the bare minimum!"

[@WaltRBuck]

@@genuineinterest Yeah.. exactly. Some tiny degree of respect.. for acting the part anyway.. finally.

[@siobhans550]

@@devinbelver7124 might teach him to respect other's belongings, regardless of their perceived or real value. Good luck working off that loan mate 😂

[@mertarican5456]

Dude imagine if that bow was her dead fathers or something. How do you fucking pay that off.

[@sairenuka4813]

Is nobody going to talk about how good Eddy looks with that chain of his?

[@WujuStyler]

the only people that should wear chains are mafiosos and rappers and even then it is a stretch. To me it looks so tacky, but in my culture it's a thing poor people do to pretend their rich so i could be biased. still love our bois tho

[@avarice9686]

Welcome back to another episode of TwoSetCounselling

[@farradina6291]

I love how most of their solutions is by talking. Showing how healthy their relationship is 😭

[@zynpkrdg]

Wow, as an artist, we share the same pain with musicians. The stuff needed to paint/draw is expensive as heck. I swear art is expensive in any form.

[@mertarican5456]

Singing is free babbyyy! (I hope XD)

[@lookatmyfacern]

@@mertarican5456 well not really lol i mean if you just sing for fun and not because you want to grow a career out of it well i guess its free? but for people that want to grow a career out of singing it cost quite alot of money, because you need vocal lessons from the best teachers you can afford. i mean i got registered into vocal lessons because my parents saw potential in my voice lol.

[@childofMotherMary]

@@lookatmyfacernthey mean to get started atleast which is true

[@NoOne-dj1ou]

Honestly I'd push back on your "In any form" comment but otherwise agree. Pencil and paper (assuming you get cheap ones) are both fairly inexpensive to start. Of course, once you get beyond pencil and paper things get much more expensive. There's a reason that the high-end alcohol markers are locked behind glass.

[@jellyfish1613]

The amount of anger I have towards the mom from the second story is insane. How dare she bring her daughter into a strange place, insist that she doesn’t belong, and still expect her to have a shred of respect for the “house rules”. You shouldn’t ever prioritize your boyfriend or husband or whomever you’re dating over your child. The boyfriend can leave you if they’re unhappy, the child can’t.

[@clberka]

NO JOKE about the bow! my bow is 8K. I never let anyone come near any of my instruments (except my pianist plays my piano). You are right. They are sacred. It isn't JUST their cost, it's the search to find them. You can have all the money in the world, and not find a violin or bow that you love. When you fall in love, you want that instrument/bow to be with you for a lifetime.

[@tweepy123]

Not to mention any single violin is the only one of its kind since they are all handmade.

[@nwcam]

Their reaction to the first story is incredibly validating. My parents got me an upright piano for Christmas when I was younger and I played it all the time. Once my cousin was born, my parents decided they were the ones who could allow my cousin to play it. Even after I had time and time again asked them to not let her play it. I understand a piano is a little sturdier than a violin, but not only do I just not trust children in general, the fact that they weren’t respecting my boundaries really upset me. There were even multiple kid sized keyboards I used growing up that she could’ve used as much as she liked. Now I keep my new weighted keyboard in my room and lock the door when I’m not there.

[@Rebekkamaria]

The merch is gorgeous. You've outdone yourselves. And yeah, I enjoy reading these AITA stories. People end up in weird situations when they don't communicate enough or appreciate each other enough. So this was double the entertainment because of your thoughtful comments. Thank you! :D

[@J_young_824]

Poor daughter, I'm not a musician but as an empath i could feel her frustrations in her orchestra audition. 🥺

[@omega2194]

I can understand the pain and and sorrow that young woman went through when her violin and bow were taken away. My parents really care about studying and getting good marks, but I had an audition for a scholarship coming up so I practiced more than I studied. Sometimes for hours on end. Eventually my mum told me that I wasn’t allowed to touch the piano, listen to music or compose for a week, except for when I had lessons. This was such a big blow to me and it completely ruined me for the week. Ironically, I actually got less study done because I was so depressed about it. When I was finally allowed to play again, my hands were shaking so much I could barely play, so I just sat there, looking at the keys with my head in my hands. I would never suggest doing such a thing to a musician. We value our music and our instruments so much that when they are taken away from us, we feel so empty inside, as if there can never be happiness, let alone emotion in life again.

[@mertarican5456]

I wonder if taking stuff off from a kid ever worked in parent ing history. It is just accepting defeat. When my parents took the pc i fucked off to a net Cafe. When they took my books i fucked off to a library. Even if they take stuff i cant fix. I lie cheat and fix it some way else. It just makes you adapt. I still know how my Mothers footsteps sound like to quickly shut the door.

