Understanding Attachment styles and Dating with an Anxious attachment style FT Lydia KM | BKSP Ep 2

In this Episode Sharon K Mwangi and Lydia KM go deep into the world of attachment styles. They speak about navigating through attachment styles, their personal experiences being anxious attached and dating avoidant attachers.

[@patriciasmetana9989]

Thank you for sharing this topic. I'm currently working on my PhD dissertation of childhood emotional maltreatment and its influence/impact on adult attachment and adult romantic relationships. In your studies, how do you relate anxious attachment with adult attachment patterns: secure, preoccupied, dismissive, or fearful?

[@beloncekamz2821]

Yay! Lyd brought me here!!! In betweeners tupo. Great conversations ladies👌🏾❤️.

[@pascalwambugu7096]

This is free therapy 💯💯💯 Needed to hear this,,

[@erinlaskey9873]

Let's all be honest and consistent with our own emotional needs from the start. Let's not switch up later and say they're not being met

[@anna.ke.]

My God Sharon! You have spoken to my soul,on extending grace, I have never really thought about it that way and am glad you mentioned it.Thank you!

[@edinahkendi9871]

Anywhere lydd is,I'm going sis!! Great topic this one 😍😍 I'm definitely an anxious attacher but am willing to work on it ,I promise!

[@bestkeptsecretspod]

You got this!

[@naomitheuri7833]

29:03 - I’m a recovering fearful avoidant 😢 I’ve been single for the past five years and I did SO MUCH WORK on myself. So I’m 60% secure, and 40% fearful avoidant. This past 6 months, I have been intentionally dating and I am most comfortable with dismissive avoidants. I steer very clear of anxious attached men, which to be fair there’s very few of them in Nairobi

[@laurenosigwe]

I cried watching this episode , i have learnt a lot . I agree with the person that said this is some sort of therapy . Thank you Sharon

[@rosemarywacera6660]

It’s just not right to stand up anyone I mean just say you will not make it Lydia being your first guest, you did amazing SharonK

[@Fayhcreations99]

Watching this has made me realise that i've not been the problem to my failed relationships as i thought , am just an anxious who unfortunately meets avoidants...But honestly guys, my experience with avoidants makes me ask myself a lot of questions, i feel like my needy and clingy character is a redflag and that's why they left,however, i just think that i get and deal with wrong men..

[@nakyosiedna1438]

Same sis it's what have been going through but then I feel like this episode was an eye opener

[@breslineanyango]

Same here sis 😊

[@fridahfareh1753]

I am an Avoidant.. as you guys were talking, I was ticking all the damn boxes. I must now start working on myself. Thank you for opening my eyes.

[@bestkeptsecretspod]

You're welcome!

[@agnesmwangi3227]

Am anxious😂😂😂 , like that whole explanation is just me and it just dawned on me from listening to this 😅. WOW

[@myranjeri3401]

How did I guess so accurately... I knew Lydia would be among the first guests🥰🥰. My two favorite babes... Love this

[@tendaihauya5084]

The story you tell yourself matters❤️

[@itsndutakamau]

Exactly the topic I was waiting for ❤️

[@audrey_chebet]

WOW, what an episode. Somuch learning, I love it. Like Lyd, I am glueddddd here

[@itsndutakamau]

Yaaayyy ❤️❤️ First to comment today ... I made it ☺️☺️

[@mbeyumapenzi5502]

Thankyou for having this conversation. It's an eye opener.

[@lubimo9810]

Yaani someone stood up someone as gorgeous as sharon ? I mean who are these people?

[@bestkeptsecretspod]

Imagine haha

[@justmyworld2542]

Sharon KM 🤣😊

[@nixonthuo9404]

Well am definitely an avoidant and I definitely find myself with anxious people. It's good because I always felt anxious traits like being clingy were some kind of manipulation. Now it's clear

[@nalukuinaleliliswaniso674]

I'm done with the done. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I really loved this interview. Both of you did your homework. I love how you use personal examples cz we can relate. I have found the book you mentioned and it's definitely my February read.

[@monicalewisky4925]

Subscribed,.. What a beautiful surprise to have Lydia, huhuu🎉🎉

[@legalcafe]

Much Love Sharon.❤️

[@mohaumadumise9397]

Great to see podcasts about attacents types.

[@Talkthetalk787]

thanks Sharon for bring this topic weuh I feel I'm the avoidance but working on this

[@faithcherotich1378]

I love your content ,,, im learning and unlearning and relearning

[@sunnyp6342]

I’m really loving this conversations,so relatable

[@sunshinebwari1593]

Wow, wow, wow 👌🏾 This has been soothing n thought provoking. You've gained a new subbie💜

[@bestkeptsecretspod]

Yay! Thank you!

[@harrietaposh7542]

Such an awesome conversation 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@wanjiruesther4962]

Thank you for a relatable conversation ❤

[@catherinemwinuka9734]

Here sooner than later!

[@heidiisaac47]

Very interesting topic thank you for sharing.

[@mercyjesire1309]

Just when I needed the conversation...

[@periewangui-jj5jd]

Is he avoidant or just not that into you? I feel like some guys just don't want to commit but they want to string you along..but in other relationships they are emotional available..

[@cynthiakariuki4829]

I love this topic. You just earned yourself a new subscriber.

[@bestkeptsecretspod]

Thank youuuu!

[@canadaimmigration320]

I love LydiaKM my crush on TML

[@charityndegwa2057]

My favorite,lydia KM

[@irenejepchirchir2706]

Good first time Sharon Kay...!

[@nkirote7469]

Thank you for sharing learnt alot 💯💯💯

[@evalynenjuka934]

Loving this 😊♥️♥️♥️

[@wwangari4196]

This was so insightful!

[@lilliannduta385]

Is there a point where you could have experienced both. Like if you’ve grown in different environments

[@ladyrosemadisha5490]

You gained a new subbie loved this

[@marthamwaura882]

There is an attachment style that was not discussed, disorganized....or is it not a major attachment style??

[@graceitatrubutterfly3879]

Loved this

[@beltawaithira3352]

Free therapy, gained yourself a subscriber

[@maulineongaro5547]

Awesome conversation! Loving Lydia 💕💕💕

[@marionaugust5569]

Hey Sharon ❤️...is it possible to have both the avoidant and anxious attachment style ...I think I have developed both

[@annmimo37]

This is so helpful 😍

[@bestkeptsecretspod]

So glad you found it helpful!

[@carenshekhlek985]

This is just great

[@immaculatemoraa9539]

😫I'm a fearful avoidant

[@nickshadowNL]

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[@randombeb]

Not me learning am.an avoidant attached 😢😢😢😢😢eish

[@Jojoexplores]

Laughs in fearful avoidant 😂😂

[@OliviaMukora]

I'm really curious about this study in that, did it factor in the children's personalities, the home situations they came from? Think there is a possibility that this study had loads of variables

[@chrissy96]

I think the home situations helped form the type of attachment. Interesting that you brought up the aspect of personality, because now I want to read up on the study even more. I'm currently reading 'The body keeps the score' by Bessel van der Kolk (a book about childhood trauma) and this study is mentioned in it.