Watching *BARBIE* Is NOT What You Think It Is!

[@HelloMellowXVI]

Wow. I Can't Tell You How Much I Appreciate All Of You Sharing Your Stories Of Dealing With Horrible Men. I hate that Yall Went Through That So Much, wish I Could Do Something Myself. It's Just Absolutely Ridiculous That Men Still Do That. Hate How Women Can't Just Go Throughout Life Without All That Bs, It Scares Me For The Future. But Believe Me I'm Also More Disappointed Than You In Myself On This Reaction. The Reason I Myself Was Questioning It Is Because I've Never Once Done That Or Thought Of Doing That And I Haven't Seen A Guy Do That In Years, So I Thought Majority Of Men Stopped Doing That. But I Know It Doesn't Matter What I Say People Will Still Find Something To Be Upset About And Make It Seem Like I Should've Known Everything Single Thing That Goes On In The World. So Much Goes On In The World That Yall Don't Know About, Really Think The Mature Thing To Do Is Get Mad When That Person Doesn't Know About It? No, Just Contribute To The Conversation And Spread The Awareness. Also, When It Comes To My Thoughts On Barbie Apologizing To Ken. I See Alot Of Yall Misunderstood That Point Of The Movie And Viewed It With A Emotional And Let's Be Honest Selfish Point Of View. No One Said Barbie Owed Ken Anything, All I Said Is He Deserved To Feel Like He Mattered. What's So Hard About Making Someone Feel Important? There Are More Ways To Make Someone Feel Important Than Just Physical Stuff Or Being In A Relationship. And it's a Shame That Alot Of Yall Don't See That, Yall Too Worried About Yall Selves Like Barbie Was In This Movie. You Also Too Focused On Trying To Connect Your Personal Trauma Of Dealing With Persistent Guys Like You Think Ken Was That You're Too Blinded To See The Real Message. This Movie Was About Everyone deserves to be equally valued, loved, and respected as human beings. Actually pay attention to the movie, Ken was so happy from someone asking him just a simple mundane question like, "Do you know what time it is?" Like do you see what that really has to say about how the Ken's were treated and how they felt?

[@TechieindahHood]

The best thing to do is to call it out if you see it and support women who come forward with it. Change happens slowly but sticking up for women encourages other men to do so 🙏

[@pinkmidi6553]

people called you out because its a beyond ignorant thing to say and it reveals how out of touch with reality you are.

[@joe_F_chavez]

You look amazing with that outfit so fabulous 😅❤😅

[@hollygoodwin2965]

The most insidious thing is that a lot of these guys do it precisely because there isn’t other men around to call them out or defend us in these situations, and it would put us in danger to give them shit back so we just need to pretend like we haven’t heard and just carry on. For this reason it was a bit of a difficult watch for me, and quite disappointing.

[@sarahnur7859]

​@@hollygoodwin2965exactly..especially because we fear for our lives

[@jopiter8]

This movie was not made for kids, it’s made for those who played with Barbie when they were kids but are now adults with a lot of stuff to deal with in the real world. One of those being the insane beauty standards that Barbie “helped”create.

[@carlalussini]

The BEST thing about being a grown person is that finally the ART is made by your own peers; I feel that with Greta, that whole thing about Barbie flying off the house because stairs are pointless? I almost cried during the trailer when realizing The Director could SEE ME, cause she WAS me.

[@jennaraurusrex]

Well said 💜

[@tdrxy]

Bruh i ain t ever seen a barbie doll in real life nor have i seen many tv shows or sexualised music. And i come from poor eastern europe so most of my peers didnt even have tv or a bathroom inside their house. Nevertheless i m not complaining why i said this is to illustrate how little social indoctrination we ve had by these barbie standards. Even then a tall slim blonde beautiful women would be attractive anywhere in the world. Even hundreds of years before barbie was invented. The fact that people say the standards are created by dolls,music and celebrities is so dumb. I didnt even have tv or a phone in the early 2000s and still that kind of women was and is attractive. Do you think male influencers dictate that 6,2 muscles and beard are attractive to women? 😂😂 what if all those influencers become fat and dirty. Are you gonna eventually go for those kind of men because those are the sociatial standars? Of course not you re gonna keep being attracted to whats beautiful ,healthy and virile. Barbie took advantage of what was already in place,which is the eye pleasure of an attractive healthy body either gender.

[@jopiter8]

@@tdrxy agree to disagree. TV , movies magazines, media and all that stuff do influence how people see beauty. you don’t need to go as far as the 1500s to see that. There was a moment that very curved girls with big butts were in like Beyoncé and then right after as you can see on shows like the next American top model, a very skinny and sometimes unhealthy body was worshiped. Now is changing again and if you wanna go back to Anytime before Christ, there are a bunch of proof of very heavyweight women that were worshiped and adored because people saw that as a sign of wealth. So you and your peers might not have been influenced by Barbies specifically, but every generation is influenced by some sort of media. You don’t see this kind of comment on women’s body coming from indigenous places where they have no access to any sort of media. There, you’ll see different bodies and no one is analyzing who is healthier based on who is chubbier. All that stuff is created by things like Barbie. But I get it, it is hard sometimes to realize that you don’t actually have your own opinion, and everything that you think about women is based on what your friends and magazines and games and any other sort of media that were present when you were growing up.

[@tdrxy]

@@jopiter8 bruh are you influenced by media on male body? Do you like fat and unhealthy or skinny skeletons? Do you have to be told by some show that a muscular good looking masculine man is attractive? Keep telling yourself that is barbie s fault. The standards of beauty are elitist. Because you and your friends dont have the characteristics to be considered attractive by the majority doesn’t make barbie or media or tv shows evil. Its you who are inadequate. And its okay,most men don’t search for baby. maybe someday you ll find someone too. Untill then I recommend exercise,healthy diet and to look after yourself. See when you ve achieved those beauty standards you wont be so bitter anymore. And by the way i don t have an opinion on women huh because i dont agree with you? Nice mentality you ve got there. It s not even worth a reply honestly because it obviously comes from a place of negativy and anger. You re so naive coming from a place of ignorance and indoctrination you think those are the general values by which men regard women when is in fact you re confirmation bias messing with your perception. But no,all men are the same, i dont have an opinion on women (imagine that) and the world is basically a conspiracy theory against your women , *honey*

[@jessicamurillo7914]

Fun fact, John cena really wanted to be a ken but all the ken rolls were filled out. Margot Robbie told him that he can be mermaid Ken since it didn't have a actor yet. He even contacted her when he first heard about the movie.

[@moxyjones7629]

And Cena brought his own personal wig, that's why it looks so good!

[@HiThereLove16]

it's dramatized and condensed for film purposes, but yes.. I've had random men, strangers or people I've known, grab me, touch me, talk to me inappropriately, I've been catcalled, etc.. this is real and happening now, to many women. On a regular, daily basis, through many forms and avenues. And the worst part is, it was worse when I was a teenager. A literal child. It still happens as an adult - I just don't go outside as much anymore. You don't see it and assume its a thing of the past because you're not the person on the receiving end. You're not the intended audience. Also, this was not meant to be a kids movie. I don't know where you got that from, but.. it's not lol

[@pamayapaya]

Same, the amount of men who would drive up to me on the street when I was walking home from middle school versus me now as an adult is insane. And guys think I’m exaggerating when I repeat literal QUOTES of what those men used to say to me

[@promisemochi]

for me, it started when i was 11. my dad would send me into the gas station after church to buy us sodas and pay, and the men in line behind me would stare at me and comment on my body. it got to the point i had to ask my mom to tell him to either go in with me or stop sending me in entirely. and that's not even to include the weirdo comments family "friends" would make when i was even younger about my body and boyfriends. i was about 13 when i learned to get these grown ass men (40s-60s) to not belittle me was to "flirt" (aka bite back but with the guise of a sweet smile and banter). it makes my skin crawl thinking about it all now.

[@jenniferfoster1692]

Yes to all of this!

[@Kloves818]

As an adult woman I can confidently say the most I've ever been catcalled and approached by men was ages 14-16. It still happens a ton well into adulthood but it starts very young.

[@atanamorell2]

Yes

[@h0rr0rshow]

It's such a societal thing that if a guy is nice to you that you should be into him or give him a chance. She's not treating him badly. She is perfectly direct and polite. A woman can't win.

[@wombat4583]

I do think she should have 'broken up' then because she doesn't reject the statement that they're together after the dance night even if all signs show she's not interested.

