Unschooling has Taken Over TikTok

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[@BadmintonBombshell]

I'm a teacher. Unschooling to me strikes me as what you should already be doing as a parent; allowing your children to explore interests and hobbies, answering questions they have, etc. Unfortunately it seems like most parents advocating unschooling aren't particularly educated themselves; it's the blind leading the blind. Sure I'm biased but I don't understand the lack of standards and eliminating the benefits (social in particular) of attending a regular school.

[@SuperMel81-j5l]

Unschooling is for lazy parents.

[@SampfanCresta]

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[@RunninUpThatHillh]

I'm a homeschooler. What social skills are taught in school? Proof is in the pudding, isn't it? Look around. Age segregating children is the blind leading the blind. Children learn social skills from people of all ages. My kids are unschoolers. My oldest just graduated this past year. Makes 150k a year as a small business owner. Did you know that reading, writing and basic math can be learned in 100 hours? The stats for public school are horrific. Did you know they have dumbed down the tests for kids? In order to give the correct CAT test, I have to dig the one out from the 70s. Compare the two yourself. When you homeschool or unschool, you learn WITH your child. You are curious, your child becomes curious. Ever meet a boring teacher that isn't interested? The schools are full of them. Bored, stressed teachers and bored kids. Does anyone actually believe inventors or other great minds are born in a public classroom? They aren't even in the colleges ffs. It's a big joke and everyone knows it.

[@aresxna]

Yes, “unschooling” is basically the concept of answering questions and being engaged with your child when they aren’t being taught by folks way more qualified (because they were literally trained for it, this is sometimes a sticking point for the weird militant unschoolers but like, show me your credentials babes lmao)

[@RunninUpThatHillh]

Everyone needs to pay attention. Go watch videos of people in the 70s. Debates, tv shows, interviews with teens in the mall, even. People were more articulate, intelligent, engaging... the people coming out of the schools of the last thirty years are not the same. Just look around. It's basic math: 8 hours a day, every day, for your entire childhood, and this is the result. Kids can't read, they can't find anything on a map, they don't understand civics. We have NO business critiquing parents who are trying to do something else. You have zero authority, teachers. It is certainly not your fault, I have teachers in my own family who love children and are passionate. They agree with me. But the entire system is fucked and so far parents and teachers have not bothered to find something better, aside from stealing more of my tax dollars to throw at it. But what can you expect? We're all products of ... public school lmao

[@autumnwillow2111]

I absolutely THRIVED homeschooling after years in public school…. but if I didn’t learn how to read I would genuinely be heartbroken. Like reading, period, is one of the most pivotal ways to learn OTHER things. How can they choose their own path for “unschooling” if they can’t even comprehend what paths they truly have? This sounds like gentrified child abse, I’m ngl.

[@ASMRyouKidding]

Yes exactly, they need both

[@sunnyandthechlo]

I always say that the best thing my mom did in terms of setting me up for success was teaching me to read when I was two. She used a special program and I was so excited to know that soon I’d be able to read the little book they sent. All she had to do to keep me entertained for hours was take me to the library and check out a few books. I do agree that most schools need an overhaul of what they teach, but this unschooling thing is not it. You’re setting your kid up for failure.

[@Peculiarimmigrant36]

I loved your response. So well articulated and meaningful. I have many homeschooled friends, literally not one of them was ever socially inept. My homeschooled friends have been some of the most loyal and loving. Unschooling is not homeschooling.

[@PeachyQuinnnn]

It makes me so sad when i hear kids or adults say they dont like reading. Theres so much to absorb! Our brains r sponges.

[@limeOjello]

My kids have homeschooled with a curriculum, and have also attended public school off-and-on. The hardest part of homeschooling is making my son sit down, focus on his dang work, and complete his work. Unschooling sounds like summer vacation.

[@KatelinGeiger-ue7hi]

If you were a teacher who has had seven unschooled students come back to school because the parents have grown tired of dealing with it, like I’ve had, and are on a kindergarten first grade-level in 4th grade, you’ll be scared for our country more than you already are. They’ve got to learn something at some point. Even if it’s not their chosen learning.

[@lindsaylarson3662]

totallym Ive tutored unschooled kids, they are SEVERAL years behind even the most basic of skills, like being in 4th grade age and cant cut with scissors or write their abcs. I dont get why parents want to do this to their kids. plus the lack of social interactions.

[@Elemenohpea440]

I used to homeschool and have a lot of friends who still do. It isn’t even slightly unusual for homeschooled kids to get terribly behind in school, especially the subjects their moms don’t like. When I was homeschooling I was a BUNDLE of nerves because it.was.so.much.effort to keep the kids up to standards. Mercifully, my kids are in an awesome school now, and they weren’t behind when they got there, but again, I worked SO hard. Teachers are amazing and way under appreciated

[@MH-il2ps]

the fact that these people only focus on their child's chosen learning is a huge problem. The world doesn't operate that way and we all have to learn things we otherwise wouldn't have chosen to learn, even well into adulthood.

[@rh10033]

To be fair, I've seen this with public school kids as well. I used to run a youth group and the amount of middle schoolers who couldn't read or spell at grade level was ridiculous. Now kids can fail and still move onto the next grade which has made this issue even worse. Apparently homework isn't a thing anymore either because kids just won't do it.

[@KatelinGeiger-ue7hi]

⁠that within itself is a whole other issue that American politics need to get out of so we can do what’s best for the child. But a lot of the students who are super far behind don’t seem to have any support at home. Not all, but a lot.

[@FilthyOrchid1]

Umm my 6 year old step son loves learning about gardening, plumbing, firefighting, etc… but these are things we teach him after school and on the weekends. This is so ridiculous to me.

[@ellaelliott4415]

I'll always send my kid (if I ever have one) to a more traditional school. There would have to be a good reason as to why my child needed to be pulled out and should that reason arise, I would do what was best for my kid, always. But I don't want to start a cycle of aversion to schools. Unless my child needed to be taken out, I'd rather have them at school and out in the world, which is entirely possible with after school activities and weekends.

[@AngelAPAVLOVSCornDog]

Couldn't have said it better😂❤

[@vvitch-mist20]

Aw. He sounds like a cutie T_T

[@Shayne_T]

Go follow real homeschoolers who actually care about their children, and you will see that it's amazing and better for all children. But not all families can manage, so no judgement here. We manage to create a very waldorf like homeschool, our home is beautiful and designed (like Reath Design), we have acres near the Lake, it's like spending your time in a nostalgic summer lakeside home year round---main lesson, then baking, cooking, knitting, molding, painting, woodworking, bonfire with friends on weekdays---what child would not want that? Lol

[@magnuscarlsson9969]

Hmm the last time i had to deal with any kind of schooling, was many years ago. Unless we count college and university level that is. I mostly introduced the kids to activities and books then let them explore by themselves, kids are eager to learn so as a parent you don't actually need to open a lot of doors, just be ready for the millions of questions which come afterward. I do however remember sitting down with my nieces helping them with homework, sometimes i came across things i didn't know so we just figured it out together. It was a bit worse when they started higher education, since they picked subjects i haven't studied myself. Being the only close relative they have with a university degree they always came to me with their questions, which could be a bit rough. They are way smarter then i am, but at least i could sit down and discuss their subjects and that can be enough sometimes, just asking the right questions to rewire the brain etc. I missed many grades growing up(bullying and such) so i really struggled when i wanted to go into higher education. I even had to learn English by myself at home without a tutor, since English is required even in the Swedish school system. I am however very worried about the state of things in the US, i did move there in 2009, but i left(with plans to return) in 2011, mom got cancer so i wanted to be with her. She survived but both of my parents weren't exactly in top condition so i decided to stay here. Four generations one yard, so lots of kids running around these days, so in a few years it's back to helping kids with homework again.

[@shelbeepollino9008]

My kids go to public school, one goes to tumbling and the other goes to aerial, and ✨somehow✨ I’ve still managed to teach them to cook, do their laundry, clean, they play outside, draw, read books….its actually possible 😅

[@AbbieeSchutjerr]

Thisss!! It's truly quite sad how, in my opinion, alot of parents now days send their kids to school, and once their back home (and the parent is home from work).. The parents seem to be more concerned with spending their time staring into their phones or staring into their T.V.s - Rather than taking that valuable and precious time to interact with their children, play, help them learn and grow... Ya know... Do things such as sit together and read fun stories, do arts and crafts, heck.. Even include their children in cooking dinners and doing dishes/tidying up the house.. I've observed that entirely too much and it does absolutely break my heart for those children. - Heck, even today at a fast food joint, a father and son sat at their table and the son was playing with his toy from the meal, - multiple times attempting to somehow get his father to engage/play with him.. All the while, the father sat across from him, without speaking at all, staring blankly into his phone scrolling through tiktoks... I could never do this with my own children, we never get time back.. It really did break my heart for that boy, I wanted so badly to knock that phone out of the dad's hands 😢❤

[@ttthecat]

Heck yea!!! Raising happy well adjusted humans who can do flips!!!❤

[@Vanessa-xx3yz]

​@@AbbieeSchutjerrI agreed with what you said, but you shouldn't see a dad and son and assume that that's how they are all the time. They could have been having some lunch after having gone on a nice day trip together or the park and the dad wanted to look at his phone while his son was preoccupied with his happy meal. That was very judgemental. My daughter and I are attached at the hip, we have an open dialogue where she can share whatever with me, she has many hobbies and passions I support her through and if someone thought that me being in my phone for twenty mins while my kid eats a burger is the extent of my parenting, I'd laugh at them.

[@sunnyandthechlo]

@@Vanessa-xx3yz Did you miss the ‘multiple attempts to engage his father.’ That’s sad. Anyway they’re just using an example, it’s not like they walked up and yelled at the guy.

[@SavageMinnow]

You could also take a moment to recognize that it takes a great deal of privilege to be able to do that.

[@katiemontigue3820]

I absolutely would not have learned any sort of math if I was left to my own devices as a child, but it is an incredibly important thing to know as an adult.

