UPDATED Found My Wife of 5 Yrs Cheating. Made Excuses & Begs for 2nd Chance But I'm Divorcing Her...

[@redditoutloudrelationships1430]

FIRST UPDATE 6:42 FINAL UPDATE 10:18

[@calculator4482]

Glitch?

[@lgixce884]

@@calculator4482 huh 🤔

[@calculator4482]

@@lgixce884 I was watching a different video when this comment appeared pinned there so I was confused 🤦

[@peteremmett1149]

I have read many of these supposed stories. They never mention that when their wife/gf comes home they are not glowing with a self satisfied smile, which denotes definite extra sensory sex.

[@jigglejigggleee8765]

@@lgixce884 ]

[@hONdAK1DdA]

“He made it clear to her on the phone that if she tries to come over, he’ll set his Dobermans on her” Absolute madlad

[@Dan_Dropper]

Friend: "Come on in! Don't worry, they don't bite." Me: _[Call my family to say that I love them]_

[@Carlinisalive]

Release...the hounds

[@LHSpartan007]

that was straight Savage

[@sentientnutsack5197]

😂 😂 😂

[@dracoindustires3979]

@Morgan Pierce Get the truth expose that man he makes the rest of look bad. Also hope you find peace.

[@michaeloosterveld1569]

She playing checkers While he’s playing death note.

[@thefool7093]

@Morgan Pierce did you just docs someone?

[@deviousN]

@@thefool7093 I think that is a virus link.

[@howtogaintime739]

BLOOD FOR THE BLOOD GOD

[@killertigergaming6762]

@Morgan Pierce nice bot

[@variouspeople6196]

For anyone who actually fell for that what happened? Was it a virus? Also how did you make it back? Different device and account?

[@alex.a337]

Daaaaamn gayle is a damn savage get a lawyer like Gayle if you been cheated on

[@chaosreaver3597]

I have a lawyer friend who has two personalities, she fun and friendly most of the time, then she enters lawyer mode and becomes an unfeeling nightmare, which is as hilarious as it is terrifying. You see she 5ft 7in in heels so most people (guys, generally) don't think much of her, which is a mistake, she was a drama kid and liked playing bad guys in high school so she knows how to command an audience. Most lawyers who know about her will push for settlement rather than fight in court because they know she will crush them. It funny to me because she once got out of skipping her homework by pretending to be a hamster, and she's the woman I will give any price she asks to give me a clean divorce.

[@l7986]

@@chaosreaver3597 "she once got out of skipping her homework by pretending to be a hamster" You can't just throw something out like this and not tell us the story.

[@chaosreaver3597]

@@l7986 Oh, that, I guess it's a question to people who don't know. It pretty much how it sounds, she couldn't be bothered with some homework so she pretended to be a hamster, the whole squeaking with the hand paw thing and our teacher let her off because he thought she was having a mental breakdown (I'm not sure if she was or not) so he was 120% done that day because of how she was behaving and gave everyone an extra day for their homework, mostly so he wouldn't have to talk to her.

[@thecookinestkid401]

Yeah, she'll make your case a breeze.😆😆😆😆

[@l7986]

@@chaosreaver3597 lol dam wish she had been in school with me.

[@kdash2657]

"It was a mistake" Missing an appointment is a mistake. Not taking your medication on time is a mistake. Forgetting to set your alarm to wake you up is a mistake. Seeing another man behind your husband's back for the better part of your 5 year long marriage is not a mistake, it's a calculated and active decision on your part.

[@shawne7228]

The o p is lucky that his wife wasn't making him raise somebody else's bastard children. He dodged a bullet

[@Mytelefe]

It was a mistake because she got caught. Try understanding what she was trying to say.

[@benry007]

Yes I agree. There are too many points where she could have come clean. I think if someone cheats once and then immediately confesses then there is some hope. A continued affair is not a mistake.

[@bruh-cm9oh]

Facts

[@seankiprono2664]

@@benry007 Facts

[@marioveraballon5965]

Badass Brother: “I’ll sick the Dobermans on ya” Badass S-I-L: “Yeah. I married him.” Badass Lawyer: “Was this a mistake?” YOOOO Get you a supporting cast like this to ride and die for you!

[@bannerturtoise1219]

They are the masters of one liners

[@Blaze0647]

bro the entire team is getting an standing ovation from this side.

[@LovelyCinccino]

Considering how other OPs had to deal with people telling them to forgive their cheating spouses..I say this OP won the jackpot here!

