Viral Video Of A Black Woman Setting New Rules In Marriage

[@Quilt4Joy]

If she starts dating other men, she’s going to meet someone better than hubby, and he knows it.

[@faith6575]

Yup!

[@damienwyche2105]

Lmao, the numbers game is in his favor, maybe he’s too stupid to realize that. He can get many of her, she likely to get another woman’s man.

[@Kierakirsty]

And he’s terrified of it. The amount of partners that ask to open a relationship then panic when they see their partners actually being courted and admired is brazy. While I think she should have left and amicably coparented, she’s about to give him the strongest dose of his own medicine. I hope she’s ready for when he’s no longer covering all his other activities though. I don’t know if all the mental and emotional strife is worth it though.

[@Creepystalker102]

@@damienwyche2105the opposite is true. It’s very easy to find a man whose best quality is the pipe he lays. Very difficult to get and land a woman that will build with you and invest in you. He traded a lifetime membership at a five star restaurant for some cold McNuggets

[@simeonhibbert7462]

Facts

[@Childfree334]

14:59 Sis in the pink dress needs to take several seats. Just because YOU would quietly put up with a cheater under the guise of being a "holy woman and wife" doesn't mean all women are that stupid or desperate. The Bible does not condone husbands cheating sweetheart. In fact, cheating is the grounds for divorce.

[@LoveAndSnapple]

It was her that I couldn’t stand the most. She had the audacity to say that if she were to go cheating, then she would be disgracing her husband, but he wasn’t disrespecting or disgracing her when he was out on the streets? I hate putting down religion, but religion in the minds of the foolish will always come out as oppressive degeneracy.

[@LittleMsLibra8]

Yeah.. These women think that they are supposed to be holy, no matter how nasty and dusty their man is… 😪

[@briolivia]

​@@LoveAndSnappleExactly!

[@realbrat40]

Exactly she should have kept that sh*t in the drafts. He is the one who "threw his family away", it was him who stepped out, so when she gave the story about the cheating wife, I was confused, like how does that apply to a woman ignoring a man's indescration and staying with a cheater, if the husband of her little biblical story was instructed NOT to take his cheating wife back. She sound stupid as hell. She can do her and let others do them😑

[@c.brackens9918]

I HATE RELIGIOUS POSTURING. This one in the pink has no value beyond her religiously defined wife/mother status and she is projecting it on the video. She is basically defending the dude and calling the woman a whore.

[@vrichards4363]

She said if you gone cheat, WE gone cheat.

[@carmelwine7610]

😂😂😂 Now their equally yoked. But on a side note I’m not lowering myself for you and your whoredom. Bye.

[@umadox41]

Simples! I wouldn't respond that way, but I ain't mad at her 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@thehulk1177]

Keyword,to this point it’s been working just find. So we will continue to fuck other people. That’s why she don’t want a divorce because she been doing it too. Your words would and will be used against you in the court of law. She just blasted him because the side chick caught feelings and came to her.

[@TonyaG-o4m]

On me

[@blasiankiki7831]

Made him swallow his words

[@biblethumper8088]

Oh, so now men understand how wrong adultery is when they are told she will do the same thing. Interesting 🤔

[@et5895]

Sounds to me like she's gonna leave him...she just needs time to plan! which makes this more funny😂

[@roseinharlem8152]

Yes I was thinking that too

[@mrs.w8193]

Yes! If that’s what she’s doing, then she’s smart! But she better stop sleeping with him. Before she gets a gift that keeps on giving. HIV, herpes or HPV

[@c.brackens9918]

YES, SIS! They do not understand, her tone is so resolute. They don't get how far ahead she is, she not the hysterical emotional type. She is planning like a GENERAL!

[@Ambrosia__]

I agree. I also feel like if she wants "fair" vengeance, she's gonna hook up w someone and remind him that he didn't protest or leave when the conversation was had. I hope she doesn't and she ultimately leaves without lowering herself to his level.

[@PB-zw2ot]

This is exactly her plan. She will torture him until she does.

[@redgoddess]

If you cheat that gives the other party the permission to do the same 🤷‍♀️.

[@Quilt4Joy]

He said “ain’t no fun when the rabbit got the gun” 😂😂😂😂😂

[@karenridgeway7556]

This woman is thinking just like men think!

[@ravenrebel3183]

That’s why they were scared lol

[@chloequinn2274]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@LoveAndSnapple]

This should be called the “Goose/Gander Clause”

[@cocoace7587]

Right . Looovvee it 😅

[@letmeseemm]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@jellybean3144]

THAT

[@LunaELugo]

GOOD ONE

[@Enriquez2222]

Separate beds, rooms and personal lives. We only raising the kid together and taking care of finances. I would not sleep with him, and these people act like condoms don’t exist. We act like safe sex isn’t a thing. She’ll probably find someone better and divorce him afterwards.

