Using the Disabled toilet with an invisible disability

[@velvetmoon____]

It is also important to note, that often disabled toilets have nursery tables where parents can change their baby's diaper, so really, there are many reasons to go in there

[@lilskipper4683]

There's baby changing in a lot of regular toilets too though, in some more fancy toilets the baby changing station is separate from the toilets.

[@velvetmoon____]

@@lilskipper4683 oh yeah sure it happens. but for example where i live, it's more common for changing tables to be in disabled toilets as there is more space and it is gender neutral

[@HopeB555]

Also if I'm out alone with multiple small children. there's no way I can fit two toddlers, a baby, and myself in a normal stall and I can't exactly just leave my children to run amok in the rest of the bathroom.

[@bridgetthewench]

​@@lilskipper4683That's the norm where I live (Iowa, US). They're usually not in a stall, they're just in the main part of the restroom. We'd consider it a fancy bathroom if the changing station was in a stall and gave you privacy 😂

[@ghosted_joey9249]

while our changing stations aren't in disability stalls, I do understand why people would put it there. with all the predators and shit out there nowadays, it should totally be the norm to have stations in it so no one else has to see it, especially preds

[@abbyho2332]

My sister always tells me “it’s wheelchair ACCESSIBLE, not wheelchair EXCLUSIVE”

[@lizziekilburn2302]

True, and there are some instances where the only stall available is a disabled toilet one.

[@redfailhawk]

Not only this, but if there's a line and no one waiting who needs that stall, those of us who need it don't care if you use it. If someone in line obviously requires it, ask them first, since they have one stall option. But if there isn't someone who does need it... Seriously... We don't care if you use it. Just keep it clean.

[@cake_0078]

Damn that's a great line!

[@saram404]

​@@lizziekilburn2302 You know you can just wait for your turn right?

[@m0zz4re11a1]

@@saram404yeah but sometimes you can’t. last week i went to the park and the women’s toilets were literally straight up locked. obviously wasn’t gonna go in the men’s toilets so i think it’s pretty reasonable to go in disabled if nobody else is there

[@NatalieHarrisonLim]

I'm glad you talk about this stuff because some people look perfectly "normal" but have a hard time bending to use the toilet and need the added support rails in the handicap toilets. It's true, and invisible disabilities are VALID

[@terramarini6880]

Even non disability issues require the accessible loo. People who have a colostomy bag or catheter for instance, they tend to need privacy and extra room to get that all sorted out.

[@CieloG]

I've been this person... needing to use the bars to use the toilet when my blood sugar isn't stable and I was dizzy. I felt SO guilty when I came out of the bathroom and saw a wheelchair user there. She was so nice though and could see me shaking so I felt so seen and justified in choosing to use that stall. I haven't questioned it again since. Invisible disabilities are real!!!

[@sophiewhitehouse6718]

a huge portion of wheelchair users are ambulatory, so will almost definitely understand disabilities arent always what they look like!

[@tazdaniels4869]

I understand partly how you feel. I have Narcolepsy and Ulcerative Colitis and have a disabled key. I regularly have to tell people why I'm using or have just used a disabled toilet, they don't care they usually still berate me. Falling asleep on the toilet when I've run out of meds, then stammering badly, doesn't help my case either.

[@Purplefrog837]

I have diabetes to and usually use the normal toilets but sometimes when my blood sugar is really low I use the disabled ones but I felt bad because I came out and saw a pregnant woman waiting she was sweet but I felt bad

[@christinewhoyt]

Some people would probably believe I'm not disabled. When I take the time to pronounce properly. I have myopathia. Some of my muscles are like laces.

[@Moraca101]

Also some regular stalls are so tiny that you cant even... DO your business in them if you have wider hips. I move quickly to minimize any wait and only use it in bathrooms where my hips literally brush the walls in the smaller stalls or have doors that leave zero room inside when they open (imagine straddling the toilet because the door takes up ALL leg room when opened)

[@britvic4334]

My son is epileptic so if he has a seizure, falling and seizing in a larger space could potentially save his life, also allowing me to get access to help him. Some people need to just mind their business. Invisible illness is exactly what it says on the tin, Invisible 🙄

[@sophie_beth1]

so am i and before i had to become a wheelchair user i always used the bigger toilets for that reason. some people just can’t comprehend that there is such a thing as an invisible illness.

[@britvic4334]

@soph.xo- That's so true. I've lost count trying to explain to people my sons needs and my own, but still I'm met with hostility or abuse. It's so frustrating 😫

[@chellyberry4434]

im epileptic as well and i need to use it at times especially when i need more stability.

[@am_Nein]

​@@britvic4334 just tell nosy people that your son has (insert thing that people feel bad for being rude for) even if it isn't true. Saves a lot of belligerence on their end.

[@markir3021]

I never would have thought of epilepsy (I have it) as a reason to use a disabled toilet.

[@ninapauline09736]

This means so much to me. For years I had a special form of anxiety (It’s called Paruresis in Germany) and usually men suffer from it but I had it since age 13 and I was UNABLE to use the public restroom. My body wouldn’t relax and I couldn’t pee. I tried everything but it just didn’t work. Then I had panic attacks. I have horror stories where I sat on the toilet for two hours in shopping malls crying my eyes out lol because I couldn’t pee. It sounds so dramatic now but it was horrible. And so I often used the accessible toilet so I could pee. I felt ashamed every time someone saw me going in there but back then I really needed that space because I was desperate. Thankfully I’m doing much better now. Thank you so much for your kindness and compassion ❤️

[@ZekeBittersweet]

It's for anyone who can benefit from it ❤ if there aren't enough accesible stalls for everyone who needs them, then we just need to provide more accomodations! Not restrict access to anyone. And it's not a silly reason at all, I'm glad it helped you!

[@redjoker365]

In the US we call it being "pee-shy", and if it's documented you can even get complete privacy when providing a sample during drug testing

[@sadist8902]

THANK YOU, my disabilities are invisible, I don’t even walk differently but the pain? A 30 minute walk has me bedrested for days.

[@purplepixie274]

I ended up using a wheelchair for this very reason, it's so liberating. Now I can do stuff I couldn't any more

[@fruitydishofpasta]

Im what people would call i shape, but I still get pains and my throat closes up

[@Joyfillied]

I JUST used a wheelchair at a store yesterday because I 1) had zero stuff to give…no energy, just pain. 2) I didn’t want to over do it if I didn’t need to, and 3) I wanted to start storing up some energy for a double date later that turned out WONDERFUL…even though I was like Cinderella with my energy - as soon as it was over, pains started coming back online everywhere…not that they weren’t there during the date, but that I could ignore enough of them to have a GREAT time, but after my happy focus was gone (yeah…I’m still figuring it out)…

[@karenneill9109]

@@fruitydishofpastaMCAS?

[@beacool3538]

Same

[@FoxGameCZ]

I hate when the people think they have the right to assume who is disabled a who isn't. These kind of things will only hurt people.

[@dickcheney3000]

People have the right to assume or to think whatever they want.

