We got into our first big fight on camera…

[@Gohanloverice]

Hi Cerose~love the video~

[@jinju1998]

thank you! ❤

[@jinju1998]

I just realized this was you lol

[@Gohanloverice]

@@jinju1998 OMG CEROSE PINNED ME BIGGEST FAN I HAVE NO REGRETTZZZ🤩🤩🤩😘😘😘😘😘

[@c9rolina24]

(My therapist told me this) that sometimes you have to do things you don't want to do thats part of being an adult.... Cerose you had to realize this quicker which is sad but yes this is something we all have to realize especially being a father. Kids are tough but this is something that is needed to be a good father. Wishing both of you luck on your journey.

[@slimbee8026]

I don’t think you were projecting..I think you were/are traumatized (as most of us single Moms are)..you hold resentment that he left. Men get the luxury to just leave and bc we’re great moms we don’t have that luxury. I hope you continue to grow together but it will take TIME to TRULY forgive him.

[@jinju1998]

you are so right!! I'm trying! it's just hard and I feel like we have to find a new "normal"

[@slimbee8026]

@@jinju1998 girl I get it and it’s TOUGH. We will never trust the same again. As much as I love my daughter’s Dad it was hard to forgive him. We would co parent, laugh, joke around but then he would say something about the future and in my mind I would think “but what if you decide to up and leave again” but I would fake it on the outside etc. You got this!! Yall got this but trust has to be rebuilt and THAT is the hardest part..shit the love is the easiest in my opinion

[@cayishaazul]

Healing from serious trauma takes years of effort for both parties. Unfortunately the time needed to heal can’t be sped up. You’ll find true forgiveness eventually. You’re doing such an excellent job and providing a great example of mercy and grace.

[@AfroTae]

@@jinju1998you don’t have to rush your feelings either ! I know it feels like you have to to create a positive environment for your children but you will be doing yourself a disservice if you don’t process your feelings on YOUR time because it’ll eventually come out. You know he had a chance and time to work through it you didn’t you had to keep going for your kids. Take your time and take care of yourself my love ❤️

[@tanyamurphy5042]

So true

[@zeyxab]

no i do think it’s a big deal 😭 i don’t even have kids but who comes up with the idea of taking one and leaving the other? it’s not as if mothers don’t get overwhelmed too! if you can’t handle them both LEARN ur their father not a guy doing u a favour

[@jinju1998]

I think that's where I was coming from but I didn't want to sound whiny!

[@zeyxab]

@@jinju1998 aw it’s never whiny your feelings as a mother are always valid!

[@freyathomas3569]

These videos are so refreshing🥹. It’s almost like you’re documenting your own therapy to understanding each other better and making sure you’re both on the same page in this new chapter in your lives. I love this for y’all 🥰

[@jinju1998]

Thank you so much! 🥹 It really feels like a journey of growth and healing for us both, and we’re grateful for the chance to share it. We’re just taking it one step at a time, learning and growing together. So glad it resonates with you! 🫶🏽

[@katherinepruett5611]

Girl your hair looks sooo good with the big bun and the wispy bangs. Call me crazy but I think Gohan has grown a lot. I’m so proud of y’all’s family.

[@Sapphireblossom22]

When Gohan says something like, 'Stop letting the past get in the way of our future,' it can come across as dismissive of your feelings. Maybe instead, he could have said something like, 'Hey, I see that you’re upset, and I know you’ve had to handle so much on your own, which I’m really grateful for. This is still new for me, though, and I’d be more comfortable taking the boys to the park separately until I feel more confident managing both of them together. Cerose, when those feelings of resentment and anger come up, try to take inventory of your physical cues like a rapid heartbeat, sweaty hands, or tension. Recognizing those cues can help you regulate yourself, which in turn will make it easier for you both to communicate. The same goes for Gohan co-regulation is key. I also think you both can express your needs and frustrations while still validating each other’s feelings and experiences. Advocating for yourselves while showing empathy for one another. Wishing you both well ☺️💕🌸

[@brendag23678]

I think what upset you was because both kids are his and he should spend time with both, but it's also good for yall to have one on one time with the kids. With all the moms I see and know, it's a healthy thing to do. ❤ I hope yall are good, tho. I'm a single mom of 1.. I love yalls communication and working on it to be healthy for the kids and yall as friends. Sending yall much love

[@jinju1998]

aww thank you lovely!!!! thank you for watching! everyone is a work In progress but we are definitely trying!

