(+update) My girlfriend of 12 years rejected my proposal

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[@ronscorey2731]

If she doesn't want you, view it as a lucky escape. It definitely won't get any better over time.

[@TheRaiderman1]

Walk, no run away and let her realize what she lost and never look back.

[@jimmoore3767]

this guy needs to count his blessings and run. she is holding out she can find someone better and keeping this guy on ice.

[@lifeandeverythinginbetwn]

Yea, he needs to move on.

[@agm5424]

This may sound harsh but the thing is if gals want to be proposed by men into a marriage then they have to wait for the guy to be ready to make such a proposal, which usually happens sometime after their thirties after they acquired enough financial, mental and emotional stability. So whether they like it or not they either have to wait until said guy is ready or get in a relationship with somebody significantly older if they want the proposal to come after a specific time.

[@lifeandeverythinginbetwn]

I get what you mean, i also feel like getting married before 30 as a guy is not right to me, i wanna be secure and know i can take care of my significant other. But I think he needed to communicate that

[@vkboyauthor]

Too many selfish conditions for something like marriage, where you need be more sacrificial for the relationship to work, in itself is a big red flag. If she really loved you, she'd have jumped and cried when you proposed to her. Now, clearly, she doesn't seem to care if you are with her or not, so why the hell do you want to be with a woman who doesn't appreciate your love even though you still clearly seem to appreciate even after twelve years passed?

[@lifeandeverythinginbetwn]

those weren't conditions for marriage, however I agree she seems done with the relationship, she literally said we can break up if you want. She just wants a companion to pass her life with now which isn't for everyone

[@lifeandeverythinginbetwn]

For those coming from the short update is at 0:54

[@seandenham3156]

Brake up. Find a woman who wants to marry and have childreb. 35 years old. Your wasting time

[@ImEddieful]

Facts, simple. Also consider just have a gf and never marry. You'll eventually get a kid and won't run the risk of needing a prenup for lame protection. Edit: You have more than one gf in life, guys. 😂 You don't stay faithful to someone you will never marry. She is probably cheating to boot since she appreciated her space.

[@lifeandeverythinginbetwn]

I mean he needs to make a decision, he already wasted way too long proposing. My guy seems to have trouble making choices.

[@seandenham3156]

@ImEddieful A girlfriend without marriage is adultery. A prenup is a sign of "in case of divorce." Don't get a divorce. You have weak mind. Don't advise men to go about life this way. It's toxic

[@seandenham3156]

@@ImEddieful Promoting adultery and divorce all in one. That's not how relationships are meant to be. A temporary situation until someone gets bored. It's a life long commitment

[@seandenham3156]

@@lifeandeverythinginbetwnDid you delete my previous comment?

[@Micael8000]

It’s unfortunate, but he needs to find a new woman who wants to have a proper family. Proposing earlier would not have helped here as it just would have meant more problems that he now dodged. It’s tough, but he’ll find a way.

[@lifeandeverythinginbetwn]

I agree, he should make up his mind and move on

[@realMaxEffort]

Live together and DON'T get married. No advantage for men.

[@lifeandeverythinginbetwn]

that is basicallyy what she was offereing OP at the end

[@LegionStorm777]

That title by itself should've answer your question.