Unforgettable Journey To Nigeria With My American Fiancé - Prepare To Be Amazed In 2024!

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(EP. 101) Our brother Duke took an epic journey back home to Nigeria, took Chanel for the first time and told us all about their eye opening experience. We talked about the importance of family and social norms that have hindered the growth of family in America. There are many key differences in family dynamics in the U.S. vs overseas and we touched on a few throughout this episode including single parent households.
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[@heyerikan]

Omar was in his interviewing bag on this one

[@Fantaseha]

I love when fellow Africans are real about Africa & aren't separating "good" "bad" parts because there should be no shame in any of it. It is what it is & if you are going to be proud of where you come from you must be real about it in every aspect. Our family & ancestors did their best through all the struggles so that the next generations can thrive. That in itself is powerful. With still much to do, we have come far. So its nice to hear though Chanel had to adjust she was still able to truly experience Nigeria, see different sides, & grab a better understanding of where Duke is from. Saying that yall grew closer is so beautiful! I love hearing when African Americans get the chance to experience Africa, truly any part really lol. Great episode for the first day of Black History Month!!! Love Black people deeepppp 🤎🖤🤎

[@matureeroyale]

Duke did a great job explaining the family dynamics in the cultural sense. It takes a village to raise a child. We are forever children to the village regardless of age.

[@BekaSmalls]

I love this so much, Duke broke it down well! Next time tho take Chanel to Ikoyi, V.I, VGC or Lekki and give her that rich girl experience! I'm glad she overcame and I'm proud you love our Culture. WE can be tough but we love HARD! You both got this ❤❤ Love from a British Nigerian

[@thistoomuchpodcast6462]

Omar was too good with the deep questions “Do you connect land of the free with Broken Homes?” Eye opener

[@Bigtete_]

I’m surprised they didn’t speak on how the US government has intentionally torn down families, specifically African Americans. It’s not just because of the individualism in America

[@clockwork9825]

They won’t. 😂😂😂🤦🏾‍♂️

[@heyerikan]

I’m so glad Jolan spoke about having a “child out of wedlock.” I personally don’t judge but I KNOW people feel a way about that. Can we have an episode where we go deeper? I was relieved to hear him express himself and would LOVE an episode about his experience navigating possible stigmas or judgments from family, friends, and strangers. So many people will connect with it because of the baby mama / baby daddy discourse. Just like that episode talking about Duke getting engaged and the drama around it, I’d love to dedicate one to Jolan about pressure to marry because his son is here ♥️ obvi it’s SO personal so I understand if not. Think it’d be so powerful though. Thank you 🙏🏾

[@NenaLoKas]

which episode was that where duke talked about the engagement ?

[@naijaboi92]

Duke kept it 100! I respect it

[@Rueru94]

This is beautiful! My Husband is Nigerian and I’m Zimbabwean, he took me to Nigeria in 2022 and it truly was an amazing experience. I agree that it’s soo important to visit each other’s countries to understand your spouses culture and relate. We plant visit Zimbabwe too so he can experience my culture too.

[@eulicehooper6340]

Awwww this touched me from the beginning. I got engaged in Nigeria, met my fiancé’s family from Abuja to Eket. I struggled the first 4 days also. Hearing how you felt about her experience is the same way my fiancé spoke of me. Wow. 😮 His family calls me wifey especially since there is no word for girlfriend in his culture. We plan to marry their soon. Thank you for sharing.❤❤

[@keerabilo7095]

Love this for you❤

[@eulicehooper6340]

@@keerabilo7095thank you for your kindness.

[@SignedSteph]

We actually call it our Fathers Land. “Loyal to the soil”. He broke it down well. There are certainly levels to how everyone experiences village life. Especially if you’re father has set everything up well, and other factors like your dad can be a King, chief, etc…but that’s the core.