[@anotherinternetidiot6300]

We use math so much more than many realize

[@KimandKamJam]

I feel like the problem most people have with unschooling is #1 - it's just regular parenting. Like, your kid asking you questions and you answering and explaining is how you SHOULD parent. #2 - SOME of these parents (unke Kelsey) are only unschooling because they didn't like how schools tried to hold them and their kids accountable for things or asked for participation from parents because they think of teachers as glorified babysitters and #3 - It doesn't take into account that kids don't know what they don't know. So saying they can learn whatever they feel like learning might leave HUGE gaps in their education that will seriously harm them later on.

[@WinterIsWelcome]

You don’t know what you don’t know is a huge part of it. How can they show an interest in something if they have never come across it? They’re really only learning what they have been introduced to already in some form. How would they ever learn anything new and of value if they are the ones ‘leading’ the curriculum? I just don’t get it.

[@charlesb7019]

It will also harm the rest of us if we have a growing underclass of completely uneducated people.

[@AbbieeSchutjerr]

Preach!

[@blu.dru_]

Yesss!👏👏👏

[@PneumaNoose]

I love your last point because that goes for ALL beings capable of understanding, decision making, and thought. Not to get political, but just look at the state of our country right now. People who have no experience in the world outside of their city or their own family have no clue about the struggles people face in the state next door, let alone someone in another part of the world. So instead of the world becoming more inclusive, we’re becoming more isolated and set in our ways because people literally can’t know what they don’t know. Thus, without EDUCATION (which is harder to attain now than it ever has been before), we end up having a viciously divided society where people have dug their feet into the ground and won’t budge; and any opinion that isn’t theirs is automatically wrong (even proven facts are “wrong”). People of all ages NEED life experiences and different perspectives which challenge their own judgement in order to peacefully live amongst others. This is my biggest fear for all of us when Project 2025 hits and the DoE is dismantled.

[@Mggrande998]

If a child learns to read, and to love reading, it opens up all learning to them. It is FOUNDATIONAL for a reason.

[@LulaLeFleur]

Yes! My love of reading lead to a passion to learn. I’m nearly 32 and still doing courses regularly to learn more and aid my career. I believe my love of learning has been one of my biggest strengths in my life and career.

[@sashington]

I HATED reading and didn’t want to learn AT ALL. My parents finally told me I couldn’t get a doll I wanted until I learned and I learned in a week. Once I finally overcame the challenge of reading, I became a huge reader and read for pleasure so much!!! I needed that encouragement from my family to get me to do something hard that I didn’t want to

[@transparentsunflower8295]

I actually got in trouble for reading in 2nd grade once because we were supposed to be doing something else but I wasn't interested in anything but the book I had. Still like reading and love learning new information

[@xtinkerbellax3]

Yea we're seeing the negative impact of people not reading and thus not being curious enough to pursue knowledge right now..

[@Omnibushido-]

Any parent that would be genuinely okay with their child not knowing to do the most basic things, like reading, is a terrible parent. No one can change my mind, and the more these parents try to convince us that it’s okay, the more infuriating it is to me. I remember watching “Wife Swap” as a kid and there was an unschooling family, even then I thought it was stupid. How are they supposed to learn what they want when they can’t even read up on the subject without any assistance? These people completely lack critical thinking skills.

[@azlepianist]

I was homeschooled until college. My mom was well educated, dedicated, and smart, and my siblings and I are all special and happy adults. Lawyer, engineer, etc. However, I knew a family growing up whose kids didn’t know how to read. Absolutely apalling

[@annspank7027]

My senior year, I found out that a freshman i had a class with didn't know how to read at all. He was very embarrassed about it, and when others found out they started picking on him about it. I felt horrible for him. People used to fight to learn to read and now we're leaving these kids helpless

[@TLL921]

Homeschooling takes dedication discipline and the ability to convey education to kids even if YOU as a parent know how to do something -teaching it to children is an entirely different story . Especially when it comes to the core school subjects, kids learn differently than adults do, that’s why teachers develop lesson plans that help push the information in a timely manner but also in a way that is fun and engaging , and the lesson plans include tests throughout to gauge how the child is doing. Thats why teachers (in most states) need a masters degree to be a teacher . They do so much! Homeschooling can work if given a schedule and curriculum and the parent has the ability to educate properly or enrolls them in online classes and then helps with homework and questions after the online class, but this unschooling business is bananas .

[@lancelotte11]

And none of these parents in these tiktoks seem to fall under the same category as your parents. All these parents seem to be "unschooling" because of their personal convenience.

[@nolsche92]

There's a great video by Hannah Alonzo who is a teacher and she breaks down everything going on in these videos. The one where the mum takes her kid grocery shopping to teach them about numbers and math is so bad, I didn't even realise until Hannah explained why. The mum asks which apple is cheaper... but how does the kid know which number is less? As literate people, we can tell, but kids don't have that framework yet. Decimals don't even get taught at schools until kids are much older. Not only that, but she doesn't even let the kid answer / process their thinking, she answers for them. Highly recommend checking out her video!

[@kristinnared]

I second this 🙋‍♀️ Hannah is great! I love her take on this topic (and many others). ❤

[@MS-wh7ec]

Hannah is such an angel, love her content !!

[@happychaosofthenorth]

And it's not just a simple case of which is cheaper either. One bag of apples might be $3 and the other might be $4, and while 3 is less than 4, but the $3 bag might be 500g and the $4 bag might be 1kg making the $4 bag cost less per apple (plus, how would you know 1kg is bigger than 500g if you don't know what g and kg mean?) and then even after establishing that the $4 bag is the better deal, you also need to consider if it's worth it for your needs. Saving per apple on a $4 bag is no longer a deal if you don't go through them fast enough and they go bad before you finish half the bag. Maybe the one bag is cheaper because it will be expiring sooner than they can be eaten. There's nuance that adults don't necessarily have to think about, but a kid would need to learn the foundation of basic math to be able to properly make that kind of decision to save money. I think it's great to teach kids how to grocery shop and get them involved, but that's just parenting. When I was a kid, I went grocery shopping with my dad on the weekends all the time and learned a lot and had fun doing it. But I also had the much-needed structure of school during the week. Kids need structure and guidance. I think homeschooling is fine if the basics are there and there's structure and socializing with other kids involved, and kids leading the learning is fine as something like an elective, but the parents need to teach and build that foundation - especially in math and reading. That video makes it appear that she's teaching her kid how to run while he's still trying to learn how to crawl.

[@the_Sarahnator]

I loved that video, and also held Hannah's opinion about it in high regard because she's got her degree in elementary education. She's so well-educated about the subject.

[@sherriromas5871]

Yes! Her breakdown was so important!

[@MusikGrl96]

Aussie homeschool/unschool graduate here... I had a very selfish and mentally unstable 'mother' who used homeschooling as a means of control and coverup for abuse and neglect. She chose not to work and got government benefits *for* homeschooling us (classic), and denied me a relationship with my Dad, who was/is a pillar of stability, responsibility, love etc, she hid me/kind of kidnapped me. Around 12-13 years old she told us she was going to 'unschool' us which was because she had entered a new relationship and didn't have time for my younger brother or myself, but still wouldn't put us in school even tho she'd had enough of us. So we just... existed, played computer games, did a little bit of self-directed work in some workbooks. I turned it around when I was 16 and went to a community college, went to uni, and now work in a school and LOVE my job, but I'm still embarrassed by my mathematical inability and struggle to teach maths to older kids. mother is completely estranged from me now.

[@NEssaZai]

@MusikGrl96 so sorry you had to endure all that. I’m so sad because I feel like that may be what is going to happen with my niece and nephew. My brother, their dad, just died and his ex wife now has them full time and is not letting us see them. She sounds just like your mom. Is there anything anyone could have said to you or done when you were growing up that would have made you stand up for yourself and/or report your mom?

[@mishaa7263]

@@NEssaZai I'm sorry for the loss of your brother,

[@MusikGrl96]

@@NEssaZai I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother, and also that loss of relationship with your niece and nephew :( Honestly I've pondered a lot about why and how nothing was reported... but quite often, the people that report concerns of neglect or abuse etc are actually Teachers and people in the wider community, and I was mostly kept from those settings. My mother had a few friends who must have known some things, but as far as I know they never reported anything. She also really instilled fear of the outside world in me, if I told people certain things she did or said we could get taken away by 'DOCS' (Australia's old child protection system) and molested in foster care. So the poor kids might be too scared to help themselves at this stage if their mother has indoctrinated them a certain way. I'm not sure if you're able to make a report yourself? Or if the kids are old enough to have social media and you can contact them directly that way? It really is tricky stuff. I eventually grew up, I found Christ in my early 20s and He has given me a lot of hope, peace, and clarity, and I have a beautiful family now. I know I certainly didn't have it the worst, so many people suffer terribly, but yeah I wouldn't wish my childhood on anybody. All the best to you and your family 💛

[@p5ych0_w1tch]

damn i'm so sorry you had to go through that. i'm glad you're ok now, but that sounds very fucked up :(

[@stomppie]

You did not deserve to go through all that, I'm so sorry!! That sounds awful. I'm amazed at how you were able to turn it around. Have you been able to inspire your brother to do the same? Sending love.

[@XDantiaX]

As a teacher, I have a masters degree in education and have worked very hard to know how to teach all students. I am a very specialized teacher. I teach students with significant disabilities. It is a difficult thankless job that takes a lot of effort and time outside of my contract hours. It's really demoralizing to see everyone crap on school teachers.

[@flowerartz]

It's almost like not all teachers are bad AND not all teachers are good ,😰 ikr what a crazy concept

[@crystalvisions6558]

As a mom of a disabled young man with a learning disability in math, I thank you so much for even caring about our children’s education ❤

[@Somegirl811]

I can definitely say my teachers made a huge difference in my life! I've been homeschooled, and my mother didn't teach me much in comparison to my actual teachers. She was smart but not trained in education. I absolutely appreciate anyone that understands how to reach people with various learning methods!

