Viall Files Episode 215- Holding Space With Ben Smith

[@Amourd08]

I like that Ben was so respectful of Tayshia in this interview and had only positive things to say about his experience b/c she truly and genuinely treated every single guy there with kindness, empathy and respect. I didn't like how Nick was fishing for him to say something negative about Tayshia. And it took Ben talking about how he appreciated how she handled things with care and highlighting how she must have been feeling in those moments to have Nick backtrack and see things from her perspective. She was a great Bachelorette period! Overall it was a good interview to watch. Also, I don't think Ben should be the next Bachelor, it would do more harm than good to his mental and emotional well-being.

[@skye9092]

You could tell Nick was trying so hard to have Ben agree with him about Tayshia but he didn’t and kept saying nice things 😂

[@karlabc9251]

Rayaba was legit THE BEST BACHELORETTE OF ALL TIME! What an amazing human being!

[@roter13]

He can't say anything bad if he wants to make himself look for a potential run at the bachelor.

[@vanessaowiredu2983]

@@roter13 this is how he is . He was kind to Clare as well. When it looked like everything was over

[@shellstover4384]

@@roter13 Ben was the best man on that show

[@erical7051]

He’s going to make an amazing husband and father someday. What a great guy!

[@julianasuplee6900]

YES

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lifetime-connections/202006/warning-signs-the-covert-narcissist%3famp

[@roseyp7047]

I feel like people (Nick especially) are confusing Ben being open and vulnerable with being communicative. Yes, he was extremely raw and vulnerable, with what he’s been through in his past but that doesn’t negate the fact that he has an extremely difficult time communicating what he’s feeling in the moment. Those are two completely separate things, why is it such a difficult concept to comprehend? I’m the exact same way. I’m super open about my past but I’ll completely shut down if I feel uncomfortable in the moment. I’ve also dated a man like that and it’s extremely difficult on both ends. I completely understand, needing a man that’s not afraid to verbalize his feelings and emotions ( especially if you have a hard time doing it yourself). You’ll baLance each other out. My ex and I ( 12 years) hardly ever fought, because we barely communicated about the tough stuff, which is why we went nowhere. I’m rambling and on a rant, my apologies lol

[@SCT11]

Nick is pissed that Tayshia treated Ben better than either of his two Bachelorettes treated him (he’s still bitter about getting down on one knee for Kaitlyn) and is trying to instigate Ben talking shit about Tayshia. But Ben didn’t take the bait because...well Ben is an actually good person who took the four months between filming wrapping and now to responsibly heal and manage his emotions. Something Nick still doesn’t care about doing. Kudos to Ben for understanding there’s a life outside of this franchise and surrounding himself with good people. Nick still hasn’t learned to leave the past in the past. And honestly, because of the grace Ben showed, if for some chance it doesn’t work out with Tayshia and Zac (I think it will because they are meant for each other) I actually think she’d give Ben another chance.

[@susantaylor1804]

You are 100% correct.

[@eugeniesimms9033]

Zac was the right guy for Tayshia, you could see their chemistry from a few weeks back. Nick why wouldn't you think Tayshia would of been a little annoyed at Ben. Glad Ben stayed a gentleman & how handled her goodbye. Nick your a little negative about Tayshia I think, I'd like to see you interview her, but you have your own opinion.

[@deer1843]

Man Nick was really trying to make Ben talk sh** about Tayshia! 😭😂 Leave her alone I’m glad she broke up with guys with grace, gave them a last moment. I’m sure a lot of the guys are grateful for that.

[@melissaf991]

Nick is such a gaslighter lol. Acting like tayshia had no right to be mad at Ben for coming back. But then tells Ben “you could’ve been made like why did you bring me back” first of all she didn’t bring him back, he came back and she was like okay well let’s figure this out. But she didn’t like send Chris Harrison to fetch Ben and bring him back. The whole season she’s telling him she wants him to open up and be authentic about his feelings. And as much as he talks about his own struggles, he never seemed to consistently show her he wanted to do more than just date her. And so she gets rid of him, and she has two dudes left and then he comes back?? Like mentally she already has to figure out what she wants to do, Brendan just left, she has to figure out where her head is at and what she wants, and then he comes back which complicates things even more. Clearly she was super stressed and overwhelmed. She’s a human, he’s allowed to be upset.