[@micahramsey7325]

Everything what Duke said is true… my friend is from Haiti 🇭🇹 and she explained it the same way

[@intentionalgreatness]

Another good one! Great questions especially about culture.

[@zmf7371]

I genuinely enjoyed this episode. Duke explaining his trip from Nigeria 🇳🇬 , sounds completely similar to my trip to Haiti 🇭🇹. I'm Haitian, so I can totally relate to Duke was saying. 💯 of everything he was saying was facts, because I think 🇭🇹 Haitians and 🇳🇬 Nigerians have similar backgrounds. Duke's trip took be back to Haiti. When he said Nigeria feels like home it actually do. When I went back to 🇭🇹 Haiti, as soon as the plan door open it was something in the air, it's like a feeling you can't explain that tells you YOU'RE HOME! No greater feeling than that. Throughly enjoyed the podcast

[@thistoomuchpodcast6462]

This episode is spot on and really good!

[@janiceburke6037]

We Loved It!

[@lizetteperdomo1039]

Fire episode felt this in my soul!

[@ishhbang3043]

This podcast is a BREATH of fresh air. LOVE IN.

[@WhoIsTheeMeister]

I’m crying and it’s only 11 minutes in! So beautiful! 💝

[@47Sylvia1]

I absolutely loved this episode, I have watched all of your episodes. Really enjoy your podcasts!

[@bilittefede6032]

The family value conversation is completely understandable, I agree 100%

[@monique.a.stewarttheauthor]

These guys are amazing!!!🤎🤎🤎

[@ifeanyichukwuozobu7819]

Duke hit the nail on the head! Being back home is a humbling experience and great feeling

[@lynellwhite1740]

Just found the show. Great job, fellas.

[@Iamsaraii]

THIS EPISODE IS AMAZING.. realness!

[@lililovesbeauty100]

Such a dope episode! Loved how duke really kept it real about Naija 🇳🇬

[@awueseagwadza1248]

Yea it's a nice one. Keep it up

[@kf7805]

this is such an amazing conversation! As a fellow African (from Togo) born in America, even I was somewhat removed from tradition & family in a way too. When I got old enough to really understand, it became really important to me as an adult to really go home and understand even for myself why my family is how it is. So for someone with no connection all together to go to Nigeria and put an understanding to what's going on and Duke to want to bring her into that is so powerful. i love what yall are doing! You cant really explain family, you gotta experience it. see it.

[@roshaewilson7950]

Thanks guys for this discussion. This definitely added a new perspective about family and culture for me. I also was reminded of the Royal Family shakeup. Maintain the structure…a house divided cannot stand (Matthew 12:25).

[@tavonsanders8298]

Excellent! Greatness! 🌍

[@jahshawncarr1861]

Nice and neat detty december! I'm here for it

[@osatuyiemmanuel2758]

Real talk from Duke. Emmanuel from Naij❤ Much love brother

[@HeyItzMeDeeJay]

This was great

[@ajbug77]

I just came across your podcast YESTERDAY due to watching the episode with Dr. Bobby Price, That episode grabbed my attention which led me to this episode. I AM NOW A MEMBER- because this episode was sooo deep and resonated with my spirit. Thank you guys (with Duke leading the convo) for such an in depth discussion on your trip to Nigeria, the differences in perspectives of family dynamics in Nigeria (and other countries) and the US- where our thinking is very individualistic. I am sharing this video with my brother, god-brother and bro in law right away! I look forward to watching and hearing more! Blessings.

