Wait, WHERE is D.H. Lawrence's Body?

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[@federicabacchini5469]

"She did very little housework, she sat with her legs apart, she smoked and she said what she thought" relatable lmao

[@kateness24]

i had quite the honest laugh about that part!

[@wendychavez5348]

I like her!

[@smil5961]

Honestly, same.

[@robertr9188]

to be contrarian, the phrase 'lazy ho' comes to mind

[@federicabacchini5469]

@@robertr9188 I- LMAOOOOOOO you just didn't roast both me and her

[@jennifershay8980]

And this is why you don't entrust your affair partner with your deceased spouse's ashes.

[@lisamo1013]

But it's also really shitty of her to not allow him to support his family when she has been in the exact same situation and also couldn't let her old family go completely.

[@skeetsmcgrew3282]

Truly rules to live by

[@Leafeon56]

@@lisamo1013 Honestly these people were so messy. So messy.

[@MsBrooklyn62]

@@lisamo1013 Frieda was a selfish woman.

[@Kokoamaya935]

You'd think that would be a no-brainer

[@LadyLucyla]

Caitlin calling D. H. Lawrence a "fuckboy" was not something i expected to witness today.

[@heavenlyspiritualwarrior7236]

The best line I have ever heard her say😅🤣

[@midnightrunner684]

That's what I call everyone

[@billmoran3812]

I think Miss Caitlin has a bit of a dark side, perhaps tending toward kink?

[@queenannsrevenge100]

“This Caitlin video isn’t really grabbing me, never been a big fan of Lawrence, let me skim the comments…” (Reads comments) “OK, staying till the end!”

[@SuperDj2000]

😂😂😂Fuck Boy 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽Awesome

[@sparklefairykitten]

"A non-intellectual with no literary interests" it's okay Frieda you can say himbo

[@jodie6049]

an author with a side job as an erotic painter with an oedipus complex, that sounds like a trip

[@itwasagoodideaatthetime7980]

As Freud would say D H Lawrence had some serious 'Mommy issues'.

[@j_mack1996]

Agreed.

[@Claytone-Records]

Mmm, gloriously thick women.

[@LunaNicoleTheFox]

@@itwasagoodideaatthetime7980 I mean, I've heard of mommy kink but not that much mommy issues...

[@NeoLithiumCat]

There were a lot of those...

[@FancyRPGCanada]

I'm sorry but, I agree with the Professor, those three kids would have been miserable living around the sort of abuse Frida and D.H. Lawrence perpetrated on each other.

[@Veelasiren]

I agree too. Hearing them scream at each other. Watching their mother smash plates over their step-fathers' head while he yanked her hair would have been so traumatic!

[@psychadelicpotato8580]

Plus their own relationships can get influenced by the mere presence of soemone who wasn't loyal to their parent.

[@judysocal8682]

I kept wondering - Is this the type of relationship he had with his mother? and yes, it was better the kids stayed with their father.

[@boop4904]

100%.👍

[@kimberly_erin]

You sound like to you think ppl including Caitlin don’t agree. You’d be hard put to find someone who disagree.

[@teresaellis7062]

As much as Frieda missed her children, I am glad that she wasn't in their lives when they were young. The knock-down fights with her lover would have been terrible for their psyches.

[@rimjhimdhusiya699]

I am kinda sad for all the families that were hurt by these two , those people didn't deserve this 💔

[@idigamstudios7463]

@@rimjhimdhusiya699 The drama is *DELICIOUS* for all of us in the present day though.

[@tecumsehcristero]

She may have become a violent drunk because of the loss of her children. I don't know this for sure.

[@RHR-221b]

Many 'women' are very strange.

[@lindseyspuria424]

Well, this explains a lot about why Lawrence wrote a book called “Sons and Lovers”

[@liketheroman]

Under-appreciated comment!

[@andrewtongue7084]

AKA, 'Incest Is Best - Keep It In The Family', Lindsey :D

[@Daisy30y03]

....🤮

[@10puppyluv]

"We have loved each other almost with a husband and wife love" hooo boy we don't have time to unpack all that

[@siouxd799]

Ew 😂

Even Ed Gein might think that kind of statement is a bit much...

[@SueMead]

*+catkillingcuriosity* Considering the state of many marriages, that could mean a number of things.

[@kissmequick07]

"that almost is doing a lot of work" killed me

[@GeoffrytheButler]

Freud would have an absolute field day with this whole, "Mother-wife and Son-Husband" relationship. Then again, so would TLC

[@itwasagoodideaatthetime7980]

Yep! As Freud would say D H Lawrence had some serious 'Mommy issues'.

