How I Expanded my Comfort Zone Using Science (& you can too!) || summer of self ep 1

[@UnJadedJade]

At the end of the day, your comfort zone is unique to you!! 🌟 Challenging yourself doesn’t have to mean anything grand. It could be as simple as wearing an outfit you normally wouldn’t, or taking the train alone! How are you going to challenge yourself this summer? also aaaaah welcome to the Summer of Self series! Huge thank you to everyone who voted on the name 💐💐💐

[@shambhavisharma2592]

I already love this series! I've been looking for Journaling prompts because I can write nothing except fiction and I NEED to write down my feelings (according to my advisor)😅 My advisor told me I care too much about other people and their needs and hinder my own, never knew that was a bad thing, hope I can understand and make this my "summer of self". Thank you for being such a good companion Jade, even though we're 6704 Km away, it feels nice to know that someone's out there caring for other people and themselves like you do, it inspires me a lot and makes me believe I can do it too😊❤️

[@maisaw1454]

The job I applied to and got accepted is my biggest challenge. I will be a student brand ambassador, do graphic designs for the company as well in addition and right now even do a little of recruiting. I taught myself graphic design, so I get a little anxious about whether it is good, and for the rest, I just never did it before. I used to do summer camp jobs because I was sooo in my comfort zone. Yees, and I want to take one online class, get intermediate in Excel and drop my first KZbin video as a studytuber. I really enjoyed your first video Jade, am so excited for the rest. Liebe Grüße aus Deutschland

[@claudiamador290]

I quit social media! So much more time!! Been writing letters to my friends, started pen paling with some of them, lots of reading, working out, spending time outside, and just being without the pressure of taking pictures of everything or myself for the sake of getting a good pic for Instagram. It feels liberating. If anyone in the comments wants to do it, do it! Trust me, you aren’t missing out on anything :)

[@mai_mai473]

Jade you should literally make a podcast bc I just listened to this video and studied (which you usually need to bribe me to do...) 😶👆🏾

[@moonlightliberty]

I've been pushing myself in the last year or two and this series is going to really help give me the extra boost of confidence and support I need. Thank you so much. Love, always !! Liberty xxx

[@jennywang6473]

For everyone reading the comments that have things you're to try but still does it - I AM SO PROUD OF YOU for taking the steps, no matter how small and insignificant they may seem.

[@jueedhar1545]

Thank you Jenny, for being a radiant human, you just made my day better ... sending loads of love to u

[@UnJadedJade]

This made me smile :')

[@lucamara6424]

This made me tear up a little😅 Thankyou💕

[@MalakAhmed-lm4jt]

Thx jenny🤍

[@feliciachauke1075]

☀

[@GinnyBerch]

Your driving test isn't testing your perfection. It's testing whether you can drive safely. And once you have your licence, you will improve your spacial awareness and other skills. Once I realised this, I felt a lot less pressure, because I no longer expected to be perfect. :-) Fantastic video, Jade! You're a wise young lady!

[@GinnyBerch]

And also: 🌞

[@rachaelpowles8902]

From a curly-haired sister who once thought she could never be beautiful without a hair straightener, thank you for always showcasing your fabulous curls 💖

[@pricutie1747]

OMG thanks so much for commenting!! I feel like im not the only one 😅😅😇😇😁

[@thegalacticbutterfly9809]

omg yes! You just made me realized how much Jade helped me accept my curls :O

[@dancingintherain6675]

I wish i had curly hair... But i guess we'll always want what we don't have lol

[@merciajude4134]

Are you there and you need help in your assignments or exams? You ought to check out these professionals (kzbin.info/www/bejne/opWyiZiFpadqac0) I have been using them and my grades are just awesome. I recommend them to everyone.,

[@pastaslut]

@@dancingintherain6675 literally same

[@Toonksbell43]

*If anyone cares to read this long story about my travel anxiety and how I am trying to overcome it thank you, sorry its so damn long* For me I have always had desires of travel since I was a young teen (now 23) and my parents had never really taken me anywhere. I live pretty much in the middle of nowhere, pretty remote, and away from many people. I left my home state in the US once, and didn't fly on a plane, take a train, or drive really anywhere (unless I was with my parents) until I was past the age of 18. On Top of this lack of exposure, my parents are so so fearful of the world. I have been SO aware of how 'dangerous' the world is since I was literally a child and growing up more and more its just lead to incredible anxiety. Here were the people who I am meant to learn that the world is manageable and all they taught me was that everything is scary, the only safe place is off the grid, and other countries are just filled with horrible people who will kidnap me and kill me. SO. That led to so much fear but still this desire to travel and see the world, and not stay trapped where I am. This caused me to kind of attach myself to friends who were more experienced with travel than me, and basically manipulate them into traveling with me in order to experience it. But this was very bad because I was emotionally attaching myself and manipulating people to help me instead of taking power in myself to do it for myself. I finally went on a plane with a friend for the first time in my life at 21, it was an hour long, and one of the best and also anxiety inducing experiences of my life. I took the bus by myself to and from my apartment to my university for three years, I took the train by myself down to a town near me to visit a friend. These were all things that have improved my travel anxiety, but oh god is it still such a huge struggle. In September I will be taking my first solo flight across my country, 5-6hrs away, and I am terrified, but trying to work myself out of my anxiety as I get closer to the date. I try to focus on my routine when in the air, my knowledge that planes are safe, and my excitement to visit the new place I will be in once I am there. Telling myself that I can trust myself to navigate scary new places like a big airport that I have never been in before. *long story short* comfort zones (from what I have found) can be parented and taught into us, and it is important as we go forward into adulthood that we make up our own decisions about the world and our own limits to life. If you also felt too scared to travel anywhere, have fear around transportation, I was right there with you not two years ago, you can do it, and you can do it safely, it will be okay, you got this.

