Warning! This is What Happens If You Don't Admit to What You Want!

[@itstheaudiowitch]

Being honest- I don't want to provide for myself. I don't want to have to have a career. I want to be able to do my craft and have a masculine provider and I can take care of the home and family and work on my craft. I was so ashamed and terrified to admit this to myself because I was terrified of being perceived as weak and have been shamed for wanting that type of connection. I'm actually way happier admitting this to myself.

[@queengoblin]

Same. It doesn’t help that we as woman are shamed for this and told we are lazy or useless if this is what we want. The world devalues feminine strengths and gifts and tells us we must be men when we are not men.

[@violanovakova4752]

I have the exact same desire, so I’m curious to know how you’re going about it. I was pushed back by my last relationship. I dated a millionaire who wanted me to marry him and move in with him. It seemed like a possible dream come true, but he had a lot of red flags. I agreed to marry him under pressure. Everything was pressured with him. We broke up soon because I was pointing out things that were not okay with me and that made him angry. Then I started my healing journey because I was so devastated and confused. Now I want to be independent just so I don’t have to tolerate abuse and bad behaviour from a rich man. But that’s the "SO THAT" trap 🙃 idk what to do honestly, I have no problem attracting rich guys who want to have a relationship, but there’s always smt about them that makes me feel like I’d rather be single. Have you maybe experienced anything similar?

[@queengoblin]

@@violanovakova4752 look into Mina Irfan she goes into finding high quality provider men

[@adrianemccaffrey7814]

I feel this!! Still struggling to admit it 100%

[@zetristan4525]

@@violanovakova4752 Instead of attracting guys who can provide for you financially, why not go for men who can provide for you emotionally? More of a challenge to find, and to grow, but far more of a reward.🍀

[@andyroberts310]

Me and my wife were like this for years. I always thought she should be at home with the kids and she always wanted me to chase the management ladder at work, but I had no drive to live for work and just wanted more time with the kids, while she hated being such at home with the kids and really wanted to get a management job. We lived like this for almost 5 years before she broke the stailmate and we discussed why we weren't happy. So she went to college and I started working less, then she got a good job and I stayed home with the kids. That was about 6 years ago and we've never been happier!

[@stephaniepierre11]

I’m glad things are going well for you :)

[@SyndicShadow]

You honestly just want to be around the kids all the time? Or does it involve other things?

[@andyroberts310]

@SyndicShadow mostly yeah. I discovered I actually like running the house, keeping everything going and making sure everyone has what they need for school or work or whatever. We've 4 kids (one with ASD) so they keep me busy. I genuinely enjoy spending time with them, teaching then stuff and messing about playing. Yeah they drive me up the walls sometimes but that's kinda what kids do...

[@empress9857]

Hey it’s works for y’all

[@empress9857]

See it’s works for you all long as it works for y’all doesn’matter who says what

[@kiwik2951]

This is me. I try to make myself as small and the least amount “needy” as possible. Well, now I’m dealing with a partner who I’ve trained to do the bare minimum.

[@lillystar91]

my heart goes out to this , i hope you expand , you get the care you need n desire and aspire to ask 4 more

[@AS-on1fz]

Same girl, same. It's time to wake up.

[@kiwik2951]

@@lillystar91 thank you. I finally opened up and told him the truth about how unhappy I am the way things are. He is completely avoidant so it will take time for the things I said to sink in. I chose this man, and I’m willing to work and make things better. And he says he’s willing to do the work too.

[@kiwik2951]

@@AS-on1fz you can do it. Are you in therapy at all?

[@Sylfirus]

There is not much twinking you need to do in order to get back to a convenient life : - Stop being a control freak, based on some needs like « feeling secure ones », you have trained yourself to let no random event happen in your life. So much that it is absolutely impossible to find a place besides you as a man… You do your best to do everything and we cant approach you, you dont let us approach you, expect those mens that are useless…. - Understand that mens needs to be able to help you, otherwise we feel useless and depressed. (If not help, at least accept our love and tenderness) In my workplace, a girl likes me, she is like you, doing everything by herself and freaking her mom because this mom wants her daughter to have a men and child (at all cost). The amount of time i need to explain to her that she’s trying to hard not to let me any space beside her is absolutely annoying and uncompromising. And i consider myself high value man (i know i know), so i value my time, working out or working on personal projects outside of my job. So the sad part is that i dont care about her anymore, she cost me too much time for not enough heart opening moment. Open yourself to life or byebye bella.

