Opening Up: Self Doubt, Mental Health and Gap Year Realities 😌

[@DanielDuffield1]

..and the winner of most influential KZbinr of the year award goes to UnJaded Jade. You’re honestly INCREDIBLE!💫x

[@graciedavenport]

*who else just genuinely adores jade? like you’re honestly the most down-to-earth person and I love you!❤️ thankyou for inspiring me to start my own channel☺️x*

[@jasminesaunders9306]

I completely agree with the pressure of feeling like you always need to know what you’re doing with your life! I 100% have felt this from about year 12 and now I’m at uni and still feeling the same way! But I have to say it’s 100% okay to change your mind- I changed course at uni! It’s sooo normal and okay! It’s all to do with stopping the comparisons with other people like just because that girl knows she wants to be a dentist and you don’t know what you’re doing doesn’t mean you’re any less worthy!!! I still don’t know what I’m doing and have felt the pressure to know what I’m doing but honestly just embrace the freedom and when you stop worrying about what to do, I’m sure you’ll find the right path!!!

[@leahwatki]

Jade, you’re the best at constantly showing the *real* side of life, the ups and downs, the highs and lows, which is so so important in society that often only shows us the ‘perfect’ life that we are ‘supposed’ to have - so thank you💞xx

[@UnJadedJade]

Oh Leah, this means so much. Thank you! 🌻 x

[@jumpincows]

Oh man this takes me back to being 18 because it IS a hard time, especially feeling like you need to know where you’re going with your life. I feel like it’s such a big and also unreasonable, and also very real, pressure at that age. Something that helped me with that existential crisis was meeting older people deep into their careers and realizing their life took them in all kinds of crazy directions. Like meeting the woman who was the head drafter (lawyer that writes legislation) for my provincial government and hearing how she hadn’t even become a lawyer until later in life and in fact spent her 20s as a competitive folk dancer. Or one of my colleagues who studied creative writing and film, ended up working for a political party that formed government and is now the manager for elevator safety in the province. I dunno, those kinds of stories took away some of the pressure I felt because I realised I could,and probably would, change career targetery in my lifetime and that that would be fine. It made me realize I just needed to make the best decision for my life right now and accept that I might end up pivoting later in life and that if/when that happened I would still be able to make that pivot. I wasn’t locking in the next 50 years of my life with the decisions I was making at 18.

[@slightmelancholy]

Love these chatty type of videos 💛and I completely agree with you with the pressure of living a "perfect" life when it is far from it, despite what it may seem like on social media (and how the last thing anyone wants is for someone else to feel bad because of it)

[@UnJadedJade]

Yes yes, 100%. 🌟 I like to think I'm super real on social media (and consciously try to be!), but the bottom line is, it will only ever be a few snippets of life. It can never fully capture all the fluctuations of a day. Thank you so much! x

[@charlotte52yearsago84]

Hi Jade 👋 I’m 13 and you definitely DON’T make me feel insecure!! Your videos always make me motivated to keep going and empowered to aspire for bigger things! I love you 💓💓

[@UnJadedJade]

This. ^^ wow. Thank you so much for affirming something I really have set out to do with my channel from Day 1. Can’t have people being made to feel like my 13-year old self did on social media!! So much love 🦋❤️✨ xx

[@charlotte52yearsago84]

UnJaded Jade Thank you for replying 😮🥰 My friends and I love your channel so much you really are such a great help with school and reminding us to be positive! You also encouraged me to start meditating and I love it💓

[@el6689]

Did anyone else burst out crying when jade said "your doing good" 😭thank you jade xxxxx

[@UnJadedJade]

🙈🙈🙈😭 sending virtual hugs. x

[@wulanhartono436]

ME TOO!!!

[@mioing]

i feel like gap year indices that in you. the who am i and what am i doing in life and what am i doing. i think people who don’t take gap years get this after uni, it’s just that if we take an early gap year such questions pop up come earlier to us.. but i think it’s a great opportunity to move forward and to grow in mind and views. i am in my second gap year and i have faced sooo many questions. i am always second guessing everything now. but it’s okay. we will get there. everything is not as planned but that’s okay. i hope anyone else in their gap year, have a good year too and is a year of thinking ;) and the feeling of loneliness crops up, at first i was looking for happiness in things, and i knew i should not, but it’s very hard to apply it irl. so i am learning to be happy, not attaching my happiness to things and person. loneliness is okay. it’s something we need to learn. ❤️

[@gymnopedie39812]

I literally cannot comprehend how could anyone be mean to you. I'm so sorry you're like the last person who should be receiving hate. Love you so much Jade thank you for everything you do. You've seriously helped me so much with feeling confident and staying motivated for the past year or so. Your videos are literally my 1st 'go-to' whenever I need to feel stronger and capable. Love you and I'm rooting for you

[@hannyjamful]

GIIIIRRRRRLLLLLL I FEEL YOU!!!! I completely get this. I'm on a gap year trying to work out what the heck I'm gonna do next or how I'm gonna achieve, what I want to without my stupid overthinking brain getting in the way. And feeling lonely like no one understands you fully and your mates are all off at uni. And that you need to be constantly working or doing things or working to make your life have value. But you don't because if you spend your head in your work or in your thoughts thinking about the past or the future, your gonna miss your present . But I completely understand you. It's nice to know I'm not the only one.

