UNLOCKED Full Episode: Iyanla Fix My Life EP113 ‘Fix My Blended Family’ | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN

[@thequitefranklyshow1518]

The fact that she had them cameras cut off…. Iyanla ain’t nothing to be played with 💯😂❤️

[@whenyouwishuponastar6643]

I find it funny how people wrote to a TV show!!!, not their local therapist, not their church counselor.. a woman on TELEVISION, then get upset and say you’re doing this for ratings…. And it’s only because Iyanla calls them out. Lol 😂

[@midwestgamer3123]

💯💯💯

[@keisha1781]

Exactly

[@AmieWest]

Oooppp

[@naomibrunson3369]

Big facts

[@LoveLife-gv8jg]

Do the werk!

[@Daya1828]

‘It’s not the house, Mike, it’s you’ -Iyanla 😭

[@brenale_heartsJesus]

Right like oof

[@KG-bliss]

He made it about the house though😐.. Almost felt like he was going down disregard their feelings route... Thank goodness Iyanla kept reigning him in

[@sinazoventfol6839]

I scrome😭🤣🤣

[@salome9124]

Dead

[@marylineondisa9053]

😂😂😂

[@casscrew7866]

Iyanla is a REAL G but in a classy way! She’s a true example of a healed human being living in her truth💯💯

[@forevermonde]

The male ego is a fragile, fragile thing. This "father" is so caught up in being the MAN OF THE, HOUSE he can't see how he's actually acting like a little boy. Brando is actually more of a man than he is. And the fact that a woman, a BLACK woman, is in his house and telling him that his behaviour is wrong is eating him. So, so sad!!

[@ladyriofficial3060]

This is the comment right here!! All of it, yes - fragile white male ego just crumbling when a strong, Black woman gets "too real" with him and his demons. SMH! (not done with the episode yet but needed to see if anyone had commented on this aspect of it)

[@rekopilebelebesi2720]

Child we watched the same show. His ego couldn't handle being told what to do by a woman like Iyanla. But we thank God, Its worked out.

[@FullyAware___]

Absolutely!!!!! 👏👏👏👏👏

[@cmclayton1986]

Oh yea he wasn't here for it at all.

[@donspringstead1649]

Yes and I think the guy could be very difficult. Wonder if they're still together???

[@Daya1828]

He definitely said ‘those children’. Wow. Thank God for the rewind button. I hope he watched this after recording because he was SO certain that he didn’t say what he said

[@d-mariehairboutiquekingdom3066]

T

[@lateshajohnson3622]

They are those children he didn’t say it in a disrespectful manner, they aren’t his biological children 🤷🏽‍♀️ sometimes Iyanla comes across as condescending and rude! You can’t help if you are biased! The father was not wrong, she said she felt disrespected but she never acknowledged that she made him feel disrespected! He apologized yet Iyanla never did, it doesn’t matter your credentials you must respect others to get respect!!! She was manipulative and disrespectful!

[@Daya1828]

@@lateshajohnson3622 true, he didn’t say it disrespectfully, but he said it twice and he did say it matter of factly- like he has said it many times to himself. Too many times for him not to remember that he JUST said it. To me, it speaks to the grave issue of his mental roadblocks concerning his position in the family and maybe the confusion of taking care of children that aren’t his with little to no support (of him) from a wife that is disrespectful because she feels that she has been cheated on. I’m glad Iyanla caught it and brought it to his CONSCIOUSNESS. Otherwise, he would still be living/dying in a fake marriage going Thru the motions for the sake of… saving face?

[@Daya1828]

@@lateshajohnson3622 i think you’re looking at it from the vantage point of fact, and I agree with you there - they aren’t his children. However, it’s a cognition issue if he isn’t aware that he believes that subconsciously and is suppressing it and acting on it but not aware that he is consciously. That’s a very deep issue that needs to be drawn out. Iyanla fixes problems and they call her. She speaks to the ROOT of their issues. If they want to get coddled, don’t call her - and they know their choice before they call her.

