We All Win: How to Stop Arguing With People

This concept has helped me alot when it came to arguing and debating with people about subjects that I felt I was right on. I rarely argue with anyone now and I find my relationships with others have improved alot with this one concept.
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Fitness Coach, Spiritual Teacher, Entrepreneur. I developed a training method that has helped thousands of people create more happiness, inner peace, and flow in their lives while increasing their strength, endurance and flexibility. This method called Flow Training will release trapped emotions inside your body, expand your awareness, and shift you into a new state of being.

[@josefkainrad]

"Whether they agree with you or not, the truth will always be the same." I needed to hear this.

[@MooDuck31]

- Sir, you are 100 years old. Tell us your secret. How did you manage to maintain your health for so long? - That is simple. I never argue with anyone. I always agree with others' opinions. - But this is impossible! - You are absolutely right.

[@jaquelineterrell9076]

Your so rude

[@chocobochick5390]

@@jaquelineterrell9076 ?

[@dylan7196]

he is 36

[@bb3b644]

@@dylan7196 Artem is not talking about Mike Chang! It's a story that is agreeing with the concept!

[@williamdillon7852]

@@bb3b644 Dun even try to explain , hes right ! :P

[@mariachampss1275]

This hit such home for me. I had a father who dominated in conversations to the point where I couldn’t even speak or be heard. As an adult I’m constantly seeking validation from others. It doesn’t always have to be that they agree but I won’t stop until I hear someone say “I see your perspective but….” Or “I hear where your coming from but…” I feel that the opposing person can still have their opinion but my biggest thing is just to hear them say that they hear and understand me while still disagreeing. It’s still wanting and seeking validation that I need to work on

[@rayart88]

I can see your point but...I think you're already on the right path of knowing your weakness and working towards fixing that validation seeking. So you should be proud of yourself! The hard part for most people is not even knowing what they need to fix. For me I need to stop procrastinating and finish the things I need to do...🤣

[@suap309]

Get God's validation and love instead of your father's. Maybe you need to admit he will never ever give you the validation you deserve. I'm the same with my parents. They will never love or respect me so I don't care about their validation now, so I don't need anyone else's validation. Many people are stubborn and ignorant and don't care about your feelings. Sad but true. It brings a freedom.

[@HeatherDMorris]

I have found that I am very argumentative towards people nowadays. After being married to a narcisist for 3 years, and now divorced from them for 3 also, I dont like people and want to live on a mountain and just converse with God and my dogs. The truth will always be the same ! I like that. Jesus is MY truth and that's all that matters to me . I agree with you. What a milestone !

[@serdgeedgerunner]

This is interesting concept. I noticed that I argue with my mom (and other people).. because I need their validation/approval. So it is some kind of insecurity. I will try to think about it next time when I will start arguing, thank you.

[@freedomdividendnews5042]

we have to know that we wont always win their validation. Focus on integrity instead of their approval

[@pico6760]

When people try to argue with me I just ignore them and leave them to their own thoughts 💭

[@user-xp4ov5od8t]

A nosy neighbour asked me a personal question and I just walked past him like he wasn't there.

[@TommyReckx]

@@user-xp4ov5od8t Good for You! If someone asks a question that is personal or hateful, ignore them, being involved with that can ruin your day & cause upsetting emotions within yourself

[@rosannamiranda4620]

Pro gamer Me too

[@Scrub_Lord-en7cq]

@@TommyReckx It’s like people putting up fallacies

[@ronaldmcdonaldjuniorghost]

Facts bye 👋

[@freedomdividendnews5042]

Its hard to let it go when someones beliefs are harmful. Without arguing, Im accepting their evil beliefs

[@imadetheuniverse4fun]

people have very misconceived notions about what's "harming" them imo. vast majority of people can be left alone, even with their "evil beliefs", and literally zero harm will come to you or anyone else.

[@Katniss0000]

You are right to do so. some beliefs are really harmful like Rape culture for example. Where men think " They wear this kind of thing, they drinking. etc. means THEY ARE ASKING FOR IT." But arguing with which is better Pineapple pizza is better than normal pizza then you are wasting your time. the more you keep quiet or be neutral then you are just siding with the oppressor because it doesn't affect you. If an elephant has its foot on the tail of a mouse, and you say that you are neutral, the mouse will not appreciate your neutrality.

