Ways women make themselves look desperate// signs you're a desperate Woman (TikTok Edition)

[@mchapman9440]

Too many games. Emotional and mental games. Life is too short to be doing all of this.

[@Chommikenya]

Do men understand that?

[@TheAuthenticEmpress]

Glad someone said it

[@buntobilli]

​@@Chommikenya peace of mind above men every single time.

[@YoungunaI3]

This is facts

[@quintessaoliver6923]

💯

[@anayadaffe6729]

They say some women are desperate but then shame the women that are single because they have standards and boundaries….

[@UnashamedCaliforniagirl]

That is their " game" see through the Bs . Remember most of these guys are desperate too.

[@UnashamedCaliforniagirl]

That is their game. Just remember that they are desperate too 😂 they just don't want to admit it.

[@DatDyme980]

@@UnashamedCaliforniagirl Bombshell truth❗🎯

[@tatienono]

Mindfuckery at its finest

[@jadegreen1554]

They do that because they hate that they can’t touch you. They can’t use and leave you. Let them whine 😊

[@kdani4777]

They say we are too desperate then blame us for not saying what our needs are. (Men)

[@kokolatte825]

WHAT!?

[@nascentnaomie]

Wisdom sets boundaries and doesn’t shy away from confrontation

[@Chommikenya]

You're a wise one 💯 Thank you for watching

[@truthtimetarot]

Stealing this! But I liked it first 💙👍

[@lindasimyu6414]

A dysfunctional man can really make you look desperate and awful. A good man is not that complicated and will never give you anxiety of acting and making you adjust yourself to look relevant. I am not and never been deaparate but some men can make you look bad in front of others.

[@Chommikenya]

Absolutely agree 💯 Thank you for watching ❤️

[@oneonly215]

🎯 🎯 🎯!!!!!

[@mschellylove3588]

I do agree

[@aintnoway6688]

No one can make you look like something you’re not 😂 Sorry not sorry Y’all be desperate

[@mschellylove3588]

@@aintnoway6688 you can state your opinion respectfully without the Sarcasm and assuming that we are all desperate.

[@winxclubstellamusa]

Us being emotionally and/or physically abandoned by our caregivers also teaches us to abandon ourselves, especially if we were punished overtly or covertly for expressing a need or daring to have a need, it’s not just through having that behavior modeled by others in front of us.

[@skindippedingold]

This is pure facts!! I lived that life in my formative years.

[@CardcaptorsRULES]

DAMN! ❤

[@traceylennon1204]

Desperation makes objects larger than they appear. That's a good one! 😄😆

[@TyraPeredo]

I love being single

[@SativaVerte]

I’m desperate for the dude to put a battery in his fire alarm!!! CHIRP CHRIP

[@Chommikenya]

what! 😂

[@MVPA-io5ee]

7:50 this is full of bullshit... when woman do the "i should wait for an hour or more before replying to his text" they say woman play too much... but when she's available, open, polite and friendly... oh she's desperate 😒😒 just what the hell do they want? as a woman you'll never win.

[@tammygarrett8427]

You win with self love. when you value your time and body there are thing you just want deal with.

[@Chommikenya]

That's very true That's how you win! By putting YOU first.

[@jesuischerie224]

eff that..if you cant be a man and call. I won't talk to you..period.

[@susieadams3305]

I don't depend on nobody too tell me I look good because I feel good

[@UnashamedCaliforniagirl]

Same

[@DatDyme980]

If you're not desperate he'll resort to negging and other tactics to MAKE you seek his validation. Be your authentic self (however that looks) and the right one for you will appreciate it. If he's not looking for a marriage mate he's looking to use you by toying with your natural, Godgiven emotional makeup❗

[@xjelena]

My ex definitely tried other ways to make me want his validation. He even tried insulting me (but was sneaky with the way he did it) and trying to make me feel self conscious of myself. But every time I would laugh in his face because at the time I didn’t realize that was what he was doing and he sounded ridiculous to me because I was so sure of myself and had high self esteem and confidence. I really was just confused as to what he was even talking about 🤦🏾‍♀️. Either way it never worked so then he tried make me jealous of girls he’d talk to (like as in just making sure I see him having a conversation with a girl). I’m not even the jealous type so that didn’t work either. Ugh I wish I would have realized his weird behavior sooner and just left instead of having to deal with it. Either way after I left him my life flourished 🤷🏾‍♀️.

[@creatureofstyle]

Ooh, this is so true! I had one last year that did this and I'd never encountered the negging thing before. I was so confused! Insecure men are like a virus, they make you Insecure too!