[@TheSquids]

I hate it when people say "you're giving him what he wants". Lots of people want to cheat and have their partner be loyal to them. This isn't uncommon lol

[@lilywong9672]

The only reason I'm for this is because this hurts the man's ego more than divorce will.

[@AdeolaSpeaks]

I find it interesting that all the women stitching the video were calling the wife stupid etc. but all the men were saying she's a dangerous lady to mess with. Men and women do really see things differently

[@rainbeauxunicorn5237]

That’s because women have been ingrained to think “all cheating is bad and it means xyz…and the only thing ‘worth’ doing is leaving” and it doesn’t all the time. Everyone’s capacity for love and being loved is different but with monogamy being so heavily pushed most ppl don’t explore their full capacity. I found out I was polyamorous in 3rd grade because I listened to my thoughts and feelings instead of adopting the social norms being pushed on me. I wish more ppl would do this.

[@pennyck9468]

@@rainbeauxunicorn52373rd grade? 🧢 🧢 🧢 Why the heck are you even worried about monogamy or poly in 3rd grade? Where are your toys? Why weren’t you being a child? 👀

[@rainbeauxunicorn5237]

@@pennyck9468 …🙄 I swear y’all lack critical thinking. OBVIOUSLY I didn’t know what that word was. But I was very social and already knew I liked liked boys at that point. I didn’t realize I also like girls until college. And that 3rd grade year was the year my classmates started getting “bfs/gfs” and for the life of me I never understood why we couldn’t have the same bf if we both liked them and vice versa. I was very confused by the proprietari-ness of it all. Deep into my college years is when I learned the word (polyamory) to how I felt about love and dating. But still the realization that I felt about relationships differently than others was in 3rd grade. 🙄I still played with toys. I still had a full childhood. But if you think that children, especially girls, don’t have questions thoughts and opinions about sexuality or relationships during childhood, then you don’t understand how maturation is not linear. Mental, emotional, social, sexual maturation happens at the same time but at the different rates. It’s like downloading several songs at the same time. Some completely load up faster than others.

[@Rose-kj7rz]

Women should be listening to the men in this instance. Most women don't understand the true feminine power they contain within their being. And the ability to draw on that power has nothing to do with degrading herself. If a man claims to be the leader and head of household, then he is also the role model, and therefore, a woman he is in a relationship with, is completely justified in following his lead. She is working with the rules he is living by and modeling for his family.

[@andjelabozic2317]

​@@Rose-kj7rzYour "true feminine power" is just a fancy name for misogyny, stop reinforcing sex roles under the guise of "empowerment". Like if that works for you ok, but it's just bs that women worked hard to get out of, so keep that in mind

[@kylia2009]

Sadly, I understand the emotion behind this woman's thought process. She was committed, invested, and happy in their marriage until he snatched that reality from her. Why should she have to blow up her whole life because he's a liar? I think these are her initial emotions. Even if she cheats back, the love she has for her husband will fade because now she knows the real man behind the facade.

[@cocoace7587]

Marriage is a business . Why not treat it as such ? If we did , responsibilities would be shared, more evenly. 😊

[@tiarica269]

Agreed. If it hadn't been sold to people as a fantasy based on "love" and fairytales or religious indoctrination, most people would see it as the true business contract that it truly is.

[@MelanatednNature]

I told someone this and they got mad at me 😂I said well at divorce proceedings there was no love in iy

[@biblethumper8088]

Agreed.

[@MelanatednNature]

@@dustymural bingo

[@Piscesgirl1977]

Marriage is NOT a business! That's some westernized bs that spewed from your lips AFTER bleeding from other male podcasters. If it's a business than women lose and would be better off single. We would be LESS STRESSED, HAVE MORE MONEY, BE ABLE TO FOCUS AND FIX OURSELVES, AND LIVE FULLER LIVES!.... OH WAIT...WE ARE ALREADY DOING THOSE THINGS😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@thesecretshade]

He opened the marriage without her permission and now she won't close the door. Open house for both not just him. He didnt expect that 😂. Good for her. She will find someone better while she meets other men.

[@Bea_B]

I love it... fair and balanced. To be honest this is not a bad move. She could be making preparations to set some things up. When she ready to go she will go comfortably. He damaged and destroyed the marriage vows. So 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

[@saggiestar5579]

I think so too

[@chanson8508]

Right ✅️ Everybody saying "she should just leave" is giving me naive vibez... like based on what we kno from her statements in the video, this is probs her best move before she makes her next move 💯 Doing it this way, she can do "her dirt" n occasionally have a baby sitter too 😜

[@vgrannyvl2]

Exactly, she's leveling up...as she should..these men think they are irreplaceable...and they aren't..