[@bridgetthewench]

It's the worst! My mom thinks she's the disabled parking police, and will honk and yell at anyone using the disabled parking spots who "doesn't look disabled" to her (which basically just means they walk faster than she does with her own disability), even though they have the placard. I keep trying to explain invisible disabilities to her, and she won't listen. It's embarrassing going places with her.

[@rebeccacarlson9166]

Try not to judge people harshly. I was one of those people who got angry...until I became disabled. I guess you can call it an "invisible" disability.

[@jon.arbuckle.]

​@rebeccacarlson9166 nah its just being a dick, I'm glad your educated now but if what it took was literally you becoming disabled yourself apparently that is concerning

[@jon.arbuckle.]

​@rebeccacarlson9166 nah its just called being a dick, I'm glad your educated now but if it took you apparently becoming disabled yourself to stop being such a prick that's is concerning. Please rethink how you treat others thanks, also if this has gone through twice sorry, I couldnt tell if the message went through the first time.

[@e.1766]

Why is the disabled community so so So Much More Understanding, Patient, & Accommodating than ppl w/ no medical conditions?? Why is that??? Thanks for the vid, ppl need to know not all disabled have mobility aids, or use those aids every single day, but Still need to use the disabled toilet, or those motorized shopping carts ❤️

[@dandare2586]

That isn't true. People are people. People with disabilities aren't some homogeneous group. That's a very discriminatory comment.

[@stardasuperstar895]

​@@dandare2586I'm confused to what you mean because they kind of are? While not all disabled people have the same disability many of them face similar struggles. And as is the case with all humans, facing challenges and struggles often leads to more empathetic, humble, and understanding character. They're not saying "only disabled people have empathy" obviously that's not true. It's just that, especially when it comes to disability related things, they are more likely to understand/want to understand more than some people who don't.

[@Chris-ew7pb]

I'm autistic and had very bad trauma in bathroom as a kid, the smaller the bathroom, the more it stresses me out. I appreciate people being more accepting of invisible disabilities, its so common for people to judge before thinking ❤

[@EllpaFox47]

Same Sometimes I have a bad day with my autism and I just need that little bit of extra space

[@T13GUY]

I'm autistic too and the bathroom trauma (especially school bathrooms) is real I almost got set on fire in there once 💀

[@abyssnightail881]

yikes, I get that I'm also Autistic, but I just gave extreme claustrophobia..

[@aquariancat7010]

My son is a 4 yr old autistic child & I'm severely claustrophobic, so yes, we use the bigger stall.

[@JalapenoCat1933]

⁠@@T13GUYthe trauma is real 😭✋

[@cabby7674]

I'm autistic and when i'm very overstimulated i sometimes have to use the disabled toilet, because i regulary get panic attacks or meltdowns in public. Especially public restrooms are such a stressfull place for me and using the disabled one is so helpful to me.

[@zathtanks]

This and claustrophobic ppl

[@AlexNikkiClicky]

And im trans, in some places im not comfortable using the womans bathroom for one reason or another, disabled bathrooms are also gender neutral

[@cabby7674]

@@AlexNikkiClicky omg same haha

[@gryphenicedancer8796]

And THAT proves the point of this short. Invisible disability is a thing!

[@greenliter1]

Yep, as a probably autistic person myself I went to the grocery store today and wanted to cry the whole time, going through autistic burnout, feeling assaulted by the cold air harsh lights and too much noise and the smells were way too strong, I needed to use the bathroom but I said “absolutely not using a small stall with thin toilet paper that smells terrible (the bathroom not the toilet paper although it may smell bad too) where people I don’t know are in there flushing and setting off hand dryers, and I’m not going to sit there timing my stall exit to avoid other people, especially not when I feel like I was hit by a Mac truck”.

[@katherinebrookes960]

My autistic son is 9 but the size of a 13 year old, he can’t go to the toilet alone in public so I have to be with him. Never used to be an issue until he started to get bigger, now I can’t take him into the women’s with me as you do with young children, but he also still can’t go into the boys alone so I have no choice but to use disabled toilets. The amount of disgusting negative comments we receive from grown adults - mainly older gen, is appalling. What I’d give for them to start listening and learning from some of the younger gens on how is best to communicate surrounding these things. Thank you for making this, people know it happens but not many people actually do something. ❤❤❤ I hope one day my son is able to feel supported rather than made to feel like he’s less of a person by strangers.

[@MidnightsCrow]

As someone who is autistic, I greatly respect your work towards your son and I hope that stops being an issue

[@Docypher]

Some disabled toilets are also family toilets (usually for baby changing or if you’ve got multiple kids who all need to be supervised, or in your case, a teen who needs to be supervised). People try to be ‘allies’ but by not educating themselves, they just end up hurting others. So sorry to hear people have treated you and your son badly just because you needed to safely use the bathroom.

[@Zer0_Soul]

Not sure what state you live in (assuming you're in the USA to begin with!) but in New Jersey I saw who I assumed to be a mother and her son (the same height as an adult) walk out of the women's restroom together and nobody batted an eye. How it should be, imo

[@celesteamberbagley3996]

I used to look after a young man with autism and had to use the disabled toilets too. I’d get funny looks as well. Years on from my job I now am disabled myself and use the loos too. I have a key for them and will make sure it’s visible, ie hang it round my neck.

[@katherinebrookes960]

@@Zer0_SoulWe’re in England.

[@athenaboyetchko8247]

It makes me sad that people treat disabled people like this... 😔

[@Pindolene]

It makes me scared, as someone with an invisible disability. So much judgement from strangers, and they expect you to just give your full medical history when they ask. Absolutely terrifying!

[@doggytheanarchist7876]

​@@Pindolene it's happened to me before and my best advice is just to completely ignore them. Don't take your headphones off, just stare at them and don't engage at all and if there's any staff you can tell them to go deal with it, otherwise just walk away. Unless ofc you are in the mood for a fight;) then it's totally valid to fight an ableist. I should say ofc that I'm a grown man with a beard and tattoos. So I'm treated very differently than my friends who look younger or more feminine than I do. But for some reason, a lot of ppl weirdly thinks that disabled ppl can't have tattoos. I dunno know if I'm being helpful at all. I just want you to not be afraid. Coz feck those ppl, they should not get to limit how you get to be in public spaces. There are so many things that exclude us, as disabled ppl and ableists guarding the restrooms should not be one of them. Solidarity 💪♥️

[@Pindolene]

@@doggytheanarchist7876 from the bottom of my heart, thank you for such a lovely and empowering message. You're right! They can all sod off. Sending you love ❤️

[@walterrising4276]

Nobody asked

[@dragonnightwing9082]

​@@walterrising4276 womp womp

[@user-po1ndx73r]

Reminds me of when people comment “Why do you have a wheelchair if you can stand? Fake” and I’m like “????? No??????”

