Unforgettable Encounters During Our Final Moments with Hadley Vlahos, RN

[@kasm_nME]

I can't believe hospice nurses are perceived as less than other nurses. They ensure loved ones pass safely and comfortably with dignity. That's priceless!

[@TheTraumaTherapistProject]

completely agree. Thank you for listening!

[@annebracher1843]

Absolutely, couldn’t agree more.

[@michellemartinov6267]

@@kasm_nME Hospice is very much a critical part of nursing that both gives and takes a lot from a nurse. Overall though if you talk with anyone who works for Hospice you’ll find that they consider it very rewarding which is something that is often missing in a lot of other areas of nursing which is very sad because nurses work their @sses off every shift they work. When nurses are portrayed in tv or other mediums as having time to sneak off into a closet and have a quickie with the hot doctor that’s so laughable seeing as we barely have time to pee and more often than not, you’re eating at the desk while you’re charting, inhaling your food. You often don’t need the bathroom though because you don’t have to drink either and technically it’s illegal to have a beverage at the nursing station due to OSHA regulations but there are ways around that if your manager actually cares enough about the staff to take care of having drink stations set up for you. Hospice like regular home health lets you focus directly on 1 patient at a time but you also know that ultimately that person is going to die - the best thing you can do is empower the person to have the best death they can have and that is different for each person. I had a friend who was a smoker and she developed belly pain right before she was scheduled to go on a cruise. The doctor who sent her for a cat scan was a very close colleague/friend of the ICU/CCU of the gang of us nurses and the news she got wasn’t good. They found liver cancer. The doc told her to go on her cruise and have fun and they would take care of things as soon as she got back. I’m pretty sure he knew that it wasn’t going to be good and he wanted her to have 1 last trip. Anyway they found her primary cancer was lung that had gone to her liver and I think her bones. She opted to go home with hospice, absolutely no other treatment except comfort care which means “give me drugs to keep me comfortable”. She died within 2 weeks and I know our Doc took it really hard. This was the nurse who’d been there when his wife had given birth to their son 20 years back. Just so sad but she went out on her own terms.

[@amari_chaji3307]

It was her calling. She is an amazing person God chose her not only to care for hospice patients but also to teach everyone about the last journeyand to be less fearful. ❤️🕊️🤍❤️🕊️ God Her for all she does.🙏🏾😊✌️🦋

[@LeonMatties]

My ultimate respect to all nurse's. Just finished reading your book THE IN-BETWEEN wish I would of had this lnformation 30 yrs ago to help me deal with the loss of my parents seeing my dad dying with copd and dementia was not something i want to see again, Thank you Hadley for informing family members what to expect in hospice you are an ANGEL ❤

[@jilldowding-walker8066]

I have the utmost respect for all nurses, but especially those providing palliative care. I lost my Dad. He worked 50 years as a bricklayer. In hospital just before he passed, he told me that he was needed to build mansions... "Look! Over there," pointing at a blank expanse of empty hospital wall. "I've got to go, I've got a lot of work to do!" I know these phenomena happen from my own experience. ❤🎉😊

[@myheartsdesire643]

Hadley is wonderful!

[@goodtoGoNow1956]

I love Nurse Hadley. She is great.

[@alexlatt9149]

Hadley's book was the last book my dad gave me before he died. A beautiful and poignant experience, and a great book!

[@summahthevegan3796]

He wanted you to know it was not goodbye but see you later. 💖💖💖

[@alexlatt9149]

Thank you! I believe you’re right 🥰

[@jenny_b_]

Hadley’s book gave me so much comfort after the passing of my Dad last year. What a gift to the world her perspective is!!🙏🏼❤️

[@Ciciye12]

I became close to people when they were dying, I began to understand what a sacred journey I was allowed to part off.

[@annebracher1843]

Fabulous interview. I’m a big fan of Hadley.

[@timwhite3059]

This one of the best books I have ever read. I can say it helped me recenter my life and, really focus on my family and look at how I come across to them. Let the little things go and show more love. I love her writing in the book. Truly changed my life.

[@myheartsdesire643]

I don't know if Hadley or Guy will ever see this but I loved this interview/podcast. Hadley BOTH my parents had Hospice at the end of their lives and I have nothing but HUGE respect for the Hospice nurses and staff! I was the only "child" who took care of my parents so I was with them and many times alone for days on end and the Hospice nurses helped me get through this too. Now my husband is stage 4 esophageal cancer and I so wish you lived closer to us.:) But I will follow your lead and have your book on audible and you have helped me immensely. Thank you!

[@TheTraumaTherapistProject]

Thank you for watching and also for your reply. Best to you. Guy

[@awehaiehna]

Hospice nurses who care are rare. Hospice nurses like Hadley are even rarer! My mum died of cancer of unknown primary in hospice in the middle of a lockdown during the pandemic and I wish mum had the care and love at home instead during her most vulnerable moments…the hospice nurses I encountered were absolutely horrible.

[@Tyger-Lee]

Hadley is amazing.

[@sindythebeautiful3252]

I've read Hadley's book and watched all her videos. She is fabulous.

[@amytesch663]

💯💯💯💯I couldn’t agree more! It is my aspiration to become a hospice nurse.

[@sherizazzetti1824]

I was not a believer ,but watching my mom ,cry to her mom saying help me mom help me mom, , i felt hopeless, i couldn't not do nothing to help my mom, but then i felt a big relief she got her mom, she been gone over 26 years andi inow she was okay and hope to see them in my last days, luke my mom❤❤, its so beautiful 😍❤️

[@living-in-quebec1554]

Beautiful interview on both sides. Thank you 🙏😇❤️

[@Ciciye12]

Same issue when I was a psychiatric nurse. I got hospice experience work as volunteer for Cancer society.

[@michellemartinov6267]

Yes - I remember the first time working as a CNA while I was going through nursing school like a 100 years ago lol, the CNA I was following around to learn from would go into these poor patients rooms and flip on the biggest overhead lights on and loudly proclaim she was there to do there to do there vital signs and I was cringing inside thinking “oh my gosh I’m never going to be like this” because these poor patients had just fallen asleep on night shift. This would have been 37 years ago! I retired after 35 years of nursing.

[@benedettasavitri9644]

Hadley is a star! ❤❤❤

[@ontherightpath333]

I love ❤️ Hadley and I read her book!!!

[@flanks333]

I cannot pour from an empty cup

[@wzvarick]

I found the interviewer’s own reactions and feelings about hospice to be a bit distracting. It’s as if he was sitting on a thumbtack the whole time and needed to be talked down.

[@TheTraumaTherapistProject]

That sounds like it would hurt.

[@youngblood2]

I'm interested, but your audio track is terribly hard to understand.

[@jmehickstx]

Read her book

[@TheTraumaTherapistProject]

Hi. You're right. I apologize for that. I appreciate you being here and checking out the video though.

[@Star-dj1kw]

✅

[@micheledavis3735]

My loves who've gone before, save my seat. Especially my fur babies...they promise immediately but it's always a pinky promise I have with those I love. I've never thought I would ever end alone...I'd just find my seat. 🩵🪻