Are We in Trouble? Laughing Off the Internet's Craziest Criticisms

[@rebeccafalkner2876]

I think Gary has so many wonderful qualities that have no doubt helped Valeria grow and expand. That said, Gary, there is always room for one to grow in their emotional intelligence, their sensitivity to another’s experience (especially their partners), and a willingness to admit getting some things wrong. I see Valeria validating you about 80% of the time but she’s also very very wise and one to learn from to.

[@NellyBeautyify]

That was put very well. There are definitely great qualities in Gary. He is a good person and has alot to give but of course like anyone there is often room to learn from an outside perspective and grow in wisdom.

[@Georgeツ]

💯

[@ellakalinina]

Such a mature comment! Love both of them, but Gary has to be a little bit more aware of his communication style.

[@Pinglester]

It's NOT that Gary is direct. It's the TONE. It's the WAY. And the fact that he thinks there's nothing wrong and nothing to change. The way he guesses cluelessly that we are all single and not in LOVING RESPECTFUL relationships. ARGH! It's so frustrating to hear him speak. Look INWARD Gary! It's not US!

[@alicjap3482]

Gary is very, very lucky to be married to Victoria. I can't think any other woman would tolerate his communication skills, or in my opinion the lack of them. He is so overpowering and quite often plain rude. Life is not only about facts. Emotions are as important as numbers, facts, etc. It seems he always has to be right.

[@notnow-wq4lr]

so true, but her name is Valeria😂

[@JasminStephanie]

He is rich. Thats why she tolerates it 😂

[@icantwiththis]

​@@JasminStephanie ✅

[@negochristian1]

@@JasminStephaniehe is rich because he s smart. Money didn't fall from trees. That means all of you poor people are stupid. Here - logic! 😄

[@olga998123]

She is richer than him, actually. He might have been richer in the beginning of the relationship, but not any more. Valeria has clout, million of followers and has proven to herself she can make lots of money. Probably that’s makes him on his edge and he overcompensates by his overpowering tone and attitude.

[@hellol4045]

Gary is trying to discredit and stereotype her followers while also trying to show superiority by saying her followers are "Karen who are not in long term relationship". This is such an immature move from an elderly senior like Gary who should know better. I guess at this point their marriage is mostly business driven so to each their own I guess

[@icantwiththis]

It IS a transactional relationship

[@Jojo-k8b]

Elderly senior 💀💀💀

[@CHRISTINEFOX-b5i]

In response to one of these comments, I, too, am Polish and Ukrainian. A man will treat a woman the way she lets him treat her, regardless the country of origin. Gary's behavior would be embarrassing in public and mixed company. In addition to being just RUDE, he just is so incredibly coarse, my hearts hurts for Valeria.

[@fatimatrujillo8831]

What's crazy to me is that even though Gary and Valeria make videos about the importance of connecting with the audience and creating community, Gary won't hesitate to call this "community" Karens who have never been in long-term relationships the minute he doesn't agree with something people say. If everyone sees the same thing, they should listen to the audience instead of trying to gaslight everyone. If they see her platform as "the business" I think they need to understand that if the client hates your product (rude husband podcasts) you should change things, and in this case, I think she needs to consider removing Gary from her platform for the sake of her business. I love Valeria and I've been following her since her smoothie videos, but seeing Gary's transformation since moving to Miami makes me feel uncomfortable consuming her content. She deserves more

[@evap.5121]

If everyone sees the same thing there's a reason for it. He gives off a icky vibe of being domineering and acts like his way is THE way also like he's scared or insecure about you becoming your own person and leaving him. To me he will always be the grown man who aggressively pursued a 19 year old girl, who didn't even know who she was yet and married her as fast as he could to lock her down.

[@jenniferurbanic]

agreed. previously he right away jump to the audiance is the problem because I am an European man. But there are many examples of European men that don't talk like him. He is projecting and trying to sound more old school stereo type. The controlling part is where he leans and makes it sounds she can't have a day off. But I am sure he doesn't actually have that much control of her schedule. I don't think she will allow him to have that much control of her day

[@bt1929]

What a load of rubbish !

[@ThefreeCommentator1]

I love how all the critics truly believe that they are so right! It’s laughable Valeria is a successful biz woman if she wanted to she can leave….she’s not financially dependent - and also most people cannot handle directness and are fake af in their own relationships….anyway thanks for the laugh 😂😂😂

[@ThefreeCommentator1]

Except it’s not everyone…that’s like saying if everyone jumps off bridge you should too…lots of people can project the same bs bc they have shared beliefs about relationships & communication- that doesn’t make it true …. Literally psych 101 I do think it’s mostly cultural- a lot of Americans have been brainwashed by the media that masculinity is toxic, and men are generally dangerous and that men are constantly Mansplaining - it’s so so laughable 😂😂😂 and some women fell for this bullshit and feel somehow empowered by it. I just wanna see their relationships with a neutered guy, fake superficial conversations & I doubt any actual personal growth. Again, I actually feel bad for a lot of American women, because they really fell for the brainwashing of the media.

[@evap.5121]

@@ThefreeCommentator1 you sound triggered. I wasn't talking about Valeria being trapped. I was talking about what I perceive from Gary

[@Harriet.Francis]

Gary, Valeria, people weren’t commenting that Gary needs a younger woman because he needs to shape her, they meant he chose a younger woman because he needs to feel he’s the more intelligent one, ‘the teacher’, ‘the wise one’. If he was with a woman his own age he wouldn’t be able to play this role, and the preaching nature of how he speaks is what helps him to feel confident. Also Valeria, he interrupts you ALL the time, the one time you interrupted him on this episode he couldn’t handle it-the way he said ‘don’t interrupt me it’s rude, allow me to finish’ make sure you say that back to him every time he does it to you. He’s an insecure man but, at the end of the day, he’s lovely, he has good values, and he wants the very best for you. Most importantly you feel safe with him 🤍

[@maramb7767]

When did he say don’t interrupt me ?