[@ziqi92]

Having a quick wit is a talent I wish I had.

[@waynemcleod6767]

The A team.

[@ST_nothing_new]

The guy is psychologically hardwired to encounter this kind of situation.

[@albertnorman4136]

It's a You Go Guurl culture, so anything she feels is valid. Basically, women's lib is applied narcissism.

[@droidmaker7932]

@ʆίϯϯʆε ƒɾεδ ɓյσɾηα A leech, a manipulator, and a terrible mind. She only saw opportunities with Op in case her “real” boyfriend dumps her. I’m assuming working in law can you a ton of money, and saw a opportunity to be with a law student until he is able to get into a big position. Probably meaning Wendy is a gold digger, a type that hides her real nature and plays the long game I guess?

[@TheHelper151]

@Gabrielle Boilard The last part of your comment applies to your sex. None of them are decent.

[@albertnorman4136]

@Gabrielle Boilard, used to be that society shamed cheaters. Now, wahmen are supposed to be free to chase the tingles, while their meal ticket smiles and supports them.

[@kdash2657]

@Gabrielle Boilard That's the past. This is now and if you think western society doesn't go to hell qnd back to please the whim and justify the behaviors and actions of women to somehow be on the right side, then you're disingenous at best, a liar at worst. A cheater is a cheater and cheaters are scum, this doesn't change regardless of the time, but the justification and excuses for one sex or the other does.

[@stuartward1755]

The Anti-Simp

[@DrownedInExile]

OP is clearly a Vulcan.

[@TheyCallHimTheTops]

@@joeking6762 sounds like a good band name

[@CambrianExplosion530M]

@@joeking6762 even more powerful than the anti-life equation.

[@fraughtmonster8]

Chris Chavez some of these simps NEED the anti life equation to be honest

[@fatalmedic2809]

Believe the anti simp is called a "chad"

[@l7986]

Imagine being Gayle's husband/significant other. Has to be absolutely terrifying to know that at any moment lawyer Gayle can come out and just absolutely wreck your shit.

[@Roggor]

Bet you anything she's single. How would ANY guy not ghost on the first date after finding out she's a divorce lawyer? It'd be like dating a diagnosed pyromaniac who's a firefighter. They know how to utterly destroy you because they know what would be looked for.

[@georgebell9634]

She's probably married to one

[@Alexander-dt8sk]

In my town the nastiest, meanest divorce lawyer attends our church. She has permanent resting bitch face. I've never seen her smile. Her husband is Mort Meek and I wouldn't doubt he is the primary parent to the kids. All that said, I'd hire this lawyer in a heartbeat if I needed representation in a divorce.

[@lboiv001]

If he is a good man, then there is no reason to be terrified of anything. Having said that, there is always the concern that she might one day want to screw him over 'just because'.

[@genzhours9466]

Plot twist: Gayle's partner is also a lawyer

[@thejman4014]

Wendy: “Isn’t there a guy in your background that just gets inside your head and you can’t say no?” SIL: “Yes, I married him” I love this response by SIL

[@m.o.4240]

Gigachad SIl

[@storyvi9530]

I don't call them cheaters. I call them traitors. That's what they really are.

[@unlimited971]

traitor would admit they had any loyalty in the first place. no the woman he loved is dead and disapeared.

[@m3redgt]

actually a better term for them yes

[@fitcher-armchair-sleuth]

True .. It is easy to cheat and .. All those dating / cheating sites and apps. Unfaithful wives will introduce other wives to this. There is this - dolled up Selfie selfish sexy princess mentality that has been promoted by the msm and the internet. Once they get involved in this - it's pretty much over. Her husband / boyfriend will be out of her league. They'll be lusting the dick merry-go-round.

[@rishiraut9360]

Nah cheater is the correct term because cheating is heinous, the problem word is actually "mistake" its never a mistake its a poor fully conscious depraved decision

[@alihaydaryalnz6118]

It is already in the most correct word that defines them. ;)

[@789blackops]

That dude is an inspiration lol, imagine having no feelings at all towards your cheating ex. That’s probably one of the best outcomes you can hope for.

[@insanity9329]

It is like fight-or-flight. Some flee, some tremble in fear, some lose consciousness, but some fight like cornered animals.

[@miggyhypocrypt9407]

Something I aspire to be if im ever in a situation like this.... Great outcome of out a shitty situation

[@waynemcleod6767]

I'd be willing to bet that his attitude of indifference cut her in ways that angry heated reprisal never could.