[@anneclaire4813]

absolutely!! i can’t stand the way nick talks about Tayshia!! He’s so condescending!! It makes me wonder if it stems from more hateful motivations like misogyny or even racism. It’s definitely not a good look for him. Everyone is talking about what a fantastic lead Tayshia has been, but nick ALWAYS has something patronizing to say about her. He has not had this energy for other leads, not even peter 🤢

[@melissaf991]

@@anneclaire4813 Yeah he really seems to dislike Tayshia - he’s very quick to judge her decisions even though he’s defended other bachelors or bachelorettes for shitty choices they’ve made. I wonder if he’s close with people in the bachelor community who don’t like Tayshia so he has that bias?

[@anneclaire4813]

@@melissaf991 maybe! but i find it hard to believe that anyone dislikes tayshia lol she’s so friendly and genuine! Maybe he shot his shot with her and she rejected him. That would be so hard for his fragile little ego

[@melissaf991]

@@anneclaire4813 That’s an interesting perspective! I totally agree she really does light up a room, she’s a great listener, she’s compassionate and fun, but she’s still mature - I find her so extremely likeable. Idk, maybe he’s jealous because he was one of the least likeable bachelors (from what I’ve heard)?

[@caylaf174]

@@anneclaire4813 I agree with the fact that he really doesnt like her. I doubt it's about racism/misogyny- I just think their personalities dont mesh well. Which idk why because they are both my two favorite people from the bachelor/ette franchise 😭 Also, from what hes said, hes really good friends with Clare, so I feel like out of the gate he was more defensive over Clare and what people were saying about her vs Taysia and maybe that kinda contributed? Idk.

[@djcincin8342]

I believe that Ben's past background in military effects his emotions. I kno I am able to disassociate very well and expressing reaction to my feelings are difficult at times, even verbally. If my expectation is low of ppl, then a person can't disappont me. Its a defensive mechanism for me . It guards my heart. Idk if its a great thing , but it has its good and bad points. Ben is my fave! I could go on... I must digress . He deserves happiness.

[@nathaniel4780]

Ben, I see you, I hear you, and I wish you all the best. As a man who has also struggled to express his emotions, I truly appreciate you being so open and honest. Thanks for being you, Ben! - "Favorite 10%er Nate"

[@rachelwalters256]

I like Ben a lot and can definitely see his growth. I hope he does another podcast interview soon with someone I can actually stand. I always try to give this show a chance but Nick’s tendency to make surface-level, rude opinions and present them as fact is such a turn off.

[@juliawalsh1316]

LITERALLY LMAOOO

[@Jaimielozar]

Kaitlyn bristow did her podcast is called off the vine

[@angelacole4411]

Ben needs to thank the producers for getting him back on because of it was up to Tayshia he would’ve gone home. Ben, he has a lot of self-reflection that needs to happen because the fact he was caught off guard going home is astounding considering Tayshia gave him more opportunities to express his compassion for their relationship than he deserved. Also, Nick has no place in providing relationship advice or perspective, let alone encouraging Ben’s behavior.

[@vanessaowiredu2983]

No one forced tayshia to kiss Ben when he came back and asked for a hug . Also she said she had no regrets bringing him back . She actually was very attracted to him .

[@shellstover4384]

@@vanessaowiredu2983 I agree 💯 you can tell she had strong feelings for Ben

[@angelacole4411]

Strong feelings or strong hope that with her support he could open up for them, help them progress in their journey?

[@gj1695]

I'm glad Ben is at peace with how the season played out... But Nick, how is it "nuts" that Tayshia was upset by Ben's return?! It would have been nuts of her to be anything else. Tayshia had to *pull* emotion out of Ben from the very beginning. Remember when he went to Tayshia's room (and Ed went to Chris's 😉) and she asked him to "show up?" Ben *vowed* he would, still didn't "show up" as much as the other men, then decided to put himself out there after Tayshia made her decision to say goodbye. Tayshia gave Ben plenty of chances. Even on the art date, the other guys showed up (except maybe Blake) while Ben took off his clothes. He did talk about his mental health in their private conversation, later. But that conversation was him "showing up" for himself -- for his own healing, not for their relationship. I admire his transparency. And I sympathize with his challenges. But when Tayshia had guys like Zac, Ivan and Brendan around... *of course* she was mad at Ben for wasting her time and emotional energy. Tayshia deserves a man with whom she doesn't have to set ultimatum after ultimatum. And she has found that man in Zac. ❤️ Ben was fighting *against* rejection and for his own emotional development -- not *for* love.

