UK Police Urge Nigerian Wives To Stop Sending Husbands Out Of Home

[@favooured1]

If your wife is pestering you to sell all of your property in Nigeria in order to fund relocating abroad, be careful. Look before you leap. Ask some victims and you will hear stories!

[@merchantcharles1954]

Its a guarantee that you will have no marriage in less than three to seven years. Its a well thought out sysyem of "Family Destruction".The wicked pschologist has reversed roles: women are placed at the head of the family. She is empowered , she is financed and she is miseducated about culture. She puts oyt the husband, she collects a check and now she is burden down with all the family responsibilies. The kids get unruley and he / she affects negatively. Then the cry goes up " Where is the Father? " Society now blames the family disfunction on the abscent father that they exoelled from the house.

[@ononyerealestste8387]

@@favooured1 first of all pestering WHO It's MY PROPERTY I do with it whatever the FUCK I want unless she chipped in she has No Say just like we have no say in her government benefits

[@ihunanyachigozie6892]

​@@ononyerealestste8387see them. Always everywhere in social media

[@raymondabdu9569]

Let her sponsor herself simple!

[@olaitankorede2651]

I have advised many young Men against this. There is no Jesus in any woman, when they have upper hand against their Man. They can do and undo. I travel regularly and return to Nigeria after official trips in different countries. You are better and free in your country, irrespective of any economic issues. Even if the woman has 3 kids for you, she will change anytime she has the opportunity better than you. There are still few good women. However, the % of the sober and good ones are extremely low.

[@ikechukwuozigbu559]

Many Nigerian Marriages lack fundamental love

[@ghost7of7sparta]

Yep, nowadays it's all about money and economic upliiftment, nothing more. And one gender particularly focuses on these gains 😊

[@Dee___..]

@@ghost7of7spartaTo be fair, both genders are falling short in this aspect. No one is innocent or completely a victim in this.

[@chinazaokeke44]

Exactly. Nowadays it's all about money so when the broke woman goes to the UK with her husband, she will have equal opportunities of making good money then she won't need that her husband anymore. Since she makes her own money, she won't need him coz love ain't there.

[@James_150]

Men are in love women are in business

[@NileGoddess]

@@James_150not true

[@iwinitall3638]

I don't believe the UK Police really care about keeping the Nigerian family together. I believe the real reason is financial because it is causing an economic strain on the UK society.

[@OtherCrazyCritters-nn2ut]

Well then the UK needs to change some laws to reduce these kind of things. Its the same in the US. They damn near give bw an incentive to be single mothers now look at the black Amercan communities. Women arent meant to be the head of the household, things fall apart.

[@matildaturnbull1862]

I think the results of this behaviour is more social than economic, single lead families with no father figures lead to youth deliquency / criminality, which leads us to knife crime

[@nkeirukaatulomah9381]

@@iwinitall3638 I agree with you oooooo

[@TheDYNAMITE001]

😂😂

[@patrickadichie5494]

What a STUPID thing to say. No wonder your country is continuously falling from worse to various levels of hell on earth. In the UK we DO want the family to stick together as it is better for the children and society as a whole. But we do not want abusive families. If the Metropolitan police (which covers the Greater London area therefore is not the national police force) have made these recommendations then it is an issue. All you guys think about is money. Yes we only want those in dire need to get help as to prevent a strain on the budget but the budget is not much to actually live on. But we try to make sure no one goes hungry. It's not the money it's about what happens to the children. Single parent home are a bedrock of kids in gangs and crime which leads to more problems for them and society as a whole. I know it's very difficult for people like you to think of problems affecting your pocket but not society as a whole.

[@AdedokunMercyCareFoundation]

Mayor Akinpelu need to understand that no matter how much you “tush” your wife, she’s not you maid. In USA and UK, the couple both have to work full time sometimes two jobs. The secret to happy marriage in these countries is helping each other. The life of side chick is hard to maintain in these countries. Get that into you head. The lives your grandparents lived is gone.

[@MEstylz]

In principle yes, however, nobody forced this people into the situation they are in. What happened to discussing with your partner extensively. There is a solution to the issue but when there is no love. The solution will always yes be the wrong one because no benefit of doubt is given.

[@tahariobi391]

I worked with Nigerian Nurses in Atlanta. Their husband would drop them off and tell them to find shifts to work from 7am-11:30pm. These women would come to work with black eyes. They spoke of female castration, husband's taking all the money they earn, and adulterous husband's. It was really sad because these women Never left these husband's because they saw divorce as shameful. Smh. All that is happening is the women are fed up!!!

[@Denny_Abraham]

Ridiculous! Do not generalize your personal situation. The men work really hard and takes good care of their kids. I’m in the system and I know. The root cause is that suddenly, the women become indisciplined and disrespectful. Not to talk of sleeping around under the guise of “freedom” from men. Thousands of men have been rendered homeless and their lives ruined. I better stop here🤣

[@theancientsancients1769]

Ah dat is wicked love 🖤

[@barbaraamoah8219]

​@@Denny_Abraham let me ask you. Do women deserve respect or it's only men?

[@Denny_Abraham]

@@barbaraamoah8219 of course we do, and FYI, I’m a woman. I know my gender very well

[@albah289]

​@@barbaraamoah8219 women are respected and deserve to be. But this feminism and bad advice from friends have consumed a lot of Black and African women.

[@markonogholo3885]

I have been with my wife in UK for 17 years my wife treats me like a king

[@edoreemmanuel4250]

Na your wife.not majority man

[@ashimiwonder5442]

Not every women will be like your wife... She valued you that's why

[@banjoemmanuelo.3255]

Her orientation is superb, there is a saying in my county: Bibiire ko see fowora.

[@banjoemmanuelo.3255]

Your wife has good home training.

[@sunnycnn1060]

One in a million

[@katebanda5852]

Honour one another, not one sided because this will be a lasting relationship.

[@IcanisaFc]

The only way to stop the rubbish is to send both out of that country as soon as anyone of them reports of incompatibility

[@olamilekandaniel8965]

You are right

[@douglasogboyi1029]

Exactly, if this action is implemented the nonsense will stop.

[@afolabifatusin7211]

Send them both out of uk, and the woman will learn sense quick

[@gbengaorukotan7350]

​@@douglasogboyi1029💯

[@beatriceokello3276]

You are right. This is what should be done. Men fear women and that's why many men from Africa are not married and they don't want to hear anything about it.

[@shaltale9723]

Marriage is not slavery if you both have full-time jobs husbands need to do their part within the home.

[@gpmjozi706]

That's nonsense... a woman is a woman and a man is a man with their different roles. So keep your nonsense to yourself.

[@paternebengehya2167]

I know a lot of American white women who do all the cooking and kitchen jobs in their home, yet have full time jobs. Some were our neighbors, and sometimes could come in our house to cook for our kids some American recipes... You black Africans should be careful trying to imitate things that will tear your family apart, especially if you have kids... Just saying.

[@AdaideTV]

What works for a marriage might not work b. Understanding is the key to marriage. Husband should be able to help in house chores.

[@ataurusqueenofzion916]

You are referring to Red necks and trailer trash. No we African women are winning sorry not sorry.​@paternebengehya2167

[@Iwantallmymoney2024]

@@paternebengehya2167 you are lying!! No white women is in the kitchen all day after work. They will take their kids to fast food before they cook. Stop lying 😂😂😂😂

[@ruggiec.ruggleby6511]

Don't beat your wife and there won't be a reason for the police to get involved.

[@maureentaylor8745]

Exactly 💯 don't beat your wives and you won't have a problem. These two are narcissist and control freaks. The same problems that these people had in Nigeria with their spouses, they bought their disfunction to America and the UK, stop crying, womanizers.

[@HassanTaiwo-r7r]

The majority don't beat their wives. Some women are just losing their sense when they stepped outside Nigeria.

[@austinjohn8713]

if the crime is beating you will be in prison. stop being an illiterate

[@maureentaylor8745]

@austinjohn8713 it's a fact that the women are still treated like property and slaves. If you still think you own another human being as property, this means that it's not a matter of being illiterate, it just means there needs to be a heart change, New attitude and new mindset. If the women were allowed to be partners in the marriage, Nigeria wouldn't have had so many issues. When the women get a taste of freedom and respect, they feel empowered. Do away with oppression. It's a form of slavery. No one wants to be owned as an animal or property.

[@danielkelvin42]

Don't beat anyone. But you havent met evil Nigerian women

[@ernestese6501]

Nigerian women will always show themselves. Indian women are the most humble women in the US.They are mostly nurses and at the same time they remain humble all the time

[@nikkione9901]

Indian women are not nurses , they work in tech. Research before you type nonsense. Also , you don’t live in the same home as Indians.

