dark feminine energy (& how to become irresistible using it)

[@VickitaTrivedi]

Give the video a 👍🏼thumbs up 👍🏼if you want a part 2 :)

[@purple3772]

Could you also post how to truly embody the dark feminine energy and stay that way? Thank you 😊

[@ariesdelfuego]

rule # 1 to not being a pick me. Never be afraid to lose a man.

[@yashna88]

This!!! Needed to read this and watch this video!❤

[@mariamarkovska9214]

It is kind of a no brainer but still. Whoever bullied you for your eyes and skin color was just envious. Funny, how so many women tan themselves and use make up to make their eyes look bigger but then bully girls who come with those features naturally.

[@VickitaTrivedi]

right?! thanks for sharing some love ❤

[@plumeria190]

Big eyes are one of the most beautiful features of (many) south asian girls. If someone bullies you for it they're just jealous🙄

[@sparkling_elegance]

Exactly this! Some people bully other people because they see qualities in that person that they themselves lack, and instead of trying to improve themselves, they seek to tear other people down instead.

[@irinaivanovic9792]

And the exact same bullying happens towards women who have smaller eyes, very light/fair skin, too. It happens a lot more than people realize.

[@johnsonjo8454]

@@VickitaTrivedi hi 💋

[@Britbrat31172]

“Firm and secure on the inside, soft and flowing on the outside” wait wait wait, you mean I’ve had it backwards this whole time? 🤨 lol

[@asamara673]

Ladies she is so right! I need some new friends. A support group to help us keep our standards 😭

[@elisabethsanchez9182]

“Dont ever make somebody’s value in ur eyes bigger, stronger, or more powerful than the value u see in urself” needed to hear this tonight! Profound statement ❤

[@sbella6719]

Very profound! And the flip side of that was when I started seeing MY value through his eyes, I became smaller, weaker and less powerful

[@Quebonitoeslobonito123]

@@sbella6719Ain’t that the truth? I remember having a dream, which looking back was probably more of a revelation: I was standing in front of my bathroom mirror, and he was two feet to the right of me. And me, instead of looking straight ahead, I was looking at HIS reflection, as he looked at my reflection. The difference was that he was just looking at me, and I was looking at him looking at me. Only after seeing him look at me, did I begin checking myself out in the mirror but it was sort of performative. That was my subconscious telling me, “hey friend, not to be mean but wha the hell?! You’re seeing yourself through his eyes. You’re begging him to see you as valuable. And you do everything with him in mind. Work on you liking you! You don’t even like this guy!”

[@mariabella19]

When she named the over expression of sexual energy, "you lack emotional control and you are hyper sexual. Your love life is very dysfunctional, there's a lot of jealousy that goes on, a lot of addiction, a lot of attachment issues, your sexual energy is almost all consuming and there's a lot of greed and hunger in this over expression of your dark feminine energy". I just thought of Scorpio and Capricorn

[@Bree_Bunny]

As a Capricorn with a Scorpio moon I feel attacked! 🥲😭 But I also wanna know what'chu mean. 🥲😅

[@zaraa.6549]

I’m a scorpio and when she said that I was like “damn that’s me😭😭😭”

[@chegu613]

The description is more Scorpio venus, but not really Scorpio sun. Capricorn is all about high standards, especially Capricorn Venus. They never settle for less.

[@moonlightxcv]

I’m a Scorpio moon. I related to that quote very heavily. I’ve been working on healing.

[@fluffythebluepersian4888]

Hah my husband and I are a scorp/cap couple (i'm the scorpio)

[@bethewish]

Loving ur no bullshit approach. Thank you for this tough love. 🙏

[@VickitaTrivedi]

means a lot, thank you!

[@materialgirly]

Vickita you’re honestly a miracle! Helping young girls and women realise their worth and not settle! You should be proud 💗💗

[@VickitaTrivedi]

thank you 🥺💖

[@BehindTheBush96]

This isn’t a miracle - in this day and age, we have the choice as women to not tolerate the bullshit that our female ancestors had to tolerate. You have the choice to not accept and reward the shitty behaviour from men that you don’t like by giving them access to you when they say or do something to you or other women that you do not like - all you have to do is to think for yourself (and think with your head and common sense) and make yourself so you’re not easily accessible to every man, regardless of how undeserving he is of having women in his life. Men are the ones desperate for us, not the other way around. Use that to your advantage. This is not a groundbreaking science. You do NOT need someone to tell you to not tolerate poor behaviour for you to not tolerate it - app you have to do is recognise when you don’t like something and then not go out of your way to tolerate it - because let’s be honest, if men aren’t treating you well and you’re still replying or hanging out with them, you are making an effort/going out of your way to have them in your life still. It costs much less time, money and energy to just stop entertaining them.

