The Bedrotting TikTok Trend is Getting Weird

[@jaimefrenchofficial]

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[@candi4202]

@jaime do you know which mutation of the gene you have? I ask because I have one too and my dr never said anything about gluten. Only that I need to take methylated b12. I have horrible ibs-c and did an allergy test and only milk and beef came back as allergies. Just wondering if gluten is still part of my problem

[@Dustyp3ar]

Is channing single? Asking for a friend lol

[@amberlightrunner4696]

Clearly none of these people grew up with the book Do Nothing Day

[@user-mk6nc1wm5q]

Your voice is very calming

[@sampayne2776]

I bed rot a lot and can confirm that I am severely mentally ill. I didn't realize people were romanticizing this or making it seem quirky.

[@alvafairchild13]

Literally anything they can usually next it'll be meltdowns

[@Julie-si3hi]

Exactly this x

[@arwinaBluKat]

@@alvafairchild13they’ve already done that.

[@jillianpantano6461]

I do the same. When I'm not working, I'm in my bed. And I've gone thru a very traumatic event recently, so I have been 100000000000000 times more depressed than I was already. I've been trying to pull out of it, but it's winter. So it hasn't been easy. On top of what I'm already going thru

[@mackingcheese]

i think people romanticize stuff to cope with it, and don't realize the impact it can have and the fact that other people might start doing the same thing or start using the same terminology even when it's not the same thing.

[@nadazzler]

Once in a while I absolutely need a "lazy day" or a "rotting day" in order to recharge. I started calling them "bread days" instead, because bread needs to rest before it can rise! It's silly, but it definitely helped change my perspective so I don't feel guilty about needing to rest.

[@mmmmmmmmaria]

that’s so cute i love it

[@symphony_in_plaid4592]

no one bother me I’m undERPROVED

[@blu.dru_]

I LOVE THIS!!!!

[@heelrunner]

Oh this is a much better term tbh! Haha

[@abbasbestgirl3054]

Rotting is NOT this by definition

[@cartermichellelee]

“Bed rotting” and having a “self care day” are very different. People who “bed rot” are typically doing it unintentionally bc they have executive dysfunction and their brains will not let them do anything but freeze. Some people have depression. They can’t clean, won’t shower, won’t change clothes, will throw trash on the floor. This can happen with ADHD, Autistic, etc. I think that’s why people have an issue with them making it a trend, bc some people genuinely don’t WANT to do it and don’t want to be that way.

[@KRSims-tr7zj]

I have unintentionally been bed rotting every Saturday for the last few years and I absolutely hate it. I always tell myself I'm going to change, be productive, go see friends, etc. But then I sleep in too late, eat junk food that I don't even want because I can't get up and make what I'd actually like, and keep falling asleep in weird positions that ultimately lead to me having severe back pain. I've never heard the term executive dysfunction, but what you said about the brain not letting you do anything but freeze - I relate to that so much. I'm glad I'm not on TikTok enough to have come across this trend, because like Jaime, I would probably find it triggering.

[@anotherinternetidiot6300]

Your novice clumping and descriptions of disorders makes me uncomfortable.

[@yverami]

​@anotherinternetidiot6300 I think she is mostly referencing people that struggle with executive dysfunction (ADHD, autism, anxiety, depression, and others). I don't know of its clumping, just focusing on that shared experience.

[@anotherinternetidiot6300]

@@yverami "Shared experience" uses "I" statements.

[@Grandma_Jizzzzzzzard]

The younger people get, the crazier, the stuff they believe. If you sincerely think that your body is designed to just freeze up for no reason, God help you. This trend is highly unnatural and quite disturbing, and there is a very good reason behind why people are doing this. Once you figure out where depression comes from, once you learn about frequencies, and once you figure out why everyone is suddenly so mentally ill, you're gonna feel very angry. If you have not felt this anger yet, you have not figured out what is happening to people. Especially in western countries.

[@Bonsqueesquee]

Bed rotting is just a fancy word for depression.

[@lindsey7951]

These people aren't depressed...real depression wouldn't give you the energy or mood to make a video of yourself for views and attention

[@catncheese6815]

Yeah, agreed.

[@OpalSilkMoth]

​​​@@lindsey7951I mean.... There is a thing called masking emotions. Also I have major depressive disorder aka clinical depression and on my days where I'm having a depressive episode, I sometimes record things or take pictures of myself and whatnot. Basically my point is, just like every other mental disorder out there, depression isn't the same for everyone. Some people may have a hard time getting out of bed while others can get out of bed but taking care of themselves feels like a chore. Not to mention that many of these people could be going to therapy of some sort but don't wanna show the world their depressive days. We can't judge or dismiss a person just based on one video into their life. That's just wrong. It's like what r/fakedisordercringe does except that subreddit has been slowly turning very anti-autism....

[@ashleyalexandermorris9645]

Currently bedrotting and this video made me realize I haven't taken my meds yet. Thanks!

[@julesrules7297]

My mom would adore that wolf blanket. She's one mental breakdown away from driving a windowless van with a wolf mural tastefully airbrushed along the side.

[@jamiebrooke]

I love your mom❤

[@jenniferfuller2254]

That is the most vivid description I've ever seen, and definitely gave me a beautiful mental image. Could you please relay a message to your mother for me? Just tell her I'll ride off with her, in the windowless van, Thelma and Louise style, as I too, am 1 mental breakdown away from the point of no return. 😂

[@jenniferfuller2254]

@jamiebrooke I'm relieved you said that. I was actually going to say the same thing and then changed it. I have no idea who this woman is, but I love her and actually feel like we are so relatable it's crazy. 😂

[@patriciamarie7876]

Lmfao big same mom. Same.

[@NowayYeswayMmmHmm]

Is that a breakdown or a breakthrough?

[@viak4m]

I’m someone who has clinical depression, also autism, and anxiety - both of which effect my depression. I’ve laid in bed for days only getting up to use the restroom. “rotting” literally contradicts bed rotting being “healing.” a relaxing day in bed where you occasionally get up to get a snack or water, and still having hygiene, is not “rotting.” that’s a lazy day. rotting means feeling like you are glued to your bed and you might collapse emotionally and physically if you get up. rotting is inherently negative. why would rotting be a good, healing thing.

[@YoSoFunnyx3]

THIS^ Its just NTs using a term for a depression symptom as a trend. Like WHAT ROT is IN the name why would that be a good thing. It's feeling like you are rotting away, not healing.

[@mfchc14]

Society is so obsessed with doing something "productive" every waken minute that having a day of watching TV and taking care of basic needs (eating and using the restroom) sounds like you are "wasting your time" aka "rotting". Basically, a society soooo fixated on doing something all the time, that relaxing in bed ends up being a trend.

[@dakota7314]

I agree with you on what you generally wanted to say. Just want to point out that depression has many different looks. Just cause someone still manages to get water/take a shower but has no energy for anything else otherwise doesn't mean it's a just "lazy day" and can still be a person with depression who generally can't make it out of bed.

[@letticiagonzales6657]

i've real deal depression "couch-rotted" for literal days.. no eating, drinking, and not getting up to toilet (didn't pee on myself, just held it all for 3 days), house was like hoarders+a bando, not even an attempt at any kind of hygiene, literally existing the least amount of existence possible. the result was an ER psych hold, a raging UTI, and a learjet medflight ride to a weeklong grippy sock stay.. i'm not here to diminish anyone else's experience.. but i find it gross that people seem to take no issue with diminishing mine by parodying a condition that semi-regularly makes wholehearted attempts on my life for likes and engagement on grossly unoriginal social media content. OP, i hope you are well now or at least moving toward it 🙏🏽.. i often find myself teetering between wishing people could really experience the desolation i feel in those times so they might be just a little kinder and wishing that no one ever has to feel like that ever again. we are not less, as they'd have us believe of ourselves.

[@sortasurvival5482]

If it last a month, it's a problem, if it's a few days, probly just escapism recovery. The cleaning of the space has to happen eventually for it to not be a hazard. I say this as an alcoholic that does this from time to time when I go to hard

[@samann4708]

As a lady who unknowingly bought a house that the previous owner died in..in his bed..in my now bedroom and was there for days before he was discovered, I very much prefer the Scottish term “hurkle-durkeling” as opposed to “bed rotting”. PS: RIP Mr. Neil. Please continue to not haunt me ❤️

[@christiniyoutubesux]

Hurkle durking will now be a phrase I’ll say daily which nobody will understand

[@christiniyoutubesux]

Also Mr Neil please don’t haunt their house

[@bluehairedvixen]

Omg thank god you didn’t buy a ghost too!