[@merrybay-x1p]

나도 독박육아해서 잘 아는데 세로즈가 정말 힘들었을거에요. 우리 애는 지금 중딩인데 갑자기 저도 감정이입되고 예전 생각나서 울컥하네요 혼자 애 데리고 다니면서 진짜 서글프고, 너무 너무 힘들었음 ㅜㅜ 육아 분담이 최대한 공평해야 하고, 고한이 오랜 기간 노력해야 응어리가 서서히 풀릴거에요. 세로즈 항상 응원해요

[@hammajamma100]

Cerose, it is normal and natural for you to be irritated and upset (and even resentful) that Gohan hasn't been around for a while and currently can't manage both boys at the park. . Gohan needs to build up his parenting muscles and he seems to be working on it. It is OK to feel resentment briefly , even couples who are together go through that during the parenting process. Very healthy and helpful that you can, in hindsight, talk about it and work it out.

[@jinju1998]

thank you so much! we are both trying in our own ways! like we will get to a point where we both feel like we're over it and then something like this happens and it's like whooooa, still so much growing to do lol

[@Nancybaybeh]

Cerose is honestly one of the most patient people ever. I might not know you personally but from what i watch on this channel everytime i get the chance tbh you have a good heart.

[@בתושלישו]

I'm so glad yall are doing better! Love youuuu girly

[@jinju1998]

love you!!!!

[@farfrompleasant]

I can understand Cerose’s perspective, especially when she highlighted that she doesn’t have an opinion to be selective with their boys. But I do think it’s interesting that Gohan was very literal about his actions. I also think it’s telling that he does feel he has your support in raising the kids. I think it would be great for Cerose to be able to do the same now that Gohan is around. I hope that she takes advantage of their parental partnership instead of living as a fully single mother.

[@jinju1998]

thank you so much! it's definitely a learning curve! we are trying... there's no handbook on how to do any of this stuff really so we are trying our best with what we know how! but I agree, he's here now, gotta try to start operating in a different mindset

[@farfrompleasant]

And I love that yall are so mature and are able to acknowledge the issues that you both have and actively moving forward to prevent any misunderstandings or altercations. I really love that you both communicate and put in the work to be there for your boys! ❤

[@Tina52516]

@@jinju1998You are human, just try and stay positive at the end of everything… Can’t lose in that aspect. ❤

[@ParkJeonHavetheKeys]

Forgiveness is really like a road to recovery...and im saying this because I've been there....but being like 5 years removed from it now and allowing myself to forgive whole heartedly, is such a blessing. But I definitely remember those times of fighting and constantly bringing up the past ,simply because I couldnt help it. Cerose, I genuinely cannot wait for the day that the weight and hurt of the past is completely lifted off of you. As well as Gohan, as soon as you both truly heal from the mistakes of the past, there will be such a beautiful bond to come of it .When I watch you guys, It's literally like looking at myself in the mirror...Wish nothing but amazing things for you guys .❤❤❤❤❤

[@jinju1998]

Thank you so much for sharing your journey and those heartfelt words. Forgiveness truly is a process, and it’s encouraging to hear how transformative it has been for you. We’re definitely working on letting go of the past and healing, both individually and as co-parents. Your story gives me hope that with time and effort, we can reach a place of peace and deeper understanding. Wishing you continued blessings on your journey as well, and thank you for the love and support. ❤❤❤ love you!!!!

[@ParkJeonHavetheKeys]

@jinju1998 Love You Guys!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@jinju1998]

LOVE YOU

[@akuaappiah94]

i really love how you are having this discussion and how you both are able to understand each other's perspective. i think the journey to complete forgiveness will take some time but it will come. the reason sometimes you have these moments of happiness with each other and then you remember and the vibe switches is because there is trauma you're working through, Gohan leaving was traumatizing and you didn't really have the ability at the time to sit in and work through the trauma because you are a mum and your focus would be on the kids. But the plus side to how things are now, is that Gohan in trying to change and has grown a lot from the past, and seems to be aware of his mistakes and how they have affected you, and he is picking up more on how you may be feeling as opposed to just thinking he is in the right all the time or being completely oblivious to how you could be feeling in a situation. Keeping up with his personal improvement and development as a man and as a father will help you to eventually heal from the trauma and be able to have more moments when you are able to be cool with each other and not remember the past and fully let go of the hurt.

[@PrettyBADDD]

I think it’d benefit Gohan to take some parenting classes, maybe even join a single parent group. And I think it’d benefit everyone to go to family counseling, just to help navigate this new normal. It actually is a big deal. Good luck.