[@lewismiller870]

@Diego Brando I'm afraid that he'll never be able to fall in love again. The amount of shock that is needed to do such things is just too great to be comprehensible. It can literally turn a human into a walking dead, with no emotions, no feelings, and no happiness whatsoever. I hope he can recover.

[@m.o.4240]

He might sometimes going numb is just a response to tune out your strong feelings

[@Sinvare]

Poor Todd, just trying to do his job. He is another victim here.

[@stevenwilson5556]

Yeah, he got roadkilled. He still got paid at least. I hope he didn't take the case on contingency lol

[@God-gi9iu]

@@stevenwilson5556 e

[@cflo1386]

It was a no win situation for Todd.

[@seancutler6712]

@@cflo1386 Yeah every lawyer has to take the L sometimes, shit case shit client even if your a grandmaster chess player if you have no pieces your gonna lose.

[@m3redgt]

He probably knew from the start.. didn't care the least and just thought "easy money..not much..but easy"

[@anthonym6119]

She refused to give up her phone,once that happened she knew it was all over.

[@thejcwman]

I think he disassociated from the whole thing. It happened to me before when I found out my gf was cheating. Something inside me just snapped and throughout all her gaslighting I just stared at her, no tears. Nothing. Told her to leave and stone-walled any attempt at talking.

[@lucyhart7682]

Sorry you had to go through that, I hope you’re in a better place now. Cheaters are trash. :(

[@pixel9256]

Fr bro , you can just feel the love being drain away , hope u good now

[@dexterbarnes5249]

Same bro. You get icy af. I lost my ability to emotionally connect or trust anyone after the 2nd time I got cheated on.

[@Crystalbomb321]

That's the shock talking.

[@beenrue5672]

This is pathetic on both ends

[@jaydave1246]

Hell yeah! Not a spineless SIMP who justifies the action of his cheating partner! (Which I have heard a lot from other stories). Awesome!

[@beebee0417]

Hats off to Gayle the Cobra, vicious and deadly, everyone in a position like this needs a Gayle and kudos to OP he handled the situation with dignity, and clean cutting like an expert surgeon

[@Chris-28X]

Reference to the movie family man?

[@RabiaaHQ]

Gayle was a Cobra Kai student under John Kreese. Strike first, strike HARD. NO MERCY

[@ChaosAngel667]

If Gayle is a cobra then his wife is a viper with that that 4 words letal byte.

[@thejcwman]

Also, SIL is legendary wife material. I wish her and his bro all the happiness.

[@ChaosAngel667]

The definition of power couple

[@frandavis1990]

"Wendy was a No" bars my guy, Gayle is a saint and protector of the innocent!

[@lolman20101997]

Most of these stories are depressing, but its nice to hear a story from, what I assume to be, a legendary badass.

[@unlimited971]

nah it just conforte me in the idea to never get married

[@crimealleysoutlaw1103]

Flawless Victory. FATALITY!

[@natedagreat7577]

Idek the guy and I was so proud

[@sujankaku6406]

FLACTORY

[@SilveryBlue1010]

YAY!!

[@SilveryBlue1010]

FLEXTORY!!

[@b989x3]

Supreme victory, PERFECT

[@Gerilyn2003]

I'm sure she'd complain that she only saw Bob because her husband was "working to much," that's the usual excuse, yes? Of course, my answer to that is Get A Dog! There are no excuses to cheat.

[@JohnSmith-wx9wj]

I can't wrap my head around being so lonely you gotta go screw others. I've been single last ten years, and I don't go desperately searching for a lay.

[@snakevenom4954]

@@JohnSmith-wx9wj It’s not the feeling of lonely. No matter what position I could be put in, I wouldn’t cheat. And then there are people who go out of their way to cheat. That’s just how some people are. No matter what they do, they will always cheat again

[@georgiawessling7987]

@@JohnSmith-wx9wj My husband has been buried for 14 years. I have never considered getting married again. I say that if God wants me to remarry, he will have to hit me in the head with a crowbar and say "That's the one." 14 years and I have heard nothing from God yet. I am old enough that marriage holds no compelling draw.

[@waynemcleod6767]

Cheaters are a reservoir of denial and minimizing with their excuses and gaslighting. "It was a mistake." "It meant nothing." "I don't love him (or her). "You're the only one I love." "It was just a fling." "I was bored." "You neglected me." "I don't know why I did it." and my personal favorite.... "You work too much." Not an exhaustive list by any means, but these are probably the most common ones.

