Unhinged Sister-In-Law Stole DNA From My Child To Prove That She Wasn't Mine r/Relationships

[@dafnev3643]

S1: There is another update , she dumped his crazy brother and went nuts to OP and his daughter they called police so he is in custody and OP pressed charges, Lily and OP are doing well after that

[@ZombieSazza]

Story 2: OP is being hardcore gaslit, controlled, worn down, isolated from friends and family, has to fight just to be able to speak to the people he cares about, is constantly accused of cheating, constantly put down. OP is being abused psychologically and made to feel so small, that he needs her constant approval. I wouldn’t be surprised if she is cheating, and honestly OP should use that as an excuse for leaving if he needs it because he needs to LEAVE. He doesn’t have his own life, can’t t get a moments peace, is constantly fighting just to be heard, he deserves so much better and needs to escape this actual DEMON.

[@laurenc4138]

Yeah it’s even more worrisome she’s a decade older than him and has been doing this a lot longer, he’s her boy toy and she’s a loser who can’t have a successful relationship because she’s a pathetic manipulative narcissistic cheater. I’m honestly surprised no one pointed that out, Reddit is quick to talk about the power imbalance with large age gaps for women but the same exist when it’s reversed. (Im not saying every age gap relationship is unhealthy at all, but when it’s like this it does play a role in the dynamic) She abused and wore down this man until he was a shell of himself, all because she was clearly cheating but her ego couldn’t let her be cheated on.

[@Fiero425]

What a tool! She has the rep for cheating, but is allowed to harass her BF thru projection! I guess this guy needs video of his GF fk'n around! He'd be better off being an INCEL! ;-(

[@taylorlibby7642]

That SIL would never be allowed around my child or in my house again.

[@johnbradbury8610]

YTA for asking, what SIL was disgusting, yet OP is worried about hurting her feelings.

[@taylorlibby7642]

@@johnbradbury8610🙄 ITA for asking what? Where do I pose any questions in my original comment?🙄

[@Dusk.EighthLegion]

@@johnbradbury8610 The fuck are you on about? He didn't ask anything.

[@johnbradbury8610]

@@Dusk.EighthLegion He asked AITA for lauging at his SIL. as if that's the problem. Read the post.

[@Dusk.EighthLegion]

@@johnbradbury8610 I know what the post says, you replied to a completely different comment, try again later when you learn basic reading comprehension.

[@LadyCeag840]

Story 1: This is the first time I ever heard Mark so angry! I now know how scary he is when *angry* ....

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Three posts in and this compilation is doing a stellar job raising my blood pressure!

[@Markee]

We love a good compilation to start the day

[@AnEnquiringMind]

I use these videos to vent my menopause rage. Saves those I love from my nasty venting!

[@Bucketus.Lord.of.Buckets]

S1 "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb" He didn't want kids, but raised her because it was the child kf his departed friends. They meant that much to OP.

[@markanthony1004]

Finally somebody got it right! Thank you!

[@Dolphin_Dreamn]

Markee making that whip noise at 25:28 literally made me laugh so hard, I had to go back and hear it again. 🤣

[@xdsc96]

SAME 😂😂😂 it took a sec for it to click and then I busted out laughing 😂

[@candiebarr6745]

She wouldn't accuse op of taking care of a dead woman's affair baby IN FRONT of the child if she was doing the right thing. She was probably hoping to turn the grandparents against the kid so that HER future kids will get all the attention

[@ryanmackenzie6109]

3:18:44 The SECOND that update started, I KNEW it was posted by the parents. The "hello people" It started with was so stiff that it IMMEDIATELY set off alarm bells. The longer it went on, the more certain I was. I hope OP can get the hell out of there and FAST.

[@EluneAnzu]

Story 2: Step 1: block her Step 2: get a therapist Step 3: show them this post

[@Kenshaable]

I'm baffled at why he stayed in this while being harassed for potential cheating (mostly projection from GF I guess) just to be screwed over in the end. Lost a lot of lifetime with her and gain trauma 🤦🏾

[@kaitohkid7229]

Not after you read the update............