[@ethereal9658]

This video help me so much!! Thank you jade! Currently stressing about my very first gcse. 😬😭💕

[@sienna13]

phlanrt same xx omg 😱😱

[@isabellesecord253]

Best of luck

[@ethereal9658]

Isabelle Secord Thnks💕

[@UnJadedJade]

I'm so glad it could help you in some way! I can remember getting SO stressed, especially as it's your first ever set of "official" exams. All I can say is that it will be okay. like literally fine. No matter how it goes, GCSEs count a lot less than you're hyped up to believe at the time. Whatever you get, it'll be okay! 🌻✨ wishing you all the best with revision!! Stay calm and visualise it going well (as hard as that can be!!) x

[@ethereal9658]

UnJaded Jade thank you so much for replying to my comment! Your videos have helped me and a lot of my friends cope with GCSEs and exam stress!💕 please know that the videos you put out do make a huge positive impact in other peoples lives!! you are an inspiration jade!❤️

[@lorley_s9001]

Dear Jade, I just want to say that you are a big influence in my life, and in the lives of many other viewers, but not because you are perfect. I don't follow you becausze of perfect exam reults, or the perfect lifestyle you are often forced to potray. I follow, support and admire you because you are human! Just like a lot of us watching you are a teenager who loves to travel the world, spread positivity and voice their opinions on causes that matter to them; and just because you are in the public eye and may influence more people than youre average Joe, the fact that you are still a human, teenage girl has not changed. It is unfair that you have been put under this pressure, but its not a negative thing. Take the responsibility of showcasing both your achievements and struggles online in your stride and use them to encourage and reassure your audience, which is something you do best! some of the most inspiring videos on your channel must have been some of the hardest to film, but I think these were the ones that stuck with me the most as they showed your vulnerable and human side. You are not a perfect robot that can't make mistakes that has to have their life planned out, and can only show your achievements to the world (but if you are a robot technology has advanced a lot more than a thought possible). Anyway, I hope this Sunday night ramble helps you in some way, because I know so much of your work has helped me so much, just like thousands of others. So thank you Jade for showcasing your human side to the World because it is so nessecary to show that perfection cannot be obtained and at the end of the day, we are all human. All the love and admiration, Lorley 😇💛

[@Michelle-zm2hh]

I got back a really bad grade today and I immediately, as always, am drowning in feelings of hatred towards myself. I hate the fact that I keep doing this. I absolutely needed this video today. The moment you started talking about being unsure about what you want to do next in your life and questioning all your choices got to me. I‘m happy to know I‘m not the only one. You are such a role model and I love you! Thank you for being so real.

[@zv54]

Jade is one of the most endearing people I've seen in my life even though never actually met her. What she manages on a daily basis astounds me. I honestly never thought YOU of all people gave a crap what people think. Why? You have no reason to. You're perfect. I'm older than you & feel inferior in every way because no matter how much I revise, as a mature student still at secondary level, I am dumb & can't afford a personal/private tutor, and unsurprisingly tutors at college don't help adult students whatsoever ,even when I ask many times. I'm very tired & angry & I think this video came at good time. Im about 10 yrs older than you & I still lack any clarity in life decision & its a rarity as all my peers are graduates, married, driving, have kids, booming social lives, pretty etc. Look at the state of me. Ethnic, undeveloped, still get bullied, no help, isolated, struggling in every aspect. I have every negative thought going & dont know how to manage but like you I dismiss my struggles as pathetic & compare myself to the extreme atrocities. The fact a beautiful, young, healthy, loved, popular straight A student also struggles is new to me. Thank you for admitting your true thoughts.Although I have still not found the cure to any of my ills, I always choose to live a life of gratitude & grace.

[@DanielDuffield1]

Wow! Thank you so much for opening up and making a video like this! I think it’s so important that we all understand that everyone, at some point, has struggles or challenges. Jade, you are just so inspirational and make me want to give my best in everything! I feel so honoured to watch this, and for anyone else who may be struggling just know it’s temporary! Things will get better! Keep going, you got this - I believe in you!💫

[@ammanali2109]

Definitely! Nothing is forever! Remember this quote 'This too shall pass', it's true, it will all pass within a blink of an eye! Ik depression might feel forever, but believe me, it's not! Keep/stay strong and alive! Focus on yourself! Love yourself! Care for yourself and never care what anyone thinks of you! You've got this guy's! We're all in this together! ❤️👊🏽

[@signekrarup7286]

I know all this is hard, but it feels so good to hear you say it. I've been having some major doubts about myself and my future over the past few months after dropping out of uni, and to know that someone like you, who I identify with, is also doubting their future, is an amazing relief and help. When I was younger I felt so focused and thought I knew what I wanted, but now I feel lost. Thank you so much for sharing this video. It means so much.

[@nr3520]

Thanks so much for making this video, I’m currently on a gap year too and I’ve been struggling with feeling like everyone else around me is moving on (all my friends went on to uni) while I’m still a step behind. Seeing someone else kinda going through a similar thing has made me feel less alone so thanks again!

[@crimsoo7593]

Omg, the last one about comparing your problems with those of others and belittling yourself...I felt that.