[@uneducatedtrashrat8180]

@@mertarican5456 To me taking away things is sort of a thing they do when they have nothing else they can think of or they don't care enough to actually make an effort to help.

[@peppermint424]

The first story... I wonder if they still seeing each other. If I was her, I would dump him right after buy a new bow...

[@shela404]

I love episodes where you two just sit and talk and spill tea 🍵

[@Tm4tm8]

The way they’re so rational and articulate themselves so well is *chef’s kiss* I support the right men!!

[@abigail40]

AYYYY ROUND TWO NOT THE QUALITY CONTENT WE WANTED BUT WE NEEDED

[@bambamjujuji]

the first thing i hear: “am i the a**hole?” me: ....this is gonna be interesting.

[@chia-iho]

eddy's emotional maturity really coming out this episode

[@woohoojazelyn]

i agreed with everything b&e said, especially when they addressed the ambiguity of these situations - but i will say, the story of that person who got asked to do lessons for $7 an hour? i probably would've answered the exact same way lmaooo

[@FromMyXP]

At least it wasn't for "exposure"...

[@Checkmate1138]

Lol, maybe. But you'd still be an *sshole, even though you'd be justified.

[@woohoojazelyn]

@@Checkmate1138 yeah agreed lol

[@mertarican5456]

I dont think that is assholeistic. It is just a wake up call lol.

[@emerster656]

that's half minimum wage

[@sabrinai]

Was so confused about the change of the thumbnail, thought for a second i've missed a twoset video XD

[@claraalaina50]

I just went through 2 whole ads without skipping I hope you guys know how much I love your channel

[@a.hollins8691]

Thank you for your sacrifice.

[@isozopiano]

The story about the daughter who had her violin taken made me very angry. Based on limited information, I concluded that the boy freind was working from home. That means she might have limited or inconsistent time to practice. I would find it very hard to severely cut down on time with my pride and joy to satisfy my moms boyfriend that she had only known for 3 months. Additionally, depending on the situation before the daughter and her mom moved in, I could see some assumed resentment towards the boyfriend based on the relationship with her former fatherly figure ended. So in short, YTAH for taking violin, and the boyfriend ITAH for making rules that restrictive against playing violin, and the daughter ITAH for not practicing lol. *ALL MY OPINION*

[@newbie4789]

Your opinion was almost right... But the daughter Isn't TAH na? You shouldn't expect a 15 y/o kid to act anyway else. And she not getting the audition... Well, restricted schedule plus last minute stress and fighting....

[@magdolyn]

I mentioned in another comment that this was posted on reddit during July 2020, from NYC, when everything there was exploding from the pandemic. If bf has a presentation, odds are that he's not essential and had been working from home. In a lockdown. When nobody can go anywhere, except for groceries and the doctor. She very likely had next to zero practice time. She's not the AH here, I can petty much guarantee it. ETA: I mean she as the daughter.

[@jen9814]

@@magdolyn not to mention the safety concerns like you've known this man for 3 months

[@TheAmmu21]

Is it me or is there a lot of psychoanalysis going on in this video. That was a good twoset therapy session.

[@lingshui_aiiyako]

4:02 I agree with Twoset that there isn’t enough information to tell us whether they are in the wrong however we can take multiple things into consideration. According to the mother, the daughter can only practice when the boyfriend is out of the house. However based on the story, it seems that the boyfriend stays home most of the time, meaning that the daughter most likely only has a few hours to practice every day (which is not good especially for an upcoming audition). Also the daughter could have school during the time the boyfriend is out of the house, meaning the amount of time to practice can decrease even further. Another thing to consider is that the mother decided to move in after 3 months of dating. A bit too short, especially since you expect your daughter to comply in basically a stranger’s house to her with a house rule (no music when boyfriend home) that completely restricts her from doing anything related to music (her passion) freely. Worst part is that she has an audition and it’s not something to take lightly. It’s the equivalent to failing and repeating a grade. The daughter’s reaction to you taking the violin was a bit extreme however it is understandable why she would act that way. Failing an audition (a make or break situation) is not easy to get over with especially since most people practice for hours on end to perfect their performance. The mother shouldn’t have prioritized the boyfriend more than her daughter. Instead she should have thought of a way to make both parties satisfied and not at each other’s throats. A way for the daughter to practice freely and a way for the boyfriend to do his work in a quiet space. She could’ve found a space for the boyfriend to work at or for the daughter to practice at or just not move in at all from the start. I don’t think anyone is completely in the wrong however based on the information shown, yes yta (to the mother).