[@drl5002]

Or she could have kept her full-time teaching job and done night classes for her masters and doctorate. That would have kept her occupied. It always seems being idle is a problem in these stories, which is one reason I'm against stay at home parents if there aren't small children in the home. It leaves too much time available for mischief.

[@glennedwards1449]

I think the most important part of that was where she refused to hand over her phone at the settlement conference. This proves 100% that she continued cheating when she was married. To connect the dots. She wanted reconciliation that was her aim, she claimed she had never cheated during her marriage. She was offered a chance to prove her claim, this in her mind would of been a win for her Yet what did she do refuse vehemently. If she had not cheated during marriage then the phone would of contained no evidence of this It would be a win for her a chance to reconcile which she wanted. In short logically the only reason for her to refuse is if the phone contained further evidence of her cheating. Otherwise she would of been happy to let them examine it and get a chance at what she wanted. So it proves cheater cheat if they cheat on you once they will do so again. This bloke is lucky that he will never now the extent of how much she cheated and does not care.

[@brado3mini195]

Yeah but burner phones exist?🤷🏽‍♂️

[@glennedwards1449]

@@brado3mini195 Which proves that she could not even be bothered to get one. It is interesting that the OP seems to have no inkling that throughout the 5 years of their marriage she continued with her affair or affairs and it only came out when things were over. Many men would of considered reconciliation or at least an attempt at it believing her assertions that "She never cheated when they were married" Given that people replace their phones every 2 to 3 years or less she was continuing her cheating even to the present day.

[@Patrick__M]

In all honesty that would have likely been her only chance to get him to talk to her if they happened to find nothing on the phone.

[@glennedwards1449]

@@Patrick__M Exactly and since she structured her demands at the settlement conference to achieve this if she was not continuing to cheat then she should of been eager to do so. I have to say full marks to his lawyer for jumping on this. I do not know if he had any suspicions that she was cheating whilst she was married as he never mentions it and his motivation is the proof that she was cheating whilst engaged but it obviously never stopped. When something like this occurs it becomes hard to dispel the once a cheater always a cheater sayings but at the end I feel sorry for his lawyer. She is obviously a great divorce lawyer but what must her attitude to marriage be like and what must her mindset be like to go straight to the well if you cheated before marriage you cheated during marriage. Kind of hard to have any relationship dealing with disgusting people like this everyday. I hope he brought her some flowers.

[@glennedwards1449]

@Morgan Pierce Nice Free Advert given your grammar I am guessing either a low IQ or a foreign scammer. Either way why would you hire a PI who literally lives in a foreign country. Not that it matters I am guessing anyone who sent you money would never hear from you again well unless you ask for more money.

[@ZeroMalarki]

I need someone like this to legally represent me

[@sodone466]

Never marry, and you'll never need to.

[@team3gaming749]

@@sodone466 To be fair he never said he needed him to represent him in divorce court.

[@sodone466]

@@team3gaming749 That's fair, but still, never marry.

[@Nickkun]

@@sodone466 ur name says it all 😂 and yes thats a good advice g 🥲👌

[@blacklight1104]

Don't cohabitate either since that would also count as living together i.e. "marriage" in some countries/states.

[@FBI-ou9cd]

“He made it very clear to her if she comes he’ll set his Dobermens on her.” That brothers a real G

[@joimumu]

His brother wife was also awesome

[@SilveryBlue1010]

"You can't just throw away 5 years!" bla..bla..bla.. Look who is talking.. LMAO 😂😂

[@QUguy]

Sister in Law with the ultimate Mic Drop answer.

[@joshuaespinoza2117]

Damn Gayle went hard (Wendy deserved it though so it's acceptable)

[@juliorodriguez4954]

That lawyer op has, is awesome!!!!!! How she put his wife lying in her place. We need more post like that.

[@alexhutchison4517]

Gayle must have been in a psychic trance when she asked to see Wendy's phone; I'd have NEVER thought of that. Brilliant!

[@spoonyazul]

Cheating on a spouse isn't just a mistake, it's a multitude of mistakes.

[@blacksquid270]

More accurately a series of deliberate choices which is now regretted.

[@mr.halfright]

Anyone who uses the term "mistake" for cheating, especially continuous cheating, they're refusing to accept their fault for the situation. It is more than a choice it is a series of choices

[@betterlatethannever7337]

I listened to this again. It got me : She was wearing her engagement ring while she was cheating with the other guy? That's cold.