[@LaurenGuestArt]

I'm really anxious to take a gap year this year even though i am turning 20 this year. I don't know what I am doing with my life and even though I know things will work themselves out and opportunities will present themselves I still feel like I'm swimming in the deep end! Thanks for this video, I took your advice throughout exams and now I need it for my gap year aha! We are always on the same page. love you Jade.

[@sophiek1739]

You are so wise, so mature and have your whole life ahead of you. You are doing amazing and even if you don’t know what you want to do now it doesn’t matter. People complete degrees, work in their chosen field only to discover it wasn’t for them and go back and study again. Life is ever evolving as we evolve and grow personally. ❤️

[@cierewyn9491]

Hi Jade! First of all thank you for sharing this! I really appreciate your vulnerability and openness 💞 Just wanted to say that no matter what privileges you benefit from, it does not lessen the struggles you face. No struggle is more important than another. I think we sometimes regard struggles that are more inward and less visible to the naked eye, to be less valid whereas more physical manifestations of hardship are seen to be more important. The more we judge ourselves for feeling the way we do, and the more we try to push that away as being invalid or "not a big enough problem", the more we perpetuate the feeling and the worse it gets. You feel the way you do, and that is valid, important and beautiful. Nothing to feel bad about! I know you know all this but just wanted to reaffirm. Sometimes I find it's just nice to hear it from someone else. Sending you so much love - you are honestly such a light in this world. I love you. 💛

[@Chloe-jq3nj]

I really relate to your struggles, you're completely normal and not alone. You deserve your successes and you don't have to be afraid to fail because all you can do is grow, and that's a wonderful message to be sending out to everyone! Make sure you're always heading in the general direction of happiness x

[@meghnaprakash6991]

I literally connected and felt each and every single one of the struggles you have. I'm simply amazed by how lucid and touching your insights are! It is so incredible to hear that you are a young 18 year old. Much much much love and power to you for humanizing this KZbin community and making your page a safe haven for all

[@Lea-fp6ww]

Jade, I’ve found your channel a few months ago and I’m honestly obsessed with you, because you finally show the real side of things, you show your struggles which i can absolute relate to. I’ve been on a gap year for two years now since I didn’t get into university and I’m constantly doubting my path. You are such a positive influence, thank you for being a great role model!

[@georgiap828]

This just goes to show that no matter how influential and intelligent you see someone, it doesn’t mean they don’t suffer with self doubt-it affects everyone and making people aware is such a great thing so Thankyou Jade! For the record though, you never need to doubt why you get such great opportunities because you deserve them so much! It’s a reward for all the hard work you put in so enjoy!! Xx

[@echo4817]

exactly when I needed this,thank you so much for being so open 💖🌸

[@UnJadedJade]

I hope everything is okay in your life right now! Sending love 🦋 (& thank you!) x

[@smillapopilla6581]

i love how honest you are in your videos, i feel so much better knowing that i am not the only one to feel those things💗

[@haiqa5537]

Watching your videos bring me a sense of motivation and peace, god bless 💫 you're also so real and open its amazing and oddly comforting. I hope you succeed alot and achieve everything while being content and happy 🙏🏾💖

[@UnJadedJade]

This is so incredibly kind, thank you Haiqa. ❤️🦋✨ x

[@haiqa5537]

@@UnJadedJade this is crazy, luv u💖💫🌻

[@john_2589]

You are amazing Jade it takes a lot of courage to open up like this

[@anetemurk6782]

I think these feelings of self doubt are OK, enabling you to critically think about your choices, even if it's not comfortable all the time. At the end of the day, it is what you're doing with your life, so that's something pretty important to contemplate. As somebody with a positive attitude you're expected to find solutions rather than whine, accept what you can and can't control and let go of doubt when it becomes excessively inhibiting. You are promoting passion for life, the importance of education, empathy and vulnerability. I think you're at all means worthy of recognition. Thanks for sharing your journey!

[@nooral-saffar2687]

Jade - you’re such a positive figure and I admire that you’re willing to share both your highs and lows with us. You’ve done so much to help me get through life, both from an academic perspective and mentally, so just know we’ll always be here for you too, to open up to and to support you. All the love in the world ❤️

[@conversations_with_kara]

I have never resonated with a video more in my life. especially the part of feeling that why do I get things when I feel like other people are more deserving than I am. advice I’ve been given and what has made me feel better about it is to help other people as much as you can with the privileges you have - and that is exactly what you’re doing! honestly, thank you so much for this. I really needed it. best of luck to you ❤️❤️

[@emilyfossmorgan1103]

Thank you for this video Jade!!💛 A lot of youtubers only show the good sides of their life, but I love that you can open up and show us both good and bad days(both on your youtube channel and on Instagram). Thank you for being so raw and real!!🌟🌟🌟

[@miniraphael5944]

Jade you are amazing, you have been the best influence on my life coming from a KZbinr, we as viewrs have never doubted your genuinity and hard work you have put into these videos

[@Charlotte-ji3vl]

every personal struggle is as it says... personal. it's taken a lot of counselling to start making me change my thoughts on that. your feelings are valid and they matter!

[@martm216]

Plus - so identify with over-thinking every little detail of how one interacts with our fellow beings. You are so open and articulate.