[@ariadne6104]

Teal just nailed about 98% of the problem in generational traumatic households

[@AniseReimer]

Yeah! It makes a lot of sense why people do to their kids the very thing they hated, it's at an unconscious level.

[@sparkz6730]

Isn't that the truth!

[@ninanewman5926]

Be careful of who you follow...

[@gloriavis]

Women have been shamed for wanting to be wives and mothers. Watch the movie terms of endearment.

[@Leothegermanshephard]

Me here

[@unreachable6822]

It's all too good to be true until you decide one day to start actually doing the things you desired for a long time (writing music for me) but didn't because society says "it's useless and won't make you money" and suddenly you wake up the next day and you feel like you've been to a gym and ate vegetables for an entire month. My depressive episode literally evaporated into space, I got scared (instead of relieved lmao). Didn't even take anti anxiety meds for two days, I didn't need them, and after that needed a smaller dose. And no, I didn't quit my job, I just picked music up as a hobby, baby steps. It was enough to heal me for a week. Admitting to your truth IS going to change your life. So yeah, do it, even a small thing.

[@bittersweetindustryexecutive]

@unreachable Good job!👍 So making music was like the missing link for you. A desire so deep that it disrupted you mentally and emotionally, right up to the point of depression? Also, an infinite number of baby steps will some day feel as a giant leap. It's also more sustainable long-term than taking a deep dive. I hope you don't take this the wrong way but 'I feel like I've been to the gym and ate vegatables for a month' makes for an awesome album title. My little tip here comes 💯 royalty free. 🎶🎹🎸🎤✌

[@mightyV444]

@unreachable - I'm in a very similar situation! My heart-felt Truth is that I'm a Musician - but my Ego keeps trying to pull me away from that Truth and push me towards things like working in a day job, because I too have this societal programming of "Musician is just a _hobby_ , and you can't expect to make a living from it" happening 😏 Even though I do know that money isn't necessarily connected to working in a job and can come to us in other ways, too! But it's been terribly difficult and also very tiring to get rid of such programming, and I've been feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, and my ongoing lower-back issues most likely are _also_ connected to this 😏 I'd asked the Universe already many moons ago to send me opportunities, situations and people to help me move forward on my path around Music, but so far, nothing much has happened 😏 And I'm happy for you having gotten such a positive lift! 😊👍

[@alanajoybailey1320]

This!

[@lillierose5304]

I feel like that every time I sing ❤️

[@mightyV444]

@@lillierose5304 - Yaaayyy! 😊🙏 What exactly do you sing, if I may ask? 😀

[@annikabirgittanordlander6887]

"Life satisfaction can only come about if you are in touch with what you want. And you can only create the life you want if you admit to what you want. This concept is pretty straight forward. Where it gets complicated is that you may not be admitting to the truth of what you want. You may not be admitting it to yourself. And you may not be admitting it to others". Teal. Love it, thank you Teal 🌎

[@sanyam8840]

I want peace and freedom. No recognition. No passionate relationships.

[@queengoblin]

Oh what great timing. My needs and wants are to be taken care of and to run and manage a household and to not have to work to support anyone. These are MAJORLY shamed in my family. I develop back problems whenever I get a job. My family even actively shamed me today for not having a job. They don’t need my support, they’re well off, but they believe everyone should be “working”. I have a decade of experience hustling, grinding, working, supporting myself living on my own - I hate it! I love having my own money but you don’t need a job for that. I started my own business and money comes to me through that. My family just is not compatible with me

[@vickyeahoh]

Same here you can do this hold on and I am proud of you!

[@earthmamma85]

I’m 38 and for most of my life I’ve not been living my truth. I moved out of my parents house right into an apartment with my boyfriend now husband and I didn’t even give myself space to develop my truth. I’ve struggled with confidence and identity issues for as long as I can remember. When I ask myself what do I really want, or who am I… I can’t even answer. Everyone around me tells me who I am… I’ve gotten so use to the monotony of day to day life and have walked the path of “suppose to” for so long… I feel like I’m just on auto pilot. I’m just reacting to life at this point.