[@elizagaskell7957]

👏👏👏👏👏Gayle...aka shark lawyers and to OP, his brother, brother's Doberman and to SIL. Flawless execution of a divorce.

[@Goodboy43216]

"None of this is fair because this is all a mistake".......nope. Everytime you kissed Bob was a CHOISE, everytime you (presumably) slept with Bob while your stbexh was at work was a CHOICE. The fact that you brazenly kept pictures of you a bob together WITH pictures of you and stbexh was a very stupid CHOICE but a CHOICE none the less. You can call it a mistake till you're blue in the face but at the end of the day? Everything that happened was a result of your CHOICES.

[@Undomaranel]

The only possible mistake made was willfully putting herself in a position to cheat in the first place. But even then, it's all a choice.

[@calculator4482]

@Green Monster Can what a load of bull.

[@SamAkari2002]

@Green Monster Can So by your “logic”, Men should also be able to kiss, cuddle, and sleep with other women and the girlfriend or wife shouldn’t be upset by that because it’s not “intimate” or “shows signs of feelings” and they’re “just jealous and controlling” for being upset in the first place too, right?? I mean it’s basically the same thing you’re saying with the girlfriend or wife kissing, cuddling and sleeping with other men. See how stupid that sounds? That’s exactly how what you said sounds like.

[@SamAkari2002]

@Green Monster Can That’s still mildly inappropriate to be sleeping in the same bed with someone of the opposite sex who you’re not in a relationship with. The only exception would be if you’re related to them in some way or if you put a lot of distance between the two of you but I would find it extremely uncomfortable if I was sleeping in the same bed and was pretty much snuggling up with someone of the opposite sex who I wasn’t in a relationship with especially if I have a SO because that’s a betrayal of truth as well as respect to my SO’s boundaries. I would also feel disrespected and upset if I heard or saw that my SO was sleeping in the same bed with someone else of the opposite sex who they weren’t related to and practically snuggling up with them too because that go against what I see as appropriate and is overstepping my boundaries.

[@SamAkari2002]

@Green Monster Can It’s because sleeping in the same bed should really only be reserved for the people who you have some kind of interested in or are married with, with the exceptions being that you’re related or you both make it so you both are not right beside each other because you both made it clear that you both don’t have interest in each other and you want to respect the other person’s boundaries, but if that isn’t the case, it can lead to other things if you’re not careful, especially if you don’t completely know what the other person’s intentions are(and by that I mean if that other person secretly has feelings or is wanting to take advantage of the moment if you know what I mean). Also if the other person is younger or older then you(like you’re a teen and they’re objectively an adult or vice versa), that’s also inappropriate and uncomfortable.

[@Mia-dt3gl]

_”Isn’t there a guy in your background that just gets inside your head and you can’t say no?”_ _”Yes, I married him.”_ Roflol, that is so epic. I wish I could’ve seen the look on OP’s wife’s face when his sister-in-law said that.

[@IKKclauKR]

I knoooow! The SIL has all of my respect! That answer was pure perfection!

[@RandomTrinidadian]

SIL a savage

[@abdullahbinjahed6900]

where ? can you give me the timestamp ?

[@Mia-dt3gl]

@@abdullahbinjahed6900 It starts at 8:44.

[@waynemcleod6767]

Guaranteed that she was trying to get a member of the sisterhood to sympathize and side with her to normalize her shitty behavior. Glad the SIL shut her down with an epic response.

[@bobbyhinner3225]

Lesson of the story: get a friend like Gayle in your life.

[@ArielGonzalez1]

And have a family like his lol

[@johnowen9349]

Emotional flashburn, happens to a lot of guys. It's like a mental bandage, there to protect the wound from further aggravation. It's good in that it will allow him to act without emotions clogging things up but the downside is it's unreliable, you never know when it's gonna slip off and then he's gonna emotionally meltdown. If he sticks to no-contact it'll probably hold up until something changes, like paperwork is signed or she gives up and just goes away, some emotional landscape has to shift essentially.

[@redders6858]

Happens to a lot of women also. Me included.

[@Yoyo-rc5sv]

Basically you temporarily become a robot

[@Yoyo-rc5sv]

@@redders6858 what an unnecessary comparison😂🤲🏾

[@droidmaker7932]

@@redders6858 story?

[@JohnSmith-wx9wj]

Usually, when something crazy happens to me it takes a few months for me to process it and feel the feelings that come along.