[@kieraf8777]

don’t wanna get too sappy, but I think you’re incredible and it’s great to see someone on a similar point in life, having the same confusing thoughts as me. Uncertainty is the best and the worst all at once, it’s almost comical how difficult to wrap your head around. Thank you for having the conversation. ❤️

[@faryaljamshaid539]

You are such a brave soul! I love how you create content that generates happiness to not only us, but yourself, but at the same time, you are courageous enough to post a video that states the realities of life's phases. Much love to you! x ❤

[@charlotte8746]

I rarely comment on videos but I felt that it was necessary! Man, I have SO much respect for you. This video is so important in highlighting the struggles and worries of life and I really appreciate you being so open about it. Just with regards to your feelings and comparing them to others, it can be such a negative approach you can get yourself into. Your thoughts and feelings are 100% valid regardless of you upbringing, privilege's, experiences etc because everyone is different and it's so incredibly important to normalise our thoughts regardless of our context and past experiences. I also relate to a lot of you fears and worries you're facing - one thing you've inspired me to do after college and exams are over is to take a gap year. It's more so to develop my practical working skills and confidence (I won't delve into it but exam/a Level stress made me fall into a pretty bad depression from sep-dec and with strong feelings of uncontrollable anxiety however I will add that things are certainly getting better)!! I think it's important to realise that not everyone has a solid plan for their future, it's pretty much a universal theme that we all have in common. Personally I want to work after a Levels are over, do some volunteering involving TESOL and hopefully set up an online business selling calligraphy cards/bookmarks. The future is unknown, and yes it is helpful to have some sort of plan, however our future is so unpredictable which is why it's so important to live in the present day because often we find that we're all in the same boat. I'll stop rambling now haha, but I just appreciate KZbinrs like you so so much that are so open about these kinds of things - often we may not realise just how much it can help. Many thanks, Charlotte:)

[@lilianmorgenstern2123]

Hey Jade! When you talked about not feeling like your struggles were valid in comparison to other people’s, I could really relate. One, I used to really struggle with mental health issues (but figured them out and am fine now yay) and two one of my best friends has really bad mental health so I sometimes fall into the same trap of feeling like I shouldn’t be complaining/opening up because “other people have it worse” or “it’s not nearly as bad as it used to be”. What really helped me was that 1) the best way to prevent mental health issues is to talk to people and actively manage your feelings; that2) just because other people have it worse, it doesn’t mean you’re not in pain. A doctor will treat a broken leg and someone who has cancer. They just try to compensate your pain. that 3) outer circumstances sometimes don’t matter in terms of mental health. No one is immune from them and that 4) whenever I have talked to my best friend who is objectively worse about my struggles, she always tells me that she’s thankful and doesn’t feel like she’s the only one who doesn’t have her shit together. It’s all about the attitude, I guess. Lots of love from a loyal German subscriber who’s seen your growth since 2017 ❤️

[@shizukeii9809]

This video is so helpful. I love it whenever you open up with a chatty video, it really helps knowing that it’s ok not to be perfect and such. It helps knowing that you are so open to share about the less perfect side, the side that we all struggle with.

[@kevonj6425]

Amazing honesty 😊... If everyone took the time sit down an be this honest with themselves and others.. What a world we'd be living in ❤️

[@CA-mk4hp]

In terms of being an impressionable young person I’m just telling that you’re doing well and you’ve influenced my life in this positive way in which I just think of the good things that I actually have, saying yes to more things, which have made me gain this weird peace vibe that I have and just appreciating the now moments. Also it lessened MY self doubt, it’s still in abundance but you and Eve Cornwell has helped helped a ton. You have made me feel more responsible in that I now realised where my responsibilities lie. And you make me get on with my work because I’m that girl that needs other people to look up to and copy to get revision and life things done. Love you Jade!

[@zahragr677]

Girl its not rambling!!!..this is literally what i feel on daily basis and i just never can put these feelings into words..and here you are doing it perfectly..you are not alone..i feel that too and thank you for sharing these thoughts cause i felt alone when i went through it...Thank you..i appreciate it!! ..i kinda feel better now that i see you who is a studying guru go through the same things as i do..not that im saying its good that you go through this!!!😅😅just tge fact that you are real and a normal human being and that you dont polish your struggles to make the disappear and you keep going no matter how you feel, you try to survive but also strive..that really means alot to me personally..this is what i mean when i say you are an inspiration, not because you are successful, because you struggle, you might fail but you still get up and keep doing what you do. That is the REAL inspiration to me. So thank you and trust me when i say YOU DESERVE EVERYTHING THAT YOU HAVE RIGHT NOW..that is a real hard work. Dont be hard on yourself. You change minds and maybe later,help change lives like mine, you inspired me to change my life abit..i still struggle, but i wont give up anf i think you being able to do that is in it self a HUGE accomplishment...you are doing your best baby and you are om the right path. Please never give up. Love you💚💚💚

[@katiiee3000]

Jade pat yourself on the back honestly, your achievements are amazing and you really are a great influence to your audience. You frequently describe yourself as a big sister for your viewers (which I love) but as I am 25 (shh! don't tell) and I've been to university twice now and am currently studying, I just need to hug you and say It'll work itself out and please know your feelings are valued and worthwhile. Good luck!