[@IrisAsuras]

Brother should wonder why his fiancé didn't ask him directly before she went and stole someone's DNA to bring some drama down on the family.

[@maurer3d]

This so much... This woman went out of her way to commit a crime, to try and drum up drama in the family, that didn't exist. And worst now that child's DNA is in some companies database, for them to do what they like with it (including possibly sharing it with relatives that have no right to contact her).

[@demonheart13]

Wow, didn't even listen to the whole story before commenting. Brother told her to do it. That poor woman was made a fool of by her own husband who was encouraging her to "seek justice". No doubt she told her him about her parents affair and he just psyched her up. How disgusting.

[@Sherwoody]

She tried to throw a rotten egg, but instead facepalmed it. Brother is despicable, he orchestrated the fiasco.

[@Ashbrash1998]

He shouldn't because HE was the one who was behind it all

[@immasnakeee6460]

@@demonheart13there ain’t nothing poor about that woman she’s awful too

[@ginger_snapped_]

The “room temperature” water lady spiritually reminds me of the “essence of the sauce” woman

[@rcarr2603]

@Markee... Not only does the word chagrin exist, but so does the entire Welsh language 🤯😂

[@RosesTeaAndASD]

The Welsh are like leprechauns - they just don't exist. The legend's cool though.

[@sunshinejgb]

​@@RosesTeaAndASD😂🤣😂

[@JDKT002]

In story 3 about religious people having a script on how to manipulate reluctant family members of church goers is horrifyingly true. It's exactly what happened to my late grand father. His wife was a dangerously religious woman, he was adamant about not wanting anything to do with it. But eventually caved in and gave up trying to protect his children from it, then he was eventually manipulated into buying into it whole sale after my grand mother had a stroke. When that happened they swarmed him when he was emotionally vulnerable. The irony that day was that it wasn't my grandmother who I lost from her stroke, but my grandfather.

[@lightsalt8530]

I'm definitely not saying it doesn't happen but it's so wild to me. I've never experienced anything like that and I come from a religious family. I can't even fathom my family behaving this way. So crazy.

[@JDKT002]

@@lightsalt8530 in fairness Jehova Witnesses behave more like literal cults than most organized religions do. Not that I'm particularly fond of any organized religion. But that's a whole other story haha.

[@lightsalt8530]

@@JDKT002 Yes I know that's true of Jehova Witnesses, I've had encountered a few and it wasn't pleasant and somewhat offensive. I myself am not actually a fan of organized religion either. I do attend church but I am not naive and am well aware of very awful things done in the name of religion and I absolutely do not co-sign that crap. I just love the Lord and do my very best to live a life that glorifies Him and everything else be damned. Just because someone claims to be a "Christian" or other religion doesn't mean they actually are.

[@vegaskullkid4503]

⁠​⁠@@lightsalt8530I’m the same way. Truly love the Lord and do my best to live a life according to his principles but I don’t follow my faith blindly or naively. Also it brings me some comfort to know that I’m not the only one who’s been creeped out by their interactions with Jehova’s Witnesses. As the other commenter said, they’re truly cultish.

[@lightsalt8530]

@@vegaskullkid4503 they really are. I do speak with them when approached. The ones I've spoken to are willing to speak with you about what they believe but are not willing to listen to your pov. When I've challenged them they have either gotten very curt with me, just plain walked away or got very uncomfortable. The women are the ones that tend to get uncomfortable. It baffles me why they send them so unprepared for the most basic questions they would be asked. Especially when it comes to Yeshua. Weird.

[@sarahclapp505]

Lily I hope you know you have (had) three parents that love you ❤❤❤

[@Kenshaable]

Ep4: let's normalize to not planning a wedding when u can't afford it 😮

[@francit4856]

Just call a Court House Ceremony what it is, a "Wedding." You want a wedding fancier than that? Line up your finances and start saving for said wedding.If you are gifted with a wedding fund, say "Thank You," and if you want more then add to ot yourself and save for it if needed.

[@Reiameino]

"Do people really use chagrin in common conversation??" YES MARKEE. YES. (I'm a writer BUT STILL.)

[@lindasoohoo8672]

Yes, they do. I also use Whilst!