[@headlesschicken99]

I don't know their history or family dynamics. But it's quite rude saying choosing younger woman was to allow him be the intelligent one in the relationship. For the past 20 years I've gained experience but can't call my younger self was less intelligent than me now.

[@Harriet.Francis]

@@headlesschicken99 Then I haven't explained myself well. Their dynamic is, he corrects her often and she looks up to him as though he knows better but, he doesn't. He has said many times before 'I have more life experience than you, I know better', and she agrees. He enjoys this dynamic of being like 'You still have a lot to learn', and she nods along. I wish she'd know that she is actually wiser than him, more well read, more intuitive, and doesn't need to to take his word just because he's older. He enjoys this dynamic of acting like the one who knows more just because of his age, and he wouldn't be able to leverage this reasoning with someone his own age.

[@headlesschicken99]

@@Harriet.Francis I have no idea about their relationship dynamics, your observations might be correct. I wanted to clarify/challenge any preconception that older is wiser and younger - not yet, therfore more controllable or making her guy appear smarter

[@Harriet.Francis]

It is wrong to think that because someone is younger they’re less intelligent-age bears no significance on wisdom or intelligence. It seems to me that Gary uses his age to act like he has more years of experience and therefore more wisdom, which manifests in a condescending tone. Valeria is wiser than she realises and should follow her gut and listen less to Gary’s advice which he delivers with a lot of deceptive conviction.

[@misa2734]

I’ve been feeling really annoyed by Gary lately in the podcasts so I’m glad other people saw it also. Not everything is someone else’s trigger. Some things are exactly how you see them.

[@saramhere]

As a Gary hater (lol) I have absolutely no problem with their marriage and how they choose to live their life. That is totally up to them. My problem is when gary in particular gives advice to large audiences or make huge harmful statements such as saying divorce is always wrong and giving up. Or normalises not caring about your wife’s pleasure. These are just a couple of examples. You can say oh people don’t get it because they don’t understand marriage but it’s not the marriage I have a problem with, I know loads of people in marriages where they do things I wouldn’t do, but that’s for their private lives. Gary and you broadcast and blast your marriage like you’ve got the perfect marriage and all your advice is the key to happiness and every other couple is bad and wrong (that’s how Gary talks). There’s no room for nuance and yeah that’s triggering when most of us are trying to move away from traditional values and the negative aspects of men like gary. again, live your life, but dont make statements about other peoples lives or how they should live and expect people to take it. by the way happily married for 8 years in case you refuse to take comments from single women

[@myra1994]

👏👏👏👏

[@ThefreeCommentator1]

😂😂😂😂 don’t make statements while making a statement Also it’s a podcast of course they’re going to make statements - this is again walking on eggshells - you can’t express yourself freely

[@saramhere]

@@ThefreeCommentator1 I didn’t say they can’t make statements, I said they can’t make statements about others and expect them to sit and take it. Like I said in my comment they can do what they want but when they’re perpetuating harmful viewpoints people have the right to be upset by them.

[@ThefreeCommentator1]

@@saramhere you are entitled to your feelings as well as expressing yourself - but they’re just that, YOUR feelings - doesn’t make it truth or actually harmful…you also mention “most of us are trying to move away from traditional values” - who is most of us? Some do and some are perfectly fine with them AND both are fine, its called free will & free choice in the west. And thank god for that. I think the media in America did a great job at influencing women that anything masculine or traditional is dangerous, toxic or to use your words harmful….but again that doesn’t make it so. Are there abusive and toxic men? Absolutely. Just like there are abusive and toxic women.

[@himbeere3573]

the question is why are those statements triggering you? And who is saying he is expecting anything from anyone? He just lives his life, better you do too. When sth triggers, its about you not the other person.

[@kateshen6180]

Direct communication doesn’t mean being arrogant and cutting off people constantly, people don’t get offended because Gary is being direct, it’s the way he talks to you that’s disrespectful and rude.

[@icantwiththis]

He pays for that privledge

[@Cohen511]

I love how she’s like I’ve noticed that you’ve refined and made some good changes since then… bc you have cut me off .. and he goes no I haven’t. I haven’t made any changes. I don’t want to change myself for anyone. I don’t like when you have to change for someone. 😂 wow. He’s so obtuse. When you make a refinement or adjustment for someone you love it’s not changing your core personality- you do that bc you love your partner. It’s a give and take. His pride or ego seems to get in his own way making him look like such a jerk - when in reality he might be the sweetest most gentlest person.

[@Georgeツ]

I agree. He didn't want to change for the audience because I'm sure it feels inauthentic. But, Valeria appreciated the change so I hope he continues to be aware, simply based on her reaction. I know he doesn't like what caused it but the outcome was positive, IMO.

[@gymnastwithatwist]

There's nothing wrong with Gary . He is right, ppl are projecting their insecurities. He's totally fine

[@IamWanderwoman]

​@@gymnastwithatwistno, he's not

[@judimuller4835]

Gary saying: the people who comment are not in relationships....trust me, a lot of those people ARE in very respectful relationships and are just shocked by how misogyn and disrispectful Gary is

[@kateshen6180]

So true!

[@sethm3856]

not me (f) commenting while listening to my sweetheart of a partner (M), who cooks me breakfast every morning and has the patience of a saint ,singing in the shower.

[@Cooking.with.Aleksandra]

Absolutely. I’m married 9 years to a wonderful masculine man who takes the lead in the most kind way. I respect and love him to no end. Gary is a feminised guy hence the over explaining and being unkind. If he wants to understand himself better, evolutionary psychology is a great start. Lots of love, always ❤

[@ThefreeCommentator1]

😂😂😂 oh my I’m sure your comment scares Gary bahahaha

[@evap.5121]

@@ThefreeCommentator1 the way you show up in all the comments is honestly concerning. Maybe you are Gary

[@silvia6052]

I think gary is very results and solution driven but lacks basic empathy.