[@niraxlevi9930]

Ghosts aren't real so you're fine❤

[@neverwise]

Are we twins? Because SAME.

[@justmijosh]

Sometimes when I get vertigo really bad (I have Ménière’s disease) my hips get really sore from being in bed so much. It makes so so depressed coming out of it, but, as soon as the dizziness calms down, I am jumping out of the bed, washing the sheets, and cleaning my house. It makes me feel so much better.

[@Tormekia]

((Support vibes)) I get vertigo when my anxiety spikes to panic attacks. It blows. Like what kind of survival tactic is it? Is there some possum genes in my gene pool?

[@gilletjosephine]

as a fellow chronically ill person, even just changing the pillowcases can be a huge difference.

[@justmijosh]

@@Tormekia possum genes? Hahahah

[@justmijosh]

@@gilletjosephine so true so true all the best my friend 💗

[@amelianolan9708]

I have chronic fatigue AND adhd... Fibromyalgia and a really bad back and chronic pain. REST is necessary. Weird they call rest bed rotting 🤔

[@gilletjosephine]

REST IS SO CRUCIAL FOR US CHRONICALLY ILL PEOPLE!!

[@sunni23]

Here to sayyyyy I’m with you 😭 I’ve always said I was on island time, life has just always moved tooooo fast AuDHD and chronic pain, still living a life I’m thankful for but self care MUST be #1

[@Totorh03]

I bed rot because I’m clinically depressed and severely anxious and I literally can’t get myself out of bed. It’s not fun or quirky

[@quilabill]

Like at all - I didn’t know ppl were making it trendy cause it’s really a gross experience and I hate when it happens

[@bigc473]

Not when YOU say it, anyway.....

[@L._._]

I hope you know better days are ahead ❤

[@okaycola2]

☕️ & scent therapy. B&bw plus itchy sheets, you'll be up in no time

[@jaak0101]

Please try some lionsmain and turkey tail mushrooms 😙 you will feel the difference in 10days and it works with whatever meds your on. All natural. Also few checks iodine deficient that you can check at home with iodine liquid its usually bright yellow. Dab a patch on your inner arm. If the yellow dot dissapears your deficient if it stays yellow your fine. This also helps with mood and axiety. Mental health is finding things that help you. Hope this helps as its helped me

[@maddiejoy6619]

For me, bed rotting is 100% a symptom of deep depression. I would stay in bed so long my body would be sore and swollen. Now that I'm correctly medicated and my life is a million times better, I don't have the temptation to bed rot nearly as much.

[@baylorsailor]

Would you say your life turned around completely due to meds, or did things get better once you decided to change things around you as well as taking the meds?

[@celissaprayers6876]

Searching for help but what did you do for help like what meds

[@bclaire3915]

There’s a huge difference between taking a day every so often to just set up with water, some snacks, and your preferred entertainment and literally just laying in bed in a room full of filth because you’re so depressed and unmotivated that you cannot pry yourself from your bed for anything more than maybe dragging yourself to work and coming back to rot some more. One can be a self care day. The other is undeniably mental illness.

[@goldensloth7]

man i am so happy for you! and also jealous as hell. i've tried SO many meds, and very rarely get any happier than semi-depressed. i know i should exercise but i'm exhausted and weak.

[@JessicaDuBois]

I also suffer from depression and Mania and other things. It sucks to see people be so nonchalant and kind of joke around about something so devastatingly serious😢

[@FOS-All-DAY]

I was an official bed rotter for over a year. Gained 60 lbs and felt like shyt. Solution was getting dogs, they will not allow bed rotting.

[@Jennijenniwcitt]

So true. My dogs would not let me stay in bed an entire day. No way. I owe them.

[@Throatzillaaa]

I've been bed rotting on and off, like for multiple days or weeks sometimes, for a few years at least. I do always make myself get up to walk my dog multiple times a day, to feed her twice a day, play with her little tennis ball, whatever she needs. On my worse days, even if I can't stand up long enough to make myself food (or I just don't care to eat) and I literally sometimes can't even be bothered to get up and pee sometimes. But I never let my doggy suffer because of my mental health. I love her more than anything. She's a pug who will be 15 in May, now, though, so she isn't nearly as active as she was 5-6 years ago. She still does her 3-4 walks a day and stuff.

[@hannahboebanna]

That’s awesome dude, so glad you’re not rotting on the weekly! This is a wholesome story

[@stacin821]

Dogs are the best! I'm glad you were able to experience having a pup & that they are helping you. They love you so much just for being you

[@FeralFelineFriend]

My cats will not let me bed rot either. They require exercise and use petty threats for treats.

[@krysta8303]

I struggle greatly with mental health, but I also struggle with back pain that gets worse when I lay down. My back pain is literally preventing me from bed rotting.

[@dollydagger8492]

62 degree curvature levio scoliosis with rotation..I feel ya, add the autism and dispraxia with adhd..and the intractable chronic pain.. I literally hate being stuck in the bed. Sorry you're going through it.

[@ryuuka1498]

@@dollydagger8492yay scoliosis buddies! i also cant bedrot because my back will HURT. sometimes i do stay even if i’m in pain and then i know it’s getting even worse.

[@SecretlyDiagnosingYou]

I’m an FNP and my first day off is usually a bed rot half-day. I am talked out, touched out, and don’t want to answer anymore questions. I want to lay in bed with fans on, heated blanket, the correct balance of salty/sweet snacks while watching terrifying movies or listening to horrible stories. I also enjoy run on sentences.

[@ambabey0330]

i love that they glamorized a depression symptom, called a trend, and now people are shaming the trend, which by extension, is shaming people with depression. all this has done is further stigmatize depression and mental health crises. can the tiktok ban just happen already.

[@jennamarie2481]

Yep, I think you hit the nail on the head. Same thing happened with "time blindness" an adhd symptom that was getting recognition, then too much recognition, now shamed again.

[@AlwaysCheckmateNeverStalemate]

Maybe it should have never become a "trend". Just like eating Tide pods.

[@xxbluemoon97xx]

@ they never said information is shaming; fairly certain they’re referring to those that **are actually** shaming lol

[@Metroid250]

It's tricky. The trend shouldn't be condoned at all. It should be called out. But at the same time, how to call out the BS while being considerate of those genuinely suffering

[@nisaba5752]

​@@RaindropsOnLichenI'm sorry things got that hard for you. The dog is a great idea!

[@originalcicijay]

They are really running out of trends. They are actually doing nothing now and it's content.

[@Indyawillis85]

Brooooo! Why is that so fucking accurate lmao 😂😂😂

[@Ytvzoey]

Yes lol coming up with names for rest and then sensationalizing it to make it sound over the top.

[@ShintogaDeathAngel]

@@Ytvzoey people who actually “bed rot” aren’t doing it for rest, it’s because they’re having trouble functioning on a day to day basis. But I agree things are getting ridiculous and desperate if this is all they can come up with for views these days.

[@Ytvzoey]

@ShintogaDeathAngel, For sure, I completely agree with you. I guess I can’t imagine making content about it because when I was in those states I didn’t have the capacity to do much. I could be wrong. But sometimes it feels like people leach on to problems they may not entirely have, sensationalize it, then preform it on KZbin. Mostly because they’re running out of things to talk about. Or, maybe they’re just very productive, goal oriented people experiencing a mental health breakdown.

[@sarahmarie1812]

Rotting is one of my worst nightmares. I’ve fought depression so hard in my life and I always feel like I am just one of these “days” away from never getting out of it again. It’s def not a flex. It can be a huge fear for some for pretty deep reasons.

[@bernadettecawlo1579]

Thank you for sharing your experience. I totally get it.

[@freya33]

I completely understand you. I struggle with depression too (its a battle for years now)... this trend... just no. I don't have a mountain of snacks packaging by my bed, motivating myself to eat in the first place is not easy. If I spend time in bed its just because I physically cannot function, I also have fibromyalgia which ties in with my depression, so any flare ups have me in pain on top of it all. I can sleep up to 10-15 hours and still be dead tired. I wish it was some "cute cool thing". Why is this a trend even? I'd love to have the motivation and energy to not sleep for several days straight... to rot in bed willingly... just why? There are more fun things to do to recharge. I swear people will do anything for clout nowdays.