[@emmettbattle5728]

freud would the tlc talent scout

[@ellam5903]

Lawrence definitely read Freud - possibly he internalised Freud, as opposed to actually having always had 'mommy issues'

[@econ2206]

@@ellam5903 no need to make excuses for men, it's enough with their own.

[@ellam5903]

@@econ2206 lol not making an excuse, but it is more accurate to say that Lawrence had a field day with Freud than Freud 'would have had' a field day with Lawrence. Not denying that Lawrence had weird ideas about sex and gender

[@wallywam1]

“Glorious thick women” go on…

[@wrockage]

yaaaassss

[@ewanoxborrow1024]

Describing Freida as your “problematic fave” was iconic. I couldn’t agree more.

[@Cecrophia]

"..like I loved my mother." RUN GIRL, RUN!

[@itwasagoodideaatthetime7980]

Yah as Freud would say D H Lawrence had some serious 'Mommy issues'.

[@minikawildflower]

She don't cook, she don't clean, but she got Lawrence's ring

[@joanbennettnyc]

Freida steamed D.H. screamed Out in public, they made a scene Now get your corpse and your ash For this D.H. Lawrence Gordon-Crotch grabbed some pictures Of this D.H. Lawrence

[@liriodendronlasianthus]

Oh my god this is hilarious

[@emmettbattle5728]

@@joanbennettnyc sma, shaking my ass

[@wellesradio]

He probably didn’t put an actual ring on it.

[@eshowoman]

As Caitlyn said, problematic fav.

[@Uradamus]

Jokes on everyone, Lawrence was actually a vampire who staged his own death and posed in a coffin for the exhumation photo shoot, he later changed his name to Jack Dorsey after returning to America decades later to found Twitter.

[@richardh8082]

True

[@ThirrinDiamond]

The resemblance is terrifying

[@Uradamus]

@@ThirrinDiamond lol, right?

[@nacmegfeegle2310]

I thought he looked familiar...

[@criminallyautistic8372]

@@Uradamus Didn't Lincoln do the same thing? Someone was a bit of a copycat.

[@StephanieCanada]

For those that know: “Benthum’s head”… man I miss that at the end.

[@vendettavain]

I too miss Benthum's Head.

[@beautyonabarnbudget]

Me too☹

[@lemondropcentral14]

I made the Benthum's head soundbite into my text notification sound!

[@christopherlawley1842]

@@lemondropcentral14 I like your thinking

[@twobrokeguyz1214]

"Complete with pubic hair." The Pubic Hair Complete Collection, by D.H. Lawrence. oh avant-garde!

[@ginnrollins211]

Plot twist: It was made from real pubic hair.

[@sue-anneastman3502]

@@ginnrollins211 his brushes are made from pubic hair

[@PerkyHedgewitch]

This sounds like the intro to a 90's late-night infomercial where you could buy the collection for five easy payments of 19.99. I love it!

[@beautifulcrazey7713]

@@PerkyHedgewitch 😅

[@Kushsnuggie]

D.H. stands for Dick Hair

[@ladyicondraco]

Caitlin's excitement at the crematorium records was great. Well kept historical records are a true joy.

[@lillyweaver7726]

I’ve done genealogical work before, and couldn’t agree more. There is nothing more exciting than finding out that wherever it is you’re researching has abundant records.

[@eirianstarlesschild521]

i had to do a double take when she said that, couldn't believe it, well kept records??? like in, nothing missing, all in orden and not eatean by rats, time or mysterious fires???? that's a first time!

[@ladyredl3210]

@@eirianstarlesschild521 I adore records, especially historical ones, it's the amateur Victorianist in me.

[@nomadic-jack8865]

Not to make it about me, but I imagine it's similar to when I found a scan of an 1851 census with my 5th great grandfather on it.

[@addie_is_me]

💯

[@chasewilliams8666]

You are like the ADHD translator. You legitimately keep me listening. GIFT. I vote more random history fun. Obviously, you don’t need to change. You rock. Thanks 🤗

[@dantelundell9386]

Although this comment is a bit old at this point I'd just like to say that I very much agree! Caitlyn is one of the very few content creators who can keep me listening for hours. It's something to do with the phase of storytelling, the very natural pauses, every sentance is important (or funny, or both!) and my mind doesn't even want to drift. This lady has saved me from many sleepness nights and I'm so grateful ♡

[@jpwest1669]

Reading “The Rocking Horse Winner” in English class was wild. I remember being one of the only kids who picked up on the Oedipal stuff. Weird as hell

[@soneil7745]

We had to read it out loud in middle school. I just remember getting sick of hearing "honour bright" over and over and over.

