Waiting til marriage

[@UnplannedPodcast]

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[@everyone1liesd459]

I have one question though Did you make other partners that you've had before wait? I usually ask that Then try to get in with the ex or his friends and see if she was lying I'll be damned if you make me wait but not other dudes that shzt only works on Logan Paul

[@mercutiomurphy2743]

idk man if you waited 5 years, she's either the one, or you're the worlds biggest fool. @@everyone1liesd459

[@mompierce9306]

So disciplined! Very impressed and proud of you.

[@matthewburnett3894]

Do not recommend it 😂😂

[@mechadoggy]

@Bryson Hall “you are basically just waiting to be recognized by the state to be able to do it?” But at the same time, what’s stopping couples then from simply registering their marriage at city hall then if it’s really that meaningless (but highly valued by certain people nonetheless)?

[@mechadoggy]

@Bryson Hall “it’s just they’re waiting to have sex until they are recognized by the state as being married” Well usually, a couple that is serious about waiting until marriage doesn’t care if they’re “recognized by the state as being married” but rather cares much more about being recognized by God as being married. I’ve never found a couple that has purposely waited until marriage for any other reason.

[@mechadoggy]

@Bryson Hall “and what will god give them after waiting?” It’s more that God the Father has already given them so much by sending His Son Jesus who willingly died an excruciating death on the cross so that we can have a chance of escaping divine punishment as long as we follow Jesus and have Him be their Lord and Savior. Therefore, some of Jesus’ followers are grateful for His sacrifice on the cross and obey His commands (like “waiting”) out of gratitude to Him. “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through Him. Whoever believes in Him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because He has not believed in the name of the only Son of God.” (John 3:16-18)

[@mechadoggy]

@Bryson Hall Well, if you don’t believe in Jesus, then His laws and commands would be something that you’d likely never understand since you wouldn’t have ever received His Holy Spirit to come live inside of you.

[@kayladewaard4019]

Lol should clarify that she would not recommend having a long engagement, not the waiting til marriage🙂 Waiting til marriage is totally worth it.

[@jewelblue8496]

Precisely. 😂

[@nezhinkayash]

I didn't. But we did date for 18 months before getting together.

[@justinian6199]

Lol thx for clarifying that took me aback 😂😂

[@LuluGen689]

I'm positive he cheated

[@Speedkillseal]

Not worth it. Sex is good before mariage also. No need to wait 5 years

[@er-jt3rz]

so nice to hear there are still couples who wait till marriage. may God bless both of your marriages!

[@katypili]

come to Utah almost everyone waits for marriage but they get married in like 2 months tho

[@Faith_over_fear11]

Yes!

[@CatLoverR01]

@@katypilithat’s because they’re all mormon in utah lol my husband is mormon

[@dontnot56363]

Lord please wtf open his pants to realise there is nothing worth waiting 🤣🤣🤣😂TRY BEFORE U BUY DUDE

[@karinamendiola7667]

@@dontnot56363grow up

[@shaunasartoris3769]

We waited til marriage (4 years dating + 1.5 year engagement) and don’t regret it at all! It really helped us build trust, commitment, and exclusivity 💛

[@jenniferjamison4912]

You didn’t do anything sexual before marriage?

[@shaunasartoris3769]

​@@jenniferjamison4912 We would make out (somewhat aggressively, some might say😅) but if our hands started to wander too much, we'd pull back. Never went past "first base," if you know what I mean 😂 But we still learned so much about each other's physical desires just from kissing and cuddling, and from talking about what we did and didn't like! Our sex communication has always been strong, and I think it's because from the beginning, we were good at voicing and sticking to our boundaries. Even in marriage, sometimes you need boundaries, and in those moments I've never doubted that my husband loves me for more than just my body! 💛

[@beavadakkoot]

We also waited 4 years for marriage, but the long distance made it easier hahah

[@gloriack7976]

It was just past four years for us and yes the long distance aspect definitely helped lol the last four months of our engagement when he finally moved was the hardest part I think but we were very committed at that point to seeing it through all the way. So so glad we did but man I wish I could’ve married that man in that first year of dating lol!!

[@JediiTaylor]

My husband and I waited til marriage, and though it was hard, it was probably one of the most rewarding things we’ve done for our relationship.

[@adb1950]

I’m sure it was real hard

[@nnicollan]

@@adb1950 me too 😅 real hard

[@kimmyymmik]

I’m sorry but is this a religion thing? Sex is no different if you have it a month after dating or waiting 5 years. It just seems crazy

[@KryptonKr]

@@kimmyymmik Marriage is a religious thing. So, probably most people who waits for marriage are religious but for some people, it can be an achievement for discipline etc. Some people also sees sex as very intimate and wouldn’t just give it easily and some like yourself maybe who thinks it is no different if you did it, then sex has no real value in a relationship. It would be nothing to the other person if it makes no difference. People have different views about it. Some people actually believes in being disciplined and it is rewarding to most people who waits for it because they truly learn and appreciate the value of intimate sex when they know they can do it anytime but decided to wait for it makes it more meaningful

[@JediiTaylor]

@@Crowski No lol. If your relationship is dependent on if the sex is good or not, you might want to rethink marriage.

[@anthonyparisella7224]

Absolute respect to this couple. They deserve a long happy life together

[@mads597]

What if it’s a toxic relationship (hypothetically) does that matter or is it more about preserving a good image despite being unhappy

[@2501vai]

​@@mads597 how the hyuk did you get there? 🤣

[@ViolentEpyon]

​@@2501vai it's not impossible tbf

[@bebo5558]

In case you didn't hear, they divorced a week after this post! No sex, is no guarantee of anything, time is the proof!