[@maxdrags3115]

Meanwhile men have almost 4 times the suicide rate. But nah, women are the ones not winning 🤦🏼

[@IndomitableAde]

​@@wombat4583how do you break up with someone you were never with in the first place? 🤔

[@hollygoodwin2965]

@@wombat4583 the point is that marketing decided they were dating, but that isn’t reflected in their personalities.

[@wombat4583]

@@hollygoodwin2965 True, but they were still going along with it. There can be societal impacts and personal impacts. "Being human isn't something you have to ask for". Society has and can lead people to act in certain ways but they also aren't completely absolved from independent action. They aren't weighted 50/50 and it's a complex issue, but both create a feedback loop.

[@Ten_522]

“Like it’s the 1940s” - Mell this still happens to this very day 🥶 My little sister got homeschooled for years because she was too scared to go outside - she used to be followed and catcalled by the construction workers in our neighbourhood on her way to school. At TWELVE years old, with just her standard school uniform on - not even her regular clothes.

[@antonellamR2D2]

Agreed, men are so optimistic about their peer

[@lafatte24]

Forreal. I grew up fat and tomboy ish in Asia, which is considered a death sentence as far as any boys liking me in school, but even I got harrassed as a kid. One time walking home, this random guy comes up starts asking me my name, asking me to be friends, asking me to go home with him. I was 13. Another time I was in 7-11, this random man came up put his arm around my shoulder, said you ready to go? Let's go. Kept stroking up and down my arm. I was so scared I was death staring the 7-11 cashier to help, he didn't know wtf was going on. I just kept saying no sorry I have class then ran out.

[@HD-ny7ll]

Yeah, it’s crazy how many people don’t think it still happens. Not necessarily catcalled, but I was followed for several blocks the other day. He walked shoulder to shoulder with me and wouldn’t back off. I had to go into a store and he literally stood right outside the door waiting around for me. The majority of men would never act like that but they need to be aware that just because they’re not out there harassing women doesn’t mean it’s not happening and it’s scary for women when it does happen. I had a guy dump a carton of milk on me when I was younger because I told him to f**k off after he refused to leave me alone. It’s a scary situation because you never know how they’ll react, getting a carton of milk dumped on you is probably one of the less violent reactions that women can see from these type of people.

[@mindyg7064]

Your little sister needs to grow up and realise she can ignore catcalls. The idea that 'words are violence' is hysterical and ridiculous, not to mention insulting to anyone who has _actually_ experienced violence. Unless those construction workers were trying to grab her or put hands on her, she was FINE. Keep walking, ignore the idiots and grow up FFS. Home schooling her is just insulating her and setting her up to be even more sensitive and histrionic in future.

[@CoziB7]

No bc when I was 12 and wearing a adchool uniform that’s when I got catcalled the most in my life

[@Heida77]

People who say this movie is about hating men or anti-motherhood either didn't get it or have not seen it. It's a commentary about how women are viewed as less than in the real world. But the message is not that women are superior to men, it's that we're equal and each have a purpose. Barbie doesn't just exist to look good and Ken doesn't just exist to be by Barbie's side. They are both worthy of happiness and love as individuals. And America Ferrera's character specifically says that it's okay to "just" be a mum. You don't have to have a career or choose between a career and being a mum. Plus the pregnant Barbie was a real Barbie that was discontinued because people thought the idea of it was funny seeing as she didn't have a vagina. Speaking of, the ending with her going to the gynecologist, now that she has a vagina, is actually genius. Margot Robbie is fabulous as always but Ryan Gosling just took it to another level!

[@deus_vult8111]

But it is about hating men. It’s commenting on the alleged “misogyny” that doesn’t exist in society. That’s the feminist frame they’ve always pushed.

[@broseph2111]

​@deus_vult8111 what are you talking about?? the us was quite literally built on misogyny. yknow, the whole women couldn't vote thing???

[@savannah115]

​@deus_vult8111 dude, you obviously had an issue with this movie, from all your comments to people here, we get it. Maybe take a breather and calm down and just....don't watch it.

[@Heida77]

@@deus_vult8111 Just say you hate women

[@lonely_crash2059]

Ryan Gosling= SUBLIME in this film

[@foxos7776]

Billy when he saw Margot’s feet: “Y’all better not let my boy Mello see this”. Mission failed, we’ll get ‘em next time.

[@Annik015]

An interesting point that I didn't see people talking about is how a man can be dangerous so fast and out of proportion because of some inconvenience they face. Like, in the movie Barbie didn't see Ken as important or his self person, but that's how she was created too, in real life we see that no one in Mattel gives a fuck about him. The same way all of ken's world IS Barbie cause this is the way he was created. It's not /their/ fault it's Mattel's fault. But then Ken did all those destructive things, and almost ruined all of their world JUST to get back at Barbie, he did those things TO HURT Barbie on propose. Meanwhile when Barbie hurt him she didn't realize she was hurting him, that's just how things were. It's really scary that this is a reality too. Women die everyday because they "did something" that pissed off some men. Some "didn't give enough attention" to them, or didn't want to have sex with them, and the list on awfully long... Anyways, this movie has a lot of levels, I liked it a lot

[@Jacindarella46]

Barbie never really treated Ken badly, she just didn’t want to be with him and he REFUSED to take the hint. And she doesn’t have to give up her house or belongings to him just so his feelings won’t be hurt lol

[@Me-wk3ix]

Really good point!

[@zonastarwars4397]

But Ken was literally made to be with her, he physically couldn't do anything else, he didn't even have a house. Like, the message is clear in the real world but being a Ken was a nightmare in the movie.

[@MinervaBlanchett]

For real

[@Jacindarella46]

@@zonastarwars4397 that’s why the whole point is for him to LEARN that he can be his own person

[@clarisacalderon9555]

like on one hand your right...he didnt take the hint....but the society put them together which she endorsed and went along with....he was her ken...she just didtwant to do much with him since ken doesnt really get marketted as his own doll and barbies never really focus on romance anyway and they are being influenced by how real kids play with the dolls.

[@DanGamingFan2406]

"Note to the filmmakers: Margot Robbie is the wrong person to cast if you want to make this point" I love how they just brought the narration back solely for that. Best line of 2023. Also, Ryan Gosling was actually perfect. "I'm just Ken" is the greatest song of the year.

[@briarrose2542]

Yes! I've seen so many commentaries to this movie that happened to have all been posted by men, and they all (that I've seen) think this line is so weird. To me it's SO important because when I was growing up we had all of these gorgeous, skinny actresses in movies or TV shows where they were supposed to be nerdy / ugly/overweight / whatever. And dude, it's so damaging to go back and watch America Ferrera portrayed as the fat girl in Sisterhood of the Traveling pants or Ugly Betty, or see Anne Hathaway constantly get made fun of for her weight and The Devil Wears Prada. I was a young girl absorbing that and believing that people of that body size were overweight! I really appreciated this movie for making sure that they could get their point about everyone feeling unattractive across without accidentally making young girls feel like that's what an unattractive person looks like.

[@pillowvibes]

@@briarrose2542I do think it undermined the message of the movie a bit. the whole idea is that Barbie is a doll of a woman, not a real woman, and even she didn’t think she was beautiful after just a few interactions with the real world. that’s what begins the whole conversation about how difficult it is to be a woman, because even an inanimate object in the shape of a woman doesn’t feel good enough. Greta wrote the script with Margot in her mind as the lead. Her being so “perfect” and saying ‘I’m not stereotypical Barbie pretty anymore” wasn’t supposed to make sense. You weren’t supposed to look at Barbie and relate to her situation, you’re supposed to relate to the insecure feeling she has. I understand why they would want some fluff line right after she says that, but Margot’s appearance still being stunning was an important part to the scene. I get not wanting to see another perfect blond be like ‘ew I’m so ugly’, but Stereotypical Barbie is a doll, she’s never felt like this before. She didn’t even know it was possible to not look perfect, and even tho her appearance hasn’t changed, the way she feels about herself has and it’s only after ONE day living what we do everyday.

[@TheLunaKeat]

I love that line because is what everyone is thinking and made everyone laugh. At the same time I think she is perfect for the role for this too, there is a heartbreaking interview with her were they ask if she feels beautiful and sexy and her answer is that she feels only when she is playing women that are, when she is being herself she doesn't. If a freaking godness like Margot Robbie can't feel secure and pretty in this world, there is something really wrong about it. Meanwhile there is a viral twitter of a man that look like a thumb saying "she's a six" in this movie because this and that and bla bla bla.