[@jpwest1669]

@@soneil7745 Hahahah! It's actually one of my favorite short stories I've ever read; it almost reads like a horror film playing out. At the end of the day, Lawrence was a hell of a writer honestly

[@kiramiller568]

I would love a series on the evolution of corpse care or the history of funerals

[@fallon-grey5896]

Ooooh yes please!!! That would be so cool

[@monikapiantadosi4252]

🙌🙏

[@acehasaface948]

Totally!

[@deimosb1697]

That would be so interesting!!

[@christafranken9170]

That would need to be a documentary series, there are so many stories to be told here from all over the world

[@iknowright140]

No wonder he “accidentally” forgot the ashes at the train station

[@misstreemeat60]

Having lived in Taos, during the summers of my youth, I am not at all surprised that someone like D.H. Lawrence ended up there. Taos, and most of Northern New Mexico, is a very beautiful and mystical place.

[@banoo4139]

Only during the summers of your youth? You obviously don't know the place. As a real "Taoseño" I can assure everyone that nobody in Taos cares about Lawrence or Mabel D Lujan, only the outsiders who visit during the summers of their youth. Mystical? Just trashy "artsy fartsy" hacks!

[@kmyoung180]

I would love to see a deep dive into my ancestor, Mad Anthony Wayne. I was apparently killed in battle, was buried three times and now haunts a Pennsylvania highway looking for his bones.

[@JustAnotherNerdGirl7]

Your ancestor founded my hometown!

[@katiehettinger7857]

People are so weird. The more history you learn the clearer that becomes.

[@jj67878]

That’s why I love studying it

[@sallyintucson]

“F--Boy”… I almost spit out my coffee!

[@dianadiva58]

I wasn't sure I heard right, wow!

[@tashasmith6179]

🤣🤣🤣

[@bethanyanne6071]

Love it!

[@suzaynnschick158]

Yep, a time-honored, if little-discussed, occupation.

[@TheLadybughug]

My dog is vacuuming the rice I spewed out. 🤣🤣🤣

[@margotrosendorn6371]

Man this guy's life is a veritable soap opera

[@dirtgirl6227]

When I was studying the life of Gertrude Stein, Mabel Dodge was a recurring character, but I didn't have the time to look into her. Cool to learn what she did besides putting Stein's writing in the Armory Show.

[@acidstrawberries7667]

I love the way you talk, and weave words together with a hint of sarcasm and humour. You’re everything I aspire to be, except I’m trying to become a forensic pathologist.

[@MARS-bq1lq]

Nice username and pfp lol

[@lloydchristmas4547]

True

[@gotmybootyout5793]

Gotta get the haircut.

[@tangenty6987]

It.would be cool if you could make videos about future cases if allowed.

[@Okay_Is_Wonderful]

But do you have bangs? /s Best of luck, rooting for ya 🧡

[@Jm96RoCk]

As someone who also never has had the best relationship w my father, the quote "I was born hating my father" is a mood

[@xVadRay]

I relate

[@fuzzybutkus3951]

Never had a relationship with mine. I have a great family but still feels like an empty pit in your soul. Not really a big empty soul kind of guy best way to describe it for me lol.

[@urbanmusicgal]

My favorite author - I majored in literature because of him. Read "Sons and Lovers" for more on that "We have loved each other almost with a husband and wife love" sentence. There was one scenario in "Sons and Lovers" that literally yanked me out of a very weird relationship. I LOVE Caitlin Doughty's interpretation! Thank you so much!

[@susandavey479]

Thanks for this video...brilliant I live in eastwood where D.H was born his house has been made into a museum we did have a seperate D.H museum which was shut down due to lack of funds !!!! His parents grave is in eastwood and there is a dedication to him on their headstone. The local council is trying to put up funds to get a statue of him in the town so hel be here for generations, he couldnt wait to get away from here...ironic !!!!

[@BreakingMercury]

Would love to see your take on the hundreds of children’s remains found on all the old residential school grounds here in Canada recently. I live near two old residential schools here, one recently uncovered over 100 potential graves. There’s so much more to uncover, and what will be done about it?

[@melissahollingshead309]

That would be a great way to bring awareness.