[@levipotatowindex8263]

I had a lot of travel anxiety, but I've flown by myself a few times (22 now) both domestically and internationally. And when I say that there are a lot of people that are also nervous (in terms of getting lost) at airports, trust me, there is (so you're in good company). Some of the best things that I can recommend is just being polite and asking for help, and youll get to where you need to go. Also, try to view a map of the airport before hand and look up standard requirements for going through the airport departure/arrival. It really can help you feel a bit more prepared and in control. Also, for any anxiety with flying, planes are incredibly safe forms of transportation, because not only are they engineered by top minds--they are operated by seasoned pilots with well over 20 years of experience (most of the time) in the field. It'll be ok. I used to be scared of them, but considering I've been in 2 car accidents, I know at this point that it's much safer to fly. TL;DR: Flying by yourself is scary (especially with all the covid mandates now, eugh), but like you said, you can do it!

[@minapolden8603]

i am proud of you! remember: if it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you

[@herraisan9642]

Do you have trouble locating directions and remembering it ? i'm 15 and I have the same problem as you and I'm glad you got over it and challenged yourself, in fact I'm still afraid and I suffer from constant anxiety when I go out alone or go to school my parents made me fear the outside world since i was a kid , I don't want to be an obstacle to anyone and I don't want to get attached to people just because they can help me and I feel safe around them I hope to overcome this problem soon, because after I graduate from high school I have to face this world on my own and my parents expect me to become mature as soon as I turn 18 MAGICALLY sorry for my bad english

[@Toonksbell43]

@@herraisan9642 Your english is perfectly fine dont worry! :) thanks for asking these questions I really hope my answer can be of some help. In regards to anxieties when going out alone, I can relate completely and it took me a while to get through it and the biggest thing that helped was going to university in a city that wasn't too overwhelming, but was much bigger than my home town. I slowly gained the exposure I needed without fearing everything all the time (it was still scary but things gradually got easier). So my biggest advice for that would be either move to a city that you feel comfortable moving to that's not too overwhelming, or if that's not a possibility, then just try to gain some exposure slowly by making day trips places, maybe visit a friend by taking a train one time, until you start to feel more confident in traveling places on your own. As for directions, I try to look up directions for places using my phone or computer before I leave places so that I am really prepared, and then keep an extra phone charger and block on me at all times so that I can access maps, train schedules, bus schedules, flight information whenever my trip needs it through my phone. I try to see if the transportation company I am using has an app so that I have a schedule/ my ticket info all on my phone (example: delta airlines has an app, Amtrak the train has an app too I believe) those can be super helpful. Also you would be surprised how helpful a bus driver, train attendant, or store worker is when you ask for directions or location of a map. I was always scared of talking to them, but they have always been super helpful and nice whenever I ask them! Lastly (sorry for how long this is) remember that its okay to be aware of your surroundings because incase of trouble, but the world is not in general a horrible place like our parents may wish to make us believe. As long as we are cautious, plan ahead, and are confident we will be just as fine as everyone else. I really hope that you can gain the confidence to embrace the world as I am doing now, you have time so don't worry! You'll be able to do it!

[@freshliving4199]

Your parents recreated you in their image…weakness 😂 But don’t stress….oh sorry I forgot you can’t not stress😆 Jokes aside, all you need to do is get to know who YOU are. Ask yourself where did you get your identity from? You need to get this so that you can become who you were created to be.

[@sophatt]

Went to an all girls school too. Didn't have any boy pals, still don't - started uni last year. I don't mind, all in good time:) Looking forward to the series

[@UnJadedJade]

So relatable! I love this outlook -- all in good time

[@jade728]

Me too haha although I have since realised I’m gay so that would explain my lack of enthusiasm towards boys 😃

[@tunaivi9524]

I go to a girls school too and i get anxiety looking at a boy

[@Petdub]

I go to an all girls school. I fucking hate boys. All these girls have guy friends but my group we have no boys like we try but it never works lmaooo.

[@cinnamonbun216]

It was opposite for me. I went to coed high school but I went to an all women's college. If someone has the option to go to one, you should. It was one of the best experiences I have ever had. All girls were mature enough to not be bitchy like it is in school

[@kleinwolkje203]

I love that I discovered this now. Felt angry at myself again for 'wasting' what felt like basically the entire summer break, since it started early July and uni starts in 3 weeks and I have to work a lot next week. It feels like I only have 2 weeks left to work on the things I planned to do during this looong break. This video reminded me that there is still time left, I can totally do things, and it gave me ideas for what to do and how to do it. And even this week I can work on it. Lots of small baby steps will also eventually bring you somewhere. Like printing out the syllabus for the courses starting in September. It didn't take me long and it's a step. Small, but it is one.