[@brendal.gonzalez4355]

Great advice ❤

[@reggiBB]

I really think God is working in both of y'all's lives because y'all are so introspective and self aware. Like that takes humility and compassion. God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble and I see the profoundness of that working in both of y'all's lives. ❤

[@lofibeautyy]

i just wanna say you always look gorgeous cerose😪💕 love you girl!

[@jinju1998]

you are toooo sweet! thank you!!!!

[@yinkababalola989]

Cerose's point is valid. Gohan left her alone with two of the kids. For so long, and now he's around he gets the luxury of having cerose to support him, acknowledging what she went through, constantly thanking her for being who she was and keeping their family together, even without her bringing it up might help her feel truly appreciated.

[@sweet0uch28]

I like that you guys are talking about everthing that hurts you and everything you guys want or expect from eachother this is the bestn way to learn and shows all the love you guys have for the kiddos ❤

[@jinju1998]

thank you! Communication has been such a big part of our journey. We’re doing our best!! ❤️ thank you for watching!

[@tei1998]

Makes my crappy days a little less crappy when I see your faces on my recommended ❤

[@jinju1998]

AWWW THIS WAS SOOO SWEET! im sorry you are having a bad day babe!

[@LaydeeKye]

Just because you forgive a person doesn't mean you automatically become pain free or completely healed. You are doing amazing Cerose and so is Gohan especially when he can empathize and understand your healing journey. It will probably take just as long to totally heal as it did to go through the heartbreak and betrayal. Slow and steady for you both. Give yourself some grace, understand that you both are growing and healing. Everything will be alright, especially if you put God in the growth process. Pray together, keep very clear and consistent communication. Never lose respect for the other person and enjoy your lovely sons. Advice from a 45 yr. old married mother of three children.

[@가을-i6w]

고한님 . 면도한 모습 깨끗하니 보기 좋아요. 두분의 채널을 좋아하는 사람으로 둘의 관계가 좋아지길 바라요. 서로 어려움이 있을지라도 사랑하는 두 아이의 부모로서 지혜롭게 헤쳐 나갈수 있을거라 생각합니다. 나이든 할머니가 되고 뒤돌아 보면 아주 심각하게 생각했던 거의 모든 문제들은 별일 아니더군요. 동서양 문화를 떠나 남과여는 생각하는거 아이들 캐어할힘이 차이가 나요. 서로를 인정하고 조금씩 양보하고 잘 지냈으면 합니다🥰

[@보리초코발]

두 사람이 건강한 방식으로 소통해나가고 있는 것 같아서 보기좋아요😊 사람이기 때문에 감정에 따라 행동이 잘 못 나갈 수 있어요. 무작정 그런 행동을 하지말라고 하는게 아닌 서로 그때의 감정을 공유하고 잘 풀어나가는게 가장 중요하다고 생각해요. 부부관계에서 가장 중요한것은 싸우지않는 것이 아닌, 어떻게 풀어나갈 것인지에 대한 대화와 소통인것같아요!

[@susanbarrett2226]

On the flip side, as a parent of 4 children myself, it is extremely important that each child has adequate one on one time with EACH parent to develop the individual relationships with the individual child. :)

[@nicoleraheem1195]

7:10 Both arguments are reasonable and understandable. Dad has to get use to dealing with them at the same time just like anyone else. Some mothers even burnout when dealing with more than one child. So his point is 100% valid! Cerose point is also valid. It's hard to have compassion for someone who can't do what you do with ease, and Nurturing children as a mom is almost second nature. I understand she felt like he needed to bite the bullet and deal with it. They both are still growing as individuals. Really, I can see y'all getting along fine with a bit more softness and empathy towards each other. I'm wishing y'all the best!

[@ipoison3862]

Bun's pockets full of rocks 😂 So me as a kid! Anyway I just love your guy's communication. Even if you get in arguments sometimes I just gotta say I'm so happy to see you working through them together ❤❤❤

[@reggiBB]

I think both of y'all discussed this topic very introspectively and I agree with most of what each of y'all said. I would add, and I think you already know this Gohan, that when someone expresses to you how you've made them feel in a situation, it's best not to address it by "Why are you taking it like that" or "No you're feeling like this but that's not what I meant to do" because yeah, that is being dismissive about their feelings. A better approach would be to listen to them and acknowledge how they feel whether that be with an apology or convey that you understood and them tell them how you felt and what were your intentions, recognising that it didn't align with how they ultimately felt. I mean it takes two to tango so both parties have to be willing to hear each other out for peace and amicability to take place ❤

[@glassjuice4771]

Cerose, I'm also married for many years, I understand your difficulties. But you must remember him coming back is not doing time to make up to all the wrongdoings you held against him. This is exactly what will make your life miserable because whatever he does or tries will never be satisfactory to your past traumas n hurt. You have to fight for your life to make it worth while your kids have you. Forgiving him is not your obligation, but it will come in a set with your age & wisdom.

