Wanna Make INFP Fall In Love With You? (Here are some Dos and Don'ts)

[@thanseelabeegum5229]

Me as an infp watching this ,for what ? To try to make me fall in love with me ?🤣

[@thepointlesswords290]

😂😂😂

[@panic1874]

Fr we always curious abt ourselves

[@cjclementine434]

I watch every INFP video just to figure out if I really am one; I super de duper jive with all the tenets but I catch myself being crass and externally focused often enough that I can’t help but doubt myself and my results

[@jennifersimonian2103]

Same here!!😂😅 how weird, right lol. It's not as if I don't know what I find attractive, yet I'm still sitting here watching this and afterwards I will probably watch the video of who I was last with and how to love their type, therefore analyzing all that I did wrong and right and the what ifs...

[@zephdo2971]

LOLOLOL IKR???

[@floofery]

The way I'm just here to get daydreaming material 💀

[@awin.a.mahmood4817]

Lol, same🥲

[@Shuba-Shuba33]

Yes its embarrassing 💀

[@vuko4787]

You're not alone in this, hahah

[@KayJ2012]

This is so embarrassing 😂

[@Awesomesauce1313]

SAME

[@mangokraken]

Being an INFP is loving deeply and having no one to love you back.

[@hrituhkv1508]

I've been dating an INFP and he likes me back too but things don't seem to work really. I don't know how to deal with this situation. I'm INTP. pls respond if u can see.

[@mangokraken]

@@hrituhkv1508 I'm not really qualified to answer that unfortunately. And without insight to your personal dynamic with your partner it makes it difficult to offer advice. I can tell you that INFP can let their feelings make decisions for them and you being an INTP that won't seem logical to you. Please understand that it's not always about being right, feelings can be illogical and simply understanding that you can't always solve emotional dilemmas with logic can take you a long way. Emotional needs are real. I personally like when someone just takes the time to listen to what I have to say and talking about my feelings openly without my partner actively disagreeing with me. Telling us our feelings are wrong will make us not like you. Slow down, be patient, and don't dismiss their emotions. Im sorry I can't help you, I hope it works out between you two.

[@hrituhkv1508]

@@mangokraken Thanks for the reply.. Btw I've been there for him whenever he needed me and I can feel even thorough chats that he is sad. And, when I needed him, he wasn't there and when I confronted he told me I'm acting childish which was too weird. Let's see what happens.

[@The_Prince_Of_Crows]

​@@mangokrakenFind yourself an INFJ like myself. I am talking to an INFP right now and we are well on our way. We get along really well and I think there is really good chemistry between us. So far things have been great and INFJs love deeply too.

[@aiiiia9971]

I have the opposite problem. People are drawn to me left and right because I'm unproblematic and polite, falling in love with me over nothing at the drop of a hat. It's frustrating because I can never love them back so fast and I feel rushed all the time. And have to disappoint them again and again with rejections or telling them "I need time" and they run out of patience. I began to wonder if I am Aro or if I just never met anyone thay meets my standards

[@_Samlul]

24 and an INFP here Just a friendly reminder to take your time. You don't have to rush into a relationship because your family/friends are pressuring you. It's perfectly alright to have standards.

[@hambos]

thanks for that

[@mayleespann4552]

The right person will be patient enough to wait for you, dear INFP. Take your time, but don’t be afraid to make a move because you’re scared of losing them. To love is to accept loss. We all must face loss. But it is better to love and lose than to lose and never love. - an INTJ

[@the_spider_lily911]

Thank you❤

[@ileanaprofeanu7626]

another friendly reminder, just because you like to know where you stand does not necessarily mean "rushing it" or that anyone is pressuring you or that you don't have standards, it could simply be that some people really like you and want to know if they can make an exclusive commitment to you, no rushing or labeling, or if they are free to go pursue other venues maybe more straightforward ones with shown mutual interest. sincerely, ISFP

[@thucuc2711]

Me sameee 24 - Infp too, and I totally agree with you 😆

[@mysticthehorselover5979]

I'm an INFP and I definitely think this would be the process to falling in love with me 😅 that's probably why no one has tried to get into a relationship with me before

[@Perfectliliies]

Lol same

[@phuonghoong8389]

@@Perfectliliies Same too =)))))

[@kokopuffey]

as an infp, i fell in love with myself after i watched this video

[@kimberc6736]

"Overflowing randomness" needs to be in a t shirt. 💯

[@aiiiia9971]

So real 😂

[@Triciafreckles]

I would buy it -fellow infp

[@OreadNYC]

Speaking as an INFP who identifies as demisexual, this is absolutely spot-on for me. Any man who comes on too strong, doesn't show respect for my boundaries, gives mixed messages, plays games, and/or tries too hard to impress me gets the cold shoulder.

[@aiiiia9971]

Yeah same here. I wonder if I am demiromantic or something. People confess their love for me way too fast when I feel like I barely know them and it makes me want to run for the hills!

[@OreadNYC]

@aiiiia9971 I wouldn't necessarily assume that you're demiromantic unless the thought of being romantic in a nonsexual way (cuddling, holding hands, etc.) with a person whom you don't know well leaves you cold even if this person isn't pushy. It's not that unusual to want to run for the hills if someone comes on very strong -- and especially not since the ones who come on strong tend not to have staying power! You might also be a person who's developed a fearful avoidant attachment style -- I know that I have that, especially after watching my heart get put through the shredder a few times too many.