[@kateshiningdeer3334]

I knew a woman (since passed, though she DID make it to a ripe old age, good for her!) who had relapsing-remitting MS - over the probably 20 years I knew her, she went from fully wheelchair-bound to fully walking (not even a limp, though I don't know if she ever felt unsteady) multiple times. I was just glad to see her whenever I did, and in whatever form she had at the present. People need to understand that wheelchair DOES NOT mean paralyzed! I was recently thinking I might have to use one temporarily from sheer exhaustion. I can barely walk 20 feet without being extremely tired, and I can maybe stand for 2 minutes, if I'm lucky. I'm working on it with my docs, and hopefully it'll get better, but I'm STILL thinking maybe a folding cane that becomes a chair sounds like a good idea, at minimum!

[@nussknacker9827]

​@@kateshiningdeer3334 you should get an aid to improve your life and accessibility. Not being able to walk far or stand for more than 2 minutes is a disability. You have every right to improve your life

[@EvelynSaungikar]

@@kateshiningdeer3334at least, if you carry a cane, people will let you sit down.

[@apricot84]

Right?? My grandma uses a wheelchair on and off because she has a bad hip that flares up. She can walk, she can exercise, she can stand, but sometimes she needs a chair. It doesn’t mean she’s faking!!

[@midnightbel]

I legit hate standing up from mine because of this. 😢

[@StoicWallflower]

Thanks for this video!!! As an autistic person, I often need the big stall to help collect myself when overwhelmed, but feel slightly guilty sometimes as if my disability isn't valid enough to use it. You've helped to make me more confident in this.

[@vaporeos8173]

Top 3 reasons to use a disabled toilet 1: youre disabled 2: the other toilets are occupied 3: the other toilets desperatly need to be cleaned

[@elliot4152]

To add to this: someone managed to lock every single other stall door (this happened once at my school)

[@vaporeos8173]

@@elliot4152 that would be a valid reason to

[@Nick-vu1ib]

Also only toilet available is disabled toilet. I went to hospital for appointment. And suddenly i desperately need toilet. I looked around everywhere. And all i see are disabled toilet only accessible to people who has appointments. I was like i not going to pee myself to follow a policy so i use it 😅.

[@London_Cowcuddler]

Or you have a baby or are pregnant (alot of times they have a changing table)

[@vaporeos8173]

@@London_Cowcuddler true

[@elizabethcarter9858]

Thank you so much. As an epileptic 48 year old mom of 4 grown kids who was also gifted 2 very different invisible disabilities I am often seen as a villain for using a handicapped parking spot or bathroom. On my good days I avoid them both like the plague. In my bad days I have no choice. Since I can’t drive my kids have been screamed at for parking in a “wheelchair parking spot.” Trying to explain that they are doing it so they can assist & care for me only makes things worse. I have NEVER received this kind of treatment from someone in a wheelchair. I recently had a disabled vet (and complete stranger) vehemently fight for my right to park there. “ she has her own parking pass. Give it up dude and walk away. Do you really have nothing better to do today, Karen.” I was shaking & crying uncontrollably while this Angel of a man stood up for me. Once a Ranger always a Ranger I guess. He offered to escort us inside Costco & did his best to make me laugh. I wish healthy people could give strangers 1/2 the grace this WarFighter gave me. Thank you, Jake, Sua Sponte & God’s Speed.

[@hashtagmate]

My heart gets so warm and fluffy when people with visible disabilities protect us people with invisible disabilities. Thank you babes, we got your back too when you need us ❤

[@twilight4114]

I was wheelchair bound for nearly 12 years but am back on my feet at the moment but still disabled and have good and bad days and I get so much hate for using the disabled toilet. I can't stand for long without severe pain and I suffer a lot of dizziness but for the most part nobody can tell that just glancing at me even if they see I walk with a limp. I really appreciate you helping spread awareness with videos like this hopefully one day people will get it or just learn to mind their own business lol ❤xx

[@wpgitchick]

Good for you! So glad to hear you're back on your feet.

[@babblesp1367]

I fell and broke my back as a kid. I was grounded that day and wasn’t supposed to go out. So, I didn’t tell anybody I fell. Fast forward 30 years later and I had my first back surgery. I have screws and rods in my back. I’ve been told I have fibromyalgia, degenerative disc disease, and arthritis. I’m also still not convinced that my back is well. I also have nerve damage, and deal with nerve pain. Sometimes, sitting on the higher toilet is easier.

[@marshataylor3703]

I am in my mid sixties and have arthritis beginning in my knees and lower back. So much easier for me to get on and off toilet with the grab bars, so I frequently use it. One time I was using regular toilet, placed my hand on toilet paper dispenser for stability and accidentally pulled it off the wall!

[@That_Leo_Guy_666]

I'm neurodiverse and use disabled to avoid the noise of the hand dryers and stuff. But the amount of dirty looks i get if someone sees me walk out of a disabled bathroom is just stupid

[@rokibatadetulubo6396]

wait shouldnt you say neurodivergent? This may sound inconsiderate kinda cause you can still understand the comment. Also im really sorry that happened to you people just need to be more educated on this stuff ig.

[@ishfail]

@@rokibatadetulubo6396they're just different ways to say the same thing 😊

[@esmin2400]

@@rokibatadetulubo6396 They mean the same thing. An individual may be neurodivergent, while a group can be neurodiverse. ‘Neurodiverse’ can also apply to being multiple kinds of neurodivergent.

[@moiouimoi3858]

@@rokibatadetulubo6396I think « neurodiverse » is not a term used a lot but with the same meaning as : « neurodivergent ».

[@HaleighHughes]

​@@rokibatadetulubo6396 It means the same thing. Neurodivergent people are neurodiverse. They could be saying neurodiverse because they're more comfortable with it, bc they are more than one thing on the ND spectrum, or they just felt like using it here. It means the same thing so it doesn't really matter

[@Rose-tw8rp]

This went a different direction than I was expecting and I'm glad for that. As someone with an invisible disability, I often use the disabled stall because the toilet usually sits a little higher, and I need the bars to help me stand. I've regretted using the normal stalls ever since my back injury 4 years ago. It's such a minor quality of life thing, but it makes such a huge difference in my pain levels throughout the day. I appreciate your understanding.

[@sheilayoung9082]

@@Rose-tw8rp Also, during pregnancy, some women urgently need whatever stall is vacant!

[@ashshe-they]

for me a lot of bathroom stalls make me claustrophobic & give me panic attacks so it’s best to avoid that all together by using a bigger handicapped bathroom when possible

[@Nia-uj1ch]

I agree while i was pregnant it was miserable to use regular stalls as they are tiny. Plus after a while it's hard getting up without help.

[@bonniepaora8664]

Malls especially are a huge trigger place for me having autism, i mentally cant handle being there very well at all and need a lot of accommodations, including using the disabled bathroom. This allows me to have a private moment in silence to calm myself down before going back into a very overwhelming environment. If i use the regular bathroom, i dont get that moment to regulate and can end up in a very heightened state purely because of the LOUD noises of hand dryers and flushing, and the uncomfortable close proximity to strangers while trying to relieve myself

[@IKILLEDXIX]

THIS MAKES SO MUCH SENSE. I do not have autism I have ADHD, thoufh this is a very relatable comment. The having to wait in a small space for the toilet as people shuffle by you and there's a handdryer going off next to you and when you finally have a cubicle the seat is warm and there's lots of weirs smells and people talking. It's all so wack

[@JellyShadow00]

I also have autism and I so prefer using the disabled bathrooms as I hate the sounds of the hand dryers, and people constantly moving around in the regular bathrooms, I got stared at though when I go into a disabled bathroom though

[@scoopearly]

YES sometimes I need the disabled stall when I'm overstimulated and need to sit down on the floor.

