we broke up. | KELSEY DARRAGH

[@KelseyDarragh]

I know its silly to say but SORRY FOR THE VIDEO CHOPPY-NESS because I accidentally recorded in the wrong frame rate :(

[@tiffanymiller8856]

No need to apologize! This video was so so so amazing Kelsey. You should be so proud of yourself! I’m bawling right now because people crying make me cry, I watched the relation blossom, watching your sobriety and you maintain it, ive been in and currently in a similar situation, and also some of the amazing things you said hit home so damn hard and the words you spoke is not my situation but applied to mine. Things you said applied to my life and the new beautiful journey I’m on! Sending you love and healing vibes my queen

[@johnsaxongitno4life588]

Prayers and thoughts to you please stay safe and strong please take care of your self and stand tall love you 😘 love your family friend John xxxx

[@reneemesich8138]

This sounds exactly like healing from narcissistic personality disorder. You don't realize what you're dealing with until you're SO done with feeling that way. I recognized that my bar was set SO low in the beginning because I was hurt so badly my whole life by those that are supposed to love you most. It makes you feel like someone who makes you feel THAT comfortable is the right solution---but I am learning that those are the people who, unfortunately, set off our trauma responses. They feed off of our emotions and reactions. :( It all FEELS so real, but goddamn--you never know how they actually are/feel. They "feel" that way, but don't show it in their actions, or lack thereof. Sorry, this just relates 100% right now. I stand SO strong with you, and would love to help or be a support if you ever needed, not that you do. You've got so many people backing you up! This video is so helpful and healing to hear someone else who seems to be going through something similar at the same time. I am so sorry you've had to go through this, BUT I am so PROUD of you for taking the steps to heal yourself, FOR yourself. YOU deserve it!

[@artistcalosha.98]

Ohh that's fine... I can only imagine how hard it is to even get up. Let alone film a video. Sending ♥️

[@teancoffee208]

No need to apologize. Total sidenote: I love the set up and decor of the room you recorded in. Your style is fantastic

[@KIM-kp9tq]

Mature breakups are in a sense so much harder. I think being cheated on and hating their guts is in a way easier. Loving someone so much but knowing deep down it isn’t working out ahh there’s no worse feeling . I can only hope you both bounce from this even stronger with beautiful memories and lessons in your back pocket. Love and peace to you both x

[@samanthaangelovich8507]

Agreed. I’m going through it now & and it’s so sad 😭

[@SJ-qf2tz]

Agreed

[@cv6442]

I have been there myself. It's still a wound I haven't fully cleansed yet. I had to break away because I was drowning there. I had to do it to save my life. But it's still such a difficult process when you have to leave a good person that you have a lot of love and compassion for. 💜

[@ally7868]

Can you talk about the “mourning” we feel after a breakup? Mourning what we thought our lives would have been and the feeling of loss that brings.

[@KelseyDarragh]

I love this idea...the grieving part...

[@bayleemartin6528]

@@KelseyDarragh Yes!! And mourning the life that didn't exist anywhere outside of your mind too. That was hard for me in my last break up - to mourn the life that never was going to be real, but I believedin it so wholeheartedly through rose colored glasses.

[@katekilroy7827]

The best breakup song (21 Days by Brian Fallon) touches on this exact emotion. I recommend that you check it out. 10/10 very validating.

[@coffeegirl18]

I agree. No one talks about that. I was so traumatized by one of my breakups it was almost like a death. I still have issues about it.

[@holyguacaemily3746]

I actually bring this up (as a mental health professional) any time I talk about a breakup and how the cycle of grief is a natural response to something ending in general, whether it's the loss of a job, friendship, romantic relationship, etc. Processing it in this way allows the space for gratitude that the relationship even occurred, and understanding that it's okay to still have love for someone even though they are no longer directly in our lives.

[@victoriasimmons92]

“Love isn’t something you can hold, it’s only something you can give” that’s one of the most beautiful truths I’ve ever heard. Thank you.