[@sarahmarie1812]

@ exactly. A “relaxing” day is like taking a bath and doing skin care. Going in a nice walk with my family or even alone. It’s doing the things that I have to fight for the energy or time to do every day. I had many years where I would pull myself together long enough to show up for work and outside of that I was just nothing. Just existed in bed for days not caring for myself or others that could’ve needed me. It was horrible. So this “bed rotting” trend is just the total opposite. And telling people that aren’t into it that they don’t “get” it is f-ing disgusting imo. I’m glad you’re getting through each day. I hope you’re able to finally find a thing or system that helps you see more light each day. It’s a really hard road (which is still such a cliche understatement).

[@freya33]

@@sarahmarie1812 thank you so much. I find that exercise helps me feel better so that’s my motivation for this year, to do more of that, if possible. I hope your depression is improving as well, and I agree, it’s a long slow road with many bumps in the road. Happy new year! May 2025 be a better year!

[@sarahmarie1812]

@ yes I’ve been over the worst of my depression now for quite a long time. I’ve just schedules and patterns over time so all my basics get done and I’m out of bed every day and they’re so basic that even if I’m ill I can still do them. (Shower before bed and brush teeth at least once after shower; eating the same meals around the same time everyday) and it’s been great even adding marriage, pregnancies, now kids, and the grief of losing my mom. Without my little “system” that I hold on to, I would’ve been right back in it deep. I hope you have a great 2025, exercise daily is still one after all these years I’m trying to build into my structure haha! It’s always the hardest! (And one of the most beneficial for so many things)

[@theamazingbiff]

I have severe Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and I've been an involuntary bed rotter for 3 years now. My job is 100% remote so I have income, but I've turned rotting into a science! Like a lot of people with chronic illness, I've turned my bedroom into a palace/perfect sick room with a caddy for my meds and snacks, luxury bedding, and everything my cat needs to live his best life too. Far better if I never got sick in the first place, but I try to be positive as I can. Not all bed rotters have mental illness or are even lazy people.

[@gilletjosephine]

i'm also chronically ill and im a full time student & i work. im working my butt off and i need to rest much more than the average person.

[@Bleedingswan7]

I went through something terrible two years ago , my life stopped , i don't leave my home only if it's necessary, bed rotting is being incapable of doing anything without a great mental effort, eating too much in bed , or not eating and sleeping for days , neglecting all your humane needs cause you just can't get up , i am healing and trying again but it's like pulling teeth 😭 it's not quirky to have a mental illness that can literally kill you

[@FEED_ME_A_STRAY_CAT]

Omg I am going through something like this right now. It's soooo hard to leave the house, and it's so frustrating when I desperately want to! I'm also healing, which includes finally taking care of my health that I've neglected for decades, and it feels like clawing your way out of the pits of hell. Seeing this stupid trend is so frustrating, these people could never understand how it feels to suffer like this.

[@Whatinthegrey]

I named mine my thanos snap. It can all just shatter. Sending you healing vibes.

[@Omnibushido-]

Same, about a year and a half ago I dropped a weight on my sternum. It felt like I couldn’t breath for several months and had to sit/lay in a very specific way that wouldn’t cause pain. I ended up rotting away in bed for several months, eating hurt, sitting up hurt, wasn’t able to do anything I loved and I was so damn angry, not just at the situation but at the doctors who kept giving me the run around. Only now am I really able to get back to normal and it’s hard. My mental health declined so terribly…it’s tough. I feel so bothered that the internet is trying to make it into something quirky and “aesthetic” It’s not, it’s a terrible and sad way to live. Actually, it’s not even living at that point.

[@antiquezombie9933]

Sending the best vibes. Without my kids, chickens, and dogs, I wouldn't leave bed at all when I'm having a mental collapse. My clothes and bedding will smell like sweat, and the guilt is overwhelming. I can't even make myself schedule appointments or answer texts. Eating becomes a chore, and knowing I need to wash my hair but can't muster the energy to do it. The fact that these people making it a trend light candles and have perfect decor is so insulting, as i stare at my mess of a nightstand and baskets of clean laundry I just can't seem to fold. Such a frustrating symptom of depression. Know that you are not alone, people are rooting for you

[@Bleedingswan7]

Thank you so much guys for the kind replies and I am so sorry for everyone who is going through the same thing I wish you all happiness and health Soon 🙏

[@loudchihuahua]

it’s only bed rotting if it’s an occasional lazy day, an exciting guilty pleasure. if it’s everyday, it’s depression.

[@gingerleamcwow435]

🎯

[@patriciamarie7876]

Lmfao so true. I got into an arguement with my hubby the other day about sleeping during my “alone time” lmfao that’s what I choooose to do I love sleep. Just let me sleep shit 😊

[@Throatzillaaa]

Right, this is what my immediate response to the name "bed rotting" is, anyway. I haven't watched the video yet. I'm only a few minutes in. But I've been "bed rotting" for multiple days a week, sometimes every day of the week, on and off for maybe 6 years. My depression worsens at times, and other times, it is not as bad. But it's just depression, not a trend Lol

[@viak4m]

I think it’s the opposite. occasional lazy days are……. lazy days.

[@Witchy_Cheree1982]

I felt this.

[@lilykinz249]

I lost 30 pounds in one month due to depression, that was last year. I didn't get off the couch, eat, brush my teeth, shower etc.. some people do not understand real depression

[@janleslie7163]

I know

[@truecrimefan1433]

I hope you are in a better place now ❤. I hear you and relate unfortunately 😢x

[@lilykinz249]

@truecrimefan1433 thank you, and I wish the same for you❤️

[@lilykinz249]

@@truecrimefan1433 hang in there. God bless you

[@truecrimefan1433]

@lilykinz249 thank you so much 💖x

[@stolensaturnsedan]

Not only do people struggle with mental health but there is also the struggle against chronic pain. I'm only 22 but I find it hard to consistently have enough energy to keep my room tidy. Now, I make a point not to keep dirty dishes about but I do have clutter shoved into corners. I'll deal with it when my body allows.

[@Meg-A-Saurus]

I have SEVERE autoimmune issues/diseases..that have left me "bed rotting" for the past several years. Lupus, Hypothyroidism, Dysautonomia, and more we are trying to figure out and get me on more medication to help me to be able to function..hopefully! I can't believe it's a "trend." It had also left me severely depressed...

[@Anna-dd4rh]

Wishing you luck with your diagnosis and medication journey! Chronic illness/disease is a bitch

[@Meg-A-Saurus]

@Anna-dd4rh Aww, thank you for the kind words..I mean it! It's been a long, hard road.. chronic illness is a beast, and I wouldn't wish it upon anyone.

[@animeloveer97]

My late mother in law was similar with lupus diabetes and congenital heart disease it was sad , she hated it and I tried to get her to at least come cook with me as it was something we both loved doing and sometimes if she felt ok enough, we would go shopping, anything to. Get out the house ❤

[@Meg-A-Saurus]

@Anna-dd4rh Thank you! I actually have several degrees in healthcare, I was applying for grad school to become an Occupational Therapist (OT), and my world got flipped upside down! It has been hell, and being on the opposite end of the healthcare system has vastly changed my opinion and views!

[@Meg-A-Saurus]

@animeloveer97 That's sweet that you tried, and she had you! My family and friends try to get me out of the house, but I only have been out for doctor appointments and a few holiday gatherings. I rarely leave. I barely cook, as the heat bothers my malar rash..and I loved to cook, too. ❤️

[@Phrogly]

It's a trend that make me uncomfortable. As someone who has caused themselves bodily damage from these episodes, I've mostly just seen people appropriating depression to be quirky and/or promoting bad hygiene for clicks.

[@Razalude]

People don’t realize the damage that can be done e to a body by not moving enough or constantly being in one position. I’m better now but when I used to just sit and play video games for 8 hours or more at a time, it made my lower back and pelvic muscles extremely weak. That weakness made walking painful and I had to go to physical therapy to fix it.

