Understanding Your Child's Emotions: A Developmental Approach | Catherine Mogil, PsyD | UCLAMDChat

UCLA psychologist Catherine Mogil, PsyD, and learn the best strategies to help your child manage difficult feelings in different developmental stages. Watch more UCLAMDCHAT webinars at www.uclahealth.org/uclamdchat.

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When bad behavior come up, explanation with discipline is necessary. Along with positive reinforcement after discipline

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It shouldn’t be right after otherwise they know they are being rewarded for bad behavior it should be right after they show good behavior

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i find that sometimes my kid gets overwhelmed when everybody asks her so many questions, and I've realised they don't need to be highly logical. so if they say something like x looks like z or just using their imagination i try to think about what they are seeing or thinking and then i just reinforce that instead of what i used to do which was to ask them a bunch of clarifying questions. now i just say yeah! it does look like that! we only tend to lose our imaginations with age so i try to use mine instead of attempting to create a robot. plus many questions people ask young children are loaded with intentions or attempts to teach something which is less important than the learning of how those language interactions would actually work in real life. even as adults if someone says a cloud looks like something we will tend to agree or maybe we don't see it but we don't turn to our friend and question them or ask them 5 questions about it we just join in looking. just something i noticed

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Thank you for your video. My 3 year old son has been pushing everyone of my buttons lately. I know us parents have to be roll models but it's so hard when he is doing something he is not supposed to do and I tell him to please don't do that and he screams NOOOO. Or he is constantly by myside 24/7 besides when dad is home for a few hours and goes to bed, otherwise its momma everything, he even sleeps next to me. Maybe I need a break 🤷‍♀️😭😭

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I understand completely. I'm a mother to a 6 year old, and still learning how to make time for myself and be balanced. My daughter constantly pushes my buttons but I explain what is going on with my own feelings and she can relate to that. I get so tired as I don't sleep well, and worry alot. This time is time for me (everyone is asleep and not asking me questions) . I'm extremely sensitive to others feelings but I also need to walk away from being a uptight mother. I'm very relaxed and happy person until she or anyone constantly wants attention. We must give to ourselves and feel good. I get so tired I forget what day it is. All my best wishes to you ❤️💚🌺

[@daniellejohnson2373]

My four year old daughter has been hitting kicking and biting I’m trying so hard to help her talk about her feelings rather than hitting biting and kicking

[@daniellejohnson2373]

Im a single mom and full time student so it’s hard I get so frustrated

[@stefaniakonstantinidou981]

Have you thought you r too controlling and the children react to the suppression they get from you? Children should not be forbidden from doing things unless they r putting themselves od others in danger. That s the way to learn and be creative, through experimenting with the world. Get the word " No" out of your dictionary, don t mjnd dirt and mess in the house and you ll soon have a happy and calm child

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@Danielle Johnson is anybody hitting biting her in the house or anyone try to control her too much??

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Was the child with the tantrum given any warning about what's about to happen? Mom just comes charging in and taking things and talking, she didn't even attempt to make sure she had the child's attention/eye contact?

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20:46 That picture of mirror looks unsettling. Outside the mirror, the child's hand is pointing away from the desk and her elbow is clearly not on the edge, which they are in the mirror. Also there is a hand at the bottom right of the picture that couldn't be the child's hand. The child couldn't be behind the mirror to hold it because the mirror shows the position of her shoulder.

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I’m grandma of 9 yr old boy , he’s always angry at me, because I turn tv off when it’s time for bed, he stubborn and disobedient , he’s always Treating g bad with unkind words. Is it because i might be smothering him, i live with him since he was a baby and I just want the best for him. But I might be hurting him somehow. Please help😞

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[@lilgabsmommy5111]

When we saw Isabella's temper tantrum I thought wow wish I had that tantrum to deal with. Lol mine has horrendous tantrums.