[@sahanameenachisundaram8897]

Is anyone else soo proud of Jade!? Seriously I have been following your channel since high school and you have helped me get through high school soo far with your blurting technique! And now seeing jade being comfortable in her tea and journalling loving self is amazing because it also encourages me to be myself. So all of that is summarised, THANK YOU SOO MUCH JADE!

[@starosity]

blurting as in just saying something out loud and not thinking about it?

[@sahanameenachisundaram8897]

@@starosity I was referring to the study technique that refers to actively recalling facts and notes for particular subjects. But in terms of leaving your comfort zone, blurting out one's emotions and things about your day to someone you trust in order to strengthen your bond.

[@starosity]

@@sahanameenachisundaram8897 thank you!

[@helenjames6982]

Same

[@dad4378]

can u explain this blurting technique, dear

[@zeniam.8540]

The 'doing things alone' one hit so close to home. I'm at the exact same place where you used to be, my sweet mum helps me do everything, but I must learn to be independent like my friends. Part of the reason why I want to get a dorm instead of going to uni from home, I hope it helps :')

[@ive-3692]

Same here but the only problem for me is that my house is very near my uni and the uni dorm costs too much so staying in a dorm just doesn’t seem too practical and I hope I can manage well once I leave and start work

[@anannyanath9143]

It helps. You just get better at managing everything. Initially though, things might feel a bit overwhelming. But the experience will make you extremely efficient on so many levels! All the best 🌻

[@iheartjbgccb]

It's true and let her know that she's not doing you any favors by helping you in the short term! She can help guide you just like how we took our baby steps

[@lynnfarhat9955]

i’m the exact opposite, I feel so comfortable doing stuff by myself. the feeling of being around non-strangers gives me so much anxiety but i’m working on it:)

[@merciajude4134]

Are you there and you need help in your assignments or exams? You ought to check out these professionals (kzbin.info/www/bejne/opWyiZiFpadqac0) I have been using them and my grades are just awesome. I recommend them to everyone..

[@jennywang6473]

i feel like this will be one of those videos i'll come back to multiple times in the future just to remind myself to take that step and just get out of my head a bit and try something new. thank you jade for giving me that

[@UnJadedJade]

omg this is so cute 🥺 whatever you want to achieve, you’ve got this!! I know what it’s like to live in your head (me most days) and sometimes you do need a little push of courage! all the luck

[@Someone25875]

I saved it to a specific list so I could do the same thing

[@SONALI_V]

I don't think you have any idea, how much you've helped someone miles away literally just to BREATHE and release in huge sigh. Over the years I had developed this huge clumped up knot in me for " always Overthinking" or being too slow or always being a fearful person Not being able to just casually talk to someone without shaking or freezing I'm still in my process of getting better each day, not just this video but this WHOLE COMMUNITY IN THIS COMMENTS i feel so hopeful and not so alone THANK YOU to each and every one of you for existing , and just being the way you are I'm crying ok bye Luv u all my weridos

[@tonilou]

When I turned 18, I moved to a bigger city, started working, needed to manage household and adult things, was forced to make friends, took on responsibilities and I grew *so much*. Really glad I did that

[@micaylabam2428]

Needed this. As a 21 year old who hasn't traveled out if South Africa or had a boyfriend. Gosh. Such an introvert, though I'm working on it. Thank you so much for this video, Jade. How is it that this girl always makes our days and encourages us to grow with every video? Mind boggling. 🙈🌻 I need to work on my driving. My learners permit expired so I need to redo it to get my driver's license. ☀️

[@zerberus2046]

You can't change being an introvert, but you can definitely become less shy! 21 myself, still living with my parents. But things are getting better:) Definitely also for you🥰

[@athenabaldursdottir7388]

Last year, I flew alone to Norway to stay with my aunt for a month at 15. This year, I'm flying alone again to move there! My parents will be joining later on, but flying alone really helped me develop my confidence and independence! ☀️☀️☀️ And I would have never pictured being so confident and calm about moving to another country :)

[@Sophie-cm2un]

Where are you from? Iceland? The only reason I think that is your last name so sorry if I’m wrong. I’m Dutch but I’ve always loved the Scandinavian countries. When I was 12 I visited Stockholm for the first time and it really felt like coming home which was weird. I visited a few more times and I had that same experience every time. It’s my dream to live there for like a year. I don’t think I can be far away from my family for longer than a year, but maybe after that year, I never want to leave. We’ll see, but I’m already trying to learn Swedish. :) I’m wishing you a lot of good luck on your new school!

[@Sophie-cm2un]

Also love your first name! So fierce!