[@DatDyme980]

@@xjelena Negging is what it sounds like he was doing. It's designed to subtly rob your self esteem. Best wishes to you. Stay strong ❗🎉💪🏽

[@sasha20232]

This a good example how come we have masculine energy women...This man can't handle a carring and nurturing woman they want to play games. It is 2024 we have luxury of communication, transportation etc...we don't need to write hand written letters and put them into post office...love was hard because life didn't have all of this convenient technology..

[@Unfilteredalyssa1227]

Basically never ever ever ever go against yourself period because let me tell you: it gets worse. What is this mirroring: you need to love yourself more first and more importantly God. I was desperate. And i never will be again for anyone period

[@Chommikenya]

PERIOD ✨ sending love 💖💖💖 Thank you for watching

[@maggiemcnally2087]

Women keep busy at all times.

[@Ms.AllSunday930]

Ive been gaslit so much into thinking Im overreacting... so I give people more chances than I should and constantly push for communication with people that give me vague answers. Maybe Im not reacting enough honestly. Im an overthinker due to trauma but Im going to learn this lesson NOW!

[@Chommikenya]

Be woke to know next time someone is gaslighting you Thank you for watching ❤️

[@princesses278]

If you want marriage bring it up right away don't waste your time on people who don't want the same things as you trust me ❤ the commitment phobics will run away from you and that's what you want better sooner than later

[@peacelove7437]

Desperate… maybe he didn’t want it until he got to know and love you.. marriage is not the best all end all

[@rondasoutherland6882]

I tell men on the first date that I'm not getting married. There is no guessing what I'm looking for in life.

[@Kitt-nun-cute]

Well there's a thing called "dating with marriage in mind". It's not desperation, if someone doesn't wanna date around casually.​@@peacelove7437

[@Alixir1228]

Don't bring it up at all. Let them bring it up. If they don't, they aren't marry. I brought up commitment to a man and he made me his gf to then just cheat on me online because he wasn't ready to settle down, but didn't want to lose me. These men will fake it. Do not EVER tell them what you are looking for. They will LIE that they are ready.

[@eljofrva]

@@peacelove7437they clearly don’t mean that they want to get married to that person right away 😅 I mean where’s your common sense?

[@jaifyre702]

I must say I don't agree because I chase Jesus and I'm at peace. WHATEVER I want I just ask him and boom he got me. So I will always be desperate for the most high how can I not be? I want for nothing. Ijs it's not wrong to chase the Lord desperately. It will always benefit your greater good.

[@Chommikenya]

AMEN TO THAT! ❣️

[@coast2coast8306]

Black adidas hat guy was cracking me up 😂😂😂

[@Chommikenya]

Thank you for watching ❤️

[@imeldangadzania5212]

Same😂😂😂 hello ms. Stalker

[@howcanyoudothistome1]

Same. 😂😂😂 thought I was the only one.

[@Chrissy2Cute]

Mr Adidas made me cry of laughter 🤣😂😅😅😂🤣😂😅

[@Chommikenya]

Thank you for watching 😆

[@jadegreen1554]

The men who women get upset over, hung up on, distressed over, agonized over, are usually not the kind of man you should want. If you’re desperate at this point, they’ll leave you even more desperate deeper into the “situationship”. These are not men you want anyway.

[@titusapril75]

You can never be too nice or authentic for the right person that’s right for you. These games are played by people in their 20s 30s maybe even in their 40s but at some point you have to have discernment even if you’re in your 2030 and 40s to find the right person that’s made for you.

[@Chommikenya]

Thank you!

[@Chommikenya]

You have to have discernment

[@jadegreen1554]

EVERYTHING THAT I WANT WANTS ME EVEN MORE. Live with this for life.

[@Chommikenya]

Thank you ❤️

[@jadegreen1554]

Tell yourself when you get desperate: 1) I add value to this relationship/partnership 2) I am a prize. Anybody would be lucky to have my love. 3) I am not crazy I am traumatized. This is my body’s way of surviving over the years and I have done pretty damn good job of it. 4) I am worthy of somebody loving me. I am worthy of somebody showing up for me. Rewire your brain when someone makes you feel desperate.

[@UnashamedCaliforniagirl]

What I don't understand is now that I have decided I don't want a relationship that is when men are the most adamant about pursuing me or asking me for my number. I really just need to be on my own for a while. It's like they think it's a "challenge" or something.

[@midi2732]

I get what they are saying but don’t agree with all of it, obviously you should feel free to post what you want on social media without it being seen as desperate, not everything is for the other person. And I also don’t see anything wrong with wanting to see the person you are interested in, I don’t think that makes you too available actually it should be a good thing, but I get in what context they mean but it can come off as confusing

[@peacelove7437]

You know the desperate post when you see one

[@Richiko06]

Right ❤ I had to beg my ex fiancee to want to see me. One should never have to beg. Effort needs to be put in on both parts equally. I’m done with him and I found the love of my life ❤

[@UnashamedCaliforniagirl]

I personally needed to get rid of social media to find " inner peace" being authentic is very important to me and I felt like I just couldn't keep trying to " curate" this image of myself that was just what I wanted others to see. I was not being true to myself.