[@lilgabsmommy5111]

@@pablodemetri4660 no not really. Im not married and in different country now. I was happy when my child was born. We almost died and this was the email I created to speak to my child's father when we made it through. Still fighting health and will go back to country i lived in when we planned baby. I just ended up not using other email. I also researched the temper tantrums. My little one in d not have terrible twos. But now has the seven yr old tantrums a year early. Apparently seven year olds have and awful stage to go through.

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Mine rarely has em but if any they are mild

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Mine doesn't like being told no

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Sometimes I feel like I can forgett very easily that my daughter is only four... and when she acts out these tauntrums is becuse were not synced.. for last time.. at first i felt like why is she doing this. Becuse ive been so nice, to her and now she acts out a tauntrum for no reason. I even felt angry .. ikväll know u know childish .. luckily I always takes a 2min time out. When there is tauntrum so that I can think it though.. obviosly stupid to even think she was acting out for no reason. Then I just asked her If she can come to me and talk a little bit..and just like that calm, jump up my kne and I just asked here why.. and like 2 min later I knew why.. I was stressad and she felt everything went to fast for here and wanted me to slow down.. not my proudest moment .

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How environment studying child behaviour

[@gregorydorrell5543]

I want to if anyone could have ever helped John Merrick the elephant man from his depression and sadness know exactly my point everyone is different no one knows what someone else is feeling and sometimes that feeling can be too much to bear these talks can be comforting but they never Cure people from their problem Because we are all different and all had different problems and issues

[@ellebee3998]

Shame is absolutely a bad thing. It is a lazy parent's way of manipulating a child. It can emotionally cripple the sensitive child for life . I am the perfect example of a 60 yr old that is emotionally a 5 yes old.

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Hi Elle, I read this and felt your words. I'm sorry for your experience but I hope you have the courage to allow yourself to grow out of that 5 year old. Even at 60 we are evolving learning and growing and I hope this finds you well

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Can A child below 2-3 years old, develop early emotions?

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Yes, we are all born with emotions

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Kids can’t figure out that Every kid in the universe: are you challenging me

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You sadly did not deal with how to resolve the temper tantrum at start of video

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Tell your child go and play some games go to your iPad when he's angry? I don't think so. He will learn get angry is the way to get the iPad. However. My child don't play video games.

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Mines non stop moaning and causing chaos at school and home aswell as outdoors rooling around acting like a 2yr old when shes 7yrs old and her behaviour is getting worser school are not helping been waiting for an assement 3yrs no help no support no nothing I've tried everything.

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What about the crying of a cry. That is an emotion.

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Blind babies smile

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What are some skills to teach toddlers? Is it too much for your's to take out the trash?

[@itsmejose92]

FYI less than 8 percent of viewers upvoted this video. Handling your Childs behavior is so subjective. Her/UCLA Health's suggestions were not helpful at all for my family but they may be helpful for yours. Research more than one source on how to handle your little child and you'll be okay.

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I ain't even gonna lie......I'm high on weed and had a thought that came to me, and I felt it may be of value.......me myself have had anger issues all my life.....as I sit her jacked on caffeine I feel agitated, and usually I'm easy to frustrate on coffee......just saying that all these years I think the issue is caffeine agitating a person's HYPERACTIVITY......I drink a cup and feel like I just took a hit of crack.......something ppl may want to see if there's a connection.....🌹✌☕

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You call that a child being out of control 🥴😂

[@favor9163]

I disagree greatly that babies don’t have emotion.

[@favor9163]

Not to flex or anything, but i'm the best comment. I’m a mother I think I know my child. *Scientific* Babies are human beings. I’m very connected to my baby. I feel the love and trust, I see and feel their hurt and sadness. Sooo yea. And that takes time and effort and some. Thank you you for your reply.