[@athenabaldursdottir7388]

@@Sophie-cm2un Yes i'm from Iceland! But we moved to England when I was little so I'm moving from here :) Well done for starting to learn swedish! Once you've gotten the hang of the basics I'd recommend finding some swedish shows and writing down new vocabulary - tv shows really help with something called comprehensible input. Good luck to you too, I hope you get to spend some time in the Nordics! I feel that coming home thing too, thats what it felt like when I first visited Norway

[@hannahwallis1290]

I am challenging myself by wearing my arms and legs out- i hate my body as I am so underweight, and so it's a massive step xx :)

[@UnJadedJade]

This. is. EVERYTHING. I’m so so proud of you!! ✨✨

[@hannahwallis1290]

@@UnJadedJade thank you 🥺

[@hannahwallis1290]

@@UnJadedJade also was born Amish and so I have never worn anything that exposed parts of my body🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Sophie-cm2un]

@@hannahwallis1290 Wow that’s so interesting! I watched that tlc series returning to Amish or something, about those two girls Maureen and Rosanna. Did you have a hard time leaving the community? And it’s so great you’re trying to get more comfortable with exposing your body!

[@dancingintherain6675]

You're doing amazing! Keep going!

[@KayGee_yt]

I'm really proud of myself for getting comfortable going on dates and making new friends. A year ago I struggled to have a 2-minute conversation with somebody in starbucks, and considered that a big accomplishment. Now I can go out and meet somebody new without any nerves or any struggles in conversation

[@juliciencia]

Any advice??? 🙏 i struggle with the same

[@juliciencia]

Any advice??? 🙏 i struggle with the same

[@arabella4986]

That’s really inspiring! I have been working on a similar thing as well, and this really motivates me ❤ Def improved a bit, but still feel like I have lots of room to grow

[@echoai1070]

I have recently made a commitment to living my life as mindfully as a can, and truly embrace myself. I came out of the closet, started yoga, and am dating a girl I really like. I just wanted to thank everyone here for trying their best. I am proud of all of us x

[@emma2000]

☀️ The part about driving was so relatable. Ever since I went to university and lived in the city I didn't need a car, and when I'm at home my parents drive, so even though I have my license I have barely any experience or skills. Today I promised myself I'd go to the store, it was only a 15 minute drive away from here but I was still terrified. In the end everything went perfectly okay and I gained a little confidence. I'm going to try driving a bit more in the future and hopefully make some more progress :))

[@komalsyt]

Watching Jade's videos gives that feeling of being home, those immensely peaceful vibes which calms and I'm always left cheerful💗💗💗 ily

[@mariacazorla9597]

This is exactly what I needed to hear I was already in a journey of expanding my comfort zone, because mine is so small I experience fear and anxiety so often, and I'm changing that by driving more, talking to new people and overall exposing myself to new experiences

[@Ella-uq4db]

I've been in such a slump recently, I find it so difficult to work my way out of these slumps and become motivated to get things done. reflecting on that, I think this video has really helped to recognise why I stay in this phase and ways I can work out of it so thank you, Jade! Your channel brings me so much motivation and positivity ☀️☀️☀️☀️☀️☀️

[@UnJadedJade]

I'm so proud of you for reflecting on your slump. This is such an incredible mindset 💌 lots of love!!

[@tashdash5241]

I’ve watched ur channel for at LEAST 4 or 5 years at this point, and it’s scary that up to this point, it’s like ur exactly 2 years ahead of me, and it’s so fun watching ur old videos back, where I’m now at in life!! You’re seriously a main reason I got my life together in year 11, did duke of Ed, got my grades up and got into the best uni in the country! Haven’t seen u in my reccomend for a bit, BUT NOW YOU MOVED TO KOREA?! I’m learning korean right now!! At this rate, I’ll see u there in 2023 😂💕✨

[@alottoftea]

I felt like you were talking directly to me in this video. It's so reassuring to hear that you've started driving again after three years because I haven't in two years and I'm terrified of doing it again. I'm also finding it scary to travel at the moment (because of the pandemic) but I've been going small distances on public transport and I'm proud of myself for that.

[@elzbietabrzezinska4604]

Girl! I'm 21 too and I grew up a little like you I always tried pushing my self to socilaize (especially boys) talk in front of bigger groups but my voice and whole body just shaked no matter how much in my head I was calm and confident then I would get mad at my self. I'm still working on my confidence and getting out of my comfort zone and even though I still have a long way to go I just want to say that you inspire me so much! xx

[@turtleneck4985]

This Video kinda made me feel bad about myself for a second that I didn't expand and experience as much as you did. But I remembered that I'm already doing my best socializing and challenging my negative beliefs. Everyone has a different tempo and I believe if you are mentally healthy and have enough capacities, every human strives towards expanding the comfort zone. Being kind to yourself sometimes means resting, sometimes it means doing something even tough you are nervous. Listening to the inner voice and the needs inside is a good advice I think:)

[@neurodivergentdawn]

I’m autistic so living away from home for me was too overwhelming and I struggled with constant masking. However, I have learned I can expand my comfort zone even when living with my parents. Comfort zones are different for everyone and you can take moving out your comfort zone slowly if that is what you need to do to not break down. Like you Jade, I bought my first car last month and have been driving on my own! Even though I am autistic I completely agree that it is worthwhile expanding your comfort zone. However, do it in progressive steps if that will prevent you from feeling overwhelmed.

[@tajashania]

i’m absolutely buzzing for this new series!!

[@UnJadedJade]

eeep thank you taja!! 🌟

[@c_mendes]

Me too!