[@eulicehooper6340]

I am vegan and I struggled. I had to learn that all the carbs and meat was literally to have enough to labor for a day. Even when I said I don’t eat meat they still had fish in it. Just like my family in Louisiana, smh 🤦‍♀️. They also have the garden of Eden there, the vegetation is everywhere. I can walk up to a tree and get coconut water, they have neem trees, soursop, pumpkin leaf etc. They have the resources it is just a different mindset of how food is experienced. My fiancé said he only heard of vegans from celebrities and didn’t take it seriously. 😅😅

[@iamalaysiabriana]

Wow , i dont think yall understand the depth of the last 30 mins of the conversation. So many great points made... Great episode

[@cocolove8635]

Great pod. Lol duke you were spot on. I’m from Somalia and everything you said I resonated with. Family is what really gets you thru life. I think it’s very important to go back to your roots & reconnect with your family. what a beautiful way & experience to share it with Chanel. She’s 1 of 1. There’s a level of respect and confirmation when you take your partner back home and make them apart of your upbringing and family. A lot people don’t understand the pressure and expectations that come from families sometimes when it comes to your marriage/partner but it’s really for the greater good.

[@cocolove8635]

I also believe that African parents think highly of their kids. I mean who wouldn’t their seed is the most valuable thing on earth so of course they’re going to be protective. When it comes to marriage or any of that sort. It’s such a big deal for them. They really come from a place of love and respect & wanting you to carry on the legacy and culture on to your kids & Fulfilling your life purpose.

[@WhoIsTheeMeister]

Yasssss boys trip then couples trip

[@NiaJolie]

Loved this discussion but I don't think I could date a man whose family wouldn't accept because I'm from a different culture. Life is already hard enough I don't need my relationship to add anymore difficulty to it

[@carlabarnett3712]

WHEN I TELL YOU THS WAS SO GOOD TO HEAR, JUST MAKES ME WANT TO RESTRUCTURE MY WHOLE FAMILY DYNAMIC/THINKING, THANKS DUKE FOR SHARING, LOOKING FORWARD TO HEARING CHANELS POINT OF VIEW FROM HER EYES ON THIS. AGAIN THANK FOR SHARING ALL OF YOU AND YOUR WIVES ARE ENCOURAGING

[@Khaidawg]

Why are you yelling

[@carlabarnett3712]

@@Khaidawg LOL!! Excited…

[@njuzyelvisekambi314]

Duke hit me up when next you want to visit Nigeria. Other than Lagos and Abuja there are other beautiful citeis like Portharcourt, Calabar, Jos, Kaduna and lots of others.

[@WhoIsTheeMeister]

What a beautiful name and what an honor to be given by your mother in law 🙏🏾💝

[@layandakhayanga5652]

Please come to Kenya too as Nice and Neat and the Ladies too 🙏🙏🙏

[@Me-px7js]

This was a great episode. I’ve always been curious about out Duke’s culture.He’s African American but was raised by Africans. I would like to hear more.

[@Bigtete_]

African Americans are descendants of American slavery. I thought he was Nigerian American

[@chris37115]

He’s a first generation Nigerian-American. He’s igbo

[@sejiroagosa]

As Usual, I Loved This Episode Fellas…I’m A Nigerian Man And My Fiancée Is Polish. Everything Duke Said Or Alluded To Was Spot On! Although It’s Naturally Her, My Woman Has Taken The Time And Care To Ingratiate Herself Into My Family, And Understand Parts Of Our Culture And How We Rock As A Family And It’s Worked Out For The Absolute Best.

[@keerabilo7095]

I just finished watching this episode but let me go start again♥️♥️♥️ I’m from senegal West Africa and I understand everything Duke was saying. Many countries in Africa have a lot of things in common. CHANEL♥️♥️♥️ how you can not LOVE this beautiful and adorable women. She so sweet like a chocolate 🍫.

[@nuresolo]

I agreed that being a wife is more respectful in my culture than a girlfriend. Am a proud lagosian. Shout out to Nigerians.

[@njuzyelvisekambi314]

"Nigeria is not a tourism destination" Duke i don't see how that makes sense. 😢😢😢

[@awueseagwadza1248]

Nope! Duke. Abuja, Lagos, Port Harcourt, Kano and so on

[@njuzyelvisekambi314]

I don't even understand what Duke is saying "no network in Orlu" there is no village in Imo state without internet service.