[@QueenMonny]

And if you're an INFP with trust issues...They're going to be working hard and for a while. 😅 I'm not sure I'm worth it.

[@veronika7604]

same hahah I thought I wasn't normal then much later found out about the demi thing 😅

[@abcd-jk4zb]

​@@aiiiia9971 Dude stop writing fiction under every comment.

[@mayleespann4552]

As an INTJ female who is interested in an INFP male, these are so accurate. It has taken a great amount of patience to even get to the level of friendship we’ve reached. I think it will be worth it though, even if he doesn’t end up reciprocating my feelings. I care very much for him and I want him to know he’s loved enough to be waited for

[@niko_xoxo]

As an ENTJ female who’s interested in an INFP male, I understand. You got this!

[@rameshbcom7646]

Intj male here, you’ve made a great choice of loving an infp. Wish you luck!

[@amoldivo]

Wdym!!! 😭 I think a normal INFP would easily read & understand your intentions!! And would definitely talk to you about their thoughts! I click with INTJs very much, I think they're the closest to us compared to other types! Lol

[@NotYuichiro]

heyy,infp here wishing u luck on ur journey with him :D

[@joaoperim7743]

So, what happened?

[@fatemaa8983]

I’m SO grateful you made this video, it made me feel less crazy/insane/not okay/needing to be fixed

[@marianremedios5290]

Same. 😅😅😅😅

[@maraoliveira5149]

That's exactly how I felt by the end of the video.

[@areslegion0]

ME TOO its hard to explain to my friends how something that seems so small is the reason why i wouldnt be friends with them but its much deeper than that idk😭

[@creatureofstyle]

​@@areslegion0 Your friends have feelings too. This video talks about how much effort it takes to get an INFP to love you, well effort should go both ways in any relationship

[@multistan4560]

As an infp I want someone who could read me Like I open up too quickly but never open up everything I want someone who would understand what I don't tell 😅 Also someone who would be relatable to me Someone who would need me i mean I want to take care of someone and also get cared of but not openly Its strange but its how it is 😅

[@amoldivo]

Totally get it!! Have no problem sharing love, but maybe asking a little back, or at least some appreciation would bring so much joy!! 🥰🥲

[@NotYuichiro]

literally me bro im the same as u ;-;

[@kurtskrt]

Literally the first thing I thought of once I clicked on this video was "authenticity" and what do ya know... it's the first dang trait! Btw I'm an INFP.

[@ioptimoist]

I saw a statistics that INFPs are one of the rarest personality traits, but I keep seeing so many INFPs in these comments, I guess this is where we just express ourselves without judgment. (I’m INFP btw)

[@aiiiia9971]

You have found the gathering place 😂

[@ioptimoist]

@@aiiiia9971 indeed

[@littleboss8160]

A comment section doesn’t represent people in general. People with similar intrest click on similar video’s. That’s why you see a lot of infp’s here and that’s why you see a lot of chess fans in the comments of chess video’s. These are concentrated groups of people, filtered out from the rest. If you go to a gym and see that everyone works out, that doesn’t mean literally everyone in the world works out. If you watch a video abt infp’s then the comments will be full of infp’s but that doesn’t mean most people are infp’s. If you throw bread in a room with pigeons, tigers and spiders, only the pigeons will come eat but that doesn’t mean they’re the only animal in the room.

[@wickedarctiinae4132]

​@@littleboss8160You expressed it correctly.

[@chim_kook1386]

#1. Be a Fictional character

[@aiiiia9971]

WHAHAHAYHA 😂😂😂😂😂 TRIED AND TRUE!

[@Chronosmaster002]

Lets be real we INFPs are only in love with the idea of being in love anyways😂

[@J-Earthling]

I wonder how it would play out with one INFP dating another INFP. I have such a hard time finding anyone worth my time. Most of the girls in my area are self-centered. This read me like a book. I hate fake kindness. If someone isn't original, they can talk to me until they turn blue, but I won't listen. I'm curious what it would be like to date another INFP. We would probably care about each other and try to keep each other protected. I could use that because I never feel safe anymore!

[@miri_chan]

I am an INFP and probably I'll try to overcome myself and ask the girl I like to go on a date with me... Honestly I'm so scared, but I really want to get through this experience. I want to stop dreaming about relationships and finally find a person to whom I can give my love.

[@lemmehet1039]

how is it going, my man?)

[@NotYuichiro]

how did it go? infp here too btw

[@aiiiia9971]

Haha, it is true. Everyone is getting analyzed. Every interaction doubles as a test. They think I don't notice the little things, good and bad, but I am watching for them 🧐 this applies to friends too. I scored the most incredible people. No one has ever fit the bill when it comes to romance, though

[@bluebird1914]

The kindness one is relatable, also friendliness. Idk if maybe it is just me, but while obviously I do want to be friends or even more with someone who is friendly, it's kind of a turn off if someone is too friendly too quickly you know? Like if you're like that, I don't trust that you're not trying to manipulate me or something.