[@jeaniebird999]

Every single time I read STBX, my mind interprets that as, shitbox. 🤣😅😂😆 Freudian slip? I think not!

[@debl3063]

I can't unthink that now. LOL.

[@SergioKoolhaas]

Chef's kiss!😘👌

[@klamerino]

Correcting myself: everybody here was the damm MVP. OP's absolute transcendent state of mind, the sister's response, the brother's "absolutely pissed off guy" attitude, and the perfect and unbeatable Gayle the viper. Wholesome

[@ArielGonzalez1]

A group of fcking units!! Everybody should get a support system like them

[@nicholasmercorella5318]

When I decided to divorce my first wife for her infidelity I got the same numb feeling. I referred to it mentally as her “burning the love right out of me”

[@nicydarko552]

I call it "broken shock" where you are in shock because of intense trauma. I called it broken cause it happens when I get "broke" and its has a certain feeling to me

[@animefantastic9705]

Wendy: *gets caught cheating* Also Wendy: How are you going to throw away 5 years of marriage! No honey. You threw away 5 years of marriage the minute you laid with another man who wasn't your husband. And did it repeatedly nonetheless.

[@drl5002]

Yup, the relationship is already in the trash. He's just refusing to go dumpster diving to pull the broken disgusting thing out and try to salvage it.

[@jay5424]

The opposite of love is not hatred, but it is indifference. This guy may have wasted five years on the cake eater but now, he is free to heal and improve himself, not to mention that clear victory he had over the cake eater. Never take a cheater back. They are never remorseful.

[@breannakay9829]

Not true

[@Ivellios23]

A study posted on YT by alexander grace shows that the more remorseful the women is at making a certain mistake, the more likely she'd make it again. kzbin.info/www/bejne/jH_NoJZnlrR6gZY

[@blacklight1104]

@@Ivellios23 that's interesting. No wonder cheaters cheat again and again.

[@FirebirdPhoenix87]

They are only remorseful when they are caught.

[@liamadams1123]

The “Yes, I married him” line was pure gold.

[@francism9782]

Lol...SIL's response @ 9:00 was worthy of a mic drop. 😂

[@michaeldowson6988]

One corner of your mind knows you are ridding yourself of a cheater, not a wife. That's why you're so cool & collected.

[@Fang875]

This is a man who has his shit together. No drama bs, quick to ask for help and advice, quick to sort out his priorities and make a plan. He handled the situation so thoroughly and I’m so happy he’s doing better. Seeing a therapist just in case there’s any loose ends to tie up too. I have so much respect for this guy.

[@artisaprimus6306]

She used the cheater's handbook." It was just a mistake, I didn't cheat when we were married, it doesn't mean anything". Why can't they just admit, they got caught and go on with their lives. But no, they have to cling to those lies

[@GioFireheart]

Cheating on someone who finished law school? Brave.

[@jasondyrkacz8270]

"There's a line between bravery and stupidity, General."

[@ikophi7093]

"Yes, I married him" needed a second to recover from this burn myself

[@TechnoMageB5]

12:00 - 13:10 Gayle demonstrated what a legal beat-down looks like. "Flawless victory!"

[@BravoTwoDelta]

Fatality 😂😂😂

[@valmanway1844]

KO "Perfect"

[@paranoidboyscout1776]

This was a classic, don't know how many times I listen to it

[@juan8312]

She's been cheating for the entire marriage According to a DM with the OP

[@stevenwilson5556]

You messaged the OP on Reddit?

[@juan8312]

@@stevenwilson5556 ye

[@rj-yy2gm]

OP's ex will have a long, lonely and miserable life with her 6 cats.

[@mosesthornton3406]

The brother is the real mvp here. My dogs are hungry, try me. Love it! Nothing in this world as fierce as a brother running defense.

[@Nothereman9999]

Revenge is a dish best served cold and OP is a master of it without even trying. And if I'm honest, he doesn't need to talk to her. That's for guys with unresolved feelings, his feelings seem pretty damn resolved to me.

[@Southernboy302]

The Mass Effecf music in the background keeps me coming back... it remind me of better days subconsciously. Lol

[@Patrick__M]

That was a wonderful idea getting old pictures off of the hard drive but ouch that sucks finding out like that.