[@katielee7364]

I actually hated that line because The movie could have shown that even the most Beautiful Women can feel like they aren't pretty enough, but they just turned it into a joke of "She's too pretty to feel ugly."

[@briarrose2542]

@@katielee7364 Of course you're entitled to your opinion, but I didn't see it that way at all! She still felt ugly, and she was still nervous about getting ready for Ken later. The movie was just telling us that even though she FELT ugly, she wasn't.

[@Peepthemeep]

The girl being called Sasha is a tribute to Bratz! Her friends at the lunch table are also representing the other Bratz dolls. Also, When Sasha gets in the car after school her mom refers to her as Bunny Boo Boo. Sasha's nickname in Bratz is Bunny Boo, which is also the name of her pet rabbit.

[@MonsterRat1000]

a lot of people have been saying this but has it actually been confirmed by the filmmakers?

[@Peepthemeep]

@@MonsterRat1000 well they probably won’t claim it out right if Bratz is owned by a different company, but it doesn’t change the fact that it’s true. ( I played with bratz myself, watched the movies, played the video games etc.) you can look up the bratz franchise too if you want more info on them. I kind of hoped they would reference other dolls too like Polly pocket but the more I thought about it, the Bratz were their biggest competitor at the time

[@rachelfondeur]

I like that theory because the girls at her table looked like the bratz but if that was so she would be Yasmin not Sasha because Sasha is black

[@chickennoodlesoup3301]

@@rachelfondeur I really dont think anybody cares which bratz doll is which race cause the movie is about barbie

[@belpop]

A lot of people misunderstand this movie. It is never anti-men. It’s anti-male toxicity which is a real problem.

[@deus_vult8111]

feminism pushes anti-male toxicity nonstop.

[@BANANAHAMMER420]

No it's not... people like you are the problem.

[@SmileyAdventures]

Exactly and even saying this, folks will still have an issue with society addressing toxic masculinity.

[@Maewolf]

Lmao 😂

[@maxdrags3115]

WHAT MALE TOXICITY? What a blatant lie.

[@helenperez17023]

Mell, cat calling like the men in the movie actually still happens now. I experience it on a weekly basis. I’ve also had my butt slapped by a guy in the past. It seems so out there but this is women’s reality!!

[@xKagryx]

Yep, it’s alive and well. I just ejected a guy from my workplace for telling me to take my shirt off.

[@MinervaBlanchett]

A man touched my boobs while he was riding a bike and left fast af AND I WAS A MINOR!!!!

[@stephaniefl87]

Yeah I just commented the same about my butt being grabbed while I walking down the street. I’m sorry you deal with his on the daily :( I sometimes get it at work (in a hospital) but not as much as some women in other jobs.

[@deus_vult8111]

and if a man had his butt slapped by a woman absolutely nobody would care.

[@maxdrags3115]

No it's not womens reality, stop fucking lying, most women do NOT experience that, period.

[@tonihagan6330]

This movie is a satire. It took punches at male and female toxicity. It took punches at corporate boards, designated traditional gender roles imposed on men and women by society. No one was spared. The movie actually had a great message of finding what makes you happy and authentic. Trying to live up to societies expectations can be destructive and detrimental to finding your life path. Do you. Be authentic. Ken was also my favorite character. Ryan Gosling was brilliant in this role. Another fun fact is that Barbie Land was flipped from the real world. So Kens were portraying women in real life and the Barbies men. So if you got angry about how they portrayed the Kens, would you feel the same way if it were women characters? Peace out.

[@Twins07]

Period!

[@Charlotte8591]

Agreed, but there's no such thing as "female toxicity" actually because that is still an effect of the patriarchy so it's actually the same thing as male toxicity, only internalized by women.

[@tonihagan6330]

@@Charlotte8591 You just admitted there was such a thing as female toxicity.

[@Charlotte8591]

@@tonihagan6330 no, there isn't. That's called internalized misogyny. The urge to call it "female toxicity" is because you want to have an equal to toxic masculinity. But there is no equal to toxic masculinity, because sexism and patriarchy. It's all toxic masculinity and sexism and there is no feminine counterpart. When women show it it's internalized misogyny. I hope that explains it for you.

[@tonihagan6330]

@Charlotte8591 No. There are therapists who say it exists, and it exists outside of patriarchy. To say it doesn't exist is denial that even some women exhibit bad behavior toward other women and males.

[@Cadinho93]

The "anti-woke" crowd tried to paint this movie as some sort of feminist propaganda, which is sad since this movie wasn't just about or for women, it was great for men too. It touches on so many topics men go through and how alike we all are. The speech at the end that breaks the spell women are in are exactly how men feel too. Instead of the movie just speaking about toxic masculinity and how it's bad, it showed how it's bad for us men too and the unfairness of what we go through. It's a great movie! Also, when this movie came out, I took my Mom to go see both "Oppenheimer" and "Barbie", which we both loved and saw the message that many people miss out on.

[@firstlast9846]

Yea that made no sense.. the message of Ken was “don’t let a woman or relationship define you” and essentially “don’t be a simp” which is no different from what half the “Sigma Male” crowd is saying half the time.. I think the movie did a great job of balancing both viewpoints.

[@seamusburke639]

Read FULL FRONTAL FEMINISM some time, if you can. It's a really great primer on 21st century feminism, and one of the chapters talks about how feminism can benefit men because it helps remove the burden of toxic masculinity. One portion had the author interviewing a psychiatrist who ran a men's group, and how all the men say that the hardship in their lives "Made them tough." It was a coping mechanism for pointless cruelty they couldn't avoid.

[@Mendejito]

I can’t take anyone seriously if they say they HATE this movie. People were being beyond dramatic

[@deus_vult8111]

It was feminist propaganda.

[@deus_vult8111]

@@seamusburke639feminism cannot benefit men because it was never meant to. it was meant to benefit women at the expense of men.

[@JustCallmeMJ]

Gloria’s speech is 100% my favorite part of the movie, we as women have to get up to so many people expectations, and even if we reach them, you’re still not good enough. It’s like people think of us as a Barbie doll and not a human being.

[@JustCallmeMJ]

When I went to, I didn’t think it was a 10 out of 10 as most people were saying, but when I left the movie theater I couldn’t give it a lower rating than what people were saying. This movie was amazing

[@deus_vult8111]

That’s the experience of men. Not women.

[@JustCallmeMJ]

@@deus_vult8111 no both can go through it it’s not just men or women

[@maxdrags3115]

​@JustCallmeMJ Absolutely fucking wrong, and proves that you know NOTHING about the real world. Men have to deal with getting good jobs to have to pay for their families, that is a huge thing for men that is so hard. Men deal with loneliness WAAAAAY more then women, statistics prove it, look anywhere on the internet, it's almost always men talking about being lonely, not women. Men have almost 4 times the suicide rate compared to women. ALMOST 4 TIMES! So no, it doesn't go both ways.

[@kenzij]

And the fact that it didn't even touch on intersectionality really just just shows how much of a dichotomy it is to be alive.

[@sarahdean6115]

Just to say, in the movie Ken and Barbie were never together, she even said multiple times that hes her friend, but since Ken was created for her, he kept pushing for it expecting love in return, but thats not how it works. Just bc you're nice to a woman doesnt mean she has to reciprocate his feelings. She love Ken as a friend and that should be enough, she shouldn't be shamed bc of that

[@LC-sc3en]

That's not what she was ashamed of. She was ashamed of being a bad friend. She never hung out with him or asked about his life and desires. When she said, "This is my house" I immediately asked myself... "Where do the Kens stay. Does Ken even have a house?" Barbie doesn't think to ask and she's known him for a long while. Of course, it never occurs to ask for her because she's a Barbie and Ken was literally created as an accessory to her. Of course Ken is obsessed with getting her validation, because his purpose is to be an accessory to Barbie. They both learn and grow through the movie.

[@royalrenegadee]

let me tell yah, the butt slap at the beach? Yeah, that shit DOES happen. WAY more than you'd think.

[@esther-xr1lo]

“We mothers stand still so our daughters can look back and see how far they've come.” Had me sobbing at 2AM last night 🙁🙁 had to message my mom I loved her and appreciated for everything she did for me

[@nicolasbaron4506]

Ryan Gosling has rightfully been getting a lot of acclaim here, but this is Margot Robbie’s best performance to date in my opinion. She’s absolutely incredible and I hope she’s in the awards conversation this year. Greta Gerwig is really such an incredible talent.