[@itwasagoodideaatthetime7980]

I'm sure Catlin will cover it at some later point when there's A) a bit more information available about what's been found. & B) things around the discovery aren't so 'raw' & 'hyper emotional'. People are pretty upset about the discovery (& understandably so). So I think that there needs to be a bit of an 'emotional cooling off period'. Before *ANYONE* does a video/documentary on the subject, to do it true justice.

[@boop4904]

It’s tragic.😔

[@ashrowan2143]

If our government isn't planning to check the grounds of all of the other residential schools and don't start putting some hard pressure on the branches that ran the schools to give up the records I'm gonna be mighty pissed, because the branch that ran the Kamloops school (the one that started this I specify because I believe in the last few days another school was searched and their where signs of more remains there) are still refusing to provide the records

A question remains: since when and how long was that school open? If it was opened like in XIX century and remained open until early XX century, those remains would signal normal childhood death rate at the time. No vaccines, no antibiotics, and, not a mother to take real care. The most abusive thing in this panorama was the reason the kids were there. They were not orphans.

[@JLocke573]

Hey sometimes you're carrying the ashes of a dead loved one home and you leave it at the train station. It's happened to all of us.

[@kt6399]

As someone from Eastwood, the home to D.H. Lawrence, and a fan of Ask a Mortician this video certainly interests me! All of our pubs and public transport and many more things are named after D.H. Lawrence. If you every visit the small mining town Eastwood in Nottinghamshire, you can visit his place of birth and the historic sites in the area! Most importantly this old mining town has a Weatherspoons named ‘Lady Chatterley’ in which you can get a pint for £2! We are no longer a mining town, but parts of the pits do still exist and historical sites are in the area for anyone interested!

[@dariosilvestri473]

I swear every time you make one of these crazy corpse mysteries video, I always end up craving for a dramatic movie reenactment about the whole story.

[@jonasholzer4422]

I'm german, so hearing "Verfaulte Leiche" from her, I was like "Oh what an interesting Englisch expression!" went back to the moment it was on screen too take a closer look and realized that it was in fact german 😂 But no blame here, it's really not the easiest German expression to pronounce. edit: I kinda love that they FORGOT the ashes at the train station. hearing that gave me this "wait they were real people like you and me, who mess up sometimes"

[@adrianaheiler9794]

I was so grateful that we got a caption 😂😂😂 at first I thought it was something in French

[@frankfurtonfoottours2361]

Now, I need to go back and listen again. Danke!

[@MrsBirdiegoeshell]

Yep, I was a bit confused at first, too, but really loved it

[@hyakki5287]

same lmao

[@derkarlotto]

To anyone curious, in german 'silent e's (or silent letters in general) arent really a thing. Just a little tip if youre reading a new german word. Pronounce every letter, there are very few exeptions.

[@gabriellerussell8484]

I am less than two minutes in, and already this has been a fairly intense journey with all those... details. I should get a snack for the rest of this. And some water.

[@kristamarie6104]

Girl, forget the water, this story needs some tequilla.

[@jesileigh]

I appreciate the warning. I've paused it 10 seconds in and I will be back once I'm properly equipped.

[@-MattMcCauley-]

Yeah, exactly, stay well hydrated.

[@beth8775]

@@kristamarie6104 Yeah... all those Mommy issues need something stronger!

[@A8NTnoVidHeO]

Thanks for the heads up!

[@nancyfrisbee3555]

I absolutely love you. I started watching about a year ago, which I later regretted about 6 months later when my 15 year old child died. Well she died 6 days after her 16 birthday. All of the stuff I watched about what happens to the body completely encased me and sent me into a deeper depression. This is the first video of yours I have watched since January. 😥😭😥 FML. Now I have upset myself just thinking about my baby's body decomposing. Idk why I do this to myself

[@conditionallyunconditional5691]

Embalm or not embalm

[@nathaliebleser3007]

I am so sorry for your loss. Bear in mind that the biology of your child was just her envelope. She, as a soul, can never die. Bodily death is a transfer of energy, the dropping of a costume for the soul to go explore new realms, first in the beyond, and then in new tangible form if the soul chooses so. I send you much love 💞

[@annabizaro-doo-dah]

Fun fact: *Freida was also the "Red Baron's" sister*

[@mcknolle229]

No they are not. BUT, They are very distant cousins. Their last common ancestor was born in 1661

[@annabizaro-doo-dah]

@@mcknolle229 Bloody hell you're right. I'm gobsmacked! I asked my husband and he too remembers reading the same years ago. Her father was a Baron and she was born a Richthofen, I suppose people conflated the two things. Her private life and WW1 anti German feeling probably didn't help.