[@aiiiia9971]

Well some people do seem to be genuinely kind and I don't think everyone who is nice has ulterior motives, but I have my eye out for love bombing too. People giving me repeated gifts or showering me with too many compliments early on just tells me they want something out of me and are trying to make me like them. I feel like they are gonna come back around and ask me for favours or affection in exchange for what was supposed to be genuine kind gestures. And I happen to be right in certain cases; last time this occured, the guy went on to guilt trip me repeatedly about all the stuff he did for me (that I never asked for) just because I wanted some space. Yeah. I'm not playing these games. If you are gonna be kind, be *real*. Don't be fake nice

[@bluebird1914]

@@aiiiia9971 I didn't say nice people in general. I mean those people who you have one conversation with and they're already inviting you to their birthday party and introducing you to their family and other friends. Idk, it just feels kinda forced you know? Like bro, I don't even know if I want to have another conversation with you, let alone be your friend. It makes everything feel like an obligation instead of a two way street, and overall it just doesn't feel genuine when someone is that level of friendly. The compliments and gifts though are fair. I had a manager who would constantly compliment me for just doing my job, for someone who did that he was awfully persistent in not letting me do the job that I'm apparently "so good" at.

[@QueenMonny]

Trust issues must be a universal trait of INFP's. 😅

[@krcato_]

INFP here and I agree with everything. I fell in love w an ENFP, we don't know who fell first. But she's been patient with me since the start & very understanding too (until now) and now we've been together for more than a year! 🖤

[@sunflowerpower642]

Falling for an infp man is breaking my heart

[@the_moo000oon]

this is mostly true but for what its worth im an infp and i would LOVE to do favors for you. many of us suffer from low self esteem and it helps to feel like youve earned someone's attention

[@gyldanword]

It's so worth it to wait for that one person who truly wants to bond with you and commit themselves to you. Keep your eyes open. He/she may not look like what you expected. Use your brain and follow your heart. They're not mutually exclusive.

[@towardsuniverse]

Yes. Tips from an 18yo InFp..Yet there are more important things than love and relationships but love Definitely brings some more chaos and daydreaming to the life. Relationship require commitment , patience and really genuine efforts. AS AN InFp I test people, as friends/dates by their patience, open mindedness. Ofc I imagine too far and how it will be with you. So don't worry , be yourself and nice. And in the end infp will categorise into something

[@gokuization]

As an autistic INFP, I want to know how to fall in love with me.

[@bres.4806]

I’m so impressed with the no asking for favors one. Ppl always skip what is literally NOW a deal breaker for me. I HATE users and leeches. I’m not against giving and sharing it’s just I notice ALOT of ppl are against equal reciprocity. I would like to have a love I could cross oceans for and not feel used or stupid for doing so. It’s so much love inside of me sometimes it’s easy to just keep giving and giving bc it’s truly a pleasure. It’s just the fact that months or years down the line I find myself tapped and or the relationship ends, and I notice I’ve done all these things for ppl who haven’t done anything for me. It’s honestly hurtful and it makes me hate humanity.

[@Vladyyy]

There's no reason to hate others just because you're far more caring and considerate then them. I completely get what you're saying, but it just means you've got to find the right people who respect all that you do and have to give. Similarly to what you said, the majority of people absolutely do not #1 treat others how they want to be treated and #2 reciprocate all that a truly caring person provides to their life. No need to hate others for it though. Especially when you literally understand that that's just how a lot of people are (unfortunately).

[@CYCO1631]

Guess, I had it easy. My wife is an infp... and so am I.

[@NotYuichiro]

amazingggggggg,me and my best friend are both also infp :0

[@CYCO1631]

@@NotYuichiro My best friend in HS was another INFP... Best friend in college, ESTJ. *Shrugs*

[@marianremedios5290]

I'm an INFP. When people talk to me or whatsoever, I ask them first if they like me. If they answer they want to be friends. It will be friends until the end. Won't give a chance to change their standing. I thought I'm weird but thank God I'm not alone.

[@iambob3695]

Just found out recently Im an INFP. Been alone ALL MY LIFE. Not one person has seen the good in me. I get to sleep soon.

[@AronBarch16939]

Why are you alone ?

[@LuanaMarieJantz2427]

Sometimes I just want to like these videos more than once of how legit they are.

[@kinmingloh4117]

Yes, being as an infp male, I find it extremely difficult especially when the people expect you to be more assertive to make other personality type of girls to like you at the beginning stage.

[@ISIDORO.]

@SANXIA it’s basically either all good or all bad not really an in between me being an infp male i tend to fall into self destructive loops and have a hard time getting out of them so yea…

[@ISIDORO.]

@SANXIA yes i am very forgiving of people and tend to look for the good in people and i also have a few animals cats and dogs and i am very childlike and youthful internally but as an infp i find it hard to make true friends that know the real me because i dont like temporary relationships of any sort, id be interested in sharing more of my experiences if you would be interested lol

[@ISIDORO.]

@SANXIA you wanna have an infp off lmao ok im up for it give me your social media or something because youtube replies are not gonna cut it lmao

[@ISIDORO.]

@SANXIA ok forsure no pressure lmk boss 👍

[@ISIDORO.]