[@handsonlabssoftwareacademy594]

... exactly...poverty mentality

[@KwabenaAdams-zs9eq]

Even here in Malta 🇲🇹 ​@@handsonlabssoftwareacademy594

[@yinkajala]

IT, not nursing.

[@MsjennyForbes]

U de follow them cry for house?

[@videosworthsharing6086]

That part, "It is our people who are exploiting an unfortunate situation" hit it at the right spot. 🤣🤣🤣.

[@kasikwagoma6740]

If the British police are sounding the alarm, trust the British to start adjusting some aspects of the law to say the woman must prove conclusively that there is violence from the man before ejecting him from the home. They may even start interviewing the children, the GP to see if the woman was abused by the man and also ask the local police to see if many reports were lodged with them to prove that the woman was being abused. That is how the British are. They changed the rules when too many Nigerians were flying into the country to get healthcare treatment on the NHS, they changed the rules about pregnant Africans jetting into the country and applying for housing after giving birth here. We should stop abusing good laws that are meant to be used to help us when we are in trouble, not to use them to settle scores, grudges and grievances.

[@kelikel2]

This could make things much more difficult for real victims of domestic abuse.

[@nnennaokorafor9569]

Nigerian men do not understand that there are no maids or helps in the diaspora. Husbands and wives help each other to make life easy. A culture that the man comes back from work and the woman comes back from work and the woman goes to the kitchen and does all the chores does not work in the diaspora. This can lead to bitterness and expressed bitterness can lead to violence. There are many Nigeria families that are together because they know how to adjust in a new country

[@TheresiaNchendia]

​@@nnennaokorafor9569 Are you saying is because of house chores that has caused women to call police for their husbands??? Is your own point . What i know and believed is because of the advantages single mothers has. Which is destroying family values. Must you eat at home?? Why are indians respecting their husbands.

[@bamdymanny2839]

It's clear you are an unbeliever. Even God places man over the woman. That's why you have delinquent children all over UK​@@nnennaokorafor9569

[@jamesodiba4420]

​@@nnennaokorafor9569changing your geographical settings does not change your origin. Chores in the home should be what both spouses sit down together to discuss and lend helping hand to each other!

[@motshabimorulane8023]

This misogynistic thinking is tiring. Women rights are human rights.

[@TheDYNAMITE001]

Please shut up, women have everything but still manage to make themselves the victim. And you will spend his money o, lay low until the time is right to become a devil, is that not satanic?

[@comradepatrickabalakaachor1210]

No be only. Abeg go and sit down

[@TheDYNAMITE001]

@@comradepatrickabalakaachor1210 No mind am, L comment

[@johnsonowulo143]

I don't blame you. Neither do I blame UK government. I only blame the Nigerian men who will be fuuullliiissh enough to take their wives to the UK.

[@thabanindlovu2334]

Come on ,I have worked with a naija women who had a good job than his husband and made her kids disrespect their dad, So sad of what I have witnessed, not from Naija but Naija women don't have love ,but compete for materials

[@anngore3842]

😂😂😂😂😂**The culture shock for many men is discovering that in some societies such as the UK women are accorded human rights**

[@brendangwira7998]

yes

[@blaqhebrew]

Just as cats and dogs are accosted more rights than humans. Shame.

[@anngore3842]

​@@blaqhebrew Wow! What a loaded comment?

[@blaqhebrew]

Add gays and deers to the list​@@anngore3842

[@chicochyms68]

Rubbish. Women misbehave even in Naija. It all depends on who you married. It's poverty mentality that is worrying all these ladies. My brothers, do not carry any poor girl abroad for rehabilitation, to give her a good life. Marry an educated working class lady

[@RadioTV595]

Bro, The UK has a very highly educated, well-led and informed police force. They are aware that every community has its own issue whether it be honour killings, arranged marriage among Asians or whatever, they will study and address it. They often seek to recruit people from these communities to join the force for inclusivity. And at one time they were looking for Yoruba speakers to join. In this particular case, the police were addressing Yoruba women not anyone else. The full video is available online. But somehow, some people out there would rather twist the narrative and get everyone else embroiled in order to avoid addressing their own issue. Now the simple advice to a single, specific Nigerian community has morphed into Nigerian women, African women, black women...bullocks.

[@blessingajisafe6915]

Here is the deal. That nonsense is most common among Yoruba women in the U.K. No two ways about it. Meanwhile in the U.S, the scourge is mostly Igbo women, and in the EU, it more present among Edo, Esan women. It's actually embarrassing

[@shalom101-k9r]

When you are in Rome, behave like the Romañs. There's a lot of pressure in the diaspora. Please don't misinterpret respect for bullying, violence and abuse against African women. Also marry where you are. Stop going to Africa to pick up a village girl. Marry where you are. Respect your partners irrespective remember that you are both sharing bills. Respect each other. When you get there as a family unit you need to LEARN, UNLEARN, RELEARN.

[@SugarcaneBaby]

I have seen a case where the woman threatened to frame the man up when the man started making videos of her coming back home late and sometimes being dropped by other men. Is that still violence and abuse against African women? Y'all tend to cry about abuse when y'all are the most abusive set of women on the planet. Rest abeg

[@samuels2454]

You think most men don't do the right?? Women are just taking advantage of the law, call a Spade a Spade, The police are the ones complaining.

[@LeeviZeph]

Based on statistics, Africa has the second highest number of women killed by their partners. If you add the cases that are not reported, Africa could be # 1 in the world about abuse, murder of women by partners. So, those men come to the UK with the same attitude , the women know that they have rights in the UK, so, they don't take this abuse anymore

[@SugarcaneBaby]

@@LeeviZeph and based on statistics,Africa has the highest number of women involved in paternity fraud..let's go ahead and quote statistics to support evil

[@martaaparecidadopatrocinio4490]

@@LeeviZeph those who wants change are those for whom the situation not good.

[@susansue6531]

The UK society doesn't accept mistreatment of women as Nigeria does. That's the issue here. Respect women and you will find yourself on the good side of the law.

[@PMcK-pc6nc]

Spot on and this guy made a remark about white mens behaviour etc.This is not about colour its about cultural differences.

[@Gorgeous493]

Louder.

[@ojoabiodunsaiki132]

Hmmm. When nobody married you, you were begging praying day and night. Now you have one, you suddenly claiming right

[@daniel1132channel]

Absolutely 💯

[@jesusislord7879]

​@@ojoabiodunsaiki132marriage you? Cant even speak proper English and you are trying to belittle women.

[@olabisibhadmus4157]

All I know is that women like comfort, they like solace. If you give your wife these cares, you will be treated like a king. Women are not insane

[@ForGhana.n.Africa]

Yes, You're not insane; most of you are only selfish, greedy and insatiable.

[@yawos9024]

So tell us why Bill Gates' wife and Bezos' wife left them? Do you realize men also want peace of mind? Black American women have been nagging the men that these days they prefer foreign women. Go figure! African women are becoming what has created broken homes in the West. I know my rights bs. You think the law gives a hoot about the welfare of the black family? They laws were made to protect white women, if you cared to know.

[@MavenWalsh]

We all know that's a lie. All of it aside from women liking comfort. Try again.

[@chiarasantoro8885]

The one the spends hours on their phones once home are MEN. NO WOMEN. WE RUN AROUND ALL DAY TAKING CARE OF THE HOUSE AFTER A DAY OF WORK.

[@MavenWalsh]

@@chiarasantoro8885 Oh heck, you all are not from the West. because it's _just the opposite_ of what you just said in the West. The women can't get off their phones/social media long enough to take care of anything. I'll see my way out.

[@butterflybee13]

Yes I’m a woman but this has gotten out of hand. Don’t call the cops on your husband, throw him out and still expect him to pay for care. Stop jailing our men. You can resolve this amicably or get a peaceful divorce. There’s ups and downs in marriage that doesn’t mean things should be done in bitterness. Think of the children. Tomorrow the children may become unhappy, depressed in life, have low self esteem or even become a serious problem to you and the society all this pain they feel it sometimes, the absence of a parent. Then they say the child is having mental breakdown, how?

[@philderrick6305]

Smart comment

[@kellyedey8573]

Nigerian Man need to look to Chinese women.

[@kingpk4429]

Some women are foolish. When their boys start giving problems they run to those men.