[@lofibeautyy]

him expecting to take cevonne and not cephyr has me like “😬😬” bc i also would’ve assumed he was taking them both😭

[@jinju1998]

right!!! so it's not just me!!!

[@CapricornDayz]

@@jinju1998 No, it's not just you. Imagine how Pea would feel seeing that.

[@Ruthlady200]

This whole journey is also helping me learn about relationships even if I’m not in that position, mommy pea you are doing amazing, and myungjin is also expanding in his growth and understanding of this whole process so I am very proud of both of y’all having watched y’all since early teenage years and now in college y’all are such tearjerkers❤ please continue to grow and never limit your understanding even if you’re tired of having to learn every time always have room for more growth love love y’all, btw I miss y’all as a couple lol

[@dreashalynn0806]

I Actually Really Understand both Sides. Where He Never Really Had To Deal With Them On His Own So It Was Overwhelming, She HAD To Do It On Her Own And Pretty Sure Has Been Overwhelmed

[@jinju1998]

exactly! in the moment things were hot but, after cooling off it was like okay... I can see it from the other perspective

[@Enitanisijola_]

This is is unfiltered and so sweet. You guys are amazing 🤩

[@LanayaNicole]

I agree!! I think when you have 1+ kids it’s important to learn to take care of them alone especially when in public because it will need to happen eventually. I think that for y’all situation specifically it’s gonna be an adjustment! It’s great that you guys are willing to talk through it even if it’s not right in the moment of the disagreement. /// also I think that you may be having these feelings because it’s like I didn’t get a choice to gradually get used to being with the kids alone. You were essentially forced to do it alone so when that is not the same situation for the other person and they expect you to help them out. It’s kinda hard to want to because they weren’t there for you and it’s okay to acknowledge that as well since you are still healing. It’s hard for the other part as well but they need to have grace.

[@aninspired8803]

Thank for sharing. Gong-yu haejusyeoseo gamsahabnida 🙏🏻🙏🏾 A compliment for both of you: Sharing the possible "bumps" in Parenting anyway😊. In your case, Realization is there, especially afterwards. This is very progressive in communication. But also to get to know each other as a person and in parenting. If both of you, did not experience what you had. These natural conflicts linked on personalities. This is something, which is a challenge in the relationship from the beginning of your journey; together, separated and finding each other again. The difference is, previous without the whole journey. And facing these Challenges could let to a different way of divorcing. Because lack of self awareness and experience. Now; Since Rose knows what she went through. She 'll not back down, considering Gohan feelings. Which she did allot in the past. To ballance the relationship. Since Gohan, went through a individual proces for himself. He accepts his wrong doing. Because he understands or want to understand Rose. Apologizing mutual, is making this bonding even stronger. Where both of you are going through. In being back in eachothers life. With the Kids💝 as priority. I only see and hear healthy developments, especially in upbringing. Keep up the good work💪🏿👊🏼👍🏽 Something to be proud of❣️🌼 Happy holidays🌟

[@Frenchie-rose]

1:48 👁️👄👁️ that's wiiiiiild 😂 good lord

[@FlameGaming44]

Gohan has a strong heart and honestly learn and grow is part of life (even I’m still learning ) he doing his best at end of the day effort goes long way and time going only tell on how many great memories you can have now

[@vigilantes8843]

Strong heart- right okay.

[@Womenwhobossupofficial]

Great video. Thanks for sharing your journey and growth. My first husband, Japanese American was a turd. We had a son but when we divorced I couldn’t grow up enough to co-parent like you and I had no energy to forgive him. My husband now, Chinese American have great communication but no children together. It’s so good to watch you be grown up and I’m learning so much from you.

[@noahg9936]

I definitely side with Cerose on this, I would have told Gohan out of spite: 'Well, no you don't have me today. Suck it up and take both your kids to the park like I have been doing for most of their lives while you weren't here'. BUT, I say that knowing I can be a petty and resentful person sometimes. So I REALLY admire how you are both trying to see each other's worth for the sake of your kids! And resentment is a bad feeling to have. So, I sincerely applaud you for having gotten rid of it! But also, Gohan, I really like you, boy! And while making mistakes is something everyone does, the fact you came back shows strength of character, which not everyone has. So I also applaud you for that. HOWEVER, my unsolicited piece advice, but which comes from a caring place, would be: next time you 'don't see what is wrong with a situation', trust Cerose when she says whatever attitude you are having is entitled, and try to adjust it. Cause, if you can't see it for yourself, she - as someone who loves you and only wants the best for you, so you can provide the best for both your kids - will be able to help you navigate those moments when you can't recognize a bad attitude for yourself. And be glad she's willing to help you out with this, because most would just say that is your problem and not even make the effort to try and understand your side of things. Hope you four beautiful family are staying safe!