[@tendaihlupo7030]

Hey I'm 14 i've stopped arguing I'm learning to understand not everyone thinks, we can't all be smart, I have to deal with this new school full of immature and insecure people. I get complimented on my maturity alot so I'm gonna be the bigger person, when someone says something I'm not gonna argue I'm just gonna smile and nod cause I have no problem being wrong I don't feel human.

[@banziimavuso9974]

I love that you're so young and you have learned this. It will help you so much 🙏🏼

[@iloveeverything4380]

That's amazing ur awesome

[@iloveeverything4380]

Side note be wary of Andrew Tate it's common knowledge no one should cheat on a girl and it isn't any different from a girl cheating on a guy ♥️

[@BAMproductions1234]

Mikes new phrases "you know "

[@boxuanliu9434]

the video sounds a million times better until you mentioned this

[@r56mini]

you know every 6 seconds in a 10 minute video = 100 you knows.

[@phunniebugga]

he does it in one take pal

[@apple1966]

I feel like mike is on a new stage in his life where he's taking a break from the fitness industry and focusing on what he really wants his life to be about

[@rayart88]

Mike when from fitness coach to zen mode guru, which I think is pretty awesome lol

[@angelamagnus6615]

This is a great self-help video! Everyone should watch this to boost their optimism.

[@majorleo7481]

Now is not: fitness. Now is: "Life", with Mike Chang. Great!

[@amadeusedm]

amazing energy you have! love it

[@UknownWorlds]

It radiates quite well doesn't it?

[@iloveeverything4380]

@@UknownWorlds no!

[@iloveeverything4380]

@@UknownWorlds jkjk lol

[@LeviSlaton]

Hey, thanks, Mike, you helped put things into perspective and I really appreciate it.

[@crystalgraham8053]

Hi Mike, I really appreciate that you made this video as the information in it is helping me tremendously. I tend to argue for everything and really it comes down to that insecurity, that hit of the ego, and not wanting to feel wrong. Cause if I'm wrong then I'm not validated, then I'm not good enough and its a spiral. I have taken notes and will study them to better myself! Thankyou!(:

[@user-up7mf2rc3e]

Gratitude flows.... love your wisdom, effervescent vibe and routines! Very inspirational & assists humanity in expanding consciousness; individually & collectively; manifesting brighter futures and 'now' moments! Well done & thank you!

[@LennyYT]

Everybody’s right. That’s their prescription and their own lens they see their lives with. Reality will get to them on time.

[@AbdullahAz383]

this just happened to me today . i love the new mike . keep doing these good videos man you will inspire alot of people

[@KadeemJanelle]

Very well said, man! More people need to see this!

[@ashlaraque4135]

Halfway through the video and it just made me see, arguing with people when I know the truth makes absolutely no sense. I am doing it so that I can feel it right, but I already know I’m right so I should just feel I’m right and move on from the conversation or not even get in that type of conversation at all.

[@Expressiton]

Really like this advice. Thanks Mike! Now I have to watch that movie again......I like the way you said that line.

[@4acesjackdaniels775]

I agreed to "take a shot" every time Mike said "you know", and I was totally hammered by 5:00.

[@Lukandrewus]

I’m watching this video now after having a massive argument with a friend about a stupidly unimportant topic. But this is probably the 5th or 6th time this has happened so I now feel that I should look towards myself for change. I think this video unpacked a lot the issue. I think I’m more on the side of people needing to agree with me. I find that knowing the truth isn’t enough and I more so care about people knowing I’m correct. I think he nailed it when he said that I might feel like less when someone disagrees with me. I hate these irrational feelings.

[@let_it_beee.]

Thank you man! I needed this very much❤ You made my day. I can be relaxed now.

[@jopalo31675]

Mike... (that’s my sons name)this has really helped me. The truth will always be the same. Maybe it was my ego. I would get embarrassed when my in-laws would say and do certain things. I’m very tactful... but, safety gets me worked up; I.e. I’ll help you shingle your roof, let me show you how to put that new circuit breaker in, I’ll help you change your water heater( because your soldering sucks).... I’ll help with the bbq so you don’t put the cooked meat next to the raw meat on the same plate... I’m doing it again. The truth will always be the same.

[@heatherm3055]

I know this is 6 years old but my problem is trying to prevent dangerous things from happening (in the moment, not some future event) and people always think that its an opinion they don't have to listen to.