[@francit4856]

Hey Writer.......YES, some families do actually use "Chagrin" in conversations, though that and other descriptive terms are usually related to the culture within a specific family and not the general public. Within my family environment, we communicated far differently than we did in public group settings, using more colloquial speech.

[@michellej7831]

Floccinaucinihilipilification is a word often used in my family along with chargin along with tha daft wazzok. 😂 ok just joking only tha daft wazzok is commonly used along with get chip pon on and se thi. 😂🎉😂🎉😂🎉

[@kristlthompson4721]

When my mom and her siblings were kids, she and the two older boys would tell my aunt (the youngest) all the time that she was adopted…they are all 100% biological…because, well, they were kids. As adults, whenever my grandparents (their parents) would say or do something weird, they would jokingly point fingers at each other saying something like, “She’s your mother when she acts like that.” My aunt always reminded them that “Nope, remember? She’s adopted.” I love them all. Please forgive my family’s rather crass / dark sense of humor.😂❤

[@lkayh]

Wait… so OP has told people he adopted this child, but brother thinks she’s really OP’s daughter, so he encourages fiance to dna test the kid. And when the DNA test comes back unrelated, she waves the paper in OP’s face and says, “AHA!!! Your daughter is ADOPTED-Just like you’ve said all along!!!” Um, what?

[@olgar.6604]

Story 1: probably good that op laughed in sil's face because at least there's a chance that Lily didn't take what she said seriously and didn't get trauma

[@Dragonemperess]

S3: I BET the service he really wanted her to go to was a surprise baptism!

[@SaturnPandaCat]

My late ex boyfriend’s Catholic parents tried that with me. I went to one of their Masses out of politeness and the priest said it was a special day because there was going to be an adult baptism. He called out MY NAME and asked me to come to the front. I nearly died from the shock. I think their plan was that I would be so shocked and embarrassed, I’d just go through with it. The whole congregation were looking at me expectantly. I just apologised and said there must’ve been some kind of mistake and it wasn’t happening today. The only time I stepped in that church after was for his brother’s wedding.

[@kathyholland6165]

Funny how this guy’s religion is so important to him but is willing to live in sin with her! You can’t be serious about your religion if you think you can pick and choose what rules you are going to live by!

[@catsncrows]

S1 The circumstances were horrible, poor Lily but seeing someone set up a "clever" manipulative scheme and have them fall face down in it gives me a small amount of satisfaction (my family was the worst) S2 Black and white thinking can be a sign of immaturity, it's a developmental stage people are supposed to grow out of. It always makes me go ???😬 Edit oh she's a whole mess😒

[@WhitneyDahlin]

STORY 2 she must be extremely beautiful for him to put up with so much for so long

[@pippo17173]

@@WhitneyDahlin She had to be giving the best room experience to put this stupid crap for so long lol.

[@lauriemeyer7030]

The gf who won't let OP talk to women, and has a male friend. She is not true, she is lying to you. Stop compromising on this. She does not deserve you. The double standard is the final straw (for the 3rd or 4th time). As for the wedding you need to pay for. No. Congratulations on stepping away from the toxic family. Op was just the one we depend on because they "don't have anything else to do/to spend money on." This had to be hard, I am sorry.

[@muhname6052]

How to know if you send too much time on reddit: when you heard about the parents in the first story you immediately jump to "which cheated" or an obsessed ex lover

[@justinburgard4700]

Dude just break into the garage and steal your car back...

[@Serene80]

Volunteered to donate to the wedding: A wedding is one day. You shouldn't bankrupt yourself for one day... People need to stop being stupid.

[@MaryKenyon-yo7qd]

Story with mom and ops car, op needs to check his credit reports NOW because that kind of mom probably has messed with ops credit 😮

[@elizathegamer413]

1:27:16 this post changed markee forever.. not like it messed him up mentally or anything, just that now chagrin is his favorite word

[@drnick5439]

Story 2. This dude is going to end up taking her back. He doesn't have a real spine.