[@bobonbobcrime]

I literally start pouring sweat in small stalls and changing rooms it’s so awful

[@FIZZGIG-RARF]

This is amazing! I have multiple chronic debilitating diseases and I have been verbally attacked by people for parking in the disabled parking spots. I really appreciate this video!!

[@starbutterfly9036]

They should just make every stall accessible so this isn't a problem. Abled people always like the bigger stalls anyway and disabled people need them. Has anyone ever said "man I wish I had a more cramped space to do my business?"

[@jadeb.7501]

space issue? 8 toilets with one disabled stall vs. 4 disabled stalls only, places like bars and malls and smaller venues wouldn't be able to accommodate for it, but ONLY putting one in areas that can clearly account for more is just as much of a waste.

[@starbutterfly9036]

@@jadeb.7501 I didn't think of the space issue

[@DrummerrDuckie]

Not to mention people who struggle with claustrophobia, such as myself

[@sophiewhitehouse6718]

the lines would be astronomical

[@anamazing2297]

I've noticed that it'd make a huge difference if they were simply longer. Then stalls don't have to move. Several public restroom stalls are barely long enough to close without huddling against the toilet, which is just unsanitary, so an extra foot or two of space would probably make it easier for everyone. A few invisible disabilities may find the extension useful, too!

[@johndoe4110]

I am not physically disabled, but I was a homeless teen and young adult on and off for a few years, and I will be again very soon if my life circumstances keep going downhill. I occasionally used the wheelchair accessible bathrooms to wash up using the sink, change, and get ready so I could go to work without getting written up for smelling bad/having visible dirt and grime. A lifesaver fr. And I never came out to see a disabled person waiting for me to finish, fortunately. Very thankful for these bathrooms. They helped me keep my job and prevented contracting a ton of diseases I'm sure 😂

[@elfdruid2072]

I am glad you were able to keep your job ❤

[@TLynch-pf3ek]

Thank you for putting this out there! 💯 facts. People are so dismissive of invisible disabilities. Appreciate you!

[@BeesKneesBenjamin]

I have a quite severe case of IBS, sometimes out of nowhere I need to use the toilet super urgently, then there's no time to wait or check out every toilet stall whether it's occupied. The disabled toilet is always accessable so I sprint to that one. I'm so glad I've never had to deal with someone calling me out for using it, I have had a couple friends ask it politely, I explained my thing and were very understanding :-)

[@Izabela-ek5nh]

CU people with constant diarrhoea can relate too. Most of them use diapers when going out just in case :( and the pain is unbelievable as we bleed all the time inside. Any toilet is a good toilet. Or we sh1t our underpants, pants, socks and everything. 😠 (there was an idea people with co firmed crohns and cu could use any toilet in public space, for example in shops, it could make the outside world accesible to us, but it failed I suppose...?)

[@donnahaynes2325]

I would consider a severe case of IBS as a disability! It's awful.

[@jessicaolson490]

I mean it's not a disabled only toilet, it's just that they are required to have at least so many stalls that can be accessible by a wheelchair. Also IBS is a disability, you can qualify for workplace protections after all.

[@lostineggsaisle]

​@@jessicaolson490 can you?

[@christynickl7440]

I would say IBS is a perfect example of an invisible disability.

[@midnightsky3146]

Thank you so much for bringing this out, my mom and I both have invisible disabilities both which requires us to use the handicap stall, and one day I was waiting on my mom to come out the bathroom and some lady makes a comment about how she doesn't need it and my mom told her that not all disabilities are visible and that just because they don't see crutches or a wheelchair doesn't mean that they don't need it

[@laisdonella2728]

Very nice of you to educate people with compassion and no shame!🎉

[@SimplyRuby12]

I have Tourettes and everyone says that I don't need it but using a normal one is so hard bc when I have my hand flicks I always get really bad bruises Thank you for all the likes guys and it's getting hard to reply to all the comments but I'm so glad that this his helping people understand more ❤❤❤

[@esmin2400]

Pay no mind to people who judge you

[@SimplyRuby12]

Thank you​@@esmin2400

[@tabitas.2719]

"Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ❤😊❤

[@sophiewhitehouse6718]

if it helps you in some way, youre "allowed" to use it!

[@SimplyRuby12]

That's what I try to explain but people think I fake them 🙄​@@sophiewhitehouse6718

[@serotonin_rotz]

i usually go for it because they tend to have hand rails, and i’ve got invisible disabilities which makes movement and standing up harder + dizzying. i’ve gotten comments on it but when i pull up in my wheelchair a month later they shut up x3

[@sophiewhitehouse6718]

My EP told me to put a foldable stick in my bag! I use it on public transport because my knees will hurt for the next few days if i have to stand on a stopping and starting vehicle, and the stick helps, but also makes me "look" disabled lmao

[@serotonin_rotz]

@@sophiewhitehouse6718 woah, that sounds really helpful!! i’m glad you’ve got stuff to help you, i usually just lean on a wall lol

[@shannonalexandra160]

I had invisible disabilities leading me to now need to use a wheelchair for the last year and the difference in how helpful and considerate people are is insane!

[@serotonin_rotz]

@@shannonalexandra160 i noticed the same thing!! people have always treated me like sh/t until i was in a wheelchair, and suddenly they cared?? it’s so weird

[@Xx_Wish_xX]

If you don't mind me asking what is the name of your disability I have never heard of it before. I'm not trying to be rude or anything I'm just curious so I can be more aware of hidden disabilities.

[@Sydney-Gauthier]

I love how she stands up for people who need to use the disabled toilet due to invisible disabilities, especially because I'm sometimes one of those people. I'm Autistic and sometimes on days where I'm not doing as good, the extra space gives me room to take a minute if I need it and also prevents me from getting too claustrophobic.

[@forestpenzin1996]

thank you! it tends to be scary to be someone with an invisible disability cause people assume you’re faking it for accommodations

[@jessicaolson490]

Well stop worrying, they're not wheelchair only bathrooms. It's not the same as a parking spot where it's disability only. It's just that they're required to make sure at least a minimum amount of stalls can accommodate a wheelchair. Most women's bathrooms all the stalls are being used, so the wheelchair accessible one gets put into the rotation with all the others regardless of your physical needs. The only rude thing to do would be to take an abnormal amount of time in it unless that is part of your disability. (Most potty breaks by an abled person should be 2 to 3 minutes)

[@adish1401]

These people also kinda forget that people can have mobility aids that aren't visible, like braces for joints. I could walk normally with my injured knee but god forbid I stand up under the wrong angle without holding onto something, that will hurt all day long.