[@KE-hr4sb]

I had this happen to me once: one minute I was head over heels in love with my (now ex) husband; the next I was not. It was like a switch had flipped, it was absolutely bizarre. I started dating my (now husband) three months later and because I moved on so quickly and easily, my family accused us of cheating! As for the “I was lonely” line, so tf what? My husband worked a job where he was gone six months out of the year; it was tough, but we got through it. He put in the work that he needed to, and I supported him when he needed me to. That’s what a real partnership does. “Yes. I married him.” “Was this a mistake?” SIL and pit viper for MVP!

[@blacklight1104]

Separation or revenge really goes much more smoothly when you can set aside your emotions. Someone who's betrayed you loud and clear does not deserve your emotions. Now they are obstacles you need to overcome or neutralize. This guy did everything by the book. Cold, methodical, and decisive just how it should be.

[@jamestown8398]

I'm glad OP managed to escape that bad situation, and that he's surrounded by friends and family-members who love and support him. OP deserves to be with someone who'll actually be loyal to him.

[@ThatOneGuyonHere]

She just needed an ATM to fund her school and life. You were nothing more than wallet while she went out to get dug out elsewhere

[@jonathanjoestar__]

Anyone who cheated in a marriage deserves nothing from the divorce. No money, no house or assets, kids can decide who they go with, and no sympathy.

[@Reggy2000]

Asking for her phone was an all pro move!!!

[@forlorndream1400]

'Hand over your phone and I'll have my IT guy copy all contents including contents of all logged in accounts.' Man, that was a killer move.

[@jacobkohr7243]

Forget pit viper, She went full blown Titanoboa!

[@thearkedwolf5754]

Duuuude, that SIL is a BOSS. “Isn’t there someone who you just can’t say no to?” “Yes. I married him.”

[@curtisshaw1370]

Too bad OP can't sue her for fraud because that is what the relationship was-from the first date to present.

[@edwardoavila7666]

Bruh that lawyer deserves her nickname and more. Total savage.

[@gitinia]

Finally.. An actual man.

[@rj-yy2gm]

I know right! So many of these luvsick betas who cry and do the pick me dance saying "Oh but I just love this woman so much and we got kid's together!". Or the typical "We've been together for so long and she's got so many other amazing qualities and I just want to forgive and forget!". Pathetic.

[@SilverNightWolf]

I actually have that mentality when something happens to me. When I had strong feelings for someone and they destroyed my trust *BOOM* nothing. I felt nothing for them. No anger. No pain. No sorrow. I was just numb. It’s scares me sometimes.

[@stephenscott7854]

Thank you Redditt! And thank you Reddit commentator. Long story short I got cheated on divorced, left. 20 years later got married to s wonderful woman. I use to think something was wrong with me because when I first found out about my XW I went numb. I wasn't angry I was never sad, and thought I was just a cold calculating SOB. The way you felt then described how I felt then. The person I thought I knew, I didn't. That person was never real. I use to think I died inside. And would wonder if I really loved the woman I'm currently married too. I do love her and we work hard at our relationship. My mindset when I met her has been a work in progress everyday. I think this attitude has kept me grounded with everything I do. However this post cleared up any and all doubt about me going NC. One friend once said to me going no contact is silence. Silence is the is the preferred method of punishment for narcissists. I know I'm not. I explained to that friend that my Stbx killed my soul. Since I'm dead what would be the point of talking. Again thankyou. Good look to you all

[@BernardBethea6339]

Well your a better man than me you still have not learn your lesson can't wait for your story here next on the second wife it nit yours it's just your time to get it smdh

[@rj-yy2gm]

Handled it like a boss! Thank goodness there are still real men out there and not these luvsick simps who make every excuse in the world to stay with a cheater. Now Wendy can have Bob all she wants. But I got a hunch Bob tossed her away once the thrill of the affair was gone.

[@zoe9190]

I am really happy for this guy. Wendy doesnt know how to be faithful, she will always fail in this area. He will come out on top once the divorce is final

[@Rakshiir]

That hockey reference was just gold for everyone who understands it.

[@hibiscusrose6074]

Best one yet😊

[@unofficialkevmcgev1442]

They always beg after being caught, never beg when everything is fine and no one is cheating.

[@NemoEtNihil]

"Yes. I married him." Savage.

[@nathanbrown8196]

"The opposite of love isn't hate its indifference..." Anyone who believes this has never actually hated someone...

[@mightress]

I love my wife. Not all the money in the world would be enough to pay me to give her up. But if she cheats on me she is gone and i would not give a dime to get her back.