[@ashleyesposito6509]

THANK YOU for doing your job. It’s one of the most challenging but rewarding careers there is. I was a TA for summer school for kids with disabilities for 3 summers and I was absolutely exhausted after the 6 hour day ❤

[@danielledoesstuff2142]

I feel like another benefit of traditional school is that it’s teaching you to interact with people who aren’t your mom, people who don’t think every flipping thing you do is amazing. It gives kids a dose of reality that their parents could never (and aren’t created to) provide.

[@watersfakeplants]

This is my first year homeschooling my four year old and this meant reaching out to people at the park to form connections to include into our lessons. Have met many people this way to help!

[@MomoSimone22]

I think it also teaches discipline and how to function within a community based on spoken and unspoken social norms/rules. They learn these skills at age appropriate levels that can then be later transferred to adult environments.

[@SyieraRose-b4j]

Whenever they go out anywhere they learn how to interact with people. Parks exist, science centers, museums etc.

[@Jessie-uj1sm]

They learn to interact with others? Have you been out in society lately? People are rude, rude, rude. What did they do with all those public school communication lessons.

[@melaniemagolan2241]

I also think "sometimes in life, you have to do things you don't like" is a very important lesson. Alongside that, there's a lot of "learning to be in a group" that kids learn in school that is often missing in homeschooling situations. Things like waiting your turn, or that you might not win at a game, or that you might not be the center of attention at all times. I used to teach summer camp, and I could always find the homeschool kid in the group, and in my 4- and 5-year-old groups, I could always tell which kids had been to pre-K and which ones hadn't, because they had some of that larger awareness of group dynamics.

[@lululee107]

Why are they all so mad at reading 😂😭

[@danderson8431]

Reading broadens your mind, and makes you question things. These parents crave to he ultimate control. It’s dramatic, but it reminds me of how enslaved people were forbidden from reading.

[@magnus1383]

​@@danderson8431 At some point, peasants also weren't allowed to read the Bible and form their own interpretations. Instead, only clergymen, who were totally not biased or pushing an agenda (sarcasm), were allowed to read it and spread its message. Information control and dependability has always been a method of control and indoctrination.

[@dvn9890]

Not to assume about other people's lives, but i feel like she either struggled with or disliked reading as a kid and instead of realising that or was essential as an adult she kept that childish view of books bad

[@kingskidgirl2]

The decline of the importance placed on reading speaks volumes about the state of modern society! 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@Morepanthers]

Reading is freedom from their parents influence. They're biggest fear

[@ohjaydee]

9:36 the fact that she said “is there any other moms that is so stressed out” gives me anxiety for her children. 😅

[@Cmartin01]

In her defense, she didn't claim to be teaching grammar 😅😅

[@chilibeer3912]

Kelsey Rhae is an insane rabbit hole to go down. The fact that she is deciding to educate her child at home is concerning when she has displayed on many occasions how much she just overall dislikes her children and has made every attempt to limit the amount of time she has to spend with them prior to even taking them out of school. Not to mention all the MLM stuff and everything wrapped up in that. I honestly think she is only trying to raise the perfect person for her downline.

[@EphemeralKeyStudio]

Came here for that comment. She wanted to 'create a community that all think the same' so she could sell her products and create a downline. This has nothing to do with education and 100% her selfish desire to be rich.

[@reesaspieces86]

She also admits in another video that she doesn’t have a diploma or GED and that homeschooling didn’t work for her, so… there’s that.

[@LovenEverythingNails]

😂😂😂😂​@@reesaspieces86

[@jessebluehouse]

From the moment of my first pregnancy ultrasound when that little alien looking creature shows its heartbeat on the monitor- I’ve wanted to homeschool. I knew it in my heart, & in my soul. Turns out God entrusted me to raise a special needs human. My child is the single greatest teacher I’ve ever had. I fought & bled and brought in the lawyers just to get him the bare minimum he needed to thrive in a highly rated public school district. By middle school he was done and chose homeschooling, knowing the option was always there, but fully supported in his desire to be in the mainstream system. I’ve been overjoyed & inspired every single flocking day since. I gave him about a week off when we unenrolled him, just to decompress and so that I could get my excited 💩 together to finish out the year productively, in all the ways he needs as an individual & a student. The unschooling trend of deep, unrelenting stupidity continues to give us homeschooling hillbillies a bad name. Though it’s become more common than ever since covid, the majority of people you meet everyday have their deeply ingrained notions of homeschooling as it is, and they lean pretty negative. You can talk all you want about “still having the time for freedom of self exploration and learning via play etc while attending public school” no. Mine didn’t. Out the door for school at 7:00, home by 4:00. This time of year it’s dark by 4:30. My autistic kiddo is beyond mentally exhausted every day. Decomp and a good poop later, it’s now time for supper. Clean up and bedtime directly after. Do it all over again Monday through Friday. Weekends is for athletics, family, running around, sometimes needing to just veg. Our lives have improved DRASTICALLY. He tells me what he wants to learn and BOY is it incredible. History, theology, philosophical studies. Devouring books, library trips twice a week and then some. Homeschooling is incredible, and I’m not the sharpest knife to ever cut bullsh**. It’s possible to do it WELL and thoroughly to the point where your child is life ready, college ready, a foundational friend group, social skills out the wazoo. Without a masters in early childhood Ed. But just like not everyone should breed- Not everyone should homeschool. The low intelligence quotient is further highlighted when the entire mess is proudly posted to social media. Come on, y’all. Why. SO MUCH LOVE to my public school mama’s and daddy’s, extra to my parents of neuro-typical Gen Ed students (that looks crazy hard honestly) and to everybody else who’s putting their whole entire heart into being the best parent possible to their unique little teachers, sent by Creator just to teach us to sit our behinds down, watch & learn what Love really is. ❤

[@vibrantgleam]

Wouldn't it just make more sense for her kids to be in school so she could at least have time to herself? Also this unschooling thing IS OFC GONNA BE A BAD IDEA, DUH. It would be different if she was homeschooling them and trying to build a relationship with her kids and teaching them the proper academics. But no.

[@Mggrande998]

As someone who spends so much time, money and effort homeschooling my kids, these people piss me off. They give normal homeschoolers a terrible name.

[@MrsKendraJoy]

Agreed. And I'm terrified families like this will give the govt ammunition to start making homeschooling illegal or highly regulated. I just feel like it's coming someday in Canada and I'm not here for it 😅

[@lizajane2971]

YES!! I was homeschooled and I learned how to read when I was 4. I got a pretty good education compared to my peers and I have no regrets. Hate this trend 😒

[@feelthejoy]

I think the majority of homeschooled kids rn are going to fall well behind their peers 😬

[@feelthejoy]

@@lizajane2971not trying to be rude but you wouldn’t have been going to regular school when you were 4 anyway so I don’t think that’s relevant.

[@AbbieeSchutjerr]

​@@MrsKendraJoyCanada does implement the most idiotic, outrageous laws... It's actually quite terrifying, and horribly sad.

[@emilyluken9704]

The web design career tik tok having horrible graphics is sending me lol

[@ckilbarger01]

11 years of educating here. Homeschooling and student led education can be great but it matters who the parent is, what kind of curriculum is being used, and why a person is choosing homeschooling. Lots of these unschool people just don't want their children to not be "forced" to read books, do math, or learn history or science.

[@danielleiezzi]

Influencer moms will be the downfall of society as we know it 😭😭

[@christinerobbins9376]

Amen & hallelujah LOUDER FOR THE GRANOLA MOMS IN THE BACK, PLZ 😂😂😂

[@danielleiezzi]

😂😂 KZbin is the new daddy 😂​@@christinerobbins9376

[@theflowerhead]

All adults being apart of it, depressing.

[@raydunn8262]

Influencers should be barred from being parents. They sound and act like Ruby Frangie. I wish the kids could obtain help if they need it.

[@lorenzolyleabadia1669]

"American Influencer Moms" This shit wouldn't slide in Asian society or any part of European countries for that matter.

[@tabithacarlson8676]

I was public schooled. I am in my third year of homeschool my kiddos. It’s been so hard! This year we joined a coop to get some other fun classes in and my kids love it! So we get the benefit of one on one learning, flexibility in schedule, and a classroom setting too! 10/10 would recommend.

[@bubblegumplastic]

I'm glad you're having a good experience. The coops around me are exclusively led by Christian cults, it's been demoralising

[@mariearteaga3056]

Also, as someone who had a very stressful home life, school was my way of getting awsy from some of that. Reading and learning was my escape. Especially reading. It was one of my first loves. Seeing that poor girl say that she had to teach herself honestly makes me sad.

[@wildgr33n]

same. school was fun where i got to have stability and to see my couple friends, i had meals i could count on.

[@JaneDoe-qf1kk]

I grew up like you

[@sierratreadway6456]

I think people also forget there’s a difference between knowing how to read and learning a bunch of different words. Reading comprehension is so important and is being lost on our youth!

[@LittleMissLion]

I agree, but to be fair...I think this problem has existed long before this generation. On the flip side, schools here in Australia have been introducing critical thinking and analysis into curriculum more than they did when I was a child. I was lucky enough to simultaneously learn a lot of these skills in my psychology and creative writing classes at university. Unfortunately, I don't think many have had that same opportunity as I did in our older generations. :(

[@vibrantgleam]

IKR I'M SCARED THAT THE READING PANDEMIC IS CREEPING UP ON OUR SOCIETY.

[@JennRighter]

I always sing to my cat even though I’m bad at it she loves it. Let me tell you she LOVED your song at the beginning. I had to replay it for her. I think she was like “is this what actual singing sounds like?!”

[@mkchristner]

😂😹

[@doodlejone6546]

Aaaw that’s so cute!

[@movieladyLL]

Lol my dog used to hate when I sang. When I pulled out the guitar, she'd give me a dirty look and leave the room. But now she's deaf which I think she's grateful for whenever the guitar comes out 😅

[@marianatraductoraargentina]

nobody needs to have kids to know when a parent is neglecting their kid or being an awesome parent

[@Thobeian]

You say that, but... then there are people who were raised neglected and never noticed.