[@ihavethedocuments2580]

It is the right thing.

[@jaclynwilhelm4932]

Yes! My husband and I waited too, and dated almost 5 years as well. Worth the wait!

[@youtubeguy345]

me and my girlfriend are christians and have been dating for awhile now. always gonna wait until marriage! gonna pop the question at the end of this year😊 *SHE SAID YES!!!*

[@sayok3571]

God bless man!! Hope everything goes well 🫶🙏🏾

[@bhawanachauhan4004]

sending u best wishes❤

[@youtubeguy345]

@@sayok3571 God bless you too ! I appreciate it❤️

[@youtubeguy345]

@@bhawanachauhan4004 Thank you😊

[@bhawanachauhan4004]

@@youtubeguy345 ❤

[@kristadavis2825]

Ours was 7 years. Engaged for 8 months. We had strict rules for ourselves and no, it wasn’t for religious reasons, hubby wasn’t a believer until 2021. We waited for scientific reasons and to make our emotional and intellectual connections the strongest.

[@MTC1104]

God is soo glad to see people honor him

[@sandrawilliams7173]

Praise God! God bless you both & continued blessings in your marriage & lives.

[@BakuraLOLZ54]

I appreciate you guys talking about how much discipline it takes to wait til marriage. Grinds my gears when people are like “your love for Jesus should make it the easiest thing in the world” and I’m like yeah but most people have hormones 🤣

[@robyn220]

😂😂😂 right! People say that about way too many tough situations/standards. Like oh love of the lord makes it so easy or oh just pray it away. Like ummm, it’s not just so simple. And then it makes some feel so guilty that they’re experiencing hardship in hard circumstances. Like it’s gonna be hard. Nothing worthwhile comes easy! 🧿💙🦋

[@mialo420]

Jesus isn’t stronger than hormones?

[@clairemondemanseau1250]

​@@mialo420 Jesus in itself yes but God also want us to have babies so we have sexual urge so we don't waist time to bring more life on earth ❤ wich make it hard to fight but possible

[@foodfornot]

Not from this culture but I grew up with friends who did and liked to pretend the urges don't exist 🤣😭 Like it's okay we're all human! You don't have to act on the feelings if that doesn't align with your beliefs but don't lie!

[@lilyvega2896]

@@clairemondemanseau1250 the sexual urges start young for some people…god wants teen parents? I’m curious

[@billmalone5050]

Good for you two !!!!! I admire people who stick to their principles, beliefs, morals and standards. They are much better individuals than I will ever be.

[@salang-wo852]

Don't think like that, please. God said he chose you before the foundation of Earth!! You didn't just pop up one day, he knew you in your mother's womb. You're worth it for him, and if you're still alive, repent and confess that Christ is Lord, and learn to grow close to God !❤

[@taylorb6469]

My wife and I waited 5 hours. like she said, it take a lot of discipline, but it’s possible.

[@SandyS107]

Lol! So many people are not even choosing to get married anymore. I have noticed these couples they have been interviewing all must have the same religion in common. It is great if they wait, but what if it is not all so wonderful as it has been for all if these people?

[@Rowan-se3hq]

​​@@SandyS107true, which is why you should decide with your partner if you want to wait. It's all a preference..if you have a desire to wait,wait! But if it's like pressure from your family or religion you don't HAVE to. It's different for everyone

[@SandyS107]

@@Rowan-se3hq Too late for that now. I am close to retirement and on my own. If I meet someone that is great. If not so be it. I find life is good on my own as well and maybe less complicated.

[@Rowan-se3hq]

@@SandyS107 I'm glad 😊 I really do aspire to be someone who doesn't rely on a relationship! Life is very beautiful, regardless of whether you are married or not. I hope you find your peace 🩷

[@alicejohn7316]

@@SandyS107If both husband and wife have never had sex before marriage then you have nothing to compare to. You wouldn’t know any better and if you communicate your desires and needs then you learn together.

[@jocelync.r2628]

My husband and I did not wait till marriage but we were each others first and still are 13 years later. ❤️

[@pecanpie45]

That's also within God's law! Don't let anyone tell you different

[@lucalage3610]

​@@pecanpie45 would u mind explaining why? genuinely interested

[@JustAskingQuestions8571]

​@lucalage3610 I'm not saying I agree, but I think it's because in the Old Testament, there often weren't formal marraige ceremonies, and "marraige" essentially started when the couple had relations for the first time. I would like to know exactly when and why ceremonies became a necessary component of marraiges though, because to be honest, it could make sense that all it takes to be "married" in God's eyes (not in the law's eyes though), is intent to be in a permanent relationship plus the marital act (and the blessing of the bride's father).

[@pecanpie45]

@@BentleyPawsEtsy sex is marriage. You just have to stay together from there

[@paperpage4843]

@@pecanpie45 absolutely wrong

[@-cerena.fish-]

Love is the most amazing thing... Waiting for each other to be loved ❤

[@simplysarahorganizedesign938]

The only thing stronger than LOVE is a Trauma Bond

[@-cerena.fish-]

@@simplysarahorganizedesign938 bruh :))

[@54565syu]

@@-cerena.fish- you’re stupid if you think that man waited 5 years to fuck. He was fucking already.

[@samesamv1472]

That was the HARDEST thing... I bet 😂

[@AbbyMcGuire23]

My husband and I waited for marriage! 3 years ♥️

[@symphony_in_plaid4592]

Got to know each other really well for several months. Didn’t hold hands and rarely hugged until we officially started dating. Didn’t kiss until we got engaged 10 months later. Six months between engagement and wedding; only 40 days to go. 😊 We’re not each other’s first relationship, but we’re both waiting for marriage, so we’ll be each other’s first in more important ways.