[@doomsdayangel4647]

There are people who can't live without drama and arguments. You can show them a million videos like this and they will not learn a thing. They will argue nearly everything that is true until their dying breath. Stupidity has a strong grip on its victims. The best thing you can do is stonewall them or get as far away from them as possible. I learned the hard way that these types of people are more dangerous than cigarettes and alcohol combined.

[@LuisRuiz1]

Mike you're one of the few down to earth KZbinrs out there. Don't listen to these haters you do you bro! Your subscribers love you man!💪👌😎

[@valkyriesanborn189]

I hate arguing! 😭 You have such an infectious energy... I smiled the whole time watching this video.

[@sanitize808]

Really helpful advice on dealing with arguments, I'm definitely gonna think about your conversation when an argument is brought up in my life. Really enjoying your new mindfulness videos and I know a lot of your old followers want workout videos but l like learning about how to be better from the inside out and I look forward to more videos, Do you think you'll have a video discussing the topic "Rising from failures?" I recently got out of Art college with high hopes of being a amazing artist that would work at Pixar one day but after I graduated reality hit and paying student loans and my vision of future completely switch from being an inspiring artist to working a 8 to 5 40 HR work week just to pay rent, student loans, and trying to still enjoy life with the little time I have on the weekends. I wouldn't say my career is a failure per se but I'm not where I want to be at the moment and would love your advice. Thanks Mike for being an inspiration!

[@RedSquirreLx]

I just remind myself i don’t give people free lessons in life. Think what you want

[@MisyeDiVre]

1000% I'll listen to this every day. It's my biggest flaw. It's not constant, but when it rears its ugly head, it can be very damaging. Thank you ☺️

[@laurarandolph5600]

Sometimes it's even subjective, you feel cold and they say "It's not cold..."

[@VoLtiamo]

This video is Gold! ✨

[@MotiaVerve]

i needed this video , thank u

[@lucystephanieproperties]

I like how you put it. Indeed, not everyone is open to accept the truth. People take time before we realize something or are ready to listen.

[@BeanDar]

Don't feel discouraged by the lack of thought in these comments, Mike. I can really appreciate what you're saying, and I agree with what you've been talking about. I did of course come here from yout sps videos, and still work out with you, and now I enjoy these videos as well. You're a great teacher, keep it up.

[@elam117]

Mike is a great role model from what we get to see as viewers. Seems like a whole person for sure!

[@carinaraymond2]

It is hard when it is your partner though. Their beliefs affect their actions and their actions affect your life and your children. You can’t ignore the truth when their actions are based on it. I only argue with people online about things that don’t matter, but in my life, I only argue about things that directly impact me in a significant way.

[@maverickh9]

I googled this topic and I'm presented with exactly the right headline, and a man who is basically a more attractive version of myself.

[@iloveeverything4380]

I'm obsessed with being right and making everyone believe me idk how to fix it

[@KarmageddonGaming]

@mike chang is the man, I am glad that you decided to continue making videos after all, you're one of the most insightful and down to earth KZbinr's that I have followed over the last few years and was upset to see you go, and even though you're no longer doing your workout videos, I am still thoroughly enjoying the new format of more spiritually related videos. I also hope that once you find what it is that you are looking for, you can come back to what truly makes you happy, bigger, stronger, and faster than ever before, and that is fitness. Do you think that you will ever come full force back into the fitness industry and make videos about that again?

[@sethgreen8849]

What makes you think Fitness is what truly makes him happy?

[@FrancescoPirrone]

Thanks Mike, that's really helpful.

[@awe_chloe]

Thank you, I needed this 😍

[@zaiah9252]

Thank you! I really needed this.

[@Rockyr687]

I started watching your video four years ago and subscribed your old workout channel, until resently I figured that you are no longer in that channel. I got in shape following your work out but quited working out a year ago. I'm so glad I find you again on your new channel because now you are offering some spiritual which I think is what I need more than sixpack abs. Thanks Mike!

[@hereiamsendme1199]

Very good point. Why do we need to feel right. Very thought provoking

[@erichardson8811]

Truth never changes..I don't argue..I show them..I can show you, better than I can tell you..or I change the subject..or I say you're right and keep it moving..I get in the company of like mined ppl and have a conversation..I dont argue..it's a waste of my time.

[@aliyalove4518]

Thank you for this video.

[@declancoll2791]

Mike my name is Declan and I just want to say that man you're inspiring. I have been watching you since the old days of 06 with your fitness videos and you have inspired me. I'm so glad you're back and you are following your dream man. You're my hero Mike. Keep doing what you're doing.