[@MerinThomas1]

Was this Freud’s case study for the Oedipus Complex 😭

[@itwasagoodideaatthetime7980]

Wouldn't be surprised if it was. As Freud would say D H Lawrence had some serious 'Mommy issues'.

[@GalenWings]

"David Herbert is your child now" omg

[@krisfisher8274]

My local mortuary has been advertising “aquamation”. Could you explain what this is. If you’ve already done a video about it would you let me know where to find it? If not, will you do one? Thanks, love this channel! ❤️👍⭐️

[@carolynelliott1439]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/iZO0hXR5eLOamck this is her video on the topic!

[@stormbourbon8379]

I had never heard of it until my sweet Pug suddenly passed away last year; previous pets had died at the vet's office and they arranged everything for us. Looking into it ourselves, we found Aquamation, and we're glad we did; they were lovely people, it's a peaceful eco-friendly process, and the cost was comparable.

[@christianavance9124]

The day this was posted I had a conversation with a guest at work about being late to her own funeral. All I could think was 'That sounds like a story for Caitlin to tell.'

[@chlotastrophie]

Me: Huh, I wonder what DH stands for... Caitlin: The DH stands for David Herbert by the way! ORRRR *Bert* to his family!! Me: Oooo yeah stick to DH, my dude.

[@_faultee_]

Back then Bert was actually a cool name funny enough.

[@chlotastrophie]

@@_faultee_ its hard to imagine that bc my only frame of reference for "Bert" is one of the sesame street characters 😂

[@chrischibnall593]

In England, following the Lady Chatterley trial, he became known in his native Nottingham as "Dirty Bertie", and it was joked that the "D.H." stood for "Dirty Hardbacks"...

[@chlotastrophie]

@@chrischibnall593 omg thank you for sharing that! Such a neat fact!!

[@CircleThinker]

David Herbert Richard Lawrence. Never mentions the R anywhere but that's what I was taught (context: I grew up in the same town he did, albeit about 100 years later!)

[@victoriafox8364]

Can confirm, I am from the "English mining town" where he is from. They don't care about him at all. One tiny museum and a faded blue line which goes around the town showing places he went to, such as his school... which has now been knocked down

[@violetskies14]

The whetherspoons is also named after his book lol.

[@bromptondevice7685]

I bet generations of stern older women in headscarves tied at the forehead have pursued their lips, raised their eyebrows and said "We didn't want his sort 'round here thank you very much. The mucky devil."

[@johnd6487]

Tbh, I was expecting to discover he’d been buried in Hucknall with Byron and Ada.. is it me, or do we really seem to breed ‘em in Notts?

[@TheSarahlou1974]

Me too

[@gloriastroedecke2717]

Yes, when I briefly lived in Nottingham and wanted to visit the Birthplace Museum in Eastwood local people thought I was a bit daft. They have contempt for him.

[@domsusefulstuff]

You are such a talented storyteller. Only someone who cares as much as you do could be so funny while talking about some of the most intense parts of life and death. Thank you to you and everyone on your team.

[@domsusefulstuff]

ahahahaahahahaha not the Lionel Ritchie "Hello"

[@maureenhillyardmullis1775]

Hey, Caitlin, I just found out something awesome! You can donate your body to a body farm where criminologists study your body in different ways to help them find bad guys! I am totally doing that! Love the idea of helping catch murderers!

[@fallon-grey5896]

While this video was fascinating and kept me on my toes with all the twists and turns, my fave part was when Caitlin went, ‘March 13th 🥰✨ _my dads’ birthday_ ✨’

[@emdove]

My favourite thing about it was that my dads birthday is March 14th, so I went “March 13th 🤩 one day before my dads b-day” right before she said it 😂

[@pickles3128]

@Juragan Cuci Nobody wants to watch that dumb nature video, stop spamming it.

[@sarahp6512]

Me, right after she said that: "It's also my best friend's birthday!"

[@Khaleesi_Jack]

@@pickles3128; thanks man. I was really about to go back up in the comments and take a look. Honestly. Lmao

[@jessicafox222]

March 13 is one of my closest friends birthdays! But he wishes it was the 14th because ✨pi day✨

[@ddtex4954]

Angelo should have shipped the ashes with DHL.

[@jenniferryersejones9876]

Heh, heh!