[@xoluciaxo_3721]

The sex bit i understand but why the kissing tho? I can’t imagine dating someone for 10 months and not kissing them even once. Wouldn’t the relationship feel more like a friendship after a while? Anyways congrats tho!😊

[@laurenprothero8859]

Trust me, sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship. The raw emotional vulnerability of sharing every struggle of life, every fear, every inch of soul and body is. Sex is just sex and always will be.

[@symphony_in_plaid4592]

@@xoluciaxo_3721 I personally just never wanted to kiss someone I wasn’t going to marry. Just a me thing, basically. He’d kissed one girl before, but agreed that he was more than willing to wait until we potentially got engaged. We had plenty of bonding experiences and had a lot of fun together (we both enjoy dancing, I got him into playing D&D, etc.), and there was always something more that didn’t feel like just friendship. Because of the time we spent getting to know each other first, we had the joy of knowing we were pretty in love with each other before we even started dating. That for me was awesome. 😁

[@user-sz2ez8tk1y]

@@symphony_in_plaid4592 I completely understand the kissing part. I told a guy i was talking to a few years ago that I wanted my first kiss to be with my first boyfriend and that i didn't want to kiss him unless we were dating. A few days later he asked me if i wanted to get something to eat so i said sure. He went the complete opposite way from the restaurant and ended up taking me to some random field and forced me to kiss him. I'm glad that was the only thing that happened but till this day I'm mad that he didn't care even though kissing seems like a small thing. I was 16. Now I'm 22 and with my first boyfriend and we are engaged! Still have to plan the wedding but I'm glad I waited for the right man

[@symphony_in_plaid4592]

@@user-sz2ez8tk1y I was 22 when I got engaged! I’m 23 now. I’m also super sorry that happened to you. That was wrong of him. Glad you found someone much better 😊

[@mikeferguson4816]

Define "wait..." cuz I've heard that "other stuff" doesn't count... 🤣

[@Oreovic_]

My aunt and uncle were engaged for damn near 10 years before he took her to Hawaii to shut her up about it 😂😂

[@simplysarahorganizedesign938]

Purity Culture left me with PTSD waited till marriage, still ended in divorce

[@sherbetstraw]

I’m so sorry. Purity culture is horrific. There’s no way Jesus would say even 1% of what people hear through purity culture.

[@Nobcfr..]

Well yes sex isn’t the whole marriage, it’s still really amazing that you did that. Not something to regret

[@carmenuchennaokoye8593]

No offense but what does waiting have to do with your divorce..?

[@simplysarahorganizedesign938]

@@Nobcfr.. I regret the trauma bond that was encouraged by Purity Culture. I’m guessing you were spared given that you don’t seem to comprehend the amount of psychological damage. I regret my mother’s trauma that prompted her to use Fear Mongering against her own child. I would have MUCH preferred a healthy freedom of understanding of my own body and my own boundaries. Ya know HEALTHY psychology around normal development.

[@simplysarahorganizedesign938]

@@carmenuchennaokoye8593 I followed the “rules” and it didn’t “save” my marriage. We also did premarital Bible study with my church, involved in young couples fellowship. We were each other’s “only ever” and he still emotionally abandoned the marriage. Creating a fear based trauma bond is not enough to guarantee “til death do us part” It’s manipulation of minds to fear their human instincts and doesn’t work toward preserving the “sanctity of marriage”

[@flowerspuppys253]

Waiting for marriage is everyone’s personal decision, and neither side should be shamed. It’s totally fine to not wait for marriage, and it’s also totally fine to wait even if it isn’t for religious purposes, just your own personal reasons.

[@peculiartreasure1382]

That is fornication. Sexual immorality. Laying with anyone outside of your spouse WILL open you up to demonic torment. You WILL change mentally, emotionally, spiritually and not even realize. It will just be "normal" to you. Going against the order of purity affects you as going against God. You allow evil spirits the right attach to you. This is more than "religion". This is spiritual protection. God Bless whoever is to read this with true understanding.

[@TheSnyderWeb]

It’s better and safer to wait though

[@Ivy-dd8bf]

@@TheSnyderWeb Not for everyone. I wouldn’t have known about my vaginismus if I waited.

[@Spidertheidiot]

​​@@TheSnyderWeb"Better" is so subjective that you can't really argue it. Better in what way? Morally? Well that's different to different people. Health wise? Well yes, but safe sex practices make that a somewhat useless point, not to mention the possibility of cheating. Pleasure? Yet again, dependent on the person/people involved. It's not better or worse to do one or the other, it just is 🤷‍♀️

[@sunspicecitrus]

​@@TheSnyderWebsafer...for what? for who? marriage does not protect from stds, from pregnancy scares, pregnancy loss, sexual assault, rape, abuse, any of the risks that come with sex exist during marriage as we. To each their own! Love that this works for them, but the commenter is right:)

[@ViewAppalachia]

That man knew he found a true gem in her. A wonderful hilarious woman with morals values and discipline

[@defi5]

That discipline right there is what makes a marriage last.. I admire this greatly and I am waiting until marriage myself. Good for you guys!!

[@mimi_j]

Maaaan if you can wait for marriage and have 5 yrs to wait at that 😮‍💨😮‍💨the discipline you have is outstanding 💕💕love it.

[@lilbean33]

But also don't just get married because you want to do it and don't want to break the Christian code. I know a few people/ young adults who married for the wrong reasons and to keep an image for their church. They have kids and want out but won't for the sake of how it'll affect their image.