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

Well said.

[@nayaspatton3369]

Amen!

[@quinnysworld1086]

Nick doesn't think sometimes

[@kristenwells8453]

Spot on

[@anneclaire4813]

absolutely! I think he was fighting harder for screen time than he was for Tayshia!!

[@sytycdvigirl]

Why is Nick so negative. Good for Ben for taking the high road and not taking Nick's bait but staying positive about Tayshia and about the experience.

[@julianasuplee6900]

Why so bitter, Nick?

[@christiepa1112]

Love Ben, he was my pick. Let’s vote him as the future Bachelor

[@barbaraangiolella4432]

Maybe because it's hard for him to imagine that someone can be ok after this process. Clearly Nick had a harder time, we all process things differently. Love the fact that Ben is articulating himself so well in this interview.

[@immaculatenzimande9929]

I've noticed he never liked Tayshia even from Colton's season n he didn't want her to be bachelorette. N if you notice his comments on her generally insinuate he finds her annoying.

[@jennacarlton4803]

Thank you Ben for bringing awareness to our Veteran Community 💕

[@nathansykesnicely736]

Anytime Ben was asked about Tayshia he would say SHE MAKES ME FEEL SO GOOD. Nothing even about her just how she makes him feel???

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

He’s a covert narcissist

[@Delifine]

That was unwise to say but if we are being honest we often fall in love with people because of the way they make us feel.

[@mirabellegiammona]

i hope ben gets his happy ending soon. such a sweetheart and is always a class act ♥️

[@Alli_bossmama]

To clarify-Tayshia never yelled at Ben (or anyone else) NICK. So sick of you pushing that narrative.

[@susantaylor1804]

Nick has some sort of resentment toward Tayshia.....so petty.

[@Anna95cro]

Love Ben, my favorite. The way how he expresses himself, has a lot of empathy and shuts down when it comes to saying how he feels is exactly how I am, which tells me those of us who are deeply scarred by our emotions share a similar language.

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

He’s a covert narcissist. It’s in the playbook.

[@anniefenter8697]

I thought he expressed himself really well. There's so much more to him than was given out on the show.

[@paulinam8202]

I’m so glad Ben is taking this as a growing experience and that Nick is going to keep an eye on him, he looks so genuine and sweet that I hope he doesn’t take any trolls seriously ❤️

[@quinnysworld1086]

What's Nick saying, Zac expressed his love before fantasy suites. Do your homework

[@Buzz0Killington]

I’m convinced he doesn’t watch the show.

[@isabellakohl8571]

yes, but she sent ben home after hometowns for not confessing his love, even though no one else had done it yet

[@isabellakohl8571]

(except like Bennet)

[@josielulgjuraj4694]

He also keeps calling him Brandon so don’t take it personally

[@youtubex3957]

He doesn’t like Tayshia and it shows in everything he has to say about her including the man she chose. It’s pathetic

[@miriamdolores6363]

There Nick goes again being soo critical of Tayshia

[@clairephil2591]

what's his problem with her

[@msnandimarie7023]

This is my first time watching and I stopped within the first minute and started reading the comments. Nick is the last person to criticize Tayshia. He is a sleazy immature individual.

[@selmerashley]

Very obvious since this whole season began and since day 1, that you Nick don’t like Tayshia. Anytime someone compliments her you’re very reluctant to affirm and validate that. It’s very disappointing. What’s up with that ? Team Tayshia.

[@bat.winged.spooky.moose18]

She probably shut em down at some point in some way

[@reneeossman1234]

God Bless You Ben for you empathy, sympathy and reality of the fact of helping the needs of addressing issues of suicide, eating disorders and what ever else to help others in this world. Your dedication of the importance of these issues show how worthy you are to be here for one and for two how the good Lord has chosen you be an advocate for the world to see, hear and help. May only good things go your way...you are awesome!

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

He’s a covert narcissist. That was all an act

[@reneeossman1234]

@@ilovepotatoesforever9818 WHY SO MEAN...BE KIND!

[@susanlovendahl9803]

Loved this episode! Honest, heartfelt exchange with all 3 of you guys. Best interview Nick. Ben is really a man of worth and will find the love of his life. Fantastic content and respect for this process. I'm a big bachelor nation fan. Ben is a new favorite.