[@Kolby2004]

I am a 37 Year old man and have walked the same path as you. Finally Divorced after the long toxic relationship, 2 years ago and really struggling to find my truth as well. You are not alone!

[@alanajoybailey1320]

Hope you can see your truth x

[@Taichientaoyin]

@@Kolby2004 thanks God for your comment so that the ladies know it is not a lady thing.

[@mrssomeone2143]

At least you're married. That's wonderful

[@oceanwonders]

This is so simple that I'd dismissed it this whole time. I was blind to the fact that I've been resisting what I want, what I really really want. I'd been living in the world of "should" for so long that it's become an unconscious habit to do what I "should" be doing. I now need to dig deep and find out what it really is that I want, for I can't even currently remember.

[@joannabaikoff7243]

Yes, this is my problem. I honestly don’t even know what I want

[@love_dove_]

"the truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off" Couldn't help but add this (it's my truth 😉)

[@Super_BeastGirl]

Mantra by Bring Me the Horizon

[@alabaster2163]

I think that's also why so many are going through isolation periods. Time to figure that out, without outside influence.

[@sophie6273]

I faced the same problem, forcing myself to stay in a marriage because it’s frowned upon to separate. The benefits outweigh the latter, your happier therefore the people around you are. It feels like being a bird stuck in a cage and when your free it’s pure euphoria!

[@cosmicmirrorstorm1797]

You literally just described what happened in the last 7 weeks of my life. I’m now in the stage of acceptance and admitting. Thank you very much Teal.

[@sabrinainlove]

sameeee

[@chadtrent]

I chose to get a day job when I met my partner 12 ago as he said my ‘singing’ and performing was just a ‘hobby’ - when I sing there is a resonance I can’t explain. I love performing and lifting people up, making them feel and connect to a feeling from whatever type of performance I am doing. I gig on a corporate level now but I know there is something else I need to do with my voice to heal others. I don’t want to work for a corporation that just takes advantage but I stress about money because that’s all I bring to my relationship. He does all the cleaning and household stuff so it’s like money is all I can bring while stuck in this inescapable loop.

[@Radianty_Ella]

Sing, please! The world needs it!

[@maryglo1]

Yes! Keep at it. I went through similar things. After ten years with a guy who discouraged me while picking up two instruments. Started singing for a band and was hooked. Busted up my marriage but he's happy now and so am I. Just keep doing your art or you will become morbidly depressed. I was amazed who came out of the woodwork to encourage and inspire me. Now I make up songs and musicals like it's second nature. Need more music people in my life and our world! The love of music in Europe and the Far East is overwhelming! You cand advertise to find collaborators. Quincy Jones said you must have to have your act together. Jokes and a fun disposition help a lot.

[@racheldebner1955]

This hits so close to home. I was a parentified child, and my story is similar to the example teal gave except I don't have a child. Thank you teal!

[@elsagrace3893]

What are you doing to get your want to be taken care of satisfied? Anything?

[@NightNekomata]

Same here. I'm CF so im looking forward to just being able to take care of myself and not another human cuz its exhausting

[@yohna33]

Me too!

[@racheldebner1955]

@@elsagrace3893 Well, I am in therapy, learning how to play. I don't honestly know the answers to your questions, at least not yet.

I want to share this so badly with people I care about, they would never receive the goodness this message has to offer. Thank you 💓

[@Vanjuska0212]

I want to work in a temporary well- paid roles while having periods of time off work, cleaning, enjoying idleness, enjoying the money ive earned, studying and travelling.

[@veganlife9205]

As always you talk about what I am going through, giving me wisdom at the exact right time. Thank you beautiful Teal 💗

[@Galemor1]

Yes, I'm scared to admit what I want. Because I don't actually know what to do, if I get it.. And I tend to pursue unavailability, for that exact reason. It's familiar, I know what to expect. But it doesn't bring me happiness.

[@claudiawilliams-BEYOU]

Could this be a sign of procrastination- afraid to take responsibility for what you truly want and for your hearts desires

[@beatrixbliss276]

One of the greatest gifts I've given myself was to not care what others think about me. I did it to survive working in an all-male workplace where my feelings were hurt frequently and I was ridiculed for crying. This has paid big dividends in my present job as a sex worker. Even though sex work is a vital community service, it is not appreciated and criminalized. But it would be a much more unhappy world if we were not available. And I would have never had as many opportunities to grow as much spiritually as I have in this industry. It has been such a blessing to get off the corporate merry-go-round and not do battle in the rat race every day. You simply cannot be present in a life where you have to be constantly watching the clock.