[@MegNotTheStallion]

My grandma stayed in an abusive marriage for far longer than she should've because of the way people would judge her. My family lived in the Bible belt in the Appalachian mountains of NC. It's still frowned on and was way more frowned on back then. She eventually left when my mom who was the baby was 10. The town did look down on her. They my mom got pregnant with my brother when she was 15, her first time ever having a sexual relationship, because sex wasn't a topic to be discussed and she believed myths on preventing pregnancy. Her family became the shame of the town after that. Her own first cousin wasn't even allowed to speak to her. She was made to marry the boy who got her pregnant and it broke her.

[@pigs18]

We need to normalize both and accept that it's up to the couple to make decisions for themselves and that as we are not Him, do not have any right to pass judgement.

[@jenniferibarra7737]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years going in 5 years soon . We only gave our life to Christ almost 3 years ago. It used to be much harder but God strengthen us and we hate what agog hates which is sin . We need to be strong and courageous in the Lord. We used to fight so bad before we gave our life to Christ and our relationship made us suicidal. God rescued both of our souls. We aren’t engaged yet due to finances but we pray God makes a way for us ❤

[@blustephenson9227]

Ok but I kinda love how they're talking about abstinence like I'm loving not being told I have to do this or being shamed I love that y'all are just sharing y'all's experience and how it personally benefitted y'all 💖 usually the abstinence discussion can get sticky real quick but thank y'all for this discussion 💖 and they don't recommend a long engagement not waiting it was just a bad cut

[@UnfazedPhoenix]

Yea that's the great part about Matt and Abby's podcast. They don't shove their beliefs down your throat, they don't judge or shame, they just share what they have experienced and their guests do the same. It's very refreshing.

[@surlespasdondine]

One year is normal to me. To plan the wedding.

[@Michelle-gg7hn]

You can easily plan a wedding in 4- 6 months. I have several friends and family members that planned beautiful weddings within 3 months. A few friends had 6 week long engagements... Still had food, wedding dress, venue, professional hair and makeup done, professional photography etc etc... It really doesn't take that much if all you truly care about is marrying the love of your life, it can easily be planned.

[@surlespasdondine]

@@Michelle-gg7hn Interesting. I read a few guides when I was a future bride, they all gave advice to plan it in different stages over a year. But I'm sure it would be possible sooner. I'm just used to people always planning it over a 1 year period. Also my husband proposed to me in the summer and we wanted a summer wedding, so it worked out. Now I think of it, my sister waited until marriage and they got married super fast after meeting.😀

[@AlexzzzAcid]

I was only engaged for 3 months and I'm glad it went fast because wedding planning for a whole year sounds like a nightmare to me 😂 also engagement is the most difficult phase when waiting for marriage because it's so close yet so far away still and you just want to be with your partner already so I'm glad we did it fast, my friends are doing 1 year though and they seem like they're doing fine, part of it is long distance tho

[@salwaas938]

@@Michelle-gg7hn ig but my brothers wedding which was 3 months after the engagement was the most stressful days of all of our lives like the stress of managing funds, finding clothes etc but then again we are Indians and Indian weddings usually are more “dramatic” ig idk Also if money isn’t a big issue then I guess it could be less stressful

[@robyn220]

I agree. Weddings are super hard work and usually planning is done between two different people with full time jobs and two schedules. It’s a lot, especially when you’re trying to do it alone no wedding planner. And mom in laws /extended family members sometimes demand being involved. Oh my lord just thinking about it gives me anxiety. Lol

[@sherlock7898]

If I find a Godly man I love, I don’t think I can wait a year to marry him. 😂 Honey lets elope!

[@reading.bee.]

Honestly, I wish my husband and I just eloped too. We had a year long engagement and it was so hard to wait!

[@Mia-sp5wh]

@@reading.bee.why is it so hard for people to wait ?

[@reading.bee.]

@Mia-sp5wh We were young and in love! (I got married at 19) We still waited until our wedding night, but that doesn't mean it wasn't hard. We also had a lot of family pressuring us to stay engaged for a year in order to have a large wedding. My husband and I didn't really want such a large wedding or to wait that long, but we did it to make our families happy.

[@museobettywhatley8705]

My engagement was 5 months, and that was barely enough time to plan a wedding, but it still felt too long 😅

[@NY_CountryGal]

You're not the only one I've seen commented this, I'm curious how y'all pull it off? On "say yes to the dress" they say it takes 8 months at least to get the dress alone, and photographers I've seen online book out years in advance.

[@museobettywhatley8705]

@@NY_CountryGal I think I had clear priorities and not crazy high standards. The marriage is so much more important than the wedding, so I didn't sweat the small stuff and kept it simple. My sister worked at a clothing store that didn't sell wedding dresses but somehow had three in stock that they needed to get rid of. There were 3. The one I chose was 75 dollars. I did spend 150 on alterations, but for a new wedding dress, it's not bad. We were going to get married in our church, but got a huge pavilion at a park for really cheap. We did all of the cleaning and decorating ourselves. (Mostly with stuff we borrowed.) My Aunt and sister made my cake. I just kept it simple with a white cake and fake florals. That ain't also made the bouquets and boutonnieres. There was a lady at church that doesn't cater professionally, but makes good food for hordes or people, so we hired her to be in charge of the food. A close family friend prepared the rehearsal dinner. Just lots of things like that. We grew up pretty broke, so we make the best with the least. I had a great group of family and friends that happily spent hours helping us get things ready. And I didn't have grand illusions and unrealisting deciaions that could only be done by professionals becuase they weren't professionals. For example for food, I told the lady our budget and asked what she would suggest and then went with her suggestion. I wasn't gonna insist on something she didn't know how to make or that didn't fit in the budget. When people help you, you've gotta accept their help for what it is. The one professional we hired was our fotographer, which was the best investment. That was actually the first thing I did planning becuase professionals don't work on short notice. Anything in the wedding that wasn't perfect, he made look perfect in the pictures. I have several budget bride friends. One ordered a dress from Etsy made for her measurements for 100.00! No alterations needed.