[@keontitoney9136]

Theres no winning 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

[@cinnamonthomas3075]

Yoooooo that african guy is hilarious 😂😂😂😂

[@Chommikenya]

😂staap!

[@nomessnostress]

This video was everything! That is all....

[@unicorn73212]

Yeah feminity comes natural you shouldn't have to prove yourself to someone that told you to get out. If they tell you to get out then leave the next morning quietly and don't tell them were you are staying you don't even really owe it to some strange guy on the bus either to tell him were your headed i had a guy on the bus say, "your not hot!' Did i ask you if I was or not? Then I obviously dont care what he thinks it's okay to have a preference but if you didn't even look at him or initiate a conversation with him then she doesnt like him either.. They insert there opinions were it's not really needed just to make women feel like crap so be aware of men like that too who purposely provoke an argument just because they don't think your attractive it doesn't make sense to dress up in the hood because these are the same men that tell women to tone down the make up and don't wear short skirts and dresses.

[@Chommikenya]

Thank you for watching ❤️

[@susieadams3305]

I haven't slept with a man in9years it's because i love myself but Aug I saw someone I knew for 40 years so I decided too give him some but didn't chases him I know the different between love,sex and it was just sex

[@SASK_M_Y]

Ll be leaving my 4yr marriage soon. Been celibate for 1 and half yrs. We have been separately living for 2yrs. How did you do it?

[@chellejohnson8880]

​@@SASK_M_Y One day at a time. Its been over 3 years, for me personally. I dont miss it❤

[@teshamiller6001]

There is no such thing as “just sex”. Sex is a spiritual covenant. It’s a soul tie, whether you like it or not. You lay with someone, you lay with all their energetic attachments, good and bad. It’s never just sex, everyone just pretends it is.

[@SASK_M_Y]

@@chellejohnson8880 tx

[@BlkOnyx0508]

@@teshamiller6001it’s just sex😂

[@iscavengersam]

16:42 What she's saying is, your boyfriend could be keeping you from meeting your husband.

[@Chommikenya]

Don't let your boyfriend block you from meeting your future husband Hey thank you for watching ❤️

[@imeldangadzania5212]

Mr. Benjamin really got me laughing really hard 😂😂😂😂

[@DWPersianExcursion]

It's them attempting to be feminine and demure, it is so uncomfortable ,that is comes off as desperate

[@Chommikenya]

Thank you for watching ❤️

[@DWPersianExcursion]

@@Chommikenya 🥰

[@wendypope9668]

Thank goodness I'm not desperate 🙌

[@Chommikenya]

Keep being the prize 💖

[@nenenicole8291]

Lmao the man at 7:43 talking about don’t be texting man “hey wyd “ because he’s busy, lmao that all men ever say “hey wyd” wyd wyd wyd wyd me to death. Dont have nothing to talk about

[@Chommikenya]

😂😂😂 right?

[@anneagena8236]

Right just embarrassing broo men will play games with you and disrespect you all day. I refuse to chase a man around. If he wants me he will come and get me. It’s just not cute at all. I never let a man tell me he doesn’t want me twice.

[@Chommikenya]

Oooh my Thank you!! I love this

[@anneagena8236]

@@Chommikenya yes the man had to do the chasing not the other way around.

[@Chommikenya]

@@anneagena8236 That's what am talking about 💯

[@JesusGeek33]

Facts, it’s important to be celibate. People say play them like they play you. Be careful accepting gifts from spirits after u leave a relationship or when you’re close to God that’s when spirits come.

[@winxclubstellamusa]

The final creator is trying to say to stop assigning meaning to situations. Dr. Thais Gibson explains this better than anyone else.

[@Chommikenya]

Thank you!

[@TyraPeredo]

😂😂 the first guy is funny

[@steffeijoma2193]

I should have watched this 2 days ago😢😢

[@Chommikenya]

Thank you for watching ❤️ Now you know Better We move.......

[@UnashamedCaliforniagirl]

So this guy thinks that everyone who posts a selfie 🤳 is posting a " thirst trap?😂" I literally find the idea 💡 that men are looking at my profile to see pictures of me ridiculous 😂. Like with all of the gorgeous women out there why would my silly selfie be his go to? I posted selfies for " the girls" duh 😂

[@susieadams3305]

I don't date for money or what a guy has or the clothes he wear respect is what i ask for and I don't never chases no man's but if I misjudge someone I apologizes

[@brittneymarshall2278]

3 months asking a man what his intentions are is not desperate

[@Chommikenya]

Thank you for watching ❤️

[@BlkOnyx0508]

You don’t ask these types of questions. You should know the answer. And if you don’t then the answer is No. Move on accordingly

[@Laceeadventuretime]

Thank you!!