[@EM-ju8bk]

So relieving to hear this from you. You have a great influence on people, do not doubt yourself and keep going! ❤️

[@darciekitchener2325]

I’m feeling this so much, I thought I’d decided what I was doing with my life and had it all sorted but then this year I’ve had a huge mental health crash and ended up dropping out of uni... now I have to start from square one. I have no idea what I’m doing, where I’m going, whether to go back to uni or get a job etc. & I’m 20 years old so don’t feel like you need it all sorted now because sometimes life just likes to mix things up a little bit, even when you think you’ve got it all under control!

[@eviehallitt8122]

Jade, I could relate to this so much. I have loved taking a gap year - in terms of being productive, building up my CV and learning about a world outside of academia/identifying job aspirations - but for my mental health, it has been so hard. I've doubted myself so many times while my friends thrive at university and it's been so hard having all my closest friends away. It's a really difficult in-between stage and my gap year has made me question many times whether I wanted to go to university at all, it's a funny one. I've doubted my degree and university choice so many times after getting rejected from my dream uni - Durham - in March despite having A*A*A grades. Sometimes unis suck! But now I can't wait to go to Nottingham, and tutoring at my old college has made me realise that I think I might want to be a teacher. I also felt the same that all my friends at university have changed, it is so hard. Sending my love & thank you for being so open. You are a huge positive 'influence' on the Internet and I'm so glad you exist :) X

[@emmar1917]

you experience these amazing things because you work hard for it and you dont wait for anyone to make these dreams come true, you truly deserve it xx

[@stevie1966]

jade you are an INCREDIBLE influence. from honesty to positivity to how genuine you are, you are an amazing influence & inspiration to so many people. thankyou for being yourself and being real xx

[@clairemcdx]

studying and productivity are as real and important to me as cinema is to other people. never doubt your importance-academia is important to me, which makes you one of my favourite "celebs"; whereas to people whose hobbies are tv/film, their favourite "celebs" are tv stars. don't compare your worth, as you are so important to those who want to get their academic life on track. thank you jade

[@sophiapatzer8488]

Thank you for being SO honest with us! It really helps to realize that each and everyone of us struggles with these things! 🌻🌌

[@ing344]

jade, I cannot thank you enough for this video. I have needed to hear this from someone for so long. This entire semester I have felt so low, so stressed, and have manifested those bad feelings through self-doubt and sadness. It's frustrating thinking that you are the only one going through this until lovely people like you have the courage to open up about it and normalize it. Lately, I've been trying to implement better habits to reduce my stress and do more things that make me happy. To everyone in the comments, I hope you have a beautiful day and know that no emotion is permanent :) We can get through this !!

[@Philosophyoftruth_]

Everyone has their moods, but when you master your mind , you become inevitably better.

[@amirahussain4925]

What you said at the end is literally me all the time. I feel like I shouldn’t be complaining yet I feel so down 😭 thank you for this video Jade!❤️

[@mlyannyily]

Jade in 2019 being so aware and talking about her privileges/reflections - such an introspective and mature person

[@beccaglendell6699]

I love your sit down, chatty videos! I relate so much to your overthinking. I'm the biggest overthinker and will overthink the tiniest little thing but I'm working on it. You're so brave to make these videos and thank you so much for sharing them. :) x

[@charlottehudders1]

Jade, I love you and your honesty. My A-Level exams start next month and i've never been so scared! It is so amazing to see you being so open and genuine, and just generally using your platform as a way to spread positivity! x x

[@h3risk]

Same girl same 😔

[@pennywalpole6083]

I honestly don’t think I’ve ever related with anyone as much as I relate to you. Everything you said today I completely understood and it’s so amazing to hear you talk about it because it helps me know I’m not alone. Thank you for everything Jade ❤️

[@haelfann4292]

Beautiful chat as always lovely, and thank you for being so brave and honest with your audience. These are such important talks to be having! Great to see such a positive, inspiring, young woman on this platform talking about the real stuff. Adore you xxx As for the career thoughts, I'm about to finish my uni course after 3 years, and I still have nooooo idea what im going to do with my life! It's a constant question from other people what I'm going to do with my degree, but im so not ready to get a job or settle into that yet! I have a lot of faith in the idea that everything will fall into place, and it always does, and I'm just gonna go with the flow and see how I feel in the moment. Everything always works out for the best in the end xx

[@UnJadedJade]

Awhh Hael. 🥰🙈 Thank you for the kind words, truly. Really means a lot!! xx

[@SophieNeilson]

i love that you’ve filmed this video, its so refreshing to see someone be so honest and makes you realise that it’s okay not to feel amazing 24/7! i finish uni in just over a month and have been panicking a lot about the fact i don’t have anything planned for next year, but after watching all your travel vlogs i thinkkkk i’ve decided to do some travelling next year, you really inspire me x

[@trauermusik]

