V83) The usefulness of Drama Therapy in gender transition

[@kylev7083]

I love watching your videos, it gives me a lot of hope for the future. It's so wonderful how self aware you are, and not only physically transitioning yourself, but mentally as well. I've found old habits of thinking are difficult to break, but being aware of them is half the battle :)

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Hey Kyle, thank you for your lovely comments. It has taken a lot of hard work to make change, as you wisely note old habits are indeed hard to break but awareness is key. For me its all about honesty, so often we bulshit ourselves about ourselves, even about the little things. Change happens when we get honest and face up to our issues and take responsibility for the way we respond to our feelings and our circumstances. Its not an easy process at all but it makes for a much happier life long term!

[@keirtaylor4669]

Mate you are an inspiration! You should be so proud of yourself :) I'm 39 yr old ftm just at the start of transition after decades of hoping the feelings would go away! Thank you so much for all yr videos - I wish you everything good in life. Keir.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thanks so much my friend, so kind of you! Welcome to the late bloomers club, wish you all the luck in the world with your journey

[@Moosh207]

This is definately one of my fav videos from you Finn, although they are all good. Certainly gave me food for thought in my own transition of becoming fitter, and entering in to a consciously created new identity. I especially like the term “historically me“, it‘s a very beneficial term to use when you‘re in that limbo period while creating everything that goes with a new identity. Well done Finn. So glad you shared your thoughts with us. You‘re awesome.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Michelle, such lovely comments, thank you so much. This book has really helped me to look at the whole picture of my transition, rather than just my gender transition and given me a fresh insight in how to move forward, and ironically thats to stay still and feel! The more I feel and let go, the closer I will get to the new shore my ship is sailing towards. Using the word historically really helps to remove personal limitations, the words we use can both immobilise and empower and its good to be aware of that. I hadnt realised how much I was speaking of myself as an anxious person and by doing so, limiting my options. Now that word has set me free in a lot of limiting thoughts I think about myself. I am so glad its helped you too! And I think you're pretty awesome too :)

[@AndyMcKeever12]

Great vid, Finn! It is so wonderful how the drama therapy and your gender transition has made you feel ready to take on life...more than you have ever before. I know your viewers will appreciate hearing about the therapy. "Letting go" is amazing when you can do it; it can enrich one's life more than one would ever realize. I'm proud of you, my man!!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thank you so much Andy, I love how my life is unfolding, its hard work at times, but its purposeful difficulty, and that makes it ok, and even joyful! Bless you for your very kind words you are such a wonderful man :)

[@MsSwifti]

This brought me to tears. The authenticity is very inspiring. I'm thinking about pursing studies in dramatherapy and this makes me feel like it might be the right choice. :)

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

kara swift Hi Kara, thank you for your kind comments. I think its a wonderful therapy tool, its helped me so much on a personal level and its something I too would be interested in learning as part of my psychology studies. Wishing you the best of luck!

[@ElAbrazador]

I totally understand where you're coming from. I've had a history of my brain playing tricks on me. There's a comfort knowing where you've been, no matter how bad is was or is for you. But, thankfully we have the opportunity to find new handholds in life, and better things to hold on to.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thanks so much for your comment. I love how you put that about handholds and its so true. Its like letting go of the side of the ice rink and in doing so you discover you can glide effortlessly, you gain confidence and self trust and that become a more sturdy thing to hold onto :)

[@genderchaotic]

You just look incredible. I've been feeling depressed the last three weeks because I haven't seen many changes (11 wks on T atm) and at first your videos were hard for me to watch because I felt like you were so much further along at 11 weeks. But watching and seeing like twenty of them, I've realized that I will get there, too. Thank you for this.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

hi my friend. never compare your self to others no good comes of it! we all develop at different paces , some quick some slow but we all get where we need to be! also.. it can be very hard to see your own changes. taking pics and vids is useful as it helps to see that you are indeed changing. just enjoy the process, you will look back on this time as the most wonderful time of your life as you grow into yourself so enjoy every moment. look after today and tomorrow will look after itself. all the very best to you!

[@genderchaotic]

Thank you Finn! I feel like maybe I just needed to hear that from someone further along than I. I've started my own channel and have been documenting my own journey as I am living overseas and away from home. Thank you for being so honest and open in your videos. We all struggle with various things, some unique, some not, and it's nice to know that we are not alone and be able to see others (like you) transform before our eyes. Good luck in your profession as a therapist. I am currently in my third year of psychology, aiming to be a gender specialist. :) It's a wonderful profession to go into and so many of us out there are going to be grateful to have you around. Happy New Year. xx

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

That's exactly why our community is so vital. Seeing people further ahead reassures us that we will get there. It's the same for me currently with lower surgery. It feels like such a huge mountain to climb and so seeing others who have completed everything and are content really inspires me to just keep going forward. I've just subscribed to your channel. I shall have a look later. Documenting this process is so cathartic isn't it! Everyone should do it, even if they don't share it publicly , having it for yourself to look back on is such a gift. My partner is videoing his journey for his private use. Amazing that you want to be a gender therapist too! I'm also in my third level but I'm with the open uni so each year takes two years. I have lots of areas of interest so I am yet to work out exactly where I'm going but it will involve working with trans people in some capacity. All the best and happy new year to you too my friend!

[@spenceoverthefence7119]

Wow you are so awake my boy!!! What a process, you are very inspiring Finnster. I love that I always learn something new and see the world in a different way watching your videos. We have so much to sit down and talk about one day Beastie lol

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

I cant wait for that day buddy. Thanks so much, you rock :)

[@EthanJay1261]

GM Finn, I love the self realization you have been experiencing on your journey. I too, have experienced the 'not fitting in' but seemed closer to the LGBTQ because of my sexual orientation and physical gender at the time. I also had lost interest in the 'social' consumption of alcohol, since then I found more and more of not fitting in also. Toni and I love our friends but the dynamics have changed even more since transitioning started. Let us carry our heads high taking each step cautiously while preparing for the next 'angle' this journey has for us as we move forward!! Peace bro as always take care

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Hello my good friend :) Thank you for sharing that, its such a strange mix of loss and gain isnt it? I know its the same for everyone as we travel through life but I think for us, on our particular journey, its far more dramatic and pronounced. Then again so are the rewards! Love to you and Toni, how blessed we are to journey with such supportive partners :)

[@JayceRain]

Id like for you to be my therapist Finn haha. I relate a lot to what you were saying. Thank you for sharing your experiences brother.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

What a lovely compliment! thanks so much my friend :)

[@RockinUK]

You can come round for a cup of tea anytime Finn!! Just bring biccies :-)

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Hob knobs!! :D

[@RockinUK]

Lol!! Very funny!

[@keirtaylor4669]

Mate you are an inspiration! You should be so proud of yourself :) I'm 39 yr old ftm just at the start of transition after decades of hoping the feelings would go away! Thank you so much for all yr videos - I wish you everything good in life. Keir.