[@ida1462]

I've come to realize how little I like to be told what to do. I really hate being told what to do by other people. And it's actually hard for me to thrive in this for too long. This is NOT a trait that is very valued in society 🤣 And I thought I could just deny and supress this need/truth ! But I can't! It's a major realization! It really makes me see how being very inauthentic (as I've been all my life) has created so many problems for me in my life 😊❤

[@guannaplai4659]

Why do you say you are so inauthentic? I’m sure there’s some authenticity to who you are! We are all unique.

[@ida1462]

@@guannaplai4659 True. Of course I am 😊🌟 When I say that, I mean that: Authenticity is about KNOWING who you are. If you don't know who you are, how are you going to be true to yourself and make disisions that are authentic to you? 😊 So, when I say I have been so inauthentic, it doesn't mean I haven't been unique! It just mean I haven't been able to know myself that good. Hope it makes sense? 🤔😊

[@beatrixbliss276]

No one likes to be told what to do. Even if they wanted it before, now that someone is telling them, they become resistant to it. It's the authority dilemma.

[@ida1462]

@@beatrixbliss276 I think it's definitely worser for some people than others.

[@AnandaSea]

I see it as day dreaming or self shopping from the universe!! It's a beautiful challenge to find what is going to be the best way of aligning with the most powerful blessings on their way by knowing and loving what you really want.

[@nate411]

The last part of the video is so valuable. I mean so many are like this, with no energy, wondering why everything is against them, but it's hard to see what needs to be done, how to read the message basically. I hope more people will see this and I'll do my best to share this point of view with those I meet.

[@Fer-De-Lance]

Thank you, Teal. I have often regretting not acting or asking. I would rather go for I want and be rejected or fail than wonder.

[@knowitintobeing]

Authenticity and honesty are the base for basically everything. Love, action, manifestation, everything we do. Finding your truth is the first step. 🗝️❤️ Nothing is too good to be true. That's the truth as well. Just a general one. 😊 I think the examples and the advice in this video are very very good btw. 😊👍

[@zaskiavermaak6038]

Hey Teal, the real question that this brings up in me is "what do you actually want?" Things are just as they are and I am just seeing the days fly past me in fast forwarded slow motion.... Where did I go and how do I find my sense of purpose... Anyways great videos thanks again! Much love

[@johnmccolgan2177]

Exactly where I am in my life. And what's worse is that I've known this for a long time. Feeling like I owe people, but just forgetting about myself. Very timely video. Thank you 🙏

[@spokeskeys6238]

Woah, I hope this can help someone out there. I just realized I've had addiction after addiction in my life due to the lack of human connection I had starting in first grade. Make your life whole and you will no longer need to cope. Even if being yourself is only comfortable/appropriate with 1 or 2 people on earth, FIND THOSE PEOPLE and do not stop looking until you have.

[@lindimashinini7237]

I love this video because it's absolute CONFIRMATION for me that I am heading in the right direction... My theme for the week is HONESTY, and this video is aligned with it. Thanks once again with your enlightening wisdom

[@thedivinerosegarden]

This was brilliant!!! I've finally admitted to something I wanted recently and a huge weight has been lifted. The truth is I was telling myself a shame story that kept me stuck in confusion and despair. No my life might not be glamorous by admitting this truth but it sure feels liberating and expansive because now I have the strength to move forward step by step. Thank you so much for all that you do for us, Teal💜😇✨️🙏🏻

[@fabulousonephilosophy]

Truth is subjective and changes when you get older. You never stay the same person. What's your truth now is not your truth later. There is what you want, and there is as well the responsibilities you have created as an adult. We don't need to get rid of our responsibilities because we have decided on what we want. Find the balance where you can meet both needs. Unhappiness doesn't come from not getting what you want. Unhappiness comes from a deep level of unconsciousness ❤️🙏

[@carolinalink7040]

Unhappiness can come from many sources. Poverty that is difficult to escape. Health issues that are untreated. Childhood trauma cycles that seem to keep repeating. There are many sources of unhappiness.