[@JordanLeigh]

Alright confidantes. Raise your kool-aid pouches. Here’s to 32. A new chapter of Kelsey. May it be full of incredible personal growth, prosperity in all ventures, and finding joy within herself. May she sit outside on these warm summer nights and watch the stars, and feel connection in the moments that are hardest to be alone. May there be bucket list accomplishments and new goals set. May she have all the support she needs right now. May she have the strength to stay sober. May she make new friends. May she maintain healthy boundaries to keep her big heart safe from anyone who might be tempted to break it. May she have laughter soon. May she feel the warmth of the sun again. May she try new and scary things with the fearless and confident spirit we have always admired about her. Great things are ahead! And probably some late episodes in 18fps when sometimes maybe things aren’t so great for a hot minute, but we’ll be here anyway because it’s okay. To Kelsey. *sips tiny yellow straw*

[@KelseyDarragh]

I just cried and laughed reading this - this was so beautiful I thank you so much for writing this ❤️I feel so loved by you all

[@sleepypanda69]

This 100%

[@jessicagrover402]

This was beautiful ❤️

[@miranda13c]

@@KelseyDarragh We love you Kelsey! Been a fan ever since Buzzfeed ❤

[@joannhouse6101]

As someone who "met" you through Buzzfeed and The Try Guys, all my heart goes out to you. This is yet another stepping stone to a better life Kels. ❤️

[@k_eliza-f1l]

Your letter is so beautifully written. One of the hardest lessons I’ve ever learned was that a relationship could be a safe place for growth and still lead to growth apart, and that the pain can be a burning off of the things that aren’t working, and it sounds like that’s your experience too. So much love and so many hugs 🤗

[@KelseyDarragh]

Such a beautiful beautiful way of putting it

[@jillianlittle9611]

She is so fucking intelligent and well spoken. You voiced so many of my thoughts and feelings in a way I never could have. I hope you are able to heal peacefully ❤️

[@KelseyDarragh]

TYSM friend ❤️🥺

[@shibanichakrabarty4335]

I haven’t finished watching this video yet, but it arrived at the perfect time. I also just ended a 5 year relationship and, even though this is really hard, you posting this video and talking about your experience makes me feel less alone. Thank you

[@kaleidoscopecat]

Couldn’t have said this any better. I also just ended a 5 year relationship with the first person I’ve ever fallen in love with. Hang in there, we’ll all be okay 💖

[@makaylasmith403]

Ohh Kelsey. I cried with you through the entirety of the episode. Your words were so beautiful and so profound. I have never gone through a breakup but I married my high school sweetheart and he died 3 months before our 10 year anniversary. So the lying on the floor wailing and making sounds you didn’t know you’re body could make, I get that on such a deep level. I’m 4 years out and that loss has changed me in so many ways, I’ve grown so much. Loosing a partner is different than any other loss. It affects every aspect of your day to day life on such a frustratingly mundane level that isn’t as affected with different losses. You were right about weeping with your whole heart. If you don’t feel your emotions all the way through they’ll always have control of you. Feel them fully and deeply. I have watched your love blossom from the very beginning and know how deeply you loved each other. Just know you are not alone. You are surrounded by so much love and have thousands of us rooting for you!!!

[@JuriAmari]

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m glad you got to experience a love of a lifetime 💜

[@ashley_a130]

Thank you for your vulnerability. You have shared so much with us from your own mental health, chronic pain, sobriety/addiction, and so on. Thank you for being open to sharing those experiences with us. Feel and heal better soon 🤍

[@brookearnold8856]

Anybody else have to pause the video & gather yourself before finishing? I so feel her pain. She is so strong to talk about this so soon. I've just learned so much from this video. Keep strong Kelsey.

[@kaleneprentice7683]

I'm literally crying during this, and I don't even know either of you besides from social media. The way you two communicated has always been great to watch, and this breaking up is the same, the communication is able to flow and you both are and were able to speak truth.

[@Kianaonyoutube]

Hearing that letter was the most heartbreaking and beautiful thing. I cannot believe how well you put your journey and feelings into words. I felt like I was living something that didn’t even happen to me because you made it so visceral and wrote it so honestly. I am so sorry for the pain you’re experiencing right now and very hopeful for your heart moving forward. All the love a stranger can give! You have a great community. ❤️

[@nevascaredboo]

Hey, Kelsey… it’s okay not to be okay right now but, know that you will be. Sending you all the love, positivity and strength that the universe can provide. Continue to grow, inspire and shine your light

[@novel85]

"I can't expect someone to grow how I want to grow." oof, this hits home

[@nicolesmith2982]

Hippo came into your life to give you the love you deserve!