[@genghis_connie]

**an object in motion stays in motion** AN OBJECT AT REST STAYS AT FEST I hear you, friend. Grappling either major depressive disorder and c-ptsd since I was about 9. Ebbs and flows, then by age 30, no ebbs. I’ll stop with details besides the fact that right now: I can’t stand up for longer than 8 minutes at the most. My back, which needed a second surgery - isn’t strong enough to stand up straight without a walker. I was a yoga teacher and a cyclist when I was 44, and after another breakdown, at 47, broke my ankle, so now it’s been about 7 years of not leaving off my couch. The weight gain has me too embarrassed to go out if I could. My decent car has been left sitting for 6 years. I have a pool. In my backyard. I didn’t bother using it the past 2 summers. Hygeine is at a minimum and all of my front teeth are broken (besides 1 old veneer - which is hilarious). I let my hair get tangled and dirty enough that I had to cut my butt-length hair (I have NO words for the loss of my hair in spirit and identity and to maybe my jawline. I can’t tell because there’s one spot I can’t reach because I tore my rotator cuff. I’m alone. I won’t look in the mirror. Some brat on here may make fun of me. En avance, phukk you. I have meds and a shrink. Muscle wasting and hollow teeth hurt. I don’t have the wealth I need to get healthy. If you read all of this, thanks - and sorry.

[@genghis_connie]

@@RazaludeYup. Man, no one understands back pain until they have it. I have been laying down on the right side of my body for so long - and this is funny bc it needs to be, otherwise tragic and gross) my new belly is lower on the left than the right! That’s crazy. Mindel stupid - and contagious!

[@cardinalcar]

💯

[@haywood1980]

Exactly!! And they’re the same people that will call out others for things they think are appropriating. Faking mental health issues for clicks is not something I ever envisioned the internet would lead to.

[@jessicadriscoll4948]

I think there is also a third subsection, which is people who are physically chronically ill and must " bed rot" regularly in order to function because of their illness. Sometimes I " Bed rot" for a couple days, and sometimes for weeks depending on how sick I am. And I've had to do this for over 15 years since my physical health drastically declined. And then, unfortunately, it does turn into depression at times being stuck in bed due to illness, so then it crosses into the mental health issue as well.

[@kibanamcg2123]

This is what I was thinking too. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. It's so isolating. I was told I was lazy for many years and I'm 24 now and finally in the process of being diagnosed for an autoimmune disease. It's so isolating. A lot of times it hurts to even sit up. My room is almost always a mess. It's exhausting to even sit up and play a video game. Every action is exhausting. I use to run 3-4 times a week, as much as 10 miles a day and now it hurts to even walk sometimes.

[@jessicadriscoll4948]

@kibanamcg2123 I'm so sorry you're having to go through this also. It's definitely an adjustment to be this vulnerable and ill. I really hope you can get the answers you need

[@emixdarling]

being stuck in bed due to chronic illness is annoying and frustrating. i want to not feel like i’m rotting away in bed. it’s weird to see other people making it seem some cute, quirky little trend

[@gilletjosephine]

THIS!!!! i have depression and im chronicaly ill and i NEED to "bed rot". i don't really enjoy it, but i know it's for me betterment.

[@frenchmoxie]

@@kibanamcg2123 I too have multiple autoimmune conditions, first diagnosed in 2002 with Endometriosis and since then i jokingly say that I "collect" conditions like Pokemon. I was diagnosed with lupus in 2010, and now am dealing with a few herniated discs in my low back and with chronic pain comes a vicious cycle where rest helps the pain a bit but you rest too much and muscles start to atrophy and weaken and makes the pain much worse And that's where I'm at now. I've been "rotting" in bed for 3-4 years now. I have appointments coming up with pain management and MRI imaging to try and figure out my back pain issues. But this is just a small piece to a very large puzzle. The physical and mental stuff together is debilitating. Especially when you're going at it alone. I'm an advocate and believer in therapy, but even so, there's only so much that they can help us with as well. Anyways, feel free to reach out if you want. :: Hugs ::

[@sadie8891]

as someone who rots in bed almost daily for the past few years, this is so strange some of these people who are trying to say bed rotting is a “trend” are showing us their interpretation, with one lazy day a week with fluffy blankets and restful sleep, when in reality people who really bed rot are physically and mentally are not able to be there for themselves. there’s a huge mental strain for me to even think about being productive, and i hate that. months will go by and i’ll try to do better for myself, but i always fall back into the same routine, it’s a dreadful cycle.

[@blu.dru_]

I agree with this 100%. If I am in bed for days, it is never a thought-out, fun or enjoyable thing. I feel lost and miserable want nothing more than to just hide. They seem to have confused intentional rest time, with literal depression. These things are not the same, and shouldn't be treated as such.

[@icj5568]

Im a nurse and shifts are heavy. I bed rot one day out of my two days off to recover mentally and physically. It works for me

[@sadie8891]

@@icj5568 i’m so happy ur able to do that, but personally i wouldn’t call that bed rotting, and that’s a good thing!!! u are actually a functional human lol

[@nunyabidness6045]

Same. Ha! Funny, my stage name used to be Sadie. Cute name. It's ok, we will get through it. I've found that if you set an alarm and when it goes off, just immediately get up and do ONE task, come lay back down, set a 2 hour alarm and do another task, it's helpful. The key is to get straight up no matter what you're doing/watching the second the alarm goes off, or just count to 10 and on 10 get up (some people do that method, as well). Like don't let yourself have time to think about it and talk yourself out of doing it. If you just do one task or 15-30 min of cleaning every 1-2 hours, you'd be surprised what you'll get done in a day and then each following day. ❤ We can do it.💪I believe in you. 🫂

[@sadie8891]

@ i’ll try it, thanks

[@zion_on_the_mountain]

An object in motion tends to stay in motion, while an object at rest tends to stay in rest. That's what this reminds me of -- especially when you mention how the more one stays in bed, the more likely they are to remain. Sending love. ❤️🌸

[@abigailkrauss437]

"I don't get why it's so hard to get out of bed, take out the trash, etc...." Girl count yourself blessed then because only if you've been that level of depressed you understand how hard it is

[@Jojo-u6c]

This. I once didn't get out of bed for 10-11 months straight. Literally

[@Batmanitha_Anne]

I hate that so many people keep romantisizing mental illnesses. I myself am diagnosed with severe depression, ptsd and anxiety (all that good stuff) and I can't speak for all of us but most of us who bedrot do not enjoy it. I know for myself I'm beating myself up the whole time because I feel like I'm not being productive and everything feels like too much. I just hate myself the whole time, it's not fun. Mental illnesses aren't quirky, you are literally at war with yourself 24/7, I wish more people would understand this. If you're struggling with any mental illnesses rn, just know I'm so glad you are here and I'm so proud of you ♥

[@anotherinternetidiot6300]

I relate to what you're describing. I wish you didn't feel that way, but that tells me I am not alone. Thank you for sharing.

[@Tara-Lynn1524]

I get it 😢 Sending love.

[@Batmanitha_Anne]

@@anotherinternetidiot6300 I wish you didn't feel that way too, you are definitely not alone! I'm proud of you for continuing to keep going because it's one of the hardest things to go through in life. I'm glad this helped you feel a little less alone 🥰

[@elizabethhamby1802]

Thanks for putting into words the way I feel...

[@panjamysy]

Me, having recently escaped a ten year depression: Are.....are they trying to make a depression symptom cutesy? 😬

[@Ging3rbreadman24]

congrats, keep it up!! :^) happy for you 🫂

[@bisexualantigone]

They are

[@bee-ep9qz]

right? i wish they would just call it a lazy day or something

[@air_e_n]

Yeah totally wish I could just pretend to know what this deep depression feels like instead of actually knowing and struggling with it my whole life and basically hating myself because of it.

[@momof3chis291]

They are. It’s gross.

[@evyberm801]

Omg I'm dead, your nephew putting "My grandpa is really good at 'Rotting.' 😭😭😭 Im deceased!!!

[@hoosiergirl206]

The teacher and other students probably thought his grandpa was deceased also 😬

[@daniellew.9957]

a couple lines down it says "He spends most of his day: ROTTING" LMFAO kid really committed to the bit!

[@withcharmtospare]

9:34 when little my mom would say she needed to decompress. I would hear decompose instead and so took to saying I need to go decompose😂😂 felt apt

[@Karmakarmelion]

No, this feels correct 😂

[@chelss2924]

Hahaha 😂

[@CrystalMouse1]

I’m disabled so bedrotting is the norm. It’s when my chronic pain and ADHD/Autism is so overloaded that I must just zonk out. Sometimes I go into trance and lucid dream. It’s absolutely essential to my daily routine

[@panpanscorner332]

I usually "bed rot" whenever my mental/emotional health is bad. My friends literally BEG me to come hang out with them bc they know how much I start to hate myself for just laying there and doing nothing. I'm not sure if it's depression (I've been told I show symptoms but haven't been diagnosed yet) but I feel like there's a difference between not doing anything because you just need a lazy day and relaxing vs.literally not having the motivation to even eat, let alone get out of bed.