[@jayylou]

I wouldn’t say best performance

[@firstlast9846]

Trippin.. Babylon was her best performance BY FAR

[@allisongrinnell5107]

They’re both great but Ken was more of a surprise. We knew Margot would kill it as Barbie but I really didn’t know what to expect from Ryan.

[@Jjw338]

I think it’s disrespectful to say this is her greatest performance 😂😂

[@Wandervenn]

She's at most 5 in the top 5 performers in this movie. Allen, Weird Barbie, Ruth, Sasha's mom, Ken... she was good but not GREAT imo I liked the movie, but I also hated the pacing. It was always moving with no breath so... eh could be better.

[@itazuranakisu]

I've heard a lot of men and women came out of this movie enjoying the different messages. Some people cried. I enjoyed myself. Casting was good. Not everyone thought Ryan was a good cast but he proved them wrong. I don't think this was "woke" or "anti men".

[@3Rachelharper]

I liked the movie. My 17 year old daughter and I saw it in the theater. The speech the mom gave about expectations for women made me tear up a little.

[@fabulousroy]

This is a true feminist movie. Feminism is about equality, meaning we care about men, too! This movie cares about both equally, which is exactly what feminism is. I love it.

[@mylife-23]

THIS 🙌

[@deus_vult8111]

Utterly false. Feminism is not about equality, it is about placing women above men. Feminists do not care about men or men’s issues.

[@SSD_Penumbra]

Classical feminism is. Shame the days of that are long gone and it now exists to persecute men for...being men.

[@SOA_yt]

@@SSD_Penumbra It's common for people to use feminism as a mask for misandry. But that thing about putting men down, I have noticed it in different ideologies too, not just feminism. To combat racism, people have persecuted white people. To combat classism/elitism, people have persecuted rich people. It's actually common, especially these days in the age of technology, for the oppressed side to put down the oppressors because the system still isn't balanced. If the oppressor continues living like nothing is wrong, how will they balance the scale? Bring them down....... Is how the train of thought goes. I mention technology because social media has helped the oppressed to have a voice, gain support and come together in solidarity.

[@Brazilsfirstcommiefemboyleader]

​@@SSD_PenumbraSureeeeeeee...but you're wrong. That's 2010's pop "men are trash" feminism. We're on the intersectional phase where we're starting to adress how patriarchy harms men (toxic masculinity and other pressures) and how to stop men from falling into the alt right in the process. Stop painting men as being persecuted lol

[@stephaniefl87]

Cat calling and outright groping does still happened although maybe not at the beach like that. When I was younger and went bar hopping downtown, a guy outright grabbed my butt as I passed by on the sidewalk. I was in a group of both girls and guys. Was too stunned to make a big deal and kept walking. I think it’s more pronounced in this movie to make a point and show Barbie how different her world and our world is.

[@maxdrags3115]

A BAR! Do you see the problem there?

[@wombat4583]

@@maxdrags3115 Are you trying to blame them for going to bars? Not only that but being assaulted while not even in any of those establishments? (It wouldn't be their fault either way but if you really are that horrible...)

[@IXSICNESS]

​@@maxdrags3115there are depths of stupidity previously thought unattainable and yet you plunged straight into them and redefined how stupid stupidity could be

[@pipeawodiya3642]

@@maxdrags3115Happened when I was 8, 12, 15, 18-20, and literally just this July now that I am 22. The movie depicted a lot of women’s reality, mine included.

[@kaet7472]

​@@maxdrags3115your so dumb. You clearly just want to justify bad people. Like the problem is about people, majority men who give unwanted attention, who verbally and sexually assault others, etc. People like you are gross. People that receive those gross actions from others are NOT the PROBLEM.

[@torijeri]

yeah catcalling & harassment like that definitely still happens. it happened to me just the other day while i was simply taking out the trash in my own apartment complex… being whistled at and yelled at and touched all the time is fucking terrifying and still very common sadly

[@deus_vult8111]

being whistled at is terrifying ? lol imagine being so privileged that being cat called is your biggest fear

[@Ten_522]

@@deus_vult8111I keep seeing you in so many comments trying so desperately to downplay the harassment women face. Move on loser

[@torijeri]

@@deus_vult8111 when did I ever say it was my biggest fear? I also listed being touched and yelled out next to that which you conveniently ignored. Go be ignorant somewhere else

[@maxdrags3115]

It's not common for most women, and that's the fucking truth.

[@IXSICNESS]

​@@deus_vult8111dude your stupidity is actually impressive

[@CjCaday]

Gloria (*Sasha’s mother) is experiencing depression, sad and emotions is the huge power for making the beauty of art, so Sasha is right for saying its “amazing”, means she can appreciate art and beauty which is her mother

[@SaGeForReal]

Just to clarify Barbie at least Margot Robbie’s Barbie didn’t have any romantic feelings for Ken. There was assumptions that they were a “couple”, but again it was more one-sided love and it was Ken who had the romantic feelings and never took the hint that SHE ONLY SAW HIM AS A FRIEND. She did say things like “that is Barbie’s dream house not Ken’s dream house”… that does make Ken feel insignificant at times. So I understand Ken’s frustrations and one-sided love and tbh all he knew was that Ken is always linked to Barbie. BUT STILL..it was obvious that Barbie doesn’t see him in any romantic way. Which is why the dialogue in the end was so important to Ken. He needs to figure out who he is outside of just being beach or being linked to Barbie. He can be his own version of Ken and gain more knowledge and possibly meet another Barbie that can reciprocate romantic feelings…maybe weird Barbie? LOL. That’s why President Barbie didn’t give away Supreme Court positions to the Ken’s..as someone said just like any job you have to develop that skill/knowledge. Since we figure out the many Ken’s only just do “beach” and might not have their on dream house or casa. This is the Ken’s new beginning in Barbieland. Just like how for any societal issues dealing with women’s right, lgtbq+ rights, racism, and etc in the real world is still a WORK IN PROGRESS for many centuries/decades.

[@neverlandtribe235]

I really enjoyed your reaction, like I always do! HOWEVER. I was hella confused when you kept saying that ”Barbie treated Ken like trash first”. Like… Barbie does not owe Ken anything. Rejecting a man’s advances is NOT equal to treating him like trash or when you said the women kept disregarding the Ken’s feelings… Pull yourself together. MEN K!LL WOMEN FOR LESS. Be careful on how you phrase things. Hollywood is 99% a sausage fest. Let us have this one.

[@maxdrags3115]

Women kill women for less 🙄

[@kaet7472]

Exactly. From the start you can tell barbie didnt see him like that. Yet mel and other people think barbie was in the wrong

[@HelloMellowXVI]

Whoa For Someone To Say I Need To Be Careful How I Phrase Things. That Ending Was Wild, And Also You Completely Misunderstood What I Was Saying. Yes, what the Ken's Did Was A Bit Overboard, But He Just Wanted Barbie To Know How He Felt. Everyone deserves equality, Happiness, Love, And Respect. Too Many Only Worry About Themselves And Not Others, This Movie Was About Us All But I See Too Many People In My Comments Arguing About Who Has It Worse Which Means They Missed An Important Message Of This Movie. But It Doesn't Matter What I Say Yall Not Going To Agree And Just Going To Find Something Negative Out Of It. So Shouldn't Even Waste My Time Explaining. This Had Nothing To Do With Rejecting A Man's Advances Or Making A Man A Priority Or Owing A Man Anything, It's All Out Treating Someone Like They Actually Mattered And Exist. Treating Them Like An Equal Human.

[@UnLugubreEquivoco]

THANK YOU

[@vivalasammm]

while i agree that women in general don't owe men anything specially when it comes to being pursued, let's not forget that Barbieland was a matriarchy. meaning there wasn't equality for the Kens. so technically, yes, the Kens were treated like trash because they didn't even have a place to live and their feelings were not considered in anything lol. Let's not forget that the point of the movie was that Barbieland being a matriarchy is just as bad as the real world being a patriarchy. everyone deserves equality.

[@killer_rabbit42]

For Alan & Magic Earring Ken, they are more obscure dolls because they hinted at Ken being gay. Alan was Ken's "best friend" & could wear all of Ken's clothes. Magic Earring Ken had an earring in the left ear, which was seen as code for at the time it came out that someone was gay.

[@lenusniq_9746]

Basically, Barbie's original "sin" was that she didn't want to be Ken's girlfriend and always wanted to hang out with other Barbies. But she did not intentionally degrade him. Ken (and any other man) is not entitled to be anybody boyfriend.

