Unveiling the truth: Did we really equip them for adulthood?

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

We would love it if you would share your thoughts on mistakes you look back on when it comes to raising your kids. We sure know we did not do everything perfectly and no one does! Sometimes we think our kids turned out great IN SPITE of the stuff we did. Let us know if there are any topics you want us to talk about in future videos. Thanks for tuning in!

[@marilynjasper4602]

Being the mother of one of you It totally warms my heart to hear how you think about the families of today. Also that you weren’t worked so hard as children that it soured you and becoming parents. Well spoken.

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

Thanks Mom!

[@lisapquinto]

WOW! Great walk and great talk. My siblings and I were raised pretty much the same way, only not on a farm. Although I always wished that I could've been raised on a farm 😊 my siblings and I were very blessed with wonderful parents and grandparents who never spoiled us but instilled important life and family values in us and I know that my daughters know and appreciate that. Blessings to you, Rich and Robi 💞

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s amazing how family values shape who we are, no matter where we grow up.

[@micheline4918]

This is a great conversation. Nice to hear some deeper discussions on a KZbin channel. Happy to have found you.

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

Welcome aboard!

[@kimwhidby3858]

I agree with the “ backhanded apology” because I see now with my 27 year anniversary old that I did not prepare him well enough because I wanted him to not have all the stress I had, but now he is facing different stresses because I gave him everything. It was fine out of love but now I realize it wasn’t my enables him.

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It takes a lot of courage to reflect on our parenting choices, and your journey can inspire others to find balance too.

[@DanielStevenson-y1p]

I'm truck driver since 2000.Iowa all I could see was corn fields when I was there.

[@judyb0216]

I wanted a better life for my kids so they had EVERYTHING. I believe we created a generation of complacent adults who still rely on their parents financially. However, the cost of living and the stress of todays fast-paced world is more stressful.

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

I completely understand your perspective. It’s a tricky balance between providing for our kids and teaching them independence. The pressures of today's world can be overwhelming!

[@jobiazgarza9571]

I think I lost patience with assigning chores and having them do a terrible job. Was this intentional on their part to get out of work - yes. Was I being played - yes. Was I aware I was being played at the time - yes. However, I tell them now - "I took it easy on you, but the people you will live with (roommate, spouse) will not tolerate messes and lousy effort. Do not do what you do at home when you live on your own."

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

Thanks for sharing!

[@alexcanez-yn2ew]

True. But you did not do your parenting correctly you gave up on them to have it easier for you true?

[@jobiazgarza9571]

@@alexcanez-yn2ew probably so yes

[@duanelanning6674]

Im in a situation where my kids are older and my step kids are teenagers. I love this because it gives me a second chance to correct where I went off track the first time around and teach them more life lessons from a “non primary” parent perspective. I think they listen and take more onboard than my kids ever did. Nobody is perfect but we all can make it right.

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

It's wonderful to hear how you're embracing this new journey! Every parent gets a chance to grow and learn, and it's great that you're making the most of it with your step kids.

[@terrypelletti8535]

This was a really thought provoking video. I think as parents we are always going to ask if we did it the right way or enough. Thank you

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

Thank you so much for your kind words! It means a lot to know that the video resonated with you and sparked some reflection.

[@michellejones5844]

Thank you! This has been on my mind lately with my 21 year old. I agree I pray for him and put it in God’s hand!

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

It's great to hear that you resonate with the message! Sending positive vibes your way.

[@robn.5932]

Glad I found your channel, you guys share great stuff.

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

Thanks for watching!

[@TherealBrian79]

I am glad I found your channel. You guys are doing a great job.👍

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

Thanks so much!

[@sheilahall7588]

I think I sheltered my daughters too much. Their dad and I were having problems but I did everything in my power so that they would not know or be hurt by it. Now after 42 years of marriage my adult children are having to deal with our separation and me trying to explain to them, when I had taught them to always take care of themselves, and then to try to answer their questions when they have asked me, why didn’t you take care of yourself? The answer was because they were my whole world, and I would have sacrificed anything for them to not have a broken family. Nice to see you back in Iowa.

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

I think you watched our other stuff so you know our stories are kinda similar. Take it from us, you can find happiness. That is what we were talking about however, in this video. We tried to shield our kids from reality a bit and maybe didn't prepare them for when the rough stuff comes knocking. You are definitely not alone there.

[@alexcanez-yn2ew]

@@sheilahall7588 failed society

[@richardnesbit1004]

Interesting conversation. Thanks for the video 👍

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@DanielStevenson-y1p]

I'm from a state great produce growing season.its tough

[@DanielStevenson-y1p]

Is it Iowa is where closing John Deere manufacturing?.I am from a rust belt one time heavy manufacturing.

[@alexcanez-yn2ew]

Good talk while walking like your comments

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

I'm glad you enjoyed the talk! Walking and chatting really brings a unique vibe, doesn't it?

[@alexcanez-yn2ew]

​@@beforeitstoolate2023yes

[@DanielStevenson-y1p]

I believe we were all made to fail.if any of us were perfect we be God.

[@lisaphares2286]

I think if you give your child a chore and they do a bad job, you have the do it and re-do it until it’s done correctly. I sent one of my sons up to take a shower (9yo) and he came down with dry hair. Told him he didn’t shower, he tried to argue but I said running the shower isn’t showering, your hair is dry. Then he comes down with wet hair, I smell it and say you didn’t use shampoo, you just rinsed your hair go wash it. Up he goes down he comes smell hair and that’s conditioner go use the bottle that says shampoo. That was the first and only time he did this. I also pointed out it took him 5 times longer to try and get out of doing something than to just do it right the first time. Same with pots and pans, do it right the first time or you’ll be washing ALL the pots and pans. Never found a dirty one. If you set reasonable standards and reasonable consequences and you follow up in a timely fashion, they will do it. It’s up to people who choose to become parents to understand that their job isn’t to give their kids the childhood they wished they had, but to teach their children to be responsible, to have manners, to help out their family by doing chores, and to be responsible, contributing members of society.

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

It sounds like you’ve got a solid approach to teaching responsibility! Setting clear standards and following through is so important for kids to learn valuable life skills.

[@shaughn4166]

I agree that the follow-through with words of affirmation and explanation each time is key in setting standards that are solid. Great job!

[@crystalday4419]

I really would like to learn how you started

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

How we started on KZbin? It's a journey but most of it can be found in the older videos.

[@alexcanez-yn2ew]

In your teenage years small jobs Were enough easy. Try doing that today's. So many people work fast food full time now gas station jobs etc etc that's most jobs today for american dream😢

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

It definitely different today for a lot of reason. Good luck to you

[@alexcanez-yn2ew]

I do get what your saying just saying some words in defence of this generation that old people like to trash without a reality check. how they screwed up youths future

[@crystalday4419]

Hi rich and robin

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

Hey!

[@casa87blue]

I think kids raised in the USA with parents/grandparents from the boomer/depression eras have a different mindset. Growing up in the middle class there was no concept of entitlement or disposable income.

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

Very true but I sometimes think we failed to prepare our kids for the sometimes harsh realities of life, so it's not all on them. Thanks for watching!

[@crystalday4419]

Robi

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

Now you have it!

[@Danimal1965]

Every generation has the same thoughts about the next generation. It's a non-issue and not worth my time.

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

Thanks for taking the time to comment.

[@Danimal1965]

@@beforeitstoolate2023 True! Not worth my time so I took my time to comment. :) Not one of my finer days.

[@alexcanez-yn2ew]

Failed society

[@beforeitstoolate2023]

Well, I guess we need to work to turn things around then, right?