[@kila1101]

i’m in a similar situation. things are not going well for me if i’m bed rotting. maybe the difference is i don’t want to bed rot? like i spend my time in bed wishing i was up and doing something productive and hating myself for not getting up. sometimes i do enjoy it (like during winter break when i have nothing better to do) but generally it’s both the product of and a contributor to my poor mental health. anyway i started anti-depressants today, and i’m hopeful things will get better for me soon. i hope that you also find whatever help you need and have a happy new year :)

[@AmarisFrede]

@@kila1101 I wish you well on your path to healing, hope the meds suit you and help. Repeating new phrases in your head or out loud can also help. You could tell yourself over and over "I am allowed to rest/recharge. I am doing enough by resting. I am worthy/lovable, even when all I do today is rest." The negative feelings/phrases about not being productive have been taught to you repeatedly too, so telling yourself, you're enough will also sink in over time, if you keep repeating them. I speak from experience on that. You are enough. And you are allowed to rest. 💖

[@JasminMiettunen]

Yeah, there’s a huge difference between a lazy day and bed rotting. At my worst I didn’t leave the front door for months and I only stayed alive because my family brought me water and food in the bed, or I had a bag of chips on the floor next to the bed. I was seriously worried about kidney damage from holding in all day until I could get up to use the bathroom. Having a cozy day under the blanket is not “rotting”. This isn’t to say it’s not rotting if you eat or go the bathroom, don’t mean to invalidate other people with depression, but if you take a day off and get up refreshed the next day, that’s not “rotting”.

[@katieharrington2845]

I believe the majority of my symptoms to do with this bed rotting is undiagnosed adult ADHD for sure

[@FEED_ME_A_STRAY_CAT]

That definitely does sound like what I experience, I have ADHD and severe depression. It makes me lay in bed, just completely stuck! Dopamine is part of how motivation works in the brain, sometimes if you do some tiny task to start (first, just sitting up in bed) it can sometimes help! Then your brain will want to keep going, and it becomes easier to get "unstuck."

[@CalibanL]

The trend thing is so annoying. Actual bed rotting can include getting infected bed sores, not getting up to use the bathroom and starvation. It's a really deep symptom of mental illness, not just difficulty of getting out of bed and mess(a valid struggle just different). "Rotting" is used for a reason. These people could die. But sure, it's a self care trend.

[@estherruth4692]

That’s what immediately comes to mind, especially as an RN. I’ve taken care of so many patients with literal rotting skin on their backsides (pressure wound/bedsores). And I remember watching a horrific story of this poor girl who couldn’t walk, was just left to rot on the couch by her parents for months, in her own feces, before she died. It is so disturbing.

[@SobrietyandSolace]

This was me a couple months ago. Got extremely thin and had sores/boils between my skin folds

[@Fuffydud]

In a culture based entirely around productivity, doing anything restful is immediately demonized. Consciously choosing to lie still and care for your physical need for rest is actually frightening for a lot of people I know, as if it's a gateway to evil or something. I'm not surprised it's equated to literal, deadly decay, even if in name only. The language of it says a lot about the culture it comes from. It also minimizes the pain of people who HAVE suffered decay, as if getting up and choosing to be a productive asset of their society was an option for those people, and they were "just lazy." Making suffering out to be a result of someone's decision takes all blame away from those who refused them shelter or charity, even if indirectly.

[@JenX-TV]

Who would know that feeling complete helplessness and despair over the consequences of the power-hungry few would lead to collective depression?!

[@AlanaGreene]

10/10. This would have wayyyyy more likes if people were more intelligent but… here we are

[@JenX-TV]

@ 💯 there’s a reason why “unschooling” is a trend on TikTok and the billionaires want to completely eliminate the Dept of Education.

[@EgoBrain1]

​@@JenX-TV What is your opinion on why they want to end the DoE? Many people, not just rich, want to. They're not saying to end school, just the DoE. It is wasteful and hasn't led to better outcomes. They just use funds to manipulate states to do what they want. We do not need the fed gov in schools. We need to go back to localized.

[@EgoBrain1]

​@@JenX-TV Many ppl want to eliminate it. Not just the rich. There is mo reason for it and it hasn't helped. It is just wasteful and uses those funds to manipulate. It is a fairly new dept. It isnt needed.

[@EgoBrain1]

​@@JenX-TV That reason is that it is unneeded and is just wasteful and it hasn't improved things. It should be done by states.

[@aki20]

Thing is, a lot of people with chronic illnesses, including chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia need a lot more rest than the average person. And the danger of this trend, is that people then apply it to everyone thinking they’re just “trying to be trendy”.

[@pam112061]

Yep...... this is me. Chronic fatigue, epstein barr, fibromyalgia... I have to get out of bed because I have 5 indoor cats and 3 that are indoor/outdoor. They must have food and water and the four litter boxes scooped (alot) I am pretty much house bound though. I got sick at 39, had to go on disability through my job at 41, my then husband left me because after four years he said he did not sign up to be married to someone who could not work. So we for divorced. I am now 63 and have been remarried for 19 years. My now husband has never known me when I was healthy. He never knew me when I had a job. It is like I have lived different life Times. My kids are grown and I have 10 grandchildren. When I was younger I was always on the go, between the kids sports, my work, life, etc. Now, I am ok being a home body. My body is tired. Getting out of bed some days takes all I have. I refuse to do more and hurt my body to please any one. It hurts to shower... But, I wake up breathingh and thats always a good day. I

[@nathat4250]

Its so cute that you have nephews because i always pictured you as the cool aunt i strive to be when i become one

[@kandyjo]

I’m a schoolteacher and teachers have perfected the art of the holiday break bedrot. When we get back to school, we all brag on how many days we spent in bed/series we binge watched and then get excited about our next bedrot break.

[@mjcaceres7195]

This is too real. I'm going through my first christmas break as a first time teacher. 😅

[@albuszx]

SO TRUE. When I was a teacher all I wanted for break was to be silent and alone 😂

[@kandyjo]

@@mjcaceres7195 Embrace the bedrot. The first year is the hardest. I promise it gets easier from here. ❤️

[@kandyjo]

@@albuszx When I get home from work, I have to go stare at a blank wall in silence until my ears stop ringing. I’m a music teacher. Silence is TRULY golden.

[@mjcaceres7195]

@kandyjo i deal with 4 and 5 year olds so I feel you on the whole basking in silence and ringing ears

[@morgan7183]

"bed rotting" and rich people having a lazy day are two different things.. I have health and more mental health issues from laying in bed all day from being depressed. It's not cute and shouldn't be a trend.. Love you Jaime

[@Julie-si3hi]

Absolutely agree! I'm chronically ill and often bedbound...not fun!

[@mermaiddiyartist8119]

Yep. I hate having to rest for physical issues. But sometimes we have too and mental health. Usually I force myself to do

[@blu.dru_]

Rich people having a lazy day lol

[@tammystiletto]

We used to call it “Couch Day”. It implied that you are busy every other day and have a day to just relax. It did not imply that you were actively resigning life to accept depression. And yes, some forms of depression can just-grow. 5:23 that would be disassociating. Not joy and peace.

[@jocelynsmyth6604]

I find I relax the most when I don't have to be anywhere, and I just putter- if I 'rot', it's a bad day

[@emh3389]

Couch day is great! My family always called it “jammies day” because you stay in pajamas all day 😂

[@moi.riirii]

I have anxiety, panic attacks, and depression. Sometimes, I can't get out of bed 💔💔💔💔 . And now people are doing it for trends??? What an ugly world. We're leaving in 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔

[@NikkiC777]

It's because everything is so damn expensive, the last couple years, that for one thing, it's really depressing, and also nobody can actually afford to do anything, other than lay around in bed on their free time. You could easily drop $100 at the grocery store on little more than a bag or 2 if your lucky of groceries and gas has been insane also. And don't even get me started on electricity prices these days.

[@nunyabidness6045]

Yessss! This is it! Me and my husband have become weekend/after-work rotters just bc everything is so dang expensive!!

[@SallyJesseRaphael420lol]

It’s all been downhill since the panini.

[@AutumnHaunts]

This 👏🏻 It costs way too much to do anything now a days. It’s best to just stay in and do grandma hobbies.