[@ashleystockman8224]

It's crazy, my 5 year relationship just ended as well, and I'm also 31. It's been really hard but also very freeing. I can't wait to hear more about un-coupling. We got this! 💪🏻

[@furly6321]

Thank you so much for sharing this. It was very cathartic for me to listen to that letter and your experience. I broke up with my partner of 11 years and we both handled it very terribly. I’ve pushed dealing with it off by throwing myself into work and various vices. Recently, though, I’m trying to be sober and my feelings are finally surfacing. Thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability. It makes me feel safe to know that I can also deal with all the emotions that come with breaking up.

[@KelseyDarragh]

thnk you so much for sharing your story with me

[@furly6321]

@@KelseyDarragh thank you for replying and making me feel seen. ❤️ my story is a lot messier since I got into another relationship towards the end of my long term relationship. As I deal with the feelings I pushed off, it’s bringing up a lot of trauma that I’m now projecting onto my current partner. I would love to hear about what your trauma is like after this relationship and how you cope.

[@PerlaBooBoo]

Leaving an almost 11 year relationship I understand exactly how you feel… I’m still not ready to delete the pictures of us, but I am not pressuring myself. I will do it when I am ready. I just wanted to thank you for sharing your story because it made me feel like I wasn’t alone . I shut myself out for so long because I felt like no one would understand, but I am so proud of how long I’ve come. It will not be and easy journey, but it will be worth it ❤️ #selflove

[@xxxCreepyFangirlxxx]

If you can't bring yourself to permanently delete things, you can try putting them all onto a single usb drive and password locking it, then physically store it away out of sight.

[@stephaniesimpson-white3293]

Just hugs. All the hugs. 💕

[@KelseyDarragh]

thank u I will take all the internet hugs I can get

[@kar4244]

Thank you for opening up to us Kelsey. You didn't need to do that but know we are all sending you both love, healing and growth. I also deeply appreciate how mindful you were about only sharing things you felt were yours to share. I'm sure leaving out key parts of your relationship didnt make this any easier

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Quote of the Day: “Love’s opposite isn’t hate, it’s indifference.”

[@annah7793]

Love is the opposite of hate because hate comes from love.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

@@annah7793 My interpretation is: Love and hate (not bigotry or harm) are two sides of the same coin but indifference is incongruous to love.

[@havadacadava9829]

Oh Kelsey 😥 I felt the love in that letter, and cried along with you. I'm currently going through a rough patch in my 10 year relationship and I've been thinking about what I can do to help him. But I'm going to take a little bit of your letter and apply it to myself, I need to work on me, and whatever happens after that will be dealt with when it happens. Sending you so much love, and support from far away 💚

[@gdanzer13]

Oh, Kelsey. About three years ago, I separated from my husband of 14 years (partnered for 19). I feel so connected to what you're going through. Thank you, so much, for sharing with all of us. The deep hurt and pain. It is indeed easier when there's an act/person to blame. When things just move in a direction where staying together is the worse option... I appreciate your vulnerability and honesty so much. I am finally going through the divorce process with him, and you have inspired me to write a letter to him like yours, thanking him and accepting my role. What a beautiful gift for Jared that letter is. And I gift to yourself as well. And sharing your story will help so many people, including myself. Hang in there.

[@KelseyDarragh]

thank you so much for sharing

[@pettypearl]

I'm sorry beech, still watching. we are here for you, and good wishes to him ✨️

[@Jiddy12345]

I hope you are both doing well

[@gabrielaforte]

Very sorry for your breakup. Feel better soon.

[@gardeniarose]

Thank you for sharing your letter❤️ That wasn’t easy but we are so grateful for your vulnerability. I hope your hurting turns to healing and you find happiness from within again.

[@yesterdaydream]

I think we don't witness enough examples of healthy breakups. It's hard no matter what, but I'm glad y'all are doing what's best. Appreciate you sharing all you have!

[@thecrazycellist]

You have so much strength for sharing your very obvious gut-wrenching heartbreak in a public forum. I hope the community is kind and that you find the love and support and happy you need and deserve. It takes a long long time to get to "being okay" and you're doing exactly what you need to be doing. Take your time and honor your heart and mind.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Omg I’m so sorry to hear this and I mean, more power to you for being awesome and giving us great content. Now, it’s our turn to send you two our love and support at this time.

[@quinns9295]

At the risk of sounding trite, thank you for the extent of your vulnerability. ❤️ I’m not going through a breakup, but it’s been a year of ongoing loss in a different way. So, even though I’m not going through a parallel moment, I can relate to some of the emotions. I’m watching this video in a moment when I need to release some of my bigger feelings, and your words somehow make it feel a little less lonely. I know this is a little past the when video was posted, but I’m thinking of you with love, hope and solidarity in my heart.