[@HiyaItsNyah]

It probably wasn't delivered well, but I agree with Cerose. Them not going together is more about what is easier, because it really doesn't make sense to take one and not the other, especially since it's something they would both enjoy together. I understand it'll be hard, but honestly, it's an obstacle that has to be tackled eventually! It's something Gohan has to navigate and get used to handling. It's better to learn to handle it now, than say later down the line, when they might ask to stay over at daddy's house for a bit. I think the goal should be to eventually be able to handle a lot of things on your own, so that the load isn't one sided. Honestly, in the beginning the goal would probably just be to make sure everyone leaves in one piece (lol), but as time goes on it'll get easier as you gain more experience on how to handle situation with the boys on your own. 고한 화이팅 😂

[@dacmermaid]

I adore the way you both are so open with each other(and with us) in hopes to maintain the healthiest relationship for the kids. I don’t think you were projecting because you DID have to do it alone and you didn’t have the same opportunity to say “well I have you” because you DIDNT have him. But I do think that you both are doing incredible jobs at co parenting together.

[@Nancybaybeh]

I see growth in gohan and I'm happy😂. I pray it keeps getting better In Jesus Name ❤

[@tamiko_8369]

Girl you’re so mature 🙌🏽❤️ love it! I love this discussion. He has grown as well

[@charlottetimes9803]

Cerose your hair style is pretty. It's great that you'll are talking this through. I can guarantee that your babies are learning this behavior and it's a great example on how to have a conversation to problem solve a issue.

[@jaitsadi-gee]

Parts of this were tough. I heard Gohan saying that, when he has both babies, they are doing two completely separate things... one is eating dirt, and needs G's attn, but the other is running around in the direction of cars (did I hear that right?). I IMMEDIATELY went to "Achh! Cars! Gotta keep the baby safe!" At the same time, I'm like "OML, he's eating DIRT! I've gotta stop that, and clean that ish out of his mouth...but how do I handle both at the same time? FCUK!" (Can you tell I don't have kids?) You BOTH said they don't listen to him the way they listen to you...but you BUILT that relationship with them, and he's GOTTA build a similar understanding with them, bc there may be a time when you can't be there, and they might wanna go to some public place where they HAVE TO stay together. Ppl in this country are more insane now than ever, and the U.S. isn't as safe for kids as Korea. My little sister (from Busan) had to learn the hard way. She's grown, so she doesn't listen, and had no concept of the vast differences...but she's also a quick study. Kids don't have the experience to draw from, so Gohan has to put on his "western Dad" hat, and remember that the countries are waaay different, so he can up his "protection game." 'Rose, the only Note I have for you is one that you and Gohan have already recognized (from your own perspectives). FORGIVENESS and UNDERSTANDING. It's something I haven't quite mastered, so I'm gonna watch and learn...from YOU (bc it could possibly become VERY necessary for me, pretty soon). 👁️👄👁️

[@roseyrose9467]

I commend you both for hanging in and trying to work through things. It’s challenging I know.

[@AM-uu5me]

My brother-in-law is divorced with 3 kids. He often separates his kids so they spend time with different people at the same time. It helps him juggle the kids without being overwhelmed. Mind you, he has lots of people (including me) who support him and the kids.

[@jinju1998]

omg! you have no idea how helpful this is!!! Thank you for sharing your brother-in-law's approach! It’s definitely helpful to hear how others manage parenting in ways that work for their family. We’re still figuring out what works best for us, but it’s great to know there are different strategies to help juggle the challenges without feeling overwhelmed. Every family’s journey is so unique, and it’s inspiring to hear about the ways people make it work!

[@Itzrenaynay]

I appreciate as parents you can come together and talk it out after it was said and done. Definitely hot in the moment but understanding the misinterpretation of the whole situation.

[@jinju1998]

Thank you! we appreciate you!

[@stylecompassmedia]

There is a cultural difference at play. If he needs help managing the kids at a park, he can hire a staff, to give additional help.

[@jinju1998]

definitely agree that there might be some culture difference at play!