[@cosmologybey0]

When two or more people argue, they are actually fighting each other. Just that it is not a physical fight that they're having. but a neurological fight.

[@franzdumz9281]

Thank you very much for this coach mike. Keep it up! God speed

[@asha05147]

the thing you said about world is flat yeah i mean that person was like a newbie u know few hurdles here and there but the people who found out no its not flat theyre the ones who went the extra mile did research. when someone tells you they know it all no way can they know it all because knowledge is endless.

[@rezahabb2819]

Totally agree

[@billycorgan4585]

Im going through this now its a waste of time i need to focus on vacations money family Love. You are right my freind great energy need to be focused on good.

[@bballstrategy]

Lesson I learned from this video: If they don't agree with me, that means I am... Ron.

[@jaquelineterrell9076]

That’s raciest we don’t know if he’s Asian or not

[@nanonxpc9677]

@@jaquelineterrell9076 we know we just don't care lol

[@BoRickersonMcFoosters]

I argued with you on twitter once a while ago about a basketball player and you blocked me immediately lol im now trying to learn how to stop arguing senselessly

[@bballstrategy]

@@BoRickersonMcFoosters LOL good for you good sir. I block when people come at me rudely when they have no context of what I know nor follow me. I just don't have time for all that. It also stops me from having to argue senselessly to folks who don't want to listen. It's good for your soul to approach more kindly in general but the NBA is quite polarizing

[@ash3745]

This video was a great help Mike. I too like some others just got into a huge argument with a friend and had a little trouble coping. Love what you're doing Mike been watching since SPS and I follow your workout advice to this day man. Keep on keeping on man.

[@flamoxox9490]

This is what I needed in my life at this moment, thank you

[@TewTroy]

Thanks for this man. I’m only 14 so I guess I’m going to get into arguments. The thing that always defeats me in arguments is my past conflicts which make me look bad. Now I just want to avoid them. I told my friends I’m going to take a week break.

[@MikeChangTraining]

its great to start learning this now. a week break is a great idea to get centered again in yourself

[@iloveeverything4380]

A week break from what

[@af6744]

Arguments do suck. Damn, you're right

[@raunaksahib]

Sir you are a legend!! I want you to come back and come back strong... And put on some crazy ab workouts... Love and respect from India....

[@MarkBH70]

Answer? Silence. Some people just love to argue. When people feel down they want to feel better, so they think that shouting or arguing a point makes them win. Stupid. I've been around argumentative people. I just use silence. One person, whom I didn't mean to argue with, but started by calling me stupid, and then argued--even when I showed him he was wrong, went on arguing. He claimed to be right, even when a website I left a link to said he was wrong. I don't need to prove I'm right. People will have to answer some day for their behavior. Then, I know I'll be right.

[@poep1239]

mike you are my mentor in life man i respect u so much and i learn somuch thanks man great video

[@carlosvasquez3686]

dang you are such a wise man! honestly love your videos!

[@beatrixkiddo5]

I need to feel right because I'm the Mom and my husband is a tool🤫

[@averagejane2688]

Omg the long hair 👀😂 good content Mike!

[@MikeChangTraining]

Haha, thanks Jane (is it Jane?) It's a while ago but I'm actually thinking to let them grow again 😄

[@deathofnagoya]

i am so stubborn. i NEED to prove that i am right and they are wrong. the fact that they will live their whole life in ignorance thinking they are right is crazy to me so i always get too invested in online arguments lmao.

[@r56mini]

The truth doesn't matter. The point of arguing is to make the other person have a taste of defeat.

[@AaronsLifeee]

Take home, I’m right. Thank You Dude

[@bestintentions6089]

I think it's evolutionary . When we are in a group who think alike on important things we feel safer , which allows us to think about other things that the group does not pay attention to

[@justbreathe3161]

this video made me smile, i'm currently tripping on dextromethorphan and was searching to find some ideas on how to stop arguing with people it's a terrible habit of mine, appropriate the video. this really helped me alot you have great energy as well

[@anjasfajaryan6201]

words of wisdom, thanks Mike!!!

[@michaelt975]

truly is a humble and down to earth guy.

[@ultravioletpisces3666]

I actually LOVE to argue! It keeps my mind sharp for one thing. It’s also a big part of my personality trait (lower on the agreeableness scale) HOWEVER I want to learn to be less argumentative. I want to practice the other side.. it’s not easy!