[@NoOne-fo1di]

Friends sister did the excat same thing as the OPs mom with his car. He called the police and they said the same thing about it being a civil matter. He busted the window out of her garage and used a tree trimmer extended pole to hit the garage door opener. He had been knocking on her door and she pretended to not be home but came flying out of the house as we drove away

[@nightmare_jeanie]

Getting an abortion can cause infertility. It's not terribly common, but it CAN happen. Though it's more likely that she got an STD that she didn't get treated for long enough that it caused infertility. That's most likely the issue because it's super easy for a woman to not notice several STDs and just not get tested because of "no symptoms." I've actually known a few women this happened to because they didn't think getting tested was "necessary" due to only having 1 partner or because they used condoms and just assumed they were fine. ALWAYS GO FOR SCREENINGS! I am monogamous and , I still get tested. So does my husband.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

Chlamydia is one for no symptoms/now you’re sterile.

[@SaturnPandaCat]

I was thinking Pelvic Inflammatory Disease from Chlamydia. There are no symptoms, so you only find out when it’s too late.

[@TyrellColding]

“There is no war in Ba Sing Se” was very on brand for that last update.

[@colleens1107]

OP in story one was too forgiving of futur SIL. If everything else had happened but NOT the part where she tried to HURT an innocent child I would say great ending. I get her trauma. But that girl is an innocent. Even EVEN if everything was true, that child is still innocent of her mother’s sins. She wanted to punish a little girl and that’s NEVER OK. Hope she gets therapy and never does something like this again

[@demonheart13]

Therapy is one thing but gaslighted from your significant other, usually trumps it's. Even if she got therapy, bro was literally poisoning her ear, most likely with full knowledge of her trauma. If OP does go to the police, I'd feel bad cause even if bro incited and fueled it, if he didn't take the kids DNA and only provided his own, she would be going to jail be upset she was tricked by him. It would take a lot of evidence and work to realistically pin any of it on the brother despite him being the cause of ALL of it by lying when asked the first time.

[@sorachitheeggo4440]

@@demonheart13 Bro lying to her does not excuse her committing a potential crime dude. Unless brother was the one to actually harvest the DNA and SIL is just the one taking the fall for it, SIL CHOSE to commit a possible crime to prove a point. She's a grown woman who made this choice, lie or not, it's not an excuse.

[@jls5171]

Chagrin has the emphasis on grin, and it means to the embarrassment or distress.

[@jewlzcraig-leaves597]

LMAO that’s what I was thinking too. Don’t do the leasing lady 😂

[@moodycrab77]

I live in Ireland, and in the town I'm currently living in there is so much limescale in the water, it doesn't bother me drink it with impunity, (I'm old school I can't be bothered about these things) this story is absolutely hilarious.😂 I don't think that cooled boiled water would taste better than drinking it straight from the tap. Cultural norms are strange strange thing and people are funny I needed a laugh❤

[@SaturnPandaCat]

I didn’t understand why 1. She couldn’t sort out her own damned water and 2. Why she didn’t understand and be grateful that he was making preparations for the water being cut off. It was an unusual circumstance, so she can’t demand her needs are met and business as usual.

[@moodycrab77]

Water story, First World Problems😂 edit: My life is in freaking shambles. I really needed this to put things into perspective😂 I only laugh to keep from crying.

[@EH-dw3wb]

OP in story 2 is terminally helpless. You could lead them to water and they’d still die of thirst.

[@Vespasian705]

Story 3 is so bizarre to me, I'm Christian, I was raised Christian, and the part that was massively emphasised to me was that I had to accept Jesus Christ dying for my sins. None of this going to church nonsense, I was taught by multiple ministers and reverends that going to church is not the defining characteristic of a Christian. So getting baptised, without actually accepting Christ, is just being splashed with water for absolutely no reason. Also, I don't understand why so many Christians seem to miss the part where forcing your beliefs on to another is a sin? You can teach people about Christianity, but you can't force or pressure them to accept it. Your responsibility is to spread the 'Good News', it's their choice whether they heed that news or not.