Jade you are so amazing, I really like your honestly! It takes guts to talk to the world about how you feel. I was listening to your struggles and I remembered feeling the same when I was your age (I am 33 now). With this I am not trying to patronise you at all! I just want to share with you my point of view being now on another stage of life. When I was a teenager we didn't have any internet or social media, and to be honest I think being a teen (or young person) is much harder now than before in that aspect. We didn't have that much pressure of being cool, fashion or whatever like nowadays because we didn't really know more than our own life and those surrounded us, so our perception of the world was much limited than today. One of the most important things I learned and now understand is: - We have to reach a point where we can accept that there will always be people who don't like us. Even if you didn't do anything wrong, it is a reality and it is hard to accept (it is very very hard for me! I still struggle accepting some things of life that I don't like or think are not fair) but it is true. The world isn't a fair place either so we should accept it and trying our best to make it better :) (Which you are already doing!!!!) Please, don't keep your feelings for yourself! You learn so much from people's experiences and points of view (even when they are different than yours). I am blessed with an amazing and very supportive family myself. I trusted my mum with my feelings when I was a teenager (and even today!) and she gave me so much power and energy that I don't know what I would have done without her. About wondering what you will do in life, think that there are (and will be) so many paths you can take. It is good to change your opinion on the way and take another way. You could start by deciding which kind of person you aim to be and more or less what you want to do with your life. Don't worry! Everything will come :) In my case, I started studying piano since I was 9 years old. I went to a Music School just for learning music (apart of "normal" school) since that age. I never wanted to be a famous concert pianist. Since I can remember what it made me happy was teaching! I love teaching soooo much! So I just combined my two passions: music and teaching. I have my own business now and I am happy! I am sure I am not the most successful pianist, but to be honest I don't care because that's not what I wanted to do with my life! We are the only ones who truly now ourselves so just follow your heart (my god, that sounded cheesy!! hahaha). I hope this long message helped, even if it was just a tiny bit!! Love from Bristol! xx

[@georgiap828]

LITERALLY WANNA GIVE YOU A MASSIVE HUG AND SAY THAT I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!! You are so great, look after yourself Jade! Xx

[@leakatrinacanizares6457]

I totally appreciate this video Jade. I know it's never easy to express your vulnerability online and having to deal with all that pressure to be a great influencer but so far your videos are putting me into such a positive mood all the time. And I think it takes it a little bit of time for you to settle things and the pressure is always there. I, too have been experiencing a lot of uneasiness especially as I thought of what I'll do in my days ahead and so far, having you here sharing us your life update and simply being genuine with your experiences is definitely helping me. Thank you so much! I wish the best for you :) xx

[@StephanieKateGray]

In terms of struggling with not knowing what to do with your life, the only advice I can give if follow your heart. I was forced to go straight from high school to uni, doing a degree I wasnt 100% sure about. And after 5 years in this degree, my mental health really went, essentially, to shit. I struggled the whole 5 years with not knowing what I was doing or why I was even here. But I luckily managed to find a passion of mine which I am aiming to pursue in the future. It was completely unrelated to my degree at uni but I can say that I am more happy now, knowing I am going to do something I enjoy, rather than being stuch at uni for 5 years in a degree my heart just wasnt in. And its also important to know, your mind will change! As you grow older, move out of home, go to uni, explore different things, you will change your mind about so many things and thats okay!!

[@henriettajsoneskelin7806]

Love realtalk and honesty! I want to give something back to you, regarding this subject. I'm 9 years older than you and can share my perspective on feeling lost for goals in life. Like you I also want to plan ahead and be on a clear path and it was especially hard at your age. I wanted a life plan so bad I was almost obsessing over it and in hindsight I can see how that got me ruining opportunities instead. Me and my boyfriend at the time had something real but since I wanted him to be one puzzle piece in my life long plan, every little thing became so important about our relationship and how to organize our uni years, income and goals to optimize long-term goals I assumed I would want 20 years later. That's just an example. But like you, I took a gap year after graduating high school. Then what I did which I recommend you to do as well, is to just take a single course at uni just to see what it's like and study something interesting, even if you can't see any future career benefits. For me that was one semester of philosophy and then another one of psychology. I absolutely fell in love with the latter and that got me thinking that maybe I should become a psychologist. But I still wasn't sure enough and ready for a five year commitment. So I headed down another path of interest: film making. Ended up working at a few projects and learned a lot through experience before moving to New Zealand for film school and another gap year. With a new partner I found myself facing the decision to try for a baby and become a mother at the age I thought was optimal when I planned as a 19-year-old, but no: I quit everything and moved back to my home country to really go all in for film making. I got burnt out, wasted another year or so burnt out and once again completely lost, before I suddenly simply felt all through my body I was ready for that psychologist path again, 6 years later. It wasn't a thinking-choice. I got in against all odds at the best uni. Today I'm close to 28, single and studying. All my friends are done with uni and working, some are having kids and life didn't play out at all the way I had in mind at 19. But you know what? I wouldn't change a thing because I've experienced so much, made some really tough decisions and always had the opportunity to follow that original plan but it has never felt right in the stomach at the time, when opportunities presented themselves it was never the right timing. And I'm not at the same stage as my friends. But I'm now doing what my 21-y-o self wasn't ready to do and my maturity is actually an advantage. I still feel your need to plan the next 10 years of my life and the uncertainty if I will ever make all my dreams come true do stress me out sometimes, but I've learnt simply through life experience that I can't plan for anything and that my body will just tell me when it's right. I know it's hard to rest reassured you'll feel the same right now but I honestly think you've got nothing to worry about and I wish I would have spared myself all the stress and self-doubt. Hope this was useful to you in some way. You're brilliant and radiant and even if you're close to retirement when you finally realize your dream career and life goals, we all know you'll stop at nothing, queen!