[@Daya1828]

@@lateshajohnson3622 and she wasn’t biased by any means at all. I actually think the father is racist or has deep rooted racist issues, because he projected a lot of prejudiced stereotypical bias into Iyanla and she actually chose to not harp on it. If you listen tho, she was battling that white man superior vs black woman inferior imposition in their power dynamic…very delicate when Iyanla is the one called to his house

[@shajeahar7374]

“Boo, I did not come here to play with you” 🤣

[@SoulSearch11110]

That was unprofessional

[@sufundasamuels2313]

I loved that! LOL!!!

[@Myflopera1]

@@SoulSearch11110 it was very professional

[@A.Jionni]

@@SoulSearch11110 it was real

[@everythingunni4040]

Almost spit out my milk when I seen it😂😂

[@allisonschneider924]

That guy is a scared little boy in a man’s body. Iyanla sees right through his soul

[@c_kaoi7660]

"My name is not Nicole. My name is Iyanla"; "Boo, I'm not gonna play with you" Translation You must've either forgotten or tripped, bumped your noggin & became blind, deaf and dumb, Mike. I 👏am 👏not 👏your 👏wife,👏 Mike👏👏👏👏. You may be a firefighter, Mike. But trust me, Mike. You dont want none of this smoke. Ok, Mike.

[@KG-bliss]

🤣🤣🤣🤣💯

[@naemarley7951]

Yesss 😭😭😭

[@Lbree1077]

😂😂😂 That’s on period with a capital T!!

[@linahlekhowane22]

😂😂😊

[@midwestgamer3123]

😂😂😂😂

[@carter_1]

22:47 those 2 kids holding each other's hands was powerful and I felt that. I'm glad they had that moment. If they have nobody else, they have each other. She showed them that right there.

[@torry24]

Yea! A siblings bond is one of the strongest bonds in the world 🌎

[@justagirlsd3000]

Why do women hook up without making sure their kids come first? So many kids are traumatized by step parents. This guys ego is extremely fragile. The mother is clueless hooking up with a vacant man.

[@charmagneq]

Preach!

[@dominiquemurray3112]

Love this comment ....and that's becuz a lot of parents only put their selfish needs first!

[@dragonclaws9367]

"Don't you want me to be happy?" Is what my mom said to me at 12 years old. Still being invalidated by her/ covertly abused by him 30 years later. I don't know what possesses parents after divorce. I hope it was worth it to her.

[@TEM14411]

Fear. The Bible teaches us not to fear. Have faith. I left my marriage with an infant and never looked back and chose to put my daughter first. Opted not to date and to make sure she was stable and grounded as a toddler. I have faith and I know God takes care of us. So many women are afraid and have been indoctrinated to believe men provide.

[@TEM14411]

@Amyra Batya thank you. He has. God has covered us in favor. I see it now. It took walking in faith and trusting in Him. Blessings to you. 🙏💓👩‍👧🕊♥️

[@alexis_selena]

I’m here in 2024 & this show should STILL be on Air. Instead we’re subjected to Baddies, joseline’s, cabaret & LHH…deep sigh

[@AlbumDumblebee]

@alexis_selena I'm also single. Would you like to get to know each other?

[@Factsaintdefamationn]

I AGREEEEE

[@michaelturner4267]

I agree with you, but she told Oprah that she tired of peoples talking bad about her. Oprah ask her to return for another season. I think last season she had with a Celebrity was giving her a hard time.

[@michaelbaxter2575]

I think the magic in this show and the great work she was doing got muddled when celebrities came forward. People get so caught up in idolizing someone that they can’t see them as imperfect. When the celebrities came I feel like too many turned their backs and tried to shame Ms. Iyanla to play nice, when that would be a disservice

[@TheSnoVee]

Giirrrllll!!!💯💯💯

[@iamiieyeialien2061]

I love how she will cut the camera. She makes it clear she stands on her intentions as a life coach. Always admired her but this show truly shows a more faceted depth of her character.

[@motherofthreeb6337]

I was a single mother of three before I got married almost 17 years ago. One thing I made sure of before marriage was that at least he'd respect my children and be an example. My children's feelings and well-being was always first and foremost.

[@87Lohan]

This is so good to hear. I’m single mother of one and honestly that is one of my requirements…me and my child are one there needs to be a love and respect there. My child has a relationship with her dad I’m not looking for a father for her but he most be a good role model of a man

[@lf3541]

A "VOLUNTEER" firefighter, willing to be filmed at his station in full uniform...boo, he is EGO driven, (like most men tbh.) and can't bear to be seen as vulnerable because he equates that as WEAK.