[@demonicaxeman7264]

I find life less stressful by not looking for a relationship. Yes, I admit I have needs, but I don't feel like I can take on a relationship that might give me my wants and needs. I cannot get excited about the thought.

[@Moccsnosocks]

You describe co-dependency very well here, incidentally. Thank you 🙏

[@LeonaZiyan]

This is an amazing video. I hope everyone that needs it comes across this. It’s time we stepped into our truth…… And live in our truth and stop the pain from spilling everywhere

[@yesnomaybesogd6825]

Hey Teal! I have heard that this decade has been like hell incarnate for you, I see that there is a ton of turmoil surrounding you from the general public, and the lawsuit coming forth from it, I just wanted to say that I hope you come out the other side of your situation in a better state of being than ever before and rise victorious as to change society for the better in the end as to make the new earth a reality, I wish you and your team (especially Tristen, she is really kind!) the absolute best for your lives and a bright future ahead!

[@Dethian666]

i'm hurting so much with not admiting what i wanted 9 months ago, follow your heart no matter what others say learning mistakes is better than not trying with what you want

[@ra.fa.el-369]

Thank you so much Teal... I struggle with explaining things to the people I care about, but I don't sound convincing enough and people get defensive about it... Thank you... I love you 🙏🕊️🌻

[@waterlily6747]

This is always a hard thing to do simply because what you want and what other people want are not the same thing. It is alot of hard work but you are correct that there's consequences even in not doing it.

[@TruthQuest4700]

What I want is understanding, not judgment.

[@PhenduKuta]

I had to rewatch this. It is so on point with some experiences I've gone through. Thankfully I have gained awareness and I am now unrelenting about who I am and what I want. Thank you Teal for sharing this wisdom ✨🙏🏾

[@EVERETTOVERTON]

What a person wants is likely to be the observed wants of others. Challenge your wants. It’s usually under your wants where your happiness resides. Congratulations on hitting 1 Million, Team Swan. Much deserved.

[@michelleparada5061]

I've been watching Teal videos for years and DAMN, she hacks the universe or something, from all the languages she always decides to speak with the language of the truth, no one has ever opened more my eyes and opened me to my true self than her.

[@nikkistewart5366]

It's just very hard to admit it and hurt the person you've been hurting for so long 💔

[@nikkistewart5366]

Thank you 🙏 you showed me the next steps to take.

[@LeahBreHappy]

It is hard, but you can do hard things!! ❤

[@andreeadiana3155]

Oh yeah. Going through something similar 😞 and Teal's episode comes right on time

[@jessicajohnston5693]

Yeah... There are a lot of things I like about this world, but I feel like this reality is preventing me from being who I really am. So, there are more things against me than for me, even though I am trying to be honest with myself. I think me being born here was a huge mistake... Maybe I can be more of myself in my next life and be grateful for it because of this life.

[@claudiawilliams-BEYOU]

It’s a choice you make - it’s not the worlds responsibility to Find the answers you’re looking for as we all know it’s within ❤I believe you can 💪

[@GerardoVazquezCP]

Ms. Swan, your sincerity is highly appreciated. Thank you.

[@jamestreible4545]

You are so correct in this. Due to being born and raised in a very cultish belief system, and not having the foresight to stand up for myself and get out of it when I should have, I've spent the majority of my life not admitting to the what I want out of life. And it has wreaked havoc on me in many ways. Thank you for this information. People need to know this.

[@FilipGiera]

Have a good week, Teal!

[@swanthequeen2144]

NAILED IT Teal all this resonated with my current situation. 💯 I have no energy anymore trying to get what I want coping with how miserable I am in this situation. Still I have to endure it in order to have what I need. But I feel this video with every fiber in my body.

[@shaniecegullison]

Before I met my man at 18 I wanted to travel, become a dolphin trainer,I wanted to live in miami. 10 years later I'm still trying to grasp that dream and it's depressing everyday when I don't get even an inch closer to that.its really hard to know that I can have all this but my current situation will never let me if I stay here.i want and deserve so much more out of life

[@traveliowa301]

Oh you're in your Saturn return years

[@shaniecegullison]

@@traveliowa301 could you explain what saturn return years are

[@shaniecegullison]

@@traveliowa301 just researched it and wowwwwww Holy crap.thats scary and awesome at the same time

[@traveliowa301]

@@shaniecegullison It's common on our birthday to take a moment to reflect our life. This is because Saturn is potent on our birthday. Saturn is also prominent from age 28-30. A moment to reflect our lives. You may notice many changes. Just remember: be a leaf in the wind and let it happen. If times are too much : just take a night off from life to relax. I'm so excited for you! I'm 31 and just finished mine. Magically I moved to a breathtaking mountain and met great friends.