[@nau304]

If she is okay with how he is... I dont see why others have issues with their relationship. She is not 5.

[@dadada8464]

he only treats her like she is 😂

[@Georgeツ]

​​@@dadada8464...supporting your partner in creating several, thriving, multi-million dollar businesses and allowing her to have a career and purpose, outside of being a wife and a mother, is treating her like she's 5? Y'all need to touch grass 🙃 There's a reason most marriages are failing these days; look at how unbelievably nitpicky and judgemental and unforgiving you are 😬 Self-reflection goes a long way!

[@icantwiththis]

She's ok with whatever BC 🤑 and that's fine.

[@negochristian1]

@@icantwiththishe is rich because he is smart - that's why his opinion counts way more then yours or poor peoples. He actually has objective confirmation from reality that he s smart, he doesn't "feel" he is or isn't.

[@MaryamPirzada]

“We talk how we normally talk” maybe ask her if she likes how you talk to her ???? People have strengths & weaknesses. You may not be highly emotionally intelligent & that’s okay! You are very intelligent and have built an empire & Legacy with your wife; congrats on that. Your wife is highly emotionally intelligent; lean on that. Peace and love.

[@alexiam2212]

Peace and love???!!! Hahaha How passive aggressive

[@anayarey]

​@@alexiam2212That's all you took from her comment?

[@cece2086]

Call me a reformed Gary-hater. Sorry guys! I love how you guys keep on going with these couple sessions. As someone with a lot of trauma from growing up in an abusive home, I find myself automatically assuming the worse when a man shows the slightest assertion. I appreciate you guys doing these and it’s healing in a lot of ways.

[@nt4659]

Same! Gary is listening and growing with these open sessions. Negative and positive comments - they are both growing together. Loved this episode.

[@ellakalinina]

To be honest, Valeria just adjusted to this type of communication with Gary throughout the years. Personally, when I listen to them, I am a little anxious that he will interrupt her yet again. Or that he will correct her on something that really doesn't meter. Or say things like "its not about this..". They just got used to this with years, but it doesn't mean its considerate, respectful and pleasant to listen to, although I love both of them and their way of thinking. It's obviously not a huge issue in general and can easily be fixed if Gary accepts that his communication style is not just about "being direct" and honest, but being more respectful, patient and considerate of the opponent, whoever that is.

[@Nikki.....]

I would like to understand what is everyone's problem with being corrected cause I really don't understand why that can be a bad thing? the way I see it is I rather be corrected and made to rethink my position or better communicate my point than not be corrected and keep making the same mistake forever. how would I ever know if I'm wrong about something if I'm never presented with the counterpoint to my view or a word that I'm using incorrectly?! I might sometime run into it somewhere but that would take a lot longer and I rather be correct sooner. people are also the same when it even comes to learning languages, they say French people are rude for correcting someone who is trying to learn the language but I personally hope they would correct me, cause how else am I supposed to learn the language? it's much faster and easier when someone corrects me than having to read and listen to everything there is just to find out I was wrong or using something incorrectly for years.

[@annak9281]

To comment on the cutting off issue, I get that you are talking in a way that is normal for you as a couple, but as a listener it's difficult to listen to. We don't know Valeria like Gary does so it would be nice to hear her finish. I often thought she was talking about something different than what Gary replied to, especially in the previous podcast. This one was much better though! I think it's smart for Gary to take some of the constructive criticism to heart to improve the podcast. Also, Valeria's empathy towards other people is incredible

[@dorinehelene]

2 grown adults having a conversation!! Loved this episode!! Go you 2 ❤️❤️

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

❤🙏🏻 thanks for watching!!

[@Cindy12345ful]

I love how Gary asked the doctor those questions. My ex would never do that for me. He thinks it's my responsibility and problem, not his job to help me with my health even though I was so emotional like Valeria that I couldn't really focus on asking the right questions at the moment. Having a partner who can stay calm and logical and who wants to help you is such a blessing.

[@christianeluna6187]

Gary holds zero accountability for his behavior

[@Anna-qs5bt]

I'm European and the way Gary speaks to Valeria reminds me a lot of my friends from Russia and Poland. It's very direct, straight to the point and in a serious way. BUT I also know that my friends are also very friendly and emotionals (they hide that because it's something very private ). So to me it's very cultural. Love you both.

[@dadada8464]

im eastern european too and its still toxic. why are we justifying toxicity as cultural lol

[@balancedbyanav]

@@dadada8464 I am as well and yes sometimes it is and we are hiding behind it but I am also not for giving false compliments and sugarcoating:)

[@monikasmykla534]

im Polish and being direct and to the point is not the same as what he is doing. You can be direct and kind, mindful at the same time. Anyway, I think if it works for them than it is noones business relationship wise. I do however get triggered by him as a viewer ( by the way, i'm not single, i'm married) and rarely tune in to Valeria content these days because of this dinamic. I mean if you call us Karens ...

[@annywind7609]

I'm Russian, and I find Gary obnoxious. I'm married, by the way (as opposed to Gary thinking that people criticizing him are all single "Karens"). And I can't imagine my husband acting like that or patronizing me. Of course, there are rude people in all cultures, including Eastern Europeans and yes, we tend to be more direct and I like it. But, like many people said here, being direct doesn't mean being arrogant.

[@p1nesap]

Exactly, Valeria wouldn't be attracted to a man who values her brain. She'd perceive him as weak. She seems real insecure to me.

