Unlocking your sexual well being | A Deep Dive with a Sexologist | THE SNS

THE STEPHANIE NG'ANG'A SHOW | A BLITZ MEDIA PRODUCTION
The ‘Asking for a friend’ segment is one of the segments on The SNS . In this segment, we will appeal to the audience to send their ongoing life dilemmas covering various topics such as family, relationships, school and work practices, and in turn invited guests will respond to the dilemmas, providing advice and their two cents. In this episode we hosted Maurice Matheka , a professional sexologist and sex and r/ship therapist.
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[@stephanienjeri5271]

This man is very wise over how he immediately understands a question and answers it and I love the way he's spitting facts that we as a society don't want to acknowledge.

[@phoebe-2339]

The guy has a very high sense of humor....3 min in and am finding the episode fun 😍

[@JackieKimathi]

His Sweatshirt message needs to be on a billboard😂😂😅

[@faithlumati9752]

Ikr😂😂

[@mytinylittlechannel]

Yeah but your mind informs your body and how it responds. Matheka we need to talk! Agree with a lot, disagree with a lot. Jules.

[@mercybusienei4738]

My thought too

[@marionmengich5239]

It's the way he closes his eyes as he talks, it's like he increases my concentration on what he is saying😅

[@jaberasami5901]

Hapo kwa stop having sex for men… “Your vigina doesn’t know that you’re dating someone “ …🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️ wuuuehh every day is an opportunity to learn… Steph this was a good episode 👏👏👏

[@mercuryfindske]

Wow...please let him be a regular at SNS...Love how he pronounces 'vagina' in an aristocratic way...so melting 😊

[@carolloylamunu1344]

So stimulating 🤤🤤

[@RMwangi37]

I can tell Matheka is unencumbered by religion and society's idea of morality. He's speaking about things that are happening like cheating and sexless marriages but society has conditioned us to bypass them because they are 'shameful'. Good one, Steph and team.

[@RMwangi37]

Has this guy lived abroad? Especially in the western world? Hii mentality si ya hapa Kenya. I hope more and more people are this open minded regarding sex and relationships.

[@shirugathoga3836]

This is the healthiest and most honest talk I've ever heard

[@Tessthebaddie]

Love love loooved this episode . The realness and honesty was top tier

[@florencembuthia5681]

Wueh!!! It's on fire...this so good a very honest conversation....but very hilarious ......it's not an everyday topic I just love this🌹

[@evelynkamau8489]

I have enjoyed this episode very informative. Matheka is logical and tackles issues directly no sugarcoating. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@tcuguh]

Apewe president of men conference 2023!...apeleke hii wisdom kwa boi chald🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@janetwairagu4462]

Such a refreshing conversation. should be broad casted on those huge screens hapo Archives. people need to give themselves permission to have this conversations with themselves

[@gloriamarie2463]

Stephanie snapped with this one!!❤

[@jacqkamush2103]

Loved loved this conversation if ',If you want a man in your life maintain relevance periodt

[@PortableKonfidence]

i like this guy. Top tier knowledge. Thank you.

[@Vanil_Everyday]

We need a part two or the live session 😊

[@romanamutheu6691]

what i have learned is just communicate and have conversations

[@C_Sonnie]

😂😂😂😂Real vibes.. Maurice weuh I like how liberal he is. Real conversations

[@kemzy_KE]

Yes to a live show🙌🏾

[@donnageneabdolf1252]

I love this guy and listening to him..❤❤

[@lizanyawira1417]

Dr. Mathekas sense of humor 😂😂😂wah

[@marionwatene4344]

A good one. Like it

[@puritymwangi1629]

😹 This was a good one. Informative ❤🎉

[@Drupeedrew]

Wholesome convo😅

[@richardmwambanga2423]

His honesty is razor sharp and straight forward but can be a recipe for disaster #thehumancondition Also, this episode affirms my personal belief that for any relationship to work (last long, enjoyed, etc) two need to talk more and listen to each other's talk twice as invested in the talk.