[@NY_CountryGal]

@@museobettywhatley8705 this made sense, I think I get caught up in all these lavish weddings I see on TV and social media, that's why it feels so overwhelming to me.

[@museobettywhatley8705]

@@NY_CountryGal I get that! It's so fun to see :) I love the drama! Just don't feel pressured by other people's expectations. Work with your fiance, and as long as you're both happy, everything will be perfect.

[@michaelmerrill589]

Good job 👏!

[@echomcdaniel8763]

We dated for 3 years before he proposed. Then our engagement was like 5 months 😂 we had waited long enough, we were reeeeady. ❤❤❤

[@laurarodriguez9407]

We waited for marriage and it’s something we will never regret. We were engaged for 6 months after dating a year and that 6 months felt like forever. If we regret anything, it was not getting married sooner! People need to have important conversations early in their relationship. And see how the other person treats the people around them. You can learn so much about a person’s true character by watching them and asking them tough questions.

[@mechadoggy]

“You can learn so much about a person’s true character by watching them and asking them tough questions.” Exactly! Like, what’s with all the long delays to ask tough questions when you’ve already invested so much time and energy into a relationship? Isn’t it much more efficient to ask those tough questions earlier on so as to not waste time? That way, you can more easily go past the ones that failed to answer correctly so that you can more easily move onto those who will answer correctly.

[@beepboop7090]

You got married less than two years into dating? That’s pretty quick! Everyone I know in real life that waited t’ill marriage got married very quickly too and about 3/4 got divorced less than 5 years later because of incompatibilities

[@mechadoggy]

@@beepboop7090 So what are you implying? Are you saying Laura Rodriguez here will get divorced? Are you saying the same thing for Hunter and Devin Cordle too?

[@Carolinefdq]

​@@beepboop7090 Your negative attitude and implications says a lot about you, to be honest.

[@joshuaclevenger496]

I waited till marriage and I would recommend it because it shows real love and dedication

[@Ricksjustice]

Couples that wait till marriage like that have a 90% success rate in staying married for life!!

[@PriyankaChauhan-iq4bc]

Lol exactly

[@heavenlymonkey]

Causation or correlation?

[@CrazyGorilla99]

I’m pretty sure they only surveyed married couples besides like one couple that was divorced. It has nothing to do with waiting on sex

[@yaramercedes2931]

“Do not recommend it”😂😂😂😂

[@szabomonika6457]

I'm with my boyfriend since 2020, and we're having our 3 year anniversary this year as being a couple, and we plan on waiting 3 more years to marry each other haha🤐😂

[@jewelblue8496]

Wow!

[@oliviasawyer5040]

Oh my gosh, me too. Me and my boyfriend are having our 3rd Anniversary next week and plan on waiting until marriage also

[@melissalaw6634]

Why would you wish to put off your marriage if you're sure of each other?

[@szabomonika6457]

@@melissalaw6634 if you mean why we wait more, then it's because we are still young, and want to go to college before getting married

[@MarieM-ui4bu]

Why waiting for long? Are you unable to marry each other or what?

[@icyblu9836]

That's some serious foreplay

[@jessicaeggleston8033]

This is awesome good for you guys!! If I could go back with the understanding I have now, I’d wait until marriage. It’s the one thing you only share with your spouse and it connects you on such a deep level. I wish I only shared that part of me with the love of my life. I just didn’t value it the way I do now.

[@PeaceLoveHappiness7719]

Impressed! I didn’t wait!

[@Sebadoh1994]

I wish I waited until marriage so badly! I waited for what I thought was my first love. But now I’m with the man I’m going to marry and I regret it. I wish this world was different. I wish it was cool to wait.

[@xxxxSOSEXYxxxx]

Or we can stop making sex some dirty act only married couples should do as virgins.

[@ItsNicoleAnderson]

Felt but also at the same time I don’t entirely regret it bc i am who I am now bc of it and also God forgave me for it

[@van2165]

Why do you wish you waited

[@Sebadoh1994]

@@ItsNicoleAnderson that’s very true

[@Sebadoh1994]

@@van2165 because I wish he was my first and didn’t have partners before each other

[@CV-br1eu]

I knew I liked this couple the first time I saw one of their shorts. And now I know why, fundamental morals shine through, so cool.

[@loraberhar]

My husband and I waited three and a half years for marriage!! Super hard but worth it!!!

[@beteeho]

There is no way I could keep my "hands" off of either of those men.

[@terrahhall8789]

My husband and I waited. 5 month engagement !!! I wish it had been shorter. Been married 28 years.

[@kellyw9459]

Gotta say WILL POWER!!! Strength in unity! Love the Grinch family

[@snoyes5687]

Loved hearing this. God bless you!

[@kattwin1]

Waiting for marriage was one of the greatest gifts my husband gave to me. Seeing him at the end of the aisle on our wedding day and knowing no women from his past "stood up there" with him filled me with security. And being intimate with my husband and knowing no other woman has ever experienced him and his love before--knowing that it was all for me forever, even before he knew me--is the absolute greatest gift. It's one of the most romantic, chivalrous, self-sacrificial acts any man of good character can do for their future wife. To know he promised himself to me, and I to him, before we even knew each other, fills me with peace and makes my heart safe.

[@M_A_R_K_23]

Seems controlling but whatever works for y’all

[@mirianalajtman7728]

Wow this is so beautiful

[@samanthastillman7045]

So nice not having all the baggage!