[@ZoeMikelStites]

This letter sounds so much like the inner story that I went through with past breakups/uncouplings. It hurts so fucking much, but for me it also came from a place of growth. But it hurts so much in the moment, and I hope that sitting with the pain gets you through it soon.

[@gwenbeauvais7973]

I think one of the hardest lessons I have had to learn in my almost 38 years of life on this planet is how to be okay with my own company. Getting use to coming into my apartment and knowing that it's just me (and my rabbit of course). Once I got to a place where I knew that I was going to be okay with being alone is when I knew that I could do anything and that I was going to be fine. I wish you all the love with this next stage in your journey! I have spent the majority of my 30s single and I can tell you, it isn't easy. Quite a few of my friends and acquaintances who are my age are married and have children. This isn't for me, and even though I know that, it still is hard sometimes. However, it was and still in the best decision I made for my own mental health. And I am glad that you figured that out for yourself, even though the pain is so apparent in your video (the joy is there too and that is beautiful)

[@darkunicornblood5140]

Change and growth is sometimes really hard, and growing apart from loved ones is a difficult thing. I am definitely sending both you (and Jared) love and hopefulness for your future journey and growth.

[@c4arla]

feeling this has changed you forever and the grace of love has forever illuminated your souls and changed and enriched you both. Everything happens for a reason.

[@taylorrachael2238]

I’m in the trenches with you, babe. My 5 year relationship just ended. No one teaches you how to break up with someone you love. Sending you hugs and love.

[@veeenusaurrr]

This was so beautiful. Tears just kept FLOWING after your “Thank you” 😭😭😭 I feel for you, Kelsey. I also experienced a breakup at the beginning of this summer. This letter was so validating, and I’m so proud of your spiritual, healing journey! ❤️

[@KelseyDarragh]

[@lmoz3359]

I am so sorry. Appreciate your honesty and vulnerability. A break up with someone you thought was your forever is the most painful thing. But from my experience, it does get better. Sending lots of love.

[@ladylucie2451]

Thank you Kelsey for being so open and vulnerable. I wish I had this kind of closure with my abusive ex - I stayed for 10 years. This brought up a lot of feelings for me. Mostly a lot of anger, sadness, and shame - mostly the shame comes from feeling like I should never have bothered trying to give my abuser closure like this when he didn't deserve it, and because I shouldn't have stayed as long as I did. Also, Happy Birthday to you, Leo sister 💛🧡💛🧡 I hope this year is good for us both (I turn 30 on Sunday!!!) And that are 30's are the 2nd teenage years in the way that it's fun and freeing!!!

[@meganwilliams809]

This all hits home so hard after going through my own extremely hard breakup this summer. Thank you for sharing your wisdom 💗

[@LaurenMilla]

I'm so sorry Kelsey. Definitely been following since almost the beginning! I love you two together and seeing healthy polyamorous relationships. But I've also learned ((through polyam myself)) that breakups aren't failures! It takes strong people to realize a relationship isn't serving them instead of continuing to self sacrifice for the sake of comfort. I'm very proud of you guys, even having healthy views of uncoupling, it doesn't reduce the pain! Sit with it and know you have a huge supportive community whenever you need ❤️

[@mags_119]

I was relating so hard to pretty much all of this, but « you were my Saturn return » is where the tears kicked in. Love you Kelsey, you’ll get through this. We will.

[@TheTinaminina]

Gurlll, I just marked 1 year since my ex and I broke up. I am still dealing and mourning and I appreciate you sharing your story as I discovered ya'll while I was in my sad journey. Even listening to how you've been working on yourself inspires me to keep looking inward and deal with all my residual sadness. Thank you ❤️

[@erinsurewould]

sending much love 🤍 my heart is broken for you but i know you’ll come out even stronger. it’s been a joy watching you two since 2017. i look forward to continuing to support you and watch you grow!

[@angeb1177]

I know I’m going to be relistening to this. It’s very insightful and sincere. I feel like I can empathize or sympathize in some ways. Hearing this makes me feel less lonely. Especially since I’m in love with my boyfriend but have these intense overthinking sessions for the future. I don’t have any friends to talk about these things with for too long. Lifestyles nowadays often don’t allow it. So thank you, for letting us in on this part of your journey.