[@brandisaine1907]

Same. I wear a knee brace because when I walk or stand for a little to long (5 mins. Sometimes less) K will either collapse or be in really bad pain. I’m always in pain but it gets really bad then. And if I stand at a weird angle? On the floor. I went to the doctor a little bit ago and she wasn’t sure. She said it might be growing pains but it’s been like this for 2 months and is getting worse.

[@zedtzika677]

Nobody has mentioned the simplest thing. Gastrointestinal disease? Crohn's or celiac disease and you need to rush to the toilet. Even a person in a wheelchair could wait but I can't.

[@queenglitch6170]

As a person with a fainting disability (Not POTS) I’m so glad this channel actually shines a light on this. I suffer with Vasovagal Syncope so the extra space on the floor of a the wheelchair accessible stall gives me the room to actually lay on the floor with no trouble so I can still level out my legs with my bag. I’ve gotten this altercation so many times and had to explain so many times that a disability isn’t always just displayed. Still don’t know how to manage my Vasovagal syncope during a faint but I’ve learned that many sugary drinks can lower the risk of a faint but it doesn’t work an all the time.

[@CalmedCChaos]

As someone with a ton of invisible disabilities making me need a ton of different tools like disabled toilets I’ve always felt like a person with mobility aids would get mad at me the way able-bodied people do, but I keep seeing videos like this one that make me much more comfortable using the tools I need to. Thank you :)

[@alexwentland6461]

Thank you! I have neurological issues and it causes vertigo and muscle weakness and pain so the bars help me so much. The amount of times strangers say things is crazy!! This feels so validating. It is so emberassing falling in the bathroom and needing to text someone to come help you but sometimes I risk it out of fear.

[@angeliamoore6973]

There's always bullies but your needs come first before "their power trip". I have found that by stating I have a "gravis" disease. Then I explain that gravis means grave in latin and that every moment counts...most back away (not all). Hang in there

[@lowkeyirenic]

May I know what issues u have? I have the same symptoms but doctors can't diagnose it

[@LunaTheBean]

As someone who has severe ADHD and needs to use the disability toilet for overstimulation or claustrophobia thank you so much for addressing this

[@jenaliciahavens9729]

Thank you for this. I have an S1L5 injury that resulted in a fusion after a car accident in my 20’s and most days I can ditch the cane but often the smaller toilets are lower to the ground and have no grab bars and without those I can’t get up. I get so much ridicule for using the disabled toilet because my disability is often invisible.

[@PichuDude1999]

When I worked, I would sometimes have to use the stall. My anxiety was already so bad because of working in public. I had to either go to the family toilet or I'd have to use the disabled stall so I didn't have a panic attack from the small space

[@mrdark9916]

Lol ok. Next time try growing the hell up Everyone and their moms apparently has "anxiety" nowadays 😂

[@PichuDude1999]

@@mrdark9916 I have a diagnosed anxiety disorder and I also have CPTSD. I have panic attacks daily and I have struggled with this for 2 decades. This world is so fuckin stressful for everyone and alot of people have anxiety from the stress. Not everyone has a disorder like me, some people just get stressed. Don't pretend to know what people are going through and don't fuckin tell them to grow up when they are doing the best they can to just fuckin survive

[@ixagonczi]

​@@mrdark9916 You are clearly the only one here with a problem so how about that you grow a pair and stop shaming people online.

[@mrdark9916]

@@ixagonczi aww you mad? Lol why you so mad, are you going to be okay? Please let us all coddle you and your feelings 😂 I know you probably need it

[@literallyinflames]

​​@@mrdark9916 you do realize the a fear/anxiety of/in small spaces... Is a mental illness aka they have a right to use the larger restroom, did you even watch the short or did your unoriginal egotistical comments everyone has heard 600 times block it out. you're not funny or special by making fun of someone sweetie, this isn't highschool.

[@angelbulldog4934]

My dad was disabled. He never complained about having to wait. Not all disabilities are visible, but they're not to be negated by anybody.

[@emilyweathers8977]

as someone with extreme anxiety, this hits hard (I don't have claustrophobia, but I can empathize with people who do, due to my own anxiety and phobias). also sometimes the bathroom could be entirely full and there may be an emergency (someone about to vomit, someone with IBS, or so on), and what then? that person will already feel awful for using a space they don't technically "need", judging just makes that so much worse.

[@emmajumet7367]

That's something I was thinking. If you gotta go and everything else is full what else are you supposed to do?

[@feistsorcerer2251]

So just going to mention IBS is a disability, so if someone with it needs to use that bathroom it's not even outside intended use.

[@ItsLeoDude]

As an Autistic person, this is amazing. I get incredibly overstimulated to the point where I have a meltdown that presents in panic attack-like symptoms, along with trying to hurt myself or others. I've spent my entire life just trying to find somewhere quiet to be to avoid those meltdowns and avoid havjng anyone around that I could hurt but often never have anywhere quieter to go, and end up on the brink of another dependjng on how long I have to be in that situation. I've always avoided going into the disability bathrooms due to fear of someone gettjng mad at me because I'm "not disabled enough" to use them or simply because they can't see my disability. This video has given me a little reassurance that I can use that bathroom.

[@Hazels_Dream]

I’m glad to come across this more often, I didn’t even know about invisible disabilities were a thing till a couples months ago

[@shannonphillips3521]

I don't have a visible need for the disabled toilet but some days those bars are the only thing that gets me back up without injury. Ppl need to understand that Thanks for being understanding~

[@Emeriiixzy]

me and my brother both have autism and be both cant handle being in public toilets with people so we use those toilets, im glad your bringing awareness to invisible disabilities 😊

[@abc-zq8yt]

I have autism too and I agree.

[@RichielaurensIII]

This is exactly why I love the kwik trip bathrooms. Each stall feels very private, there’s basically brick around most of the stall, besides the door, and the lock tells you if it’s occupied, rather than having to guess.

[@belladonna8747]

There have been times when I have had an emergency need to use the toilet otherwise I would have messed myself while waiting for a non-accessible. Having incontinence and IBS issues can be a real problem. I had to have a lady in a wheelchair tell me that I had no reason to be apologizing and that if it is needed, then use it. I almost cried with gratitude.

[@Ace-dd7lf]

The real issue is the lack of disabled stalls/toilets. Most of the time, they only have one per place or restroom.

[@ashantitjt2547]

I love how you explain things calmly and in a way that people are able to understand without feeling defensive.

[@Howlersmum2]

I have a host of things going on where I sometimes lose feelings in my legs and I wobble. Sometimes I just can’t get up without rails. I always feel bad for using a disabled toilet when there are those also needing it because it can take me a minute to be stable before I can safely walk out. I love these videos. Thank you so much for your content.

[@elihart7576]

As someone with POTs i used the disabled stall because the bar helps me steady myself when I stand

[@theawkwardunicorn698]

As a PoTSie myself, same!