[@Dev-qs2yb]

But what about you?

[@samanthastillman7045]

I dont have any either because I waited too.

[@ilovepiedoyou2]

me & my fiancé are waiting but we had a short period of dating and are having a short engagement (dated for 6 months and will be engaged for 7 when we get marrier). we’re almost halfway through our engagement and it’s already so hard! not just because of waiting until marriage, but also because we’re waiting to live together. the hardest thing is saying goodbye at the end of the night :( i just want to cuddle with him and fall asleep together. but we have 4 more months until we can!!

[@OrlaAfikiruweh]

You've only got 1 month to go! You've got this 😁

[@cindysmith1476]

That is awesome. I am so proud of you all. I tell my granddaughters that is precious and should wait.

[@Elegance263]

That’s great! That’s how it should be. So happy for you.

[@jayelle5375]

If anyone is watching this and feeling guilty for not waiting… it’s ok! Please do not put purity culture on a pedestal like it’s this ultimate accomplishment. If you choose to wait till marriage, great! And if you don’t, that’s fine too! It’s great that it worked out for these two couples… but for every couple that is happy after getting married so young, there’s probably many many more who regret getting married so young, just so they can have sex. There are pros and cons to both.. people should choose what’s best for them and their partner. And purity culture can be very toxic and dangerous.

[@israeliana]

this isn't purity culture. and anyone can be celibate. it's self preservation and discipline.

[@Aj-sn1dp]

@@israeliana it’s purity culture. it’s based on religious beliefs and the idea that a woman who has sex before marriage is worth less. that’s what you mean by “self preservation”. sex doesn’t ruin you. you don’t need to “discipline” yourself to not have it. have sex. don’t have sex. it’s not that important. accept the truth and move on 🙄

[@earthstar7534]

​@@Aj-sn1dp respecting your body and managing who gets to enter it like you are a temple is bad for women? "Purity culture" no no, thats a you problem.

[@Aj-sn1dp]

@@earthstar7534 you’re not a temple. you’re a person. and managing and respecting yourself does NOT mean don’t have sex. a woman who sleeps with 10 men is absolutely no less worthy of anything than a woman who sleeps with one. you’re not special just bc you wait until you get married. and the idea of waiting is literally based of religious purity and the idea that you’re going to hell. but you’re not. because hell isn’t real, sex is sex, and getting married is an economic union. your sex life? a you problem and yours only

[@earthstar7534]

@@Aj-sn1dp you ARE a temple and how you treat yourself and your value matters. Every choice has consequences good and bad. Lots of women don't want a man of plentiful history either. Lots don't want to sacrifice their sexual health to sleep with you condom or not if you contract an incurable STD. It could affect your fertility and you financial stability. Not having multiple random sexual encounters isn't just religious, its having self respect and making good choices for your health, safety and security. Waiting until marriage can be nuts, but 10 people and its hard to believe you don't have an STD or lots of personal problems. I'm watching life from my 40's, my friends who live a bit wilder and more free aren't flourishing. I have friends in the church divorced, but mostly because the partners decided to be sexually inappropriate. Thats not religion, thats people not respecting the act of sex or their partners. It all really boils down to stop having sex flippantly at all stages of life. It never ends well.

[@Ghoulie222]

Me and my hubby waited a year. I was 21 and he was 23, we’ve been married for 7 years now! 💜

[@aryanagrawal8540]

It is good for u but i think their decision is also decent

[@zenden6564]

❤ 2U

[@abigailwall2522]

So proud to see people of my generation holding this standard I wish I would have had the same values I do now when I was 18

[@mochacellow]

This is why couples knew of each other and then courted. Intent to marry, then the engagement would be only a few months. Five years is torture. Good for you! My personal opinion is no dating until you're marriageable. It really solved all those problems. Nothing wrong with looking while you wait, but maintaining distance until you're both ready saves a lot heartache.

[@nicolemeinie7275]

Inspirational honestly. These couples are sending out the right message maaan

[@alyssabrown1121]

"Do not recommend it"😂😂

[@rayfamilyadventures3753]

@@alyssabrown1121 do not recommend the long engagement lol. Not the waiting HAHA

[@emaleedahl7958]

I wish I saw more couples like this when I was younger! Def grew up with the wrong message😢

[@nicolemeinie7275]

​@@alyssabrown1121 😂😂

[@anna-fx7fl]

What right message? The couple hosting this podcast got married straight out of highschool, not much waiting involved

[@ayronmarie]

We waited till marriage, so our engagement was just over 3 months 😅😂😂

[@symphony_in_plaid4592]

6 for us 😆 almost 5 months down! 40 days to go 😊

[@TheAverageServant]

Ain’t nothing wrong with that 😂😂😂

[@user-jr9gj1ze3c]

Well in islam this kind of " discipline" is a must which actually shows how a disciplined and composing of a religion islam is .alhamdo li Allah

[@cindimonks5661]

We waited till marriage too. 2 years. It is hard but you can do it if you put your mind to it. Good for your guys!

[@gwendolyn9699]

First date for us 😂

[@KelsiChristine]

Thats crazzyyy. Good for them tho!!

[@Erinlou11]

I think it’s absolutely wild that people get married young just so they can have sex.

[@seganaleqa]

Sex wasn’t the reason they got married young. They loved each other and had been together for 5 years, that’s the main reason they got married.

[@Erinlou11]

@@seganaleqa I can only think if they were having sex before they got married, they probably would not have gotten married so young. Forever is a really long time to Rush.

