way to go emily! | Gilmore Girls 1x18 REACTION

[@anonymouszebra1239]

“I’m not trendy, girl, ok? I study. I get home, I study more, then I think about studying” - Paris Geller I love her character sm

[@himynameisnickolas]

Admittedly I’m an Emily stan but this is one of those instances were her actions (while bad) were motivated by a good intention to keep a relationship with her daughter and granddaughter. Emily was clearly deeply affected not having Lorelai and Rory in her life for so many years and now she fears the one thing that’s brought them back into her life is about to taken away and she will lose them again. While is doesn’t excuse her behavior, you can understand where she is coming from and the desperation she is feeling.

[@ryannrodkey5669]

no 1000% agree here - I totally get that that was her motivation for it and she was worried about potentially losing them, but also it's so incredibly selfish of her to behave that way, just sad 😭

[@Somehiguy]

ahh Grandma Gilmore, played by Marion Ross, she was Americas mom on a show called Happy Days, and a famous actress as well. this show has a lot of small parts, or cameos for a lot of famous people.

[@ryannrodkey5669]

Ooooh I can’t wait to see more cameos!! 🩶

[@paolacruz3585]

the fact that there’s a character that made me feel bad for EMILY is astonishing lmao, truly proves how mean she is

[@tehcoolemu]

I didn't go into this video expecting the title to be massively sarcastic. Oof! Trix going on about "Gilmore blood" when she literally doesn't have it is wild to me.

[@1080lights]

Mild Season 4 Spoilers Actually, she does. She and Richard's father are both from the Gilmore family. They're second cousins.

[@tehcoolemu]

@@1080lights Really? Wow. Weird.

[@sw33tnothing]

Trix has some of the best one liners. I always feel so bad for Emily. 😂

[@eddied.3426]

So glad to see this ep. You lessened my deep depression. You seem like a real sweetheart. So thanks. Waiting for the next one. BTW consider this was probably paris's first kiss so... is that a good thing for her? I think partly it's the skirt and blouse she was wearing that put tristan off. Or maybe it's just me...

[@ryannrodkey5669]

oh thank you so much!! I'm so happy you're enjoying watching along with me!

[@louiseglasgow]

I think Paris has never been treated well by friends and enemies/bullies alike, so she assumes the worst. Everyone has always teased and/or bullied her about her lack of romantic life and social skills, so she assumes the worst of Rory too. Also she herself treats people badly in those situations, (the whole school dynamic seems pretty toxic in that way tbh). Not that that makes it OK, but I can see why she assumes what she does even though that is not what's happening.

[@ryannrodkey5669]

You make a great point and I totally agree!!

[@sorchamiana]