[@danielgmcbride8214]

​@BehindTheBush96 our female ancestors didn't have to deal with feminized men like we do today. That said, historically women were very dependant on men for safety and protection.... by their father, brothers and extended

[@nishat_zaman]

This video was amazing, I agree, using the things that you are insecure & ashamed of & making them your strengths is SO POWERFUL.

[@katiavenegas7444]

Youre so underrated, I can’t wait to see your channel grow and blossom girly sending you positive vibes and much love ❤️✨

[@VickitaTrivedi]

aw thank you! It's coming 👀

[@ShineAfter50]

Such wisdom from a young woman! You are so astute - I have learned these principles only in the past two years and I am sure I am twice your age. I appreciate your videos.

[@ambradeluna]

Love this video! Cannot explain it better! I hope it will help a lot a women and men out there. Was a people pleaser before and all you said is so true!

[@FryInTheOnionRings]

I've been a freaking door mat for years. No more! I am calling back my power! This was the 1st video I've seen from your channel, and I immediately subscribed. Thank you!❤

[@ambitiousjamie1563]

I appreciate you so much for this! I feel like no one talks about the importance of masculine energy. This past year I feel like the focus was way too much on feminine energy only making women the “perfect” nice girl… Me personally I’m like ummmm no getting rid of your masculine energy is giving away your Power 😢 Thank you so much for discussing the necessity of incorporating masculinity to balance out the feminine ❤

[@missfabidia]

That was so enlightenning ! ❤ More videos about dark feminine energy pleaaaaaaaase. I think I have both light and dark energy, but Im more leaning towards the 'cool girl' : I need to do more adjustments :) I was bullied by family members especially my mother for being skinny and having a very soft voice, now I know what to do 😊

[@whileblueberrysleeps2993]

I love that analogy of the supporting character. I absolutely can identify with having been that way in my past relationships. Truth!

[@111lxx5]

Youre literally my new favourite youtuber. Binge watching whilst im cleaning. Im a chronic people pleaser, i refuse to keep living like that!!

[@Effy6398]

I really love your second point, wear your weakness like it's armor. it can be never used against you.

[@MirandaBaksh]

This spoke to me so much, I didn't even realize my patterns and you described everything so well. So great to hear from an objective point of view 🙌🏽

[@gitanjalinandan]

You have eyes that say “one day I’m Speaking about dark feminine energy”. Awesome.

[@whileblueberrysleeps2993]

Girl you are amazing! I love your analogies about failing the audition. It made me laugh because it is so darn accurate about how I have lived my life. Thank you for your enlightened tale on this much needed message

[@SR-mv2mf]

Yes I love all things dark femininity- Venus is Scorpio me is happy in the dark feminine

[@honeyisnatural5]

Side note: She looks like Tracy Ellis Ross and Arianna Grande in one. ❤Adorable. Anyway. Love these videos. Great teacher.

[@aliyafichtner8843]

Man ghosted me soooo many months, I made some mistakes letting him into my life, ignoring some red flags, but the moment he started acting up, I did. have to let him go. It’s the most painful thing I’m got to have to go thru and deal with, but actually I should be sooooo proud of myself for sticking to my standards. I mean, he ghosted, I ghosted(read let him go), it makes sense, right?

[@azergothill]

Real talk. Btw i can't stop staring at ur eyes girl, they're so big and beautiful fr 😭

[@BabyFaceRose]

Absolutely love this video, beautiful, thank you! And honestly, that makes me upset that you said you were bullied for the size of your eyes when… THEYRE SOOO 😍😍😍😍 nah because THE GIRLS HAD ONLY WISHHED THEY HAD BIG BROWN EYES LIKE THIS WHAT???? I LOVEEE EM . Fuck the haters cause you always been poppinnnn❤❤❤❤

[@Soeyeascended]

You are to the point, and its AWESOME. I appreciate your help with me including rest of broken-hearted women that needs to heal

[@skye_belle888]

Wish such videos existed 10 years ago!! Would've avoided such toxic relationships. I totally get it now though.