[@serinat2181]

Thank you for sharing 🩷 I understand you both, particularly Cerose ❤️

[@CapricornDayz]

Being a single parent is difficult. He should have taken both of them. On the other hand, having alone time with them is important. It's just that the other situation is getting in the way of accepting some things. I can understand. He should be careful in calling her feelings stupid.

[@TheJacqueline39]

One suggestion I can make is to have playdates with another parent so there is another adult there to help you watch them, or, if you have the financial means you can fence off your backyard and build a play area with a swing set, a jungle gym or trampoline (one with the protective netting around it,) so they can play outside without fear that they will wonder off or run into traffic or be taken, they will be in an enclosed area and easier to watch.

[@Kekaweek]

Glad yall worked through that. Entitlement empowers you. Use that to believe in yourself and your abilities to get things done not to delegate what you don't want to do at the expense of others. Entitlement does not have to equal selfishness.

[@amandamccann8100]

I feel like you both grew so much. Cerose was forced to grow when Gohan left and Gohan is forced to grow to have his family and do better for his sons. One helpful thing is open communication!! Being very honest with each other so you can continue such a great dynamic. Gohan, try asking Cerose some techniques for handling the kids together, maybe take a parenting class or a support group. That may help a bunch! Also, my kid was a rock collector. Filled my purse and my Nana's mailbox with them lol She's 17 now and isn't gonna be a geologist 😂

[@dianej7174]

Grown woman vibes. Very proud of you. Next video: where does Gohan live? What does he do when he’s not with you guys? Is he dating?

[@sheylacampos3438]

Regardless of what happened in the past. It is healthy for kids to have one on one time with their parents. However, parents need to learn strategies and coping mechanisms to be able to look after both kids at the same time. The kids will be able to remember both the one on one or grouped memories with their parent. Even though you both are co-parents, you are single parents the end of the day. If one parent is with both of the kids the majority of the time and the other can choose how they interact with the child, the co-parenting balance is not equal. I just hope the kids didn't hear this argument as it could bring about a sense of rejection to the kid that wasn't intended to go. "Why can my brother go and I can't?"

[@angelamanely9254]

Wow now we're cookin with gas thank the Lord. With all thy getting get understanding 🙏 I personally love you guys as a couple❤ both are Great parents together. With humans there's always differences of opinions. Pray with each other. I still see sparkles in yall eyes.😊and your children adore both parents. Forgive and keep taking ✨️ to God and each other something wonderful can come out of it.sarangeyo

[@audi_bae2151]

Awe 🥺 I see growth

[@jinju1998]

love it! just trying our best!

[@BusayoOgunlade]

I will advice you two to try and get closer as you were in the past just let ur kids grow in an environment where there is love and tolerance kids these days are sensitive and can sense what's going on between their parents which could lead to them thinking it's okay this way when they are older only if there is mutual love between parents will there be nourishment in the family 😢all I can say is it's is very important on how the parents lead the love towards their kids

[@3e1rtamarraw]

Mamas are wired differently from their counterparts, an idea to consider dna not an excuse. At least both of you are opened with each other. All The Best!

[@avSCompact]

Thanks to Cerose for NOT allowing that NONSENSE: What do you mean only ONE of the children? The low effort on your part is INSANE. Newsflash; you're the father of BOTH the children. Nobody in their right ming would assume you would just take one! That's BS. Advice: As a father, work on your EMPATHY. In whatever you do, think about your co-parent and your sons. Ask yourself how your actions are going to make them feel? Especially your sons. Put your sons first, and weird ideas like taking one out and leaving the other one behind will not cross your mind anymore. Remember that Cerose has to recover from trauma too, and so did your sons. They are not as eloquent as their mom ( of course they are children)but that type of things, which could be a detail to you, can trigger the trauma of abandon in both your ex-wife and your children. If it is overwhelming for you to take care of both your sons at the same time. Enforce your safety rules as a sort of game and reward them when they follow. Both of you have been blessed in so many ways, keep on taking care of yourself and your family.

[@sopekookie7]

Your hair looks so cute like that

[@maelsyt23]

Juz fight😅happy new year 🎉🎉🎉💌

[@FeedMeJuice]

Im glad you realized it wasnt that big of a deal because of your trauma... cuz both of you are here now.

[@mcneilla77]

Jesus and Therapy is my advice to you both and with that will come true forgiveness and repentance to move forward in Christ. He will show you how to give grace and set healthy boundaries as He heals you of past hurts.