[@Chommikenya]

Absolutely!💝

[@joihaynes6556]

I think that we need to get away from being triggered by the word and lean towards understanding the why. Everybody wants to be seen and understood, we as humans are not meant to be alone. Desperation is less about the person and more about what missing in you. You cannot expect someone to know how to love you when you don’t know how to do it.

[@Chommikenya]

This is Deep but Fact Thank you!!

[@bubbles_mc_rainbow]

Adidas hat is SPOT on 😭

[@Chommikenya]

@@bubbles_mc_rainbow Thank you!!

[@surinamika]

Thank you for this

[@Chommikenya]

Thank you for watching ❤️

[@AmericanDreamer]

that thing said at 9:26 - woosh,girl - that is also called -sour graping' - is what these podcast bros red pillers do- with their ''humble her'' videos and ish....they degrade and demean pretty women who do not want anything to do with these dudes, so these said dudes start to degrade these women, talk shit about them, its exactly that!!!! - IT IS A TACTIC - they pretend they dont like these hot women, when they actually crave them, but the tactic is to pretend they dont want them, in order to make them appear cool and unbothered! MIND GAMES!!!-BS

[@genesewatson648]

Nah i don’t agree I’ve never said I’m available whenever but i do have a lot of free time i have no kids and i work day shift

[@PandaHead602]

This ghoster guy took off with out saying bye to me and it really upset me . I texted him and said u can’t even say by to me ? we were outside smoking he wanted me to drive him back to the light literally I went inside to get my keys and he took off it was literally 3 minutes he took off pedaling on his bike .. I did text him n said leave me alone disrespectful and he has no where to go and all day to get there yet ditch me w out saying good bye . He’s been calling me weekly or 2x week but now it’s been a week since this happen and he hasn’t texted back or said sorry or nothing . He just texted said he he’s gonna head out he’s fine that was it I texted him after that but that’s it no more since that moment I did t next day or anything or any other time since I usually would and do but I’m so fed up it’s terrible . Wednesday is my bday too

[@Chommikenya]

Happy birthday 🥂 and hey you deserve someone who is consistent and who is about you Leave him alone. He's a walking red flag Thank you for watching ❤️

[@Atlanta718]

Everything I want, wants me even more

[@Chommikenya]

Louder please 📢 Thank you for watching ❤️

[@UnashamedCaliforniagirl]

So it's my grandma's fault? 😂 Stop blaming dead people ok 😊

[@Chommikenya]

😂😂😭

[@vanessasaint-victor1271]

Soooo truuuuuue

[@sarahcameron9401]

10.43

[@Chommikenya]

@@sarahcameron9401 Thank you for watching ❤️

[@jadegreen1554]

The last clip on here is the best and are actually scientifically sound. Who is she?

[@Chommikenya]

I'll check it out for you Thank you for watching ❤️

[@jadegreen1554]

@@Chommikenyahi. Any luck yet finding out who she is? Thanks much.

[@Chommikenya]

​@@jadegreen1554 go search ( Unquiet woman) on TikTok

[@melissahanson7420]

This stuff is a big turn off for me. I'm old school a man will have to show me he is really interested. If I feel for a minute not wanted or disrespected I'm I don't tolerate games period.

[@sunmoonstars0369]

Most women actually feel exactly how you do you are not special the games some dudes play lead you to believe they are serious in the beginning and then once you are hooked comes the pain

[@sallygirl1012]

How dare you start conversation with men😂😂

[@Chommikenya]

😂😂😭

[@ChilemanyaUgwuEmpire]

Small KZbinrs let's gather here

[@Chommikenya]

We listening!

[@melissahanson7420]

I will post what I want. I am doing it for me because it is my social media. That's my right I don't care if anyone likes it. Stuff you are saying makes me not even date a man at all. You make it sound like men are to good Smh

[@nomessnostress]

I will say that 14:00 was dead on with compliments! This is a pimps easiest way to get women with low self-worth or self-esteem.... everyone likes compliments but it shoild hold no weight

[@TheLillipuss]

I LOVE this guy! 6:57

[@Ms.pee12]

The first clip is kinda sad. She said she came off as I needed a man. But men complain about not being needed. But the moment you come off as needing them, you’re desperate. They are just backwards creatures. And guy will tell you that a man feels good when he’s need but we are desperate when we want/“need” one.

[@Chommikenya]

Deep!!! Hey thank you for watching ❤️

[@jadegreen1554]

The men who women get upset over, hung up on, distressed over, agonized over, are usually not the kind of man you should want. If you’re desperate at this point, they’ll leave you even more desperate deeper into the “situationship”. These are not men you want to want you anyway. TRUST IT.