[@eljofrva]

I was over-expressing I believe so naturally I stopped having sex. It wasn’t exactly planned at first - I went through a breakup -but it has been purposeful. When I am ready to break up with a man, my body tells me even before my mind really catches up and I will stop having sex with them. Clearly it creates a problem for men who just want sex! So, I propelled my last break up, but is it has been the most amazing thing ever to be celibate for 7 months now ✨ I have been able to balance my soft, vulnerable light feminine energy with my dark feminine energy. I just started to casually date and I’ve only been on 2 dates in the last month but that’s because I’m MUCH MUCH more selective and most men aren’t making it to a first date with me! It feels so good to be in control of myself fully, in a genuine and honorable way ❤

[@eljofrva]

I’ve been single a year now and it’s been the best growing phase in my life and I’m in my late 30’s so girlies - it’s never too late!

[@bo-bo]

Vickita, you are the best ❤❤

[@NourishedWomanHQ]

I’m a recovering people pleaser

[@its_MiLkKy]

Bruh, she's so good. I just got schooled on so many levels. 12:26 that huuurt so good.

[@adrionabella]

stop bc when the video started i thought to myself “her eyes are soooo pretty. i wish mine were more like hers”

[@micheldickinson4913]

Oh my gosh I’m jealous of your gorgeous eyes!!!!

[@katiec655]

Thank you for creating this content. I am so glad I found your page. You’re confidence and security in yourself is so inspiring.

[@verav3420]

This video is literally everything i needed!

[@luizacanella9877]

your big eyes are gorgeous.

[@ferretgirl408]

I openly admit that I am a people pleaser - I just don't know how to stop.

[@VickitaTrivedi]

Figure out why you people please. 9/10 times people people please because they have a fawn trauma response. Your way of creating safety within your body is to avoid conflict and do what people say. This bleeds into attaching your identity to the way people view you, so you want them to like you, you change yourself to fit what they want. 1st step to stopping, NSR. 2nd step, practice detachment heavyyyy

[@rekwu]

this video just opened so many doors to information in my mind thank you 💗💗

[@idahakoth-k2p]

Wow! Young energy all the way. Thanks for the information.

[@Datb2]

It allows for Self protection and preservation

[@GabrielaRochaNutrition]

Thank you again, Vickita!! ❤Could you do a video on how to get over a break up?

[@HelloHi-uo8gt]

Thank You sooo much Vickita, yes I had nice girl syndrome!

[@VickitaTrivedi]

You are so welcome!

[@bethaminkhan4951]

yes to part 2... And you have amazing eyes.. Have you ever seen the sculpture of Nefertiti that I think is still in the Cairo museum... Google Nefertiti and look at her... Literally, she has your eyes and you look so much like her that it is crazy... And she was the most beautiful woman of her time.

[@stewiegriffin1938]

Thank you for uploading!!!!❤

[@VickitaTrivedi]

got u!

[@Venuss_444]

The way she just called me out.

[@samasmr25]

Your content never disappoints ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Girlyppop]

All these Genz boy’s Want to be WOMEN SOOOOOOOBAD 😭 how am I supposed to even create my own family.

[@REBsessions]

How does someone with absolutely stunningly pretty eyes get bullied for them 😭 it has to be jealousy. People are ridiculous.

[@bunnybeetle1304]

I am healing from it. Thanks.

[@Beccadette]

You go girl❤

[@ava7450]

Ugh, fucking bread crumbs! I have ended every single relationship because of this

[@priyamalhotra5794]

Thanks vicketa, love ur look in this video❤✨

[@VickitaTrivedi]

thank you!!

[@nishat_zaman]

I love your videos so much I would love a part 2

[@RoxanaLuca1]

Can you also do a video or advise about how to tamper your dark femininity, please?

[@pueblo_chico]

Thank u so much. Neeeded to hear this

[@evelynk.24]

Great Content !!!❤

[@selen5487]

Is there a good book on this- I really been looking please

[@stephespi8373]

Just curious. Why did your friendship end ? If you realized you were taking advantage and she ne we spoke her mind, why did you guys didn’t acknowledge it and work through it together ? I was in friendship like that and I Hurt to this day that we didn’t keep trying. Friendship Don’t mean nothing these days. People prefer to be alone than to work on their social relationships 😢

[@Rubyglenn27]

You can’t be acting like some kind of hobo… that is hilarious and so true!

[@AZ-su1zg]

Damn I’ve been on both extremes of light energy and dark energy. Lmao.

[@lisa745]

Thanks!