@SANXIA wow ok sounds kinda wild but if you’re skilled like that then hats off to you sanxia.

[@war_da]

Me watching the process behind my falling in love with my guy!!❤

[@theromper]

Me too! Just ticking all of those boxes again made me realize how lucky it is for us to find the one. From what I've heard from single friends, the dating scene seems to be so full of pushy, inauthentic showoffs these days. It sounds like an absolute nightmare to have to sift through that.

[@war_da]

@@theromper it was truly a nightmare until I met him ... he's also an INFP! Finding someone with the same wavelength as me and who understood me in silence through thick and thin, it's been a great experience 🤍

[@mikicerise6250]

As an INFP I have to say I seem most drawn to INFJs and other INFPs. 😅

[@qtastically5747]

Last summer I went out with this guy a couple of times and for the life of me couldn't figure out why I was so confused and stressed the whole time. He pretty much checked all the boxes I could think of, but did many of the don'ts on here. Guess that explains it lol

[@zazaminai96]

Now I know why I’ve never been in any relationship 😂 Thanks, it’s actually help me to discover more about myself ❤

[@cjantipuesto7487]

I'm amazed how accurate these statements are, to me at least. 😂

[@gungyangsena]

The only thing you should do is being chosen by an INFP themselves. You should be the chosen one.

[@aiiiia9971]

That's so real. You could do everything right but at the end of the day, it's up to the other person whether they feel comfortable persuing something with you

[@gungyangsena]

@@aiiiia9971 yeah, because as an INFP myself found easy to be attracted (or maybe easy to be distracted) by people charm. But for the relationship, it’s hard to begin with, unless I’m super comfort to other, trust me, I’ll be super possesive one 😂 which is a new problem for them. To sums it, don’t get in relationship with an INFP 😊

[@lastgunman5270]

What about INFP wants someone to fall in love with them? That's the bigger problem.

[@QueenMonny]

It's a struggle. We have so many roadblocks in our own way. Apparently we're paranoid about being manipulated, and so people CAN like us, but we just don't believe it's legit. And that would likely drive a potential partner away, unless they understood those fears. Which is even scarier because now they have ammunition. And that's just one facet. So yeah...we make it difficult. 😅

[@QueenMonny]

Everything that is generally desirable, socially, when looking for a partner (communicative, confident, etc, etc) we don't really have, it seems. 😅

[@kurehanzo]

As an INFP, nobody has ever win me over by trying to MAKE me fall for them. It was always like I choose whether I like them or not (romantically) first, by observance OR by instant connection. If I'm comfortable we can be friends and see if they like me too. If they're trying to make me fall for them but i'm not feeling it from the start then it's going to be very very hard. Never happened before, even. Not sure if it's just me or an INFP thing. But yes I agree that authenticity is very attractive to me.

[@gypsypath1]

I’m the INFP. I was emotionally attached faster than him and told him my feelings. I’m 52 and feel I don’t have as much time to dance around. 😆

[@scoobed792]

dang grandma, of course you've got all the time to dance all around

[@BromineBlues-om7yf]

The part about envisioning what your potential partner's future is like with you really hit hard

[@ousha5011]

Im an INFp myself and this is true, this explains why Im still single

[@mandalovescatspandas1781]

Imagine this in the hands of the wrong people 👀 😆

[@Xxmel951xX]

I'm single for 10 years and if someone ask me to get out with him for speaking or going to restaurant I tell him no. Why? Cause I'm afraid. Because the relationship could be too fast and if I say yes I think it's like I'm already ok to date him and to be with him. The nightmare as an independent... Why people want going too fast... But I dream in my mind of what the perfect relationship is. The dreams cut me off the reality and it's really hard to look it. If I want to feel love I watch a movie and dream hours after or I start to speak with someone on internet, dream during a few days and stop the conversation without explication. I'm weird and sometimes i get angry myself...

[@mouhitorinoboku9655]

me too. actually, 29 and never even been on a date, or had someone like me back.. the closest i have ever had was a gay best friend in high school, who i miss like hell now living over 700miles from where he does. it feels like everyone wants you to listen to their problems, but, the moment you need to vent, your annoying and selfish, maybe it's just bad anxiety talking, but i begin to wonder when i will listen to them and try to offer advice for months but the moment i need some encouragement their gone and can't even manage a 'sorry i got busy' i'm not asking for a lot here. sometimes it's just easier to bury your feelings in a fantasy world, no matter how much i might want a real relationship. i get your frustration cuz it's the same for me; they want to move too fast and i'm too afraid of getting hurt to trust them, so i say no.

[@Igor_Chausov]

I'm INFP, and I remember how I was going by public bus and heard as two girls told one another their dialogs with their boyfriends. In that moment I thought that my future girlfriend (if I whenever will have her) should be shy and quiet girl because I don't want she talk with her friends about our relationship so detailed.

[@Lionhart-fw5nq]

Also INFP: I would be fine/understanding if they just talk with a close friend about it. But absolutly not when they talk about it in a public space like a Bus! (for everyone to hear) Even thou i would never want to be there then they talk. And their friend shoudnt confront me in any way with our relationship (AT LEAST at the beginning).