[@kingstonrebel]

"Poverty" lies within the eyes of the Beholder...! 🙀🙉🙈

[@layandakhayanga5652]

Also, most people abroad might be going to Nigeria a lot because Nigerians are the majority of Africans who relocate a lot to other countries and sell their country a lot from their pride of being Nigerian.

[@Cbanksfitness]

He doubled down on motherland. Too funny, I can't.

[@kf7805]

so would y'all say the only difference between a broken home and a stable family is unconditional love then? because things happen, but what really keeps people together?

[@kingstonrebel]

You better be "Truthful" to yourself son. "Marriage"...is a very Serious Commitment...especially when a new "FAMILY" is born. If you plan on living anywhere in Africa particularly amongst "your people" in Naija..."Think Twice" before marrying a lady who is so caught up & entangled the "Web of Western society"...!!! A society of "Made-to-believe"..., A society with no Real sense of LIFE...for Real...! 😮 AFRICA IS BY NATURE... "THE SOULFUL HEADQUARTERS FOR CREATION" 🌞 🌙 🌚 🌟 🌈 🌧 🌥 🌩 🌳 🦁 🐘 🐒 🦜 ♥️ "THE AFRICAN SOIL IS THE AFRICAN SOUL"... JahKing Live & Love LIFE in AFRICA...NATURALLY There is absolutely Nothing that exists on Earth that does not exist in Africa...yet... No other part of the world has everything which exist in Africa...NATURALLY! Think about it....🤔

[@lcavit]

Take a shot whenever you hear “Abuja”

[@Deerych]

The family discussion was quite interesting. I’ll be honest, it sounds slick oppressive & controlling…to center all identity & culture around the needs of the family only. Even if the family is toxic & problematic?

[@ChiTheAesthete]

Lagos is also in Yoruba tribal land, Abuja is more centrally located. Thats the primary reason for moving along with what duke stated and the fact that Lagos is a mess of a city

[@charlottebrown9079]

Family is in the Ok of QUIET area near Carmichael Road to your house and your family is in town and would like you to make some time with your parents too later in the Ok I am still interested in this job opportunity to share my experiences with your company

[@Vivienspeaks]

As a Nigerian I can attest that everything Duke said was spot on. It is what it is. But we love our country even though our leaders are quite frankly trash.

[@njuzyelvisekambi314]

So lagos and Abuja are there only cities in Nigeria? No Network in Orlu in Imo state? Nigeria is not a tourist destination? Come on use ur head😢

[@Vivienspeaks]

@@njuzyelvisekambi314 A tourist destination how ?!😳🤨when even the capital city which I live in has security issues ? What exactly are we attracting tourists to come see?No you use your head.

[@user-mo9wd6zp5o]

Jamaica And Trinidad Tobago. 500 Teeths Times 700 Feets. Nigeria = Nice & Nice The Podcast And Kenya = Kids & Kiddy Kiddies The Icons & Idols Raries & Realities-Rubies. Andrain Mean Jesus Hands . Angel-Angelic Mean Jesus Mouth And Earth. Soon And Smile-Smiled.

[@chantelleg5529]

I’m shocked that Chanel has not seen that type of poverty in Jamaica. Jamaica, Nigeria and Ghana are very similar. This whole time I thought she was AA. The begging and hustle mentality happens in Jamaica as well. I literally try my best to not sound American when I go back home. It’s unfortunate. Don’t get me wrong there is middle class and rich people in Jamaica. Just like Duke explained. There are neighborhoods for the wealthy and the poorer areas.

[@deionjohnson8683]

She was born in America,I feel her to be AA.i don't believe she has any ties to Jamaica

[@ds98368]

Jamaica and Nigerians are fraternal twins in my book! I was surprised as well.

[@chantelleg5529]

@@deionjohnson8683her mom is Jamaican according to this video. I don’t know about her dad

[@deionjohnson8683]

@@chantelleg5529 yea I remember she said that her mom was ,not sure about her Dad but culturally she gravitates towards AA, especially growing up in New York.