[@meric8373]

I have an invisible disability, I have to uses the disability toilets for the sharps box’s which are usually alway in the disability bathroom. Additionally I need a private are to inject my medication. Once I was stopped by a lady telling not to use the toilets because I am being inconsiderate and nasty to people who “ actually need it”. Thank you for bringing awareness. ❤

[@J0k394]

Today I learned there are sharps boxes in some public disability toilets. I've never seen those. Even in buildings that only have disability toilets, no regular

[@lulumoon6942]

This was me YEARS before my diagnosis of a progressive and congenital condition. THANK YOU for your grace! 🙏🕊️

[@socialdeviant13]

Thank you! I have balance issues and spinal nerve pain. The hand rails in the disabled toilet help me get up and down, but otherwise, I generally don't need mobility aids.

[@polepleploeeh214]

At least they are really using it! One time I went to a public toilet I saw a lady in her wheelchair waiting to use the disabled toilet. But when the door opened I saw a couple coming out of that toilet!! I asked the lady how long she waited, she said quite a while. If I were her I wouldn’t want to go in there but it’s the only disabled toilet around the area. I felt so bad for her😭

[@antisocialhannah5291]

Could it be that one was aiding the other?

[@KateRunsIntoWalls]

​@antisocialhannah5291 this is what I'm wondering because I have definitely gone into a disabled stall with my partner specifically because I needed help when I was very sick and injured during travel.

[@antisocialhannah5291]

@@KateRunsIntoWalls Exactly, I think it's quite common.👍👍

[@solala1312b]

you don't know why they went in there together. don't assume the worst immediately.

[@portobeIIa]

Cmon, you JUST watched a video about not assuming what someone was doing in there. I cant think of someone more appropriate to help a disabled person to use the toilet than their partner!

[@nico-_-diangelo754]

Im so glad you talk about those things. I actually have a not visible disability and people keep screaming at me eg when I was at school the teachers would keep saying that i would be lazy and just didnt want to do sports even though i had a medical certificate by a medical officer. One teachers even bullied me, keeping to force me doing stuff i wasnt and still am not able to do and shouting at me, leading to me laying in the ground and being unable to move. After 5 times talking to my parents and doctors He finally gave in but denied having done anything wrong.

[@mallorycarney5128]

I’m so happy there’s people like you in the world when I had back surgery at age 19 and needed to use the disabled bathroom I always felt so bad like I was taking it away from someone who “really” needed it your videos have made me feel so much better about using it

[@OceanWalk7]

I only learned recently that I really should *never* use the disabled toilet. I had been assuming that when there is no disabled person around it doesn't matter, but I wasn't aware that for some people quick access can make a difference. But thank you for educating on invisible disability!

[@LulaMae21]

If no one is around, it's fine. I'm nearing 40 and have only once or twice ever witnessed someone visibly disabled using one, and rarely had anyone waiting for me to finish. People that say you can never use it are gatekeeping.

[@bluesapphire4262]

If there's several unoccupied toilets, then yeah prioritized the normal toilet first. But if everything else was occupied and nobody is around, then it's fine to use it. Just try to be as fast as possible.

[@OceanWalk7]

@@LulaMae21 I don't think the intention is gatekeeping, but supporting actual needs. The fact that they are less frequented doesn't mean that it wouldn't be a problem for someone who did have to wait. Also, I want to consider the impact my choices have on others, to avoid it becoming normal for everyone to use it if free or people using it as an undisturbed room for applying their make-up in a little group.

[@queereden]

​@@LulaMae21"gatekeeping" the disabled toilet that's for disabled people? what?

[@satiashaw1857]

Good for you, this is actually beautiful! Please don't listen to those who tell you what you've learned isn't right. It doesn't matter if it only happens sometimes, it only takes once making someone absolutely miserable before you decide to simply wait your turn for an open stall. I love that you shared what you've learned and I find it very encouraging!

[@NickUncommon]

Thanks for this video. With a tumor in the intestinal tract, the disabled toilet is my go to, because with the Euro key it is always available and ready to be used whenever I have one of those urgent bouts of "I need to go in the next 20 seconds or it is too late". It is not visible at all. Thanks again for raising awareness for invisible disabilities.

[@tays_rep]

I use it because I am neurodivergent and have high anxiety around being in public places, which also makes it very stressful to go to the bathroom in a room full of other people. Thank you for raising awareness ❤

[@mayrahemmerechts5867]

Actually where I live these stalls are also used by people without a disability because it doubles as both the room where you change your baby’s nappy/diaper and as the stall that is made for less mobile elderly people as well as pregnant people

[@M23js]

Right. They are slowly moving the changing table out of that stall though. It's actually annoying. I remember not having a worry changing my baby in the big stall with the stroller right there. Now they have changing stations in the walkways of the restroom creating obstacles because of the strollers. I'd rather wait to use the toilet than try and maneuver around strollers and moms trying to keep baby safe.

[@mallorydnll]

​@@M23jsit's also so annoying because I feel like my babies deserve some privacy, too!! I mean, how would you feel if you were getting your butt wiped and some stranger came walking by? 😂

[@RichielaurensIII]

@@mallorydnll exactly… I feel like exposing your children to strangers is kind of bonkers.

[@cosmicmuffin322]

Pregnant women. It's deeply offensive to many women when people erase the word woman.

[@mayrahemmerechts5867]

@@cosmicmuffin322 A Trans person who is born with female anatomy but identifies as male and is pregnant also uses that stall, I’m not erasing the word woman but acknowledging that not everyone who is or can be pregnant identities as a woman (not all trans men go for bottom surgery and some even keep their anatomy to have biological children) (I’m a cis woman if you are wondering)

[@gillb9222]

Thank you. I have hidden disabilities and need to use the disabled toilet sometimes. Most times I try not to when I am well enough but sometimes I do. Thank you for underatanding and raising awareness

[@AM2Musik]

Thank you! I really needed to see this tbh. Last week my husband and i were talking with my therapist and we realized I havnt fully accepted or integrated my own disabilities. Ive been disabled half my life and im going on 31 but i still tell myself there are others who need accommodations more and will sometimes avoid them if i feel like i can “tough it out”. It took me years to finally get a handicapped sticker because i told myself, “well you can walk so someone could use it more than you.” (I say that as if i dont use a cane when my pain is really bad, im literally a huge hypocrite 😂🙃) I’ve been working on this for a while, but seeing videos like these make me feel so seen and help a lot. It reminds me that my disability is valid too and i should embrace it rather than put myself below others and play imaginary disabled olympics in my head where i always lose.

[@Lucinda_Jackson]

I went through this, too! After constant injuries caused by not using my parking hang tag, not using the disabled stall, not using disabled parking at large events and having to hike long distances or be dropped at the foot to wait for the rest of my party to park, I finally listened to friends and family. The percentage of good days vs bad ones went up dramatically and the number of injuries decreased sharply. Disabled is disabled. I will still occasionally use a regular stall if I have an urgent need and I see someone in a wheelchair, but I pay for it for a week or two.