[@shaniecegullison]

@@traveliowa301 thank you so much for explaining that.apreciate you telling me about this amazing detrimental event in my life

[@divyaraj6517]

Dearest Teal, are you reading my life, this is what I just wrote just now while I am doing the parts work on my relationship dilemma 🤗❤️🤗

[@miznikki2u]

The irony of this video. I’ve been thinking about this topic for a couple weeks now. This very scenario has gotten me into a lot of trouble because I am a woman who likes women, and instead of just moving through the shame I have associated with being queer, and admitting that to myself and the people who I love, I conjured up a relationship in my head with a female friend who does not identify that way, and which did not really exist. That ended up resulting in a lot of pain and confusion for both of us and ultimately led to us going our separate ways. Just be honest with yourself folks, life is too short to live an inauthentic life.

[@bittersweetindustryexecutive]

@Coley So, did you conjure up that relationship in your head as a way of practising your newfound sexuality/attraction in the 'safest' way possible? So as to find out how it would feel and also without bearing the consequences and full responsibilty if you were to truely engage yourself with a woman who could meet your needs?

[@nathaliaa.c.8424]

I want to admit I don't know what I want because I want many things and these things go in different directions

[@Lolo-lt2lf]

I'm sick. I've been so for years. Lyme Disease. It has brought a hell of a lot of pain but also brought everything I wanted by simultaneously taking away everything I "had." Anyway, now I'm healing and trying to step into this attitude of owning my truth. IT'S UGHHHH!!! A change.

[@EdenchannelX]

I admit that I want more intimate friendships, that are able to share more inner feelings and thought. I want to be able to provide to a woman that loves art and feelings as much as I do, because I don't know what to do with the money I make. Working for the sake of working it's making my life meaningless, I feel like a machine. Someone here wants to be my friend?

[@shaniecegullison]

Watching it twice it was sooo good

[@KyriosHeptagrammaton]

"There is not just consequences for something being our truth, there's also consequences for us not admitting to our truth."

[@deviljames]

P.S. thank you for remote-viewing me a couple nights ago... & thank you even more for being gentle about it. have a blessed day

[@TheEvolutionOfAmy]

💣 Truth Bomb! 🔥 experienced/experiencing this all! Now that I am finally (at age 47 and 3 failed marriages and several health issues later) living my Truth! It has taken years of misery, self-inflicted pain including a drug addiction to recognize I was being shown what I do NOT want. So when Teal says the Universe will "crank up the heat" that's no joke. I am infinitely grateful to Teal (and other KZbin creators) for teaching me what love really is, and what it is not. There's a beautiful, magical life on the other side of fear. There is hope 💜

[@huriniume4739]

This hit. Thank you 🙏 I had to confront an aspect of my own fakeness and really just keep it 💯

[@Japaniva0]

What if : what I really want doesn't provide my financial needs? In that case, should we cope with whatever brings our essential needs? Love u teal ❤

[@baronhippolytussk]

This is fantastic teal! Thankyou. I've been on the other side of this in relationship. It's so clear that this is the pattern that keeps happening

[@blue_sky_bright_sun7599]

Being real with myself feels like health in my body. Like I’m strong and healthy. The opposite is…not so good.

[@moralebooster8437]

This is precisely what I have been dealing with 🔥 always on point Teal. Well done, thank you!

[@Ellendil12]

At this point I feel like I've been always standing underneath a heavy waterfall - life crashing into me and flowing all around me but myself just not moving. I search inside for answers, but find little more than misery and despair. I feel defeated. I struggle to keep standing.

[@ninaduschek9267]

THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREEE!!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH TEAL!!!

[@mkmdowns]

Your videos have convinced me that no adult genuinely wants to take care of another. I know in my own body, my care-taking battery has been completely emptied, and I imagine the same is true for others. I am confused where we are supposed to get this desire met.