[@Igor_Chausov]

@@Lionhart-fw5nq Yes, of course. I never will force someone to do something or behave in some way only because of me. It was semi-joke statement, I like quiet girls (and quiet persons in general) not because they good in keeping secrets, but because I'm myself quiet and I feel sympathy with such people. I also feel myself extremely uncomfortable when someone begins to talk to me about private stuffs in public place, it feels like hell 😅

[@nusratnoshin8008]

As an infp, i so can relate to this. One thing I understood being in couple of relationships that once infps are over someone (because that someone has betrayed or broke infp's trust or changed) they have that guts to never look back.

[@KyleWeller-f9f]

Yooooo I'm having feelings for an INFP girl I met the beginning of this year and I've watched 2 of your videos and taking your advices. It's been 4 months now.

[@terryyyzhang]

Even if I’m an INFP but I have made all dating mistakes mentioned in the video!!! 😅😅😅 lucky to come across this

[@leonardovicente5517]

guyss lets make an INFP group! who's in?

[@corviknightor]

me!

[@bunnipops]

Meee

[@FruitsChinpoSamuraiG]

idk if it's truly linked to the mbti type but overall those things are true. some people with big Fi would be a big helping hand at any stage but for me, i get big suspicion and may lie to decline so im not being too direct and potentially starting useless conflicts. when it comes to privacy though, it has to be Fi specifically because Fi is about your innermost feelings and values, those aren't easily shared with anyone - Fe users, please listen and respect Fi users' boundaries when we say we don't want to talk about our feelings.

[@sunflowersugar]

id love to see more content on the other personalities! (specifically intp hehe)

[@n3mo1123]

me, infp, watching this: if it's so difficult, no one will even want to do it which explains a lot actually

[@MangoWifi831]

I'm an INFP and everything in this video just couldn't be more accurate :')

[@KillerCrewmate2526]

I’m all naturally made make an infp fall in love as I see

[@RetroXRicardo]

Great information on this INFP type! I stumbled upon your channel through the KZbin algorithm today. Thanks for sharing! 🌟🌟🌟

[@MR-rj2qw]

A lot of people will not have the patience that is required for this first stage of getting to know an INFP because those don‘t seem interested. Maybe the stray cat approach will speed things up? Place tasty food offering near INFP. Retreat slowly. Observe. I am not sure this will lead to an instant romantic connection but they might follow you around in hopes of more treats. I know I would.

[@JIKitty]

I (ENFJ) began befriending a coworker who is an INFP. He is super reserved and pushes people away most of the time. He doesn't trust other people at all and lives a pretty lonely life. He had a bit of a rough childhood. He is like a grumpy character at work. I'm putting in lots of empathy and patients for about 8 month now and gotten really far. If the other coworkers knew how he acts towards me now, they wouldn't believe it to be possible. I would kinda love to brag about it. :D But of course I don't. That would be abusing his trust a lot. There is a problem though. I am taken since more than 11 years, which he knows. I've always said I want a friendship with him. Still, I do flirt with him a little. He is cute, I love banter and I want to push his confidence. I'm scared he might be in love with me and that I will hurt his feelings and loose him as a friend, because I won't break up with my boyfriend. He did say he wouldn't try anything with me. And he values the time I spent with him. But still, he is sooo sweet with me now. What if the situation starts to hurt him some day? I would be really happy, if an other INFP could give me their thoughts on this.

[@dedmu5793]

From the limited description he sounds like me. If you're engaged, stop flirting and keep it on friend-level. Tbh, if I was him I would quickly lose respect towards you, knowing that you're flirting behind your partner's back.

[@JIKitty]

@@dedmu5793 Thanks, I guess. My boyfriend doesn't mind these things. We always had an open relationship, although we rarely go far with this. He knows everything I do with the INFP and he knows I'm soemtimes slightly flirting with him. That's totally fine with my bf. He wants me to have fun in life.

[@mrs.portgas6602]

well first, don't flirt with him cause that will give him mixed signals. keep hinting at him that you have a boyfriend and you're not interest in ever breaking up with him, but keep the hints subtle of course. and if this didn't work out and he ended up confessing to you, just tell him the truth, whether he got hurt or not, it's nothing you could do, but at least honesty is something i think everybody appreciates not just INFP's.

[@JIKitty]

@@mrs.portgas6602 Thank you! I think I already started flirting less because the friendship is getting more and more important to me.

[@Lionhart-fw5nq]

Personal opinion/advise as an Infp-t: If the Infp knows you for a long time and accepted you as a friend/someone close, they will understand and know many things about you (like that you simply like to banter). Otherwise they wouldnt had accepted you/got close to you in the first place. If your unsure if that is the case, you could openly talk with them about it (if your are really friends. i advise to do so. Just to make sure). They will tell you then (most likly only then, because otherwise they would be unsure if it is really flirting or not), that you should stopp flirting or not. You dont have to worry about your friendship ending because of an honest conversation about an sensitiv toppic (as long as you dont have an unmoralic opinion. i dont see that here, but you must mention that your boyfriend is fine with it. small but really important detail.) They will not start seeing you as an potentional partner then they are not sure you also see them as such (you having a boyfriend is more then enogh for that not to be the case). So he wont get hurt because of you not seeing him as such. Even if he in theory likes you enogh for that. We Infps are carefull not to get hurt. So he will also just take the affection he has for you and make it into a love for a friend and never expect anithing else. even if you had the potential to be more for him. Thats why dating an infp takes patiens. We need to check if your are suitable and "to have" before we dare to let our to-intense-love run wild.