[@NigeriaSheppard]

@@Erinlou11 if it was about sex, I think they would’ve had a shorter engagement and relationship

[@baleslydia2009]

I got married "young" by the US's current standards (21) but I wouldn't say I rushed getting married....and I waited for marriage to have sex. Through biblical principles that is one reason to marry (if you burn woth passion😂) but my husband and I knew eachother 7 yrs and were together for 3 yrs before marriage. We didn't premarital counseling and some relationship seminars and such before marriage. I actually think if we'd been intimate (having sex) before marriage it would have blinded us more making us feel this loyalty and connection even if we weren't good for eachither. Waiting helped us evaluate more clearly if we were making the right decision to marry and spend our lives together. But I'm speaking from a Christian perspective so much of this may not hold for relationships outside the Christian faith🤷‍♀️

[@baleslydia2009]

And ironically, I was the oldest of us to marry😂 my sisters were 19. My husband's mom was 18-19 and my parents were early 20's. Many of my extended family married young and have long lasting fulfilling marriages. None of my aunt's or uncles have divorced or separated and we have very open conversations about relationships and spend many holiday's as a family (aunt's uncle's grandparents cousins) because we all were taught the commitment marriage is and the type of person you are looking for to spend your life with. I know this is a rare thing and I'm very grateful for the blessing that this is and pray these relationships continue to strengthen with time.

[@utahlife8610]

They got my respect that's incredible

[@annav.delgado9715]

I didn’t wait and now I’m happily married with the same guy! To each their own 🫶

[@aryanagrawal8540]

Ur decision is ok but most ppl will prefer waiting till marriage yk just for purityyy

[@greatestever8514]

@@aryanagrawal8540not true. Purity means nothing. If anything it’s a bit weird. Relationships are about compatibility. That is mentality, goals, values, interests, views, and also sex. If ur aren’t compatible in one or two of those the relationship will eventually sour. Sex being a major part especially if ur sexually naive. If u don’t know ur likes and dislikes, and discover they aren’t what ur partner can give u, now you’re stuck either being unsatisfied sexually or leaving and having wasted potentially years of time.

[@raisingradicals5564]

"Do not recommend it" 😂

[@madelineshaw398]

If anything it IS recommended to wait til marriage because it shows how patient yall are towards eachother and how committed you are

[@tracksuitrob5348]

I disagree. You can be committed without waiting. And I feel like it’s a bad idea to wait because you won’t know if you’re sexually compatible. If you get married and find out the sex is awful with that person then what do you do? But to each their own. Just my personal opinion

[@thefryinator7774]

She meant the long engagement guys

[@thefryinator7774]

​@@tracksuitrob5348 omg, but you get to be with the same person forever, and if you already have the commitment, patience and communication down, fixing the sex is easy. Like it's really not that hard to have good sex with someone you love and truly care about.

[@rickduvall9265]

Not to mention, while you are discovering and getting the deal breakers sorted, if it doesn’t work out, you feel allot better that you didn’t go there.

[@madelineshaw398]

@@rickduvall9265 yeah true

[@jordansmobiledetailing5097]

I didn’t wait with my first girlfriend and then I gave my life over to God and waited with my wife. I promise you it was the best thing I ever did! You don’t marry someone based off of lust it’s based off of love for the person and the respect you have for each other is 1000% better!

[@vernonmccarty8480]

I don't know why this is absolutely hilarious 😂

[@adrianofficialmusick]

I could never yo

[@fluffychavon8238]

I pray I can get a wife that can wait till marriage cause I really want to!

[@lillyconforti7]

Same with me but for a godly husband!

[@John-jl4fu]

Lol they lying though 😂

[@sarahl2502]

Way to go y’all!!! This is really encouraging!!

[@Banksydoe]

I really hope these guys are actually waiting as well and not cheating behind the women’s back bc that happened to me. I waited to sleep with my ex and found out a year later he was sleeping with women the whole time we were together.

[@lilyanaalvarez3539]

Waiting til marriage was a blessing !

[@PENELOPENANKUNDA-fn4vu]

So proud to hear this,your a great inspiration

[@whalehands4779]

That is so cool to hear. I can't imagine that feeling of finally. It's a beautiful thing.

[@craftedapps]

I am a Christian, and I'm committed to waiting until marriage before engaging in intimate relationships. However, it seems challenging in today's dating scene as many women prioritize physical aspects. Consequently, my relationships tend to be short-lived. I pray to find someone who shares my values and introduce them to my family, envisioning a future together. Despite differences in opinions, I thank God for the strength to uphold my beliefs. I value more than just physical attraction, and I hope to find a partner who shares these values. God bless you.

[@HisMajesty99]

Same dude, finding a girl who’s also waited (and honest abt it) is like trying to find a unicorn 💀

[@stacie7925]

As a female i can tell both you guys that there are definitely girls out there who are praying they will find men like you so yhat they can feel totally secure when they finally give themselves wholly to you once married. Just hold on because i promise God has a woman in store for you but His timing is not always our timing but please save yourselves because you will NOT regret it.

[@HisMajesty99]

@@stacie7925 thanks for the positivity, much needed :)

[@jeshieldbarroga6122]

I’m definitely waiting :) I feel like I want to be with someone and have a beautiful connection with them because I wouldn’t want to build in a relationship where sex is the only thing that will keep it going. I don’t criticize people who don’t wait at all but personally for me I prefer waiting. Ideally as well I want someone to think like that as well but I understand not everyone will think of waiting but as long as they respect my decision with waiting I’m okay with continuing the relationship. I’ve been debated on it with most guys I had flings with and honestly it is something that I know now is red flag because I’m not trying to tell them to wait so they shouldn’t feel so strongly about it. So the person I’m with now I’m hoping can be in my future , is someone who actually respects that which I’m actually happy about. He has his past but I also don’t shame him on it because it was his own experience. I do encourage people to wait because it is very rewarding and you get hurt less in the process in my opinion. When you have found someone that you want to spend your life with it feels more special.