[@susansue6531]

There is no man that gets thrown in jail for a marital disagreement. When he becomes physical and assaults her, he deserves jail

[@Mabeltrots]

Seriously I have a friend in prison right now because of this same issue but he Mexican. It’s really a serious issue.

[@bolasalak7360]

It's unfortunate we abuse every good thing handed over to us. The law was made to prevent exploitation and maltreatment against women but our women has turned it to a thriving "business" prefer money over their family harmony thus raising generation of disgruntled children who had no value for family system promoting another generation "slaves"

[@midomalt]

sense

[@Matt-z4q]

True talk, most of those Nigerian women are terrible

[@charlesonije9760]

Completely true

[@EbukaMark-cu1bk]

You are wise

[@dennisemmanuel3131]

Good analysis

[@HumanProgramming]

This is a simple question of VALUES. Our women do not have values. What they love is money. Marriage itself for most is merely a Poverty Alleviation Program. If not, why change according to circumstances? No values. Marriage is not a way to “make it”.

[@priceelesslove8846]

Our women? Including all the women in your life, sisters, female cousins and the woman that give birth to you? No insult am just asking a question.

[@ghost7of7sparta]

@priceelesslove8846 yes, even all the women in my life, even all the women in your family, even you if you're a woman....that's how naija women are wired in this generation. Their dream is to just become "oga's wife" and live a laid back life of luxury. He is right, our women got no values, they mostly marry in this generation with the aim of getting lifted economically. Now that you've heard what you want to hear, please rest and quit being defensive.🥱

[@HumanProgramming]

@@priceelesslove8846 of course you’ll have a rebuttal. Why haven’t we heard your voice speaking against the irresponsibility that most of our women have become in Nigeria? They have even made it a fad. Like it’s the in thing. You’ll come here talk? Go and advise your gender before they destroy all the generations following!

[@willimmichel2322]

This issue is happening all over Africa. It's not only Nigerians. I'm a Ghanaian who brought my partner to London twice. First she was refused entry and have to do it second time We have two boys and she sta🎉rted cheating, Everyday in the house becomes arguments, I decided to move out for peace to rain

[@ceasercharisma1335]

​@@willimmichel2322That's sad, bro. I hope things get better for you soon. This marriage thing abroad is a two edged sword...scary😢.

[@stephenokerewa337]

This trend was not this bad until there a strong call among Nigerians for divorce and walk away from marriages after the death of mrs Osinachi of the blessed memories. I strongly detest any form of brutality from the men but i still advocate for patience and understanding. I also think that God's position remains paramount for peace and guidance in our marriage life.

[@abodemetto8127]

Abuse of any form is unacceptable.

[@GoldenGoth]

How about stop cheating, beating and mistreating those women. Why do you expect these women to accept abuse??

[@123kjaah]

I agree that any mistreating in a relationship is wrong but please intelligently look at the bigger picture, many women not only Nigerian women are now using the system as a weapon against the man. In this case they could never ever be peace. This is a horrible practice that women uses the system to destroy men and a lot of men will not lay down and take it, and many end up going to prison because they can't take it no more... Nigerian should take on the worse of the Western mindset...

[@philipchirchir7035]

African traditions are similar, for any lasting relationship woman loves to be queens but not the head of the family. I remember my dad was great father and use to tell me great wife need beating occasionally like we do to our children because they are children together. 😂😂

[@daniel1132channel]

@@GoldenGoth Exactly

[@Uncle-Basil]

There are many women on instagram who admit to divorcing a perfectly good husband...because they were bored or they wanted to "find themselves". Then they get child support and sometimes alimony, the house, etc. leaving the man devastated.

[@Sochi-u3y]

Was I expecting you not to find an example regardless of how useless it is?

[@wubdob9501]

And the Bible says men love and honor your wife.

[@austinjohn8713]

The bible did not say men should honor their wives

[@chibuzoibe3153]

Why are you quoting half of what God said? Balance it by quoting what God also told wives. 'Wive submit to your husband as you would Jesus Christ because your husband is the head of the family." The two have their roles to play in obeying the instructions given to them by their creator to build a healthy peaceful family.

[@chijiokehenryamadi7855]

It’s Man love your wife. Women honor your husband

[@Ojay_Babs]

There's an endemic culture of lawlessness in Nigeria, and you're witnessing the exportation of that aspect of our culture abroad. Yes, women are treated better in Europe and America, but why is it mainly Nigerian women who exploit the situation to drive their husbands out of their matrimonial homes? Why are women from other parts of the world not behaving the same way if it's a question of women being treated better in the UK and the US?

[@johnnwa-mazi7538]

It's because Nigerian women believes that they are wiser or should I say open eyes more than other women but that's not true. Nigerian women are NOT more educated than Indian women yet they are very hardworking and very humble. I have many of them as friends. Secondly, majority of Nigerian women don't really marry for love, majority of them got married just because the man was living abroad or has money so when they get there they will show their true colors.

[@NileGoddess]

Nigerian women are tough and don’t put up with shit other African women are intimidated and not tough

[@Mak_Baron]

Ghanaian men are facing the same problem

[@terwasevictorsesugh3902]

Other African men are facing it too.

[@karlmbolidi6801]

All African men face the situation it's revenge from African women using the system to destroy African men

[@evolution247ov]

This is happening in the UK it is a grave mistake to marry and bring her to UK. Nigeria women are like that it cut across all tribe unfortunately.

[@uzoruzor1926]

Bringing your wife abroad is the worst mistake a man can do. Once you start seeing a red flag in a woman, please relocate alone and leave her in Nigeria. These women are manipulative and dangerous.

[@muritalaakande69]

I love your sincerity

[@TheWisdomRoom]

And many white women have done the same thing to black men, yet it enjoy all white women. Yet it’s not all Nigerian women that are like that too

[@lTandermthrust2001]

​@@muritalaakande69no cohort is immune to this scourge.

[@Poectormum]

Excluding Hausa women.

[@Faline68]

Dating and courtship culture is dead, hence why people tend to change after marriage. Know yourself and know the true ways of the person you're with before marriage

[@Lipshameless]

Take a woman from Nigeria to Europe or America at your own risk!

[@alexoriakhi9540]

Laugh… Nigerian women have poor mentality mindset

[@MavenWalsh]

DITTO. The Western ideology corrupts them. The West is screwed thanks to feminism.

[@chiarasantoro8885]

Yes, exactly. You want a sex slave, a cook a cleaner and don't want her to realise God give her a brain and gifts, talents, ideas, and dreams. These things don't serve your SELFISH purpose of having food and sex at your leisure.

[@GgaskiaAta]

It is very sad indeed for UK police to advice Nigerian women not to stop throwing out the man. My advice to both men and women abroad is to unlearn certain cultural habits that get in the way and learn new habits that can help them to survive, for the sake of the children and our people back home and their own health

[@florenceproctor8830]

Nigerian MUST stop trampling down on women emotionally, financially and mentally. No Nigerian would just throw a well behaving understanding man out of the house. There is no excuse for ABUSE.

[@Boombastic82]

A real African Man is not a bully, he is a provider, he dont want his woman to suffer. A real African man is a protector He gives his family cover. He has been made handicapped and disadvantaged but still his ultimate desire is to be a real Man.

[@carolineawinja4635]

That's very true. The main problem for me, they bring you in Europe then shortly you learn that they have started another family in African. When this happens you notice that the man is irresponsible either because he can't provide as before or he has shifted attention to the second family. The first wife will see no need of having this man. Men of this days won't treat two women equal. You will just sense danger.

[@yawos9024]

One white American who knows Africans once said African men take care of their families. Most African women love to place the financial burden on the men even if they are making money. Not even Black American women do that. Our women are so conniving and treacherous. Some guy told me these days Africa men are moving to foreign women. We are abused, maligned, and then made to be the villains. God no die!

[@whatmymamanamedme]

Sounds like the same thing that happened to us Foundational Black Americans in the 1960's but it was by design to break up our marriage rates The reason we were able to survive fight build and make way for others "blacks" be here was because of family. Nation building starts at home with a family on one accord as a people

[@Boombastic82]

Today if I want to move to Canada I am expected to write an exam that costs me nearly hundred dollars. This is quite a sum in our currency, secondly I will make visa application of about $8k. That is a very huge sum in my country. It can almost build a small 3 bedroom bungalow. There are other fees that I can't mention. All these hassles to come and work in a kitchen or ware house from am to pm. And as a black man you face the most systematic evil racism and descrimination. The food is not organic, the water is full of chemicals, the cold, the bills, your woman will always be against u, you loose your value as a man, you loose your family and eventually your life. pressure, the hectic nature, so many evil things. I rather be in Africa. I just pray the west don't bring their wars to us and chase us into slavery. They are fighting us in our land because of our resources

[@PaulNdanike]

It's a terrible thing. Most Nigeria women in the US and UK do that without any offense from men. The man, in most cases, doesn't have to do anything wrong for to call the police on him. She will just come up with lies and the police will act on it and give the man a restraining order. It's indeed terrible

[@ola-oodua2499]

Then the men should protest those laws or are they outright wimps already?