[@sarahs7043]

Comforting someone is a waste of time? Wow. Gary, do you also feel the same way about receiving comfort when you’re in pain or worried? Do you expect your wife to do her duties and comfort you? So harsh and mean, yes it’s the husbands job to protect and be logical but you do it as a human and you give and share emotions with your partner! You keep on saying “our money our money” that’s bc Valeria is the main reason of yall wealth! Oh how the tables have turned. I guess you didn’t expect this when marrying a 20 year old girl!!

[@leahkondor3346]

So Gary thinks that Valeria’s followers are “army of Karens who are not in relationships”? You guys call yourself creators and you show disrespect to your audience in 1st min of a podcast😂

[@aikoyumiko7961]

Right? Unsubscribing

[@Georgeツ]

Would you rather he lied? He was honest. I didn't feel offended at all. That's how he feels. You can disagree without feeling disrespected; I, certainly, feel fine after listening to the entire podcast 🙄

[@agneag]

Karen is such a sexist things to say about a women. Just because someone rich doesnt mean they are

[@PascallePointing]

He’s referring to the people who left certain types of comments…

[@lanaello3517]

Creators? What do they create?🤔 This “podcast” is just a recorded kitchen talk of a married couple. Maybe they think its a big deal idk

[@patricialubis6499]

I really don't get it on how people are feel offended by the way he speaks 😂 his words is coming from a way ahead experiences that probably most of viewers are not understand yet (and probably doesn't even try to). I love how they communicate to each other, how they can always expressing their thoughts and not to worry to offend their spouse just because they've known each other for a loooonnng time. Always looking forward to your episodes together!! ❤❤

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

❤❤ I’m so happy you enjoy them!! Thanks for watching!

[@SaraLeanne]

First minute and already laughing at their followers, really?? I think you didn’t understand anything

[@myra1994]

He is literally jealous of her success. There, I said it.

[@Jumuzic]

Not sure why people get so invested. The most important is that Valeria is happy. I remember being super shocked when he said he didn’t help with the kids when they were little because « it was not for him » and basically left Valeria deal with this alone. My husband would never - and I would never accept that. But that’s MY relashionship. If Gary and Valeria are happy with their own dynamic then so be it 🤷🏼‍♀️ Focus on your own life.

[@juliia2449]

Sure, but exactly those statements are shocking, because she was clearly bothered by it. He still can’t reflect and admit that he was wrong

[@bubearbudy]

IMO they like the attention and comments and they like arguing against it. They put the relationship and dynamics public so people naturally share their comments. Doesn’t mean we don’t have our own life to focus on 😂

[@Jumuzic]

@@juliia2449 I see what you mean. But at the end of the day, she chose to stay with him, have three kids and disrespect the followers she has who pointed that out, which means that she abides by that. The fact that you or I would never accept/understand such behaviour does not mean that some women are not ok with it.

[@Georgeツ]

​​@@JumuzicHow is she disrespecting her followers? Who are we to say anything about their relationship. I feel like we're being disrespectful, if anything. Did she ask for our opinions on Gary? NOPE! They were all unsolicited opinions that were left in her comment sections. You, certainly, wouldn't feel comfortable nor would you think it's appropriate to go up to them in-person and say it to her face so how is it not disrespectful, online? You can argue that they post everything online so you can comment on it but it doesn't change the fact that it is still invasive AF.

[@Jumuzic]

@@Georgeツ not sure what your point is? I was litterally saying that I don’t understand why people discuss this and that her choice is only hers 😂 she was disrespectful though, throughout the video. These people are the reason why she makes money and she keeps laughing at them for being worried.

[@armikstepanyan9677]

Ok, 1 minute in and they are being smug about Valeria's fans, nice job...

[@icantwiththis]

He knows more than 1.7 million people lol

[@happydays7143]

Obviously Gary is not going to admit, explore or learn anything from others obsevations. The fact that, as you say,he has noticeably adapted his behaviour is evidence enough that he recognises the point 👍

[@MsBombastix]

I don't really like this man's energy, but you're a grown woman who makes her own decisions. In the end, if he makes you happy, that's all that matters. But my personal opinion is, he looks like your grandfather, and is rude, too dominant and overpowering. But what do I know about your relationship, you know best!

[@kimgirl702]

I'm at the part where Gary is asking the doctor the mortality rate, and honestly, people who don't appreciate Gary are missing out BIG TIME. This is a man who not only will do anything to protect his family, but is also very intelligent and takes charge when needed. There's a yin and yang to this marriage, and I love it. I think the haters are so used to having to be their own woman AND man for themselves, that they've lost sight of the value of a real man.

[@bt1929]

I fully agree with u ! Gary is great , and so is Valeria 🥰 Perfect for each other .

[@anhdo5854]

Righttt? I really enjoy the way they communicate and support each other. Many people are used to the idea that men should be all romantic and soothe their partners with sweet talk. But Gary shows that taking real action to help & protect his partner is so much more important.

[@soltiedina]

I agree with you :) I'm more like Valeria, and I always learn something from Gary. I don't always agree with him (and neither does Valeria), but it's very interesting to see things from another perspective.

[@ariaschelsiamelicrespo]

Honesty is a very integral importance and communication is a behavior we constantly evolve and refine, you two are a refreshing example of this.

[@anchalmehra9956]

OMG!!! When Gary says "our ability to work together with the intensity that we do. And still have a successful marriage..." IS SO TRUE!!! He is so so right. Being in a long lasting marriage is a lot of work (and I mean that in a positive way) and then to do business with your partner, in a judgmental and open to all platform is infinite times harder. They are such a strong and great couple. The fact they have an age difference, 3 kids, a thriving business they have still managed to be in love and in a marriage is commendable. And I love that they are who they are and don't want to change themselves just to please their audience. More power to you guys

[@jessicacherem4670]

Exactly my thoughts! I only see a good normal couple, I don't know what people expects from relationships... they talk like they're perfect!

[@Mom_Luvs_Tech]

Maybe you can just take the feedback Gary instead of being defensive. Stop interrupting. It’s a bad habit. Change your habit.