[@richarddobos264]

@@favor9163 its nothing wrong to question what this information. In fact its correct of you to do so. Why should you trust a stranger on the internet? In my view its best also to listen to different sources becuse that its the best way to learn and better understanding which sources is bad content. Becuse its very possible that one source you first thought was really good later looks like no use at all. Professionals even professors can have very different opinions and views.. And also a parent should also learn to trust ourself to make wise decisions. But reading is key. We are not born wise. Its a disciplin that needs eveeyday work, alot of reading and experince in life. We need to have an open mind that we dont know everything even if we think that we know best. Dont let the ego stand in your way in your way. Knowledge is power, so dont stop Learning... By that said i also Wonder if you have question the possibility that what you are feeling is only a projection own self? What you see in the Child is only your own feelings? Not say it is but have you consider this? Becuse this is something people do all the time. I really mean all the time. Every singel moment around other we project our self in others. Even with animals, pets and wild. Becuse we dont know how others feel. We can only interpret, so everything is subjective. Alot of guessing.. So the answer to my question. If it is that you are certain your not projection your own self on your baby. I would say that im almost certain that you are projecting. You should know that its very possible that you are wrong but yet still feel you are right. Also a very good and thoughtfull explanation needed. You need to really show for yourself and others that you know what you are talking about and show very strong and solid foundation way you have come to this clonclusion. Its very important to put words on why you feel how you feel and why you are connectlng the dots this way. Its should make reason and logic to others. Proud and ego has no value at all here.. Babies are humans. This Is you statement. Becuse they are humans clonclusion have good grunds. They make reason and thats hard to deny even fo doupters.. So, human has feelin, babies are humans = babies have feelings. Is it really this simple? Ofc all humans has feelings. Even before we are born we feel. No doubt. But most feelings in a humans life are going to learnd. We are born with some basic feelings that will evolve and change through life. Old you will be very far from middle school you. Your feelings is completly different. So yes. Humans feel. But humans feelings are very different from person to person. Just becuse you feel empathy, Caring, love. It dosnt means other people can feel these feelings. We are very different. Human feelings is just not black and white. Nothing about us is.

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Little kids are not very aware.

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WOW this is a horrible presentation. If this is UCLA education, my child could do better at a Junior College.

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Make it happen player let's see a video, I will be waiting

[@Ashley-ro4xz]

Why?

[@jxslayz6663]

That kid has a mouth, that's solved with hot sauce. The hitting you, is solved by spanking. Be very clear after why you did what you did, and then go through the emotion talk. As time goes on, they THINK before they act knowing there is a consequence to acting out. As they get older they act out less, IF you are an active parent by this time you should have a connection with your child enough that they respect you, know not to lie, and trust you with difficult subjects. The rudimentary consequences aren't necessary at that point. Consequences should be physical and thought exercises, with time outs to think. Then follow up conversations after for understanding and bonding.

[@BrodusLockhart]

Parent of 4 under under 7 y/o here one boy three girls. Violence will lead to an interesting relationship(s) with violence as they get older. Remember that other people raising your kids won't always have the "physically hurt" optuon. Fyi: I only watch and enjoy full contact sports.

[@chrystianaw8256]

Wtf

[@Ali08]

Of course that is a very traditional way of parenting a child. Sound like you are as emotional as the child too if you feel the need to think spanking and drinking hot sauce in the mouth for having a opinion, or expressing their pov in a obviously.. hold on.. a child like way! And people wonder why adults is walking around too emotionally reactive. all of it takes is a good spanking and a lecture that follows to keep the child discipline… sure! 😐

[@stefaniakonstantinidou981]

Spanking makes children aggressive and angry. You ll never have a bonding relationship with them if you use that method. As soon as possible, they will leave the cage you call home and you ll be left alone.

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Why the hell do you say um every 9 seconds I quit watching at 4:52 cuz of so many ums. So annoying

[@physcha]

you're paying attention to the wrong thing.. find yourself 'for dummy' series.

[@axiom.ai.obviousbattletank7139]

Rip that thing out of her hands. Put it away in a place that the child cannot reach. Chlll. Remember you're dealing with a human that has zero life experience.