[@1234544621]

This is not true. There is something the men are doing. I live in the UK

[@yawos9024]

They have become so evil. Eventually, they pay for such malice and folly.

[@yawos9024]

@@ola-oodua2499 The laws favor the women. One white American guy once told me this after his divorce. The result is broken homes.

[@ola-oodua2499]

@@yawos9024 so terrible damn

[@jennyrobo5131]

OMG, these 2 men are so ignorant of what is going on, in no point did they stop and talk about what the men are doing to the women that makes them call for help because they don’t have the strength to fight for themselves. I’m not saying women are perfect but please men talk to your fellow men to learn and unlearn the values of life just as the host was trying to point out even though she wasn’t saying it well, please please Nigeria men stop all these oppression. The fact that you brought your partner abroad and asked her to go to Nursing school as these men claims, it’s not the end of life, that doesn’t mean your partner is now your slave. Love her, support her, respect her, (vice versa) , build a healthy and peaceful home, trust me every other thing will come easy. This broadcast didn’t teach us anything sorry.

[@kunledaniel4066]

This is one of the carefully curated comments on here. We have learned absolutely nothing from these men. Is the problem the British police complaint or the embarrassment we face as Nigerians? I have lived in the UK for years and am currently in North America. Here are a few fun facts. Domestic abuse in Canada today is highest among two groups of migrants: the Nigerians and the Indian community. The complaints from the police is simply to reduce the pressure on taxpayer pounds each time officers are deployed to de-escalate domestic violence or knife crimes among the children we have failed. Any home with cracks in Nigeria will crack further when you relocate. The reason is simple, people don't prepare for relocation. Manage your expectations: You have economic, psychological and cultural orientation preparedness. The failure of most Nigerian men and women to adapt to the changes and challenges of their new environment is the reason for domestic abuse leading to the police involvement. The problem isn't nursing school or IT jobs, it is the individual's lack of insight and consideration for their spouse and personal family dynamics. We must not sell the false narrative that a particular profession makes a person disrespectful. You can't be a housewife in Nigeria who pays no bills and expects to continue the same lifestyle here. You also cannot expect a woman who has spent 12 hours on her feet to come home, take care of kids, and start serving you pounded yam at night when you come home from an 8-hour job. Always express fairness, empathy, and consideration for one another. I have had to save Nigerians from jail time and deportation by helping them agree to commit to a structured program for 26 weeks on anger management, behavioral therapy, and communication skills. They all argue at the beginning but guess what? They mostly emerge as sterling people in the end, provided they stay for the duration of the program. The alternative is to have a criminal conviction cemented on you so they behave. The women might have their peculiar problems, but what kind of man beats his wife and expects her not to call the police? Do you beat your female coworkers when you are upset in the office? You don't because you understand the consequences. Remember, the impact of abuse on your children!! They either gravitate towards that in the future or condone abuse because it looked normal growing up. You come from Nigeria with bad driving habits but suddenly unlearn to pass a test and behave better because of stiff consequences. What stops you from being a better husband or wife, What stops you from being a better communicator? What stops you from helping your wife or husband out with the kids and the bills? What stops you from taking anger management classes? What stops you from behavioral therapy. The church and the pastors are not trained or equipped to de-escalate these situations and that is why a tone of domestic abuse is within the church community is on the rise. If we don't start to educate our men better as the head of the home, a lot of them will end up in jail living in the west. The ripple effect will be, broken homes, and badly brought up boys and girls who might end up in crime or teenage pregnancy. Disclaimer: Not every single parent house hold ends up this way.

[@ijeomastar133]

​@@kunledaniel4066, thank you sir for your very informed contribution and also for preferring. Those who are wise will learn.

[@oyeyemiijaola2868]

God bless you,exactly my point. Until men learn and see that it is a core responsibilities for them to love,respect, cherish, value and be supportive to their wives,we will continue to have issues in marriages . And another funny narratives I've been getting anytime issue like this is raised on social media is that men take their wives abroad . Really...... What about women who suffered and sacrificed abroad to bring her husband, and the man ended up maltreating her . I can say categorically that women who took their husband abroad are more than men.

[@faithsrealtalk2292]

​@@kunledaniel4066The most educated and balanced response on this topic. I'm not Nigerian but I agree with this. Eastern Europeans in UK face similar situations when adapting to UK. Funny thing is how Scandinavian countries have even more rights for women in comparison to USA or UK. I wonder what these men would say to Black African men living in Sweden,Denmark or Finland?

[@marysalako6156]

The Number of Women who brought Husbands from The Villages are more than the Men bringing Women.

[@blaqhebrew]

You're just talking because you want to talk abi? Ask those women who brought their husbands to UK and majority will tell you how it was their husbands who sponsored them in the first place.

[@fridayoshiotse7226]

Big fat lie

[@kingtersoo1]

You must be out of your mind. Let's even look at the dynamics of how things are in Nigeria, or most African countries. Usually it's the men who first, go out there to find greener pastures compared to the women who mostly rely on men to do for them. It's the men who first hustle and find means to travel overseas and eventually bring the women over from the village or town.

[@gbengaorukotan7350]

Big fat lie

[@lekanbalogun186]

Really? Where did you get your statistics from? Even if that is the case: does that justify the nonsense being done by those women? Wait, are you for real?

[@bakindeakindapo9618]

Make Nigerian men dey cook and wash plates too. She cant come back from work and be cooking for you.

[@EromhoseleOriabure]

Mugu

[@comradepatrickabalakaachor1210]

Baba, na zero you be oh

[@bakindeakindapo9618]

@EromhoseleOriabure you saw a comment on KZbin and the best thing that you can say about it is a insult?

[@sofiatatanda]

This conversation is skewed. Men should unlearn many things. I’m not absolving women of faults but Nigerian men should do better. The man on cap is justifying cheating as a good thing but this same person would not tolerate it if it was the woman that cheated.

[@Peggyg13]

What should Nigerian men unlearn ? when you reach abroad that’s when Nigerian men suddenly need to unlearn so many things.

[@osajareoladimeji9411]

​@@Peggyg13why are Nigeria men married to Kenya, Uganda, and European not having such issues with their wives?

[@Peggyg13]

@@osajareoladimeji9411 Because this other women are not burdensome. They are reasonable and realistic unlike Nigerian women who just function on emotions & reckless calculation . Our single mother rate are extremely high therefore contributing to societal ills . So many lost generations of young black Nigerian men without their fathers because their mother have made it so.

[@templekanu6740]

Who told you it is the men cheating in most cases?.

[@obaroaluya3762]

Why will he tolerate that..? Who married who & whose culture is at play here. I thought its a African agelong culture where traditional men have the right to marry as many. That's where we hail from. Rber..! And it was an accepted norm

[@amlovinglife]

Nigerian men complain too much! I am a Nigerian man and my wife is nigeria too but we both work and do house chores together, except,of course when she's pregnant I do most of the things.

[@antony6799]

Please do a DNA test, you might be raising another man's kids,any woman that lets you do house chores doesnt love you and is probably cheating on you

[@Moabayi-yf6ul]

I guess you just got married? Wait now, it’s coming …

[@diligenceeke3023]

​@@Moabayi-yf6ul Hahaha...

[@Avy999]

@@Moabayi-yf6uldid you read his comment before commenting?he mentioned his wife. Nigerian men want to marry incubators, chef,money machine,sex machine.not considering that she is a human being.

[@damilolababarindeadeniyi-a3248]

MAY YOUR MARRIAGE BE BLESSED WITH LAUGHTER AND JOY IN THE NAME OF JESUS AND THOSE WHO SAY OTHERWISE SHALL BE THE ONES THAT WILL NEVER BE IN THIER OWN LIVES AND MARRIAGES.

[@opelnnaji1214]

Unfortunately, the lady that was murdered is not alive to speak for herself.

[@anngore3842]

@opelnnaji 💯.So one sided and simplistic.