[@donspringstead1649]

lol .ok .I'm a guy and I'm not at all like this. He's comes across as arrogant and I'm telling ya, there are alot of us guys that are still " nice guys". Rest assured. Wonder if they're still together?

[@Erikay80]

And had the nerve to mention ratings to Miss Iyanla.

[@Confettifun]

@@donspringstead1649 the fact that you felt personally attacked by OPs comment just proves their point. You’re offended and on the defense because you personally identify with that emotionally detached man. Like OP said, most men are ego driven(yourself included because if that wasn’t the case, you wouldn’t feel a need to comment about “not all mEn”).

[@kittys.1956]

@@Confettifun got em

[@Elizabeth-ef2mm]

💯 facts

[@morganfisher4396]

I love how iyanla holds her accountable as well. As sad and as pitying the two may seem and come off on camera, it’s quite clear how the both of them are flawed. Being quick to pin the other person and nitpick what you see is “wrong” with them? She forced them to see what’s wrong with themselves instead. Self reflection is so important even if most people wanna be resistant to opening their eyes.

[@donspringstead1649]

Does anyone know if they stayed together. I'd really like to know.

[@nicoleprice354]

The fear in her children eyes when Iyanla brought them together to share how they feel.

[@d-nise6364]

So sad how they’re not even comfortable in their own home 😥. I hope they’re family dynamic has gotten better.

[@donspringstead1649]

This guy comes across as an arrogant and difficult guy. Wonder if they're still together?

[@tyshellwashington-ratcliff4466]

You can tell they aren't allowed to feel anything other than happiness. Even if it's forced or fake

[@Simplykiebby]

Because the momma does the same thing. They’re just modeling her behavior

[@ekaeteekop2545]

Yeah....they just froze. They trust Iyanla more than they trust their parents. Sad....

[@1Glamrys]

Do I love THOSE children? Yes I love THOSE children. He isn’t even aware of his own way of being!!!

[@skylaracquel1513]

Jaw dropped he said those children 😮

[@lishalisha5641]

When Mike said he felt attacked and that Iyanla was trying to turn a man into a “feely” creature…what he meant to say is he hasn’t learned to be vulnerable and I’m guessing that he was raised to believe that a man doesn’t cry or deal with raw feelings. So many men have been lied to. And a lot of their parents didn’t know any better and were just passing down what they learned. Side note: Since we are made in the image of God, that means He cries, gets angry, scared, feels rejected and betrayed and every emotion we all have. So that means it’s ok to feel! 🤷🏽‍♀️ Good luck to this family. It’s very repairable ❤️

[@kdeloris2225]

Mike is full of BS and that Mom is crazy to marry a man that doesn't really want her and don't accept or like her children.

[@BreeziDeezi]

“As soon as he give you the phone number, you ordering marriage invitations” 😂 IYANLA!

[@Daya1828]

Mike has pain written all over his face trying to keep It together

[@cmclayton1986]

Yes you can see it in his eyes. And the attitude is a wall he as built.

[@tarrence22]

I feel like Mike came into this session with resistance and that he's just going through the motions to get this session done and over with .

[@dayYdream2k]

Take your time and get to know a person before u jump into a marriage. Or this WILL be you.

[@KAM0327]

😢😞

[@snsn7251]

Or worse

[@soritadejarnette6953]

Iyanla is a blessing.. I love her authenticity...She understands the purpose for her life.....m

[@stephanieweddle4266]

When he said "Take a man and make him soft, that's not natural".... Wow! So toxic. And he's police, God help the men he serves.

[@lateshajohnson3622]

He’s not a police officer 🤦‍♀️

[@KG-bliss]

Indeed... When he said that... I just thought... Yikes!!!! He has a certain belief on how a man should be... And that's usually f**cked up

[@herecomeskayla]

I laughed out loud when he said that. This man is pathetic.

[@christianmoore489]

He really said men shouldn’t be “feely creatures” 💀💀 she needs to go ahead and leave him.

[@lennoxfrancis5573]

SWEAR

[@Porter5habazz]

Right lol

[@Myflopera1]

Right!, cuz what the hell💀

[@specialkay4329]

Well, that will be a problem for Mike's next woman. If he cant touch and feel his wife, the first man that CAN be "feely", will be feelin his wife. And daughter.