[@lazyhomebody1356]

LOL

[@cdub3019]

🤣 He did at the beginning

[@kathrynabbott5032]

Very good

[@juanitacarrollyoung2979]

👏👏

[@aliciabrewer9444]

Caitlin, you are hilarious, I love how you tell the stories with your funny humor. I love and enjoy watching your video's! Your awesome! 😆💟

[@Zaners82123]

Just got to say your thumbnail caught my eye. I thought you were holding an ice cream cone then looked longer and it's his tie!

[@acehasaface948]

Can someone PLEASE make ‘Ask Me About My Death Plan’ t-shirts???

[@liriodendronlasianthus]

Yes!

[@Annie4522]

Or just Betham's head!

[@acehasaface948]

@@Annie4522 oh my gosh, yes that too!

[@kidragakas]

Adding we need “Future corpse” tshirts too 🙌🏻

[@TheLadybughug]

@Juragan Cuci quit spamming!

[@llamasandanime]

Frieda should've sent Mabel. She might've stolen them for her own ceremony, but it would've guaranteed that the cremains came back to the US lol.

[@wela8]

Caitlin’s real gifting is story telling. Amazing! She’s the dead whisperer.

[@mayapanini]

I haven't seen anyone else suggest this, and I'm not sure if you've covered it already, but I've seen some discussion around King Charles II of Spain, and the... descriptive way he was described in his autopsy. It seems like an interesting topic!!

[@snazzypazzy]

The whole valley of the fallen and Franco thing also makes for an interesting (and heartbreaking) story.

[@starkitten0075]

Pretty sure Angelo "forgot" those cremains at the train station on purpose!

[@catgoroar]

Did not expect to learn that D.H. Lawrence was a Oedipus complex type dude

[@itwasagoodideaatthetime7980]

As Freud would say D H Lawrence had some serious 'Mommy issues'.

[@lazyhomebody1356]

One of his books is titled Sons and Lovers

[@ronrendon]

"That ALMOST is doing a lot of work there DH."

[@adoramae5436]

You should do a video on Dr. McDowell of St. Louis. He was a grave robber and preserved his daughter's body in a copper tube in Mark Twain Cave

[@rogersheddy6414]

Did that Italian dude forget those ashes at the train station accidentally on purpose? I once came across an empty brass Ash urn in the Goodwill for $8, and I had to explain to the lady who put the stuff on the Shelf exactly what it was... So I could imagine someone stealing a really cool vase to put their flowers in at home... " oh, I am so sorry my belovely, someone has stolen your late husband's ashes!"

[@itwasagoodideaatthetime7980]

Alternatively the ashes could have been scattered after the original owner of the urn died. My Grandmother died 5 years before my Grandfather. & he kept her ashes on the living room mantle piece untill he died. When he passed away he was cremated. & the family combined their ashes & then scattered them as they had wanted. But we were left with a lovely (but now sadly rather useless) ceramic urn. Thankfully we were put in touch with a poor family that needed an urn for their loved one. By the funeral home that had handled both my Grandparents funerals & cremations. So we gave the urn to the poor family to used for their loved one. It's what Nan would have wanted, she was big on helping those less fortunate & in need.

[@bromptondevice7685]

Somewhere somebody is looking at that lovely cookie jar they bought from the goodwill and wondering.....

[@rogersheddy6414]

@@bromptondevice7685 🤢🤢🤢🤢

[@rogersheddy6414]

@Juragan Cuci kzbin.info/www/bejne/sInWdGetrZl9opI Halfway through is the memorable scene, right after a bracelet falls off.

[@MaryAnnNytowl]

@@rogersheddy6414 I wish you hadn't responded to them. They've been spamming the entire comment section with that link! I've reported every one of them as spam, too.

[@allineedismusicnlove]

In love with how this came to me as a notification and I panicked wondering where IS his body like I lost it

[@flammycookie2568]

This comment gives me the impression, that this isn't the first time you have been in this kind of situation 😂

[@princesstamika]

"If you're like me you stay up late at night wondering... where are those corpses?!"

[@Ja-uu9ep]

where is it cliford? wheres the body..

[@MARS-bq1lq]

Nice username and pfp lol

[@luvondarox]

I read it and thought "Wait, did it go missing?" Like it was some Stay-Puft Marshmallow man that just decided to go out for a haunty stroll one day.

[@coyoteartist]

Hey, those are actually decent paintings. I saw them when I stayed in that hotel in 2002. I might be a little weird, I know. My mother thought I was.

[@MaryAnnNytowl]

Nothing wrong with a little weird. It's "normal" that scares me. 😄

[@coyoteartist]

@@MaryAnnNytowl But if your entire life is being weird, doesn't that make it your normal?