[@Ghuyu33]

By her Nigerian husband?😮

[@john9030]

​@anngore3842 You're right. She's not here to speak for herself, but the audio spoke volumes. I suggest you listen to it if you can get hold of it. It's quite harrowing listening to the man lamenting and crying to the police before he shot his wife and then himself. That's the part that they missed out. I'm not saying she deserved it, but she did something so horrible to that man that he felt it was the only way out. So sad!

[@JanetHernandez-rr9rb]

This is why women are choosing to leave​@@john9030

[@anyawaleofondo]

What lady.

[@Haganezuka_San]

It is wrong to tell a woman to stay in thr marriage knowing the man has many girlfriends. If women should accept that then men should accept the woman having many men. It's that simple.

[@Blackgirlproblems2022]

Co sign

[@MeekAduan]

I like how the uk police complaint was on the southwesterners, but these 2 tribal biased commentataors kept ignoring the Yoruba issues, and focused on anecdotal examples of southeastern people to vilify them. The obsession and hatred is real. Focus on your people leave ndigbo alone. The complaint from the uk police is about Yoruba couples.

[@ChimezieOkoro-rb6yu]

Hahahaha they most add igbos nightmare

[@aghareseaishida7354]

Goshhh! You are terrible!!! You are the one being a fucking tribalism here… they were just making examples. Muat you make everything tribal? When people are speaking you guys often just don’t want to hear the truth you keep on listening to what will be said of the other tribe… instead of you to take the good side and leave tribe out of it. Every time tribal issues!

[@Boombastic82]

Yoruba women are not easy to live with. This is not tribalism. Even in Nigeria a lot live seperated from their husbands. I am a middle belt man who is married to a yoruba woman. Nothing is enough for them oo

[@tonyebiere551]

mainly , Lagos women , not really Yoruba.

[@cryptoelai4380]

This is very true, an average Yoruba woman is lousy, hypocritical and very promiscuous. Alot of them in Lagos ate single mothers, and it's a huge turn off

[@cryptoelai4380]

It's even worse if they know that you are not their fellow Yoruba, them go begin look down on you.

[@Boombastic82]

@@cryptoelai4380 you are very very correct

[@jamessquare]

So women can learn that they no longer have to take foolishness but husbands can't be expected to learn to be respectful towards their village-girl wives.

[@damilolababarindeadeniyi-a3248]

The story looooooooooong mad ppl that hate thier mothers are all over these comments and those two men brought hate messages towards women from hell and God will judge them both.

[@balogunolurotimiidowu3553]

😮imagine even foreign countries understood the abuse it’s so sad 😞

[@florahoko5700]

Trouble 😂

[@peterroosh8114]

I’ve always wondered why Nigerian men in UK love women from other African countries 🤔

[@yvybills1234]

TVC News this is a very important topic and I was expecting some fair debate on this topic. Instead we have heard from.only two men who seem to be so biased in their analysis. I donot question the truth in the stories they shared but we need an unbiased discussion. It would be good to hear from some one who understands why this is prominent with nigerian women. I am not Nigerian byt African living in Europe and marraige in Europe between africans need both to understand the system and support each other. E.g. husband and wife both work 12 hrs shifts and husband expects the wife to cook everyday? I don't mind cooking and I love it as this is how I was brought up for mynhusband. luckily my husband understands and takes some time to cook sometimes. Until issues like these are discussed and both decide how they want to support each other in the marriage, I am afraid the situation will not change. Great topic anyway but very biased guests.

[@PrincessK23]

In all of this, there are still good, respectful Nigerian women out here...in everything you do, just put God first

[@ayonicforza5120]

Just put God first to marry and get thrown out. It better you let your wife stay back home and send money to her and the kids. All women are the same

[@ChimezieOkoro-rb6yu]

Forget God here but there is amazing woman 100percent

[@damilolababarindeadeniyi-a3248]

​@@ChimezieOkoro-rb6yuYou shall also be forgotten. Dirty soul u have forgotten who made you. You shall be forgotten

[@ChimezieOkoro-rb6yu]

@@damilolababarindeadeniyi-a3248 everything god people doing evil 😈 calling God your own soul is dead idiot

[@TheDivineblessin]

lol who love God like our African sisters and brothers 😂

[@bafemiplus1999]

This kind of scenerio doesn't happen often among Indians and Asians in the UK . Nigerian community are just trying to emulate the West.

[@isaacadewusi6480]

Thank you gentlemen for your contribution on this topic. I only want to add that it’s very disheartening for a foreign Police institution to be telling our women how to behave. It’s very unfortunate. I hope our Nigerian women are listening.

[@omonoabc652]

They are not listening. There are good families, but the ones we are talking about are not listening. You should see them. People also know them, this is not a secrete.

[@stevereigns9559]

​@@omonoabc652it is actually very shameful having to be corrected or advised in this manner by the white police people

[@bneedam.3217]

Women fear them..there are with u for better for better not for worse.

[@graciedee8248]

The police never said that. Made up narrative.

[@Gorgeous493]

​@stevereigns9559 simply because they can't behave and treat their women well.

[@marieclairenjeimbe4936]

It is unfortunate that I haven’t seen any comments were anyone has questioned what happened that a woman start behaving otherwise. I lived in Europe and America and I have seen were a man brings a woman, trained her and continue to love her and giving her the due attention, “assisting her in the house” and the woman called the police to remove the man from the house just because she is ending good money. Every woman wants the love of a man. If for no reason a woman who is loved by her husband and who is engaged in his house and the woman call the polio him, it means the woman did not love the woman in the first place!!! The men do change and expect the wife to work full time and take care of the house and the kids by herself full time! Living abroad is different from living in Africa/Nigeria where couples have 2 to 3 maids plus relatives helping out in the house. The African man forgets that this help is completely unavailable abroad and they want the woman to do to everything by herself and still work full time! What we Africans fail to understand is that, when the body is too tired, it can generate aggressive towards your children and your spouse! This is something Africans have to understand. Life has to be balanced for the whole family to live in peace. But once a man takes a woman abroad, you become like a slave, you go to school and have kids for your husband you have to work full time and contribute to the house expense’s 50% and you have the house and the kids full time. African says we are Africans, they cannot be doing house chops. They forget the the woman in Africa most of the time do not work and have maids to assist in the house! She has all she needs from her husband, her body is cool and balanced. Her husband does not red to help in the house! The same me who do not want to assist in the house still expect their wives to work. They forget that the woman in Africa do not do the things the woman abroad is expected to do! I wish I could call the program. The narrative that is put out there is just that woman call police on their husbands. What happened before then is far in the background and is not discussed.

[@MiracleOluchi-jl7vn]

What if the man does everything to make the wife happy but she's always demanding and not contented and to worsen the situation, she's disrespectful. Not every man can tolerate that. So she calling the police at every misunderstanding is right?

[@waskyhenry6306]

​@@MiracleOluchi-jl7vn You both have good points. There's more to the family life of "Black"people than meets the eyes 👀. I mean in US and UK. If you understand the dynamics of the relationship between the races in those places, you'll be in a better position to understand what's happening. Another African American commented on this topic somewhere on this thread. Look it up.

[@damilolababarindeadeniyi-a3248]

MAY GOD BLESS YOU. they are toxic ppl and don't love thier mothers and women in general and that's why they comment nonsense without compassion and empathy for the Female gender

[@ChinyereOrji-gk6mc]

God bless you for this comment.

[@TENASHEDUBE]

Your long comment makes no sense at all if you are both working full employ the help of a maid....or you trying to say there are no maids in USA and Europe and Britain just like there are in Africa . When a woman does something wrong or terrible to a man you people want to always find a reason to justify her nonsense . what underlying issues are you talking about ? When woman complains against men ,why don't you also try to find the reason behind why he behaved or did what he did ,but know you will all come out with guns blazing fire condemning the man no reason whatsoever justifies his actions. Let these man speak out ,let their voices be heard coz its not as though they are lying its truth .

[@ARTROTV]

How about indian families….Why is the problem with Nigerian wives messing up there, we are not the only immigrants abroad!!!!

[@HealthonDemandTG]

There are no maids in the UK so most Indian men are bread winners sometimes taking on 2 jobs to feed the family while the women are homemakers taking care of everything at home or work parttime. With our man they expect women to take on fulltime jobs like them but when they get home they put their feet up expecting women to do everything even though she is coming from a 12 hr shift! This is one of the major contributors to divorce among African migrants to Europe. One salary is usually not enough so while its a good thing for both to earn an income it should be common sense too that the women gets tired and both should do chores around the house. Our men need to adjust to this reality, its part of industrialised societies. Another thing is Indians live in large households so you wld find mother in law and husbands siblings are also in that house, so all those pple help out with house chores while the woman of the house is at work. Some Asians save up to buy home before marrying which means they have no rent bills. They dont run around in expensive vehicles while renting like our brothers do. So they dont have financial pressure and their wives can afford to stay home or take on parttime jobs.