[@ZombieSazza]

Story 1: congrat, brother! You’ve earned yourself NO CONTACT! Imagine setting up your partner and encouraging her to do an ILLEGAL DNA test, telling her constant lies because apparently you can’t talk to your own brother about dumb suspicions that you’ve made up in your head, then having said partner waving those results IN FRONT OF THE CHILD!!! This is just evil, she tried to hurt an innocent child and created a story in her head and instead of also being an adult and talking to OP, she tried to traumatise a child to… prove a point? OP is too forgiving, I wouldn’t allow either of those pieces of scum back into my life. OP is an amazing dad and has been open about his adoption of Lily since the beginning, keeping her parents memory alive, yet somehow that’s just not good enough for his brother and sister-in-law who insist on causing problems. OP deserves better, Lily deserves better, neither should have to deal with his brother and SIL malice.

[@katiecakesl4691]

S2: She literally said if she has a guy friend she is intending to cheat and she is deeply toxic (and frankly too old for you). Leave. She laid it out so clearly. Don't waste anymore of your youth on her.

[@SaturnPandaCat]

I don’t think age is a problem unless there’s a power imbalance. Nine years is a lot if the younger partner was a teenager when the relationship started for example. My partner and I are 41 and 56. But we met when he was 38, so he didn’t lack life experience. Her problem is her immaturity, toxic and ridiculous beliefs and her controlling and unreasonable behaviour. It’s concerning that he threw her a bone and suggested possible reconciliation in the future. She won’t hear ‘possible’, she’ll hear ‘definite’. It’s going to be even harder to break free now.

[@katiecakesl4691]

@@SaturnPandaCat respectfully, very few relationships with large age gaps work. If yours does then great for you, but the vast majority just don't and that's a fact.

[@francit4856]

GF Wedding... I'm a Senior and I fully agree with the comment tossed in that "Age is no excuse."

[@morganleanderblake678]

No, Markee, no one says SHAG-rin. They say sha-GRIN.

[@videofan1010]

OP#1 needed to call the police

[@laurabluege7788]

Just to add, the other word in the water story is emp-a-THE-tic. Maybe it’s just a different pronounciation in a different part of the world, idk.

[@LordGertz]

She was a cheater, she sees you as a cheater, she is acting as a cheater, why is OP with her?

[@toxopidtom5199]

"much to my chagrin" 😂 lmfao. I can't 😅🤣

[@SaturnPandaCat]

The 6th story really worried me. It’s the fact that she’s pregnant and her mother and brother are causing her a lot of stress. It still would be totally wrong of course if she wasn’t pregnant. But high blood pressure in pregnancy is extremely dangerous for both parent and child. My blood pressure spiked when I was 28 weeks pregnant. I had a two and a half hour seizure and my son and I nearly died. It wasn’t the thrashing tonic/clonic type seizure. I lost all muscle tone and was really floppy. It started in my sleep and my son’s dad heard me choking on my tongue. He pulled me upright, then let go to turn the light on. I dead weight keeled sideways and smacked my head on the bedside table. He said I didn’t even flinch. Later during the seizure, I was babbling incoherently as my mouth couldn’t form any recognisable speech patterns. My brain was all jumbled and I doubt it would have made sense even if I could. He said I just wasn’t ‘there’. But for brief moments, I occasionally became partially aware. He said that in his whole life, he has never seen the anyone display the absolute, abject terror that was on my face. It was like I was fighting to save my life (I was), but from something that was attacking me. So I would try to stand up, or drag myself along the floor for 10 - 15 seconds or so before it took hold again. He wasn’t thinking logically, but he was worried that if he ran to a neighbour for help, it could have catastrophic consequences. It was 1989, our phone was out of order and we lived in a maisonette with an outside, concrete staircase. He was worried that if he left me, I’d hurt myself or I’d fall down the stairs while trying to ‘escape’ as I’d crawled into the hallway He just stayed with me the whole time to make sure I was safe. I was only aware that something was amiss was an hour or so after it ended. I woke up, went to the bathroom and wondered why my head and tongue were hurting. I looked in the mirror and realised I bitten through my tongue, root to tip on the right side. It was massively swollen and dark purple. I asked him how I could have bitten my tongue in my sleep so badly and not woken myself up. He said in a very shaky voice, “You don’t remember, do you?” and I replied, “Remember what?” At the hospital, I sat with my mouth agape as I watched this very traumatised man tell midwives and doctors what had happened. I had no memory of any of it and had lost all memory of the entire previous day. They were the ones to tell us I’d had an eclamptic seizure. It was a surprise to both of us because we only had knowledge of the more obvious type of seizure. They aren’t usually that extreme because usually the patient gets to hospital and receives treatment quickly. They said we were lucky to be alive and not have any permanent brain damage. Granted, this is an absolute, worst case scenario. But high blood pressure in pregnancy is very detrimental to both the pregnant person and the baby. It is utterly reprehensible that the mother and brother have such callous disregard for the health and well being of OP and her baby.