[@claudia7653]

That was a lovely chat😊I understand, we can't be always happy, it's life, and we learn always the hard way but it makes us grow. Don't think to much you will find the right way keep going, you'll see everything it's gonna be ok at the end. Sending you love and positive vibes💕

[@meursaultscourtroom8886]

You are speaking truth, I can remember mean things people said 20 years ago. I think it's just part of the human condition, I've never met someone who isn't affected by hurtful comments, bullies have a way of finding your achilles heel.

[@doodlebunsthetulip]

Jade, thank you for being so raw, open and simply such a wonderful person. Your videos allow me to reflect upon so many things and strive to work even better. I discovered your channel a few weeks ago and it's safe to say that I'm so in love with your content, which is ALWAYS so motivating and insightful.Specially this video, it made me relate to you on a spiritual level. I truly appreciate all the hard work and time you invest into this channel and everything else too. Lots of love

[@nethmiapoorwa6871]

Oh jade...ur doing an amazing job right now by explaining dat everyone has their highs and lows in life...we just got to be grateful 4 the things we have sometimes...and mist of the time its beyond what others can even wish for..and i also wanted to tell u dat we r here 4 u..ur not alone..we support u jade!!!

[@liixi-573]

Totally relatable! It’s difficult for me to share my problems or difficulties with others I just keep them in

[@spamanthar]

Hi Jade, I never really comment on videos but I started university this year and just wanted to say that your feelings of unsureness are completely normal! In fact I don't think I have met anybody who hasn't struggled with those feelings (including myself!) You have to remember that in life nothing is set in stone and if university isn't for you, you CAN leave and you are NOT less than for doing so. A conventional education isn't for everyone and doesn't always fit into people's life plans or direction. Much love and keep doing what you're doing, I think you're amazing!

[@sophiejones5622]

You’re so beautiful on the outside, and even more gorgeous on the inside, Jade. Don’t let anyone ever tell you otherwise ❤️❤️

[@Vonellesherece]

Jade you're amazing. Your tips helped me through Csec and Cape will be no different. Ignore the bastards that have nothing else to do with their lives but to post mean things. I really appreciate your videos, undiluted personality and honesty. As we say in the Caribbean, medz dis.. Which means meditate on this- you are appreciated.

[@emilymusty8055]

i literally love you wholeheartedly. you’re the most kindhearted and beautiful internally and externally person. keep being you jade you help so many people genuinely❤️🦋

[@UnJadedJade]

wow. thank you so incredibly much for this. 🦋✨ x

[@nanaakuaboamahosei7673]

Gosh I can really relate with most of what you said in this video especially overthinking and seeming likeable and thinking I me being low is a bit stupid since others have bigger issues. It is comforting to know there are others who feel the same way and there are more people in the struggle to being a better person for yourself and others

[@yeganehsetayeshnia7262]

I actually found it very useful thank you Jade for talking about these things and the things that you are struggling with, because I think it’s really really important but no one really talks about it , and I Honestly I I’ve been struggling with these too , care a lot about what other people think of me and my appearance and the way that I’m talking and acting and it was so damn hard as you know as well, but I finally talked to myself and convinced my that I am ruining my life with this and I’m stressing myself out with such unimportant things that doesn’t even matter, I worked on my self to say No to people, to dress what I like , to love my look and my body the way that they actually look, it’s hard at first but should work on yourself and try to control your subconscious and internal feelings, then you would be a lot more confident and happy with yourself , love you so so much ❤️💙😍

[@isabellesecord253]

Thank you for this video Jade! I worry a lot about being lonely and miserable on my gap year when all my friends go off to Uni. Your videos always help me get some perspective!

[@millyfiore7815]

it's brave of you to open up. we're proud of u xx

[@AditiSingh-ne7tx]

You are a inspiration to lots of people jade..you know my younger sister always say to me that hate ..is a really strong word and the people who are saying bad thing about u they don’t u personally ..they don’t care about u ..so..basically they don’t worth the time u think about them 🤗

[@franjpypippo02]

I can perfectly understand what you're talking about, I feel the same way. I loved this vid because it feels like you're the first person who thinks the same way as I do. It has honestly helped me loads - you made my day!

[@paulinavaronik4377]

I’m 13 and next year il be doing my junior cert( basically gcse which you do in 3rd year (year 3) in ireland ) you’re the only reason why I’m pushing myself to be a better person and a better student . You’re an amazing influencer to me ! I love these down to earth videos with you . For me personally, it kinda lifts a weight of my shoulder knowing that you aren’t perfect and you are normal and you also have your down times. Jade , I just want you to know that any path you take in life we will support you ! ( btw jade you might have to make up a name for your subscribers 😉 after all there is 300,000 of us ) I love you ❤️❤️❤️

[@charlotteh2280]

People who comment horrible things have nothing better to do with their life! You're fabulous 💗💗💗

[@kefeshebernard]

Wow! This is such an important and valuable thing to highlight. You've done an amazing job at showcasing the realities of your life- not just the positives!

[@FilipeHeath]

You are going far in life, I believe in you. You helped me a lot through my dark times & your videos are such a light for me.