Thank you, Ryann, so much for the amazing content as always 🥰🙏🏻❤ You rock! I'm really glad to have these reactions to watch because they always brighten my day! 🌞😎🌻 I have some thoughts on Emily but it ended up being a really long rant so feel free to ignore or skim as needed 😅 Otherwise, buckle up cuz here we go! 😂 I think at this point, Emily has the emotional IQ of a young child. So idk if it's totally accurate to say she's wielding her words as weapons since that implies intentionality. When a kid picks up a gun and pulls the trigger, we don't typically say they've armed themself and assaulted someone, right? To me, it seems like one of Emily's biggest problems is this... She has an incredibly difficult time taking the feelings of others into consideration. Emily is very self-centered. Parents are supposed to teach their children empathy and compassion and kindness and love. In the era Emily grew up in (she's born in '42), especially in the higher class set, I don't think those were the things kids were being taught (at least from what I know of history). Emily came up in a world where the dividing lines were thus: Is someone an ally or an enemy? Are they friend or foe? She lived through the entire 45 years of the cold war. A time when everything on the surface was designed to appear as though all was copacetic and hunky dory, but yet...there was this huge looming conflict, always brewing and churning beneath the surface. With the heavy anticipation hanging in the air that everything could just explode, at any given moment. To me, it's pretty evident that Emily's personality is a product of living in that environment for such a long time. I don't think it's any coincidence that a lot of viewers say "she reminds me of my grandmother" or "she reminds me of a lady I once knew" because that's just how a lot of people of her generation and social set were wired to think and act at that time. And no, that certainly does not excuse her actions by any means. The things Emily says and does are extremely hurtful and the right thing for her to do would obviously be for her to take responsibility for those behaviours. In order to do that, I think Emily would have to truly understand the impact her words have on the people around her. Interestingly enough, this is one of the few times where it seems like Emily easily grasps the consequences of her actions. Because as a person of wealth who understands that money is power...Emily knows costing Rory that money was truly a terrible thing. I imagine that's why we see her apologizing for it in her chat with Lorelai and why she does so with utmost sincerity and remorse. Her impact was tangible and therefore her regret is tangible and we certainly feel it. Most of the time, however, Emily isn't usually made privy to any of the fallout resulting from the decisions she makes (at least not often and not that we get to see). Emily isn't there when Lorelai lets her guard down on those car rides home with Rory, or back in Stars Hollow during the aftermath of their Friday night dinners. Lorelai, it seems, never wants to give Emily the satisfaction of knowing she is hurt by their verbal sparring. I suppose Lorelai thinks she's protecting herself by appearing strong in front of her mother. She clearly feels comfortable being vulnerable with Rory, but not with Emily, understandably so. The problem with that, is that Emily seems to take it all at face value. She sees that Lorelai has a witty comeback for everything Emily says to her. So I think Emily probably thinks that because Lorelai is never stumped...Lorelai must never be flustered or bothered. I'm of the opinion that if Emily understood how very bothered Lorelai often is about the way things in their relationship are...she would make an effort to fix the situation and make amends with her daughter. I think Emily believes that she herself is a lot more bothered about it than Lorelai is. At this point Emily seems to be quite convinced that she herself is the "wronged party", to the extent that she seems pretty much oblivious of the wrongs she herself has committed. All of the Gilmores are terrible communicators and I think they could all benefit from seeing a therapist. Though it would have to be a very good and very patient therapist I reckon, because these Gilmores are...A LOT 🤣😂🤷🏻 Anyway, that's my "two cents" or more like two whole dollars (based on how long that rant was) 😅 I always roll my eyes when I come across comments this long from others, so I'm clearly a hypocrite, but that's okay because we all are at times so I'm in very good company 🤣😂 Anyway, Happy Holidays, Happy New Year, and thanks so much, Ryann, for giving us passionate fans a place to go off on our neurodivergent ramblings without judgement or ridicule 🙏🏻❤️💕🫶🏻

[@Limabeansidhe]

I absolutely agree with almost everything you wrote, here's where I differ: I think Emily is also a wronged party in the family. She is overbearing and she is critical, but she is also a product of the social circles she's in. Everyone around her acts the same way, and worse as we see later in the series, so she can't understand why the discrepancy between her relationship with Lorelai and the other's relationships with their children. Lorelai did run away from home young and then had sporadic contact at best--attending Christmas parties or other holiday events where there couldn't be meaningful conversation--essentially cutting off her parents. Lorelai reenters the relationship for money. Emily only asks in return for contact. It's a business transaction to Lorelai, but it's an attempt to build a relationship to Emily. Personally, I am a sucker for wit, so I have a soft spot for both Emily and Lorelai and compassion for both of their positions. Not a fan of Lorelai the First though, she's mean and bitter with no rhyme or reason.

[@ryannrodkey5669]

thank you so much for your kinds words and for your thoughts and I totally hear you on them! I do feel like from what we've seen so far with the conversations with Lorelei, even when she's trying to communicate with her about things, Emily doesn't seem to want to listen or understand how she's feeling or where she's coming from. I'm mostly referring to the scene when she is scolding her for the max situation. while Lorelei messed up - for her to be so condescending and cold to her regarding the relationship and situation did feel cruel and it felt to me like she knew she was. I also feel like in this episode she very much knew what she was doing based on her little smirk and saying 'something I said must've struck a chord with you to make you change your mind.' to me that feels like she 1000% knew she was being manipulative and trying to scare Lorelei into not accepting the money. I'll be interested to see more as I'm sure there are plenty more arguments to come 🤣

[@sorchamiana]