[@maxdrags3115]

And you also missed the point of the movie...

[@neurotiknerd]

​@@maxdrags3115no they didn't miss any point at all. That's actually the whole point. Another point to notice is that barbie never had any problem saying no to Ken because she didn't live in a world where she could be in danger for saying no. But she never degraded him or put him down while telling him no, unlike a lot of men after being rejected. Seems like you're the one that missed the points of the movie.....and yes there are multiple points, not just the ONE you seemed to get out of it

[@chickennoodlesoup3301]

@@maxdrags3115 Do you really think the point of the movie is that kens need girlfriends? thats so fucking goofy LMAO

[@evantaylor4796]

“This can’t be real” Oh I wish… you just have to ask for experiences and you’ll get even worse and horrifying stories

[@the_nikster1]

I think one of the biggest misconceptions about this movie is that it's for kids. it's not. it's for adults who grew up with Barbies to look back on their childhoods and reminisce. also, I think the point of the dad learning to speak spanish was not pointless; it showed that he was trying to connect with the culture of his wife and his child. anyway, I'm glad you seemed to enjoy the movie and it got you thinking because that was the point of the movie: to entertain and get people to think. thanks for the reaction Mello 😃

[@itazuranakisu]

Sadly women are still being harassed on their day to day life myself included. And yes sadly the construction workers thing can and still happens. Some men refuse to take a hint which is what Ken was doing with trying to "encourage" Barbie to be with him when she's turned him down several times.

[@deus_vult8111]

No, misandry results in men getting routinely genitally mutilated, drafted, locked out of the job market by affirmative action, locked out of education, denied homeless shelter, jailed, fired and murdered by false accusations, and forced to pay for kids they can’t see. …so feminists just lie through their teeth. Misogyny doesn’t pretty much doesn’t exist, and also, women are privileged. Women live longer lives, suffer less violence, and have more rights than men. Also, women are the primary killers of children, and commit most of the domestic violence. All harassment means is any man that women find creepy and low-status, and want nothing to do with. That’s not oppression

[@tomh779]

As a guy what I got from it was that both men and women need to treat each other equally and with kindness. We also need to realize that society should not be 100% for women or 100% for men because it causes feelings of resentment from whichever side is being less respected/represented. Thats on top of obviously all the themes that are straight in your face. Just my two cents anyway.

[@kaet7472]

You get it

[@oliviarose5030]

Perfectly said.

[@FrankieOver50]

I'm 58 years old and I will still cross the street to avoid groups of men. I was that traumatised as a 11/12 year old walking home from school, being harrassed by groups of men and being asked to show my t*ts and then when I didn't show them I was a sl*t. It's had a life long effect on me. I don't hate men. I've had relationships but it's just an instinctual thing now where I won't walk past a group. Pack mentality is a thing.

[@lunalei5637]

Unfortunately everytime Barbie was hit on or assaulted reflects the gross norm for the women around me and myself.

[@angeadkins4745]

Yes this behavior happens all the time.

[@iridescentsolace]

Him asking if that stuff rlly happens and I’m just sitting here like 😬 eeugghhh yeahhhh all the time

[@deus_vult8111]

being hit on is “gross” ? LoL. Women love being hit on, they just don’t like it when the man is low status or unattractive.

[@angeadkins4745]

@@deus_vult8111 Sometimes women like being hit on. Sometimes we just want to be left alone. But having your butt smacked and the speech like the men were using is disrespectful and no woman wants that.

[@iridescentsolace]

@@deus_vult8111 because you, as a woman, know this and can speak for everyone bc as we all know women only share one hive mind brain and goes brrrrr when we get attention

[@mexicasian16]

yeah as far as the age rating goes, people just assumed that the movie being about a kids toy meant that it was a childrens movie and didnt ever bother to actually look up anything about the movie-but its pg-13, which was a huge hint that it had a different audience, and the cast and director were another big hint. i like that it aimed instead for adults who played with barbie when they were kids and when the barbie brand was at its peak, its been a while since there was a pop culture moment that so many adult women got to shamelessly enjoy together-i loved seeing so many girls and women dressed in pink at the theaters!

[@ashleydowney1222]

I get catcalled on a regular basis. By high school boys, construction workers, frat guys, old men. I am 31 and have been dealing with that since I was in high school.

[@rebecky5ever]

I recommend you watch this with your mom Mello, I know she'll appreciate it

[@MRR-my2yl]

Additionally, Ryan Gosling's portrayal of Ken in the movie has also led to an unexpected surge in the character's popularity. Don Kipper, the owner of L.A.'s oldest toy store, Kip's Toyland, revealed that Ken's sales have outpaced those of Barbie herself.Aug 20, 2023 .... you go Ken

[@plvmenace]

The Kens can't be on the Supreme Court (at least not immediately) because they don't have the same level of knowledge about politics that the Barbies have been shown to have

[@MinervaBlanchett]

Just bc I have big boobs men always looked at me sexually. When I was young a men touched my boobs while riding his bike and left (I WAS A MINOR) and NOW in my work place a men touched my butt with his parts trying to look innocent, he always tries to be alone with me but I always try to be with people bc BRO LEAVE ME ALONE. So yes, harassment still happens.

[@CaptainCat101]

People may say this movie is "anti-man," but Ryan Gosling is the best part of the movie, and that's Kenough

[@deus_vult8111]

yes. it’s misandrist

[@IXSICNESS]

​@@deus_vult8111stop being stupid, stupid

[@chickennoodlesoup3301]

No, Barbie was, then alan. I'm so sick of everything somehow revolving around men to yall lmao! A movie about women becoming a movie about a bimbo misogynist? ironic

[@duh_vonne]

When I was a little girl, I had the Barbie pink convertible that my Barbie and Ken used to ride around in. I also had Barbie's little sister Stacie with the bicycle. She had bendable knees and you could actually put her feet on the pedals and push her around on the bike. It was so cool. That was the best toy I've ever had.

[@dnjae1275]

One of concept that I've noticed is that when Barbie started noticing that reality was not what she believed, they tried to disregard her questioning and put her in a box. If you felt that Barbie treated Ken badly, imagine if the roles were reversed. Barbie trying to get Ken's attention, trying to have her own power in government. The comment at the end where the narrator says Ken will have as much power in Barbie's World when women have as much power in the real world. I think the point is that both realities are not particularly good and changes need to be made to make everyone equal.

[@Jayhart819]

I Don’t believe this ever was for kids. I saw the trailer and felt it was target for adults over children.

[@gooseweasel]

I think enough people have covered the "it's not for kids" thing so I won't rehash. I think my favorite moment, which Greta Gerwig had to FIGHT to keep in the movie, was when Barbie was sitting on the bench next to the old woman. You have to remember that Barbie had NEVER seen on old person before, never seen aging, sickness, decay, even the less than perfect "Weird Barbie" was just sort of weird and bent out of shape. Barbie saw an old woman, who was shamelessly showing her age (something our society tell us is The Worst Thing That Can Happen, we have entire industries meant to keep women looking young), and immediately finds her beautiful. And that woman AGREED. She KNEW IT. And yeah. That's beautiful.

[@celiashen5490]

That scene made me want to tell my grandma that she's still adorable. Best morning in a long time.

[@savannah115]

I have had large breasts since I was 12, and as a result, I have had a lifetime of men harassing me. It's not like every single day, but at least once a week, I'm catcalled. The other day, I was standing on an intersection waiting in downtown DC, in the tourist part of town, and some dude in a suit rolled down his window and outright propositioned me, using the foulest language imaginable. Outright groping doesn't happen as much in the daytime, but I honestly don't remember the last time I went to a club and escaped without a couple if guys "accidentally" grabbing my boob. So yes. It's exaggeration slightly for the film, but women really do deal with that pretty much all the time, from the time they are teenagers onward.

[@maxdrags3115]

You have no right to act lie it happens too much when you are going to CLUBS AND BARS! No shit that will happen there, who woulds thought? Meanwhile, it is not happening almost anywhere else.

[@starr6016]

@@maxdrags3115 dude wtf? Why should it be ok or expected for women to be harassed at club or bars? It shouldn’t be ok ANYWHERE. And OP literally mentioned they were literally harassed waiting at in intersection. Don’t blame the victim for the perpetrators actions.