[@simeonhibbert7462]

Facts

[@anti_]

I understand this woman's position, but for myself, not only could I never trust a cheater - I also would never respect him again. I can't be in a situation where there's no trust and respect. I'd just get even by taking absolutely everything.

[@YourMajesty143]

Exactly, cheating doesn't happen bc they don't love you, it's bc they don't respect you. And that's why living with a cheater wouldn't work, bc the trust has been broken and there's no way to repair it with an open marriage. These things need to be established in the beginning, when the trust is still intact.

[@aamazintribe]

​​@@YourMajesty143 Nowadays people are so narrow minded, short-fused, argumentative, untrustworthy, liars, sneaky, played yourselves, EMOTIONAL DAMAGE!¡!, delusions of grandeur sabotaging, serial psychopaths behaviors that are unacceptable. BLACK PEOPLE need to make BLACK FAMILIES PROVISION STRONG, SPIRITUALLY INTELLECTUAL & Beautiful again...

[@simeonhibbert7462]

Facts

[@cocoace7587]

Some men are triggered . They want to eat their whole cake & give you a mini cupcake . I agree with her , redefine the relationship . Agree or leave . 😂

[@krystalgardiner5591]

Yup! I did the same thing.. I said exactly what he always told me- you don’t like it? You know where the door is.

[@cocoace7587]

​@@krystalgardiner5591Love it .......... we need more of your type of energy . That's the only way they may TRY to behave . 😂

[@UhuraRuth]

i agree with the latino. this woman is too smart. when she steps out, she's steppin up. she's not gonna pick some random dude. she probably already had all the money locked up before she had this conversation. his options are to leave her or be the bottom boy. it's a wrap.

[@ButterflyGoddessMoe]

I used to say (if I ever get married) if you cheat on me then it’s fair game for me to find someone new and you do you 🤣 marriage is more about business than love anyways. Sometimes it’s cheaper to stay than to leave. BUT with the rate of DV against black women getting so high it may not be a safe environment.

[@smfarrie2943]

I was going to say the same. Don’t stay in these toxic environments. BM loving taking BW. Even if he is the main one cheating he will still take her out for doing the same.

[@Tee-Star]

Historically, marriage was about building wealth, not this fairytale nonsense.

[@LoveK1]

Yeah, it’s VERY dangerous with how often BM are eliminating the women in their lives. Don’t play this game because you WILL lose. Worst than that, they love to hurt the kids to hurt you. They’ll do it on a live too.

[@biblethumper8088]

Abuse can happen with any man, not just husbands. Him knowing doesn't change the risk.

[@levelupgoddess9289]

Load of crap. It takes nothing for a black male to take u out. The ONLY safe option is to not live or work around them. Walking on egg shells around them is delusional.

[@tamuz9633]

This is the BEST way to deal with a cheating husband. Don't divorce him, just be loving housemates. No more sex with him. No catching STDs and HIV from him. Let's remember that marriage is a business arrangement, ladies. You should financially, emotionally, physically benefit too from the arrangement 👸🏽👌🏽🤗💖

[@ShellzC63]

Comment of the YEAR!!! 🎉

[@Childfree334]

I'm not even being a loving housemate to a man that cheated on me. If we have kids, we can be roommates who amicably raise them under the same roof, but he gets no wife benefits from me ever again.

[@tiarica269]

​@@Childfree334Exactly. How the hell can you be "loving" after being cheated on, now that some helluva cognitive dissonance right there. Crazy

[@smfarrie2943]

Utter nonsense. That’s why we have all these pick Meishas. Putting up with garbage men just for the sake of saying they have a husband.

[@tamuz9633]

@Childfree334 Why do you think a lot of very powerful and wealthy people and celebrities stay married? They value their business deal and go about with their seperate lives under one roof, different bedrooms or different homes. My older sister did this for years with her cheating husband. No sex, but amicable living together until he died and inherited EVERYTHING! She never cared for sex anyways, so she was happy no to have sex with him or any man whilst enjoying their lifestyle and raising their daughter.

[@EconomicWarfare]

When that lady started talking about that MISOGYNISTIC bible, I busted out laughing 😂

[@hellohey000]

I'm so SICK OF THEM 🙄

[@radioqueenbee7008]

I was like here we go with that LOL 😂.

[@Cocotikihut]

Yeah, she is brainwashed

[@krystalgardiner5591]

I did the same thing as this chick! I got tired of him doing whatever the hell he wanted to, bc I was a SAHM And vulnerable he felt he had power and could treat me however. So I started doing me, and I straight up told his ass to. Of course I’m evil lol and the Devil. I said MF you brang this energy to this relationship 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@cocoace7587]

You did well . 😊 If more women did this , men would slow down their cheating .

[@krystalgardiner5591]

@@cocoace7587 It’s crazy to, bc now he losing weight and stressed the hell out lol And I haven’t even had sex with nobody else, bc I really ain’t like that.