[@zeenagirl149]

@@Thobeianyeah I didn’t think I was until I grew up and learned about neglect. My parents loved me and wanted to know I was safe and alive but neglected in mental safety, knowledge, and life skills.

[@brittanytidwell1754]

“That’s literally taking your kid to a park and spending time with them” 😂 🎯 💯 like you should be doing both of these things, school and following your child’s interests and teaching them life skills…

[@FinandDandy]

Jaime, I cannot wait to meet you in Dallas to tell you how much your "spoke to the head of schools" bit has improved my life. Seriously. It's my favorite. 6:41

[@mamadell5723]

My son is home schooled for the same reason as your editors, but we followed curriculum until he was 12, then gave him options. For example, we kept English and math as a definite but the rest he chose. So he's 16 now and finished his first gcses in math, chemistry, and history and got all A's. Now he's doing physics, geography, computer science, Japanese, and Spanish. He is autistic and in school, he was struggling. He's very happy and can cook, clean,gardening and sow. We are very proud of him. He wants to go to university too.

[@shelby_parker]

I love this! I think that’s a great age to let them choose more specifically. Not everyone needs to learn chemistry and physics!

[@mamadell5723]

@shelby_parker Exactly. And because he chose his subjects, he's excelling.

[@user-jt3zv2jc7u]

@@shelby_parker We already do this in the British school system. In year 9 (14 years), you choose 6 optional subjects to study for GCSE + the mandatory English, Maths and Science. Then in year 11 (16 years) you only choose 4 subjects to study for A-Level, in preparation for university. She's following the UK curriculum at home.

[@mamadell5723]

@@user-jt3zv2jc7u exactly. We just gave him options earlier. ❤️

[@s.a.6082]

I think that's great. The truth is, not all kids thrive in the public school system. As long as they are learning the important subjects, I don't see the problem?

[@saga685]

I absolutely hated learning algebra in school, and it became one of the most valuable and essential skills in my day-to-day working life. I'm so glad I was forced to learn it now.

[@veerodriguez1751]

And I am someone who's never used it for anything. Different strokes for different folks.....

[@Thobeian]

​@veerodriguez1751 basic math shouldn't be optional (yes Algebra is/should be a basic skillset you have) or "different strokes"

[@saga685]

@@veerodriguez1751 Have you ever re-calculated the measurements for ingredients in a recipe so you can make it for more/less people? Have you tried to figure out how long it will take you to drive somewhere based on your current speed and distance from your destination? Have you used the 'per pound' price at a grocery store to compare deals, or needed to figure out how much money you'll save on a 25% off deal? You use algebra way more than you realise.

[@sha8photo]

You have to be literally the only person I’ve ever encountered who has said this haha

[@Lisa-vb3fu]

You have definitely used algebra in your life lol

[@katieredongo4120]

OMGEEEE!! When it got to the Chan part I had to stop and SOB!!! I hadn’t kept up with his life changes and I am so happy to see him/them doing so well. 🥹🥹🥰 love you all so much. Thank you for the laughs we all need these days! ❤😅

[@claire___]

As a Canadian fan who can't get to a show, I still really appreciate the song. 10/10 🙌🏻

[@channingquinn5356]

Make a request online I did! 🎉😊

[@claire___]

​@@channingquinn5356 Great idea, thanks!

[@jessymfwilson]

My brother did the opposite of “unschooling”. My niece is so incredibly intelligent it’s wonderful and she was reading at a first grade level at age 5 because my brother made learning fun. He was super engaging with her from day one. She WANTED to do flash cards. She WANTS books! She absolutely loves math. Why? My brother made it something enjoyable for her. As a PreSchool teacher and a behavioral therapist for children with autism. Education is so SO SO important at early ages. It’s the time for them to thrive. If you ARE going to home school. Make sure you know what you are doing. Don’t get burnt out and become lazy. Learning life skills is very important but do not forget academics. Please for the love of god. Anyway. Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk. End rant.

[@samanthaquant7411]

Very good. As a homeschool mom I fear getting complacent or lazy because it is a sacred duty to ensure my children’s proper education.

[@AuntieNise]

An extremely important rant!

[@carlypowell2029]

My 17 month old loves flash cards. Knows his ABCs and can count to 10 but can also recognize his letters and numbers out of just in order and context. It starts at home and as someone who works in a school I can tell the parents that talk to their children like adults and work with them at home. It’s so important.

[@Sarahopal]

One of my daughters decided to homeschool her 3 kids. Her intentions were good. The school system here is pretty trash and her kids were miserable. I was really worried though because she takes the idea of gentle parenting to an extreme. Its permissive parenting really. So my grandkids are really well behaved for me but horrendous to their parents. After a few years of homeschooling I was praying she would put them back in school. And I'm a huge fan of homeschooling! But her 12 year old could barely read. Her handwriting looked like a 7 year olds at best. They would just tell her no, I'm not gonna study. It was hard to watch her make all the excuses for their behavior and know there wasn't much I could do about it. I tried to help teach them but I couldn't be there all the time. It's rough to see kids you love having their futures destroyed by a parent who thinks they are doing the right thing. Thankfully dad said enough and got them mostly caught up then back in school. Anyway, there's my rant lol ❤ my heart goes out to all you homeschooling mommas (and dads) making it work. You are doing the Lords work and you are amazing!!

[@dianarojo-jewell4070]

5 year olds are either pre-k or kindergarten (kids start school officially at 5 years old in my state since pre-k is optional)

[@mkchristner]

Teaching kids basic stuff like household chores, cooking, and shopping well is just stuff any parent should already be doing on top of their kids’ education. They still should be adequately literate and have decent mathematical comprehension. That’s pertinent tools for life. That’s what helps when shopping, for example, not just “picking the cheapest one”. Picking the cheapest thing is often not a good choice. Quite often that leads to less product per dollar. You may also be purchasing something that is not even good at all, and maybe even a complete waste of money. Knowledge is power!

[@Mlee03]

I have a family member that’s been “unschooling” their child for about 10 years. It’s incredibly heartbreaking to know what the child is and isn’t learning.

[@shannontyler89]

I unschooled, and went on to study at UT-Austin and become an investigative journalist. But I was personally extremely disciplined in my own personal studies. I worry for pretty much all unschooled kids. I haven’t heard of any others who went on to college. And most of the time I think that parents do this to avoid the scrutiny of teachers, and to exercise greater ideological control over their children.

[@melissarendon9048]

Legitimate question how did you obtain a diploma to get into UT or any college without school?

[@friendshipbunny2559]

We were basically just not schooled. We watched TV and played video games all day. My parents bought us work books the first year, and nothing else after that. I used the money I made babysitting to start college at 13, but didn't graduate until I was like 32. I almost lost my ability to even take out student loans, because I had to take the most remedial colleges over and over, because I started with a 3rd grade education. My youngest brother was pulled out before 1st grade, and thankfully I had enough education to teach him to read, or else he'd have been screwed for life. Life was a lot harder than it had to be, because we weren't educated as children, but we all eventually finished college.

[@savvyroca]

Shannontyler89, can you elaborate on why some parents would want to avoid the scrutiny of the teacher/principals?

[@shannontyler89]

@@savvyroca because they’re crazy, ideological, abusive, or engaging in otherwise illegal activities. Also many unschooling kids are probably just homeless kids. I was homeless for part of my unschooling, and I have met about seven other people who were homeless and unschooled.

[@shannontyler89]

@@melissarendon9048 GED, 4.0 at community college.

[@melanclowny]

Hi! I was homeschooled for 12 years, and back in 2008, my family made friends with an ‘un-schooling’ family online. The parents were very laid back, hippie-type folks and their three kids were pretty nice and fun to be around for the most part. The parents believed that their children would ‘learn everything they needed to know on the internet’. Sometimes I think about those kids and wonder how they are doing today. 😅

[@millijames]

The ‘unschooling’ is literally just parenting…. It’s what I’ve been doing with my two kids since day one. Even when they’re just a newborn potato - talk to them about what you’re doing when you’re shopping/doing washing/gardening. That’s how kids learn, then they need the added formal education to be able to function as well rounded adults. My 3 year old hasn’t learnt much new at preschool so far but she’s got to experience different teaching styles and how to get along with other people who aren’t family. Pretty useful I’d say!

[@teamshoemaker]

You'd be surprised how many parents don't actually parent.

[@AshleyWilliams-xq7lj]

Yeah, my MIL always compliments me for speaking to my four year old daughter, "like a person." How else would I speak to her? Like a dog??? She is a person.

[@smolexfundie6458]

I’m just here to watch the video and announce that my 4 year old read their first four word sentence after only two weeks of reading lessons. 🎉🎉 edit to clarify from comments: It is homeschool lessons. Alpha-phonics. ❤

[@theflowerhead]

Keep it up. ♡

[@betunaf8008]

Yay! Good job, kiddo!

[@VuDuMamajuju777]

🎉

[@gingerleamcwow435]

That's so freaking awesome! My Nanny taught me to read when I was 4, too, and it kick-started a life-long obsession of reading ANYTHING I can get my hands on 🤭 I'm so excited for your kiddo! And great job on getting them started as early as possible 🎉❤😊

[@ashHarmony]

👏👏👏congrats mama!!

[@rekieskatt]

my mom never stopped teaching me how to do shit in spite me going to public school... this is some bs

[@margaretrichter1631]

Hahaha welcome to the life of a teacher. Try having 27 of them asking you endless questions... 10:01

[@BadmintonBombshell]

This. So much this.

[@LittleMissLion]

Reasons I know I couldn't be a teacher. It's legit distressing with neurodivergence when it comes to sensory overload. It was a career path I was considering, but I couldn't do that to the kids! I'd just end up doing a terrible job of it.