[@kleinwolkje203]

🌞 What scares me? People's opinion. And working by a planning (the fear of completely failing it again right after the start, because it happened so often and the self-anger it will bring). So that's what I'll be working on now. Thank you for this video and series 💛

[@sanaahmehra5730]

the other day someone asked me who inspires me and my instinctive reply was Jade Bowler thank youu for being an inspiration :')

[@summerain]

the thing about making yourself like food is so true!! a lot of people think preferences are something you can’t force or train, but every year the foods i dislike become fewer and fewer and it’s all stemmed from me forcing myself to finish school food / food i’m served at other’s houses out of politeness

[@retroavenuechouchou7543]

Jade! How did you know my self-esteem is waning right now? This video already sounds amazing A H I needed this so much right now :')

[@retroavenuechouchou7543]

☀️☀️☀️

[@UnJadedJade]

I'm sorry your self-esteem is waning 💌 confidence fluctuates for us all

[@Coco-sv4ji]

I first watched this video when I was 14 and never really thought about it that much, but here I am in the fall of 2023 😂about to turn 16 in 2 months, in a new city, living alone with my sister and balancing house work and studies, making new friends, navigating public transport etc etc. I am also from a small town and always had the comfort of everything, jade you literally are my inspiration to keep improving while enjoying my life 😊

[@rajshrisukhani6318]

omg jus looking at this gal makes me smile!!! also, I used to tell my friend all the time that we're all humans with very elastic limits

[@UnJadedJade]

your mind is BRILLIANT! love this

[@rajshrisukhani6318]

@@UnJadedJade omg this means so much coming from you, thank you! 🥺

[@nj.7325]

Thanks that's a really useful expression!

[@mogulmade]

8:48 I WILL WORK IT OUT!!! Absolutely. Solo travel through Latin America and Europe alone, let me know that no matter what happens I can count on me and survive - happily. What an amazing gift.

[@purshitaagrawal1503]

your video today made me cry because i am really very scared of stepping out of my bubble. I love you jade you know I am writing this comment because i think you are the best and the most positive person i have ever seen before. I find you so like me. And now that you have said this to me that you can make anything work i will do that. That is a promise. XOXO love from india. 🙌💕❤

[@diariodeumdesenvolvedor]

As an autistic and anxious person, this idea of expanding my comfort zone one tiny step at a time is something that helps me a lot. I still struggle doing a lot of things, but this will hopefully get better when I finally get to go to therapy. Great video, very helpful!!

[@Amber-ll4ee]

My friend recommended this video to me, and it really helped reassure me that the steps I took to build my confidence and grow my comfort zone were the right ones! Thank you so much :)

[@0605Kate]

You are such an inspiration for me. The ‘talking in front of strangers’ part is so hard for me, I get very anxious when I have to do a presentation, and unfortunately online school didnt help me imprive this skill, but maybe next semester. Thank you for the video!! 💛💛

[@sten3413]

this just reminded me that instead of being scared of starting uni, i should be excited for the experiences to come ☀️

[@olakolade6656]

i'm 15 right now and there are many things that I feel that I should be able to do at my age that I can't but when I saw this video I just felt so relieved and conforted. Everything in due time. Baby steps :D I don't need to rush.

[@sanaahmehra5730]

jade, could you make a video about books to read that’ll help me in having a growth mindset plus books that’ll help boost confidence or something on those lines ☀️☀️

[@anoushkaiyer4286]

I started watching you in my first year of high school and now I am in my first year of medical school. I realise how much of my personality growing up has been shaped by you and I’m still growing with you!

[@lpsprincess67]

I love how connected and well flowing the video was, like it felt like an entire conversation, and even though it was one sided, it was like a conversation in that it was thought provoking and increeedibly engaging. I’m taking a gap year and I love your vibe (prayers and vibes are truly all I go on at this point LMAO) so I’m really glad I found your channel :) ☀️✨

[@merciajude4134]

Are you there and you need help in your assignments or exams? You ought to check out these professionals (kzbin.info/www/bejne/opWyiZiFpadqac0) I have been using them and my grades are just awesome. I recommend them to everyone.,,

[@Tina-mi2ud]

I have never experienced something as wholesome as watching this video. That you talked so so much about those tinyyyyyyy things which you were so scared about means literally so much to me. Thank you Jadeeee💖☀

[@dontbelieveinez]

i just finished ncs yesterday having been at an all girls school since age 7 - talking to people not like me and boys was definitely the biggest challenge and put me way out of my comfort zone

[@CHARL380]

Well done, I start ncs on Monday, and I'm also doing it to improve my social skills! Quite nervous but excited too 😅. Did you enjoy it?

[@Mariamox]

Congratulations

[@imxn1000]

@@CHARL380 I did ncs a while ago and by the end of the experience I kinda missed it it was really fun and interesting to do different activities/teamwork with random people which was very nerve-wracking but fun because you get long with everyone

[@junhanliao1444]

I also found that joining a drama club is so helpful for improving extreme fear of public speaking! I realized that no one really cares about the imperfect details of my speech which makes me self-conscious when I'm the one speaking (it sounds like an extension of the ways to cope with the imposter syndrome).