[@esthermbatha3143]

I've thoroughly enjoyed this episode 👌☺️

[@patriciahmiricho3051]

Good job Steph,great conversation. Maurice, a lot of truth told, knowledgeable things to note even,however, there's lack in wisdom among other things in some statements. I believe experts should give expert advice and not their own individual opinions.✌🏽

[@gathonimwangi5124]

this is a lot of bs respectfully (referring to the video's 1st answer) our genitals are not separate beings, they are organs connected to our entire neural networks including our brains from which our voluntary & involuntary processes (like breathing, hormonal processes in which our emotions are fundamentally linked) are executed. there is no stimulation localized solely in the genitals. What happens to self-control? To intuition? (as if men don't have intuition, please let us be real for once) Should we just throw that out the window when there are real negative consequences to be experienced health-wise (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually)? Have sex with whom your mind, body, and spirit is accepting of. If there is a conflict there I would suggest introspection first, and steering clear of "professional advice"/ advice which proposes/dictates "a one-size-fits-all approach", e.g. in this case, that sex is a mechanical rather than a holistic (involving a person's whole being) event & experience. A person is their genitals, and not vice-versa (genitals are not a person). Discover your relationship with sex for yourself, as there is no 1 relationship that is exactly uniform/the same, and in doing so one will figure out what their emotions on it i.e. guilt, shame, detachment, triviality, are trying to tell them about who they have become as people + who they are, & what can be done about that (whether it is to adjust, change, re-structure, or enforce). Then from there seek guidance from parties who you can trust, and who when briefed of your relationship with sex will work around it and give helpful advice tailored to your growth & discovery. Sex is not as easy as we want it to be. It's in its complexity that sex is what it is - impactful whether positively, negatively, or mixed. Impactful nonetheless. Introspect. Introspect. Introspect. Have the sex that you're comfortable with and works for you: the sex that guarantees you OVERALL & OPTIMAL PLEASURE.

[@rogath_silayo]

That's a problem with some people taking advice as a Gospel. It's like someone says your hand doesn't know if you are eating, what a foolish statement. First, the guy wants to get money from gullible women and he knows it's easier to get it from women than men. What he describes is not that foreign, and he sees human beings as animals driven with instincts. This man is a clown don't take him serious a lot of sexual staffs he talks about you can easily find them in the books and still maintain ones relationship with your partner. People don't take this man serious and he knows it's easier to eat gullible women money than men's money.

[@marywawira5288]

This guy sounds exacly like my therapist

[@maureenkagema3496]

“Stop having sex out of emotions, have sex because it’s a practical thing to do” made me click out of this video very fast I never miss an episode but I can tell this is going to trigger me so much I saw the disclaimer and I agree with it, however, I would have appreciated a lady who’s a sex expert as well because there’s no “right” approach to sex and when a male advises a woman, it can be a bit sticky because we generally aren’t wired the same Love all other episodes though and I’m sure this will help some people I just had to suggest that you consider doing this with a lady as well Thank you ❤

[@annwanjiku8039]

I get this but how will you understand how men are wired if you cannot listen to what they have to say? I think one has to be open-minded when it comes to conversations about sex because women are having sex with men. As a woman, you know what you want so listening to a woman's view is just cementing what was already laid down. On the other hand, listening from a man's perspective opens up a new view that you will not see or even think exists. (He is also a sexologist not a random man from the street) As you said, there is no "right" approach to sex. So whether you go in emotionally or casually, it is SEX at the end of the day!! Maurice is intelligent and I loved how his answers were well-structured and unbiased I found this episode rather informative and quite enjoyable.