[@TransmutedLiving]

​@@krystalgardiner5591lol

[@kantik2118]

Leave his shitty ass in the dust sis', he doesn't deserve you. He a broke weak man wanting to break you down to his level. It ain't the same if you do that and it's not your vibe. So leave him with like minded people and level up.

[@mickaellaeasley5960]

​@krystalgardiner5591 well that's what they do, they act like it's an honor to STRESS us out, I like he know how that feel

[@daynaclemons8626]

The reason men get upset is because for every one woman that he can get a woman can have 10. She doesn’t even have to be attracted 😂.

[@BoHeaux]

I know someone in this situation. She loves her side piece lol. And her hubby. They are also friends. Her husband opened the door for infidelity and this is where they are. He no longer cheats, but she now has a full on relationship. His fault in my opinion.

[@whooah]

That's so funny pls tell her that she's the best whenever you speak to her next 😂

[@cocoace7587]

Perfect ❤

[@roseinharlem8152]

Nah I’m pretty sure he still cheats.. he’s just saying he’s not to make her want to stop.

[@YourMajesty143]

​@@roseinharlem8152- No, I believe this. This is a consistent reaction from cheaters who end up in an open marriage. The "fun" in cheating goes away, the power dynamic shifts to the partner who got cheated on, and the cheater lives with too much anxiety over who their partner is with to even be able to enjoy going out to cheat. It loses its magic, bc the cheating now comes with a "permission slip" and that can feel emasculating for male cheaters, and we all know how emasculation affects men's libido.

[@BoHeaux]

@@roseinharlem8152 No, I’m pretty sure he doesn’t. He’s always home. Lol. And they have a child so when she’s gone, he’s there with the kid (who is old enough to say dad was here or there or we went here or there). And it’s been YEARS at this point.

[@teoleno4019]

This is how many marriages work in Asia.

[@mildredmurani8334]

Sis who said she’s been married for 30 years looks 30😮 Guuuuuurrrrrrrrrrllllllllllllll!!!!!! I don’t think I heard a word after she mentioned that. How old is she? Girl “you don’t know how long they’ve been married together?” We don’t know how long your fine ageless self has been on this earth. If Brains, wisdom and beauty were a person 😍😍🥰🥰🥰 Mashallah❣️

[@shaniceokubena4975]

That's how you know she's being treated well because women in bad marriages it starts to show on their faces

[@mildredmurani8334]

@@shaniceokubena4975 This is very true!

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

That's what happens when the energy flows both ways... 👌🏾

[@mildredmurani8334]

@@VeeKayGreenerGrass facts!!! A partner, not a subordinate or possession

[@omowhanre]

You can tell who’s married for a minute and who’s not. Interesting responses

[@Hannahdealer8180]

Has no-one considered that this woman might be looking forward to having an open marriage? Some of us are freaky and loyal and choose to perpetually stay loyal for a good, fulfilling partner. Before she found out, she was clearly happy and now, she's gonna continue to be happy in an arrangment she chose! She's an adult, this is her decision.

[@EconomicWarfare]

Tbh most women are the only ones monogamous in their marriages. It's so many married men approach me, it's insane. No thanks sir. Me personally, I would ✌️ out from the situation. 😂

[@MelanatednNature]

You're right

[@laplusbelle7982]

Women aren’t even monogamous by Nature, they just been conditioned to be that way by yea married males stay single at All time…😅. Majority of the time, these married women really Do be in these relationships by themselves, that’s why marriage will never be a “Flex” for me

[@Emptytopfloor]

Whenever married men approach, I ask for their wive’s number. I say I need permission for trespassing on their wives properties. 😂

[@thefemalefuture1]

@@Emptytopfloorooooof 😂

[@amberellalaqueen]

The lady in the pink pissed me off!! Where are the schmenz so important that only their feelings, thoughts and image is the only thing that matters… A man who cheats has disgraced his wife, discredited his wife and had her looking crazy AF. Not saying how she chose to handle this situation is right but the woman wronged wants to dibble and dabble with boundaries then let her be!!

[@omowhanre]

Literally makes no sense.

[@americanoutside]

😂I was married for 20 years and I swear, it doesn't matter what yiu tell people, they are going to learn from experiences, no matter how stupid 😅

[@Daug555]

Of course this woman should just leave the relationship. Your mental and physical health is more important. He may be upset and really bring home a disease and do something horrible out of spite. However, these ninjas will put a woman through hell and back, but the minute a woman matches that energy and create some rules to benefit herself - they short circuit, overheat like the biggest HEmotional bucks they truly are. Pitiful.

[@nitarhodes42]

I would also add...sis could possibly be setting up a situation where she has no intentions on entangling herself with anyone outside their marriage, but is making moves quietly to disentangle herself financially from whatever businesses they have so when she bounces, it's a clean break with her child in tow...finances on point. In the meanwhile, trifling husband is fretting himself into a puddle of push worrying about whom she might be thotting and bopping with.