[@wewereshipsinthenight1032]

i’m busy preparing for my examinations but your notifications are the only thing that lights me up instantly and i’m always excited to watch your videos all love and support sis you are an inspiration i have made so many positive changes in my life watching your videos i respect you a lot love from a 17 yr old fan of your work from india

[@nicolamarie2145]

Jade, I have been following you for a while now and I love, love, love your channel. It almost feels like you're a long-distance friend of mine because it's incredible how many similarities we have... I'm also a vegetarian/vegan uni student studying abroad, I love learning and books and also wrote one, I have curly hair, went to an all-girls-school, have a little brother, had much difficulty passing my driver's license test (didn't work out in the beginning), I am interested in almost everything like you, didn't grow up in a town but on the countryside, always try to grow and reflect and step out of my comfort zone and much more. It almost scares me haha, but I also feel like it's so amazing to see someone so relatable for me going out there and doing all the stuff and being the person I want to be. But at the same time, you're so real and honest and you make mistakes like everyone else and you're so grown-up because you admit your flaws and that makes you even more special. You're such a role model and you motivate me in a way not many people can! Keep going girl, you're a miracle

[@bhanvijuvekar]

☀️Video idea: Would love if you could talk about money. I mean it is usually treated as such a hush hush topic. Would love to know your views, beliefs and approach towards it. Saw you ig where you said you got into learning about investing too...so maybe a video on something that encompasses all the above topics...

[@anhlan7415]

your video has inspired a lot , esp when it comes to doing things alone. i find that scary too, but after this vid, i guess i need to expand my comfort zone by throwing myself out there, doing stuff on my own gradually and just enjoy that little discomfort

[@peggy3897]

I feel like jade always does these things just when you need it ♡

[@khadijadouche5464]

Yeees yes

[@frankstank3094]

Hey Jade, I would love to see you making a video in this series about standing up for yourself when you want something and being yourself around other people.

[@rhiannaalicia2839]

This was SO helpful! I’m currently applying to be head girl at my (all girls) school and I need to do a presentation in front of each year group so this video was really reassuring that I CAN do it!!

[@unicornkate2797]

You've got this!! I'm so proud of you for stepping out of your comfort zone! Good luck! ❤🦋🌱

[@UnJadedJade]

Aaaah head girl!! That's so incredible 🥰 you CAN do it, good luck

[@simplycinema4d975]

I have been stressed over doing so many simple things, like washing the dishes in front of other people (maybe they dont like how I do it), or telling my parents that I need new earphones bcause mine broke; and everytime I can improve a little bit it makes me so happy, even if nobody else notices keep up the work, I know you are doing your best, you are wonderful (srry for my english, not my first language)

[@Marina-cd2oc]

This video showed up in my recommended, and I'm so glad it did! I've always been an over-thinker and struggled with many of the same things you mentioned. This video, especially the journal questions at the end, made me excited for my future. Thank you so much!☀️

[@sophiecalderon3152]

This video gave me the exact boost I needed. I always struggled with confidence, but now I am chronically ill. Even setting goals for myself is something generally out of my comfort zone. But I've been trying a new thing this year which is very similar to what you said at the end of the video. "A year from now, will I be proud of the effort I put in today?" and it could be effort in any number of departments: school, looking for part time work, expanding my social circle, or just taking time to rest and reset after an emotional rough patch. Thank you so much for this video! *virtual hug*

[@bhanvijuvekar]

☀️ Not taking the car because I worry about parking spaces is so relatable! Ooof!

[@immanuelladevina]

i literally crying. thank you for boosting my confidence from this video, Jade! love you

[@chrysoula5226]

looking for something to watch and this magically pops up that second WoW

[@UnJadedJade]

are you… telepathic? 😌

[@chrysoula5226]

@@UnJadedJade hahahah well.. 🤫🤫

[@shanks8183]

i'm going to be at uni in exactly a week and one of my main reasons for going has always been to expand my comfort zone. i was also mollycoddled throughout my life living under my stepmum's roof as she did most things for me. i know that i need and want to become an independent adult and so i feel in my heart that going to uni is such a smart step. i'm gradually stepping into the world of being an adult and i'm gradually expanding my comfort zone. i'm gradually immersing myself into the ocean (adulthood) from the shallow end and i'm learning how to swim along the way instead of diving into the deep end first and drowning ✨

[@uneedtherapy5937]

Oooh a whole series! Cant wait to watch all the episodes and incorporate the tips and trick in my life. This summer we'll glowing up mentally and spiritually yaya!

[@maisaw1454]

Sometimes it is hard to believe that you used to struggle with public speaking when I see your videos. From the first video on, you radiated to me such confidence, charisma, and shine. This proves that you can really go out of our comfort zone and transform to a better you :)

[@ipsitaparida4471]

☀️ you bring such bright, beautiful and *powerful* energy into a room when you walk in

[@victoriabo820]

Hi Jade ☀ I'm from Bahia, Brazil and I want to thank you so much for sharing your personal growth process. It's really inspiring to follow along and identify with so many difficulties you've had, like shivering every time you're going to speak in public (with me, my voice just cracks and my thoughts hang) and see how far you've come. I like your "people like us" and "you can do it too" feel. That's it, thanks again. xêro and hug

[@stephanietsivatou4737]