[@suzanm9710]

This doesn’t take into consideration debates that involve very important topics, for example discrimination in the US. For example, If my friend doesn’t agree that there is discrimination in the US, that affects who she’s voting for... it has nothing to do with me wanting to prove myself right. Genuinely, how can I deal with that kind of frustration?

[@freedomdividendnews5042]

You are not responsible for other peoples actions. Lead by example

[@joshuanantamba-16]

best video av watched, since i started uzin yutube, liked the humour n the message ,😁😁

[@andralou37]

Ego this is why you need to feel right

[@joshuaglubrecht9748]

thanks man this help a lot. I have so much more i need to know and take control of this will completely help me not get into fights.

[@danielrobles1423]

This video has helped me tremendously. Thanks for sharing your wisdom, this needs to be shared.

[@Lostsoul0424]

Love it haha You just lighten my mood, I experienced some family member verbally abuse me and insulted me because they think they can. Thank you for your video. Subscribed!!

[@bradfordpalmer2298]

There's a way to "challenge " someone without saying, hey, ur wrong! With the ease of looking stuff up, many times, we can find out in an instance who is right! So all yiu challengers , be ready with an apology if suddenly you 1, find out you're wrong. 2. Get pushed against the wall for an apology. Uh oh! Eating crow is a tough meal! Lesson learned here: before you challenge someone, you better look it up first! How about that!!!!????

[@randomdayz8877]

hey Mike why did you leave 6 pack short cuts you we're my favourite

[@gauthamsankarrajeeth9723]

Sir... Thanks for the advice. I have a really bad habit of arguing with people. This video changed me to stop arguing. I even argued with my dad and he said if you don't control your tongue you'll end up in jail. He's true. So I should stop now... Thanks for putting things into perspective...

[@amysho2192]

Wow. This is so helpful!! I'm not good at persuasive arguments and it usually frustrates me so much. Now maybe I can remember that it doesn't really matter.

[@nzinga8]

Thanks! You made some great points. Especially that the Truth will always be the Truth regardless of if someone agrees or not.

[@clarencep90]

Good video Johnny tsunami. Thanks bro needed this one

[@dreamchasser3043]

danm that a OG KZbinr

[@naren8600]

this is really wonderful, i do lot of argument and debating for what i know with my office mates about general matter, where every one have same opinion i have diff opinion, i always try to convince them, now i understood no matter what the truth doesn't change, thanks for the awesome video, am really inspired, your words will change my behaviour, and also am not going to be ashamed of accepting the facts later on too...

[@Thebox19750]

You know count : 2,000,000,000,000 🤣 Loved this video though Mike lol ❤️

[@juannba41]

Mike you have a grate way to see the life, Its amazing!!! Thank you for sharing all your knowledge and life experience with us

[@mizufurui674]

I was just thinking about you yesterday. Haven't seen a six pack shortcuts commercial here on KZbin in a long time. I search I'm done with arguing, and there you were on the first video. Crazy.

[@gerardomoncada5222]

Make more videos please Mike Chang. Most of us people who grew up w/You on the program can't handle a life without Mike Chang. It's too hard 🙇😞🎩💜💗👽

[@kbd3253]

Mike, so tru bout what you've told us. Love your smile awesome

[@flameout12345]

battle of ego/pride. less ego less pride

[@witchdrew2454]

Sir you are a true gem 💯✨

[@makenzieschimming2492]

New game, take a shot every time he says "You know"😂😂😂😂

[@shigueotiba3496]

Thank you Mike for his wise words of congratulations for the new channel and its philosophy of life

[@joemama8525]

My problem is that I'm really not qualified to argue about most topics because I'm not a scholar. I would just be parroting bits and pieces from media.

[@patrickbrunekreeft7646]

Hey Mike, These videos are a nice followup on the ones from SPS. Seeing someone grow both physically and mentally. An inspiration to many, probably. Also, Mike, you once recommended a book, called "The willpower instinct". I'm reading it as we speak and it teaches me a lot! Keep on growing and teach people what you learn along your journey!

[@alexfinn7989]

Dang Mike you are so right! Seriously though, great video. One suggestion to consider, instead of just flat out agreeing and saying your right (which may be misleading to them and yourself), instead maybe try to honestly listen to them and say that you understand them?

[@veronicahancock3245]

This makes me so HAPPY!!!