[@chamab.6800]

I’ve heard of womehn setting up these situations after and infidelity with no intentions of seeing anyone else… as a mind game. Let these mehn think she’s out with another man when she could be at the spa. 🤷🏾‍♀️ Then when they’re tired and have certain things in order they initiate the paperwork.

[@mrs.w8193]

I hope so. Because it’s stupid to stay with a cheater. Someone who has already broken your trust. Why would you went to continue to build, raise kids and have an empire with some one who would stab you in the back. Dumb

[@ivanafloyde2948]

I now know who you truly are. That’s why she continuing to stay and co parent and push for the marriage in legal terms but not regular terms. So there are no false personalities anymore and since there are no false personalities but we do have a business together and have to co parent. If this was me do not call me after 9. I’m with my new person, if our business is successful and doing well I’m getting five to six baby sitters so my children or fur babies or whatever are being consistently watched, when I need to go out an enjoy myself, I’m really out with the girls or at the spa and maybe so will date a little but my luxury is now I know who you truly are. There is a saying in business once I know who you truly are and how you try to hurt me and my business. Now I know your tactics and what you’re capable of I have no fear of you. You are something I don’t worry about anymore. Every day is regular between me and you. Their is no drama now that I have learned your complete scale of behavior, maturity and immaturity.

[@Rice10120]

Why are women still getting married? You want to marry men that don't value marriage or family. It's embarrassing and desperate.

[@glowlight69]

He cheated on her

[@glowlight69]

Or did you miss that part?

[@azureavocado5195]

The worst part of it is when these women open their legs to reproduce, and then become complicit in this nonsense. They then pass along their trauma and problems to innocent lives that had no business being here. I feel like women are actually reaping the karma of these actions. That’s why so many of us are being killed and harmed out here. Just STOP this.🤷🏽‍♀️

[@DolceVita]

@@glowlight69 I think everyone realises that

[@Fungigi]

Tax benefits mainly

[@joylastname3035]

What she described is an open marriage? Why are ppl acting like they've never heard of the concept?

[@realbrat40]

She doesn't have to actually do anything but just let him know he aint the only one with options. Some of the responses irked me like the lady in the pink, she doesn't even seem to have thought out her response because it made no sense. Like lady should she leave or not???? and let's be clear he is one who embarrassed himself and her with that as she called it "indescration"😐

[@destamcghie632]

She should've left him. Easier said than done, but at least she wouldn't be dealing with a liar and a cheater.

[@YouYou-sm8tf]

But if they had kids, mortage, house, debts.... they can’t just leave like that

[@destamcghie632]

@@YouYou-sm8tf you're right about that. That's going to take a lot of strategic planning.

[@workarea9832]

Two men always better than one. Makes for more peaceful and equitable relationships. I fully support her and I think she’ll do fine having at least one side peace. It’ll take away and keep away the sting of being betrayed. Because in truth, there’s no betrayal.

[@brandiphillips5775]

This is the perfect response in my opinion. Because most women just get heart broken and work on the marriage and the man turns around and cheats again. So she might as well take care of herself. There is no reason she should become a poor single mom because her husband don’t want to keep it in his pants. Why not just let the marriage be a business agreement while you enjoy your life too?

[@MihaeldiAngelo]

Most of these kept saying that her husband doesn't care and I'm confused. Like have y'all not seen the reddit stories of men constantly asking their wives-and without cheating by the way, for an open marriage only to close it when she starts getting attention? I don't think she'll have any problems, like she said, he's not the only one who gets attention from other people. She just didn't act on it until then for the sake of a monogamous marriage. Personally, I don't think that's something I could do, but I commend her for making her decision and laying down the new framework. I just know he's most definitely going to regret his actions and there won't be a damn thing he can do about it now. Also, why is everyone pushing their values on her relationship? If you would leave, definitely do so, but that doesn't mean that's everyone's cup of tea. I don't think this is just something she is deciding on a whim, it's her personal choice as well-reflective of her own values and her self worth. Like others have said, marriage is a business first and foremost. She's just fixing that contract up to make it mutually beneficial.

[@hellohey000]

Wait until he finds out his homeboys aren't his homeboys 😭😭

[@imjussayn7936]

There's a time & place for emotions. This is how so many women get dun dirty. This Queen has given the perfect example. Get out of emotions, look, listen, & learn. So many people have given the emotions a responsibility that it wasn't made to/can't handle

[@AnitaDiaz_JazzSinger]

I would NEVER sleep with him or in the same bed. If I stayed, it would be in another part of the house and we wouldn’t be intimate, so might as well get a divorce!

[@MelanatednNature]

Bingo

[@Emptytopfloor]

Nahh, it’s more fun to watch them suffer.