[@Ivy285]

It's extremely offensive, Gary that you assume that most people who see anything wrong with how you do and say things must be single and therefore insecure and jealous. I'm single and never would I choose a man twenty years older than me. I'm confident in myself and I am not jealous of you for sure. Way to project an assumption on every female viewer. What about noticing how many people notice a problem with you and examining yourself to see if there is room for improvement? 1. You are with a woman way too young for you. If you had a daughter, you would not want her to date a guy way older and you even said that in a past video. Valeria deserves the same respect as a daughter if you had one. 2. You do interrupt Valeria and you control her in an unhealthy way. Whether you realize it or not.

[@tentris161]

I love how mature and gracefully you talk with each other. I didn't read those hate comments, so I was surprised about the whole situation. Dont worry and be happy😂❤

[@elisejo]

I’m not usually leaving comments specifically negative one but he is just an AH and won’t admit it. Plus the gaslighting is real. I’m glad Valeria speaks up for herself but it’s a hard one.

[@alessandrasalazar_]

You guys are doing a great job! Pls keep these coming ❤ people say they want to see real & not fake relationships. The minute they are shown a real relationship they criticize it. I find it so refreshing that you guys are honest. As long as it works for you that’s all we need.

[@annmarie6732]

Welcome back guys. My thoughts are whatever works for the 2 of you is the secret. My Dad is like Gary, results driven, practical and ambitious. It worked for my parents who have been together almost 60 years. When I got married 27 years ago, I married a creative type with an ability to connect very deeply on an emotional level. This is exactly what worked for me. Each couple is very different in their needs and desires ❤

[@hasmikhrachian302]

Gary… we got your point mid sentence.. so shut up and let her talk (46:00)

[@Relahxe]

I watched both of the episodes, and honestly... I get where he's coming from. I get both of them. I also see how many people would be triggered, but that doesn't make it "wrong." I believe we should let two adults decide for themselves what's best. Wish you the best Valeria and Gary!!

[@LeaDeven]

Guys you should stop caring for her... She just makes fun of you😂

[@AlyssaHeaster]

I’m married of 5.5 years and together 11 - I see absolutely nothing wrong with their communication. Wild that’s even a topic. Too much time online looking at others. This man reminds me so much of my brother actually and he’s married and older than me. He’s direct. Smart. Has been through more money and business. And knows things more. There’s always something to learn from in the real world with real faces. I desire to be around people that are direct and communicate.

[@jessicacherem4670]

Yes!!!! It's very normal after so many years to finish each others sentences and know what the other one is thinking, not sure why it triggers so many haha

[@Nikki.....]

@@jessicacherem4670 maybe cause they don't have that kind of relationship with anyone? I don't mean just romantic but any kind of relationship where you're understood as soon as you start your sentence and the conversation flows in a very interesting and dynamic way instead stall and boring

[@feliciamaisonn]

My husband and I communicate much like Gary and Valeria do. While we don't have an 18-year age gap, he is 9 years older than me, and the dynamic is very similar. I don’t believe the age difference matters much. What’s important is the way we talk to each other, especially in a time when it feels like people need to be handled as if their feelings are made of glass. My husband is the most loving and caring person, always willing to go out of his way to help others. But he also understands that the world can be harsh, and reality is what it is. He speaks the truth as it is, without sugarcoating, and this honesty has had an immensely positive impact on my life.

[@flusterbunny_scribbles]

I wish I could delete all the negative comments for them! Bunch of jealous women! Gary does seem incredibly genuine, caring and protective of Valeria. Happy you’re also in good hands.

[@jessicacherem4670]

This!!!! Yes! Refreshing to hear...

[@OlgaSunny-pl2sg]

Gary has made changes keep up the good work. It was pleasant to see him with Valeria in the current event where he was attentive to her and proudly introduced Valeria to the people. Direct communication is great but it looks even more beautiful when it is done gracefully with care, respect .

[@NT-bw8mh]

Oh my god, this is exactly what I’ve been thinking, and now there’s a whole podcast about it! Valeria and Gary, you’ve become like a guiding map in my life. I’ve been going through some stuff right now, but it is hard to stay on track with so many distractions-family opinions, social media, my own insecurities. Both of you, as a couple and as individuals, have really helped me clarify what I truly want in life, identify my values, and recognize what’s been holding me back. It feels like you’re helping sweep away all the mental clutter. It’s not about just agreeing with everything you say to feel smart or like I belong. I’m constantly asking myself questions and working on growth. I can feel the synergy between you two, and that energy makes your conversations so easy and enjoyable to listen to. They’re my favorite-please keep doing what feels right to you.

[@Shem274]

I love listening to your podcasts Valeria. Keep going! You and Gary are wonderful in your own ways and always so enlightening listening to you converse and share opinions. I admire your confidence in your marriage and how these comments trying to "rescue you from Gary 😂" dont face you.

[@cristinitaandco]

I can’t say how he is in the marriage it’s just he just gives this not warm person in general like you always want to be correct. It’s hard to describe, she maybe can be controlling but he is different he is just not as welcoming or approachable gives this arrogance always always having the different opinion. Changin is good sometimes specially when your wife is telling you she appreciate it

[@rainaschulz2968]

When discussing age pay attention to Gary’s body language.

[@Cooking.with.Aleksandra]

I noticed this too.

[@madeline8395]

I find him very refreshing!!!!

[@hagitbab]

Totally agree with you!! Finally someone without a filter. We love you guys!❤

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

❤❤❤

[@victorialagutski6496]

+1. Women want the men to behave like women. And then they get surprised that men aren’t masculine anymore

[@KsushaTsarBlog]

@@ValeriaLipovetsky You guys are amazing and Gary is a rare man in his true masculine power and I’m always amazed by you being so beautiful in a real woman energy! My husband is 20y ears older, so I really understand how society see it!