[@jessiealexander3515]

In high school I taught a friend guitar for $20/half hour (all encompassing lessons). When I was in my early 20’s my dad voluntold me to teach the kids I was babysitting guitar and piano for free, for which he kind of made up the difference ($15/half hour together). Their parents were upset they weren’t getting any better, but they also were telling them NOT to practice at home. So glad I dropped them.

[@DoctorLazertron]

Number 3 makes me really appreciate how supportive my gf is. We very recently moved in together and I started violin about 2 weeks ago, and she’s always encouraging me even though it sounds awful and loud. She’ll pick on my playing sometimes but it sounds better every day and she hasn’t complained once.

[@hwingo35]

The second one with mom taking violin away, I’m over here yelling “why isn’t she taking the daughter’s side!!!!!” 🤬 Woman choosing her boyfriend over her kids are not deserving of respect in my opinion. 🤯🤬🤬

[@alostkoi]

The second case sounds more like "the house rules only apply to the only minor who clearely can't help but to make noise when she practices". Her mother sounds like an a$$ putting her daughter in that situation with a man she's been dating for some months.

[@NerdilyDone]

Why? There is nothing in the context provided to show house rules apply only to her.

[@deedeeen]

@@NerdilyDone I am very late into this, but please remember who had the instrument in the very first place.

[@windCR]

Can we appreciate 2set for providing such a variety of awesome content

[@squidwardart]

You can soundproof the room so that something FAR louder than violin playing wont be heard in the next room, like wtf how is that that big of a problem.

[@grantbmilburn]

The art of the deal: - I'll pay you $7.25 an hour to teach my son cello. -You must be joking! I pay MY teacher $40. But because I'm not as good as him, and because you're friends of the family, I'll give you a special offer: $30. - What ?! We're not THAT rich... OK... $12. -$25, and that's as low as I can go. -$15, take it or leave it. -$20? -Fine...$20...Can you be here at 4 pm tomorrow? -Sure...BTW does your son have a cello? -Oh...we need to supply the cello?

[@emerster656]

naw they rich, start higher like 80 and hour, work down to 40. Even better.

[@Pvnk_Eternal]

It definitely doesn't sound like the women with the child really thought it through with anyone, even the daughter. They all have needs and wants and they all need to be addressed when a family comes together. Smh

[@SuburbanPony]

You are both so perceptive! I expected just some comedy from this clip but you approached the situations with such mature opinions and so much compassion! Two Set moonlighting as therapists!!! 💖

[@circusmonkey28]

The boys seemed very fair with their judgements! But also it has me wondering if I'll ever be in sad toxic situations like this in the future. "Am I going to be the ass hole?" (ponders quietly and with fear)

[@elissahunt]

You will inevitably find yourself in difficult situations as you move through life. As long as you respect others, keep an even temper, and try to work out equitable solutions, you'll do okay.

[@fevre_dream8542]

Everyone is the asshole a few times in their life. Realizing and learning from mistakes is key.

[@mertarican5456]

Eventually you should be people mess stuff up. You some times pre judge. Some times you get furious. 🤷‍♂️

[@abigail40]

alt title: twoset reasoning being 100%

[@soumilsingh8585]

18 seconds ago, but I can't even watch right now lmao

[@emilydeangelis5382]

Yes, me too.😂😂

[@jeremya.9709]

My sister wanted me to teach her kids and I agreed but I can't do it regularly and every time she says things like "so you don't care about us right?", "it was your responsibility" etc. Once I wanted to quit because it started to get me mentally and she said the same thing... Gosh I feel awful...

[@MikeS7]

My old girlfriend would say something similar everytime I didn't do something she wanted. It's actually called manipulation and guilt tripping. My old girlfriend is actually my ex girlfriend now. Don't put up with that sort of crap

[@sethprice3995]

Check out the book "Boundaries" by Dr. Henry Cloud. It is really helpful in learning how to deal with these situations in a healthy way.

[@mertarican5456]

You can try to give examples/explain if she doesnt get it she isnt stupid she is using you and that shit is unforgivable.

[@circeeldritchworkaholicwitch13]

I came here faster than an Asian mother could brag about her 4 year old son with a master's degree in Harvard

[@a.hollins8691]

My three year old son have Nobel Peace Prize!

[@circeeldritchworkaholicwitch13]

@@a.hollins8691 My daughter win ten Grammies, 15 Oscars, and 70 Baftas when she was 7 month old!

[@briaharris183]

Nobel peace prize

[@mariamann8292]

@@briaharris183 My two month old daughter won the Nobel prize in Chemistry, Physics, Medicine, Literature and Peace.

[@enbiaroace]

My daughter became President, is the top student of Ling Ling and is a master musician, chef, and artist all at the same time before she's even born!