[@pixelzebra8440]

Her: “at all” The voice recognition: *”Alcohol”*

[@crown4212]

Ik I thought that was silly 🙃

[@CMC369]

They must have fixed it. 😊

[@barbaraandklee6760]

Me listening the conversation in the toilet: “I should wait until they get mad and shine there”

[@HappilyCarnivore]

I appreciate this video. I injured my knee years ago and I don't have full range of motion in it, and it's incredibly difficult getting up and down from a short toilet. There have been a few times I didn't think I was going to down. So I now use the disabled toilet both because it's higher, and because there are bars to help me get down and back up. Luckily so far I have never found anyone waiting for it. I try to do my business as fast as possible though, just in case.

[@Lucinda_Jackson]

Yes, I have crippling, degenerative issues with my knees and legs and veer from needing a walker to needing a cane and being able to walk unassisted (just don't push me or I'll go over!). I, too, need a higher seat and have them installed in my home, as well. Otherwise it's extremely painful and I may fall on the disgusting floor of the stall or injure myself just trying to stand without the higher seat and the safety bars. If I'm just standing with one hand on something lightly to steady myself or even with my cane, I look fine to some.

[@purplebushie]

I have joint problems & nerve problems & sensory issues, so the disabled stall gives me space to breathe when I’m overwhelmed and railings in case sitting aggravated my sciatic nerve. Ironically whenever I need to use the toilet with a wheelchair even in hospitals I find that the doors open badly or the room isn’t big enough, as if they considered there needed to be room for the chair but didn’t consider there also needed to be room for the person? It’s very hard to get up and pee when you have to squish your legs right up to the porcelain and there’s no room to turn around or put the wheelchair somewhere easier to get back into. I’m lucky that my wheelchair is for fatigue and chronic pain rather than inability to use my legs or anything that might cause them to buckle under me. That means I can leave my wheelchair with someone long enough to access the toilet and the sink before I sit back down.

[@purplebushie]

I’ve never been thoroughly apologised to by anyone without mobility aids when they get out of the disabled stall and I’m in my wheelchair, sometimes I get a quick “oh sorry I’m just on my way out/it’s free now” and other times I just get these panicked looks. The types of people who just look at me for a second in horror and rush out have the vibe that they probably feel like they’ve deliberately done something wrong and been caught doing it (that’s not to say they’re necessarily _right_ about thinking that, but they probably think so).

[@Emilyweasel2023]

I’m glad you made this. Sometimes I use mobility aids quite often I don’t as my partner is my mobility aid (you can put people as mobility aids on blue badge applications). Using the disabled toilet is a mixed bag but I have noticed other disabled people and younger people tend to be nicer and more emphatic. The tuts I get from using disabled facilities and blue badge parking spaces are from older people

[@ziggybearofficial]

Personally, I'm not a big fan of the disabled toilet even if I need it. However some places have 2 disabled toilets, one being the big one for wheelchairs and another being a normal size with guide rails. I prefer the guide rails more since I just need something to hold onto due to my anemia that causes my vision to disappear at times along with serious dizzy spells when I stand up. Truly great help

[@bridgetthewench]

I also dislike the disabled toilet. It's usually taller than normal, and I have short legs, so it makes my feet fall asleep within 30 seconds. I'd rather cram into a normal stall with my cane or crutches, at least I won't have even more trouble walking when I'm done!

[@user-kv2cx7ee1i]

Even just having small kids, it’s really hard to all cram into one bathroom

[@ImARealCat]

I remember I could only really use bigger bathroom stalls when pregnant because I couldn't turn around in the small ones at a certain point.

[@Loast_Toast]

@@ImARealCatin all fairness I don’t think anyone would say anything that’s not exactly invisible anymore lol

[@ImARealCat]

@Loast_Toast lol true. Fair point. But even after giving birth, I still had to use the bigger stalls for a while because of residual issues.

[@tanya5322]

Yep. I can remember days of yelling a shopping cart into the stall with me. Couldn’t close the door, so my kids (eventually 4 of them) would sit in the cart and could watch me use the toilet and wave at any other people who came into the room.

[@ElaNinja]

I have an invisible disability and am so embarrassed and ashamed whenever I have to use disability specific amenities because I know I get judged. Thank you for this video. It warmed my heart to know there are people out there who understand and won’t just immediately assume I’m an a-hole.

[@AaliyahsJ]

People like you are the best 😭 im autistic and i get really overwhelmed by all of the crowded rooms and the stalls are usually less private and too many people stand and talk in them it makes my head really fuzzy

[@jenna6149]

As someone with an invisible disability, thank you so much.

[@mrmichaelmcsween5917]

❤❤ thank you for this video. I have type 1 diabetes and never use the disabled toilet but sometimes I go to inject myself in privacy and with space. A lady shouted at me one time and I pointed to the sign on the door saying "not all disabilities are visible" and she carried on shouting at me.

[@ajammer7462]

I understand that maybe the stranger want to "help" people and and stand up for you, but maybe they shoupd just shush and keep the thoughts to themselves, they are arguing when it shouldnt even really matter to them.

[@spirit6922]

The last one is perfect! My mom works with and teaches kids with disabilities and me and my siblings are friends with some of them too and we talk about how those toilets are for everyone! Think of it like how we use the ramps outside buildings all. The. Time. And even if they are super narrow, do people care or get upset? No! They are accommodations for people in wheelchairs or other mobility disabilities and we are allowed to use them just as much! We need to stop treating people with disabilities like they are more important and have reserved areas and just treat them like everyone else while still giving them accomodating options to make them more comfortable!

[@sashaadien]

Thank you for gratefully sharing the accessible toliet. I appreciate the guardrails and often the changing table is in there too.

[@stylaxlwh]

I'm autistic and trans so when there's not a all gender bathroom I use the disabled one I get looks but it makes me more comfortable

[@Ashiixz]

Bro just cope that’s what I’ve been doing for the past 5 years

[@stylaxlwh]

@@Ashiixz but it shouldnt have to be 'cope' you wouldnt tell someoen in a wheelchair to just 'stand'? and did you not see me say autistic, autism is a disability which means even if i wasnt trans i still have a right to use it

[@Ashiixz]

@@stylaxlwh I have autism. Autistic people gotta cope

[@stylaxlwh]

yes and autistic people are not all the same. I'm not sure if you are actually autistic because the amount of ableist stuff you are saying both to me and other people is astounding. I'd also like to pose you a question, let's say you had a couple of deaf people. now one of them prefers to sign and doesn't want cochlear implants. the other person prefers cochlear implants as they provide a easier ability to be independent in this hearing world. what you're saying is that the person with cochlear implants should just 'cope'. they are both deaf they just require or want different access arrangements and aids. but you wouldn't call the person with cochlears less deaf would you?

[@milkymilk2884]

Hell, even if the person isn't disabled, who cares? Waiting for a toilet stall is a near-universal experience, and while it's certainly sometimes inconvenient or unpleasant, it's not the end of the world nor something any sane person would lose sleep over. Of all the battles anyone, let alone someone with a disability, will be fighting on any given day...well, I'd say this is astonishingly low on the list in terms of badness. Obviously, it's better for non-disabled people to not use the toilet if they don't have to, but again, it's the furthest thing from a big deal.