I just wanted to share my personal experience here because I'm proud of myself for coming this far! Also, I can 100% relate to that intro lol. I'm a medical student (not in the US) and as such, we have to be very sociable, talking to patients and doctors, doing presentation in front of thousands of people and such. All my life up until when I started medical school three years ago (I was 17-18 years old), I've struggled with social anxiety, I didn't dare to say hello to people, I would literally be too scared to ask a teacher if I could go to the bathroom, I couldn't talk to boys, I had low self-esteem, I'd always stay at home, I only had one friend... Sigh. It was hard. I was so sad because I felt like I was wasting my youth away. At the beginning of my second year, when we started going to the hospital, I would literally come home crying because I didn't dare to talk to patients, it was painful being in the hospital and I almost gave up on my dreams of being a doctor. It felt impossible. Everything was too hard. And then... I met a boy. I really liked him, despite the fact that I never saw him before. He was an upperclassman from university and we were talking on facebook. At first, I just wanted to ask him school related stuff but as time went on, it started clicking between us. He asked me out on a date. I've been asked on dates before but I never went because I was scared to death, that they'd find me ugly or awkward or I don't know. Yet somehow, that particular day, I went. I just told myself "fxck it, I'll go", got dressed and left. I forced myself not to think about anything, or else I would've found a way out of it for sure. Next thing I know, I'm face to face with him, seeing him for the first time and being on my first date ever. And we've been dating ever since, yay~ ^^ Ever since I started dating (he's my first boyfriend), I've dared to do countless things I thought I could never do before! Now I can talk to anyone, I go out and make new friends, I'm more active at the hospital, I topped in school, met my in-laws... I feel much happier, really! Just one year prior to that, I thought I'd always be that miserable and that my all life would always feel like such a failure. Yet here I am now :). Of course, all that happened little by little, at first I was still really shy but things got better as I continued to dare to do things. It feels scary at first but it's really rewarding! So, my point is... If nothing else works, maybe try falling in love? Haha. All jokes aside, sometimes daring to «just do it!», just once, can change your whole life forever. Sorry if I made y'all read my love story ^^ I just thought it could help someone. PS: But really, nothing else worked for me! I tried signing up for volleyball, to piano lessons, going to the local library, you know, just to try and "build up" as she says but I always failed miserably, drop out after a few days and then beat myself up about it :( sometimes, it felt almost physically painful.

[@annesarahoberle6988]

Thank you for sharing your story!! It inspired me a lot :)

[@GalaSalv]

I loved this video!! I have always put myself in situations that make me get out of my comfort zone : moving over 10 times, moving to a country without speaking the language, starting a youtube channel, writing my first ebook all while being an introvert and 16 😂 but it can still be so HARD sometimes so I really appreciated this video and can't wait for more videos in this series ❤️❤️

[@AmberWoodMusicx]

this video has been massively inspiring. been challenging my anxiety today. truly thankful for your words ☀️

[@Fandoms4Life]

I can relate so much to your difficulties talking to people, driving, and public speaking! Driving on the road still scares me to bits as I'm constantly worried about causing an accident, which is why I still haven't passed yet :( I'm 21 too and I'm still working on everything! Living in London has helped me so much because I've met so many new people and I've been to all different areas on my own!!

[@naamagabay7146]

omg I missed this kind of jade videos SO MUCH🥺🥰

[@UnJadedJade]

honestly me too 🥺🥰

[@hannahackner2222]

I had great confidence and a wide comfort zone before covid happened. in/after the first lockdown I was anxious just walking my dog, bc I was overthinking if and when to start looking passengers in their eyes and at what distance to greet them. there are a lot of things/traits that I have to relearn, but thats okay. to anyone who experiences the same, dont blame yourself and just do those baby steps. we got this💗

[@sondercra]

☀️ This was so uplifting & inspirational, can’t wait for the rest of the series!! ❤️

[@UnJadedJade]

I'm so glad it resonated with you 💌 eeeep thank you!!

[@awkwardariane]

thank you so much for this video ☀️ i moved from a small island to a huge city for university and i unknowingly picked up a bad habit of comparing and “morphing” myself to conform to my friends’ lifestyle and way of living. this comparison made me neglect my upbringings 😭 and i resonated so much with the part you mentioned about how important it is to check yourself back in your comfort zone to avoid burnout. i enjoy how you embrace individual growth at a slow pace! looking forward to more of this content. happy growing to all of us 🪴

[@kristinandj]

I'm gonna study in Ireland in September. And god I am scared to leave but also very excited. Thank you for sending me motivation !

[@niamhkeating7783]

I'm a student in ireland, im so excited for you!! Its a fab place

[@Varaga_82]

I’ve been thinking about this for some time, just because my life right now has hit an all time low… I want to stop having fear dominate me. But me thinking about trying new things is giving me a lot of anxiety….my chest hurts. But I want to get better….your video really gave me some good tips. Thank you.

[@FannyaRatana]

I'm so excited about this series! I just wanted you to know Jade that you're an inspiration for a lot of people! ☀️

[@MrBobbyANDCookie]

The baby step thing is so correct! One of my goals this summer was to go swimming in the harbour where I live (everyone does it, it's a big social thing), but I was scared of deep water and hadn't swam in over ten years. I started by just going to the beach and walking in the water, then swimming off the beach with enough space to stand, then climbing the ladder down into the harbour and letting go for a minute, to finally happily swimming in deep water! It took a few weeks but I smashed the walls down of my old comfort zone and now regularly go swimming :)

[@dtr8310]

🌝☀️ Jade, your series literally gonna be casual magic of my summer!!! Thanks for amazing video and reflection questions. It helped me to release my anxiety💜 🌞 I will be very happy and grateful if you make video about Imposter syndrome please!