[@soltiedina]

"You can't live your life just by pure logic but you just can't ignore logic." I think this is a good balance. I like Gary :)

[@Tach_H]

This convo was so needed! Gary I think you have changed a bit (in a positive way!) incredible to see. My view of Gary has changed 😉

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

❤❤

[@EdilySi]

Thinking about how this podcast is talking about negative comments, I think maybe we all need a Gary in our lives. Someone to gather facts for us because they care, someone who acts. This man is a hero. He's direct, will stand for his family, intentional. What a great man. I love seeing how this relationship works. They are a such a compatible pair. What a solid bond you two have. That's couple goals.

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Thank you 🙏🏻🥹

[@lauramersi9693]

It is so hard to listen to Gary saying that it is just they way we talk as we are married for so long and we would project our OWN insecurities?? Yes in marriage a lot happens - nevertheless this does not justify to interrupt or being the one that „knows better“. Valeria has so many interesting ideas and opinions - please let us hear her out!! That’s what we want and why we follow her!!

[@mayamontoyak]

This conversation really put Gary in a new light for me. It's easy to take the bad but I want to point out the positives: Gary caring enough about his kids educations to call the school, calling the doctor to reassure his wife when shes in a state of panic and stating they are a partnership both financially and as a couple. These are all traits of a wonderful partner, could he be more emotionally intelligent and open minded?...YEA but you can tell he is a good person. I think we as a society should be focusing on how we can come together and stopping pointing out the things that divide us between men and women. Lots of love from Barcelona💛

[@MariannasRealm]

I really can listen to them talking and see how well it works for them. They’ve been together for so many years, have so many kids and a successful business. That’s so much to balance and manage, it’s incredible to even hear how calmly they can communicate. Disagreement and arguments are both healthy, not solving them is a problem. These to clearly do that! I come from a Slavic country and direct talk is common here, can be misinterpreted as rude quite easily. If you’re not ok with this, don’t be with someone like that - but maybe don’t come for the couple who is so strongly established and confident enough to discuss this online. ❤

[@natalitzortzis1371]

I love watching you because it feels so real 🩷 it would be easier for him to pretend to be another person in front of the cameras- respect is much more than a tone, when a woman feel disrespected we can clearly see that in its not your case. You both are unique!

[@Leaena20]

Now for the people in the back: Emotions aren't a bad thing, they are necessary 👏👏👏 Great statement. There is a biological reason they exist.

[@Sk-jk5eo]

For me it’s all cultural. They are two Ukrainian-Russian ppl! If you know you know. It’s the culture, it’s their gene, it’s what they learned growing up! They can’t accommodate the way Americans or whatever other culture want them to talk to each other

[@MaryaKhan444]

The point where Gary called the doctors and asked the questions and gathered facts and told valeria that she's going to be OK is a 100% an act of love, care and concern. My husband is the same way when I'm freaking out he gathers facts provides logical solutions and I calm down after that. In certain situations logical reasoning is not necessary for eg some loss of a family member something completely out of our control. But this particular situation was absolutely needed the response that Gary gave. And that's how a man should respond in these situations. I love both of them and I can see how much Gary loves and cares for valeria through his actions and that's the most important thing. ❤

[@CHRISTINEFOX-b5i]

I was trying to overcome my trigger which made it even more awful. Came back on only to hear Gary rationalize his peasant abusiveness by saying when people have been married for a bit -- paraphrasing here -- they speak in this manner ... Really? Yes. People stay in an abusive relationship a lifetime. Gary's lack of self-reflection is mind blowing. I hope your beautiful boys cann protect themselves from his harshness of you.

[@sarahs7043]

Also sorry to say but yall interaction feel so cold and fake. Almost like yall are both hesitant of saying how you truly feel. I almost feel uneasy talking abt your marriage but yall did publicize it! You guys don’t even act like a married couple!!

[@kristenk708]

How do they act? And how should they interact according to you for them to look married?

[@olivia_olona]

I´ve been following Valeria for many years and also seen Gary evolving so much, the way he keeps growing and bettering himself is admiring and also I love the way he helps empower Valeria in her journey since the beggining, giving her freedom to travel alone on her business trips, etc... to be honest, I wish I could have a man like that by my side, he is very much in his masculine energy but at the same time gives hers space to be herself and listen to her, even tho he is very direct speaking I like that, I am european from Barcelona and we are also very much like that here.

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

❤ thank you for still being here with us!!

[@MilaDanceSport]

As a very big fan of Valeria, I now also really like Gary! This was fun to see your dynamic!

[@ChristelleRabil-hy3hn]

At 37:00 Valeria's "I agree" then "oh sorry I wasn't listening can you repeat that" followed by "that's such a crazy opinion" is really telling. It sounds a lot like she does agree with the comments but for the sake of her marriage is dumbing them down.

[@icantwiththis]

Totally... whatever you say dear

[@tiasnow4942]

Sharp observation, that was such an odd moment!

[@mariaokhapkina6971]

23:09 "Listen to me! Linda! " made me laugh out loud, it's such a cute reference, I wonder how many of us caught it 😄👇

[@rhonda6791]

I’ve read the comments and it’s why I stopped watching any videos with Gary in them. He also gives me the creeps, not a thing to do with age, more to do with being a controlling, angry misogynist. Throw in a bit of I’m so much smarter and better than everyone and you’ve got it. Btw Gary, we are not jealous of you.

[@irinasam6442]

I personally like both Valeria and Gary together as a couple and individually. I think he adores Valeria, being Eastern Europe such as myself we are direct, even blunt people. On the other hand I see why people may criticize their dynamic, since they often used their age gap to attract an audience and people associate that with lots of negative stereotypes.