[@JirenTG]

You know, i’m an INFJ and im dating this girl who’s an INFP. I think she like me but i want to be sure. When we’re dating we can talk for hours after hours. Was hanging out in my friends house layed and hugged with her there at our second date. After the second date ended she hugged me super tight and kissed my cheek close to my lips i was shocked. I’m kinda shy to kiss her thats why i still didnt do it. She doesnt text really much and told me that she’s more social irl and thats where i thought man i need a lot of patience with this girl. Do i have a chance ? I still need to plan the 3rd date tho. Let me know if u can relate

[@sammysmart3391]

I am an INFP girl and I told the guy (also INFJ) I was seeing the same thing. I did the cheek kiss thing (he wasn't shy aaaaa) and also told him about my texting preferences (my social battery runs out on a weekly so I might accidentally ghost you there). One thing I really liked about him is that he never seems to be annoyed by it, I don't think my texting pattern changed much with him. irl, we had really great chemistry and every moment felt like we connected. We used to talk for hours and not get bored. I really liked his mind and his perspective on things. Tbh, yes, you do need a lot of patience with her. It is embarrassing to admit that you like the person in the early stages and sorta hope that they take the lead initially. It gets better as the time goes on and I trust you more. I personally would tell the person that they don't have a chance than waste their time. Unless she mentions or rejects the idea of dating any further, you should be fine. Everything went fine with him until he started telling his friends about our private life that that made me feel uncomfortable. Even after mentioning it to him, his friends would often try to give me advice on how to be a better girlfriend to him and that kinda soured our thing. I still like him tho, he is a wonderful person but I don't trust him with out privacy so it didn't work out.

[@theromper]

I'm an INFP and you def have a chance. If you didn't kiss her back, honestly that means she was probably agonizing over whether you actually like her and is regretting putting herself out there so boldly lol. If you're more reserved, it's going to move more slowly because she'll keep doubting herself. Whenever I doubted if my now-husband was actually into me, I would stop myself from texting him so much to not look desperate/not get too invested just in case I'm wrong. But if you're talking for hours and hours, she def is super into you. Hours of chatting is my main love language. I would not talk for hours with just anybody. I have to really love them or I'm exhausted fairly quickly.

[@OreadNYC]

Speaking as an INFP female, I'd say that you still have a chance with this girl. I know that it might seem to you as if she's "friendzoned" you but INFPs aren't into casual relationships. First and foremost, INFPs want a romantic partner whom they know they can trust and that means someone who is above all a close friend -- in fact, I'd go as far as saying that the ideal foundation for a romantic relationship from the INFP point of view is a friendship which eventually turns into something more. At least in my opinion, the fact that she hugged you and kissed you (even if only on the cheek) is encouraging since most INFPs usually aren't that forward and don't take initiative like that unless they feel comfortable with you -- but for an INFP, feeling comfortable is a good thing. If she didn't like you, she definitely wouldn't be talking to you for hours and especially not if she's sharing how she feels and what she thinks about things with you. The only reason why I'm reluctant to state that you *definitely* have a chance with her is because INFPs are known to shy away from spending time with people to whom they are intensely attracted when they aren't certain of the other person's feelings and motives...so while she definitely likes you as a person, there is a possibility that she's not in love with you or romantically interested in you. However, I still come back to the hug and the kiss. At least from my perspective, I think an INFP girl would be somewhat reluctant or unlikely to kiss a boy to whom she is not attracted and sees only as a friend because she would be aware that this might encourage him (even if she meant no harm by it) to form a false impression which would end up causing him pain.

[@JirenTG]

I’m backk and had wonderful date last time with her. It does still feel the same but she opened up more personally. It feels like she talks more than i do. the thing i’ve noticed is she have a hard time looking at while talking idk why? But one thing idk if she’s being polite or something but, she was feeding me her own food while we both went eating. The vibe is super great, i can still hug her randomly, crack stupid jokes while she laughs at it super loud. At the end of the date we looked each other in the eyes and i noticed she was shy. She hugged me kinda awkward and i could feel she was nervous. But then i thought oke fk it and kissed her on the lips. She got nervous more and was shocked and said waittt whatt ??, butt, things like that . Idk how to feel 😂 she didnt pull back or rejected me but stil idk man need more time i guess

[@JirenTG]

@SANXIA ye it will take time but i feel it will be worth it! And yes good guess, we both are asians.

[@MargaritaOnTheRox]

My husband thinks I was deeply in love with him before I actually was. 😅 I liked him a lot, but it was actually a really long time before I completely fell in love. It was because he traveled from a different state (he had moved to be with his son) to be with me after my dad died. But a few months in to our relationship, he told a friend that I was deeply in love.

[@squirrelsyrup1921]

"While they notice how you treat them, [INFPs] also observe how you treat family, friends and even animals." - I remember my ex yelling at me on the phone and then going awwww my dog is here and making kissing noises while ignoring me before she started yelling again.