[@tam.m5]

Sometimes I wonder if we’re watching the same show Nick lol Tayshia never “yelled” at Ben and Zac told her his feelings before the fantasy suites. Also, you always want the top 2/3 to talk shit about the other like why??? these guys were shown with the least amount of drama even their “dramatic moments” weren’t as dramatic as we’ve seen before. Tayshia was hands down the best Bachelorette in my opinion maybe since Trista in the first season. She handled it all with class with being thrown in the middle of the process. I laughed when Ben says “he (Zac) was incredibly eager to find out what was going on” cause from what I saw when Ben came back to the ceremony he was the one who initiated the “what do you think’s going on over there?” and “oh they’re walking to the car” to Zac lol. Also, I find it weird when Noah said on his podcast interview on here that Ben didn’t know that Tayshia was previously married before. They’re relationship to me was like watching two people who had crushes on each other, it was like that middle school feeling between them. Ben just wasn’t emotionally ready for all of it and that’s fine. Ben had just came to the realization that he even was in love with her and could admit it so he wasn’t ready for a further commitment regarding engagement and I’m going to be honest if we didn’t have Matt James as the bachelor already Ben in my opinion wouldn’t be a good choice because he wouldn’t be ready that quickly. He’s got a lot of more growing to do emotionally. Everything works out for a reason. I wish the best for him!

[@angelacole4411]

Ben has a very convoluted idea of what “showing up” means, especially when it comes to his partner, not just himself

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

He’s a covert narcissist

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

@Elizabeth Wagner in other words-he doesn’t seem ready to be on tv

[@foodandwinefromhoneyblonde8346]

I’m happy Ben is doing good I was kind of worried about him for a minute

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

He wants you to worry. He’s a covert narcissist and that’s how he gets his supply.

[@xyz_KrystalWallace_zyx]

@@ilovepotatoesforever9818 Sis your desperation is showing, pipe down now😂

[@caylaf174]

Nick does not like Tayshia at all 😂 Trying not to be offended each week about it 😂😂😂😂😂 So stupid since I dont know either of you, but you are both awesome to watch! And Ben 😍 Def my favorite guy of the season. So down to earth, vulnerable and all around just a good guy 💛

[@mariangarcia706]

Thank you for your service, Ben!

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

He left the military.

[@anniefenter8697]

He did serve tho, so thanks Ben!!!! We love our Veterans!!

[@mariangarcia706]

Yea!!!

[@evalovestolove6591]

I really like Nick as an interviewer because he gives the audience what they want. Which is to expose who these people really are and satisfy our curiosity. People hating on him for asking things as if he's trying to get Ben to say something bad about Tayshia is not ill willed. They aren't seeing past the surface. He knows it will show the audience who Ben really is, a respectful gentleman. Ultimately Nick shows all his guests respect. He knows they are grown adults and will respond how they choose. I can't believe how much people knit pick him lol.

[@athena4519]

Damn nick... did she kill your puppy?

[@raq886]

What is nick and reality steve problem with tayshia? Stop gas lighting her,it's very bizarre and unkind. All the best to ben.

[@irenathompson9776]

Their obsessed with her aka in love, lol!🤣

[@Tee1312Jay]

It's actually cringeworthy

[@susantaylor1804]

Agree 100%

[@g2gcyaa]

Was a big Ben fan from the beginning but this made me love and understand him even more. His empathy for others is unmatched. So much respect for this incredible man!

[@karibu1361]

* Messy/Jealous Nick. (Please stop it!) ... He went through many shows/women for fame; not to find love...Rachel dogged a bullet with him & found true love; he is jealous of her...Nick is jealous of Tayshia, also. She is too smart to ever do his show. Nick wanted Ben to speak badly of Tayshia, he can't. ~ Tayshia is a class act & much loved. ... Flashback: Ivan was next to go home, but Brendan (hoping 2 b the bachelor; up & quit. The producers brought back Ben (also hoping 2 b the bachelor) just for show purposes... He didn't want Tayshia & Tayshia never, again, wanted man in her life, where she had to do all the work in the relationship. (If Ben had said he loved her, it would have never, mattered.) She loved Zac & Zac loved her...They have real love...You can feel it ~ You can see it! You can almost even smell it! Congratulations & Best of all Wishes to Tayshia & Zac. ❤️❤️

[@skye9092]

I don’t understand how people can say all he wants is to be the bachelor or he is not sincere after this interview. Also wanting to be the lead does not make you a bad person I’m sure every contestant has thought about being the lead and would take that position if offered.