[@macjrc]

I guess it’s better than the opposite.. Ben Stein-anyone, anyone?? 😂

[@Nyx_TheGodess]

most of them don’t even ask questions nowadays they just misbehave you know throw each other papper airplanes

[@apocrypha5363]

13:00 a person stood naked and empty-handed in the middle of the desert is "free." Your child is free... and helpless. Congratulations.

[@kackie]

Dated a guy who went to an alt school his whole life where they let the kids decide what to learn. He DID go to the playground every day and didn't learn to read til he was 7.

[@samanthaquant7411]

I was homeschooled and am homeschooling my kids. The flexibility is great… but we use curriculum and follow a standard. I want my kids to be better educated or at least equally as educated not less educated than if they went to public school 😅

[@DevonXlee]

Yes! Same here. I'm so thankful for the flexibility and the resources these days vs being homeschooled 25 years ago lol.

[@ashleysmith5001]

Me too my 8 year old daughter can write in cursive, and we do our schoolwork on paper and pencil. I took her out of school in the beginning of 1st grade, #1 because I am teaching her the way I was taught, #2 was a big reason she called me from school crying to pick her up because her teacher told her she was a Trans boy! She told her since she plays with trucks and is a tomboy that she is a boy. I was so upset and so was my daughter.

[@AbbieeSchutjerr]

​@@ashleysmith5001 Not that my opinion matters, but with so many public schools (in mostly liberal areas) promoting/pushing the ideology onto children that they can be the opposite gender, change/pick their pronouns, - sometimes all without informing their parents... That's absolutely dangerous to their mental health, and homeschooling 1000% is the best option for the child in that situation 😯😖

[@limiwa]

Same. Homeschooling is not the problem if it's done well. Unfortunately some of these unschoolers give the whole homeschooling community a bad look. Many people are going to assume this is what the average homeschooler looks like. It's not.

[@ashleysmith5001]

@@limiwa Exactly I agree with you

[@bethwood7091]

I really love that the "head of schools" line has such long legs, youre really getting some good use out of it 😂

[@kia-k2h]

oh my gosh I also almost cried after seeing Kat and Channing's interview! That seems like the right reasons to take kids out of school AND THE KIDS ARE STILL SEEING PEERS AND LEARNING TO READ AND WRITE

[@hannity1943]

Homeschooling is great when done correctly! The way unschoolers are trying to blur the lines between the two is so frustrating.

[@alexmueller9952]

Hannah Alonzo made a wonderful point on the unschooling topic: if your child is learning at a rate that is completely without guidance on what they are learning, how are you supposed to know if they have learning disabilities? Seeing how a child retains information can not only teach them life skills at appropriate ages they are in but also make it clearer if a child in struggling in a certain area. You can’t address a problem unless you know it’s there

[@Cheesyenchilady]

The girl in the thumbnail makes me so mad. When she said “my son asks me… mom what’s seven plus four, because he NATURALLY WANTS TO LEARN!” I’m like … no… he WANTS to know what 7+4 is and doesn’t understand it’s something he could have already learned to do and so is just asking you for the answer. He didn’t ask “mom.. how do I add seven plus four?” And then what would she say “nope figure it out!” Wtf. So so frustrating.

[@nataliepetrucci6081]

I asked for a Denver show and you made it happen! Yesss! Super excited to drag my husband with me to see you in February (jk he's a fan, too).

[@swblanc]

Imagine how tired she would have been if she had actually been educating them. Thank God she's prioritizing her happiness over the developmental needs of her annoying kids.

[@shastagem]

Hope those parents really like them kids cuz they will be living with them indefinitely

[@southernladyish]

Most definitely.. they will be there forever.

[@daebak_hana]

😂. They are definitely not preparing them for the real world, unless they are gonna be hobos.

[@neonaviolett6281]

Maybe it's the goal

[@shakenbake4971]

I learned something important. Not in the beginning but I did learn something from KZbin and I learned something from your video. I never knew how to hum until I heard you humming your soundtrack for your show. Thank you so much you have no idea how bad it was when I didn't know how to hum I'm a better person now thank you! ❤

[@christinemeske5885]

TikTok ruins everything. Unschooling was mostly created as a last resort for neurodivergent children who may be suffering from anxiety, autism spectrum challenges, etc. etc. I haven’t gone this route yet, but seeing how rigid schools are and how it’s pushing kids like my son to the fringes where they feel like an outsider that can never succeed really shines a light on why something like unschooling exists. But yeah, these…ugh…people are giving it a terrible name, once again destroying the last educational option for those kids who are too different to deal with traditional school.

[@jiliciar.1423]

YES! THIS! I mnetioned this on my comment.

[@NicoledebraH]

I've unschooled my son his whole life, he's 14 now and taught himself piano. He loves playing classical music, won't have a thing to do with modern music. He's excellent at chess and very smart and gifted. The only downside is all his friends are way older than him and/or family members. It's worked great for us!

[@BlckSWANWhtRbbt]

I do think there is a distinction between unschooling and student led learning. Unschooling is usually, not always, meant to give a kid a break from strict school structures to learn how to love learning again. Not their entire educations.

[@Thobeian]

​@@NicoledebraH as long as he can read at a 9th grade level, no complaints.

[@SkiesTurnedGrey]

*Liberalism ruins everything. tiktok would be fine, if not for all the loopy-doopies promoting insanity.

[@robertavlopez5149]

I’m an emergency department nurse and “unschooled” to us translates to “frequent flyer.” I love your work, can’t wait to see you on the JRE someday soon!

[@abnormalizeit]

Joe Rogan? Really? 😕

[@GreeneyedTarot]

A word about ADHD. Children younger and younger are being diagnosed. Because expectations are off. Adults are expecting them to sit and listen to boring shit that is irrelevant and meaningless for them as humans who have been on the earth for 3 years. Adults say they have attention issues and can’t focus. But really they just hate what the adults are trying to force them to do. Direct instruction is not how most kids learn. Differentiate!

[@AshleyWilliams-xq7lj]

True. It's actually a problem when it carries into adulthood. If I can't function in society due to ADHD, then I have to get treatment or live under a bridge. There's no more shaman/storyteller position in the tribe, if that makes sense. No place for adult ADHDers in society, basically. Even entertainers like Jamie need help from others (husband and hired help, in her case.) No one is willing to help me with my weaknesses in order for me to focus on my strengths, so I have to be medicated. Or be homeless, as I mentioned before. Direct instruction IS how I learn. This is a common misconception about ADHD (or perhaps it shows the difference between real disorder vs kids being kids?) I have to take notes, or I lose focus. We weren't allowed to take notes at my school. It fell under the "doodling" rule. The only class that allowed note taking was AP English- a class where notes weren't necessary for me. Anyway, I really struggled with (imo) pointless wastes of time like projects. Building a diorama of a mission doesn't help me grasp the concept of a mission. (Does it for anyone? Seriously...) It's just a burden that I had to screw up and start over several times, and took 15+ hours to do while needlessly stressing myself and my parents out for weeks. Teachers made us work in groups and gave thirty minutes for a five question worksheet. Then everyone wonders why kids aren't learning. One worksheet! It's too slow and ineffective. Plus no one actually works together. It's an unspoken agreement that the student who cares the most about their grades does the work while the others sit there. ADHD is a racecar brain with bicycle brakes. Imagine a racecar being forced to idle alonsgside a golfcart ALL DAY. Boring and a pointless waste of time, as I mentioned before. Hope that makes sense. It probably doesn't 😂. I went to a top 100 public school in California btw.

[@AlinaMedina]

Your “that’s a lot Robin” cracks me up every time, never stop 😂 also as a homeschool mom, thank you for showing an example of what healthy homeschooling looks like ❤️

[@nicoleortiz9884]

the part about the apples pisses me off so much because it was actually a great opportunity to teach something. IT IS NOT WHAT HAS THE LOWEST PRICE, maybe check price per pound as a lesson for starters.

[@LittleMissLion]

@nicoleortiz9884 I was thinking the same thing. Lowest price does not always equal best value.

[@kobrilakkuma]

so true, how did she mess even that up 😭

[@TheDame]

Okay but why did that song give huge Mazzy Star/Jewel energy and slay tho? 😂❤ Damn you are just too talented.

[@kelseycrump8121]

Unschooling gives me SUCH anxiety. My almost seven year old absolutely loves school and loves learning. More than likely she has ADHD (both my husband and I do) but she hyperfocuses on learning so hard. I'm not educated or trained to teach her what she wants to learn or needs to learn. While I do teach 3 year olds, 1st grade, nope. She's got fantastic teachers for that.

[@genericusernamehere01]

I'm 30yo. I was pulled out and "homeschooled" at 10yo, halfway through 5th grade. Part of it was for medical reasons, but part of it was religious and political. After the first year, I was on my own. I had to teach myself everything (which means I didn't, because what 13yo has the capacity to teach themselves calculus, geometry, algebra, science, etc?) because when my mom got severely sick, instead of putting me back in school, she kept me out. So, essentially, I was "unschooled" my entire middle school and high school years. It was the most embarrassing thing. I was ashamed anytime education or intelligence came up. If I didn't know the answer to something science or math related, I would get overwhelmed and embarrassed and try to dodge the question or conversation. The things I WAS good at, I clung to desperately so no one would know I was stupid (which was my self-perception most of my life because I also was undiagnosed AuDHD until 29yo). The further behind my peers I got, the worse I felt about myself, especially because my parents had high expectations of me (including college because they both have their master's degrees) even though they did nothing to facilitate it. I don't really blame my dad, because this was during the recession in the late 2000s and we were POOR so he was working long hours to get us by. (Edit: I'm not saying he isn't to blame, but he really didn't know. See comments for a more thorough explanation) Anyway, I didn't realize it was a form of neglect until the most recent 5 years of my life (maybe even less). I didn't realize I had been hindered. I knew it had impacted me negatively, but I always tried to play it off. After all, I got my GED on my own, got into college on my own, graduated undergrad in 3.5 years with a 3.99 GPA on my own, and am getting my master's degree in January on my own. But in 2020, I realized how messed up it was. How much of a disadvantage I was put in because I wasn't put back in school when my mom could no longer teach us because she was sick. I was neglected and I suffered because of it. My sibling, who is 3 years younger than me, has been even more disadvantaged than me because they were pulled out at 7yo, so they didn't even get all of elementary school. They are currently struggling to figure out how to survive as an adult human being because they weren't prepared, either. There are so many things about living my husband had to inform me about or teach me because I just didn't know because I wasn't prepared and was home 99% of the time doing nothing but writing novels and playing on Neopets. There are a lot more layers to this than I can express in a single comment on youtube, but these children are going to be SO disadvantaged when they get older. There's a huge chance they will resent their parents for this decision. And I feel so sad for them already.