[@almawolf4192]

I love how you layer by layer, very directly and gracefully peeled off the crap-noise (I made that word up... I mean all the stuff that dulls the actual awareness in one's self to go hibernating.. in my opinion it's just like white noise or brown noise, just on another level) :) I started laughing around half the way. Also I think it's so funny what you said about going against the universe. Very good spoiler thank you.. by the end I was kind of in a liberating mix of laughing and crying. Great relief 😌🌺🤗 much appreciated!

[@Dolphin369]

Not that this issue doesn’t apply to me but I can’t help but think of others when watching. In particular my MIL, such a martyr and over- giver, suffering from chronic pain and a host of illness. Also such a gentle, well mannered lady, and everything is always “fine” or “perfect”. But sometimes the resentment seeps out. Generally I just feel sad that she’s so closed off to what she needs

[@marichiarra8495]

This video has come to me at a very crucial/critical time in my life. That’s all I can say right now. I’m only a couple minutes in, so.

[@deniz547]

Just on time with the perfect example. I’ve been having a great deal of shame about being polyamorous and I’d been wondering if I should just deny my truth about it in order to fit into society, as much as I know it would make me suffer.

[@rezamoradi4073]

Wanting is thinking, therefore thought is matter.

[@onrendezvous]

I'm only at like the 9 minute mark....but sooo many devilish smirks from you in this video Teal

[@pfergpaint5473]

Praise God for this insightful wisdom

[@watours]

Thanks for the discussion. Personally, it's 5 steps (years of doing something I don't necessarily want to be doing now) to get to the truth of what I really want (or need). Everyone wants what they can't have. It may be a never ending desire for something perceived as greater. Still, its way more fun going for your dreams than rolling over and avoiding the pain of achieving them, eventually.

[@bittersweetindustryexecutive]

@Num Bat * Did you mean avoiding the pain of NOT achieving your dreams? As in chasing big, unrealistic dreams and then be very disappointed when they don't manifest?

[@DynissRainer]

“The truth shall set you free” said at the end: Clever and cute for the video!

[@WishesCameThrough]

This message is ABSOLUTELY for me, geez the universe indeed truly has a striking sense of humor.

[@KyriosHeptagrammaton]

I know a guy. Everyone's always on tip toes around him, always walking on eggshells. He used to get in these huge screaming matches, and any vulnerability you share with him is a weakness he will use against you. And it's pretty obvious to see that 95% of it stems from the fact he doesn't say or admit what he wants. And he's super resentful whenever anyone else gets their own way because all they had to do was ask for it. And the few times he does ask for what he wants, it's in a super passive aggressive backhanded way that sets the other person off, which probably just confirms his belief that he shouldn't ask for what he wants.

[@paystack76]

It's not as simple as following what you want. I want to drive away in a Porsche that doesn't belong to me, but I have a greater desire to stay out of jail. I want to sleep in mornings instead of go to work, but I have a greater desire not to be homeless. I want to be promiscuous, but I have a greater desire to take care of the people I'm responsible for. Just doing what you want can ruin your life. It is important to understand that there are consequences for every decision. We can acknowledge our wants, but we must also weigh our wants against their consequences and decide what serves our ultimate wellbeing. And since we are intimately connected, that includes considering the interests of others.

[@chanelchristin4503]

I think impulses aren't necessarily who we are and what we truly want. And yes prioritizing what's most important I agree, which values are the most important to you in any area of life 🙏

[@maryanne-io7ld]

Overcome fear change my thinking. Seeing my therapist not being selfish. Why do people hate others? Showing kindness to others. God bless you.

[@blue_sky_bright_sun7599]

What a great topic and awesome break down. Would love to see more takes of yours on topics such as this one: one’s own individuality, one’s true wants and needs. I feel there’s lots of focus on shadow work but so much so that one doesn’t see the other side of the coin. Often times it’s a matter of admitting to the real truth rather than going into a deep shadow work process about the thing that bothers us.

[@ashleyann5995]

Universe protect this woman at all costs.

[@lightstream3]

Every day in every way, I'm admitting to what I want!

[@rachaellouise2666]

Teal is phenomenal

[@w.loczykij5354]

Started well. Started valid And then shot it down as per current time

[@flexjay87]

God almighty, i have been in pain about stuff like this, and have watched a ton of videos from various sources, and this video is hands down the cut that cuts the deepest truth in life !