[@Ko-qo4oy]

세로즈와 고한 모두 어려운 과정을 겪어가고 있어요😢 하지만 방향이 맞으니 지금 서로 미워하고 증오하는 감정이 생길 수 있지만 이 고통을 서로 견디며 잘 넘어가면 이후에 어떤 사람도 흔들 수 없는 견고한 사랑이 올것입니다!! 여러분 모두 사랑해요~!❤

[@jinju1998]

따뜻한 응원 정말 감사드려요! 😊 사랑합니다! ❤

[@GloriaQ1118]

The software Dr. Fone you shared is really efficient when transfer data. Although I need to pay for it, but as long as it can really solve my problem, I am willing to pay.

[@lifeofthepodgorskis_]

I love you both but yes i feel you were projecting and please continue to work on your journey of healing.. it is healthy for 1:1 time that the kids have with each parent. I feel Gohan reasoning was fine as its more so safety aspect. I cant handle my two alone when at park because she likes to eat everything and doesnt listen well yet. Its super overwhelming and its great that he did express to getting Pea afterwards. Wishing you all the best and appreciate you two for sharing this moment.

[@jinju1998]

thank you!

[@lifeofthepodgorskis_]

@@jinju1998 Please look into toddler leashes. I use them now and it has lessened me being overwhelmed.

[@btsarmyforever6806]

Oh noo. I'm lowkey scared to watch this 😭

[@atomaticbillt3532]

You weren't projecting, he dosnt understand how to parent and didnt understand, when you have children, its kind to hang out with them together when they're both toddlers. After seeing this video, I see even more why you dont wanna take him back, your best working on yourself and marrying another man whos a family man and knows how to parent, not use you as a test dummy.❤

[@laurac_351]

I can completely understand where you're coming from. You can't take one child and leave the other one out like that, it has such a negative effect.

[@Lppt87]

4:27 they are not my kids, but here I am gasping for hair AMAZED that he didn’t think of taking both kids to the park, wth??? 😮😂😅😢😡🤨😭 idk even how to react!, Gohan you need to get into your single father mindset, boy, what if something, God forvid, happens and you need to take care of both? Are you going to be umprepared? Always depending on someone else?

[@jinju1998]

valid! and something I didn't even think about in the moment tbh

[@mama5136]

@@jinju1998you need to stop allowing strangers on the internet to know so much about your personal lives. and you need to stop allowing other people to talk down on the man YOUUUUU had a child with. if you’re gonna bash him, take him off the youtube page period. This dynamic is toxic as hell!

[@Jazeerakiko]

Thanks for sharing ❤❤❤❤❤

[@onka3895]

🤔 I think both of you make good points. Gohan should always confide in others when he's feeling overwhelmed. If he kept it to himself and it caused other issues, the conversation would become "Well why didn't you say anything?"... ya know? But Rose is right... he's gonna have to get used to having both of them because eventually one of them may start to feel excluded. Single parents must learn how to manage the stress of watching two kids. 🤷🏾‍♀️ I'm glad y'all are trying to hear each other out and come to a solution together. 😊

[@jinju1998]

thank you!!!

[@lazyyoung44]

Love this kinda video :)

[@jinju1998]

Thanks so much! 😊

[@reggiBB]

Still watching the video, but yeah, I think it was a reasonable and instinctual assumption that both the boys would be going with their dad to the park.

[@zacharikurbah6358]

This is a great video ❤

[@Mutatedcorpse]

i understand both sides of the argument tbh, i don't think any one of you was in the wrong particularly. I don't think its a big deal not taking them both to the park though because he can just spend time with the other one by theirself another day.

[@tanyamurphy5042]

I can DEFINITELY relate to the taking one kid and not the other I have been there TOO MANY TIMES. But I think the way you guys handled things, after the smoke cleared lol was great and I didn’t have that luxury so I’m good things worked out for you guys and that you guys were able to talk that out. ITS IMPORTANT ❤❤🫶🏾🫰🏾

[@reggiBB]

This is a side note but, by God's Grace, y'all's videos could be a social experiment lesson because y'all are still fresh off this divorce > coparents initiative and you're taking us right along with you on this *process*. As time passes, Cerose, the hurts Gohan left with you would start to feel less fresh, and those 180 mood switching thoughts wouldn't come up as often and when they do, you'd be able to brush them off like yesterday's news. But that does take time and more importantly healing initiatives. God bless you both and I pray all things work out for good for y'all.