[@sliverofthemoon3165]

I'm sorry but your father was equally responsible for not checking in and making sure you were educated as well. That's like not blaming the working parent for not noticing a child in their home is being starved. He had to know.

[@the_lily_rose]

That's so sad. I also expect those kids to be really disadvantaged. Side note: if you ever need to catch up or are curious about some concept, see if they have it on Khan Academy. I do this sometimes with math related concepts that I didn't grasp. It's helpful.

[@genericusernamehere01]

@@sliverofthemoon3165 He actually didn't know. He does now, though. But he didn't know then because my mom insisted everything was fine and she had everything under control and us children were never asked. I didn't know how to communicate to him that things weren't working because I was a child.

[@samanthaquant7411]

I am so sorry! Good for you for still doing so well in college now! That’s amazing.

[@mangos2888]

Good news! A 13 year old doesn't learn calculus in school either

[@madeleinecate]

i love that being a hands on parent is a tiktok trend 🥲🥲🥲

[@The-Janie-Jones]

My parents refused to let me or my sister go to school, and pulled my eldest brother out after he finished the 4th grade. My parents were super negligent, I had to teach myself how to read when I was 9-10 years old by using the Internet when I had access and by forcing myself to understand an old copy of Moby Dick. I had to teach myself everything. Needless to say, I don't have a high opinion of unschooling. Children need structure and need the socialization that comes from school. I wasn't allowed to go outside, have friends, or even talk to other children and it severely hindered my self esteem and social abilities. I'm in my mid 20s, and I'm only now having irl friends for the first time. Even if your kid hates going to school, trust me - as someone who was denied school - they'll regret not having it for the rest of their lives, and they'll resent you for denying them that normal social and educational development.

[@pleurnicharde]

2:44 "Education in response to a kid's interests" Has she heard of what a montessori or waldorf school is? There have been multiple philosophical approaches to children's education before tiktok 😅

[@xelammthecat]

Yeah every time I hear about unschooling, I think about the Montessori method - like why not just do that? From what i understand, it's still "child led" but the adult is doing a lot more guiding and teaching than these unschooling people

[@oceanmagnolia]

Montessori still follows a curriculum, has structure, and makes sure that young people are still learning about a variety of subjects, though the methodology is more child centered if that makes sense.

[@rupertfergusson]

These kids will never leave home and will have their parents put to sleep when they start to becoming burdensome.

[@helgacucumber3871]

"Reinventing the wheel" is so frustrating to me. Like "gentle parenting". That's not a thing! There is no solid philosophical framework behind it! It's just vibes! It's crazy to me that people with no background in child development would just try to invent some kind of parenting style without learning what already exists and then tell other people about it. They're basically trying to reinvent RIE parenting but make it worse in the process. If you want to expand on something or invent something new, go do it! But you can't do that until you know what you're building on. If you want to do child-lead-learning, you do have to, you know, actually crack a book about it.

[@pleurnicharde]

@helgacucumber3871 thank you!!! I really didn't think my comment would resonate the way it did. You say it way better than I could though!

[@xpinkrainx]

I really just need to say something. Your voice is so freakin beautiful I think that song made me cry 🤦🏻‍♀️ This is an important topic but. I had to get that out to soothe the adhd for 5 minutes. You are gorgeous.

[@kelseyd4701]

As a homeschooling mom- Thank you for laughing at this AND showing how awesome homeschooling is and how different it is from unschooling. 💕

[@ellaelliott4415]

How do you make sure your kids stay social and engaged in society? Socializing in traditional schools is quite different because of in school and societal opportunities. How do you try to prepare them for jobs and interacting with people and making sure they're not isolated? You can kinda tell when kids have been socialized and exposed to the real world and when kids haven't been in social interactions. Please don't take offense, I'm not coming from a judgmental place. I just don't know and I'd like to know and understand better

[@Witchmee]

​@ellaelliott4415 I don't get why people always say this. Homeschooling children do extra curricular activities dude... they join soccer teams. Karate. Art classes... make friends at the park. whatever. Its not that complicated.

[@Witchmee]

​@@ellaelliott4415 honestly they are way more social and well adjusted than public school kids. Everyone at the public school i went to had social anxiety really bad. The homeschool kids I met were very well adjusted and comfortable around people.

[@kelseyd4701]

@ellaelliott4415 I can only answer for my family, but we are in a co-op once a week that functions like a school, so they get that experience there. My kids are involved in basketball, karate, music lessons, and church. They have play dates with kids in all different situations : homeschool, private school, public school. We work really hard academically and outsource to professionals when needed for extra help, so we're sure they aren't behind. We live in PA, so the laws here are pretty strict in terms of proving that the kids are caught up. It's definitely easy to get lazy with these things, I imagine. But if you have the right motivation and are self-directed and a "go-getter," there are SO many opportunities available. I also think that your surrounding culture plays a role. A lot of people in my area homeschool, so there's a ton of support here. We love homeschooling. That said, it's not right for everyone, and it's not better than another option. I'm just glad people are starting to see it's not a lesser option.

[@emg708]

@@ellaelliott4415 homeschooled kids will socialize just like any other child. As someone who grew up homeschooling, I’ve been asked this same question probably a hundred times. Most don’t ask in person anymore but I’d answer with, “Am I not socializing with you now?” When it comes to socialization, it depends much more on the individual than the curriculum. A friend of mine tells people, “I’m weird and I went to public school my whole childhood. I’m anxious too! If my kids are weird, it’s because of me, not their school.”

[@Packlunch]

I went to public school and ya know…sucked at it for the majority of those 12 years. But I can’t imagine being stuck with my parents 1) Teaching me, because neither of them had a teaching degree (or the patience for that) and 2) Not interacting with other people. Granted I’m not an extrovert but somehow I managed to have friends while I was there…and I learned things about the world my parents may not have known or have been exposed to 🤷

[@kunya16]

Homeschoolers interact with a lot of people. More than public schoolers. Your parents not being patient and you disliking them that much is a very much you issue. Bashing homeschooling because your parents suck just isn't the flex you think it is. The "homeschool kids never see humans ever" is a tired, old insult.

[@Packlunch]

@@kunya16 - I didn't say I disliked my parents, and you saying they suck is uncalled for. - "Not interacting with other people" was a vague blanket statement and I could have expressed my thoughts better, I will give you that one. Do I think homeschoolers are prisoners in their own homes? No. Do I think their social interactions are curated (for better or worse) by their parents? Yes. Do I think they may be missing out on different perspectives? Yes. Do I think every parent is equipped to handle homeschooling? No. I thought some of the points from the video that were pro-homeschooling were good points, and I hadn't heard those before. If you have something constructive to add, or a link to statistics, I'd be more than happy to read through those. I would prefer if I wasn't insulted in the process though.

[@ClaraCurado]

I think the unschooling philosophy principle isn't at all bad. I actually thrived in traditional school (humble brag), but I reckognize that the school system in my counstry doesn't work well for everyone and that in general practical skills are a bit overlooked. It could use a reform. There is a point that I think is worth making: school, even up to the university level, is as much about learning a certain subject as it is about learning how to learn. The main point of learning math is not that every adult knows algebra, it is more about acquiring the logical skills that come with learning it.

[@melodybarger3043]

When your favorite KZbinr posts a video about one of my favorite topics to rant about it’s a good day. I’m all for homeschooling IF you as the parent can make it work but I know so many unschooled kids who are useless because no one is actually teaching them. It’s so sad and frustrating because they aren’t dumb they just aren’t being challenged at all

[@promisedjubileedaniels]

Just pointing out Unschooling and Homeschooling are not synonymous.

[@melodybarger3043]

@ I know… I meant like I am for the one but not for the other.

[@makpettus]

I'm a big supporter of homeschooling but I'm also a big supporter of classical education within that. Unschooling simply put is laziness, the people who 'unschool' and refuse to teach their children simply do not want to be parents. Education is responsibility of the parent.

[@haleeburch]

Yes. I think all the classical/Charlotte Mason home educators are Ben Affleck with a cigarette when the TikTok unschooling influencers go off. 😂

[@aTexasPickle]

Theoretically, wouldn’t it be easier for them to just send them to public school to be rid of them for 8 hrs a day? I think unschooling can be beneficial for the child IF (and this is a big IF), the parent(s) are super dedicated in the unschooling approach. Problem is, most of the TikTok’s that are promoted are done so by parents that, imo, got ahead of themselves and it turned out to be WAY harder to unschool their kids than they anticipated.

[@mynameisreallycool1]

​@@aTexasPickle Lol it takes more work to get your kids ready for school and look over their homework than it does to completely neglect your child the way unschooling parents do, considering unschooling requires you to do nothing.

[@aTexasPickle]

@@mynameisreallycool1 okay, but the REAL unschoolers aren’t on TikTok because they’re actually all in. You can’t base all of the evidence off of social media platforms, which is where you’re getting your information from. It’s completely one-sided and negative. No one that legitimately unschools is on social media creating content - there’s no time to do that.

[@annalivingtv]

@@aTexasPickleis that homeschooling or unschooling? Homeschooling is a legitimate way of educating your child, following a curriculum, and basing it around their educational needs and one-on-one work. Unschooling is letting the child pick what to learn… but they dont know what they dont know so its an extremely flawed basis for education and fails children far too easily

[@reoomalley3461]

My partner and I just said out loud that we wish you came to Phoenix and if you ever did, we’d have to go see you, and then (being very late) we started this video only to have you announce Phoenix. I could cry. Thank you for this early Christmas gift :,)

[@akaErma]

I feel so bad for these kids. Public schooling isn't perfect but at least they kind of care if your kid can read or count.