[@maureenkagema3496]

@@annwanjiku8039 hey I understand what you’re saying And I’m probably the most open minded person But don’t they have a segment where the audience asks questions and the guy advises? That’s what I was talking about Most of the demographic asking for advice are girlies That’s what my point was Like wouldn’t it be more engaging and even informative if a woman of the same profession could also chip in? That’s why I called it slippery But they said sex is subjective which 100% it is Also my problem is that statement he made That statement at the beginning isn’t accurate and it can be a bit misleading, especially when it’s coming from a professional sexologist who knows and understands the complexity of sex in relation to it being deeply personal

[@annwanjiku8039]

​@@maureenkagema3496 I get it but I feel like you are not open-minded if you don't give a male sexologist a chance based on one statement. He elaborated on that point. Casual sex to my understanding does not mean we just go on having sex with every man that smiles our way. He said that the vagina does not understand whether you are having casual sex or sex with your boyfriend (which I feel like women understand as emotional sex). It is your mind that knows (I found this to be an impressive point) that you are emotionally or casually having sex and not the other way around. It would be amazing to have a female sexologist but I feel like there are so many women openly and informatively talking about sex, especially from a professional perspective and not men. Getting just one man to openly answer girlies' questions without bias is prodigious. I feel like you should have recommended bringing in a female sexologist in another episode and not just bringing the male sexologist down for doing his job and doing it in a lighthearted and impressive manner.

[@maureenkagema3496]

@@annwanjiku8039 I didn’t bring him down girl That’s why I said the one statement ruined the video for me, and if you read my comment again, I did acknowledge that it would help many people And I don’t have a problem with casual sex My qualm is one statement that I saw and decided not to proceed I don’t agree with the idea that a man (professional or not) should be able to speak from a girl’s point of view But some people do not mind it and that’s okay I was just putting up a suggestion while explaining myself That one statement ruined the video experience for me and that’s the only thing I was speaking on I’ll watch the video again and see if I’ll change my mind but it’s highly unlikely And I was coming from a point of, when someone tells you, have sex for the practical thing it is? What? Everyone has sex differently so what is it? Confusion confusion You and I are able to compartmentalize and understand what he means when he explains, but how many people will take the narrative literally and run with it? I would have appreciated if he acknowledged that sex encompasses a wide range of emotional, physical, and even psychological aspects Because “have sex for what it is” sounds more like a more practical perspective and they shunned the emotional perspective of it by verbatim saying “stop having sex out of emotion” Unless of course the girl was asking “how can I enjoy casual sex” which, if you don’t enjoy casual sex, why are you willing to make it enjoyable 😭😭 It’s not for everyone and that should be okay

[@annwanjiku8039]

​@@maureenkagema3496 I get you completely. He was answering a question from a girl who wants to enjoy casual sex. I know that statement can be seen as immoral or "untraditional" especially, if taken out of context. I guess we saw it from opposite points of view and that is not wrong at all. Casual sex is not a bad thing when done responsibly. When one has sex with a guy/girl who has not asked you to be a girlfriend/boyfriend, that is casual sex (and many people are engaging in it whether knowingly or unknowingly) I get how you don't understand one wanting to have causal sex (because it is not brought up often enough, especially from women) but ladies who prefer casual sex feel terrible which is normal given how sex is seen as a man thing to enjoy even without connection but not the same case for ladies. Maurice addressed this extensively if I am not wrong. I also don't think Maurice was speaking from a girl's point of view. (This is where people go wrong). For example, if a man were to ask a female sexologist; What can I do to enjoy sex with my girlfriend? I find her very attractive but when it comes to the act, I am not turned on? I don't think she will answer from the man's perspective but rather from what she has gathered either from research or from a similar case that she had come across/addressed. It would be amazing to watch the video and see how you feel about it.

[@viviangacho5555]

I learnt so much from this

[@sharzykish502]

Maurice is funny😂and so wise 1:00:50😂😂😂

[@C_Sonnie]

😂😂😂 I attest

[@mercyriwo]

😂😂 this was educative

[@cynthianjenga8014]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂seranii guy I once heard u can't get all in one person it relates to this series #sexlife 😊

[@puritykaranja6934]

The lady who feels pain while having sex..no amount not conversation will help if you have vaginismus....see a doctor please.

[@wanjirulinet]

In Kenya,dry spell is a choice😂😂😂

[@NaomiKazi]

Okay nobody is going to mention how Stephanie was clearing her throat every time bc it’s a sex talk? She was dying to laugh🙂💀 these are serious matters next time laugh it all out and be a natural Love your show tho

[@patiencebushuru3716]

You can also tell that Steph has a cold so she's clearing her throat to be able to clear her voice....