[@AltraTara]

It’s opening marriages season! I’m here for it! I won’t sleep with you anymore though, we’re roommates

[@DolceVita]

i don't have a problem with his for her, if it genuinely makes her happier this way. For me, i don't want to be with various men - especially a pathological liar. I barely want to be with one man! I would divorce him. But for her, I'm cool with it.

[@ruelizabeth5881]

Wow most people missed the part where she said they will no longer be ******

[@L-M-O-1]

This guy is like 'This aint gon help'. Its gonna help her

[@TheSheasofly]

Yes!!!! I love this!!! Most of us have had this bs happens and had to take it

[@glowlight69]

Whats good for the goose is good for the gander.

[@DestinyUteh]

Period 🤣🤣🤣

[@apinkheel]

Say it again for the people with the cheap seats 💅

[@carinaadams6797]

This is literally what I would do. You do you and I’ll do me.

[@natillefoxy9881]

That's the relationship i want with my heart, an open relationship. ❤🥰

[@mickey_dbeh6105]

I read a reddit story where a similar situation happened. When the wife found someone, suddenly the cheating husband found her attractive and sabotaged her relationship with the other partner she found. After that, he suddenly want to close the marriage after him being able to be open (excluding the time spent cheating) for a few months before she found a partner b/c she was originally hesitant about sleeping with others. Ladies, men consider you a possession. Unless he's the only one "open," their pride would never allow it. Just leave.

[@VLP_123]

I AGREE!!!! Do YOU, SIS, and if he doesn't like it, then it's best for them to part ways. What's good for the goose.....

[@downbad2874]

People keep saying he don’t care he don’t have to care. That’s the point she don’t give a fuck if he care nothing is he gonna still be having to do his job as a husband and a father? Duh, don’t care if he cute she care if you take care of a child.

[@tiffanyyisrael7989]

No ma'am, there's too many diseases out there for this, just divorce him and leave him to the streets. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Untitled0752]

I don’t understand why everyone is up in arms all this woman did was lay an open marriage at his feet 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@akiadima3814]

I think some of these women are missing the part where some people cheat for the power dynamics. They dont want their wives to do the same thing because it takes away their perceived value of being more desirable. If the wife does not desire only them but others also, it bruises their ego. They are looking at this from the wrong angle. This woman is about to ruin his life 😂 and its cause she knows he doesn't actually care about her or the marriage. Just the power play. The marriage is now just business.

[@EconomicWarfare]

I heard a comedian say he told his wife, What? You would rather be cheated on by a stranger‼️😂

[@watchulla]

Rich people have been doing this for centuries. If that is what they want to do then so br it, it is their life not mine.

[@thegazetteyt]

All she’s doing is setting up the boundaries of an open relationship. And this type of relationship has worked for many couples for generations. So many of you all are acting like this is her fault. Her man cheated on her so she is saying you aren’t going to stop, I know you were not gonna stop, so I want in on this betrayal of our emotional agreement, because the only reason I haven’t slept with anyone is because I was under the understanding that we had an agreement to be monogamous. You were telling me that agreement isn’t there. So here’s the new boundary of our relationship - and I want to sleep with other people as well. Now that we both know that this is what we’re doing, these are the conditions to which we can do it. I love how so many men and women are just completely not agreeing with this thinking is the worst thing in the world. Marriage never was and never has been a purely emotional relationship. You enter twine all aspects of your life with a person and sometimes some are stronger than others. Everyone acts like romantic love is the main driver to have a healthy and successful relationship. It is not it never has been. You can build a life with someone and see them as your partner still want to sleep with other people. If that is what you agree too! So many of these comments are acting like this woman didn’t want to sleep with other people at the same time that she was married. She’s pretty much stayed and she 100% did but she didn’t because she was honoring the monogamous agreement that she thought they had. Now that she knows that’s off the table do what she wants to do. I don’t get why this is a bad thing they both get to keep the life in the lifestyle that they have and they both get to sleep with the people that they want. The problem is, the men don’t want the woman to sleep with other people, they just want to do to sleep with other people. The men don’t want to admit that women want to sleep with other people. They want to know if that woman’s kitty cat is wrapped up just for them while they go and get wet in whoever they want. That’s the whole problem with men, that’s why so many are freaking out. So many comments want her to stay faithful to him but they don’t give that same courtesy to her. “I sleep around, but you don’t want your woman to sleep around.” Hypocrites.

[@rainbeauxunicorn5237]

Exactly. The main issue is ppl lack the ability to see things beyond their own limitations.

[@vonnii1013]

Say it again and again!!!!

[@beautifullEternal]

💯💯💯

[@sistergoodstuff]

This is what people are doing anyway. Cheating. Why oh why is it so weird when people then say , you know what, go ahead. Why is THAT less acceptable than cheating??