[@ackeeble]

Absolutely fab Jade, that is a very good story. I am on a gap year myself although technically I am resitting but not in attendance. I didn't pass half my modules in the first year because I didn't have my head in the right place. I had moved to a university that was a short distance away and I made too many home visits and didn't commit to much reading. I have this autistic function where I obsess with filling my head and my life with activities day and night with no regards to stopping or thinking my own thoughts. I was so full of anger and resentment by the end of the first year that I couldn't think anything positive other than blame my own teachers for not giving me enough support. In the process I lost a year and had to live on savings. It was such a bad time I crashed and burned out my soul. But I have found some comfort in this year out and taken it as a mental exercise. I stopped doing everything and concentrated on making something healthy and happy for myself. I realised that I didn't need to constantly fill my days with too much stuff to do. In the process I learned to embrace minimalism. From now on I am cutting out everything that has made my life too overwhelming and I am focused on my academic career.

[@wulanhartono436]

I dont have idea jade. Your video encourage me in many things. I just love and feel happy to watch this video. Its like, you are here for amazing reason. Inspiring people ❤❤❤

[@premingerscat]

Jade!!! thank you thank you thank you for speaking up. I relate to you soo much. Thank you for showing me I'm not the only one. It's okay, Its all going to be okay. you are going to do your best and you are going to keep trying. hold on. we love you so much.

[@alaskaaurora3723]

Dear Jade, thank you so much for your honesty and bravery! Just admire the fact that so many people here can relate as a positive side effect of struggling - it makes us empathetic and bonds people! Also about the „what to do with your life“-thing: I‘m currently in the last year of my bachelor at uni and it‘s the same thing as after school/in my gap year again. Shall I do a break? What do I wanna study? Where do I wanna study? What‘s the best for me or my career? What career do I want?... But eventhough this is super annoying to be at the same point again it also shows that the impact of my decision might be less big than I think because I will come to a point where I‘ll have the chance (yes, see it as a chance!) to ask myself the same questions again!

[@paulinavaronik4377]

I love you jade so much ! We all need youtubers who are down to earth and real. Thanks for being real with us , we love you!❤️

[@irisb197]

Whether you're drowning in 2 inches of water or in a whole ocean, you're still drowning. This is something someone said to me once and it helped quite a bit with feeling guilty about my problems that aren't as bad as other people's problems. Hopefully it'll help your thoughts too ! Lots of love xx

[@anushkasrivastava7342]

You are an amazing person ❤️ I related to so many things you mentioned in this video. I'm happy to know that I am not the only person struggling with these thoughts and that this kinda thing is normal for people to think about. Love ya :))

[@oliviachen6785]

OMG I could relate so much! I’m currently a G12 student who is going to another country to study in the uni, and I genuinely don’t know what I’m gonna do... I love to have long term plans as you, but now I’m just like, well I don’t even know what my future is. I chose Biology as my major, but I don’t want to be a scientist or a doctor, and I have no idea what I want/I should do. Anyways, thank you so much Jade for sharing this!!! You’re the best ever KZbinr, and you have such a lovely personality. Thank you for recognizing the inner struggles and vulnerabilities. Sending you lots and lots and lots of love 💕 you’re the best!!❤️

[@joysfulljourney]

I can relate to so much of the stuff you said despite our realities being extremely different. I'm 23, finished uni last year and started working at a job I don't love (I can bear it, do it well and all but it's not my "dream job" or anything like it). I've become distant from almost everyone because our lives drifted apart... and on top of all that I've been diagnosed with fibromyalgia, and I'm constantly fatigued and in pain, having a hard time doing anything else besides going to work. I feel as if I've lost myself and I don't know how to get back on track. I want to find what I'm passionate about and go for it but I don't have the energy to do it nor do i know where to start from... I also feel very privileged bc I managed to get a job straight out of uni and I have so many good things in my life. Still, I suffer. We're only human.

[@mariamh1193]

I just find myself smiling when I see your video❤️❤️ and how i just memorised the intro and repeating it whenever I see any video. I love you jade you're the best motivator and I don't know how your videos just come on time. The best videos are just the open conversations and I hope one day I will meet you and tell you how I appreciate your videos and your previous advice

[@matildetorterolo8802]

Omg Jade, I really relate to the fact that I am quite constantly thinking about what I want to do with my life. If I want to go to uni or if I want to do some courses and work, in what job I want to work for the rest of my life in, etc; so thank you so much for making me feel not alone and I want to tell you that you aren't alone either, you also have me and all of your supporters! You are a great person, I love you and care for you so much! And I also want to say thank you for always making me feel understood, special and like worth it. Btw, sorry for about my English, my native language is Spanish, I am from Uruguay 🇺🇾 I really hope you have a beautiful day! Xoxo

[@princessnada2791]

We need more people like jade !so honest with everything and inspires others👏🥰💘

[@taralawal]

i totally understand what you were saying 😅and jade, you shouldn't doubt yourself, follow your instinct and intuition 💫💕

[@helinatedla4739]

This video made me feel so much better because i didnt know that you had self doubts. I've always seen you as confident, extroverted, accomplished and intelligent (you've literally never gotten anything below an A*) and I want to be like that but i just doubt myself so much. Knowing that a lot of influencers' lives are not as perfect as they seem makes me feel a lot more normal. edit: also I love you, this was such a comforting video