[@Momofmanylittles]

Not really! The public schools in my city ranked lowest in reading and second to last in math.

[@prostoname5338]

I definitely had some classmates, who couldn’t do either both or one of these by the time they graduated from high school

[@mynameisreallycool1]

​@@Momofmanylittles Even those kids are likely more ahead compared to the average unschooled kid.

[@Momofmanylittles]

@mynameisreallycool1 probably.

[@nicoleterry5105]

There are actual people graduating with an elementary school level reading capability. But because of things like the whole George W Bush no child left behind they’ve kind of made it so kids have to move up grades even when they’re clearly not ready to.

[@catturner23]

Ok I get the part about when they talk to you so much that you just wish they’d stop and I honestly truthfully tell my five year old, ok, mom needs a break, and she’s pretty good about giving me that mental space to chill. Bless her little heart. 💜

[@LittleMissLion]

Yeah, it's actually okay to converse with your kids on these sorts of things. When I'm getting extremely overstimulated, I want them to know it's not something they are doing wrong, but I also want to model that's it's okay to have needs and to advocate for them. So, when they are experiencing symptoms from their ND, they can be conformable to say the same to us.

[@catturner23]

@ totally. Well said!

[@willardlol]

As far back as I can remember, my mom had a "15 minute rule" when she got home from work. If it wasn't bleeding, burning, or not breathing--it wasn't an emergency and could be addressed after she had 15 minutes to decompress in solitude and silence. I'm 30 now and my mom and I have a great relationship built on clearly communicated and respected boundaries. I didn't always understand as a kid but now as an adult I don't know how my Mom didn't ask, let alone demand more breaks 😅

[@catturner23]

@ yes!!! Love this!!

[@petabaigent]

For sure! My kids started school in 2020, so home-schooling was something we had to do for a few months in 2021, and I would never, ever, choose it. People who do it (well) must be incredibly patient. I remember crying getting the school work from the no contact pickup at the school and the teacher telling me it's OK if they don't do it all, as well as standing behind their ipad, trying to get them to stop rolling on each other on the couch as they were socialising with their teachers and classmates. Arrgghhh! Nope! Never again!

[@SharkFreak79]

As someone who was homeschooled then went into the school system in junior high, unschooling makes a mockery of homeschooling. I had to follow curriculum, produce art and writing, I had to learn public speaking and music as well as all the regular school topics. In fairness I hated school by comparison, however at least I learned things there, and was able to make a good life for myself on the basis of the formal and informal education. As much as I love homeschooling, I acknowledge how difficult it is to do well. The need for extensive social interaction and the broad range of knowledge required cannot possibly be provided by one person or even with a small group.

[@alisteyn6]

I'm 18 years old and on Tuesday i will be graduating highschool. For all of my highschool, the past 4 years, I have been homeschooled. I don't know if it even counts as homeschool since i had no teachers, tutors or other kids to socialize with. I was just given my school books for the year and that was that. I did regular tests at a tutor centre (I would just write my test then go home again) and right now i only have 2 national senior certificate exams left then I'm done with school. It has been both a blessing and a curse. A blessing since I'm neurodivergent and struggle with socializing, I was able to manage every aspect of my schooling, I was not forced to do any extra curricular activities, it saved my parents alot of money and i was able to grow my hobbies. It was also a curse in that I now genuinely do not know how to socialize, I had no extra support thus I had to become my own teacher at 14, there was always insane stress since I knew I was the only one teaching so if anything went wrong it was all on me and homeschooling basically made me hyper independent at a young age since it was either that or lack of education. Homeschooling definitely has its perks, butit needs to be done correctly or your child will be unable to acclimate to society. If it was not for my fear of failure and being behind from my peers academically as I'm already behind socially, I 100% would've just not done school work at all and probably not finish highschool. I am thankful for the life skills that i have learned from this the past 4 years, but they would've been even more advanced had I not sat in my room only leaving the house once or twice a week for 4 years straight

[@c.m.880]

I sympathize with not knowing how to socialize. I went to public school, had super supportive parents, but I just didnt know how to talk to people. I ended up choosing to go to nursing school (job security and now im not a nurse looool), and was forced to learn how to be socialable, kind, make small talk, etc, by interacting with patients. Literally the scariest thing ive ever done but im no longer scared to meet new people. I truly think its just one of those things you have to force yourself to do if it doesnt come naturally. Have you ever worked? I feel that a retail/customer service job is great for practice because you can develop your own sort of "script", and who cares if you mess up and are awkward bc these people dont actually mean anything to you. I hope thats remotely helpful lol

[@alisteyn6]

@c.m.880 I was never allowed to work, but next year I will be working. Than you so much for the comment, I'm glad there is still a way to fix it :)

[@rebeccat9389]

Aw I’m sorry you didn’t get more help, you should haven’t have had to feel like it was all on your shoulders. It was on your parent’s shoulders! I will say school actually isn’t a great place to learn to socialize. And you can still learn it. Find some clubs with other neurodivergent people in it! A book I liked was How To Win Friends And Influence People. ❤

[@lilywhite]

If these women didn’t have an audience, I wonder if they’d make the same choices. I feel a lot of their choices are influenced by wether they’d get attention from it or not. They are self centered to the max. Just teach your kids without getting on stage and preaching about it. Sheesh 🙄

[@rynfiaryn]

My mom had no audience, but she still made this choice...

[@bonanzajellybean4802]

Maybe they are trying to create community, something that we ALL desperately need. But you know, women are just such attention whores, it must be in our brain chemistry. Check your internalized misogyny sister.

[@Sunflowercircle77]

You are so funny and gorgeous. I used to watch you on Facebook but have since left and not been on TT or anything. Glad to find you here. I would watch your videos over and over. You seem so amazing and I am glad to see you spreading your light.

[@Ppodhomestead]

It always disgusts me when parents actually have to start parenting, and then spend half their day complaining about their kids. Welcome to parenting. Yes, the little person you created is more important than you. And they need your attention. All the time. Get over it, or give them to someone else who will take care of them without the passive aggressive hate.

[@annajankowski8142]

It got worse as it went on. I went to school to be a teacher to teach everyone that every subject matters, even if you’re not good at it, because somehow they all come together at the end. Like I love writing and art, but I learned with school that engineers need to know how to write and they need editors to check their work before it gets published. Not everyone will ever be good at everything, but like maybe, just maybe, introduce kiddos to new concepts to keep their horizons open? The world is their oyster and now people are clasping it shut

[@Andreamom001]

That’s what most unschoolers do…introduce their kids to everything they can so they are exposed to more than they could be in school. They do “strewing” and seek out experiences and workshops and travel and encourage their kids to try different things-my first son learned algebra at 8 years old, both have taken music lessons and art, both have been in scouting programs and sports classes/programs. School offers one building/room all day. Unschooling offers the whole world.

[@shelby6]

​@@Andreamom001 no. History, math, science, biology, English, geography, art, music. There is no way you are teaching your kids all of that every couple days. I guss you can't teach what you don't know.

[@emg708]

@@shelby6 how do you know what her kids are and aren’t learning?

[@aliciat2532]

​@@Andreamom001lmaoooooo

[@aliciat2532]

​@@emg708because it's common sense

[@Torigingersnapped]

i feel like i struck the dream combo of getting public schooled up through middle school, where i learned social skills and boundaries, and joining a homeschool group for high school, where my education was far more advanced yet i still made friends with much kinder homeschooled kids

[@christinebubb6658]

Here's the frustrating part, "unschooling" can actually be a great thing when STARTING the homeschooling journey. Like acclimating the child to this completely new way of learning and how to develop in them an actual desire TO learn. It usually happens when they've been in brick and mortar school and now you're HSing. But the goal is always to get to a place of actual learning which should include books and lessons and making progress. These moms must be in states that don't require evaluations at the end of the year bc I couldn't get away with that here in PA.

[@aas061189]

I couldn't get away with that in Florida either.

[@limiwa]

Totally agree. In CO you also have to do testing every odd year starting in 3rd grade plus submit proof of attendance/progress unless you're under an umbrella school. So many people think homeschooling is completely unregulated. It just depends on what state you live in.

[@christinebubb6658]

@limiwa that's in PA too. Thankfully I didn't have to do testing last year so I got one year under my belt but 2 of mine will test this year. I hope they do well bc our little 2yo is making this year quite difficult!!!

[@NellFace]

The state piece is huge. I'm in Washington and if one of the parents has an associate degree or above, you can homeschool. That's it. No evals, nothing. I'm not sure how the diploma works, but there are a lot of people here making a bad name for homeschooling because there is actually more accountability for uneducated parents. The one (true) unschooler I know isn't like these Tik Tok moms. It's more like homeschool without a structured curriculum. All subjects are taught in a practical way, lots of books are read, they attend outside workshops, etc. Unfortunately, I know of other families who do nothing. It's sad.

[@jennybwat]

14:01 I saw this teacher who did a video on this whole unschooling thing, and she included some videos of a guy who never learned how to read and was an adult and basically showed how much he struggles every day. One snippet showed him crying in his car, saying “I should know this!“ and I just think back to that whenever I hear any of these people saying how unimportant it is for your kids to learn to read and write.

[@flamingoliz]

That is so sad. I follow a tiktoker who was poorly homeschooled and who talks about it on their platform. It's been really hard on them to have to catch up on things they should have been taught growing up. So many kids are abused and set back in life due to poor homeschooling.

[@deeriggs3319]

My dad couldn’t read. He struggled. When I was little I remember reading him my kid books and he’d try to follow along. He really struggled in daily life and it embarrassed him. Until you see something like that you don’t realize how important basic reading is. We use it constantly in life. Idk how some of these women think it’s not important.