[@brilynngirly23]

As a fan from New Mexico, I squealed in excitement to hear a story being told on this channel! Loved it!

[@skunkrat01]

Anyone else loving the birds on the background making Caitlin reminiscent of Hela from Thor; which is appropriate, because she is the goddess of death. You can decide for yourselves who the former and latter are in the previous sentence. Not sure if it was on purpose, but totally loved it

[@ariyanamariapilskalns7205]

At 1:28 I couldn’t help but think they look like pubic hair after she quoted “Pubic hair”

[@charlesjessie1733]

I just thought that the paint was cracking and peeling.

[@summerfoley2481]

My grandmother had those exact birds on her living on wall.

[@yesterdaydream]

I want some of those lil' Jonathans-Livingston-Seagull on my own wall

[@chrisblevins755]

Hearing Caitlin say "F**k boy" made my bad day, the best day!

[@fuzzybutkus3951]

Don’t get out much do you??😷😷🤩🤩 time to get out there Chris.

[@andreeahalinga8142]

@@fuzzybutkus3951 why are you being so rude?!

[@Madronaxyz]

I spent summers working on a farm in the north Taos Valley from 1965 to 1971. All summer we took people on trail rides all over the foothills, often up to the Lawrence ranch. The woman who owned the farm where I stayed was Mabel Dodge Luhan's secretary for many years. I'm from West Texas and I never thought of the north Taos Valley as green. It was too dusty! The ground was sandy. The pines are the same sorts of greens you find in plants growing in semi-arid areas all over the world.

[@christinedavies4895]

Thank you so much for your videos in which you clearly and calmly explain and discuss so many difficult subjects from this video through to Waco to facts about death. The latter especially frightens me but you have helped lay some of these to rest for me so I Thank you.

[@noonespecial9233]

When the mention of death gives you life. 💀✨

[@theblackbaron4119]

Skull sparkles?

[@kayleighgunton9060]

Agreed 👌💀

[@clarimm6675]

As they say, people with daddy issues become people pleaser but people with mommy issues become psychopatchs. I'm glad D.H Lawrence did only end up as writer

[@fanofhifi]

I really appreciate how your videos are just getting better and better. The scripts and your delivery are both hilarious and the editing is more and more on point. Thanks for all your hard work on these!

[@fleurysjpeg2098]

Caitlin i swear you're so iconic when telling these stories bc the respect and the dealing with things that okay yeah are considered grim in a very colorful way and also a very interesting one. anyway what i'm trying to say is love your content!

[@RupertMissick]

LOL. Man, I can't explain why I LOL'd and had a chill go down my spine simultaneously at "David Herbert is your child now".

[@aguy2162]

At work, but Caitlin gets an Insta-click. Bring some dour fun to my day, oh beautiful, raven banged Death Queen 🙏

[@ShannaSimonsflower]

I just want to say, I really appreciate your videos. I'm going through a really harsh breakup of an 8 year relationship and I was really in a dark place. Then I got a notification that you uploaded a video. Made me smile and forget about all the bs going on around me for a bit. Just another example that you do wonderful things! Thank you for being who you are. (: ❤

[@MaryAnnNytowl]

You have my sympathy and understanding. I am going through the breakdown of 39 year marriage, myself. The most painful thing I've ever had to deal with... including having my own mother die in my arms.

[@ShannaSimonsflower]

@@MaryAnnNytowl I'm so sorry you're struggling... I couldn't imagine what you're feeling..

[@colleenwatch]

You are so smart, so creative and such a great writer! I’m thankful I found your site.

[@MJISA5]

Caitlin’s vibe totally changed my mood from “ugh” to “ok, I can deal with people”.

[@fishiest3539]

As an English major, d.h. Lawrence's story "the rocking horse winner" makes a lot more sense knowing about the weird mom stuff

[@louferrao2044]

Caitlin is amazing! I am enthralled at the level of detail she puts out.

[@aejamariegoldsmith]

Thanks Caitlin! You're awesome. And so informative.

[@zazaru600]

As someone who spent a good portion of their young life attending French immersion school in Canada, I can relate to Caitlyn's pronunciation troubles on a spiritual level. Ever hear an irish person try to speak french? It's not pretty.

[@cannibalisticrequiem]

Technically he's Scottish, but all I can think of is Groundskeeper Willie saying "Bonjourrrrrrrr ya cheese-eatin' surrender monkeys!"