[@savannah115]

@@maxdrags3115 ​ hahahahahhaha. Honestly, you're so ridiculous I feel bad for you. Also: kinda proving my point. If I'm at a club, I totally deserve it, right? 🙄 It amazing to me that people like you still exist. If you truly don't believe this happens, ask the women in your life if it happens to them. (If any women tolerate you, with your attitude towards them.)

[@notflorencepugh]

"This stuff cannot be real, you got dudes just coming up to her and smacking her butt?" YES, unfortunately, yes.

[@starr6016]

I know other commenters have already mentioned that being catcalled and harassment still happens today. The movie wasn’t that far off. I just wanted to share my experience. I remember being 14 (and at that time i had multiple people think I was still in elementary school fyi) in line at a convention and my parents having to put me behind them because some grown man kept trying to look down my shirt. I was just a child. And this kind of occurrence happens to so many other women.

[@allisongrinnell5107]

The Ken’s dancing scene really reminds me of Ryan’s old performances on the Mickey Mouse Club.

[@destinymormance181]

Pregnant barbie was my favorite as a kid😂

[@seattlecryptid]

I had a version of Midge where her dress implied that she was pregnant. She came with a baby, but not in the way the OG pregnant Midge was 😂

[@kenzij]

Yes. I've always been fascinated by pregnancy so when they came out with the "Happy Family" set everyone in my family knew I needed it.

[@indierock110]

@@seattlecryptid I had that Midge too lol, purple dress with a baby

[@MadMrMatter]

As a guy, i can tell this movie wasn't meant for me (which is fine, not every movie is for every person) but i did enjoy it and Ryan Goslings performance lol

[@RocketRoketto]

the speech ruth gave barbie at the end about mothers made me cry. i wish i could of seen youre reaction to that.

[@DoraScarlet]

16:10 can confirm, it still VERY MUCH happens. I’ve been ‘catcalled’ in public since I was 11 and no one ever does anything about it. Every girl and woman I know has been catcalled and continues to be. It’s very scary.

[@UnLugubreEquivoco]

It can turn into murder so easily. We are in danger all the time. It's crazy men don't see that.

[@dimitriospapadimitriou2498]

An incident will keep on appearing, until you make peace with it.

[@journeysilvers9838]

This isnt really a stalwart defense of Barbies actions toward Ken at the beginning, but its something the movie made me think about that I wanted to share: A lot of times girls (particulary teens or young adults) end up in relationships that they dont want to be in because they feel like they SHOULD want to be in them. Sometimes guys can push girls into relationships sure, but its not even just about that. Other girls, friends, or family can push someone into a relationship they dont want to be in. Its just a weird societal standard we have set. For example, I remember breaking up with a high school boyfriend and my mom asking me "Why? What did he do?" To which I responded "He didnt do anything, I just wasnt that into him." I was then told that I shouldve stayed with him anyway, because if he was nice then surely I wouldve developed feelings for him. I remember my friend talking to me one day about a similar experience-- her parents were pushing her to date a guy that she wasnt into simply because she didnt date a lot and they wanted her to date someone. Thats kind of how I felt when I saw Barbie blowing off Ken. Shes in a relationship she doesnt want to be in but in their world, thats just how it is. Its Barbie and Ken. Barbie going through maturity in the real world and realizing that they were both hurt by that system is something a lot of girls irl also go through as they get older. Tldr; boys and girls, dont date someone you know you arent interested in because other people told you that you should. It never ends well. 🫡

[@TheGrossDemon]

All I'm saying, is I will be disappointed if Mellow doesn't CGI himself into the Barbie car lmao

[@satanicx215]

"They couldn't think of an ending for Barbie" because Barbie doesn't have an ending. 😉

[@goblinely64]

“why can’t the kens be part of the supreme court??” the kens 20 minutes earlier: Literal war

[@celestinenox]

Mell, I think it's sweet that you genuinely were confused by the idea that catcalling still happens... but it still happens. Like other people have said, it's still a very common occurrence. I'm glad you expressed that you learned something from the comments to this video. You're a good dude.

[@septimus7524]

Honestly.. Common occurance my ASS Sure you might find it more or less depending on where you look, but overall? If anything MAJORITY of people these days do the OPPOSITE of catcalling, or any calling for that matter. I look around every day, and you know what I see? I see people, but I see no Humanity. I see no love OR hate. No one just stops to talk to one another on the street, people dont look at me, or each other.. Everyone keeps their heads down, avoids eye contact with nearly EVERYONE.. Even when I just smile at someone passing by me, they look away. And I watch the same thing happen to the few out there, who try to smile to.. Make no mistake.. We do NOT live in the damn 1940s anymore, not even close.. Back then, people felt for others at all. These days, the norm? Is indifference. And the world feels a little colder for it..

[@Allonsy305]

I feel like a lot of people expected Barbie to be something like Transformers or G.I. Joe, like an easy watch, but with Greta Gerwig directing, and her and Noah Baumbach writing, ( they wrote Lady Bird, Marriage Story, Little Women, Frances Ha respectively), this was never going to be a one-dimensional story. The production design, film references, casting, attention to detail of the dolls, discontinued or not, and unique humor fire on all cylinders for me.

[@racheljones6000]

They ended the movie with her seeing her gyno because it subverts expectations in a brilliant way. We think she’s going to a job interview or to do something powerful, when in fact doing day to day tasks as a women like seeing your gynecologist and just existing as a woman is inherently powerful. She doesn’t have to get a job to “win” or be the best version of herself at the end of the movie. Taking care of yourself, going to the doctor, that’s perfectly good enough.

[@baihelair]

it was really interesting seeing you confused when barbie was experiencing blatant assault as soon as she got to the real world because that very much still happens often these days i guess men just live in their own world and don't feel as threatened outside as women do

[@Jax2113]

Since a lot of other people have already hit on things I wanted to say, I'll talk about the whole "people want to see action movies/people don't watch those movies" thing. I'm reminded of what Matt Damon said about studios moving away from mid-budget films (like rom-coms, dramas, comedies ie non-blockbusters), and how that has placed such an emphasis on the billion-dollar dollar movie, much to the detriment of lower-budget (creatively interesting) movies. People DO want to see rom-coms, romances, women-focused movies but they aren't being made because they don't make a billion dollars. They CAN make a profit that is relative to the size of the budget but studios aren't interested in that anymore, largely due to the impact that streaming has had on their bottom lines. With people no longer buying physical copies of movies, it limits the amount of ways that studios can make their money back thus making the theatrical release revenue more important. It's not necessarily an issue with audience demand -- in fact I constantly see people asking for more rom-coms like the 90's and 2000's. It's a studio issue more than anything. Like from a more personal standpoint, I HATE superhero movies, space movies, most sci-fi shit so finding good movies to watch in the past few years has been a STRUGGLE! I wish more mid-budget movies would get made and given the promo they deserve bc ya girl is bored out here! ETA: I use the phrase "billion-dollar movie" just to indicate movies that make massive amounts of money, not that they are only seeking specifically a billion dollars. I know a lot of you are VERY literal, so fyi I am not saying JUST A BILLION DOLLARS. Ok!

[@amber.ren_1995]

Cat calling is still a thing and not just subjective to construction. I would know cuz it happened to me recently. I was just walking to work and my work is on our Main Street in town. And these men would sit or stand in the same spot 90% of the time and it’s the same group always sitting around on on this little brick wall that surrounds some plants and half of them will be sitting on that and then the other half will be standing up against the shops so they’re on both sides and I have to walk through them. It didn’t matter what I was wearing I could be dressed comfortably or I could be dressed up they’d alway try to get my attention with saying inappropriate things and all of them just staring at me the whole time creeped me the fuck out so glad I’m not working there anymore having to deal with that practically everyday I should be so thankful none of them ever tried to touch me while walking by but that’s probably bcuz of other bystanders being around. Thankfully. And the fact that it happens in public and they have no shame doing it either is even more disgusting. Now this one is not cat calling but i still wanted to mention it so another thing that has happened to me was when I was shopping with my dad at this mini super market in town and I was helping him put groceries in the car and then out of nowhere my dad raised his voice and spoke with a very hard tone and said to a guy walking by “What are you staring at my daughters ass for!” It startled me and I was too embarrass to turn around and look at the guy who had been checking me out. My dad told me that the guy smirked at him in response and the only reason my dad didn’t chase after him and try to mess him up is only bcuz he physically wasn’t in the best shape. My dad had trouble breathing. I just remember wanting to hide and hide my body with a huge paper bag or something. It made me feel very self-conscious. I think I might’ve been 22 at the time but it’s the fact that I look very young to begin with. I’m 28 now and I still get a lot of people that think I’m in high school still. So you can only imagine how much younger i looked at 22. So the fact that older men are checking you out though you look like a high schooler which means they don’t mind checking out minors. Which is even more unsettling. And I felt so uncomfortable in that store after that I started to wear baggy clothes anytime I’d go over there. Because after that incident I became so self-conscious and starting paying more attention to men’s behaviors and then I started to notice even more men staring at me a lot. And what makes me uncomfortable is that the men that are always staring at me and checking me out are always older men never really men my age. It’s normally men between 50-70 yrs of age. And it makes it even worse when it is married men and they are literally out with their wives but when they notice you they don’t stop staring and make it so freaking obvious. It’s just so disgusting.