[@daydreamer1727]

literally just show me basic human kindness

[@rachelmartina1851]

As an INFP, I don't think romantic love exists. I was a very hopeless romantic person and believed that love conquered everything, and all other bullshit things. But now for me, romantic love is just an illusion. I prefer just imagining falling in love than making it happen in real life and risking another heartbreak. I think it's just a waste of time fighting for love, I better use my precious time and energy to fight for other important things in life.

[@gargievartak2270]

Goddddddddd!!! I feel so exposed 🙈🙈

[@genethetophos]

INFP checking myself out. 😂😂😂

[@ahmadsrizal2365]

As enfj who have been dating an infp for a year, its an emotional challenge. You want to help them but they seems detached, as feeling user, I found that disrespectfull. I need a good Communication but infp strugle to speak their thoughts

[@BigLeagueChew11]

Trying to date me looks complicated. Good luck to my future partners.

[@aiiiia9971]

For real

[@creatureofstyle]

Huh... ENFJ here. I think I lost my INFP to the no second chances because I had fear of abandonment and broke up with him even though I loved him... but the funny thing is that part of the reason I broke up with him was because he was talking to his ex girlfriend about our relationship and me, and telling her personal things that I didn't want him to share. Plus he said I was too independent (I definitely wasn't asking him for stuff), and he actually borrowed money from me at one point 🙃 Just $20... not a big deal but I thought that part of the video was funny He pursued me for years before I agreed to go out with him. I fell in love and he pulled away, so I got scared and ran away. I've tried to talk to him and get back together but he ghosted me. Our 4 year friendship meant nothing I guess. It hurts so bad that we can't even have an open and honest conversation to move forward. Relationships aren't perfect, sometimes things happen that suck. I'm only human, it was my feelings for him and his actions towards me that caused me to run, it wasn't that I didn't love him. He knew going into it that I had been hurt before... but now I've been hurt even worse

[@joneeeeejoseph]

ok yes a lot of this is true but i just wanna say that at least for me as an infp, it is NOT difficult to win my heart😭 my problem is that i love way too easily, if your nice to me and others, make me laugh and feel comfortable, and are around me enough i'll probably fall for you💀 all the extra stuff all comes down to how HARD i fall

[@mollymuzette5860]

You nailed it, hard!!

[@lilac624]

I relate to the privacy when it comes to a relationship

[@shadowbuster4711]

Bruh you dont need to do anything , just be an ENFJ because an ENFJ already has all these qualities , wish I was an ENFJ

[@fatemaa8983]

How do I send this to the person who wants to court me

[@nitikadixit6566]

Yeah ..like i need to know first who is it?😂

[@schang_lh]

Me an INFP here trying to figure out exactly what my types are lol

[@Mymh001]

I feel so understood!

[@kuroitchi1]

Dont ask me to do anything that you can do yourself!!!

[@paethen1039]

Only in the first minute and it's so fking true

[@Singing_Couch_Potato]

I'm an INFP watching this... Not sure why yet

[@user_4258]

As an INFP I can confirm, I watching this video

[@michaelkragseth3877]

I dated a infp,seemed great in the begining. Then she became distant and blocked me,i failed sadly 👀

[@Nothing-wr2nd]

Be yourself.

[@londonberg1]

Lol They need to label this video for INFP-T...it's mostly geared toward the Turbulent infp not the Assertive (me) it's hard to find any videos that know the difference.

[@daniela4585]

There is no infp-t or infp-a, the test invented that since it is not in the original theory of Myers Briggs (sorry for my bad English)

[@halakharkhour]

I would like to know somthing , being an INFP-T , I ve always tried to keep it low key in class and be invisible to teacher and student also not to get attention , but i ve failed all my life . I wonder why is that ?

[@lunaspearitz1948]

Because you are not born to be invisible. You are here to live and express yourself and share your unique beauty with the world. That's how you go from INFP-T to INFP-A, by practicing life, but just thinking about it in your head hoping nobody sees you

[@halakharkhour]

@@lunaspearitz1948 trying living with a control freak parents and judgmental ones. You won't understand why I do that. BTW I live in a conservative Muslim country so I can't move out. And thank you for your advice.

[@lunaspearitz1948]

@@halakharkhour I did grow up with a control freak, judgemental mother and her parents. I appreciate Muslims and studied Arabic for years. You might be surprised how restrictive my upbringing was. I first took the test in high school and got INFP-T. I took it again recently, more than 20 years later, and got INFP-A. I was pretty surprised and realized that the difference is that I've distanced myself from the beliefs that were given to me and began to really live in my own truth. I'm still working on it at 39, but no matter the circumstances, there is hope and nothing is certain but change. Wishing you peace and love for yourself 🫶🏾

[@halakharkhour]

@@lunaspearitz1948 oh I see, thank you so much but I am really looking for a way out now cause I can't stand it anymore I am 26 year old turning 27.

[@salvomig2368]

Hello INFP women, I like an INFP woman. We met, she texted me. Then agreed to meet up a few times but would always cancel. Told her I needed to move on, but she came back a week later wanting to be friends. So we’ve been texting quite a bit now. She’ll open up sometimes then back off. Is this normal INFP behavior or is this just attention seeking? What were to happen if I backed off the texting?