[@pacarter7169]

Here’s a thought… Having a divided soul between two different directions and extremes: Of which a journey had begun in one direction of which I believed in the principles whole heartedly and the people whom those principles associated with… until I began my own path and studies… of which I was at first excited by what I had learned and discovered… however after a while, my joy turned to disappointment, then depression and an eventual breakdown. Then it was time for a different nature of change. However despite the shift in my journey, that which I had believed in still is a deeper aspect of the principles I live by… but at the same time there is a conflict between what is acceptable and what is not. (Religion vs Metaphysics.)

[@christiangottsacker6932]

Truth has done nothing but imprison me. My truth is always just 2 feet out of reach and putting myself first does nothing but cause harm to me and everyone else. There is not truth in my heart. Looking at any desire is a distraction and a waste of time, wanting anything openly is giving the devil too much info. Everything you want must be done in secret.

[@teenbartram2676]

I want to be taken care of, looked after and pampered!

[@sydneysullivan3341]

Every time I have a crisis there’s always a teal Swan video. I’m pregnant and I thought I was going to keep the baby. I would have these breakdowns of loosing my life and my freedom but also I’m in love and this is the right circumstances. I know I don’t want to be a mother. I want to keep travelling and I don’t want this responsibility. This means breaking up with my boyfriend, moving out of my apartment and flying back to the uk from the Caribbean. It’s really really hard to admit this to myself but at least I know my truth and I’m not fighting the current.

[@EMunaBee]

@sydneysullivan3341 do you have to break up? Do you have to move? Do you need help with whatever you choose?

[@Rainbow2dcore]

I almost forgot about this video. It's a warning from Teal on what is happening currently to us dishonest of our deep desires people

[@mushymystic]

Yeah, straight up- It's fear of failure. Not as in, "what if I make mistakes" but as in, "This goal is laudable but not compatible with reality, how am I going to live as a failure?" lol

[@randomelvis3359]

I admit it….. I want a conscious relationship, but hang on…that takes another to show up that way…. Anything else is joining another in the “growth dance” I’ve done that dance for years, I know the steps very well… these days I’m dancing alone watching the crazy disco from the sidelines 🕺🏼😂👌🏻✨

[@millanferende6723]

Yeah man... I'm gonna be alone pretty soon too. I'm gonna grow until I can find a normal and attractive woman. 👌🏻

[@alesterleong249]

Stay strong! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@randomelvis3359]

@@millanferende6723 a what?? 😳😂😂😂👌🏻…good luck my friend!!

[@queengoblin]

@@millanferende6723 you can pick one but not both 😂😂😂

[@millanferende6723]

@@queengoblin or its priorities! Focus on myself first. Then when I am in a good state, find or naturally encounter a partner that I want. 🙂

[@livelaughlove4635]

This was great! Glad I found this video.

[@whenhumanshadwings]

This is basically what Carolyn Elliot's "Existential Kink" concept is! The idea is that we already have what we want, but because we've made that desire subconscious, we don't get to experience the satisfaction of having it.

[@queengoblin]

So if I want a man to take care of me but no man is taking care of me how do I already have that?

[@whenhumanshadwings]

@@queengoblin What I (well, what Carolyn) is saying, is that you actually subconsciously want your independence. So that's what you've got. It's not a perfect method of shadow work, but it is worth investigating.

[@queengoblin]

@@whenhumanshadwings thanks for your answer :)

[@bobbyhorne8937]

What I want knows? Thank you my little swan.

[@zeph6439]

Very interesting, Teal. Thanks for expounding on this topic - From my observations I would posit that a lot of people are stuck in living up to the approvals and cow-towing to the opinions of others which stymies the innate desire we have to be free. Just one thing ` sometimes, what we think we want, is actually not what we think it to be when we find out..

[@northstarearthstar]

The truth shall set you free. Ty Teal. ❤️

[@jimcityboy5106]

Wow, this segment was a conversation that I was having with myself for a while. Thank you with gratitude, Jim

[@korc444]

Thank you for your light and humor on the matter and perspective you have shared in this video. I had no less than 7 light bulbs go off in my head as I did my best to take in this knowledge. Thank you, thank you, thank you Teal for all that you do, as well as all that you are.