[@brandiphillips5775]

You guys know she is only doing this to hurt him back so he sees how it feels being at home with your kids while your spouse is messing with someone else

[@raf3765]

as she should

[@vonnii1013]

👏👏👏 I AM NOT MAD AT HER CAUSE I HAVE THE SAME SENTIMENTS....men think its cool to tear up a marriage by fcking other people...HE MADE HIS MARRIAGE OPEN!!!!...SO YEA LETS KEEP IT EVEN STEVENS....IM WITH HER CAUSE AT THIS POINT IT'S BUSINESS SWEETIE....

[@saggiestar5579]

I listen to everybody's comments and I read the comments in the comment section. At first I was like yeah, she crazy. She crazy. She crazy. But I honestly and maybe I'm giving her too much credit. Think that she is flexing for social media. I really think she is too calm. I personally think she is trying to make him feel comfortable as she is strategically creating her exit plan. Especially if she's married. Because she's so calm and collected as far as the videos concerned. That means she's not thinking emotionally. I think she's thinking strategically and mentally. I hope that that's it and she's just not being a fool.

[@briolivia]

I'm with her. Open the marriage. He took the feelings/respect out when he decided to be dishonest. But im also not blowing up me or my child's life cause he thinks with his dick...at least until I figure out how to maximize the situation. Draw up a contract to part ways if he gets someone pregnant and keep it moving. If you gonna do what you want, fine. Me too.

[@MelanatednNature]

Bingo I just wouldn't sleep with him anymore 😂

[@briolivia]

@MelanatednNature exactly. And that's what she said. People are like...its not going to work...ummm...if it doesn't work it's because he's a hypocrite

[@MsElegance23]

I think what's scary about this to men is this is exactly how their minds work and for the lady that said she played herself. To me she didn't play herself because men will cheat but can't seem to stand it when a woman does it back. Even if he doesn't care if she cheats, this relationship is on it's last leg. This would be the time I hope that she's preparing and strategizing for a divorce if he messes up in another area which if he didn't care about cheating more than likely that will happen as well. Sometimes you need a little time to prepare to leave someone before you actually do it to make sure you're not financial ruined.

[@roaroa5291]

Cheating is abuse. Not only does he not respect you, doesn't care about your health, he puts you in danger, he literally hates you. She said she loves him, but she needs to understand that he doesn't reciprocate. In the slightest.

[@PeacefulAbiding]

Men hate it when they do sumthin bad and you act like you're not devastated.

[@nailahdawkins]

Their new setup reminds me of that 'Black Mirror' episode 'Stiking Vipers' 🐍🐍 _IYKYK_

[@soobintheestalIion]

i disagree w “he don’t care” a lot of men think they can cheat but they chest hurt when the woman sleeps w someone else

[@mensesmimi]

Exactly. These people don't understand men well enough and don't realize they will absolutely have a double standard where they can cheat and they still get hurt and upset when the woman does the same thing

[@Blkbeautee]

I agree with the man who said she is going to take everything. She has a strategy so she is not stupid but very smart. Look at Wendy Williams and her ex, she may have through hell but he doesn't have any money. He is crazy if he stays and crazy if he leaves. I don't know what businesses they have but he just lost them. Oh and she is not going to screw other men but get ready for war of the roses, black widow, snapped or cheaper to keep her....lol.

[@nitarhodes42]

What an absolute mess! Sadly, I understand where sis was coming from...but also...ugh, no! My peace of mind...my health...my self respect...our child. None of that is good. Above all...my relationship with God.

[@highestgoddess9966]

I would do the same but just not say it..😊.. just peacefully cheat☺️☺️☺️

[@DestinyUteh]

😂😂😂

[@MelanatednNature]

😂😂😂 exactly

[@Emptytopfloor]

Delicious 😋

[@stephanies9071]

I would stay until I'm financially satisfied and then take everything,🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑; but while I'm staying ; I definitely would NOT be sleeping with him, the cheating would already turned me off anyways. But I definitely would have a side dude and he would know of it. And if that doesn't work for me, I'll get the best lawyer money can buy take him to the cleaners.😂

[@Tee-Star]

If you love yourself, ypu wont even be settling for an arrangement that will NEVER benefit u ma'am.

[@asmrpicaloversunited6580]

Too many people getting killed by their spouses for this type of behavior. Someone will get hurt from this behavior, in some way or another. Just leave.

[@Lightreign888]

Reap what you sow season in full effect‼️❤️ However unhealthy just leave, I totally agree.

[@Dr.Mahadrasjethwani_MD]

As a wife of 32 years I agree with her point. That EMT Emotional Mental Terrorist did this too me and chose to do ITS thing the entire time. I did not allow any kind of intimacy as long as narc continued I removed my being.