[@Cuddly-Cactus]

@NikkiC777 I understand what you are saying here, however it is worth mentioning that there is definitely a massive difference between just staying in due to going out being expensive and not being able to leave your bed. Spending long hours (and days that turn into weeks and even months) in bed is definitely a symptom of depression and other mental illnesses. Along with being unable to take proper care of your personal hygiene, and other basic needs. So if you're able to make regular trips to the grocery store and then come home, make dinner and enjoy a movie or a TV show or something, then get to sleep at a reasonable time, you are NOT "bed rotting" and you're fortunately not suffering from mental illness, you're simply choosing to save some money by spending a weekend (or a night) at home instead of going out.

[@collinrymer424]

That's such an absurd excuse. There are plenty of things people can do without a lot of money that don't involve a mental decline while lying depressed in bed. Even poor people can have meaningful existences. Go to the park. Read a book. Write in a notebook. Play an instrument. Get outside. Most importantly, get plenty of exercise. Not sure of your age; but I can tell you that Gen-Z is ridiculously lazy and full of excuses not to do anything meaningful with their lives. It's pathetic. Yet somehow they have PLENTY of time and energy to make TikTok videos.

[@AutumnHaunts]

I’m a millennial who has been bed rotting for years. I am mentally ill for sure. Depression, C-PTSD, anxiety, an eating disorder, and rheumatoid arthritis that makes it hard to function… it sucks. It’s also because it costs too much to do anything now a days. I’ve essentially become an old grannie who just reads books and lays in bed. I’m 31 🫠

[@grymmline_6832]

Bed rotting is not healing. I have depression, i bed rot a lot. Its when im at my lowest and after i recover from a depressive episode i have to do an everyrbing shower, full skin care, change my sheets, do laundry. It gets really bad. I actually have to make a dentist appointment in the morning because i had a bad episode that lasted about 2 weeks where i RARELY brushed my teeth. I am all for people showing their bed rotting, its good because it makes those of us struggling with mental health feel less alone while teaching those who dont struggle with getting out of bed what its like. But theres no healing there. In fact i would describe it as the bottom pit of a spiral. If youre bed rotting, open a window. Try to get some fresh air. If youre feeling up to it, maybe walk outside a bit. If youre feeling particularly good (for someone in a pit of sadness) call a friend or family member. Chat. But as a bed rotter, its easier said than done, i get it. Good luck soldiers. As for those who "bed rot" in the tiktok sense, thats fine. Taking a day to lay around and relax isnt concerning, its valid, you dont have to be productive 24/7 and in fact if you keep trhing to be productive 24/7 you will burn out and then the bed rotting will be REAL. I do wish people would stop making signs of poor mental health into trends. Like its not cute, and it invites further stigmatization of mental health disorders.

[@FEED_ME_A_STRAY_CAT]

I struggle with the exact same thing and I appreciate you saying that!! I hate this trend omg

[@BurningFreesias]

The term "bedrotting" makes me think of the Sloth victim from Se7en.

[@bethwood7091]

That was the first disturbing image that came to my mind!

[@sbenz17]

Bring up the Christmas tree smelly things

[@madnesscm]

YES.

[@FEED_ME_A_STRAY_CAT]

Me too!!!! I was just thinking about that lol

[@bmet102]

Yes. I was trying to remember what that image in my head was.

[@rachelw821]

As another lifelong ADHD and depression sufferer, I'm totally with you on this being triggering. Its a slippery slope w this brain, and I too have to force myself to stay even moderately productive some days. I do give myself at least one day a week of no socializing. I'm a hairstylist and I socialize most of the week. I need one day of house rotting. However, I prefer a clean house/sheets!!!

[@jazzombi9680]

Im bedbound cause of genetic illness my life for the past few years have just been legit lay in bed, crawl or hobble to bathroom once or twice, eat, sleep, repeat and before i was super sick i was bed rottin from depression and oh how i wish i could go back cause now i cant get up even if i want too… im ngl it is as awful as that game describes it lmao. ive got like two containers of protein shakes and muffins and chips in case i cant get up to get myself food. Big 3 gallon thing of water by my bed too. I do find it super fascinating when people romantasize severe physical and mentle health. Cause its not like those who dont look like they are struggling are thriving. Both are experiencing mentle health issues in different ways. Like another good example is people who romantasize or fake a mentle disability like they still have mental health issues just a different one than they thought.

[@RavenC1357]

This makes me upset. I couldn't. I can't stand sleeping in. I'm old and dealt with depression, I want to experience the world. I work so hard. When I'm off I want to enjoy. I want to move my body and see the day, feel the air. My daughter stays in bed all day and it's so depressing. I spend so much time trying to get her to do things and she doesn't care. This is horrible for the younger generation to see as a good idea.

[@jacjac2010]

As a 90's kid, I was "bedrotting" before it was cool and my mom was very concerned about me 🤣

[@kellymcphaul2793]

😂

[@Imissnormal]

I would like in bed and read so much my mom would say I was a mushroom.

[@sarahdonaghey1862]

⁠​yes! I came to say this! I’ve done this for years 😅 thinking they invented everything 😂😂

[@weasley2o13]

My dad is an artist. I wasn't looking at my phone when you said "my favorite thing is having weird conversations with my parrot" and I thought you said "having weird conversation with my PARENTS" and I was like, fucking tell me about it babe...

[@alexandra5715]

Lmao

[@STARDUST-z1v]

This trend reminds me of the fake tourette and Disassociative personality disorder trends on tic tok a few years back. There are people suffering real issues that lead to bed rotting. Bed rotting isn't taking a weekend to lay in bed to recharge. It's a symptom of a serious problem.

[@delilaha]

Tourette. Turrets are an architectural feature. 😊

[@anotherinternetidiot6300]

I am waiting for self-diagnosing autism to stop being a trend. It's so harmful for people with autism.

[@RadioheadFAN699]

for those wondering, yes the actual video starts at 5:00

[@kimchilarios8920]

Thank you

[@jessicapetersen8911]

I have to be super careful how many days I do nothing. My long history of deep depression over 45 years of life has taught me I do so much better when I’m busy. The longer I do nothing the more I’m in my head and the deeper my depression gets.

[@suiseseki]

I bed rot often out of chronic illness, I often HAVE to stay in bed.

[@crystalyngomez2123]

As someone that has fibromyalgia and several injuries, I totally understand your comment. Some days laying in bed is the best I can do. Though i hate the term bedrotting

[@thistle.]

Me too and I hate this term, because it poses this entirely as a choice when folks like us don’t get a choice at all in our chronic illnesses and how we have to take care of ourselves because of them.

[@Rosecreationsau]

I’m in the same boat and it’s to difficult when you feel guilty and your brain is thinking about what you need to do but your body is out for the count

[@Ms.Kayblack]

Me also.. prayers. I understand. It's painful to even stand up at times.

[@alex.and.babies]

Not chronic illness but I had to be on bedrest for 4.5 months during pregnancy or lose my baby. It was fun the first few days then MISERABLE for the duration of it. I was excited and crying doing my dishes when I reached term.

[@MarysWeirdLife]

The girl asking why it's so hard to clean and pick up the trash triggered me on a new level 🤣 I hate the "seems simple in theory" advice. BUT I hate to break it to like 90% of these people but if you actually have mold all over your room it's depression not just bed rotting.

[@_Dark222Angel_]

yeah that was like a hoarder room

[@williamsthysteve5551]

So like.. bed rotting was a term coined by people with depression to put a name to this. So. It's both, depression AND bed rotting. This 'trend' isn't bed rotting. It's a lazy day.

[@Joyaplayscod]

My "bed rotting" comes from being chronically ill. Sometimes I can not physically get out of bed because of the pain and my legs. It's extremely depressing. I hate it.

[@amelianolan9708]

Me too. It sucks 😢🩷

[@Hannah-o1k]

dear god... my room literally keeps looking like that... not that i bedrot. i mean, i get dressed daily, still go to school and actually sit on the edge of my bed or at my desk... i just lack the energy to clean lmao so now it looks like i bedrot

[@planets_align]

Currently going through a deep depression phase. I get so so angry at myself for not accomplishing more and neglecting my home and self… it’s so hard to break the rot when you’re absurdly stressed and financial f*****.

[@jessicaamy6711]

As someone that suffered with major depressive disorder, anxiety and a hint of agoraphobia, bed rotting is a bad idea. It makes everything so much worse. If you’re just doing it for a chill day and your mental health is stable, have it. But if you are depressed, get real help and don’t do this. I used to floor rot most nights because it was a struggle to make it to bed.