[@BATOOLESK]

i agree and also matt james is the next bachelor so its a long shot for any of the guys to be lead in the near future

[@milwaukeemotor5995]

i wish NIck would have asked him, does he want to be a woman for a committed exclusive relationship? does he want to get married, they didn't discuss it

[@melissapartsafas2556]

I see none of that. Ben is super sincere and genuine. I guess people are used to seeing or assuming the worst in others. When a good and genuine guy is present people just want to believe there is an alterior motive.

[@7lillie]

Ben may be sweet but it was always about him and his feelings, he should have asked her a few questions about what she needed and wanted.

[@samtula5946]

I felt the same.. he seems like a good guy but watching him in the season.. the date where he took his clothes off and talked about his bulimia experience it sounded like it was about healing himself not necessarily to “show up” for her. Even now, it’s about how the experience helped him and his growth which is great but I don’t know if he really was in love with her... it’s more about his own healing and growth

[@kristenwells8453]

Yup. He’s take take take. What can you give her? Everything out of his mouth centers on himself

[@anneclaire4813]

he’s a narcissist!

[@Freeandclear81]

@@anneclaire4813 no he's not. I wish people wouldn't cavalierly throw this around. I am an actual therapist and I've worked with veterans with PTSD. This man does NOT meet the criteria to be a narcissist. People may not like Ben talking about his feelings all the time and that's fair BUT it does not make him a narcissist. He comes across as genuine and earnest. He wasn't Tayshia's match and he still needs to grow, but this isn't a bad person at all. I was impressed by this interview.

[@anneclaire4813]

@@Freeandclear81 whoop well all I can say is I wouldn’t hire u if you were impressed by this phony lol but ok

[@Naisy77]

Nick is...not my favorite host interviewer at all he always circles back to himself and phrases things weird

[@roseyp7047]

This 👆🏼

[@marksmith-jp5gy]

why wouldn't he .. it is about him after all lol

[@clararose9375]

he has gotten worse over the years too

[@Tee1312Jay]

Same

[@susantaylor1804]

I think he's a narcissistic a--hole as well.

[@candacesoucy243]

Ben your a great guy I know you'll meet the woman you deserve. Your a class act! ❤

[@karlabc9251]

So I know Ben Stays away from comments but man I hope he reads this one. WHAT A STAND UP GUY!!!!! WOW. Also Nick I love you haha your my fave love hearing you talk about your experience and relate with these guys 🥰❤️

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

It’s a lie. He deleted the first version of this video and is deleting comments he doesn’t like

[@karlabc9251]

@@ilovepotatoesforever9818 who is deleting comments Ben?

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

@@karlabc9251 Nick and his producer.

[@twothirdsmore]

@@ilovepotatoesforever9818 do you mind me asking what was said? I didn’t see the comments or the first video

[@JuliaSalvia]

"if you can help one person, it was worth it" 110% why i do my job as a creator and share such deeper topics within my career. to be able to help just that one person makes it so rewarding and worth while, truly.

[@isa-qz8fg]

It's so interesting to me how reflective men are AFTER a relationship ends, but while they are in the relationship is so much more surface level in a sense? No hate at all, just noticed this pattern in personal situations as well!

[@roseyp7047]

@clairedenn11 Yesss!!!! I couldn’t have said it better myself 👏👏👏

[@sudukemsn]

A lot of them aren’t reflective at all, they just move from relationship to relationship not learning a thing

[@nikkirass8072]

Zac fold Tayshia he loved her BEFORE the fantasy suites.... are Krissy and Nick watching the show?? Lol

[@amypachuau2999]

He told her in that lie detector test and after that...that was way early for Bach standard

[@michelleberenice]

He said something like he thought he was already in love with her. When they were speaking on the couch about him cheating on the girlfriend, he said he was falling for her and she said she was too, but it wasn’t until fantasy suites that they both actually said it to each other.

[@adwoamk8918]

He seems genuine, but this does seem like a bachelor audition. He saying all the right things.

[@shellstover4384]

Did you watch the show?? Ben always been this way, leave him alone. Jealous much 🤷

[@Redandwhiteroses283]

@@shellstover4384 chill she literally said he seems genuine

[@julianasuplee6900]

Agreed! Seems kind and genuine. Yes, this does sound like an interview for bachelor 2022. Maybe he’ll be on paradise. Regardless, best wishes Ben.

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

He’s a covert narcissist. He was acting on script.

[@skywalk78none94]

@@ilovepotatoesforever9818 ?