[@domeniquearcobasso3103]

God bless you for waiting. I wish I could turn back time. That’s the greatest gift you can have.

[@fellowfighter88]

We need more of this these days!!

[@shannonhaworth2098]

Before coming to Christ I lived a horrible life. When I came to Christ and He transformed me I committed my whole life to Him. My now husband and I wanted until marriage. It was beautiful and SO worth it!

[@shannonhaworth2098]

@mminwe yes, I have read the bible. Scripture clearly teaches that sex is meant for marriage , and sexual sin is.... well... a sin.

[@SarahPerreault-vy2ul]

@mminwe The New Testament forbids fornication (sex outside of the bonds of marriage) many times. Hebrews 13:4, Acts 15:29, Ephesians 5:3…just to name a few.

[@UnfazedPhoenix]

That's great for you and your life. Glad it worked out for you and respect your right to believe in that. I personally don't, and made different choices that worked for me.

[@UnfazedPhoenix]

​​@@shannonhaworth2098the Bible is a collection of short stories, out of order, translated down centuries, from a different era, and it's meant to be interpreted metaphorically - not literally. You have the right to believe anything you want, but your beliefs aren't the same as facts. No disrespect to what you choose to believe, I just don't appreciate other people stating things as fact that they can't possibly prove or know.

[@shannonhaworth2098]

@Jen-kh2ge scripture can be proven as fact. Jesus' life can also be proven as true. Have you done actual research into the historical accuracy of it all ? I'm going to guess the answer is no. Otherwise, you wouldn't have made your statement. I can greatly appreciate and agree on not appreciating people stating lies as facts. Our current society is full of people doing that.

[@busrasuheyla]

I have been with my man for 3,5 years and we plan on getting married this Summer, making the wait 4 years. Its very beautiful to wait for marriage.

[@brianchristensen2484]

We waited, going 41 yrs strong now!!!!

[@keenanlewis11]

My parents did not wait and are 34 years strong. Congrats on waiting, but it honestly means nothing in the long run.

[@cbidnas6250]

I really needed to hear this! Gj!

[@virgeleyp.4040]

I just finished watching this! I watched it with a smile the entire way and idk why lol. It felt like I was there sitting with y’all. Literally a fly on the wall 😂😂❤️

[@Love1Another7]

Mine was almost 28 years needless to say I haven’t given up . I know my person is out there. I’m waiting on God❤🙏

[@XxforevercandygirlXx]

Same

[@zenden6564]

Gosh. Best wishes.

[@HikerBikerMoter]

Menopause 😅 Dont worry youll marry your maker eventually

[@gonzalolozano1198]

Just wonderful..... I got my waiting time too.... I recommend it

[@the_history_fanatic]

damn...she is gorgeous!!!

[@minustheandrea]

My husband and I waited till marriage. He was a virgin and I had been abstinent for four years.

[@saisanjanagurram1423]

Poor husband

[@j.rjunior5584]

The husband should be able to make it equal, in terms of how many people you slept with.

[@user-dw5qw3hy1o]

😂😂😂 sorry it sounds funny

[@sunflowerlover7979]

Waiting was the worst thing I ever did. Talking, spending time together, enjoyed similar interests, everything was great and beautiful but then it turned out we had no physical chemistry, did not enjoy the same sexual interests, wasted so much time on someone that could have been just a great friend but we ended up hating each other in the end it ended up being a really messy break up. I truly loved this man as a person but it just didn't work out. I never waited a long time again. I'm not against other people doing it if that's what you want to do, you do what is best for you but just be aware that some people while every other aspect is beautiful sex may not be. Some people just don't have a physical or sexual chemistry. And that is ok. And it's ok to break up and move on if that is the case.

[@diaryofafreebitch]

Thisssss👏🏻👏🏻

[@danieltakawi9919]

Did you guys not talk about it before doing it?

[@greatestever8514]

@@danieltakawi9919u can’t talk about something u know nothing about. If ur sexually ignorant, u don’t know yourself, and don’t know what u like. So u can’t explain what u haven’t even learned yet. That’s y waiting is stupid. Both people can be great people, but if there’s no sexual chemistry the relationship is dead🤷🏾‍♂️

[@DennisBohannan]

Same. Started dating I was 15 married at 21.

[@anastrong222]

The way they said “a year and a half” took me out 😭😂😂

[@elliotwarren1090]

I’m someone who’s only interested in people losing their first time to someone they care about and who genuinely cares about them and who they would be happy to lose their first time to, regardless of if that’s before or after marriage. I love that you guys talked about how difficult that was for you, including the “do not recommend” part(even if that was meant for that long engagement lol).

[@sophiaguzman4757]

This! I won't judge someone who waits until marriage and I won't judge someone who decides that they've found someone worthy enough before marriage. The only person who can decide if you're ready or not is you!!

[@jessicabeam1152]

But, if they genuinely care about each other, why not just get married then? If it really is true love, what’s stopping them from committing to each other?

[@mumohamsterbacke9469]

Care for someone doesn't mean that you know you are compatable or willing to spend the rest of yout live together. And some people just don't believe that you are meant to live for the rest of your life with one person.

[@BELLINile]

Nah but that break free moment gotta hit DIFERENT😩🤭💖

[@disneyprincessintraining2725]

My husband and I waited too, it was very good for us. Our engagement was very short though! We dated a long time but our engagement was less than 4 months!

[@samotions2031]

🤣🤣 I love devins answer at the end, “don’t recommend it” 😂

[@badgalirri]

Bc she found a shrimp maybe 😅