[@letticiagonzales6657]

i've real deal depression "couch-rotted" for literal days.. no eating, drinking, and not getting up to toilet (didn't pee on myself, just held it all for 3 days), house was like hoarders+a bando, not even an attempt at any kind of hygiene, literally existing the least amount of existence possible. the result was an ER psych hold, a raging UTI, and a learjet medflight ride to a weeklong grippy sock stay.. i'm not here to diminish anyone else's experience.. but i find it gross that people seem to take no issue with diminishing mine by parodying a condition that semi-regularly makes wholehearted attempts on my life for likes and engagement on grossly unoriginal social media content. i often find myself teetering between wishing people could really experience the desolation i feel in those times so they might be just a little kinder, and wishing that no one ever has to feel like that ever again.. we are not a trend. and we are not less (anything), as they'd have us believe of ourselves..

[@carlsenlifeafter60carlsen11]

So sorry to hear that, have had 6 spinal surgeries and had to rest for days in bed .i prayed a lot to get me through it. I also used a meditation app and practiced. Just a thought to suggest to you for help.😊

[@mzb1321]

I'm so sorry my friend. I struggle with severe depression myself, and have neglected any self care down to doing zero basic hygiene. It's a daily fight with myself to not go back down that road, although it's a close call some days. I really don't have any words of encouragement or ideas to help you. I just wanted you to know that you're not alone.

[@KyleEvra-15]

little kinder the thing says. 😂

[@lyra2282]

This whole "Gen Z kids discover things that already exist on TikTok, rename them and act like they discovered them" thing is really tiresome. It's either rest, or it's major depression, but those things already exist and neither of them needs to be glamorized.

[@kite.lane0808]

you know when people say generally negative things about americans and then a lot of the responses they get are “we aren’t all like that, i swear 😭” that is how i feel about being gen z, like i never even downloaded tik tok leave me alonneee haha

[@wolfsisterhowls]

​@@kite.lane0808 OP didn't say ALL Gen Z or ONLY Gen Z. If it doesn't apply, let it fly.

[@neffyg35]

Bed rotting sounds like glamourized depression

[@ThankssIguess]

I don’t think people understand that “bed rotting” actually feels like your *rotting*. It’s a horrible feeling. It’s not cute, not classy, not a way to “recharge”. It’s a cry for help. I’ve gotten to the point where I’ve been emotionally overwhelmed to the point of tears at the thought of cleaning or getting my life back together bc the grossness is just that bad. It’s not something to brag about or “recommend”. It’s shameful. I never want to let people into my personal life, especially my own family bc I’ve been too ashamed. Thankfully I’m in a much better state right now. With work it gets better. That’s my take anyway

[@beewest5704]

TikTok glamorising what could be poor mental health inducator/redflags is concerning because they normalise it & can make ppl overlook cries for help from their kids, teens & young adults. After a while it can also become a maladaptive coping mechanism that can quickly spiral into health/ mental health conditions.

[@Ravenstudios-q3f]

YES

[@mermaiddiyartist8119]

Exactly ADHD overwhelm. Can sometimes look like depression or anxiety. And many times you can have adhd with anxiety and depression.

[@eivor5953]

As a disabled person who sometimes physically can't sit up, get off the bed or get to the bathroom without significant assistance, the glamorising of being bedbound disturbs me a lot. It's one thing to take an occasional rest day and chill out but the idea of actively welcoming the physical and psychological issues that come with staying in bed long term just horrifies me. It's one of the hardest parts of dealing with depression, because it can progress so quickly from "I can't handle the world right now" into agoraphobia, lack of self-care and worsening mental health. When it's due to a physical issue, you get all the mental health repercussions plus worsening physical symptoms and increased risk for new ones. Look after your bodies and minds, folks, and try to seek help when you notice that you're spiralling.

[@godcopter]

This trend pisses me off so much. Hanging out in your room is not rotting. You are not being cute. Bed rotting is not “recharging”. It’s stewing. It’s ugly and gross. People with mental illness can’t talk about anything without quirky girls coopting it.

[@stackels97]

Ima be that granny shouting "get off my lawn" but; What the heck as social media become????? People be just sharing every damn thing like every second of life is blogalbe. Can we go back to just sharing food pics now?

[@Kmakmakm]

Maybe it's because I'm old and remember when people valued privacy, but I was just saying this. It would have never crossed my mind that people would want to watch or care about everything I say or do, much less that I could make money from it. Social media is crazy.

[@eajames89]

Right so like not having a job and laying in bed all day is now a job?? What 😅

[@unpopularopinions9076]

3:34 I’m GF if I eat wheat from the states. I recently discovered that I can make my own regular food by using flour that is entirely grown and processed in Italy. I have a bread maker and use that flour so that I can eat regular person bread every so often. Game changer my friend 👌🏻

[@benthicbios9395]

I've heard a theory that some diagnosed "gluten sensitivity" might actually be caused by the pesticides used on the grain and not the gluten. US needs to get it's food situation figured out it's literally poison at times

[@Little_Rose709]

Thanks for this

[@sheste]

My cousin also uses wheat from Italy for her gluten sensitive daughter. Doesn't affect her!

[@natashab3412]

Recently read you can have sourdough.( If its r eal sourdough ) but not if u have celiac

[@TheGhostieZone]

I mean I've literally done this for years and in hs it was cause by depression now it's because my room is my safe space and like I'm disabled. I at least clean up after myself. Edit: I only really can because I'm a germaphobe and having moldy anything in my space would give me like an anxiety attack

[@VeganVampire.]

Same here

[@lilykinz249]

Good on you❤

[@hoppergrasa]

As someone who is undiagnosed but very much had a lot of episodes, I have bed rotted terribly before and I knew it was a symptom. I still bed rotted often as it brings me a sense of grounding and comfort. I’m not as bad as I have been before, but it surprises me that it’s considered a trend when it’s very obviously something serious a lot of people deal with.

[@hillaryleo6503]

I absolutely love and think all content with your parrot is hilarious and could watch it multiple times. ESPECIALLY, the ad for I’m pretty sure it was audible that you made. Please make more

[@dompaine]

6:15 DISGUSTING! I love sitting in one spot, doing my crochet, and not worrying about stuff. However, my house is clean and my duties are done before I do that. Responsibilities first, bed-rotting second. But also, the amount of time I've spent trying to convince myself to get up and start the day due to depression and anxiety, is ridiculous.

[@magnasollertia4665]

yea the point of the illustration of the cup is that the person is so mentally or physically ill that they can’t take care of those things. unlike a person who functions better and can choose to get up at any time

[@mint_soup9743]

I'm ashamed of my bed rotting as its a symptom almost "comfort habit" (staying in bed) I'm now gradually working out of since getting on a good antidepressant. Depression is no joke. Theres a daunting amount to do when you decide you arent actually going to give up. Self care can feel shameful at first, then, ultimately- rewarding.

[@anotherinternetidiot6300]

medication saved my life. It needs to be less stigmatized. ❤

[@matt036]

"All you have to do is be here." - like I know that you would have just seen/heard that before but I've never heard someone say that and it really hit me lol. Hope everyone watching this remembers to just be here with us all for as long as they can :')

[@MeemNoir]

I definitely needed extra reminders of this today, thank you

[@ashleyscesny481]

I didnt know what I’ve been doing for 20 years is a trend

[@meeveling]

I spent three days in bed one time because I was so horrifically depressed that the only reason I didn't do something horrible to myself was because I didn't have the energy. This made it so that I get anxious if I spend too much time in bed during the day because it reminds me of that time in my life and I worry I'll slip back into that mindset. If I nap, it's on a couch and I barely spend time in my bedroom outside of sleeping. This makes me anxious just to see.

[@mrsmaggiekoch]

So basically we have evolved so much as a society in terms of technology that people are literally being made immobile physically and mentally.

[@msmeatpuppet91]

I had hoped it wouldn't be Wall-E we'd end up evolving into but alas...

[@BethThereseReacts]

@@msmeatpuppet91 I think of WALL-E all the time omg...glad I'm not alone

[@anotherinternetidiot6300]

I was thinking about how recharging is not sitting on a phone or social media all day.

[@jiujitsuluvr3434]

I basically bed rotted the first half of the second pregnancy because i was so sick. I ate just eggs and rice and put on the wiggles for my toddler. I felt bad but literally couldnt move without getting sick.