[@Secret_Soul_Survivor]

@@cannibalisticrequiem Who is Scottish? The OP refers to himself there as Irish growing up in Canada and learning French.

[@a.b.7932]

@@Secret_Soul_Survivor I think they’re referring to Groundskeeper Willie from The Simpsons

[@acasualcactus5878]

[Insert witty comment about how Caitlin’s quotes should go on a shirt]

[@Sarateg]

I would totally get some if she did!

[@NWolfsson]

"He was a ladies' man... A f*ckboi!" -Caitlin Doughty, about an author. 2021.

[@jadealexandrawaldeburg1093]

today was a bad day and seeing this made it a hell of a lot better, thank you Caitlin

[@shadowknows5750]

Thank you for keeping me entertained during a difficult time. Cheers.

[@RyanKingld]

I live in the mining village he was born in, they've seriously tried to make him relevant here. A museum, a trail following where he lived etc. but there's just no interest unfortunately. :-/ I found this video really interesting, thank you. :)

[@gloriastroedecke2717]

I enjoyed my day in Eastwood. They have contempt for him in general but they don't mind the tourist money. I did like the path and seeing the area. I was trying to imagine how it really would have been for him. In 1995 ( when I was there)it looked charming and quaint- not likely during his time there.

[@RyanKingld]

It's changed so much, the blue line is hardly visible anymore, the heritage museum has gone and the only thing even remotely linked is a Wetherspoons Pub named The Lady Chatterley.

[@Bastonikov]

Mother Death once again asking the questions I didn't know I desperately needed the answers to

[@roivosemraiva]

Thank you for such detailed accounts and storytelling of D.H.Lawrence...his life makes a good movie...his life did resemble his books...

[@eirenieve]

I'm currently reading From Here To Eternity and needed to hear your informative video. Please keep both books and videos coming. The experience is amazing and life-changing.

[@timothy4664]

Caitlin saying f' boy made me lose the coffee I was drinking. Sadly there is no emoji that shows projectile coffee laughing. Lol.

[@hullinstruments]

14:35 that’s the new name for my rock band! “Corpse collapse“

[@JaneDoe-fn8ni]

Love your videos, Caitlin!!!

[@veenbpolar8879]

I love your channel so much. Thank you for all your research and thoughtful story telling

[@laurakmaguire]

I’m from and currently live in Eastwood, the town DHL was born in. Eastwood is very committed to the cultural preservation of DHL’s life and works - there’s a DHL society and a museum of his birthplace. We’re still a small, working class town, and DHL is loved for his representation of Eastwood working class mining life. I personally especially love how he often writes his dialogue in accented Nottinghamshire - which is still a strong accent today!

[@sgtcrabfat]

Nice one, Im from near there, another ex-mining village, and when I took my Wife to Eastwood we were both surprised by the attention given to him and his works ,for instance, the staff at the museum/home we very keen, we will go again once this Covid is done with,

[@NekoJesusPie]

Bruh the paintings are lovely what’s their damage. First-half 20th century art was that, they all painted balls and it was nice.

[@psychadelicpotato8580]

They painted balls respectfully and aesthetically something tumbler and deviant art artists cannot fathom.

[@healinggrounds19]

Those paintings are glorious! Like, I am ready to take off my clothes and jump in there and dance too.

[@DibIrken]

A 20min video!!! My girls have been very busy lately. Thank you, Caitlin and team. 😭😭❤️

[@petmom1967]

Your research and presentations are amazing. This was quite a trip!

[@KillsAllHumanity]

When you did your undergrad thesis on lady chatterleys lover and actually know the answer to this question 😬

[@MathildaFlow]

Oh do tell! ❤️

[@psychadelicpotato8580]

+1

[@victorguevara9227]

Do you remember any part of what you wrote?

[@AVisionInFur]

Mine was on Lady Chatterley’s Lover, too!

[@KillsAllHumanity]

@@victorguevara9227 vaguely hahaha

[@iskandertime747]

Every person in this story is absolutely fascinating.

[@MandieLynneReview]

I appreciate the educational content that you offer on your channel, in a fun and interesting way. You’ve helped me become so death positive, which you have no idea how much helped me in my work and personal life. Thank you. You have no idea how much you’ve really helped me.

[@mark_fox_music]

Excellent! Freida lived literally yards from our house in Sherwood Nottingham and Lawrence was dating or engaged to the daughter of Chambers Farm, about ten minutes walk from Freida's house... I often think of him on his gallivanting between the two across the fields. He must have liked living in danger!