[@ObtuseandCongruent]

Reading is the foundation to learning - school should be where you learn how to learn. The content is often less important than the connections your brain is wiring up while your brain is most ready to make them. Teaching your brain and yourself how to learn all different types of things, not just the ones you’re inherently finding easy or interesting, is so vital. This is preparation for whatever the future may bring. Not always enjoying the process and proceeding anyway is also a valuable thing to learn.

[@vivafamilia7867]

Wow unschooling has changed a ton since we started 18 years ago. It’s a ton of work. You discuss and introduce the knowledge and they learn without realize they’re learning. Like you literally never stop teaching. My child did ask to learn to read and learned so quickly she blew my mind but that’s as radical as I could do lol. Learn the math kids

[@TheJocelynrae]

That's what I was thinking. The people I've seen who have had good unschooling experiences and outcomes - when they described what it was like - that stuff is advanced homeschooling and requires A LOT of work on the part of the parents. They basically have to be super flexible and motivated and organized so that they jump on and facilitate every learning opportunity. The part where the parents can really step back and the kid is self-motivated and self-teaching comes later in the teen years after the parents have busted their behinds for years to essentially "sneak" in all the foundational skills and knowledge in a way that the kid just associates learning as fun and a way of life. Now, with the unlimited entertainment and screens, and the influencer versions of "unschooling," kids don't even have boredom and books to make sure they self-teach. I homeschool with curriculum because I just don't have the bandwidth to do something like unschooling properly. I want to give them maximum time to pursue their interests, and checking off boxes with a curriculum lets me do that.

[@TheCrummyArtist]

I’m glad you included the positive aspect of homeschooling with your editor’s interview :) I was public schooled. I never ever planned to homeschool, but my son was struggling by 2nd grade, having ADHD meant school was challenging for him since it was hard for him to sit still and focus at the same time. I quit my full time job to stay home with our kids and became homeschooling, which was a big struggle at first! Lots of adjustments for all of us. Here we are, I’ve now been homeschooling for 10 years, I also teach Geometry and Alg2 at our homeschool co-op. I LOVE being involved in a co-op because my kids get the experience of sitting in classrooms, having homework, improving listening skills and self control skills. Also, it makes it easier on a homeschool parent because my high schooler can take Spanish from someone who actually speaks Spanish. His Biology class was taught by a retired teacher and he could do things like dissecting animals which would not have been fun to try to do at home! That’s one cool thing about homeschooling, it doesn’t have to just be the parents teaching the child, there are so many options, but you have more control over who teaches them what. Homeschooling 4 kids and teaching two classes keeps me super busy- but you know what? It’s the best education *I’ve* ever had, because I am re-learning a lot or learning things for the first time. That struggling 2nd grader is now a Junior with mostly As and a few Bs. All this said, homeschooling is not for everyone. Not everyone has the means or desire to homeschool, and many kids thrive in public and private schools. I just hate when careless homeschooling parents (which, thankfully, I think is the minority) give homeschooling a bad name, so I wanted to share our experience :) PS Please come to Cincinnati :) (Yes I filled out the city request)

[@rh10033]

I love our co-op for all of these reasons! There are so many resources available now for parents who don't feel confident enough to teach certain subjects. Unschooling is very different than traditional homeschooling.

[@MargaretLarson-g7g]

I disagree that careless homeschooling parents are in the minority. As a former teacher, every single homeschooled child I worked with was way below grade level and struggled with structure in the classroom. Many areas of the country do not have co-ops.

[@TheCrummyArtist]

@@MargaretLarson-g7g That is sad to hear. I do think the number of co-ops has grown tremendously in the last 10 years, so hopefully there are more options now. Also, each state is different. Until recently, Ohio required homeschool students to either pass standardized tests or to submit a portfolio to a certified teacher to show that the child is progressing. That accountability probably did help homeschoolers in Ohio be more accountable.

[@rh10033]

@@MargaretLarson-g7g I think this depends on the state and area. PA has strict standards and so does New York. Most homeschool families that I know go to co-ops. Some kids are a little behind, but some kids are super ahead. That's really no different than in public school. I know kids that go to my local district who couldn't read until the end of third grade, early fourth grade. That would never fly in my house... Kids can also fail classes in public school now and still move onto the next grade. They don't even get homework or reading assignments outside of the classroom anymore. It seems like it may be an issue only in certain areas.

[@blueberrymuffin1727]

I was an unschooled kid.. it’s basically dropping out. My mom knew nothing about teaching, and I wasn’t learning anything the entire time I was being “unschooled”. I started right at the end of elementary school, so I’ve had to teach myself once I became an adult, and I’m slowly trying to get a GED, because believe it or not, but it’s hard to get jobs and/or a career without a diploma or any basic knowledge you would get in school. I have always been very against unschooling. I didn’t want to be unschooled when I was a kid.. I wanted to actually learn things.

[@chellemadzombie2297]

When my daughter was younger she absolutely loved School, I remember one time her birthday fell on a school day and I asked her do you want to take the day off for your birthday and she cried and said no. If my mother ever asked me if I wanted to stay home on a school day for any special reason I would have said hell yeah, but I don't think I would want to do the unschooling thing or be home schooled not with my parents.

[@HBox-t7h]

Came for the Parrot - stayed for the humor 😂 Thanks for talking about this. As a parent that actually homeschools my 3 children. The unschooling trend really makes me upset. We record everything we do, and I treat homeschooling like I’m a paid teacher. Attendance records, lesson plans, activities, playtime, schedules, etc. Unschooling used to be a frame work of letting children lead with interest and tbe teacher would “lag” with instruction. Oh - you like space ships? Great. Let’s learn to write space words. Let’s read space books, and learn about physical, biological, and other sciences through the view of space. Let’s learn about history of space fascination and the impact it has had on people for hundreds of years etc… not this “raised by wolf pack” approach that damages children their entire life.

[@HSimone17]

My oldest is going to be 11 in December. She has had issues with bullying. There is a boy that relentlessly bullies her and has even hit her. School isn't doing much about it. She got hit in the stomach by a basketball the other day (purposely thrown by some mean girls). My daughter sometimes has panic attacks when I drop her off at school. I'm having her finish out the year and plan to try online homeschooling through the state next year. My neighbors on both sides of us homeschool. So she will likely be on the same schedule as them. They can hang out once they are finished for the day. One of the neighbors told me about a homeschooler book club that her daughter goes to. So will likely look into having her attend that. Might sign up for 4H too.

[@thetiniestfury4928]

Thank goodness. I've been rewatching movie reviews like crazy as comfort. This time of year is rough on top of a ton of bittersweet life changes. You're always my go to comfort KZbinr. ❤️ Needed this today.

[@ceroberts76]

I’m sorry but this “unschooling” sounds like just being a parent. Our kiddos show interest in something and we support their learning by engaging with them in different ways concerning that interest. This can’t be just me who sees this as just parenting, right?

[@melschevelle]

You have to REALLY be committed to teaching your kids to do this. I was “homeschooled” by a crappy parent and didn’t have any high school education, which is fine….but there’s so much I could have done with my life😢 I’d never recommend unless you have a really dedicated parent. If she would have homeschooled me from kindergarten I would be a complete idiot

[@heatherdean323]

I homeschool in a state that has a huge homeschooling community and it is great! I use the Charlotte Mason method and have only met one unschooling family, but the parents are very purposeful about it, and I think they only unschool until their kids are a certain age. That being said, I do feel like unschooling is the weird cousin of the homeschool family 😅

[@evelynspaghetti4978]

I dont think you understand what went into home videos back in the dark ages where were from. I just love these childhood throwbacks, its just such a personal touch. Its lovely.

[@christinalashutka6255]

Thank you for the balance in this video. I’m a homeschooling mom of 7 and have 2 in college. I never did unschooling, always used structure. Humans don’t function without structure and we are sending our kids into a world of structure. But like your editor mentioned, with homeschooling there more time for pursuing interests and more opportunities to indulge those. The tests don’t lie, homeschoolers overall score better than schooled kids (assuming they were actually taught something).

[@Ppodhomestead]

17:35 "normal with no problems, like us" ... *cough* ma'am... whooooo are you talking about??? 😂😂😂

[@lynnette9046]

20 years from now, the workforce is gonna be wild. The robots and AI arent looking so bad.

[@Charlotte-zj8rq]

Technology is making us dumb

[@liz-qq9kb]

I taught for 20 years. I have a little kid. There is no way on earth i would inflict unschooling or home schooling on either of us. On a professional level i understand the gaps in my knowledge and skills and that others would be better at providing my child with that portion of her education. On a personal level i get on my own nerves. The kid deserves a break from me.

[@victoria139]

To the guy who says children who like minecraft will become like coding CEOs at 18, um how many people do you know that knew what they wanted to be when they were 7 and then didn't change their minds a million times. When I was 10 I wanted to be a forensic anthropologist cause I watched crime dramas with my mum and it was the longest career name I knew at the time and that was reason enough for me (spoiler alert I'm not a forensic anthropologist)

[@aphreyst4551]

His spiel was so wrong. First of all, good luck coding if you don't know basic math and reading. Second of all, technology moves so fast that who knows if manual coding will be in demand in ten or twenty years? And then the kid that learned nothing but coding has no other skills to move to for new employment.

[@ladygodieva6298]

This is so weird, because only a couple hours after watching this video, I saw a documentary on survivors of sex cults, and I thought one woman in that documentary looked oddly familiar....and it was Onami.

[@rokevella1]

Yes I just saw her talk about her escape from Children of God!

[@wrencaulfield]

This explains so much. Took a quick look at her website, and wow. I'll just say, childhood trauma is a significant factor in the development of schizophrenia, especially horrific trauma like she endured. She needs help, and her kids very likely do too.

[@pattrell5257]

I enjoyed school: the educational side of it. I wasn't a social jock, but I embraced the process: it hardens you for dealing with those that are indifferent and the ones that dislike you(AS A REQUIREMENT RATHER THAN CHOICE). You will have to deal with these people your entire life and school requires that and for you to handle other elements that are required in life!