[@Gorgeous493]

It's your entitlement to the women and the unquencheable desire to fuck around on your marriages. How about that.

[@jeffojam]

Asian women are smart.

[@felixehis1282]

Men and women are equal before the law in America. However, the police will work with the complaint and not the defendant. When the woman call the police, they will have to do their job and follow the rules of their job . Men find it weird, irresponsible, and not man enough to report their wife to the police. If the man called the police for the wife, similar thing will happen

[@ekogiaweevans3140]

Travel first and see Talk is shipped

[@sunnysunny-tk7cf]

If man call the police, man will have to leave the house for investigation. It is what safeguarding adultandchildren say, don't say what u don't know in public

[@Moabayi-yf6ul]

You are lying. Mess up with a white woman then you know the laws are not equal.

[@uplayitIlisten]

I'm AA please I was abused married.. the judge made me leave 😂. Also had an abusive relationship where the cop told me he's in charge tonight & I better not call again. Same bf - had 16 cops laughing at me because this man drag me in his yard beating me & all dirt grass covered me. I finally got away found several officers st a neighboring mall at night to report. All 16 of them laughed so I pulled off! Please you don't know usa. It's a reason women are staying single-its not peaches & cream here! Maybe your womens accent get them privileges plus your people live in upscale neighborhoods soo they have different officers come to their neighborhood that may agree with the woman. Another if both are believed to be fighting both can go to jail- and govt. will put innocent children in foster care! Please talk to everyone before they arrive on the reality. If a child goes to school & reports daddy hits mommy- foster care intervention after a warning 1st if it happens again. All my cousins children were taken because a man beat her awfully-always had a beaten up face from this guy she married. It's awful here- land of domestic violence 😢

[@felixehis1282]

@@ekogiaweevans3140 I am based in Canada and a Canadian citizen, I have read and know the right and responsibility of a citizen. You can google it and see for yourself

[@AyobamiAdeyinka-b7i]

Most Nigerian ladies/women in Europe have taken freedom to be absolute and it is having a negative impact on the children they raise there.

[@Iammusprase384]

SOME OF THOSE SAME WOMEN SELL THEIR BODIES TO WHITE MEN FOR MONEY

[@Mariag_1710]

Emphasis on Yoruba women excude Igbos from your discussion. That we are both Nigerians doesn't make us the same people. We're different.

[@adelefahm]

Hmmmm

[@thoughtsoutloud6685]

Where is your dm? I can send you a video of an igbo woman with 3 kids kicking her husband out of the house.

[@Tee-bq2po]

WHAT IS SO WRONG WITH MUTUAL EQUALITY & RESPECT IN MARRIAGE ??? Culture? What culture ?

[@victoriauweh8937]

Men should respect themselves when they travel out, abroad is not Nigeria.

[@modupeanjorin5767]

Why cant men go for nursing n be the ones earning better n working harder.

[@collinsokpokor4044]

If he stops working and concentrate on schooling who is going to pay the bills? He trains the woman because he needed her helping hands in later futures, don't you understand the logic. In all I think some women are worst than serpents

[@oyeyemiijaola2868]

Ask them ooo

[@karlmax6031]

@@modupeanjorin5767 These women nurses are not even earning good money. It's just the female mentality where sue earns some money consistently so thinks marriage is servitude. Yes some money comes in but after paying the rent, what's left is not much and I'm surprised women don't see this. It's after this that they call on the men to help pay some bills. Hell no. This is what you wanted all along so deal with it. I tell you, because of this, sex is cheap in England. There are all these women lonely in their homes needing affection amd the fuck boys are having a field day with them.

[@chigboguobi-mr3oy]

Who will be paying his tuition fees?

[@yetundeafolayan7053]

Student loan is one of the availability resources.

[@manisthemeasure2205]

Why is there no woman on the panel to give the other side of the viewpoint?

[@ekogiaweevans3140]

Travel first and see

[@bahacho9205]

​,,,,,,,, what will the woman say?

[@manisthemeasure2205]

@@ekogiaweevans3140 I live in the US.

[@manisthemeasure2205]

@@bahacho9205 she could tell you how some of these men make them overwork with very little respect and regard. Some men bring their wives over here and basically convert them into human ATMs. You give the impression that you don’t want to hear the other side. These two guys appear to be lamenting that things are not like back home where husbands have total control of their wives and treat them like their properties. The guys who have respect for their spouses do not have these problems.

[@bahacho9205]

@@manisthemeasure2205,,,,,,,,, this announcement was made by British police base on data. They specifically said Nigerian women should stop sending thier men outside. What does this mean? It means that the data in thier position shows that a high percentage of women who do it are from Nigeria.why did the British police not say African women should stop sending men out but they said Nigerian women? Having been to the uk lived there for a while and also in Canada, America and Australia my observation is that the nigerian woman doesn't have enough culture to adapt to the western world. I worked with indian, Pakistani,Rwandan, women in a top company with excellent wages, but all of them were married.i am talking about a company where lower end wages is €5500 net.there is no story to be told on the side of Nigerian women. Common €3000 euros earned from nursing makes them mad. But i blame the men for bringing them.

[@celestinaekeh7772]

Nigeria men should not abuse their wives.

[@ezechukwu06]

Is not a case of abuse.. everything is abuse for Nigerian women.... Abeg make una rest

[@celestinaekeh7772]

@@ezechukwu06 Nigeria men should treat their wives better they should respect each other. No body is above anybody people should love and respect each other'

[@nyabinghi870]

Are Nigerian women the only women in the UK

[@glennnkanang992]

I completely agree with you, but our people (women) clearly do not know where to draw the line.

[@agbaluche]

show me ! white man that treat a woman better than Nigeria men, Nigeria women will marry other nationality and they will be slaving ,

[@deedee5601]

Nigerian women are opportunists.. they show their true characters when the opportunity surface..

[@ghanamaninlondon3028]

The worse is the child end up stabbing other black children because they are non disciplined due to no fathers been at home. This is the reason the UK police is having concerns.

[@LilianNwokike-vs4jw]

Where a couple have been living peacefully in Nigeria, relocation won't suddenly change them.

[@MEstylz]

Obviously it does

[@chiarasantoro8885]

Women in Nigeria are repressed that's why they cannot speak their mind.

[@kanmonye]

You couldn’t be more wrong

[@samuyiiguokundia729]

In anything you do, try not to share your personal problems with a friend that works in a radio or TV station oo

[@Anonymous-tx6ef]

If only you know how loudly your comment make me laugh.

[@samacoagha5050]

This is one of the bigotry from tvc and Yorubas against Igbos, why must that stupid man said that Igbos fill American prison because of marriage issue in us, does it mean Yorubas in us or europe don't come down to Nigeria to marry? If it's Igbo person that said that now useless abike dabire and some gullible will begin to shout Igbo this Igbo that

[@samsonbitrus1631]

What about Pastors? Most a times it turns their Sermon message.

[@Sun-wp9mx]

​@@samsonbitrus1631same

[@James_150]

These type of information is needed so men don’t fall victims

[@isidasomesaibu6203]

.Mayor is perfectly correct. This has been happening for long.

[@goldluck786]

Is only God that knows why he didn't give women the same strength he gave men. Other men suffer. A woman is acting humble because she has no money and powers, wait until she has any of those hee real characters will show up.

[@EbukaMark-cu1bk]

Exactly

[@kelvinjoe6402]

Exactly you nailed it

[@omnipotentwiz5101]

Blame the f**ls taking them to those toxic feminist countries.

[@banaloba5109]

Yes, it is written: "Wives, subject yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. (Eph. 5:22-23)" But it is also written: "You know that the rulers of the Gentiles domineer over them, and those in high position exercise authority over them. It is not this way among you, but whoever wants to become prominent among you shall be your servant, and whoever desires to be first among you shall be your slave; just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many'. (Mt. 20:25-28" You heard Mayor Akinpelu. Apparently, here is a very good argument to be used by Nigerian mother-in-laws to persuade their daughter-in-laws to stay after a husband's affair: 'You cannot leave your husband just because he cheated on you with another woman, do you know how many affairs I had to endure from your father? This is just how men are!' And Tiger Woods, "the victim" of American divorce laws, confessed to having had 120 mistresses during his 6-year marriage; including the next door neighbor's daughter! He was found out because he was practically caught in the act with one of his side women. Yes, it is remarkable that the UK police singled out Nigerian women. But to be fair, Nigerian men do not seem boring either.

