Understanding Attachment styles and Dating with an Anxious attachment style FT Lydia KM | BKSP Ep 2

In this Episode Sharon K Mwangi and Lydia KM go deep into the world of attachment styles. They speak about navigating through attachment styles, their personal experiences being anxious attached and dating avoidant attachers.

[@beloncekamz2821]

Yay! Lyd brought me here!!! In betweeners tupo. Great conversations ladies👌🏾❤️.

[@pascalwambugu7096]

This is free therapy 💯💯💯 Needed to hear this,,

[@patriciasmetana9989]

Thank you for sharing this topic. I'm currently working on my PhD dissertation of childhood emotional maltreatment and its influence/impact on adult attachment and adult romantic relationships. In your studies, how do you relate anxious attachment with adult attachment patterns: secure, preoccupied, dismissive, or fearful?

[@anna.ke.]

My God Sharon! You have spoken to my soul,on extending grace, I have never really thought about it that way and am glad you mentioned it.Thank you!

[@laurenosigwe]

I cried watching this episode , i have learnt a lot . I agree with the person that said this is some sort of therapy . Thank you Sharon

[@naomitheuri7833]

29:03 - I’m a recovering fearful avoidant 😢 I’ve been single for the past five years and I did SO MUCH WORK on myself. So I’m 60% secure, and 40% fearful avoidant. This past 6 months, I have been intentionally dating and I am most comfortable with dismissive avoidants. I steer very clear of anxious attached men, which to be fair there’s very few of them in Nairobi

[@edinahkendi9871]

Anywhere lydd is,I'm going sis!! Great topic this one 😍😍 I'm definitely an anxious attacher but am willing to work on it ,I promise!

[@bestkeptsecretspod]

You got this!

[@tendaihauya5084]

The story you tell yourself matters❤️

[@agnesmwangi3227]

Am anxious😂😂😂 , like that whole explanation is just me and it just dawned on me from listening to this 😅. WOW

[@audrey_chebet]

WOW, what an episode. Somuch learning, I love it. Like Lyd, I am glueddddd here

[@fridahfareh1753]

I am an Avoidant.. as you guys were talking, I was ticking all the damn boxes. I must now start working on myself. Thank you for opening my eyes.

[@bestkeptsecretspod]

You're welcome!

[@mbeyumapenzi5502]

Thankyou for having this conversation. It's an eye opener.

[@itsndutakamau]

Exactly the topic I was waiting for ❤️

[@myranjeri3401]

How did I guess so accurately... I knew Lydia would be among the first guests🥰🥰. My two favorite babes... Love this

[@mohaumadumise9397]

Great to see podcasts about attacents types.

[@itsndutakamau]

Yaaayyy ❤️❤️ First to comment today ... I made it ☺️☺️

[@faithcherotich1378]

I love your content ,,, im learning and unlearning and relearning

[@nalukuinaleliliswaniso674]

I'm done with the done. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I really loved this interview. Both of you did your homework. I love how you use personal examples cz we can relate. I have found the book you mentioned and it's definitely my February read.

[@legalcafe]

Much Love Sharon.❤️

[@nixonthuo9404]

Well am definitely an avoidant and I definitely find myself with anxious people. It's good because I always felt anxious traits like being clingy were some kind of manipulation. Now it's clear

[@harrietaposh7542]

Such an awesome conversation 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@monicalewisky4925]

Subscribed,.. What a beautiful surprise to have Lydia, huhuu🎉🎉

[@Fayhcreations99]

Watching this has made me realise that i've not been the problem to my failed relationships as i thought , am just an anxious who unfortunately meets avoidants...But honestly guys, my experience with avoidants makes me ask myself a lot of questions, i feel like my needy and clingy character is a redflag and that's why they left,however, i just think that i get and deal with wrong men..

[@nakyosiedna1438]

Same sis it's what have been going through but then I feel like this episode was an eye opener

[@breslineanyango]

Same here sis 😊

[@rosemarywacera6660]

It’s just not right to stand up anyone I mean just say you will not make it Lydia being your first guest, you did amazing SharonK

[@catherinemwinuka9734]

Here sooner than later!

[@justmyworld2542]

Sharon KM 🤣😊

[@wanjiruesther4962]

Thank you for a relatable conversation ❤

[@heidiisaac47]

Very interesting topic thank you for sharing.

[@sunshinebwari1593]

Wow, wow, wow 👌🏾 This has been soothing n thought provoking. You've gained a new subbie💜

[@bestkeptsecretspod]

Yay! Thank you!

[@Talkthetalk787]

thanks Sharon for bring this topic weuh I feel I'm the avoidance but working on this

[@sunnyp6342]

I’m really loving this conversations,so relatable

[@nkirote7469]

Thank you for sharing learnt alot 💯💯💯

[@evalynenjuka934]

Loving this 😊♥️♥️♥️

[@charityndegwa2057]

My favorite,lydia KM

[@wwangari4196]

This was so insightful!

[@graceitatrubutterfly3879]

Loved this

[@Wambizzy96]

Yaani someone stood up someone as gorgeous as sharon ? I mean who are these people?

[@bestkeptsecretspod]

Imagine haha

[@mercyjesire1309]

Just when I needed the conversation...

[@lilliannduta385]

Is there a point where you could have experienced both. Like if you’ve grown in different environments

[@erinlaskey9873]

Let's all be honest and consistent with our own emotional needs from the start. Let's not switch up later and say they're not being met

[@irenejepchirchir2706]

Good first time Sharon Kay...!

[@cynthiakariuki4829]

I love this topic. You just earned yourself a new subscriber.

[@bestkeptsecretspod]

Thank youuuu!

[@ladyrosemadisha5490]

You gained a new subbie loved this

[@canadaimmigration320]

I love LydiaKM my crush on TML

[@periewangui-jj5jd]

Is he avoidant or just not that into you? I feel like some guys just don't want to commit but they want to string you along..but in other relationships they are emotional available..

[@beltawaithira3352]

Free therapy, gained yourself a subscriber

[@marthamwaura882]

There is an attachment style that was not discussed, disorganized....or is it not a major attachment style??

[@annmimo37]

This is so helpful 😍

[@bestkeptsecretspod]

So glad you found it helpful!

[@carenshekhlek985]

This is just great

[@marionaugust5569]

Hey Sharon ❤️...is it possible to have both the avoidant and anxious attachment style ...I think I have developed both

[@maulineongaro5547]

Awesome conversation! Loving Lydia 💕💕💕

[@immaculatemoraa9539]

😫I'm a fearful avoidant

[@randombeb]

Not me learning am.an avoidant attached 😢😢😢😢😢eish

[@nickshadowNL]

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[@Jojoexplores]

Laughs in fearful avoidant 😂😂

[@OliviaMukora]

I'm really curious about this study in that, did it factor in the children's personalities, the home situations they came from? Think there is a possibility that this study had loads of variables

[@chrissy96]

I think the home situations helped form the type of attachment. Interesting that you brought up the aspect of personality, because now I want to read up on the study even more. I'm currently reading 'The body keeps the score' by Bessel van der Kolk (a book about childhood trauma) and this study is mentioned in it.