[@jozefinszasz7038]

This really resonated with me. I hate driving on highways, and it took me way longer to get my drivers license (after like 4 years of practicing). Also, this type of thinking kinda reminds of CBT, a type of therapy used when ppl have phobias or get a lof of anxiety from certain things. You slowly work yourself towards overcoming these fears. It is amazing!

[@serenitybeats1677]

Proud of you

[@shmij9882]

You are so much younger than me, but you're incredibly wise! Love your content!! Am learning so much

[@UnJadedJade]

I don’t feel wise at all haha! But we can all learn from each other 🌟 glad this resonates with you!!

[@laratahanian1153]

I really felt what you said about driving. I passed my test but I haven't driven by myself and I'm terrified! I have to drive myself to college soon, so I'm trying to get as much practice in as I can. It's comforting to know we're both going through it! Thank you, and good luck

[@hanysabel1847]

I would love a video about vulnerability!!

[@diyking3374]

I will show this to my kids

[@fatimaashraf6549]

Honestly Jade you're such an amazing person who's trying to upgrade themselves everyday which is a good thing. Even at the age of 17, I'm very anxious and anti social and a part of me believes that I can get better into handling my life and you're really an inspiration 💗 thankyou 💗

[@carolinaalves239]

Watching this just makes me wanna be your friend 🥺

[@UnJadedJade]

hi bestie 🥺

[@carolinaalves239]

@@UnJadedJade this honestly just almost made me cry! I have been going through a weird moment with my friends so this was everything. Thank u, queen! Hello 💛

[@zainabambia2148]

Sameeeee 😭

[@arabella4986]

I’m going to work on my comfort in social situations and talking to people. I think there’s both an inner and outer part to this - when I’m comfortable with myself and grounded in my worth, I won’t be so concerned with embarrassing myself in public or not being fully accepted by others. When you know who you are, you don’t need others to affirm it to you so much. But as for the outer part, I’m going to keep saying yes to all social opportunities I can and seek some out as well! And doing meditation/grounding practices before I enter social situations. This week I’m going to write down conversation questions/answers beforehand to an interaction I will have, as well as say hi to a stranger first.

[@VashikArmenikus]

Thanks for the video Jade! Often we don't realise how easy it is to expand our horizons, if we find the right way. :)

[@claudiastellner5994]

I also overthink too much. When you explained how do you overthink, I really felt that. But Inam glad that you got rid of my fear of stepping outside of the comfort zone. Thank you for that 🙏🙏

[@joan_28]

Thank you so much, Jade! ☀️You’re one of my biggest role models!

[@UnJadedJade]

The sun 🥺🌞✨ big love!!

[@antonellaremy5939]

idk but i feel like this video came just in the right time, specially with the driving because im scared of it, and i want to change my comfort zone, and now i know how. thank you

[@UnJadedJade]

I’m so glad!! Good luck on your driving journey

[@callias471]

so excited for this series ☀️ this is what's going to get me through the next month of lockdown!

[@notatallraj]

This is the first video of yours that I'm watching and I can tell you're underrated. I had been trying out new things recently but I feel burnt out so as you mentioned I need to get back to my comfort zone for once for processing the experiences. Thanks for that! ☀️

[@wanderinglinguist1946]

It's time for a little selfcare with Jade ✨👩‍💻 (honestly, your videos are so calming 👀)

[@UnJadedJade]

hehehe I'm so glad 🌸✨ have a lovely weekend!

[@vibha9590]

jade, i love the way you speak, i love what you do for the people struggling, feeling vulnerable , the way you convey stuff, its so real. thank you thank you thank you.

[@aspenwarden417]

Really wonderful and helpful video. I’m so excited to keep following the series!! Also, where did you get that shirt?!? I love it so much.

[@sreelekshmi8374]

This is the motivation I was searching for. To hear it from someone who has gone through the same situation makes it more believable. My comfort zone is too small and I am going to expand it.

[@aspenwarden417]

☀️ Ah! So excited for this series, already so motivating and mind opening!

[@Moomin420]

Thank you for the reminder that we are all a work in progress, I’m working on my gym anxiety this week and aim to work on my fears of doing things alone, small steps but feeling positive not terrified after watching this ☀️☀️☀️

[@PhoebeJones]

This is such an amazing transformation can’t wait to see the results in my own life! :) x

[@OSREVNIV]

Wow this Video clearly deserves my like. And I’m barely liking anything. (Bc I don’t wanna clutter up my „Likes“ list) The video feels so whole and round. Like a complete thing, from beginning to ending, everything is covered. It’s like a perfect choreography, like a dance. Nothing to add, everything is clear and it feels authentic. True inspiration. Okay that’s enough song of praise. Wish you well!

[@andreeag702]

so interesting!☀️☀️ can’t wait too see all the parts to this series🥰