[@maxdrags3115]

You're comparing your 22 year old self to minors? WHAT? You are delusional as FUCK, stop with the exaggerating bullshit.

[@shaggymuffin349]

It's really frustrating, because I think there's a really great message for women AND MEN in this movie, but it's so cluttered sometimes that you can miss the parts that matter and be stuck on the parts that don't. When I first watched the movie I thought 'Kenough' and all the Ken's arcs was a joke at men, simply because they treated it so lightly, and all the context around men hiding insecure feelings and the need to accept yourself are like... really small parts of it. But now that I've rewatched it everything makes a lot more sense... and it's really fun! Still don't like the pacing, and man if you have something to say make sure you say it clearly, but I had a lot of fun regardless.

[@iridescentsolace]

Some men are too blinded by their dislike of women that they can’t see the message of “hey you can be your own person and not have to put down women for male validation bc you should do you king”

[@wombat4583]

It's a comedy. They made jokes about everyone's roles, personalities, and emotional needs/breakdowns - but some people only get stuck on it when it's the Kens

[@c808tydoh6]

Fun fact: A Netflix tv series: The Toys that Made us. It explains the origin of the Barbie doll and the editing is hilarious. It can also explain Ruth’s comment on the IRS incident. Found out from another KZbinr😂

[@hayleejade412]

i adore this movie and the message .. my fav barbie’s were the “Fashionista” Barbie’s mostly because they had moveable elbows, hands and knees lol

[@Peg__]

I got cat-called by a boy no older than 10 yesterday, standing in line at the pharmacy. I'm 4'9", long haired, and my hoodie was covering my face partially. The waiting line was long, so I kinda blocked the main aisle. Suddenly I heard two boys running before I saw them. One boy flicked my hair (which pulled my head fast) with his hand running past me saying, "He thinks your cute." I muttered out loud to myself, " 'm 43.. f*ckin staranger thinking its okay to touch me.." Dad did nothing except for yelling for the boys to ve back to him like they were 2 dogs in the yard. It starts early men, check your boys, no matter how old.

[@rochelle1199]

It’s not supposed to be a kids movie, it’s a movie for the adults who grew up playing with Barbie. Barbie has been around since the 50s!

[@OneWingedRose]

I'm the opposite personally, I adored the second half of the movie, made me tear up like 4 times lol. But the first half of the movie took me a little while to get into, was a fun first half but I didn't really know what it was doing until the second half (I s'pose is a good way to put it). I appreciate some of the second half just doesn't land for you due to your personal experiences not being that involved with the subject matter, but it hits hard for me! Loved this movie, fun humour, good messages, smart writing in places, and killer dance numbers! :D Side note: I don't think the harrassment was "over-dramatised", there are horrible horrible men out there who do a lot worse and get away with it because that's the world we live in - not to say all men are like that of course, just there are far too many that are! Count yourself lucky if you've not seen anything like it yourself.

[@maxdrags3115]

It's not far too many at all, it's the same guys that do it when they go to different places and areas. Otherwise, like 90% of men are not doing this shit.

[@kassandraward1789]

Another topic that can be brought up that isn't a lot, the relationship between Ken and barbie. Like a boy and girl who grew up together. Once you hit a certain age the sweet friendly boy you once played with has turned into a stranger that believes you owe them something.

[@lkf8799]

This movie reminds me a lot of Elf. It's has a sweet naive character that has fish out of water adventures and shines a light on society and has a lot of laughs along the way.

[@marcellacassab4331]

And Will Farrell is in both.

[@pichiicreates]

I think the reason why the men’s actions are “dramatized” Is because Barbie is experiencing it all at once for the first time. Unfortunately so many of us experience these things (all or some) constantly. At work, school, the gym, stores, bars, going on walks or anything else. It’s definitely exhausting which is why so many resonated with the film . At some point something Barbie feels or experiences hit hard with the female audience. (Cat calling, assault, objectification, self image issues, contradictory expectations etc).

[@katielee7364]

Yup! My sisters first job when she was 16 it was just her and the Manager which was a guy and she came home crying one day because he was making her uncomfortable, so My dad called and quit for her (Also said some pretty colorful words.) then When I worked as a hostess I was about 18 and one of the older managers (45) Would constantly put his hands on the younger girls (16 To 18) lower backs making them uncomfortable but we were too scared to say anything. it happens way too much and right under a lot of peoples noses. Also Now as an Adult I went to a bar with some friends and a man wouldn't leave me alone even after I told him I was married and was only interested in hanging out with my friends and He ONLY left when my Guy friend shooed him off.

[@pichiicreates]

@@katielee7364 I’m so sorry you and you sister have experienced this☹️ my youngest sister, who was around 10 at the time, we went to the dollar store over the summer, and an older dude in his 50s was following us, and just looking my sister up and down. He was standing at the end of the aisle, while I stared him down, since my parents weren’t around. My sister was incredibly uncomfortable, but I literally had to have a stare down with a 50-year-old man because he kept on ogling my 10-year-old sister. It’s like every day it is something new… and no matter how we react (polite or not) there’s always a negative response. Like Gloria said, the expectations are TOO HARD, TOO CONTRADICTORY. And for some reason we’re always doing it wrong😔

[@oldbroadwithbaggage5472]

Being a 6 foot tall, overweight, broad shouldered woman, the things Gloria says in her speach about how difficult it is to be a woman in this world, hit home for me. I know men go through similar experiences. And i think that is getting worse for men, especially younger men, but still not to the extent women do. Also women are inundated with these attitudes there whole live. Women are told it isn't ok to have wrinkles and grey hair. But men are sexier when they get grey and have wrinkles. When I saw this in the theater some young men were being confused why people were laughing at the end. I turned and sad "She's a real girl now, with all the real girl parts, so she needs to see a gyno." I really enjoyed your post movie analysis.

[@clarisacalderon9555]

to be fair I think the reminder about the house, brainwashing friends thing and taking over the government and planning tomake it so not one can change it back is that YES ken was hurt and reacting in a way to over compensate but you cant hesitate on stopping him just because his feelings were hurt...they could talk about it later...and barbie still worried about ken and disliking how she hurt him did show she cared...

[@dante340]

Ken's arc is actually a perfect illustration of male adolescence. Obviously Ryan Gosling is a fully grown man Lol but that's what makes his performance so brilliant. He portrays Ken in such a childlike and easily impressionable way. This is why it makes perfect sense why he goes a bit overboard when he first starts to get a sense of his own power and agency. He gains a bunch of new knowledge too much too fast, and unfortunately lacks the maturity to know how to properly implement it.

[@stephaniefl87]

Also I don’t remember how this movie was marketed. I saw the trailers and would see promos on twitter. It is rated PG-13. So knowing that gives you a clue that maybe this isn’t a kids movie and might have some adult themes. (depending on the kid/family). 🤷‍♀️

[@hassonharris632]

I did like that the actual creator of barbie was the old woman on the bench. Mattel finally put respect on her name with having her character and then her actually in it at the bench scene. That look she gave Barbie was a real moment of her seeing where barbie is now and her legacy.

[@18shuh]

I don't think she's the actual creator, I read that that lady is a costume designer, but I can't remember why they brought her in. the creator lady, Ruth passed away not even recently

[@hassonharris632]

@@18shuh oh snap your right! I knew it was someone from the beginning. I think your right about the wardrobe woman. I watched a documentary called toys that made us and she was a big part with the creator in pushing the boundaries and backing creator.