[@aiiiia9971]

Hi, I don't know if this is just a me thing or an INFP thing, but I do this kind of thing a lot. People can overwhelm me and I need to know that how much to stay in touch is 100% free choice. I have a push and pull dynamic with a lot of people where I will text every now and then, and then disappear for a month. I know it can be frustrating to others, and believe me it tortures me too. But when I build a deeper trust and connection with someone and feel fully safe, I come out of my shell Some people I even talk to every single day, because they make me feel safe and open and I built trust with them over years. I don't think it's really nice that she stood you up or cancels constantly as that is a little rude. However I understand where she is coming from as an introvert. It is also possible she has some personal or mental health issues she needs to sort out, until she opens up it is gonna be a little up in the air unfortunately. If you really really do like her and think she's worth it, I suggest being patient with her and let her slowly trust you and come out of her shell on her own time. Think of it like feeding a stray cat, you have to be gentle and don't rush up to them or grab them, or they will hide away. Offer out a hand and let them decide to approach, and you will find them trusting you more and more.

[@aiiiia9971]

Also, I would advise against spam texting and spam calling. One or two attempts is fine if she doesn't respond, she isn't ready to talk, wait for her to follow up. Nothing is more annoying than having to sift theough 15 text messages and 20 voicemails from one person. (Later on this may change but for now as I said be gentle)

[@Lionhart-fw5nq]

normal INFP behavior in my opinion. And please never ever accuse an INFP of something like attention seeking/anything that could indicate that they intentionaly harm someone in any way. We worry/care a lot about others (one reason it could take us some time to answer texts). someone thinking badly about us is our worst nightmare and one of our gratest fears ( at least for me). And i must admit: Most INFPs are attention seeker in their one ways. (Most of the time in form of sharing things we like, made or achieved). Because we are most of the time starving for affection and appriciation. But we (at least i) hate that side of ourself or are ashamed of it. and we would never live it out at the cost of others. NEVER! (knowingly)

[@wanderingthoughts16]

Being an INFP, i agree 💯

[@paaglimonicat]

Me an insecure infp who thinks that there is no way any other time will watch this Looking at the comment sections, me: yep.... no one likes us 🥲

[@YasminJaz]

am an infp and every boys i rejected bc of these 1/2 traits

[@run_eclipse]

Omggg this is sooo me😂😂😂

[@Xlife018]

These are not just applicable on INFP.. Who would believe if you tell them that you fell in love with them so quickly?

[@mikicerise6250]

Some people do. And in any case, it's always disconcerting. Like a fake smile. Part of you knows it's meaningless. Another part only knows you're being smiled at. That's why it's used for manipulation.

[@lou-official]

So true! WHAAAA

[@anumchan003]

is there anyone out there who wants to make me to fall in love with them?😅

[@yana112o92]

As an INFP, if someone has a crush on me - - - why?

[@random_asteroid]

"do sunflowers need a reason to point at the sun? " how would u react as an infp if someone gave u such a reply to your why?just curious

[@yana112o92]

​@@random_asteroidthat's smooth. Not gonna lie, I'd probably stare at his face in awe.

[@rogerfrancis5938]

How do you get an INFP to love you? That's the neat part, you don't. ;)

[@RayPong-nx2vp]

This is definitely intj way far than an infp you should do better

[@sunder4392]

Do infps like enfps?

[@Aliem-p8x]

I think I only know one ENFP that I really like because they are kind, funny, brave to be genuine, I feel seen and heard with them, also they seems like a strong person (in my opinion). This is my best friend, but if this human was a different gender, I would probably fall in love with him to the core. There was actually a time when I felt panic because they were so tactile, tickling me a lot, stroking me, hugging me, etc, saying a lot of "I love you", "I like you" with such expressions that my heartbeat increased😳. I think that yes, INFPs love ENFPs if they have some kind of connection.

[@giuseppelorisnuzzo2840]

love that all the video INFP = female

[@neroow2258]

🤣🤣 You observe me. I feel seen and heard as INFP. 🤣🤣 Wil they find me? 🤔

[@justaotter2085]

i mean aren't extroverted types so cool? estj/entj- how organised and assertive they are ,plus even that bossy attitude esfp- how they have so many stories to tell, and they live life to fullest enfp- thhat chaos is just a mood estp- charisma , risks

[@xtimestop]

Why do you keep talking in a way where the INFP is female only? 😅 Can people fall in love with other genders of INFP?

[@mikicerise6250]

Stereotype I guess. In fairness, as an INFP male, we're such a girly interpersonal style you might as well. 😅

[@alexdollesin300]

99% of people watching are other infps 😂

[@amyitis]

.5% INFJ! Lol, I went on a date with an INFP and even though it didn't work, this explains why

[@whoops_green]

😂😂😂

[@ArcadeChan]

I feel more uncomfortable the more I watch this. “OMG” !!! >\\\\\

[@haellazn]

im sure that most of the people who watch this video is actually infp themself (which is i am), cuz i know that there is no one who want to fall in love with or want us infp to love them 🥹