[@deborahostmo]

Facts are not everything- I Believe intuition is worth something.And it’s hard to argue against facts when someone gives it to you straight up and doesn’t want to hear anything else but stick to the facts -but there should be room to express your feelings and speak from your heart not just your head . I love hearing you guys share Your dynamics so openly. 🧡

[@PascallePointing]

Love these chats! I love seeing your relationship - I don’t understand how people can have an opinion of someone else’s relationship 😂 people having an issue with Gary is definitely a reflection of themselves. My husband has trates like Gary and I appreciate and love them in him! They make our family stronger ❤

[@MJ-zg4qg]

You guys are amazing! Honestly I do think that some people aren’t used to having someone honest and sincere around them. Gary would die for Valeria in a second, he seems extremely loyal and well-mannered. He isn’t a nice guy, but he is kind and genuinely interested in what she is saying.

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

❤❤❤

[@juliaroman3120]

Great conversation. It’s surprising how a Traditional man in the family gets so much criticism. We need more men like that in the US and Canada.

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

❤ glad you enjoyed this one!!

[@jessicacherem4670]

Yeeesss!!!

[@marianahoward8069]

💯 I think culture does play a huge role on how we communicate and what is acceptable to communicate to others. I’m Venezuelan and have a very direct way of communicating with my husband, but he grew up in an American household that doesn’t communicate their thoughts or feelings at all. I’m glad we’re able to work on things together and he appreciates direct (and respectful) communication.

[@annywind7609]

Gary has lived MOST of his life in Canada/US or whatever. He can't even speak proper Ukrainian/Russian, as he hasn't lived there since he was a teenager! So I don't believe in "culture" argumet here. And by the way, saying as a Russian, being direct is not the same as being arrogant.

[@lillyh.4505]

That's the Gary I love since year!!! Thanks for this great Episode. I took so much, that I want to implement in my marriage.

[@daryadoronina2759]

I think we need to trust Valeria that she's choosing what's best for her - and if she loves Gary, she must love his communication. If she didn't, she wouldn't stand it for so long

[@hasmikhrachian302]

Why would he call you young when you’re 60? Getting older is okay

[@cassandrahaas8114]

I think it's great you revisited these comments and tried to see from another perspective while not letting it rock your foundation - truly we do not know everything that is going on in someone else's partnership, good or bad. I have seen extremely logical/direct people be labeled as harsh and while I do think it is unfair, there is also a time and place for it. I think the only time it doesn't land during these conversations, from Gary's perspective, is when there's a wide assumption made about the person leaving the comment. For example, thinking people leaving these comments are not in relationships or married, this statement really requires more nuanced thinking, in my opinion. I do love the dialogue regarding not having to sensor yourself for your partner, this is so true. There needs to be that acceptance of the other person. ALSO I personally can lean more emotional in my personal life and tend to get anxious - a logical voice is beyond appreciated for individuals like myself. Thanks for sharing!

[@Vidaltovarc]

One thing to consider is that sometimes when there is lots of people saying one thing they might be right. And is better to say” well maybe they are right” and reflect about it .than justify everything.

[@Nikki.....]

most people are average and have very bad lives, most people eat unhealthy food and can't socialize without alcohol and get shocked and criticize you and try to peer pressure you into being like them, most people waste their lives away talking about things and never taking action. most people are not successful by even their own definition. many people hate looking at themselves in the mirror and they don't even like themselves as a person. most people know they need to take better care of themselves and exercise and be healthy but they don't. I could keep going but I think I made the point I was trying to make.

[@reneebaldwin4666]

I think an important fact, is that there are very few factual things about this world.

[@Alorajones19]

I think gary was just raised traditionally. I understand the comments that say he comes off as arrogant because of how strong minded and set in stone he is, but in a way its better for some women to have a leader of the family. Valeria can be in her feminine energy with a guy like Gary by her side. We need men, men need women. Not all marriages are peaches and sunshine 24/7. The world forgets for better, for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, like those are not just meaningless words. Valeria i know ur not religious (at least i dont think u are) but pls teach your boys to know God so when life burdens them they turn to him instead of seeking answers from the world. Dont follow your heart bc it will deceive you, follow the Lord. God bless you and your family.

[@legohouse-l2b]

Poor poor girl, working so hard and being in such a bad position with this controlling grandpa who is using her since age 19, to give all these births in her 20ies all as consequence of her not having stable father figure in childhood, she is in need of dad. :( And please don't say its Easter European thing, his behaviour is not acceptable to any of people I know and we are all easter europeans in healthy marriages. It's generational trauma she is carrying and he is just sick narcissist using that shamelessly.

[@priyankadsa3488]

Common he didn't force her to marry him ..she chose him and both seem happy and doing their things

[@icantwiththis]

I agree. My father was e. Euro and he would have found g dispicable

[@flusterbunny_scribbles]

Lol. She is so well cared for that she still looks in her twenties despite being 34. She is strong within but also very well loved, come on.

[@legohouse-l2b]

@@flusterbunny_scribbles She looks young bcs of nose job she had, look at her before photos to see her real face. Well, if her dream is to be taken care by grumpy grandpa with anger issues, I guess she is happy now. I think she deserves better.

[@MariannasRealm]

Halfway through this thinking we all need GARY in our lives!!

[@Luluguajardonino]

Respect you both! Thanks for sharing.

[@miriamroxana1419]

You are a great couple! My husband of 33 years and I are exactly the same . And the reason why we are still married ,Mutual respect is number one. Loveeeee this podcast

[@GtotheAtotheOG]

I feel you were more authentic before, now you’re just spewing out things you learn from self help books till you find yourself again. So once you change again you’ll be lecturing everyone on that. It feels very forced everything. I feel like raw human experience not contrived by capitalist drive to sell spirituality is what people are looking for now. You don’t have to do family content but you can be yourself online doing the things you normally do without making everything a pathway to a new earth and a new you. I wish you’d take this criticism into consideration

[@gloramanuilova4970]

I don't think Gary's interruptions in the last episode he was in is an indication of his disrespect in the relationship itself, as the viewer isn't privy to your lives and dynamic outside social media. However, as this is a podcast -- the third party (many of us) just want to listen to Valeria finish a viewpoint before she gets sidelined by an interruption. That goes for any podcast--whether hosts are married or not. You just want yell through the screen, "Omg! Let her finish the thought, man!!" This episode was much easier to listen to, though 👌

[@miriamroxana1419]

Love when Gary says you don’t need to develop it ( the skills of emotional )you got me!