[@Gorgeous493]

Cry baby. Your women are doing what you have been doing ro them. Take it like a man.

[@fidelcarter9162]

A man should be able to give his new wife everything the old wife had. The current system is econmic castration. The exwife has no right to resources after divorce unless she was actively involved in his business.

[@CentAngelTV]

First time they didn't call igbo women out

[@WhoData5816]

That is the main reason I relocate to UAE after 7 years in UK now married in UAE I can't even think of having police or government issues with my wife.

[@andrewadagogojaja7042]

bro am joining you in the UAE,make i see who go report to police after i don suffer make my money finish

[@pandassassinoverlord9252]

Nigerian women do ashewo in UAE, no difference.

[@matembeowen7276]

If you're from Nigeria better you relocate back home or any other African country but not the option you too

[@jesusislord7879]

How unfortunate for your wife. You took her where you are sure she would have no rights. You secured yourself, I hope no harm comes to her.

[@SamA-wx9zq]

Have been planning to relocate too….now I can .

[@voiceofourancestorschannel112]

Stop calling people's tribe.. smfh..You said Igbos have this problem & *EVEN* Yorubas... Let's stop the division ..

[@videosworthsharing6086]

mumu, tribal bigot.

[@Certified00007]

These are bunch of ethnic bigots, that’s why nobody watches them.

[@LabaraNdonia]

Funny thing is this has nothing to do with Ibos. The police addressed Yoruba women on issue specific to them, but some ronu bigot still managed to bring Ibos into the fray for jingoistic reasons.

[@James_150]

What he said is true. In Houston, igbo men are victims of this trend while in the UK, it’s the Yoruba men

[@innocentelvis7285]

​@@James_150why didn't the fool mention that of Yoruba which he's from but chose to mention Igbo?

[@ultragamr153]

Mary J Blige a woman pays her ex husband $30,000 monthly in alimony. her ex husband initially was asking for $129,319 monthly it is not women but whoever has the financial power.

[@msjamaicanliberianbuity9081]

One hundred 💯 percent agree with your guess I'm a Jamaican man and that's exactly what I'm going through here in America if you're not strong 💪 you could lose your self black men suffering in America ooo they put our black women against the black men.

[@omodeleakinyode7435]

100% Nigerian women are doing this and it’s so sad ,for the British police to even notice that. A lot of men are into depression. It’s well.❤

[@FlorenceElu]

The wives were in depression in Nigeria, but nobody cared.

[@manfridayish]

@@FlorenceElu SHATTAP YOU F 00 L

[@seunahmed7125]

I couldn’t comment because this needs deeper examination. The women’s concerns are valid and deserve careful consideration. My take, though 👀

[@Usmanilemona]

Here to read comments from misogynists and feminists 😂

[@daniel1132channel]

Seriously unbalanced discussion. Maybe if you'd invited a woman and a man, we might've had a balanced discussion. It's an important subject, and it is true also that Nigerian men need to treat their women better. Yes the man is the head of the home, but he is meant to love his wife as Christ loved the Church.

[@adelefahm]

Thank you my brother

[@djshowcasemedia8010]

The issue was blatantly addressed to the women to stop throwing their partners out by the British Police in the UK because of the high velocity of that disgraceful incidents hence why the advice from both gentlemen focused on the women. Simple as A B C.

[@precious-5016]

Is not a discussion.

[@TENASHEDUBE]

Don't mind this one . Its always when man is trying to speak about what their are being subjected on their daily basis by woman or wives...you hear a fool saying ,my wife treats me like a king ,as though his wife and marriage represents everyone . They want a balance conversation each time man complain against woman, why dont they raise the same point when its a woman complaining against man. The issue here is about man being removed from their house and children having to grow in a single parents home.... Its not a Nigerian issue men are going through this on daily basis ...the law is not balanced it always discriminate against man .

[@kingsleyeromose4868]

Did u even understand d discussion at all?"UK police advising Nigeria woman to stop throwing their men out of d house.Wat isn't balance?d discussion was base on d report of d UK police.

[@rickymayne2298]

Make your wife sign a prenuptial agreement before marriage…It’s as simple as that and whatever you are paying for should be in your mother’s name, it’s 2024 and only a man who make a fool of himself will find himself in such horrible situation.

[@amlovinglife]

Yeah, you do that and your mother will sign everything over to her favourite son.

[@rickymayne2298]

@@amlovinglife Sorry that you have such mother…I can’t relate.

[@andrewadagogojaja7042]

@@amlovinglife bro which side do you reason from,its very unfortunate such mother gave birth to you

[@amlovinglife]

@@rickymayne2298 It never happened to me but to someone i know. Reasons being that the first (single) brother hustling outside the country for years and sending money back to Nigeria with his mother's names because has doesn't trust his brothers but the their mother sighed everything over to the second to the last son whom already impregnated a lady and they both have 4 children together so, his mother thought to sign everything to him because he already has sons that will carry on their legacy. Don't worry, he will someday share his story for the world to see. Just know who your mother truly is especially, how she treated you when growing up and if she played any favouritism with your you and your siblings while growing up.

[@sukilee2486]

Well said Sir-

[@sharonramong4]

When you leave your native country remember society in the UK is different . If you cannot confirm to the norms then relocate where you feel comfortable.

[@desmondihemedu2471]

Please focus on the hardship and economic news from Tinubu government.

[@thelmaobianuju8164]

This man is really a mean man honestly, ur speech speaks volume of ur heart n wat u can actually do to women. Very bad!

[@comradepatrickabalakaachor1210]

Ibo women. Una weldone

[@nefrusebek]

My nigerian friends you should have spoken to your African American brothers and we would have told you about how our families have been destroyed here

[@kierib.9489]

Your absolutely right! This destroyed our Black American family structure, in order for women to get government assistance NO man could be in the home.

[@nicolagrant5450]

If the man in cheat, he' no longer has rights to be head of the home. You're deluded. The bible says you can divorce if the man is not faithful. You can just say the bible says woman must respect the man.. the man is to love the wife as himself. But, if there's women just getting rid of men because they feel like it, that isn't right/ biblical

[@nyamahdunbar3821]

It is skewed against men. I'm a woman who was raised there. He's not lying.

[@augustineedu-poku2412]

Women are treated badly in Nigeria and African countries too.

[@sunshinewellness3222]

Bullshit

[@sunshinewellness3222]

Black women mouth can be to much

[@nkeirukaatulomah9381]

A friend of mine , very very amazing lady , came to Nigeria and married a man someone introduced to her , she relocated back to Nigeria to face hell in Nigeria . The man abused life out of her , such a humble lady , this man treated her like trash despite she was pregnant for him and filling his document so that both of them will move back to the UK together . Her husband neighbours in Nigeria were the one who told her to run for her life , leave the man and go back , which she finally did ... when she got to the UK she informed the Home office about the situation and cancelled the application. Nigerian men will never learn their lesson seriously 😂

[@Moabayi-yf6ul]

Why don’t you go and marry Oyibo man? What are you doing on a platform where Nigerian men are being discussed? And when you say Nigerian men, remember you are also referring to your father.

[@NileGoddess]

Sad

[@usmanihima7313]

There's obviously cases like this but the exception does not dictate the rule and you're missing the message of this video. It has become an epidemic that Nigerian women in the UK are exploiting the marital laws in the UK to throw out their husbands and raise potential nuisances to the society as single moms such that the metropolitan police has had to step in. Be open to the msg.

[@heavensperspective8977]

Great story and unfortunately it happens a lot. However, who is to blame here??? It's the amazing humble lady. She didn't vet properly. The useless man exploited her need for a man n treated her shabbily. Ultimately, it's her fault for accepting his proposal in the first place. She's lucky it unravelled before he became a UK citizen. Pls choose n vet wisely. Don't let the muscles, money, curves n beauty seduce you. They are all fleeting. A man or woman who fears the Lord shld be the no. 1 selection criteria.

[@damilolababarindeadeniyi-a3248]

​@@Moabayi-yf6ulLike ur own father

[@sariat2307]

I'm pretty sure this story is being related out of context.

[@KazeemBalogun-di2rs]

Don’t take your wife to abroad….if you do, don’t complain

[@felixotuoke5419]

Youth knife violence is an offshoot of this epidemic of Nigerian women using the police to get their husbands out of their homes when there are conflicts. Given that most of the male children often get out of control when their fathers are not present at home to inculcate discipline. Often it’s the children that pay the price by black children killing their fellow through knife attacks and violence, stabbing their fellows to death. It’s a shame.