[@sarah_kale]

I had a phase in my life suffering from horrible IBS issues for years. There were a few times I had to use the disabled toilet because no other one was free. I have always felt conflicted about it and I still feel shame typing this... so thank you for this.

[@alisterfasel4000]

I make sure others don’t have to go before me but I use it sometimes when I’m out if there is no family bathrooms cause I’m transitioning

[@DrummerrDuckie]

Yo same, I'm trans and I hate using the gendered bathrooms cause I neither want to risk outing myself, getting harassed or questioned/confronted, nor do I want to feel dysphoric. I suppose it also helps that I do literally have autism, ADHD, and OCD -- all invisible disabilities -- but I've never really thought myself as worthy using disabled bathrooms/stalls because of the literal disabilities I struggle with daily

[@oliviatr_rose]

yes I had to use the disabled toilet when I was trying to find a safe spot hidden away to pass out in so I wouldn't be out in public!

[@Dayshine_WUCE]

I get very dizzy whenever I stand up. Even if it’s really slowly I always get a head rush and I’ve fainted before when this happens so I always you the disabled toilet because there more space and there a bad. I’ve had people tell me (as a minor) that I shouldn’t use that toilet and I’ve had a few experiences like this. It really sucks that people only think you can use that toilet if you have a wheelchair. Thanks for standing up for us with our invisible disabilities.

[@ValpCreates]

Are you diagnosed with anything? It’s ok if you don’t wanna disclose it. If not, it would be beneficial for you to see a doctor if you are comfortable with it. Take care, my friend 🫂 ❤!

[@Dayshine_WUCE]

@@ValpCreates I’m not diagnosed with anything but I believe I’m going to see if I can get a diagnosis this fall or winter. And thank you ❤️

[@ValpCreates]

@@Dayshine_WUCE hope it goes well, they better not medically gaslight you, or else!

[@ArcherdaNerd]

​@@Dayshine_WUCEhey, I know this is unsolicited but if you get to suggest what you think it is check for POTS. I've fainted from standing up when I was a kid. Its a disorder characterized by lightheadedness and fainting when changing positions but it can be if severe just standing up straight

[@Dayshine_WUCE]

@@ArcherdaNerd thanks for the advice ❤️

[@KazTheJaz]

Honestly had this happen to me as I don’t have mobility issues but I use it everyone assumes I use it when it isn’t needed for me people have had gos at me for it but even if just a parent went jn there for more room for a stroller ect I wouldn’t mind and I don’t see the problem with it some people just try to help when it isn’t needed!

[@lorrainecragan-sullivan1836]

The toilet is not reserved for only those with a disability like a parking lot. If it’s the only one open and you are next in line, you use it.

[@lottie4588]

This is not how it works in the UK. Disabled toilets aren't cubicles in normal toilets, they're separate rooms and they're often locked with a standard key people who need to use them carry.

[@michelehemlokhexwhite4310]

I love that you advocate for those with invisible disabilities. You rock😅

[@beowulf2772]

Same as "I can always tell if it's a boy or girl"

[@Mascha_Eleonora]

Heck yes! My two year old always get named “tough boy” when SHE is actually a girl who like to play outside and, she doesn’t like dresses that much. So she wears jeans most of the time. Sometimes it really bothers me that strangers just call het boy when she wears jeans and a pink top.

[@sushikissa7777]

You point is really good (although I have a mom who uses it for no reason "because it's nicer and doesn't have a line)😢)

[@sleepdeprived_inc.]

I get that ngl. Especially for changing tampons; I literally can’t do that shit without it being put in incorrectly in the smaller stalls. Idk why they don’t just put a normal amount of room for the smaller stalls to fix that. :/ But yeah, they’re disability accessible, not disability exclusive so she does have every right to do that.

[@teresaworobetz5766]

Your moms not hurting anyone by using a the larger stalled toilet

[@leviisaac9506]

Thank you for this! I have a heart condition, and on bad days I sometimes need to use the disabled bathrooms because I need the handrails in there to grab after I stand up, but if someone just saw me they’d have no idea

[@zukostryder]

When I was younger I completely didn't realize the bigger toilets were for handicapped people and then finally IN COLLEGE😭😭😭 I realized and saw the handicapped sign and I was like why tf do I use the furthest one (I alwayyyys had the phobia of being noticed in the first stall and so I'd always try going the furthest I could) but now I just do the normal person thing and NOT use the "more space" toilet

[@jimiwills]

I have 2 invisible reasons to use the disabled toilet

[@voicsattel1122]

thank you for making this. it's can relate. i have a rare illness and it's not visible physically so I avoid using the disabled toilet but sometimes my mom tells me just use it, that i'm allowed to. but yeah there still are people who judges a lot so yeah, this video is really appreciated. So much love ❤️

[@battlecat6766]

Do you think that something people say this cuz they think they’re ‘on your side’ so to speak? I’m genuinely curious. I have mobility issues sometimes and have kind of had someone say something so I’m just wondering what other people think 🤔 😊

[@FoxGameCZ]

My take: they think theh are doing the right thing and on the side of the disabled people, standing up for them and also they think they can just decide who is diabled or not. Or if person is disabled "enough"

[@battlecat6766]

@@FoxGameCZ thanks for sharing 😊 yeah, I get you 👍

[@user-xc7mc2rg7t]

Thank you so much! Some of our needs aren’t visible. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!!! ❤

[@angeliamoore6973]

Thank you soooo much! I have a nerve /muscle disease and without the support rails I might not be able to sit or stand. I have had people scream at me for using disabled facilities. I have been on a ventilator so many times that I don't count vent events. I could walk in and use a disabled rest room and end up in ICU a half an hour later. Thank God most people are non confrontational. Love the hair!

[@anitaford4138]

I love your kindness, awareness and open minded attitude! I wish more people could just stop and think before they open their yaps. We don't know their journey.

[@edwardholmes91]

It's so refreshing to see someone supporting hidden disabilities. I wish more people were tolerant and non judgmental. I had spinal surgery almost 10 years ago, and I remember prior to surgery queuing for the disabled toilet at a theatre, during the interval, and someone pushed in front of me, shouting something abusive about 'not being disabled'. I was so fraustrated that they were accusing me, not to mention in absolute agony from a prolasped disc and sciatica. The surgery was successful but it's left me with CFS and I need to use a toilet with a higher seat, otherwise I struggle to stand up. I've got a sunflower, hidden disabilities lanyard, but I sometimes wonder how many people actually know what it means?

[@lifeaschronicallyingrid]

I appreciate people sharing this message because I have many invisible chronic illnesses and sometimes I’m having to RUSH to the bathroom and people would never think I was sick, but I am. The heat exasperates my symptoms so I’m always sicker every summer as opposed to wintertime. I usually have a bigger purse or medical bag with me for instances like that, plus I wear a medical alert bracelet as well. Some people will never understand though.

[@clydesdalecowgirl77]

Thank you!!! I have those disabilities that are internal and require those toilets sometimes and not all issues are visibly seen. 👍🏻💜