[@kallistique]

I used to avoid that sub because most of the entries make my blood boil lol but maybe I'll give it a visit today

[@introvert211]

I remember reading the second one on reddit, and even I was furious on behalf of the daughter. I thought the mom was completely in the wrong. “You can’t practice” but then turns around and says “you had plenty of time the day before your audition”. I’ve never played in an orchestra before, but I understand how important practicing for it and how important the audition is. The mom totally crushed her dreams and she should not have punished her daughter because her boyfriend is annoyed.

[@rchan9655]

I feel sorry for the 15-year-old girl in the 2nd story. Can't help wondering what place the daughter has in her own mom's heart!

[@yenniebels]

The last few anecdotes are some great examples of exploitations within the family, and I'm a major victim of it. It's very hard to refuse requests from family and they take advantage of that since refusing them can lead to huge feuds. It's already awkward to eat with them in family gatherings, not to mention having a conversation with them. The second story's so dangerous like bringing a 15 y/o girl to your "boyfriend's" house and already addressing him as the step dad when you've only been dating for 3 months? She's definitely the a**hole there.

[@kawaiigoomy3487]

I sympathize with the second girl, it reminds me of my stepfather. It's important to feel secure, safe, and valued in a new home. We don't know the whole story, but as the adults I feel the mom and boyfriend were in the wrong. The boyfriend needs to respect the daughter's emotional needs and understand that she was just uprooted. 🙅 I'd be so insecure if I felt I was walking on eggshells.

[@MayFongJosephineLoh]

Love this video. Brett and Eddy makes very good relationship advisors/ gurus. Eddy is very astute. If he is not a musician and youtuber, he does have a wide choice for career . In addition to being a doctor, I think a lawyer or prosecutor or a judge.

[@Mermzies]

Everyone's talking about the 2nd story lol but deservedly so, there really wasn't much empathy for the 15 year old who just moved in to some other dude's home and suddenly there's all these new rules, the parent look like they didnt even tried to understand that it could be tough for her daughter and didn't even seem to actually help them look for options, rly sad to see

[@honeyboohoo]

"I didn't like my daughter's tone" SIS SHE WOULDN'T SPEAK IN THAT TONE IF YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING TO HER. sheesh, some parents-

[@NerdilyDone]

She wouldn't speak in that tone if she were reasonable and didn't break a rule she knew for a fact affected her life.

[@honeyboohoo]

@@NerdilyDone your lover or your child Pick one

[@zsofigures2440]

remember every minute u spend with a girl could have been a minute practicing

[@sallyhamilton7202]

I never knew Brett & Eddy had minors in psychology. They are soooo good at figuring out the root of these problems!

[@maistanslegends]

wait do they actually?? or are you just saying cause they’re this good at giving advice? cause the last time i checked they went to music school...

[@mango6404]

@@maistanslegends nah they dont

[@MissTwoSetEncyclopedia]

Man, I wish there were more people like them. They're down-to-earth, know how to communicate efficiently, always try to put themselves in others' shoes and to understand the full picture. No wonder these two have been friends for 15 years despite being so different. Their parents can be proud, they raised them extremely well !

[@myname-mz3lo]

not really they are basic problems . only an idiot wouldnt understand the roots of those problems

[@michellebottorff9245]

Their ability to objectively understand the unspoken nuances is refreshing in a polarized world.

[@intersting3134]

Can we appreciate the fact that they look so good looking in their outfits.

[@nisaisler655]

Dude this concept is so good that i want ten more videos of it.

[@myname-mz3lo]

if someone tells your child not to practice their passion .... DUMP THEM ... your child comes before your need for romance have some responsability .

[@audreyt01]

huge congratz on the Holst collection for the whole team! all of the designs are sooo pretty!

[@jaredspence3020]

On the person who didn't want to be paid $7.50 for lessons. I was once told I should never do discounts for friends and family. Instead, ask yourself whether teaching the person for free is worth the investment in the relationship and, if not, charge full price. Rumours of discounts get around and soon you'll find that people are coming out of the woodwork trying to get that discount, and it causes issues when it comes time to increase your price or offload students when other endeavours start taking up more time. I taught my brother guitar for free because I love that guy and knew he would use the skill. I charged my cousin full price because I knew she has already tried and given up multiple hobbies, and my uncle was happy to make the investment if she enjoyed it. Full price or free is the best business advice I've ever received.

[@blueiron270]

OOOOF rip Editor San's ears, having to hear that high pitched sensoring sound so many times. WE LOVE ALL OF YOU AND YOUR HARD WORK, and thank you editor san for making these videos even funnier and better to watch.

[@tigerCola]

I love how after just watching a Beethoven symphony the first Twoset video on my recommended starts with a swear. perfect.