[@hannahdouglas2692]

Why do you get the facts wrongs when it’s literally your job to get them right? Just watch the show and do a podcast or don’t watch the show and don’t do a podcast. Not hard

[@nicholashormuth3001]

Or you don’t have to watch the podcast! Not that hard.

[@LovedByYou]

Literally

[@HodanG01]

21:55 Ben has my heart. When his like Tayshia checked all his boxes and she was supposed to be the mother of his kids 😭 This man is still in love. 😍 They’ll finds their way back to each other out in cali .. someday

[@miahbands8709]

YES YES YESSSS

[@stepherann]

no way

[@SCT11]

Lols. After that long pause where he was clearly still thinking about her, Nick awkwardly tried to turn the conversation around to be like “glad you can be able to be self reflective on what you FELT about her. You know, since she’s engaged and has moved on Ben.” Poor Ben still isn’t over Tayshia and it sucks to see it.

[@shellstover4384]

Ben is amazing 😍

[@Bibirallie]

You are really naive.

[@wendygalligan2552]

He didn't have a right to be angry Nick, she sent him home LOL

[@BridgetJonesDiary]

Everyone is saying they want Ben to be the bachelor and though he is a nice man, I think he has some healing to do through therapy and time. I don’t think he is ready for the mega pressure of having to be the bachelor and choose a wife right now on tv. It’s very stressful and comes with a lot of judgement and I don’t think he is ready to handle a situation that stressful yet. For now, he should just continue working on himself because the traumas from his past are still fresh. Honestly I think he will find someone for him in real life and it will just work organically.

[@joanlynch5271]

I really thought that she would be with Ivan. I think that Tasha had the best poker of anyone who has been on the show.

[@LaceyLoveWalker]

Correction: Ben got dumped THREE times in the same season.

[@graceh9227]

Oou when was the third time with Claire?

[@christiepa1112]

Love Ben

[@ceciliaiwilliams6832]

Thank you for having Ben Smith on your show. He honestly was just such a great guy in spite of what to appeared to be his inability to be vulnerable until the end. Ben was one of my top 2 pick for Tayisha! :)

[@bunnyxoxo7498]

Nick you were on that show years ago. Give the sad story line a break, maybe you just have terrible judgement in women

[@susantaylor1804]

They don't pick Nick because they know something is insincere about him.

[@djcincin8342]

Omgoodness.... I so resonate with Ben's story. I jus want to make a difference. At times it can feel you are coasting in life. Therapy does help!

[@larainememola4374]

Welcome to the Bach family Ben!!! what a nice guy!!! thanks so much for sharing your truth to help others!! Merry Christmas All!!

[@Loveturmoiltoolkit]

What an emotionally intelligent KING 👑

[@Delifine]

I love how relaxed and outspoken Ben is here. On the show they edited him to look almost as if he was a bit slow.

[@milwaukeemotor5995]

very well spoken Ben, keep up the good work!

[@figgettit]

too much hard work for a woman to deal with. sorry, its not our job to help you FEEL EMOTIONS.

[@anneclaire4813]

YEAH!! nick and ben sound like sociopaths in this episode!! I can’t believe they released this misogynistic garbage 🤢🤢

[@robertwood7295]

Learning about Ben's sleep attire or lack thereof was quite enlightening.

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

How do?

[@reneeossman1234]

I don't think Ben has a mad, bad, selfish bone in his body...he is truly a stand-up guy and Tayshia lost out on one incredible guy. Very hopeful that Ben is our next Bachelor for sure! Great interview btw!

[@quinnysworld1086]

She has an incredible guy, So she did not lose out on anything

[@melissaf991]

Not a selfish bone in his body? He seems like a nice guy but also very self centered. Everything is about him - his experiences and struggles (which is awesome that he spoke on it but it’s not the same as him being vulnerable about his feelings for tayshia which is what she kept asking for), how he loves tayshia for how he feels when he’s with her (rather than for actual traits she’s possesses), how he continuously talks about how he’s incredibly empathetic and incredibly thoughtful and constantly sings his own praises which doesn’t come off as super humble. Idk he seems like a nice person, but definitely comes off as self centered and bringing everything back to himself and how things affect him.

[@melissapartsafas2556]

@@melissaf991 Well...he is being interviewed about HIS experience. And he did talk about how Tayshia felt like in the case of him coming back and her being upset.

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

@@melissaf991 covert narcissist. Run ladies! Danger.