[@TheBeastBandit]

@@specialkay4329THIS PART. Some men get so tied up in a toxic perception of manhood that they end up losing their women and children and can’t figure out why. Like, maybe because you stomp around like some testosterone-drunk troglodyte?

[@Nat-lv2nl]

The husband’s attitude is very passive aggressive!

[@matthewnorris203]

True. He has legitimate frustrations with the Iyanla. She’s dominating and patronizing to the husband. He’s responding to that.

[@ecaldwell9]

Yeah. But he’s somewhat valid in what he’s saying. She’s good in what she does. But is flawed like the clients she sees. She wants/needs too much control. They already going thru what’s happening. But people need to feel like they have an outlet to express. Not cut off that they are making excuses; not immediately cut off because your superiority-complex attitude wants (again) to have control & trump their testimony. Let them express!

[@Chyna43]

​@matthewnorris203 no he dosent. He is a little boy.

[@Peace2Mateo]

​@@matthewnorris203no he doesn't he's a condescending little boy!

[@jivonniasmith9770]

Very very and has a big ego

[@Samlowcell]

This episode truly fixed my life and marriage!!! And years later still we’re happily married. 😂🥰

[@captureallen8632]

That's awesome!!! I don't know you but I'm happy for you. 🤗

[@theblackwaypodcast]

Damn. That’s unfortunate 😕

[@samanthasutherland8190]

😂

[@donspringstead1649]

Are you sure? I dunno....is there a way to follow up?

[@donspringstead1649]

@@wildfiregirl1556 do you know if they're still together? I don't know if there's a way to follow up. Wish them the best

[@alexatoussaint8951]

Iyanla is up against a narcissist through and through. My heart aches for the children. I pray the mum saw sense and left.

[@jennifergraham5106]

The fact that she put the infidelity in her wedding vows to say in front of all her family and friends. She never forgave him for it or let go. Her family and friends didn't need to know about that. Let alone bring it up on your day, in you wedding vows.

[@maja9080]

I caant...his white socks !!! I'CANT!!!

[@maja9080]

He is disgusting

[@annt7384]

Hustla!

[@algrina04]

Iyanla has a way of reading people, and of making them say what they really and truly feel It is amazing. It is a gift!

[@neliamagumula2911]

This guy is something else. Iyanla you are brave, patient and strong. This woman put her children in this mess. She thought of herself first and kids later.

[@bronzb.1499]

"it's not the house Mike it's you"

[@samanthasutherland8190]

😂😂😂😂

[@KPurifoy26]

I died 😂😂😂

[@veen0610]

That family dynamic is all jacked the eff up! And when he said you want me to throw some answers out there so you can jump on um... I knew he was gon be hell! And this is exactly why I think people should bring their kids into the picture sooner so that they can get acquainted with each other. It's insane to marry someone that made no effort to get to know your kids

[@KAM0327]

It’s horrible. I hate it.

[@veen0610]

​@Justme-qn2zd are you in this type of situation?

[@faithvuyanzi5769]

i really doubt that this dynamic truly changed, this guy appears to be highly narcissistic and has very deep insecurities, he even constantly needs to affirm his manhood

[@Sandramundy]

Definitely a narcissist. Sadly there are many of them in church.

[@donspringstead1649]

Yes and I bet he can be very difficult. I'd love to know if they're still together? Wonder if there's a way to follow up?

[@faithvuyanzi5769]

@Chantal Alexis that's where they make them. The church grooms narcissistic men

[@natalieharris8602]

I totally understand the children. I’ve been there some decades ago but I know their feelings.

[@donspringstead1649]

Yes and I bet this could be very difficult. Wonder if they're still together?

[@monamimi2442864]

*Leans over* “It’s not the house Mike, it’s YOU.” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Iyanla is very steady about making sure you take accountability.

[@maam-yj8ph]

I think that parents (and step-parents) need to be more transparent with their kids about how hard parenting is. It's important to be both honest and kind because honesty without kindness is brutality and kindness without honesty is manipulative.

[@tyshellwashington-ratcliff4466]

Men like him irritate tf outta me. The "I'm the boss, you do what I say" type. The type that can't ever admit they're wrong.