[@brandyprice7578]

I was like that but didn't have other kids. I want another but I'm scared it will happen again I can't imagine not being able to take care of my baby for months

[@jiujitsuluvr3434]

@brandyprice7578 each pregnancy is super different. I was actually healthier outside of nausea the second time around since i had to chase a toddler around. It worked out diet wise because she loved eggs and rice so i didnt have to cook extra food that the smell bothered my stomach

[@riquipoo5578]

I have ME/CFS and hypersomnia, been bed rotting for a decade. “Woo-hoo” my debilitating health issues are trending 😮😳

[@caitm8209]

Trend setting and you didnt even need to try.

[@dandarcy2539]

i also have me/cfs, if only this trending could get more funding to finding a cure :-(

[@itskindofafunnystory...3237]

I feel like I'm missing out on life if I sleep too long.

[@LunaBeth97]

Oof that thumbnail got me as I actually got a bed sore like 4 years ago from something like this. I was already disabled and mentally ill but then experienced a trauma at night which sent my PTSD over the edge and I couldn't get out of bed. It was a horrific cycle of not being able to properly sleep due to night terrors/ flashbacks, which made my disabilities worse during the day so I just couldn't function or get out of bed. I had previously known that bed sores were a bad thing as I used to work as a carer but I didn't know that they can still hurt years after they've fully healed. It's ironic as im currently unable to sleep because my usual sleeping position now hurts a lot so I found this video to distract me. Thankfully my PTSD/ depression are healed enough where I can mostly take care of my basic needs, and I learned how to counteract the harmful effects of what negative behaviours remains. But this is definitely not a good thing to be glorifying, I'm still dealing with the consequences of being that unwell and mistreating myself several years later.

[@JaneDoe-xm9wz]

Sending you love and light friend ❤

[@Redladyrae03]

I’ve been dealing with depression my entire life. I’ve always been really low energy. I would get spurts of energy and just turn into a whirlwind, caching up on what I haven’t done. On top of that, I have ADD and get super exhausted after social gatherings for about a week or more. I need time to recoup, but can’t quite bring myself to this point. I can sit on the couch for an entire week if you let me, getting up to maintain some sort of order in my home. But I need the time to recharge or I just remain perpetually exhausted and cynical and just want to become a hermit. So I force myself to hang out with friends, put on a smile and take care of myself and my kid, because he can’t see me live like that and think it’s ok. Having the luxury to work from home or at my own pace would be such an amazing shift for my mental health and overall wellbeing.

[@JenniferDamron]

I am terminal. And due to my conditions, I have times where staying in bed is absolutely demanded of me by doctors. I am blessed to work from home, so I am able to at least still earn the money to support my family! I have spent the last 8 years living and working from a reclined position in bed and I dedpise it. I am dying and I want to get UP, I want to clean my house again, walk outside and enjoy my garden, go places, even just do my own shopping in person. I miss so many things. And staying in bed has created even more health problems for me. I only weigh around 100 lbs, and my circulation and kidneys are destroyed. I have no appetite. I do not remember what spontaneous happiness feels like. These "trends" are just the new generation's thing, like how ripped jeans and black lipstick were the thing for gen X...the problem is these modern "trends" appear to be more dangerous for physical and mental health.

[@anotherinternetidiot6300]

Sending a peaceful moment your way

[@kraziecatclady]

I have ADHD, major depression, and PTSD. After retiring from the military, my first year out there was a lot of this. While I didn't pile up a lot of trash in my bedroom, there was some trash which isn't normal for me. Personal hygiene had fallen off the charts pretty bad though. I got help, I'm pn medication for depression and it has made a huge difference. I got out of bed, slowly got parts of the house straightened out and then finally went and got a job, then two jobs but I quit the first one because that was a bit too much. On NYE I got a sinus infection and also hit myself if the head with a t-post pounder on accident. The 1st wasn't too bad, but the 2nd I had to take off work because the whiplash must have kicked in and the sinus infection was unbearable in combination with the whiplash pain/tightness. I spent most of today basically rotting in bed after I got back from the doctor's office but I suppose this time I have a pretty valid excuse. I hope I feel at least a little better tomorrow.

[@Smokey42096]

You started talking about fusing to the mattress and I immediately remembered the gruesome stories of that actually happening. The term bed rotting also makes me think of that a bit.

[@troywalkertheprogressivean8433]

2:15 I detest when they pretend to care.

[@heatherva]

I bed rot but its usually after a full work day or a lazy weekend. I still clean and shower, and I still get up to walk around my room.

[@ReeseyPiecey11]

I bed rot when I'm sick... But honestly sleeping for a whole day sounds amazing

[@msjenneh1736]

So basically my low points in my mental health are a trend. Ummm ...

[@heartshapedangelwings]

i hate to be so serious about stupid little tiktok trends but i cant STAND people that treat bedrotting as some 'cutesy quirky' thing?? im fifteen (16 in a month) and have wasted the past FOUR-FIVE YEARS IN BED ALL DAY missing school because of how badly messed up i am mentally, ive been diagnosed with a couple of things and for the first three years of 'bed rotting' i had NO motivation to do anything for literal months at a time, keep in mind i was literally 11-13 during then. i needed help so badly and even now that im improving all i can DO it bed rot because im so scared of going out alone, i have no real friends or connections anymore and i havent been in school for a full day since i was 11. bed rotting is SUCH a mental health red flag and i will NEVER understand how a healthy functioning person would CHOOSE to treat bed rotting as some quirky aesthetic

[@kiwuihop]

Sorry for the wall of trauma-dumping but you're literally me and it's insane. Hoping this year becomes a turning point for u too

[@heartshapedangelwings]

@kiwuihop dont worry about trauma dumping im so happy to hear that it's not just me (as shitty as it is for us to go through this) and i so hope this year gets better for the both of us too. i also find it SO embarrassing to be like this, i was diagnosed with selective mutism at around 13 so u get the idea of just how bad my social skills really are at this point and i just want you to know you're not alone but we're going to get through this even if it takes up more years. i totally get it starting in 2020 lockdown was HORRIBLE for so many of us young people who were basically just turning teenagers i think its really affected so many of us. you telling me that has genuinely helped me too i hope you start getting better mentally because we both need that

[@kiwuihop]

@heartshapedangelwings Omg exactly! I can understand how covid interrupted a lot of kids'/teenagers' development in a major way. Or at the very least left them struggling. Something that helps me is focusing on smaller things. Like if you ever have the urge to clean up an area; do it! Some of the shame of bedrotting kinda eases the more you listen to those good urges and personally, it gives me real motivation to be better. (even if I go back to bed-) Thanks for replying because I honestly didn't expect it, I'm so so glad it made you feel better!

[@yourgirltheory]

00:03 Jaime throwing up 4 fingers, for 2 reasons, 3 seconds in? 😂 Just yes. Hope you have a Happy New Year!! 🎉❤

[@moderndaymedusa]

Being lazy is one thing. Every one can be lazy occasionally. This, however, is what I do…. Because I have treatment resistant depression, along with other mental illnesses, and I’m disabled! This is embarrassing and not something I would willingly share via video. I hate being like this and try so damn hard to be better and they’re flaunting it…. TikTok is so back asswards. Honestly, I hope it does end up banned.🤦🏻‍♀️ Love the wolf blanket, btw. I had one with a huge tiger and omgiloveditttttt

[@Julie-si3hi]

I hear you x just commented the same. Romanticising this is not cute 😢

[@arwinaBluKat]

Same!

[@patgriffith9176]

Rotting sounds so negative. "Recharging" is much better.

[@lilc5353]

Exactly 💯

[@glowstickspinalfluid]

i thought we learned our lesson with the lockdown. i am not physically active or mentally well but i do try to move locations. sometimes i am on the floor sometimes i'm on the couch sometimes i go to the bathroom and then don't want to move once i'm there

[@MaxMakMan]

Omg yes Jaime the sentence not completing before the next sentence starts makes me nuts. It feels like a speed freak's thought pattern, like a Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas rant, especially when its over a timelapsed video of someone cleaning

[@sprig.sprout]

Feel the need to do a PSA that this can also be a physical health issue. I have a history of mental health issues so when I became basically bed-bound I assumed that it was bc of my mental health. Turns out I had such severe vitamin D and B12 deficiencies my doctor said she would not at all be surprised if they were causing me neurological problems 😀 guess who feels a whole lot better now? 😂

[@kipwuebker2668]

The Scottish call Bedrotting Hurkel-Durkeling

[@hannahlanai]

For real?

[@kaykutcher2103]

Did Steve do that?