[@angeb1177]

Hearing how Jared showed you love reminds me of how my boyfriend showed me how I deserve to be loved and truly did fire new networks in my brain. And I really needed it. So thank you. Thank you so much

[@sydneyraechin9064]

Sending you so much love and support! Breakups aren’t failures but endings into new beginnings! Here’s to new beginnings for you ❤️

[@chicknuggs5707]

I cried hearing you read the letter 😭 such raw emotions and I'm happy you wrote that and that he heard it! Wishing the best for you both! ❤

[@vibes5881]

This helped me in a way I can’t explain. Your letter was beautiful and it embodies every emotion I am currently feeling too. It was sensitive and brave and I can’t thank you enough for sharing it. By sharing this you have just helped at least one person discover their worth, take ownership in the growth they’ve made and shown how to handle this new chapter with maturity. Thank you, Kelsey.

[@Ragingbull123]

This letter definitely hit home for me & I cried with you

[@gwenholbrook]

Man. Kels. I went through a breakup early June and I’m still struggling. BUT listening to YOU, makes me feel a little less alone. Thanks sis. 👏 we got this.

[@jessicalinde8558]

I broke up with my partner of 4 years back in April. I know it's so incredibly painful right now honey, but I promise you it will get better. There is always sunshine after the rain 💗

[@anonymousone9699]

Thank you Kelsey, your openness is refreshing and heartbreaking but character building. Sending healing

[@hconf]

I only know you from a podcast you were on but I am WEEPING. Feeling deeply is hard. Thanks for sharing your story.

[@nicolewaller9802]

I am so sorry you’re going through this. Sending you all of my love. I am going through the same thing.. and when you read your letter to him, I couldn’t help But cry. It’s like you took the words right out of my mouth. The book “letting go” is great. And gentle reminder is another great one. ❤️

[@milo6507]

Never seen an open relationship that worked. People today want everything without missing anything in return....

[@andreacarmona512]

From another ENM/polyam/open person, I’m sending all the love I can to you. Take as much time as you need to heal. You’re worth it. Much love.

[@spammusubi1607]

The letter you shared is truly so touching, sweet, and heartbreaking. I haven’t been in a serious relationship but god I felt every word you said

[@tiffanymiller8856]

I love you girrrrllll!!!!! Sending so much love your way! You are so inspiring. We have your back babe!

[@heydirle]

Thank you for sharing, Kelsey. So many wise messages shared by you, and really…reality is a hard pill to swallow sometimes. Ona lighter note , I could do without KZbin slamming Target commercials in my face every 3 minutes…like, read the room, KZbin.

[@jordanharrell7885]

I’m so proud of you. You’re amazing. Thank you for sharing this, this is going to help so many people.

[@kristen4508]

The way i stopped my entire life when i read the title of this video...Kelsey. My heart hurts for u like i know u. I'm so thankful u have an amazing support system...u deserve all the love. Big hugs from AZ. 💕

[@MizzSmoon]

Seriously sending you so much love, Kelsey. I've been watching on from your Buzzfeed days even before Jared to now and to see the woman you have become is seriously an incredible and inspiring thing. I cannot image how you must feel, but know you have an such a large support system who loves ya. You got this girl. In every way

[@lindseymcbratney5039]

Kelsey, I am so so sorry to hear about your break up. Sending you a massive hug from the UK. You are not alone, my ex-fiancé and I separated in February, so I share and feel your pain. Take care of yourself, beautiful. You are amazing, you are strong and we love you ❤️

[@tykeyaoneil1084]

Whoa that letter broke me down. You found words I have been unable to express

[@briannalum9117]

Thank you for being so open and so vulnerable, Kelsey. I sobbed through this whole video with you. I hope you are both doing as well as possible, and I'm just extra inspired to work on myself in and outside of my relationships. Much love.

[@alainalaniedougherty9161]

I hope that you both find the relationship that you both need with each other and with others in this world.

[@louellaworsham7745]

Kelsey, this video was so well done, and your letter to Jared so thought out and clearly written from the heart. I remember watching y'all's very first video on Buzzfeed together all those years ago, and have been following your journey ever since! You have come such a long way, and I'm so very proud of who you've become--and are becoming! Please know that you don't have to apologize for running behind on your posting schedule at all--we understand and want you to take the time you need! Hippo came into your life at the perfect time, and I'm so glad you have him to focus on and to help you through this transition. We love you hon!