[@lfc1265]

Why do people lie about seeing the show before going on it? He threw out “Kaitlyn and Andi” really quickly for never having seen the show. Just be honest and admit you’ve seen it, it makes you more likable

[@Naejakire3]

What a fucking self aware, introspective, beautiful fucking guy.

[@JustBeingFrancine]

Take a shot every time he says incredible LOOOL. Glad Ben is doing well.

[@samiraali9018]

No wonder why she unfollowed you on IG 🚫

[@reginapozzi1113]

Drink everytime you hear, runner up, kaitlyn, andi.

[@regw.4150]

Viall is upset because he criticized Tayshia’s season and now it is being considered one of the best and she is considered a better bachelorette than Clare. Jealous and disrespectful-

[@EmmaKapotes]

Ben was my favorite the whole season! We need Ben the Bachelor!

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

He could do the whole season solo with no contestants.

[@sarahjay720]

buds still legit heartbroken and nicks over here talking like it's nbd

[@whatsgoodmaman]

Lmao someone’s deleting the shitty comments about Ben

[@Buzz0Killington]

Yep! And they deleted the original video because it was filled with comments dragging Nick and Ben.

[@anneclaire4813]

I was wondering why I was the only one noticing all the red flags haha wow why do they post yt videos if they don’t want discourse??? phony narcissists tbh

[@shereewhitfield4338]

haha how embarrassing

[@phoenixflames9042]

wow sounds like they got rid of a lot of shitty people

[@phoenixflames9042]

@@anneclaire4813 YOU ARE NOT A THERAPIST YOU ARE A WEIRDO

[@juliemc8460]

We will have to see how Matt James season goes before throwing support for Ben as the next Bachelor. These newbies!

[@sudukemsn]

The men this season had substance

[@KarlaElaine100]

I could see Ben and Nick being good friends...

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

Two different types of narcissistic people

[@braydentheslayer]

Nick’s a narcissist (as always). Ben has been auditioning for the bachelor for a while now. Period.

[@shellstover4384]

Really?? How you know

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

This. He is a covert narcissist. All Of my warning posts on the last video were deleted where I pointed out the behavior. Good luck, ladies. With a man like Ben you need to protect yourself.

[@braydentheslayer]

@@shellstover4384 because it’s obvious when you get over the haze of his conventional hotness (Ben). The way he speaks in his confessionals when tayshia is there is very “this is what you do at this point in the journey” gameplay speak. Also him coming back after he got eliminated was to clean his image up before he becomes the bachelor. He left cold and emotionless (the breakup) and then suddenly comes back and leaves a saint (after a shower scene in a towel which is CLASSIC lead bachelor footage). She literally had to FORCE emotions out of him. He chef friend literally had to tell him he was in love with tayshia. He is not ready to be someone life partner. He’s a good guy but he’s a fuckboy that needs to learn a bit more about his emotions before leading an entire season by himself. Also look at his Instagram all season. Thirst traps for days. It was a giveaway they didn’t end up together. A newly engaged man doesn’t ask for that kind of attention.

[@braydentheslayer]

@@ilovepotatoesforever9818 covert narcissist. perfect description. what do you love about tayshia? “I love the way she makes ME feel.” Nothing about her.

[@braydentheslayer]

@@shellstover4384 also whenever he was asked what he loved about tayshia his answer multiple times was “I love the way she makes ME feel.” Nothing about her. Zac breaks down every part of tayshia that he loves. Details about HER. Ladies, learn to see past the bullshit and you’ll reign SUPREME lolol

[@ldd9672]

Ben came across much better in this interview than on the show. He came across as a weird guy on the show.

[@KellyShae100]

Finally figured out Ben's familiar Female friend, who said he had it in the bag. Antonia from 'Top Chef'. Now wondering if his return was ALL Business. JS

[@love.one.another]

Merry Christmas Everyone! Love and peace.

[@SCT11]

22:00 Yikes. Dude is still in love with her. I feel worse for him than I have for most F2’s. Poor guy

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

You mean he is still auditioning for the Bachelor.

[@kasey5602]

This is his bachelor audition

[@milwaukeemotor5995]

plus they had 2 or 3 weeks less with the lead than previous seasons (Clare's an exceptional season)

[@marksmith-jp5gy]

Ben is my favourite guy to ever be on this show.. He needs to be the next bachelor .. amazing story line

[@mirjamjohansen425]

Loved this episode!!! 😍

[@anhbarker]

Regarding the "Do you know me" question about hooking up with an older woman, did Ben forget about his make-out session with Clare?