[@arianna7018]

Very disconnected from my Feminine energy and dark energy 😢

[@ayasarsour2860]

Thank you

[@Joy-op3je]

I. Love. You. Thank you❤

[@cynthiapuma3299]

Your content is GOLD. I just know you’ll blow up!! Keep up the amazing content I’m here for it!💕🫶🏼

[@saphire9834]

Can you explain more about confidence conversion??

[@nicolagirl8705]

Can anyone mention what movie / series is on the first part of this video? 🥺

[@CRFSUIGENERIS]

Euphoria

[@TheNibor9]

Off topic- but I love your sweater! Where is it from?

[@kw9633]

Just stopping by to say Jesus loves each and everyone of you. He is Lord, he holds the keys and the answers. Call on him, welcome the Holy Spirit, they make all things new. No easy path but certainly peaceful and worth it.😇I love you and Jesus our God loves you more❤

[@Iganana]

Man….i am thinking maybe I was/ am a bit of a pick me. Sometimes I will have standards and say if a guy gives me the ick but they have a lot of other qualities or I think they are a good person my soft side really comes out and I would forgive / loosen up on some standards (e.g it started with if they were awkward, a bad kisser, I though oh it’s sweet they are so nervous….) but I realized if you compromise on just one standard it a gateway for comprising on more. Then you risk getting walked all over on. It is tough as a woman but you have to be really assertive or men will really take advantage of your kindness.

[@TiaLei-e7c]

What did you do to “heal”?

[@AshyX0]

T h a n k y o u ✨

[@auroraxxfacekilla49]

Big facts with this one! Love this, I hope more people see this! Much loves

[@January1992sl]

How old is she? Just looking to get advice from someone around my age.

[@Girlyppop]

Her age? Are you being real rn?

[@veiledsinisterly]

You look like Maddy (Alexa demie)

[@alaskayoung584]

🫀🫀🫀🫀

[@murtleturtle4027]

It really clicked for me when someone once said "Let them earn what they want on the table."

[@idahakoth-k2p]

Wow! Young energy all the way. Thanks for the information.

[@yasminh]

the thing that forced me out of being a people pleaser, and I still use to keep me in check, is never say the word "sorry" unless you are apologising and you mean it. dont even say it as a habit or out of politeness. find other words. instead of "sorry, I can't come", just say you cant come. if that feels cold u can make up for it by suggesting another time to meet up, or maybe think about whether it is actually cold or are you just so uncomfortable with the idea of being misunderstood or someone not thinking youre perfectly nice for 2 seconds. (just speaking thoughts from my experience)

[@hna8]

Omg thank you! It's a really helpful advice, I'll definetly try this🫶🏾

[@yasminh]

@@hna8 I hope u find it as transformative as I did

[@hna8]

@@yasminh thank you!!

[@imzenbro7803]

Wow, thank you!

[@camilabosa686]

It's soooo weird how we all have such different standards of beauty. I always loved big eyes like yours and never noticed anything wrong with your skin tone (we have a lot of diversity in skin tones in Brazil). Nice video, sis!

[@virtualassistantmylene]

True. I love her eyes. They're assets

[@camilabosa686]

I am, so I did not noticed anything wrong with her skin tone :)@@Kashmir-lt4cx

[@elinaj3689]

no its cos some people are sad and unhealed and will pick on anything. set boundaries and love yourself, everything will change

[@yasminh]

this girl literally opens her mouth and not even one sentence in and she's speaking straight facts

[@Swansong321]

Omg!shockingly accurate information to my life..I had been dark feminine energy..then went TOO much the other way after a bad relationship...I needed this chat!❤cool!thanks so MUCH

[@VickitaTrivedi]

hahaha ive been there!

[@hiniewinie]

Wow I used to be on both sides of the spectrum. I think a bit of me still is. Sometimes I just feel like I meet a guy and he'd be the best person I'll ever met. This is exactly what I think about too. I need to be able to say no to even a man I perceive as "attractive". I used to fall for a man's hotness. When I was like 14, I would fawn over this guy like I was his groupie. Weak ass shit. No wonder he played me like a fiddle. I always tell myself a quote a read from the Bible, " Be not moved by the things you see in this world." And it snaps me out of it. Just because the "halo effect" exists...it doesn't mean that I have to fall for it

[@alakiahm8884]

Thank you for that bible quote I have written it down

[@hiniewinie]

You're welcome! I always say this to myself when I catch myself putting some random guy on the pedestal. Like why does he need to be there????@@alakiahm8884

[@aideelopez579]

Beautiful reflection! Thanks for sharing 💜.