[@MoonMystic-b6k]

That is really fcked up. to single one kid out like that, it sounds like his reason was because the other one eats dirt & does not listen as well as the other, a small child will not understand any of those BS ressons! all he see is daddy left me behind/forgot about taking me too. It should not matter how different they are, what should matter is they are both your kids whom you love but to see a father choosing to take one of his kids but leave the other behind is honestly heartbreaking 💔 Thank God cerose was made to be strong enough to not ever seperate her boys because of their differences in personality. Nothing is ever perfect its about the experiences you feel & embracing the highs/lows of parenthood regardless of the challenges you face! Pushing through & being there for them both is what counts, is what really matters.

[@solnsoul]

The audacity to think he can just take half his children for the day, as if parenting comes with options. I just hope he get to the point where he becomes a full functional parent and realise it was never about his comfort.

[@yayalyle4486]

It's ok to take one and leave the other. My sibs and I had personal time with my mom shopping & doing the things. On the other hand...when u have lil ones running towards cars etc....yal need to tighten up ur discipline. They can learn stop, and don't do that 4 safety. It's important they learn that.

[@sholenejames2292]

Gohan was insensitive and Cerose hot triggered. It’s good you guys got to the root of the issue. Gohan we understand you weren’t on vacation and had it tough while away. But Cerose had a really hard job as well. The boys being well taken care of and knowing your family is testament to that.

[@yerrgurt549]

Off topic but Cerose you’re so beautiful

[@amandabynes5993]

cerose. you are much more mature than i could ever be

[@SummerRain-i6b]

얌생이 수염미니까 속이 다 편안

[@Moohne]

the way it took like 8 minutes into the video to realize he finally shaved 😆 Thank you, sir. I can see your face now lol

[@홍애리-l7t]

면도, 굳 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@jinju1998]

❤❤❤

[@vanessasmith9646]

You feel overwhelmed taking them to the park? Bud you left her with them full time 24/7. Your thinking is so privileged

[@istoleyourmilkandcookies]

i mean this with no hate, but... "i can't handle both kids at once" did he ever wonder if rose would be able to handle both kids by herself as single parent before he abandoned them and left to a different continent? he needs to learn how to handle his two children when the other parent isnt around. that's what he forced cerose to do for 2 years. and this isnt a cultural thing...some people are just entitled, unempathetic, and selfish regardless of race/culture. there's just no excuse, and hiding behind his parents to justify his behavior will never be the move. he's a grown man now. cerose's response was justified given the pain and misery he put her and the children through. it will take YEARS to fully heal from what he did. she has every right to forgive him when she's ready--not when he's ready. cerose, heal on your own time. we will always support you and your children.

[@lilshorty316]

Hello and hope u guys hve a great night❤❤

[@jinju1998]

hey!! hope you have a good night tooo!!!

[@pearltoomer6392]

I am not good with words anyways, 32 years of marriage, we had problems, we also separated for a year, best thing that happens, he cheated mostly because we fight so much l almost cheated to. We almost hated to see each other, but that year of not being together and taking a break was best thing. That hate l felt turn back to Love. That was the 5th year of marriage now 32 years. Remember this stop telling family and friends so much. That was our problem, he talk too much with people and l did to.

[@iLoveeMusicc09]

I’m sorry but when he said “when I look at your butt I get un-mad” I cackled 😭😭😭 men are something else but I love y’all!! Lol💗💗

[@augustrose3550]

Heyy Fam ❤❤

[@jinju1998]

hey cutie! looks like you are first!

[@samsung-ub1eo]

Hi Cece good job for this video🎉❤

[@jinju1998]

thank you!

[@BlackQueenMagic]

I don’t know but Gohan can seem a bit dissociative. It’s like he’s there then he’s not for a second. If you get what I mean 🤔

[@jinju1998]

I totally get what you mean! his mental health journey has been a really big one! I know he's some type of an avoidant..?

[@BlackQueenMagic]

@@jinju1998 That’s exactly the right word, avoidant! I’m praying for his complete healing. 🫶🏾

[@elourdepierre7936]

I love you guys very much, y’all have grown so much since he came back from Korea. I think it’s a good thing that you guys are very supportive and understanding of each other. Communication is key to a successful relationship. Great Job

[@vigilantes8843]

Honestly I think he just has a favourite ?? And that’s not right because cephyr would notice this… because why is one kid being taken and the other not

[@harmandmartine3703]

ceci nest pas un réel problème se savoir aimé de ses parents est leur plus grande décurité, et chaqu'un sa mesure. si j'ai des limites acceote les limites de l'autren meme si tu ne comprends pas

[@jahniquasimmons]

Hey, I'm early! 🤗❤

[@jinju1998]

hey!!! early gang!!