[@devika8425]

Nick, that's not cool bro.

[@JessicaRoscoe]

the most shocking part of this interview is the fact that both Ben & Nick have purchased several pregnancy tests in the past.🤯 Umm I’m a female and I’ve never had a male buy me a test before wtf have I been doing it all wrong? lmfao

[@julietteSoul]

Yeah, that was weird af 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@thecpartygoingon]

Not ben knowing about wearing “breakup blue”👕😂 31:14

[@amypachuau2999]

After Rachel Lindsay's @#$ on him at happy hour podcast, I was low-key suspicious of him, but seems pretty genuine and sincere. 👍

[@reneeossman1234]

There you go it came from Rachel...next??

[@magnolia7321]

Rachel can be super judgmental, and her judgement isn’t always based on facts, but often on her hunch. If you remind her of someone she doesn’t like, that’s it, she writes you off before she gets to know you.

[@TheShannon130]

Rachel loves bashing good guys. Rachel’s opinion is so irrelevant.

[@BATOOLESK]

​@@magnolia7321 i used to like rachel but i guess she has the high school popular girl mentality , if she grew out of it she will be amazing

[@adwoamk8918]

@@magnolia7321 I know, she speaks like her a opinions are fact and then not.

[@scully392z]

Antonia is from Top Chef

[@pourladentelle]

Incase anyone is wondering about the oceans but too lazy to Google: *Arctic *Pacific *Atlantic *Indian Also, ddnt Ben kiss Claire. She's an older woman.

[@sudukemsn]

Guess it was forgettable 😂

[@anneclaire4813]

imo i think it was a red flag when he talked about the breakup and remembered the exact moment his body language changed but couldn’t remember ANYTHING Tayshia said when she broke up with him. I feel like if he really loved Tayshia, he wouldn’t help but over analyze the breakup. There’s no excuse he watched it the night before!! The way he’s talking makes it seem like he got off on watching himself on TV. I get a STRONG feeling that he’s obsessed with getting his fifteen minutes of fame. He really rubs me the wrong way. If he becomes bachelor over Ivan I will stop watching.

[@miahbands8709]

Lmao u took that the absolute wrong way

[@anneclaire4813]

@@miahbands8709 just a vibe ive gotten from him and all his interviews this whole season!

[@paulinam8202]

He just saw it on tv, don’t over-analize it 🙄

[@melissaf991]

I get a weird vibe by some of the language he uses when talking about himself. “I’m an extremely empathetic person” “I’m an incredibly thoughtful guy” he says things like that a lot, and if he is those things that’s great, it just doesn’t come off as humble to be constantly telling everyone how incredible you are. Like no one was asking “are you empathetic, are you thoughtful?” He just kind of answers questions by being like listen, I’m a great guy, which is kind of weird since that stuff is somewhat subjective

[@anneclaire4813]

@@melissaf991 exactly! he did this on the show too idk i get very bad energy from him. i think he needs to hire a pr person or something bc he is making himself look really bad in these interviews.

[@Tee1312Jay]

That's not objective interviewing, what the hell?! 👎

[@wennii2331]

Oh no oh no oh no no no no no

[@shellstover4384]

Ben the best hands down

[@itsanewday9669]

Nick, “Boughten” is not a word and it doesn’t exist in the English vocabulary

[@Futhi.Johnson]

Nick .where do you work ??

[@kathyglassford]

Love Ben

[@kyleeeldredge1267]

Hate to be negative but Nick looks really rough in this. He looks either really sick or really tired, or both. Whatever it was, I feel like it came into play with how he treated Ben in this interview.

[@djcincin8342]

Yesssssss on the hoodie Ben !!!!!... lov it!!!!!

[@fortuneteller1079]

Ben, I ❤️ you.

[@allergyfreetraveler8150]

Ben and Hannah B!

[@vanessaowiredu2983]

I can see that

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

What?!?

[@SupernaturalLove100]

Nick: “you’re not lacking in any emotional intelligence. Narrator: he was lacking. Lol Ben is a great and kind hearted man but he was not communicative when it mattered whatsoever and didn’t relay emotion well. Nick is either lying or blind due to his male species not being the best at observation especially emotionally 🥴🤷🏾‍♀️

[@adwoamk8918]

Men are so clueless, of course she wanted you tell her you love her. She's expecting a proposal in a few days.