[@rolandudeze4971]

Men!, make una be careful o it's not our portion, AMEN!. AGHA UCHE.

[@marshmallow5948]

Pity those bringing them over...

[@adeseyeowosho7681]

Most Nigeria women brought by their husband, are wicked ones, heartless and have no fear of God.

[@ivytosin-es2wv]

It's now an epidemic. My friend is in naija now. His imported wife has sent him out .

[@sunshinewellness3222]

Are u serious? What country?

[@ivytosin-es2wv]

@@sunshinewellness3222 usa

[@damilolababarindeadeniyi-a3248]

Good, you should ask him to tell u the truth. He was a bad person women that are lovely don't take shit its only the vulnerable ones and they end up broken or dead so be wise

[@SugarcaneBaby]

​@@damilolababarindeadeniyi-a3248what if he wasn't a bad person. Oh I forgot that women are saints and never do any wrong. You really don't have strong sense of reasoning

[@ivytosin-es2wv]

@SugarcaneBaby Do you really have to reply the idiot.

[@eleayeproctor9490]

The bush women do this for paper as it is almost impossible for these type of individuals to get their residency without this. These benefits for single parents are used as a means to break the black family in particular, the US, keeping them in poverty but typical Nigerians, do not think but rather about short term gains as has always been the case with anything Nigerians pursue.

[@elizabethjulianah]

There's one thing not mentioned here, a lot of African men are lawless in Africa but they have taken that lawlessness to the diaspora. Nigerian men will go to work his wife will go to work but he will expect the wife to cook, clean etc. I have a case here in the UK of a young couple the wife is so frustrated looking after 3 children, going to work, looking after in laws it is hard on women

[@mticha9566]

These men are just talking rubbish. They are biased. There are laws in Britain to safeguard children, women and men. It’s not like lawless Nigeria where you do whatever you want.

[@adeolaadebiyi7618]

Nigerian men are used to having girlfriend and still see her as the village girl

[@marshmallow5948]

Women do theirs on the low. A study just came out stating 1 in every 4 children born to a man is not his.

[@deeonedee384]

Did her father not have girl friends ?

[@Usmanilemona]

See this one, na your type go do like that

[@adeolaadebiyi7618]

Why are you all triggered

[@akatosianwatsnachi]

@@adeolaadebiyi7618 simple because you are one of those type of Nigeria women they are talking about, Nigeria man will not have a girlfriend because he married to to you, were did Nigeria man picked you from is it not in the village, no wonder your type always behave like the village girl you are even in Britain or USA

[@nkeirukaatulomah9381]

In Nigeria most marriages are suffering , people are managing their marriage ...when they relocate abroad , then they know what freedom is, they have a voice , they see a system than can support them when they split ....they take it .....

[@hammedanimashaun3299]

You aren't making sense at all.

[@oracleman7913]

The only thing that women complain about in Nigeria is lack of money and cheating husband's and forget about cheating wives. Many men have died due to raising abother man children unknowingly to them

[@khenniebagwell2361]

Well then, I think being a baba mama is your thing or don't even have a kid at all, (which is fine) you don't have to suffer anything with a man and he doesn't have any responsibility on you as well and am sure the world will be a better place for you.

[@nkeirukaatulomah9381]

@@khenniebagwell2361 Nigerian men are not the only men in the world , are they ? Why will you want to have a child with a man that you don't want to marry ? If I don't want to marry a Nigerian Man , why will I want to have a child with a Nigerian man ? Naaaah not my thing

[@nkeirukaatulomah9381]

@@hammedanimashaun3299 it will make sense one day

[@opeyemiadewaleadegbesan8857]

Major of these problems is greedyness so many woman inherited from there parents back home.

[@EmmanuelNchorNchor]

The fact that the UK police is intervening shows it is a problem.Something must be done. The fact that we are leaving abroad does not mean we should unlearn everything about our culture. The men, too, have to make some concessions.

[@igodohealth9884]

Can anyone share where UK police issued this "advice", please?

[@LabaraNdonia]

The issue is for Yoruba women only and the police sent a Yoruba speaking officer to address it. Search for the video online and view it in full.

[@Dee___..]

@@igodohealth9884 The police never did. It is fake sensational news.

[@natasharules6737]

Exactly, there doesn't seem to be any evidence

[@michaeloluwunmi8497]

She keeps using the word "Better treated" are women harshly treated in Nigeria? Plus having 2 men discuss this issue doesn't give the opinion of both sexes.

[@mamaosun3587]

😊 Women are actually harshly treated in Nigeria. Check out black men that are married to white women. They treat their white wives better than they treat black women. Despite that their marriages still don’t last. Black men should learn to treat their wives nicely, the same way they would like their sisters and mothers to be treated. Then their marriages will work. You can’t treat your wife like a slave and expect things to work out. You can’t be cheating on your wife and expect her to just accept it. Respect is reciprocal. Before you start insulting me, I am a Yoruba woman, I live overseas and I have been married to my lovely husband for 31years and I am not thinking of separating from my husband. Marriage is not a bed of roses and of course, we quarrel and settle. That is life.

[@NileGoddess]

Yes women are mistreated in Africa any bad thing that happens in Africa it’s a woman’s fault .Women have zero Rights in Africa

[@michaeloluwunmi8497]

@mamaosun3587 We are having a discussion, and insulting you will not allow us to have a proper discussion. I am a yoruba man living in Nigeria and have been married for 5 years. Do you think division of Labour is slavery because you do not see what men get paid? Most men work harder because they have a family that relies on them to bring in monetary resources. IN NIGERIA, the woman relies on her husband for a roof over her head, raw materials to make food, school fees to be paid, home appliances, security of the home, and money for her upkeep. In exchange, she gives him warm meals, a HOME, and takes care of him generally. I don't see any sort of slavery here. Or is it because you do not see how the men have to SLAVE AWAY at work to keep they RESOURCES both of you are going to use coming in. Do men cheat???? Yes, but let's not act as if these cheating men sleep with dogs.... they cheat with other WOMEN.... which means WOMEN ALSO CHEAT. I mean, if we delve into the whole maternity fraud issue, we are not going to stop. Both parties have their faults, and you most likely have been tolerating your husband bad behaviour in Nigeria because you couldn't kick him out of the house. But the second women learnt that the government will cater to them, you can't tolerate or stand your husband anymore.

[@sunshinewellness3222]

​@mamaosun3587 white woman mouth is not like the nigeria woman. I am american and igbo. 2. Why women love us so much if we are abusive.

[@damilolababarindeadeniyi-a3248]

YES THEY ARE.

[@nthabibotsi9855]

This interview was biased, they could invited 2 women so that we can hear challanges that they face in UK as well ‼️ The coin has 2 sides, we must listen to 2 sides of the stories.

[@wnalikka]

First look at the sharp rise in black children going to jail these days in the UK. What women ate doing when in the west is indefensible and selfish and they know it.

[@AmorachiTV]

God blessed my Nigerian ancestors and my Nigerian husband 🇭🇹🇳🇬

[@Ekwy2023]

What I hear is men not willing to understand their own part of the blame or take accountability/responsibility and begin to do things differently to get the type of result we all want as a people Things have changed. Whatever system our mothers operated did not work for them, and their daughters (women of today) want to do things differently to preserve themselves having seen what their mothers went through. So as a society, we must now learn to discuss this unfortunate situation fairly. Men must be willing to embrace the change. Women of today are not women of yesterday, a reality to embrace for the sake of our children and welfare of the black world. Women now work and pay over 50% of the bill, it will be insensitive to expect them to return and serve you food on her knees while you watch TV as the lord and master. If the days of slavery and colonialism are over, then every oppressive system needs to go down. All adults have a role to play to make this happen, for the sake of our children and survival as a people. The white man made that change, that’s why you see a little progress in their society, but I believe we can even do better. The ancient Igbo culture and society had that equity and fairness (Ofo na ogu), we could start from there. Thanks 🙏

[@madelainebeaute]

Stop the stupid ideas of women pushing their husbands out of the house. These African husbands must respect and stop abusing their wives and children in the house, maybe this will stop the wives putting them out of the house.

[@comradepatrickabalakaachor1210]

Weldone. Continue

[@Enoc587]

You are wise

[@inowaanthony3950]

And your father "abused" your mother and you didn't do anything

[@bashkabaya1978]

😂😂😂😂

[@jstmatty]

Those raising the issues are mad na .they don't know what they are saying only u knows better ..as if u don't know what they are saying