[@RoleReverse]

I still find it hilarious that cheaters use the excuse of cheating as a “mistake”

[@martinsaunders7925]

Not just a man but a warrior. She went from wife to enemy in a flash. Focused without distraction to strike. A good exercise,both professionally and personally could be empty handed defense. As an adjunct,professionally and personally, Sun Tsu The Art of War

[@stevenmccart5455]

If you are going to marry someone and knowingly carry on an affair with someone else make sure the person you marry isn't an attorney.

[@R-Chillz]

This was an excellent story, Sir well-played

[@garrywells6079]

When a cheating wife tells you she still loves only you walk away .It is impossible to hurt someone you love this way.

[@DrownedInExile]

"I felt nothing" Most Vulcans aspire all their lives to achieve this. But seriously, I hope OP takes up boxing or lifting or some other fitness. The anger will come out eventually, best to defuse it sooner. And getting in the best shape of his life is always good. Best of luck to OP, and the less said about his trash ex, the better. Gayle and SiL had the best clapbacks ever!

[@Vikashar]

A lawyer is not someone you want to risk divorce with

[@ian7064]

The dumbest cheaters are the ones who cheat on a spouse whose a lawyer

[@kjax0630]

Hahahaha the SIL response was legendary!!!! "Yeah....I married him!" Lmmfao

[@smartchip]

Guys don't marry, even women admit there is no benefit for a guy to do so,

[@JohnSmith-wx9wj]

What if she makes more money, doe?

[@smartchip]

@@JohnSmith-wx9wj then your smv is against you, she shall at some point realise it and likely execute project hypergamy,

[@JohnSmith-wx9wj]

@@smartchip Then you get alimony.

[@smartchip]

@@JohnSmith-wx9wj hell shall freeze first,,

[@jasondyrkacz8270]

@@JohnSmith-wx9wj Hypergamy is like Order 66 for women.

[@RadioactiveSaddam]

Best rule ever: If your partner cheats and you find out, break up and ghost him/her. Do not contact them! Been there done that.

[@johnpatricklim4509]

I've become so numb I can't feel you there Become so tired So much more aware I'm becoming this All I want to do Is be more like me And be less like you Exactly my opinion on the first story....

[@chazzmichaelmichaels5766]

My grandfather said "everyone hates lawyers until you need one, then you better get the best one you can!" Nothing better than having her lawyer tell her to be quiet, and his lawyer asking for the phone. Like a child, his ex thinks just saying sorry is enough. Pathetic!

[@xXSweetsMelodyXx]

"Gayle" is MVP dang lol XD

[@ashleyunderwood4855]

I know that feeling of snapping. Going cold. It’s scary. Being eternally done with that person. It’s also amazing. Eventually you have to grieve their “death” because that person isn’t there anymore.

[@gino14]

The inner warrior within me admires your cold ruthlessness.

[@GuySmithSmoke]

Story 1. This man has become truly enlightened. There's nothing wrong with him.

[@comfychair4475]

Yup she never loved him he was just a meal ticket. This is their way, if your not making enough money your not a good enough provider, if you work a lot of hours to provide then she isn't getting enough attention. Either way they will be looking for someone else. Relationships with most women are a lose lose.

[@luiznazario4628]

True facts

[@browniepoint22]

Big facts

[@IKKclauKR]

Gayle is the kind of lawyer we all need in our lives!!

[@flydieselair]

The reason you don't feel anything, is because you are a "high functioning" sociopath. I was told I was a high functioning sociopath because during my divorce I felt absolutely nothing after 17 yrs. of marriage.As soon as she told me she wanted a divorce I just thought in my mind, if she thought long enough to go for a divorce she must really not want me. Click, I was done. Later found out she did really not want a divorce she just thought I would ask her how I should change for her. Her mother's advice was she could always marry me again if I took too long to change. Like a regular man, I don't know the rules to fricken mind games so I just walked away after the divorce. Makes for a very happy man!!!

[@TheHelper151]

No. Men have a switch inside them (when hit) stops emotions all together. That switch can only be flipped when a certain amount/kind of trauma hits him.

[@martinrusev3502]

Hats off to OP's brother and SIL.Aside from Gayle, they are the biggest support OP could've gotten. Of course, hats off the Gayle the Viper! As for Wendy, sweetie "It was a mistake" is a excuse used by kids in elementary school who went into the wrong bathroom. You knew what would happen. Hope you and "Bob" have a happy life.

[@apbxny216]

Luckily you had a support system to help you out during this crisis.