[@rachelngatia5783]

@@patiencebushuru3716 Exactly she has a cold. Even in her voice you can tell.

[@everlynemuriuki5466]

It's Mathekas 👕 for me❤

[@Seasons_Diamond]

#masimba in the building 🎉

[@gracemuasa6381]

Maurice, where is the biblical version of todays talk???? 1. For persons who marry as virgins?? 2. Why have so many sex partners in marriage?? 3. How come you are not talking abt canselling?? 4. Phonograph is addictive, many families are broken cos one chooses phon over his or her partner. 5. Is it Adam and Eve or Adams and eves???

[@afriqueus1]

If you’ve ever listened to him, you know he’s a sex therapist not a counselor. His talk is sex and how humans can enjoy it. Religion and everything else is not included in his talk.

[@gracemuasa6381]

@@afriqueus1 ok am new in the channel and I've never heard of him..thanks. am a Christian and some things he said are against my Faith.

[@rogath_silayo]

@@gracemuasa6381 he is not a religious guy, just take what benefits but the rest trash!!!! He is liberal in sexual standards so just take what you see is useful.

[@joycegumbo2732]

What the hell are you doing here judging??? Have your own podcast and have dialogues of your own understanding and opinions, let those who want to listen to a sexologist do so without being judged!!!!

[@MihadyBrenda]

That ; "If you are 25, the guy you should be looking for should be 38 and above" LoooL! we should have talked about sex drive for older men decreases? the sexual urge a 'cool boy' is not the same as for '#road to be a sponsor guy'. There's more tea for this one! please take it further!I mean,.. Older can be wise, and fun, but some can be so boring ,especially if you have good vibes and energy then some oldie just gets sick of your vibrant nature, (exception for me here is for the girlies whom old is paying bills, same as ugly is paying bills, or sexually boring is paying bills,.and that's how God has decided to get you out of poverty😂)Guurl.... you know why you are there.. you knew he is not all that you list from when you knew !!! So you know the ka benefit( sips wora)

[@wambuiesther3858]

Sip sip😂😂😂😂😂

[@joanotundo4835]

1:06:53 1:06:55

[@samuelgathora4105]

I am a big fan of this chanel but this episode in my opinion is not morally right. Advocating for people to cheat in marriages. There are better ways to have sex with your partner than cheating.

[@Faithfullfertilitytv]

Also his perspective on premarital sex

[@melvismabera2628]

Formula 1😂😂😂😂

[@sharzykish502]

Let's talk about sex🎉

[@edungrose5834]

❤

[@terrieshanice]

I found this interview quite distateful. Here's what i picked from this. Love , marriage or commitment is not important for intimacy. Test drive as a requirement before settling down. Like how many men will you have to have sex you with before you can finally settle down? How is this even right? Have sex because your body wants it, whether in a marriage, relationship or not with whoever can best satisfy you married or not, but the more experience the better. Would you tell this to your child who is a girl? We need to be consumers of what we are preaching first before we can publicize it. Is this how you want to raise your children? Also remember, the internet is open to all: grown ups and children alike, they might not be your intended audience but you've given them information and they've taken it and ran with it. Masturbation is okay, its your body your rules. The only issue is addiction of it, but where does addiction come in if not from doing that same thing constantly. It's like saying, smoking is not bad, what is bad is addiction of it. That's just wrong 😮 My thoughts - What happened to morality? What is right and what is wrong, whats the foundation of whatever he's teaching, what is it anchored on? Books, internet research 🤔 It's okay to get married and still keep other side relationships so you can enjoy best of both. My thoughts - Where is the sanctity of marriage? What are we promoting here? If not immorality and adultery. If this is what our young ones are being exposed to, we have a long way to go. God help us all.

[@k3ygvrv]

Go listen to preachers sermons on relationships, wrong place for you miss mamas.

[@joycegumbo2732]

That's your personal opinion 😂😂😂😂

[@candyndubi6569]

Totally in agreement with you

[@abigaelmugo]

I hate the 'sad' background music.

[@JustCiku]

She's a lovely interviewer, love her. This was informative ❤