[@LS-bb9qh]

Yes, I use chagrin. Words are cool.

[@LemonyFresh2000]

Chagrin is a word I hear a bit here in the states, could just be less used in the upside down

[@kittikats]

Story 6 - what previous choices could cause infertility now that she'd also need to discuss with a partner? Its the A word, markee. She had an unwanted pregnancy and got an a word.

[@SaturnPandaCat]

Not necessarily. Chlamydia can cause Pelvic Inflammatory Disease and infertility. It’s not always linked to multiple partners either. You can catch it from your cheating partner and have no idea. There are no symptoms and if you believe your relationship is monogamous, you would have no reason to get tested. There are also other surgeries that can cause infertility. I had a drunk surgeon operate on me. He leaned over me just as I was about to receive a general anaesthetic and he reeked of alcohol. I tried to withdraw consent, but it was too late. I was supposed to be having a laparoscopy, just them having a look to work out why my periods were so bad. He hacked off my fallopian tubes and burned my insides with a cauterising iron. It wasn’t discovered until 3 years later when my periods went from bad to horrendous and I had to be fully opened up. ‘Hacked off’ was the actual phrase used when the news was broken to me that I had been sterilised without my consent. As for infertility following a botched pregnancy termination, while it can happen, it’s extremely rare. It is normally a very safe procedure. Far more likely that Chlamydia is the culprit.

[@SaturnPandaCat]

Also, an incomplete miscarriage would also require the same surgery as an abortion/pregnancy termination. If there’s anything left inside it has to be removed to prevent uterine infection, which can in of itself cause infertility. I sense some judgement in your comment. Even if you personally are pro life, you don’t know this person’s individual circumstances. There are a multitude of reasons she could be infertile, so it’s best not to jump to conclusions. If it was due to complications from a termination, she clearly didn’t want the outcome of never being able to have children. She deserves compassion for her infertility, whatever the cause, but not for the way she has behaved towards her husband. If she doesn’t want to have sex, that’s her call. But she can’t sentence him to a life of celibacy because that’s what she’s chosen for herself.

[@kittikats]

@SaturnPandaCat judgement was directed at Markee for not piecing this together. It's pretty obvious given what they say about their past what they had something like this or your suggestions happen.

[@susanhale6197]

Re: Wedding dress- people can show their true colors the stronger your ties to them gets. If you want to be super sweet? Get MIL’s dress cleaned and freshened up and make sure it fits enough. Then have it there on your wedding day, and have a lovely picture taken of you in the dress after your hair/makeup is done, but before you put on YOUR dress. MIL will have a lovely portrait of you in her dress to show off and shut her up. And YOU get to wear what you want for the actual event.

[@theresaschuebel5151]

Story at the 1hr 50 min mark was ridiculous. She told him to get it drom someone else and she has no right to be pissed off at him.

[@kamatt5972]

Yes I will wear your Moms dress if you wear my Dad's 1982 pinstripe suit 😂

[@ErisstheGoddessofmanhwas]

First story . This Op is something else . I still love her and I want to be friends? Seriously Op .

[@nytestar40]

The word Chagrin means embarrassment or humiliation Markee. Probably just spelled it wrong.

[@Demonkinghiei-1]

Gotta love how in story 6 almost all the comments were literally trying to blame him for HER choices. These people act like she's not an adult and can't make choices for herself, he's still wrong for cheating but semantics be damned if she didn't bring this upon herself.