[@ms.porsche8816]

Personally, I’m not playing that type of game. If we can’t respect each others boundaries, we can’t be together.

[@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066]

Well.. it's up to the couple to define and determine the rules of the relationship as they see fit. It's not for. But it's also not MY relationship and not my business what they do in theirs.

[@Tee-Star]

If he decides to leave, u have no choice, despite being together 30 years. It has happened to many, so dont kid yourself. 😮

[@omowhanre]

What percentage of this “warning” is based on jealousy 🤔. Nay-sayers LOVE to nay, lol.

[@Tee-Star]

@omowhanre why would I be jealous of here? I got my own...I'm happy. Be open to the idea that some women are not low vibrational, like yourself.

[@LadyMarigoldWithers]

There’s no way I’d lower myself to her husbands poor standards. Leave with your head up and show your kids what strength looks like and that you don’t have to accept awful behaviour from others let alone join them in it!

[@miram2053]

He's not worth it. Hes not righteous and im assuming, based on her response, he's unwilling to change and become the man he needs to be for the marriage to be successful. Leave. Dont sully yourself and become something else to match his energy. Let him stay in the pig pen...alone.

[@T.H-v4h]

Why break up a family if she's ok with this arrangement. Sex is sex.

[@downbad2874]

Play stupid games bring stupid prizes

[@chamab.6800]

Mehn always want to fight for the marriage after they’ve a year worth of outside nuts and get found out. Didn’t want to do right before but now she’s talking about outside mehn, he’s hurt and breathing funny. Foh.

[@destinycherry17]

CHECKMATE !!!!!

[@hellohey000]

I found the difference of opinions between the women and men to be interesting. The men were like , "this will teach him a lesson" , "this will hurt him". While the women were like just leave, "you look stupid", "you're just as toxic as him". Personally, I think if she just left he would learn no lessons. And would just do it to the next woman. This way he can have his thrill of cheating taken away and feel the consequences of his actions every time he calls her and she doesn't answer, or when he happens to run into her and her plaything out and about. 😈 I am sure she will find someone worth her time and commitment and when that day comes she will eventually leave for good.

[@FNFIHOCTW]

He's started something he can't keep up!

[@LoveK1]

Look, I get that everyone thinks she’s a bad b but y’all. YOU CANNOT PLAY THIS GAME WITH BM! Just get away from them and take it all. They are unhinged as a group and WILL take out you, your kids and himself. Do y’all not watch the news? They do this every week almost. This is such a dangerous game with EXTREMELY high risks. May odd by ever in you favor because statistically they aren’t.

[@apinkheel]

Say it again for the people with the cheap seats 💅 Yep, every 5 hours

[@MelanatednNature]

Bingo

[@Enriquez2222]

Marrying a BM in the first place was a mistake.

[@AIBot929]

How the turns have tabled 😂...

[@shazj1842]

He's already broken the promise, so yeah let's continue to co- parent under one roof. I don't have to resent you because now I can seek someone for myself. Putting him out risks him not commiting to their child and or potentially investing time, energy and finances in children elsewhere. Staying means he can have affairs

[@paulareid3003]

Women in the pink is something else. No accountability for man. Didn’t the husband disrespect her and embarrassed her.

[@HonestTimes]

You got a subscriber ❤❤❤ very truthful video, love it!

[@carinaadams6797]

The one talking about growth actually doesn’t have as much as she thinks. She’s the type to allow herself to leave with nothing and have to start from the bottom for the sake of her pride.

[@soniapinkney1342]

She’s ready to go it alone if she has to .. she’s over it !! She’s finding her own happiness… I can understand it !!

[@laughingshaman1]

Her marriage was already open. Now she is going to benefit from the open marriage too.

[@jadibdraws]

For women who want and believe in marriage knowing how these men be. If you want to be married to someone for life its a pragmatic move. I for one understand marriage benefits men more especially blk women so I never desired it. Nor do I want children. But for women who want to be tied to a man for life this is more respectable than not leaving and sitting at home being a mule and being cheated on. If you want to stay in dysfunction, have fun with it 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@KEOSHAANEILIA]

Marriage is more than love. If it wasn’t a business then there would be nooooo contract. Gotta move smart. Life and partnership is more than who gives you butterflies. Maybe he checks off enough boxes to “do life” with. But due to his actions, they just gone “do it” a little differently moving forward. I don’t blame her. She is hurt and he is gonna hurt too. It sucks…hopefully they recover or their new arrangement works out. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@amphoteric]

good for her, but i think she could move on and find a man who actually loves her and wants to be with her though

[@T.H-v4h]

Or she can have fun and still be married

[@amphoteric]

@@T.H-v4h or she can move on and marry a better man like why would anyone wanna be married to a cheater lmfao?? let's just hope they have separate finances/assets

[@hellohey000]

Most men cheat. Even the ones who think they "love" you.