[@CHRISTINEFOX-b5i]

No, Gary .Call it what it is. You are an unrefined man, who gives other alpha males a bad name. We are not all wrong. I have been married to an alpha for over 20 years. If anyone spoke me in the way you speak to Valeria, my husband would probably be picking up their car with them in it, out of rage. And this is a man with five university degrees, SUCCESSFUL, and loved by almost everyone who knows him. I will stop now. Apologies, Valeria. I hope you eventually find someone who loves and treats you with respect., Treats you how a woman should be treated. My mother, God rest her soul, had a name for people like Gary -- it sounded like (BORKUN)...(phonetic)... I wish you all the best, and hope you discover one day that which you do not yet know.

[@bebitamira3054]

We are not triggered by the age difference. I just don’t like your husband. He can take charge all he wants ( of the relationship, of the house whatever, if that gives him some POWER that he needs. Fine! He comes across as a know it all, talks over you, interrupts you, he wants to be a macho man, but above all he seems so arrogant. He doesn’t seem confident he seems insecure and his way of overcoming that is by being so arrogant. He does need to be soft, or polite all the time I get that, but he is always critical of you, and he thinks he is the best, and better than YOU valeria. You are not perfect and I do not agree with you on many things, but you don’t need to be aggressive and arrogant like your husband is and it SHOWS. Anyway just giving you My opinion, you know your relationship better than all of us, I’ll give you both that. And yes , not every relationship is perfect. And I give better financial advice in my household than my husband does 😂

[@hanee8049]

Loved this talk. I see Gary as a strong protecter. And now he might explore more gentlemanly qualities also. There is nothing more attractive than a strong gentleman❤

[@MsMooselet]

I wish I had a friend like Gary!

[@sonnylovesfreddy340]

Reading the comments is so interesting. There is nothing special about them as a couple. Good or bad. They are clearly a good match and have built a life together that has allowed them to have family, friends, material comforts, freedom, companionship, support, etc. There are countless couples who have what they have and I guarantee that if any of the people who make these judgements were to go on camera and share their conversations and their personal dynamic, people would have something negative to say. Its just normal. And if anyone sees how Valeria behaves or reacts and thinks they need to save her...they need to focus on their own lives. She's doing fine. Also, this is a business. These videos are a business. The amount of comments that these interactions generate...is part of what makes this business work. These are very smart, shrewd business people. Good for them.

[@jessicacherem4670]

Love this!!!

[@MilleyGirl]

16 K views and 353 likes is a red flag in itself. Could that many viewers be wrong? I haven't even watched this video yet and to be honest, I'm only watching it out of my curiosity after seeing the family vlog to TEXAS for the kids dream concert. The red flags in that video especially with his own children peaked my curiosity to how others perceive Gary and his relationship with his wife. My legitimate concern came after Gary asked Benny why he was crying upon learning he would be meeting his idol. He is then seen hiding his feelings (tears of joy) and going to his mother for affirmation of said feelings. Please tell me what kind of a father invalidates a child's feelings? In public and on camera? And then has the audacity to do this interview? The red flags within the family unit are alarming. As a former teacher and DV trainer with 2 masters degrees, i am here to voice my concerns of what i recognize as abu$e. "Just because he has not hit you doesn't mean you're not being abu$ed" is something I've had to tell countless victims who questioned their toxic partner or parent or sibling or coworker. The things people have commented here are based upon what they've seen in videos. I anticipate hearing a lot of downplaying and gaslighting in this video. 3 minutes in and Gary is already degrading women with tactics used by abu$ers. I write this comment out of care and concern and hope it raises awareness to anyone to anyone who suspects abu$e. October is DV Awareness month and my intent is to let other survivors know they are not alone. And if you see something, say something. DV thrives in secrecy!

[@jessicacherem4670]

Omg! For you to see all this is crazy! This comment is exactly why they call you the crystal generation hahaha

[@111aleja]

We love you both!!!

[@ludmilaandriouchtchenko7189]

Guys, you shouldn't look too far, your communication style is tied to your cultural background. I think you should make an episode on the differences in communication styles between the East and the West. I'm sure your Russian background has influenced your appreciation for directness. I'm guessing even your humour is blunter :D

[@bublik8351]

You’re great together. Never change!

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

❤ thank you!

[@hilderenshof2476]

And this ladies and gentleman, is why you do not judge and assume. Especially not about someone elses marriage. And especially especially not about a marriage that exists so so long and both partners seems incredibly happy. Keep it to yourselves

[@a.__mie7544]

The lack of self reflection in Gary is very apparent. That‘s what we notice. He‘s unprocessed. The way he said every conversation between her freaking out and him calling the doctor would have been useless😂 he has much to learn yet

[@CHRISTINEFOX-b5i]

Being direct does not translate into acceptable coarseness. Yes, I am sure Gary is a fine father; however, Gary would make any woman's feminine soul freeze over, I am sorry, I just have to stop myself. I just could not accept this sort of behavior is still tolerated of a man because he is a, quote, unquote a good man. This does not necessarily translate into a good husband. The verbal abuse is mind blowing. Valeria is so used to it, she just figures she will handle his verbal abuses, because what? Why? His behavior will become less tolerable once the boys are out of the house. if her soul can survive that long

[@icantwiththis]

BC she was groomed before her frontal lobe closed