[@stinastrickland6538]

Oh man Kelsey. I just passed the year mark (on Monday) from when my ex husband told me he wanted to leave me. He is the father of my 8 year old and he has 3 older boys from previous relationships (17, 15 and 10). Knowing we don't do well together and he could never be the person I needed...didn't make it any less painful to separate our family. I felt, broken and lost and went to a dark place. I would come home and just cry every day. I'm now in a healthier relationship, that took me by surprise and ideally we would have met when I was healed but he helped center me. Having friends and confidantes you can lean on are so important. The letter is a great way to put all your thoughts and feelings down and release the tension. Random add on...I met my current boyfriend on Hinge. I took the time to write down everything I knew I needed in a partner and reflected on what a partner meant to me. And he fit all of them.

[@nikksterr0902]

Sending you love and I’m personally very grateful for you sharing this experience. I’m considering ending my marriage and it’s helpful to hear about realistic, seemingly loving breakups.

[@sydneylu822]

Hi Kelsey, I hadn't watched many of your videos before this one, but I was also going through a break up at the time with a person I loved (and still really love). I come back to it sometimes because I hear so much of myself in your grief. It's really validating to hear about the love you have for him during separation. Thank you for sharing this with us. I hope you're doing better now.

[@mika4900]

Thank you so much for making this video. I’m really sorry you are hurting. I’m going through an “uncoupling” as well, and I feel like I’m physically being torn apart. It’s hard to get up and do anything. Your letter to Jarred is so thoughtful and is helping me a lot. I need to take control of my own emotions, because like you said, they’re mine to manage… and appreciate all the good things that came out of my relationship, and let go. It’s so hard when we’ve been together for more than four years and I still love my partner. I hope I can be as brave as you.

[@ofthenearfuture]

Was expecting it from your insta story, but was hoping it wasn't true... So sorry to hear the news, hope you're both doing as well as possible. Take care of yourself and take as much time you need away to heal. Thank you for sharing such a painful experience with us, it will help others while hopefully also helping yourself.

[@nightingalebard]

Sending you so much love. Hope you're both doing okay. ♥

[@ianii]

Sending you all the love and support. You'll get through this. Keep up with your spirituality, friends and love 💕

[@michellecapobianco4840]

this is the most beautiful and vulnerable thing ive ever seen. you are incredible

[@zoerphl]

sending you so so so much love and healing energy, thank you for showing me its okay to be my queer, non-monogamous self. i've been on year 5 of my relationship this year and just know i'm right there with you in spirit. we can do this

[@zoerphl]

also- have you read Be Here Now? a transformative book for me!

[@ycam1127]

I'm here with you. I'm going through this alone rn, and I think I need this

[@kar4244]

You are not alone in this ❤❤❤

[@ewp1126]

I love you Kelsey. I've always found your honesty and vulnerability inspiring. I'm going through my own newly single journey in my about to be 40s .... yikes. But also, we got this xo

[@reneemesich8138]

This sounds exactly like healing from narcissistic personality disorder. You don't realize what you're dealing with until you're SO done with feeling that way. I recognized that my bar was set SO low in the beginning because I was hurt so badly my whole life by those that are supposed to love you most. It makes you feel like someone who makes you feel THAT comfortable is the right solution---but I am learning that those are the people who, unfortunately, set off our trauma responses. They feed off of our emotions and reactions. :( It all FEELS so real, but goddamn--you never know how they actually are/feel. They "feel" that way, but don't show it in their actions, or lack thereof. Sorry, this just relates 100% right now. I stand SO strong with you, and would love to help or be a support if you ever needed, not that you do. You've got so many people backing you up! This video is so helpful and healing to hear someone else who seems to be going through something similar at the same time. I am so sorry you've had to go through this, BUT I am so PROUD of you for taking the steps to heal yourself, FOR yourself. YOU deserve it!

[@jessicagrover402]

I love you ❤️. I’m so sorry this happened but THANK YOU so much for sharing this with us❤️

[@LarissaEllenNewey]

Your letter made me cry ! The way you were able to put all of that on paper, it was so powerful. I've followed your journey since BuzzFeed days and my god you are just such a beautiful soul! You are a god with words and how to express yourself, I can only look up to that and will continue to learn and grow thanks to you 🥰

[@UralaRowmore]

So, I’ve never listened to any of your stuff until now (but I have known about you since your buzzfeed days), but I wanted to comment saying how much I respect the way you are reflecting on this situation. Listening to your raw emotions and how you’ve grown as a person even made me cry. As someone who has seen you sprinkled in other content I follow, even I can tell how much you’ve grown over the years (even though I haven’t followed that closely). I hope your journey of self growth continues strong.