[@susanhale6197]

Pretty sure Mark would be chagrined to realize how many people actually DO use that word in daily conversation or writing.

[@carriecreative6555]

So she died because she wanted a new phone so bad she stole from her son in law and continued her bad behavior until she finally went to her place of reward for her life decisions.

[@becauselifts9913]

Haha! Markee read my comment on the Texas Toyota one!

[@mars6233]

One time I lovingly stared into my husband's eyes and said "aw you think you're more beautiful than you are." When he was joking about being ugly, he was all smiles and taking it how I meant it, until I realized what I said and tried to fix it. Now it's something we say to each other.

[@GuardGurl23]

My leasing office was awesome dealing with my cheating/stalker ex…free lock change, no-entry order, the works!

[@DominosAndHearts]

Story 1- I've never seen markee this angry ! All great points too! Story 2 wtf! Run op! RUN the double standards are huge red flags

[@Nicholem718-1]

3:19:38 oh crap. They found the post and made him write that.

[@TheMelbournelad]

1:24:01 Aussie water especially around the main cities is amazing. You don’t realise how good we have it until go overseas

[@Slithery]

Story 2: genuinely what does OP see in his girlfriend? That sounds like it’s gone on for months/years. She sounds Awful!

[@miragedown]

That phrase "equally yoked" pisses me off. I had an exs dad tell me that, i asked him where the nearest wiccan church was cuz then he can convert to my side, then we would be equally yoked.

[@Slithery]

Sha-grin not Shag-rin, any time I hear Markee say I think of the slang word shag

[@rubyclark5920]

FSIL wasn't trying to be helpful or even concerned. She stole a DNA sample from both the kid and her fiance; then in front of the kid shouted out the results when she got them.

[@moodycrab77]

Oh, Markee, my Aussie internet hubby❤ Chagrin' is totally a word. Definition is annoyance or distress at having failed or been humiliated. "to my chagrin, he was nowhere to be see" edit: I am still loving the water story and the op is super sesquipedalian❤ I myself love big words, it annoys people when they can't understand what I'm saying but that's half the fun❤😂.

[@josephmckee3605]

I just love he used it normally in an earlier story and didn't bat an eye but suddenly it ruffles his feathers

[@maurer3d]

Story 1: NTA, she stole your daughter's DNA, to drum up family drama.... She is insane, why did you brother not just tell her, your daughter is adopted or did she steal his DNA too?

[@ValerieBailey-y9u]

Doing so was assault on a minor; a serious criminal offence

[@DominosAndHearts]

This exactly! She got off light! She had chances to think and tell ops bro no but he manipulated and used her and used her insecurities to get his way I'd go no contact with them both, huge toxic vibes there

[@fufufuaru]

cheers to op's parents for not pushing reconciliation on the brothers and even going LC on the AH "brother"

[@kichikitsu]

"AITA for making my partners drinking water too warm" OP are you dating a cat????

[@alivesomehow1538]

Oh damn I'm early again lol .thank you markieeee

[@JohnJackson-e9z]

Mom refuses to return car: Just call the police so she gets arrested for grand th left auto. After a few days in jail she will learn to stop playing stupid games and getting stupid prizes.

[@KianaLehmann]

The story about the stepdaughter that isn’t the husbands after all, his distrust isn’t in the OP. He was spiraling, felt like his whole life was a lie, and his whole brain was screaming, “if that’s not true, what is?!”. Asking for a paternity test was closer to a drowning person grabbing at anything that would float than a genuine lack of trust in OP. Poor husband.

[@EnDB]

She gave the child's dna to a company without permission. Holy fck

[@josephmckee3605]

I could understand wanting a paternity test after finding out your not the father of a teenager, op needs some empathy it's not that he doesn't trust you it's that he's had this big bomb dropped on him and it's sent him for a loop

[@Adrienne-i1m]

Yes shagrin is a word we muricans can and do use 😊 Much to your shagrin Markee 😅😂 It's ok Markee just let Conner in the booth and everything will be ok...🤣😂🤣😍😘

[@dustyrose192]

I think we brits use it too but we spell it with a c maybe? Chagrin?