[@Jai64life]

Where are those children's father? Forget Mike! "A FEELY creature"? This guy is a piece of work.

[@glo1005]

Yea that part

[@lenaforeman9044]

You cannot state you "love" children but leave them alone while trying to improve lives. An abandoned male refusing the necessary responsibilities for healing.

[@LilyRoberts561]

“Now that Nicole knows I’m not here to play” 😭😭😭😭😂😂😂

[@o0LoveLove0o]

I can’t believe she included that in her vows

[@kdeloris2225]

When iylanla played her wedding day video I was shook when I heard that. It also made me wonder did he say something about it afterwards

[@nreynolds75243]

Iyanla said a word that fit's him perfectly, narcissism. This "man's" attitude is the definition of narcissism.

[@daisyboafo6778]

His body language completely changed at the end of the video. Wow. I’m impressed

[@misharaeee]

I wonder how he felt watching it back seeing he did say THOSE CHILDREN , multiple times 😢😅😮

[@jessicacruz1977]

This lady really needs to leave him because he is so worried about what looks like then hurting her kids. Your kids are crying why keep them miserable

[@4everArtista]

The mom is so quick to laugh, and smile everything away. She seems clueless. Even though I know that's her coping mechanism, it's so annoying.

[@dakota7555]

This husband is so insecure. He takes everything as an attack or mocking. His macho like attitude only further demonstrates how low his self esteem or self worth really is. He’s way too fragile over any little statement

[@rosemarierodriguez3147]

This made me cry ... Thanks be to God that the family is in peace again. Godbless all the families in the whole world🙏🙏🙏

[@Daya1828]

Did she really do the air quotations during her reading of the vows? 🙀🤯 *rewind*

[@keylacmckemp1309]

That was beyond immature of her. I was embarrassed for him. She should have healed before marrying him.

[@tjmichael8773]

my mom married a man that didn't attempt to get to know us either and for a few years we got sucked into their marital drama until one day we decided to stop and they were divorced a year later

[@jordanwoods5022]

Oooo Chile that stepfather is questionable he wants out but don’t know how to say bye.

[@lololssndbh8376]

Sweet children , she is very blessed to have such sweet, loving children . I hope it works out

[@renee7528]

The commitment they made the their kids made my heart so happy!

[@smaldonado1309]

I am so upset this shown is not on the air still. It was and is still very healing

[@majorboyce123]

Ouch the truth hurts. Every episode Iyanla does hits the guests in their mess and they can't stand it.

[@kellydunn4344]

Love her show I miss her and her teaching us how to breathe in tough situations and that with some work it will be alright...ty Iyanla for saving families and showing us how we can do better ❤️

[@MrBigtomtom06]

These home visit episodes cut so much out. I wanted him to be confronted about the comment saying this would be a great marriage without the kids.

[@Estecuban]

He definitely said “those” children twice. I had to rewind it

[@esmenembungu1980]

When i think i know Iyanla she surprises me even more with this ministry of hers

[@CandysWORLD123]

I had to rewind to hear him say "those children" because he was so confident that he didn't say it. I felt gaslighted as a viewer lol! He gaslight himself LOL

[@byronbostick4310]

The fact that he tries to disconnect from the idea of what it means to be human as opposed to trying to “be a man” means that he’s not ready to grow. He’s already checked out and won’t see his own fault in the environment that he created. He’s a narcissist l!

[@teacherd35]

She's the sister of actress Leah Remini. It just hit me, I used to watch leah's reality show and she looked so familiar.

[@virgo7956]

Oh yeah I remember

[@jennievivi]

Thank you! I thought she looked so familiar.

[@MrsVanB]

She isn’t her sister. I think she reminds you of Leah’s mother, who has similar features. 🤗

[@teacherd35]

@@MrsVanB i googled her and she is her sister, i made sure to check before i commented

[@MrsVanB]

@@teacherd35 You are correct, I thought she only had one sister. 😅 Is the sister from the show the youngest?

[@leogoddess2473]

His attitude and way of thinking make me nauseous 😥😥😥

[@LoneAries77]

Pride, ego and narcissism are what destroys marriages, relationships, families and stops true growth in a man. I really hope he works through that. Real men can navigate uncomfortable feelings and work through their own bad behavior. That's how you get respect. Not by running.