[@soniaevans1]

It depends on where people travel too in JA. I’m from the uk and I’ve been to JA more than 10 times. I only saw poverty in JA when I did some work out there. I used to stay uptown in JA with family who were very protective. My family are shocked in the downtown areas I’ve visited.

[@bmoney185]

As a Cameroonian man no body respects the word “girlfriend” either

[@xNicSantiaga]

lost me when you started speaking on American family structure, without addressing HOW & WHY things are the way they are.

[@justinejackson1409]

Nice podcast! But I don’t think Duke’s family really accepted Chanel. Maybe they think she’s a nice girl, but I don’t get the sense they really connected with her or felt she was the one for Duke. He was hesitant to answer that question directly. It’s like he was trying to be careful with his words to protect Chanel’s feelings.

[@jordyaaaa2990]

Nah Nigerians parents are just very hard and stubborn at first but they always ease up. Trust me as a Nigerian I know exactly what he’s talking about. Most nigerian parents are not naturally affectionate or show much emotion, they show and display love differently. He just seems to be super careful with his wording when expressing his family and his woman without people getting the wrong idea, like you did lol

[@justinejackson1409]

@@jordyaaaa2990 body language doesn’t lie. His body language and nonverbal cues told it all. The fact that he paused instead simply saying, “Oh fa show. My family loves Chanel!” with absolute confidence and without question-AND THEN said all that extra stuff, -is telling. His pause/body language said otherwise . Don’t get me wrong: I like them as a couple, but I did peep his response and didn’t find it believable

[@fionaodak2583]

Mmh in my experience,many African families are like that,especially in my country.Any girl that does not share the same culture is usually not welcomed with the same enthusiasm.Also ,a lot of older aunts usually don’t understand 'soft life' so if the view you as a 'soft life queen' there is a way they look at you.They'll get used to it though,that is HIS wife;who he chose.Any other person's feelings are irrelevant tbh.Wishing them well❤

[@dolapoo.7896]

That’s definitely not the vibe I got from his response. Please don’t spread nonsense.

[@awueseagwadza1248]

Not really. Africans don't show likenes the way you think. That's they allowed her into their activities means they acce o ted her.

[@eca6545]

jungle????????????????????????

[@patrickrumbu2902]

First things first, you are Nigerian & i wont take that from you...heck! I dont have the power to rob you off that. But, you don't go to Nigeria once or twice & think you can give an authoritative take on the country. You didnt present some facts accurately. My biggest problem with Americans is that they dont avail themselves with knowledge. Nigeria's capital was shifted from Lagos to Abuja as Lagos was over crowded & to spread development across, hence Abuja...where there is space + it's more central. 1. Nigeria has it developed parts & it's undeveloped parts. 2. There are differences btw a city & a village like it is EVERYWHERE in the world. 3. Lagos & Abuja arent the only 'it' place in the country. Nigeria practically has 37 states. 4. If your house in the village lacks water or light...u can sink in a borehole & what ever showering 🚿 system you want

[@eca6545]

Thank you so much. His family is probably from Enugu and that is a developed state. Of course some rural areas would be undeveloped but coming here to call his village a jungle? Really. Just say you don’t have toilet in your house and go. Finish

[@patrickrumbu2902]

@eca6545 fefe finish! You are doing very well for yourself in America, nothing bad you pimping your family home. They are people who build mansions in their villages. I am not even from the East, I am from Kaduna but I hate it when people misrepresent Nigeria. Yes there are a lot of things really wrong with Nigeria, like insecurity & the economy but we must state the correct fact. Philadephia in the US has so much poverty. Even the almighty Los Angeles I was very surprised with the development in Maiduguri when I went there.

[@LifinOnPurpose]

You literally said what he said. He spoke the truth about Nigeria that's it, but you took it as negative.