[@sarahlane3836]

Beautiful words… The grief and love… my heart goes out to both of you💛 I hope you continue taking care of yourself and him-himself. I love hearing how you’ve been navigating this journey. It’s real, authentic, and I can tell it comes from your heart. All of the love, light, and healing to you both💛💛💛

[@hampuskullberg9932]

Congratulations to you two for having forged such an amazing relationship that lasted for almost five years and did bring each other so much and shared so many experiences. To say that moving away from such a connection is painful is a vast understatement. I hope it puts you both on paths that will be happier and more fulfilling than the one you would have been on together. I know that it's so cliché to say that that one should be happy that it happened and not sad that it ended so I won't. I will just say that when it hurts the most it does make it slightly less painful to focus on all the good things that happened and to be grateful for the privilege of having found such a connection. And I wish you an as uncomplicated healing process as possible!

[@atomkath]

Just watching someone go through this, and be completely raw about it, is really great to see. I know it’s selfish and this is very personal, but is struggle with feeling my emotions (especially the intense and hard ones) and processing the pain from my own experiences, and I appreciate seeing this. It shows me that I can one day give myself permission to feel as well. Thank you Kelsey. You should be very proud of yourself. I’m also so happy that you have such a good support system 👏🏻👏🏻

[@hasitdawnedonyou]

I've never had my heart broken like this and I cried with you. My hope to you is that you'll keep loving yourself, no matter how hard it is to do, esp in moments like this.

[@jsaunders2152]

I was crying so much with you for this. I have related to you so much over the years, and I admired your relationship for standards I wanted to have in my own relationships and I still do. I hope for gentle healing.

[@katepark709]

I’m so sorry for your pain. Sending you love and support. Thank you for sharing.

[@shannonverrier7099]

Love you ❤️ thank you for sharing. You and others on this platform give so much of yourselves and we don't give much back. Wrapping you in a warm hug. Young adults need more examples of this maturity.

[@melissaperez6797]

Sending you so much love and light. I was in tears hearing you cry and talk about Jared.

[@alinafernandes2982]

My heart aches for you Kelsey 💔 I felt the emotion and connect with it. My motto when things are hard is let’s aim to be okay/ content first until I can be happy again. Sending lots of love, strength and healing your way ♥️

[@mackenziebain3336]

this popped up on my feed. My boyfriend and I just broke up Saturday and I’m not doing well. A week before my 29 th birthday. I’m trying to grow but he was the love of my life and we would be 7 years in February

[@miajanay48]

Gave this video a thumbs up not because I like it but hoping it will serve as a hug. Sending you clearing and healing energy, Kelsey!

[@NotTodaySatan557]

Bless your beautiful heart Ms Kelsey. Oh my lord did I ever relate to your letter and journey. Tearing up over here from my own painful memories! I had a similar “closure” experience with my ex of 3 years. It’s been 5 years since our break up and 1.5 years since we last spoke. As you already know, it gets easier. That kind of pain changes but is always remembered. I also hope we make it back into each other’s lives but am happy where I am now and who I became. Thank you for sharing this vulnerable, human, and universally relatable experience. Sending you all the love and peace mama ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@rebeccaq7291]

Hugs 💜 so sorry that you’re going through this. One day you will look back and feel this was blessing. I’m excited for yours and Hippo’s new adventures. 🛤

[@supashrimp_]

Ugh, utterly gutwrenching. It's so hard experiencing such pain even when we know it is for the best. Wishing you the best as you heal

[@Nerdie4Life]

my boyfriend and I of 5 years, as well, also broke up earlier this year while he was away studying abroad because all of our flaws really started to show with him being away. I was controlling and emotionally manipulative to him, and it took losing him for me to go through a lot of change. I came around really quickly soon after I started therapy, and my mindset and outlook on things drastically changed with time. after some time and growth on both our parts, we eventually found our way back to each other, and our relationship now is so much more loving and stronger than it ever was.

[@kcbphotogirl]

❤❤❤❤❤ I'm so proud of you! I'm so sorry you are feeling pain right now. But I'm so proud of you for working so hard and growing so well. It's ok to not be ok. ❤❤❤❤❤❤