[@schokoala2357]

Bullied for the size of her eyes? But big eyes are a classic beauty standard for women. Big eyes = beautiful. Can't belief how weird people can behave. These bullies were probably just jealous. Honestly, her eyes are magnificent. I am jealous :D

[@MarinSofin]

I'm 32 and I enjoy your content and learn so much off of it. Thank you girl

[@robynbeach3198]

Lol I'm 38! A lot to unpack...

[@MarinSofin]

@@robynbeach3198 right ?😂

[@VickitaTrivedi]

im glad its been helping you! ❤

[@Gaticarose26]

I want to have dark feminine energy. After a couple of dates I always get “ your super nice and sweet” - while that is nice. I feel I come across as a people pleaser.

[@2trillavivv]

If you’re genuinely a sweet and nice person there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. you can be nice and sweet and still be dark feminine. It becomes people pleasing if you start doing things that become a detriment to yourself. doing things you don’t really want to do , not setting boundaries and letting people walk over you . Don’t let her make you believe that being nice just automatically means u a people pleaser

[@hanavaughan6956]

The fluidity in explanation 🎉

[@VickitaTrivedi]

thank you 🥺

[@marijazeljko640]

People maybe love imperfect people because they do not strive to be perfect so they relate to people who are not perfect. I love people who are perfect even though I am not perfect, people do not want to be perfect it is not that the can not be but it is okay if you have little imperfections,the truth is if you do not have standards that does not mean you are perfect it means you do not love yourself enough or at all.

[@halcyondays8945]

This video is wonderful - thank you. I will be watching this again and I will take notes. I’m quite a bit older than you but the wisdom you’re dropping here is really helpful. Thank you, lovely lady.

[@VickitaTrivedi]

You are so welcome!

[@sbella6719]

I was turned off by the title because I thought it was about being manipulative but I'm glad I clicked anyway. I thoroughly enjoyed listening to this video because it holds 'me' accountable. You are a wise woman indeed!

[@VickitaTrivedi]

I appreciate that and giving me the benefit of the doubt!

[@Hawausanusi]

Feminine energy is dark, periodt. Light feminine is just a cool term to use women as most of those traits are for people pleasers. You never hear of dark or light masculine, because masculine energy is light. We have either divine or wounded feminine/ masculine energy.

[@iknowimobsessedforreplying6052]

Too real.

[@Hawausanusi]

@@snsh7207 there are some men that are in their divine masculine but most men lately are in their wounded masculine, making more women be in their masculine and wounded feminine energy.

[@Christina-sf4py]

💯

[@canesugar911]

Where are you from? Your name seems familiar. To your comment, men lately are not that different from men in the past, the difference is that women are no longer as subdued as they once were and it is exposing the truth about them. Many men are not "evolved" or great, they latch on to the success of great men and claim it as theirs (just look at how they behave with sports). They use that and their physical strength against women. Now that women are given the space to grow, it has exposed alot of things about our so called superiors.

[@tonyadeshawnvlogs9142]

The beautiful part about your eyes and color of your skin is what jumped out to me the most once I clicked on your video. I was drawn to how beautiful both of them are. People pick at the very thing that they are actually envious of honey. I grew up with women bullying me for having freckles and very long hair as a black girl in Brooklyn ny and I didn't like those qualities about myself until I woke up like you now have. Congratulations sis.❤

[@sandrabendt3691]

I really appreciate this!!! Please talk about the wounded feminine and how to heal it. Thank you.

[@VickitaTrivedi]

you got it!

[@vixenvalenzuela]

This is spot on, I’ve taken advantage of people, because of my unhealed, overly dark feminine energy, so I totally relate to what you’re saying

[@viktorija1264]

I looove this video! I love your healthy and wise perspective on this topic, keep glowing! 🙂

[@VickitaTrivedi]

thank you so much!!

[@edgreen8140]

To much of one energy is seen by others. As a psyvchologist anything dark isn’t integrated. Integrate feminine and masculine = healthy

[@rachelannecreamer410]

Good Lord... I have learned so much about myself in just two of your videos... Thank you. On a side note .. your eyes are beautiful. Your skin color is beautiful. I'm glad you haven't let other people's opinions hold you back... Even mine. Shalom

[@nhl4264]

Why is that when people explain dark feminine energy, it is always centered around relationships? This concept in itself should be the inner devinity, the most higher concept!