@@ryannrodkey5669 for sure, Ryann! ☺️ I love coming here and sharing thoughts ❤️ For me, I guess I just feel like emotions are such complex things so it's complicated. I think Emily realizes she says hurtful things, I'm just not sure if she realizes how often they actually land. I think she figures a lot of it goes in one ear and out the other like water off a duck's back but hey maybe I'm giving her too much credit. The specific situation with the Max stuff was tricky because Emily was hearing her information about it all from the headmaster's wife and they are friends so Emily was probably embarrassed because from her perspective, her daughter was essentially causing a public scandal and she couldn't understand why that's a choice Lorelai would make when she had to claw tooth and nail to get Rory into that school in the first place and must know the relationship with Max could jeopardize it. And with Trix's money, I took that smirk as Emily feeling victorious that Lorelai seemed to have taken her advice, especially since Lorelai adamantly denied that the money could potentially mess up her relationship with Rory. And if that's how Emily hypothetically saw it, then the "struck a chord" comment could have just been her feeling vindicated because if there wasn't at least a little cause to worry, Lorelai wouldn't have chickened out of telling Rory about the money, she would've simply ignored Emily's take on it like she does about so many other things. I think Emily is envious of the relationship that Lorelai has with Rory because it seems so simple and easy compared to what Emily has with Lorelai. I think for Emily, her feud with Lorelai would've probably been easier to reconcile if Lorelai knew what it felt like to have a daughter who wants nothing to do with you. In fact, I think if Lorelai and Rory had a trash relationship instead of a great one, Emily and Lorelai probably would've already made up because they would've had something to commiserate over. We hear those kinds of conversations a lot in other shows. Like a mom will be complaining to the grandma about her daughter and the grandma will be like, oh please, you think you never rebelled like that? And then they'll impart some advice 😂 In fact, funny enough, I started watching another Lauren Graham show recently that just had that type of conversation 🤣 Anyway, I digress and I might be a little biased because Emily is one of my faves in the show for sure 🤣

[@sorchamiana]

@@Limabeansidhe I'm sorry, I probably wasn't very clear there. I definitely think they are both wronged parties. I also think they both view themselves as the ONLY wronged party though. I think they're both focusing on the faults of the other so they won't be required to examine they're own. My mom and my grandma had pretty much the same relationship as Lorelai and Emily and because they were essentially both my parents because they both raised me (we lived in my grandma's house), I could usually see it from a fairly neutral perspective. They both had things they were right about and things they were rude about and the rudeness usually negated any rightness because the other person can't see your side if it feels like the conversation is a verbal battle 😂 Hard to see the other perspective if we're too busy defending our own 😅 But I know I'm guilty of that in my own life too, so I find it hard to judge them for it 🤷🏻

[@sorchamiana]

@@Limabeansidhe also, with Lorelai the first, I think the meanness and bitterness could maybe be unresolved grief from her husband's death. I knew a lot of widows because our old church was mostly older people and some of them, the ones who had good marriages, would be impacted quite negatively by the loss. One lady was exactly like Lorelai the first, in the sense that she seemed to always be grumpy for grumpiness' sake 😅 I was astonished the first time someone told me "she used to be so very nice and wonderful before her husband died" because I could hardly believe it 😅 This woman frequently brought me to tears with her harsh and insensitive remarks. I couldn't fathom that she had ever been nice. But once I'd known her for a long time...I would sometimes see it. That niceness she tried so hard not to exhibit, because she subconsciously wanted to be make others as miserable as she herself always felt. It doesn't excuse it, of course. But yeah, I suppose I can empathize somewhat with Trix. And obviously there were some things good things about her because to be that old and have your son still adore you that intensely is quite a feat, so I feel like she must've done some things right at some point 🤷🏻

[@ericacarreiro9299]

❤🎄✨️🥰🇧🇷 Happy holidays!!! Boas Festas! Such a great episode.

[@youraveragewarlock923]

Boas festas!

[@ryannrodkey5669]

Happy Holidays!!

[@jediknightcam]

I really love Paris because she's very much like I was in high school, an intense overachiever with no social skills haha. Meanwhile, Tristin continues to, uh, exist. And we love generational trauma don't we folks 🙃

[@seanmcmurphy4744]

So there is a Gilmore more snobby privileged and entitled than Emily? It really feels good to see Emily treated like she treats Lorelai