[@Advent3546]

Barbie is amazing and I am so grateful it brought us Ken

[@sheba4711]

Thank you for your thoughtful and introspective review! The fact this movie had you digesting it for a couple of days says alot about the movie - 1:05:10 most movies I forget about before I even leave the theater, lol! I feel it shows how taking people for granted and not respecting people hurts everyone. B inadvertently hurt K and he then lashed out, while in the “real world” it’s the reverse. I took it as a “shoe on the other foot” kind of message. The mom’s speech could be easily adapted to men - who are under their own type of hurtful stereotypes. Don’t show emotion, but if you do only anger is acceptable - that kinda thing. The movie also doesn’t take itself seriously, and is a great satire on so many levels! The gentlest way to point out issues is through humor, so one doesn’t feel threatened and can be open to feedback. ps - I’ve been spanked twice in public, in my 40s. Once at work and once standing in line waiting on a pizza. Both times I was fully dressed (no spandex). So humiliating and demoralizing, I just wanted to hide away. These things still unfortunately still happen. Thank you for being the good guy.

[@RocketRoketto]

Ruth is Ruth Handler the creator of Barbie and the first CEO of Mattel, Barbie and Ken and are named after her kids Barbara and Kenneth. Alan is named after her son in law.

[@ammar9909]

A woman got hit in the face with a brick for turning down a man recently but you have a hard time believing women get randomly touched by strange men?

[@HelloMellowXVI]

Lmao you do know that was all I lie right? They literally found out she was lying.

[@pinkiepiereincarnate2291]

​@@HelloMellowXVIokay forget her then what about the teenager killed by another teenage boy for protecting her friend from him? And stuff like that happens all the time.

[@HelloMellowXVI]

@@pinkiepiereincarnate2291 NOBODY SAID THIS SHIT DOESN'T HAPPEN! We Were Talking About One Standalone Situation. You Bringing Up Other Stuff To Prove Some Point For No Reason. It Has Nothing To Do With This Situation With The Brick Chick. Like Why Do People Insist On Instead Of Acknowledging The Topic At Hand When They're Wrong They Instead Want To Bring Up Other Shit When They Dont Have A Proper Response? Did You See Me At All In My Comment Say That Women Don't Encounter Harassment And Abuse? No, All I Said Is This One Time The Girl Lied. Like My God.

[@pinkiepiereincarnate2291]

@HelloMellowXVI I'm just saying you yourself said you had a hard time believing women get touched by men in this day and age did you not? But they get much more than touched and before anyone knew she lied they said she deserved it much more than questioning if it was true or not.

[@HelloMellowXVI]

@@pinkiepiereincarnate2291 People Said Lots Of Things On Both Sides. Everyone was in the wrong, because instead of coming together they wanted to argue and wish harm on others and spread hate. Instead of bringing awareness and spreading care they spread hate.

[@shainewhite2781]

This made $1.4 billion dollars!

[@osmanyousif7849]

I can't imagine why....

[@jamesstutz6907]

That is a lot of money. Probably going to get a sequel. I am not sure.

[@coccolinasvedese]

It's so interesting to see men react to this movie since you tend to think the cat calling and harassment as too much and exaggerated and most women just recognise them self and situations that has happened. It is so clear that men and women live very different lives... I'm not even good looking and I still have to take those types of things... And my good looking friends have to support so much more...

[@actualkarenokboomer3158]

My 12 year old granddaughter and 8 year old grandson loved Barbie and it was really bonding for all of us.

[@DoraScarlet]

38:12 what did she do? Not like him back? Ken literally took over Barbie land and constructed patriarchy 💀 how is that on the same level?

[@dingdong1223]

“do construction workers even call out to chicks anymore” they’re constructing another building for my high school to make it bigger and i remember i walked past the construction workers and one of them called out to me & whistled too 😭 man was looking right down at me too bc he wasn’t on the ground 💀 i was a sophomore pls

[@PierreWah]

damn! and you lived to talk about it. Be strong.

[@AsiaFromBrooklyn]

Most women don’t see the cat calling and harassment portrayed as far fetched. As a man you probably don’t see it being as extreme, but it actually is.

[@izoneateeztxtforever369]

I'm a woman and when I first saw that scene I thought it was ridiculous...

[@pinkiepiereincarnate2291]

​@@izoneateeztxtforever369 sounds lucky

[@S1INS]

@@izoneateeztxtforever369 I'm a woman, and I can say the exact opposite. See how that works? The entire world does not revolve around anecdotal evidence. I'm so glad you found it ridiculous, that means you haven't experienced it to that degree. And that's a great thing. What's not great, is to pretend or think it doesn't happen because you haven't experienced it.

[@Stable_Delerium]

Allan is my favorite. And my favorite Barbie was Peaches and Cream Barbie. She had this beautiful peach colored dress. ❤

[@chelsea9483]

I loved that they empowered women in here but they also empowered Ken. His existence wasn’t defined by patriarchy or Barbie or his clothes etc. I think people thought it was anti men but it was anti patriarchy and anti toxic masculinity. I just adored the message they gave Ken so much.

[@rcsskier]

Mello gives it a B, then continues to talk through the movie and blows his mind over and over about the story… sounds like an A to me lol. Great reaction and post movie talk. The anti-woke crowd tried to bury this movie, it was very petty and weak. The movie was a little heavy handed at times, but it drove the point home. I really enjoyed this movie, a lot.

[@ericerwin3039]

I have to say that, at least where I live, I have seen a lot of unfair treatment to women. As someone who grew up the only male in the house, you hear about it a lot, and see it on occasion. As an example, we had a window that was broken. My mothsr called around to see how much it would cost to have it replaced, and the lowest offer she got was $500. She then told the guy, "oh, my husband won't be happy to hear that." Which was a lie... no husband around, but the person giving the estimate goes, "oh... well, I suppose we could do it for about $120..." That's quite a difference in prices. But things like that happened a lot of the time. To think that "all men" are like this would be an incorrect thought (the movie has a limited time to make its message, so yes, exaggeration is necessary), and yes there are women out there that are horrible too (once again to say "all" would also be incorrect), but the message of the movie does point out that selfishness, regardless of what form it takes, (toxic masculinity, willfully ignoring another person's feelings, etc.) is dangerous and can cause problems that we currently have to become exasperated, causing more problems, more trouble, and more pain than it would to actually stop and discuss the problem(s). Life is already hard enough without adding more difficulties to the pile. Just be nice to one another.

[@lpeterson2336]

I love the diversity of Barbie these days. All shapes and sizes and shades of beautiful. The thick ones are especially gorgeous. My first was Malibu Barbie in the early 70's. We all eventually had a weird Barbie. Some of us became weird Barbie lol. Slightly broken with the marks of life 😊

[@alexadanielahernandez3476]

Yeah being harassed like that is still common. I was being followed at a gas station by some guy I thought wanted directions he kept asking for my number I said I had a boyfriend and he still kept asking. I had to wait for him to turn around to get in my car. And he just stared as I drove away

[@kenzij]

You just reminded me. There was this guy at a gas station who was aggressively hitting on me, I told him I'm gay (and I happened to be decked out in pride stuff that day) and he continued to hit on me. Like, repeatedly asked me for my number even though I said I would never be interested, hit on me.

[@alexadanielahernandez3476]

@@kenzij people are sick

[@nehankhan1584]

They didn’t do women empowerment at all. Instead, they clearly showed us one gender can’t possibly live repressed under the other. There needs to be a balance of power and respect. Neither worlds Barbie land or Kendom were perfect. And Barbie’s own hypocrisy of thinking her world was fine as long as it benefited her gender. Truth be told, Ken was created as an accessory to Barbie. When you’re a kid and playing with dolls, the idea of having a boyfriend or a Prince Charming is just that. An idea. Something to have. You never really put a role to Ken except to entertain Barbie once in a while. You rather she had parties in her doll house and change outfits. So Barbie treating Ken the way she did wasn’t registered as her being rude or bad. It’s just how it was. Fun fact: Mattel didn’t care about Ken at all. They said do whatever you want with him. They only cared about Barbie. Yes, catcalling and being harassed is still a thing. Whistling, following you down the street, becoming aggressive.. guys like the ones showed do exist.

[@jamesstutz6907]

Love Barbie I have some of the animated Barbie movies. This is the 1st Barbie movie with more than one Barbie.

[@RocketRoketto]

The dad and the mom are married in real life. However, the ''si se puede'' is actually from another America Ferrera movie. And a campaign slogan. And yes double LL's in spanish are pronounced like Ys.

[@KarenMCribb]

The Ending…..one of the big points of the movie is you’re not your girlfriend or your…(wait for it)…….job. I really enjoyed your reaction!