[@voutsider190]

​@@dustyrose192as an American, I can't say I use that word in conversation, but that's definitely the correct spelling

[@Adrienne-i1m]

@@dustyrose192 you may be right about the spelling🙃

[@yaff1851]

S4: There really is something in the water 😁.

[@Ash-op2ql]

3:19:47 poor kid, this whole update sounds like it’s some pr campaign or they’re being held at gunpoint.

[@samanthasmiles9112]

St. 1 - 😂 She has NOT started taking accountability. Man, I want to shake OP so badly. His ex is a CLASSIC narcissist. Anyone who threatens to unalive themselves to stop you from leaving them is 100% a covert narcissist. She 100% cheated on OP. She is obsessed about YOU cheating because she assumes everyone thinks just like she does. That's why she thinks OP is lying because how could anyone possibly be faithful. Lol. When narcissists realize they can't manipulate you anymore, they will pretend to take accountability and go to therapy just to get you back. Once you are back, they will go RIGHT BACK to cheating and obsessing over you being just like them. She will NEVER give up. OP leaving this woman triggers her very severe abandonment issues, and she will pretend to be whoever, just to trap him again. Don't worry... this will get worse for OP, and he will finally realize the only solution to get a covert narcissist out of your life is block and call the cops.

[@gabrielle4152]

"Chagrin" is French, it just means sadness. I've never heard it from English speakers conversationally, but I read it often in English books. Most of the time, English authors will use the formula "much to my/your/their chagrin". That's what OP did. My guess is OP reads books.

[@dorianleakey]

The fist story, the reason they aren't going NC with the fiance as well as the brother is the author didn't expect people to hate that character once the fact she had been manipulated to come to light. The author saw that character as more of a victim.

[@carolgordon3056]

S1: I never wanted kids and never had any. When I was 46 my mother and I took on care of a young relative (8M) with the double whammy of serious medical issues and crap family, because someone needed to fight for him. He is now 23, still with us and is my kid in all the ways that matter, though I am variously decribed as a (much older) annoying older sister/best second cousin in the world 😂.

[@mandyj2809]

In the brother’s mind, because he would never do anything that caring or selfless, neither can his brother. So the daughter OP claims to be taking care of completely out of compassion, must be his biological affair child.

[@lindasoohoo8672]

Put a tracker on the car and take it back!

[@willj24]

I use the word chagrin fairly regularly. However, I do pronounce it properly.

[@willj24]

(“Shuh grin”, with a slight stress on the second syllable)

[@willj24]

(Technically, yours is right in UK English, btw. Mine is American)

[@carolwilson1236]

First story: Why was any of this anyone's business? Obviously OP and Lily know that he is Lily's real, but not bio, father.

[@TheFleahost]

Drama cauldron!

[@theresaschuebel5151]

Brita water pitchers can not have hot water in it. It had to be tap water or it damages the filter

[@MissAyame89]

Ops gf said her boundaries for the relationship. He ignored them for a year and did whatever he wanted. She does the same and he looses his crap. Figures. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@carolgordon3056]

The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb is constantly misquoted, with the reverse meaning, as blood is thicker than water. Pet personal peeve.🤯

[@jlruzic]

I have a feeling OP is a bit of a train wreck himself. Or the adult time is mind-blowing. Second story.

[@nyxxthewry]

It's "shuh-grin" not "shag-rin" lmao. And I use chagrin regularly, but maybe I'm just a weirdo.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

The British pronunciation is what Markee said. Like sked-jule vs shed-jule (schedule).

[@angelalee7012]

S6: STI or abortion complications. My heart hurts for OP and his wife.

[@SaturnPandaCat]

Or other complications from other gynaecological surgery.

[@jyriggs]

Chagrin. Yes we use it but pronounce it “shugrin or shagrin” here in the US.

[@Jasonfallen71]

“It’s just a splash of water” and “don’t disrespect my religion” from the same AH… who would have ever guessed? 🙄 I’ve met that dude. Can’t believe any self respecting woman would even date such a foul creep but so many do. So🤮that lady too

[@ShelleyJolly]

Why is this guy so pathetic with this girlfriend who has rules for her and different rules got her.Stop being so weak.