[@michelleannpeterkin5484]

Sure she get ratings but she does care about people and their problems and knows how to help them in this capacity

[@Jacesodope]

People forget that they are human putting god first isn’t just going to do it. You have to acknowledge some hurt and pain and what needs to be worked on for change then once that’s displayed, your love ones can see that .. but what I don’t respect is a person who isn’t accountable for their actions; even if others can see and point it out. I’m happy Ms. Iyanla is able to not see one side and work well with the skill to healing and fixing ! They needed that.

[@jazzy5975]

He doesn't care about the kids.

[@soritadejarnette6953]

I truly love Iyanla's earrings. I would be blessed to own a pair.......

[@SLRDIVA]

His attitude has pissed me off! I can only imagine how he carries on in that household 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️…I’m going to attempt to finish watching this episode…

[@charefaedwards6054]

Iyanla was very patient with him, cause I would have went off on him, he was a a-hole.

[@lindachilds71]

I’m just coming on board but has learned a lot by watching Lana’s videos, I watch one then I go to another, she never disappoints 👏🏿👏🏿😘

[@KimKim-hn7qy]

She seem like one of those weak women that’s desperate for a man.Hopefully things changed and when they got married THOSE Kids became HIS Kids!

[@shashaduke8700]

That woman wanted a wedding and a husband......did not consider her children st all

[@bumblebee7982]

You dress so beautifully Ms. Iyanla! A treat just to look at! 💜💙❤️⭐🌹😊

[@LethoHali]

Iyanla, God bless you! 😭😭😭😭. That ending really got me!

[@katrinkamack5666]

I would leave Mike in a heartbeat!!!!

[@Daya1828]

He had a clue b4 he sat down. The children aren’t the only ones feeling uncomfortable. That’s clear

[@bklynleo887]

When she alluded to infidelity in her WEDDING VOWS, I fell out 😂😂😂 who does thattttttt???!!?!

[@tanaraowens4401]

The fact that he called the kids “ those children “ then in the same breathe say he didn’t say that

[@35aturner]

Listening to the kids express themselves broke my heart 😢

[@Kenwithin]

Yall talkin bout she was rude. When was she rudeee… yall be quiet. She kept it real and professional.

[@Daya1828]

It was crumbling before it began, poor thing

[@TheMomentsShow]

I see why some people wait until the kids are grown to get married or remarried.

[@e113jelly6]

He’s so unlikeable

[@tarrence22]

He said " I'm doing the best I can ", but obviously the best he can do isn't good enough, but the kids are telling him how to be better but he doesn't hear that because he's distracted by being defensive .

[@gloria_o]

He doesn’t like being held accountable for his bad behaviour

[@bethanylynn3589]

everything we do plants a seed and produces a harvest....BEAUTIFUL....Galatians 6

[@antoniapalmore7494]

Boy, she doesn't need a rating from you. You are a controlling person and own up to it. Nicole, take your children run so that you all can be happy.

[@therealsabrinamichele1252]

The truth is Mike wasn’t ready to deal with truth

[@AzohChe]

Again, I feel sad for the many children who are the real victims of such dysfunctional couples. Please, children are a gift from God think 💯 ×times before bringing them to the world 🌎

[@nrobo7692]

I dont think Mike is a bad guy with bad behavior. Hes just not affectionate and all buddy buddy with the kids.

[@latoyajounteabradford4450]

I refuse to be miserable just to stay married or say I’m married I just can’t be in a high level stressful for years or even one moment i refuse

[@AprilGrant36]

He said "those Children" i went back....

[@KG-bliss]

God help keep me sane that my child never has to heal from my choices

[@angelica3744]

For not being a "feely creature" this man sure is sensitive. Wow!

[@hakara32wirihana]

Omg mike is that your name, your did an amazing job to free yourself alittle bit in no doubt your vulnerability self work, i could just see the calm after the storm come in.. and the kids smile and optimism in their eye. Yo iyalana you is a mirror that i don't want to look in. God bless to all And thank you family and show, I've learnt so much from just watching and listening and will help me in times to come.. Love and blessings

[@joemorgan636]

Kids are lovely just wanna a Father and too be loved doesn’t cost anything

[@ryanmichelle6624]

Choose your children always